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DA CREW PODCAST SEASON 1_ EPISODE #105_HOST LATONYA MICHELLE LITTLEJOHN · DA CREW Podcast

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money that you don't want to miss every yo. Good evening, good evening,
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good evening, And welcome to the prow Podcast, Episode one oh five.
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And this is episode ten for delayed but not Denied the podcast. Tonight,
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I will have my lovely guest returning, Miss Lakeisha Trim And but before
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I bring her on, I want to go to God and read up a
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quote, well a scripture so and it reads Psalms thirty five. Contend o
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Lord, with those who contend with me, fight against those who fight against
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me, Take up shield and bachler, arise and come to my aid brandished
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spear and jobing against those who pursue me. Say to them, my soul,
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I am your salvation. And so tonight, y'all, it's gonna be
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good. It's gonna be good. We're talking about being in those d ms.
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Yes, you know how they be in your dams. That's what we're
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talking about. Tonight, So miss Lakeisha, if you're ready, Yes,
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I am hello, Hello, Hello, how are you? I am wonderful?
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How are you? I am great? I am great. I'm glad
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to have you back again. Thank you, glad to be always great to
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see you, glad to be back. So ma'am, let's let's get into
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it. What's going on in the DMS? O? Married people, married
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people, married people married me and especially stay please please please? I don't
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know why johny to stay at my DMS. So yeah, we're gonna talk
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about that tonight. You know why married people married men, especially being these
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females deal, That's what I want to know, right. So for me,
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I haven't had many married men in my DMS, but I do have
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them that you know, follow my page or whatever and they don't like on
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my pictures or comment or whatever. But I've never had them to go as
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far as you know, being in my DMS on some flirtatious stuff or you
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know, things like that. What what what does your DMS look like?
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Oh? Baby, you fine? But you married and she don't do you
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know, she don't make me feel like you do? How make you feel
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a boy? Just looking at my pictures? You sexy, your wife's sextitude,
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all that, all that, but we're not happy. But why you
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still with I get don't Yeah, why are you racing that time? Yeah?
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I'm not understanding, but you want to come to me because you're not
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happy with her? Why how do you think he'll be happy with me?
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You don't even know me like that. All you see it's pictures, all
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you see, it's videos, you know, So how do you think it
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could be happy with me? You don't know me? So right, Yeah,
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those type of things. So I would like to go out on the
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limb and say that most men or some men want to say if they still
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got it? You know, you know how they feel like after they've been
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right, after they've been married for so long, they feel like they just
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want to see if they could still pull a beautiful woman or whatever. Nonetheless,
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it's tacky, very do it, but they do it very. I
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don't understand. Okay, So if I get a DM and the guys tell
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me, well, you know, I'm not happy with my wife? Can
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I take you out for dinner? Can you ask your wife? Can you
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take me out? Because I'm not doing nothing without her? But knowing because
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I don't know you like that, right, And I wouldn't want nobody to
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sit there and be going out with my husband and I don't know who you
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are. You're a whole other woman, right, that's disrespectful. So they
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be enough, and I block, block, block, because I have been
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in that situation where my husband on outside of me and it's not a nice
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it's not a nice thing. No, it's not a nice feeling at all.
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So I wouldn't want to do that to nobody, and I don't want
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nobody to do it to me, so right, And you know, some
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of these men, if the shoe were on the other foot and it was
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happening to them, then it would be a whole World War three or something
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going on. Like you know, but how dare you have the audacity to
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feel like it's okay to be in some woman's inbox when you wouldn't want your
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wife doing the same thing to you. That they can't take what they did,
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shout they could They always say, yeah, we can take whatever you
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do. I'm gonna do it up. No you can't, because it's different
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when a woman do it to a man. But if a man do it
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to a woman, it's all right. You know, you know I just
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cheated. No, you didn't just cheat. You took a piece of me
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when you cheated, because you already had me at home? Why would you
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cheat? Right? But my deal? I told somebody else this wild that
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they're like that. Yeah, it's how often are they in your bom?
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Yesterday? You know yesterday, yesterday I had one to tell me, Well,
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I can't I can't do nothing electronically. I have to meet you in
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person. Meet what yeah? Like like that was my face. If he
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could have saw my face, he would have for what reason? Why do
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you have to meet me? I didn't ask you to meet me, right?
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You know? Bye? Boy? What better? Yet? Let me
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talk to your why? That's what I had some all the time, I
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say, can I talk to your way? I want to see her side
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too before I see your side, right, So let me know both of
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your side so I can know you really get a divorce. You're just lying
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to me which one is right? That's what I want to know. So,
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yeah, they're crazy. It's the whole one and your cake and eat
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it too for me? Like, I'm like, why whoever this messages that
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just came through and said listen to media don't open one door before you close
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another. I did. I told a few of them, man, really
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I did. I said, how you gonna love me and like me and
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all this stuff like that. But then you still got a wife. That
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chapter of your life is not over with yet. So what't you go ahead
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on and close that chapter and start another chapter with me? Oh? Well,
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you know, I got this, this, this is going on.
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I don't want to lose this. That means you need to stay with your
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wife, then, right, the fat of the keeper, don't come at
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me. Sorry, you know, unless you show me some kind of paperwork
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and I see a signature on that. Y'all not in the same house,
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don't come at me, right, don't come at me. I don't need
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nobody else's problems. I got my own. And then for those that have
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daughters, how would they feel if their daughter was in that same situation and
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then having to come to daddy's saying, you know, my husband and broke
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my heart, he cheating on me, he talking to different women, and
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you know, sending text messages and pictures and whatnot. You know, how
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how would they feel as a father having to console their daughter going through the
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same thing. Some don't have any respect for their daughters because they see their
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daughters out there doing a lot of things. But then they daughter see them
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doing a lot of things too. Where do they get it from the they
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mama out to daddy? Which one? Because both I'm not gonna just say
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males, both females and males, cause some females being married men boxes and
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some males some males being married women boxes. So it's it's both, it's
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vice versa. So with that, how are you going to teach a young
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lady not to be with a married man or woman too? Because they all
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do it? So how are you gonna teach somebody and how you want them
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to listen to you or tell attention to you. If you do it and
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they see it, right, that's and then you know, for the most
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part, I think that people somewhere along the line forget their vials. Like
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you know, not only did you stand before your family and the pastor and
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say these vials, you said them before God. Yep. And so you
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know, we can hide everything from man, but we can't hide nothing from
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God. He sees at all. And so you know, with that being
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said, like why, I I mean, if you're not happy, just
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say you're happy, move on, and you know, because maybe you know,
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I believe, I believe wholeheartedly that God did not ordain all marriages.
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I feel like some people are so time consumed if you will to where they
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have to do certain things by a certain age or it won't happen. And
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so, you know, a lot of women that I know had this thing
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of wanting to be married before they turn thirty. Wow, I don't know
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if you feel like you're down the hill at forty, I don't know.
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I mean, not forty thirty. I don't know, you know what the
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situation is. But they do, and then so they rush into things and
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I'm I'm guilty as well. I got married at twenty three knowing good and
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dog gone. Well, I ain't have nobody's business marrying nobody at twenty three
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because twenty three I still hadn't figured out who I was. You know,
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I was a teenage mom. I had my son at sixteen. My life
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was resolved revolved around him, and so I you know, I wasn't really
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out here living my life and you know, doing the dumb things that girls
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do, and you know, having fun, hanging out and stuff like that
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I was a mom, so I jumped in from being a mom to a
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wife. So I did too. I did too. I did at an
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early age, at the age of nineteen. You know. I was a
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mom at the age of fifteen, and I got married at the age of
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nineteen, my first marriage. So you know. But it's like we,
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like you said, we want to get married at a certain age and we
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want to do things right. But some people are not meet for married.
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Some people, you know, need to explore before you tired or night.
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You know, all my marriages wasn't bad because some of them was my best
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friends, and I messed that up by us get married. But we are
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still best friends, you know. But the thing is when we get married,
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Like you said, and I spoke this earlier to someone, I asked,
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was it God's doing that for you to get married or was it your
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doing? You know, right, And they couldn't ask a question, but
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they didn't know. So it's like, do you want God to ordain your
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marriage or do you want just you to hop into something that you know that
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you don't want to do. You know, it's it's either what are you
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doing it for? That's what I want to what are you doing it for
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if you still want to play and mingo mix and mingo so your raw oaks
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all that stuff like that. If you want to do that, why get
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married? Why string a person alone? You know? And it's to me.
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I was ready to get married, but I really wasn't ready to get
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married because the people that I was with, they didn't understand. I came
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from the old school. Well you have me, You have me, You
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don't have me somebody else out there and somebody else. No, you have
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me. Whatever you want me to do or whatever you want out a wife
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in me, let me know, right. But it wasn't like that all
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the time. So it was like, okay, fine, we're not gonna
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be together or whatever. But if you don't want to be with somebody,
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I understand divorces. You know, there are some divorces that's free. You
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can go, it's free. But if you don't want to be with somebody,
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let them know that you don't want to be with them, don't string
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them alone, and don't hide the fact. Go with I'm not happy with
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you. You know, we go try to make it work. Being at
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you have been in a relationship for thirteen years and out of them two U
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thirteen years on it for the meals that y'all liked each other, right,
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Why y'all still with each other? Right? If I'm sleeping in a different
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room from you, if I'm sleeping in the bed with you and I turned
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my back on you, that means I go. It's not for us number
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so, but guys and the females and different people ms. You have to
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watch that because sometimes excuse me, like me. I did find some dms
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and my excersband dems and I took screenshots off. I'm sure did, but
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I didn't out the females that was in his tail because I didn't. God
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gave me the vision for me to be able to look at it. He
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left it open. It's fair game. You left it wide over me see
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it. So I saw it. I didn't go through it. I glanced
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at it and I saw it. So I'm like, I already knew.
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But they said, when you go looking for something, you find what you're
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looking for, you really don't find it. So when I turned around and
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I looked at the computer, I found what I was looking for. That
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was justification and confirmation for me. I had to go because if you can
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entertain other women and I'm your wife, why be with me? Right?
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So so that's what guys getting when they come to my DM by I don't
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have signs for it. So for me with my DMS, you know how
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you have your DMS and then you have this other little box that you don't
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see unless you really go looking for it. Most of the messages male and
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female go there, like I don't. I don't have messages from anybody that
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I'm not either related to or you know, trying to bring on my podcast
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or whatever, you know, like that. But it's it's strange how people
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move without considering other people's feelings. Like with me, I have abandonment issues.
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I was adopted. I didn't have the best home life growing up and
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then and so you know, I met my husband when I was seven.
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His mom took care of my grandma, and so you know, I told
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him in seven years old, a look, bro, we were gonna get
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married. We gonna do this. You're gonna be my husband. And my
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grandma was like, girl, if you don't get out there, boy face
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and go outside and play. And but moving, you know, going forward,
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Like at age twenty three, I was still at home with my parents,
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my mom, we we don't we don't, we don't miss well.
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And so you know, when he asked me to marry him, I was
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like, sure, you know we we we can definitely do If this is
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gonna move me out this house, we can definitely do this. We can
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do this, and I and and and that's what it was like. I
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mean, does he love me? Yes? Do I love him? Yes?
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Should we have gotten married at twenty three or twenty seven? No?
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No, My son is twenty eight and days's twenty five. And I wouldn't
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advise neither one of them to even consider you a marriage like that. Until
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you're you're in. You have to find yourself. You have to fall in
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love with yourself. I didn't do that. I grew up thinking I wasn't
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worthy. I carried that into adulthood. I'm seeking counseling from you because I
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still have I still have those moments where you know, I feel worthless,
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shameless plug. If you need a therapist, she got you. But yeah,
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like it all starts with self worth. If you are a person that
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don't know your worth, and you know, people follow for the stuff that's
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in the DMS. They you know, they they liked that attention and that
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extra flirtatious you know, it makes them feel a certain type of way,
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especially if they're not getting it from home. Yeah, it's it's like if
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a man come in a female's DM and this woman has been used and abused,
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and the first thing he said, oh hey, beautiful, how you
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doing? They think that that's something nice. Yeah, the compliment is nice,
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but they can keep going, you know, because anybody can tell you
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beautiful. But like you said, no, you're worth because if you don't
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know your worth, nobody else is gonna treat you worth enough that you where
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you supposed to be. Put it like that, because if our self esteem
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is so low, they're gonna treat us just like that, you know.
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Right, So you're gonna accept anything. I accepted it. I'm not going
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not go shoota got nothing, because you know I already told you I don't
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sure kill nothing, right. I accepted someone that said that they weren't married,
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okay, But then we end up going somewhere and I found out they
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were married, and it was like, well we'll get a divorce, okay,
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So no paperworker's him. Well I'm waiting what you're waiting for? And
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then I came to the realization, Hey, I can't because if I'm praying
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and I'm asking God to help me and lead me in a certain way,
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I'm going against his will because I'm asking him for these things. But then
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yet still I'm going with the adultery. You know, I don't want to
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go against his will. You know I have. I ran away from that
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situation that I went back to that situation. Then again, I left that
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situation because I see what's holding me back. You know. So when a
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man comes into your DM and tell you that he's divorce or he's getting a
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divorce, let me see some paperwork, or let me see that you're going
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to a lawyer proof please, because I don't want no, yes, don't
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don't sit there and tell me you're doing it. And we were just working
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on things. I'm trying to make sure she don't take nothing from me and
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all that stuff. What dude, just go ahead on and get the divorce
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if you want to get the divorce, the divorce and stop stringing me along,
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right, because that's really hurting and hindering me. So I tell all
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all females and somebody had put up earlier. I saw the post. Well,
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some women teaching their daughters to cheat. Yep, there are some women
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out here teaching their daughters and their sons to cheat. But I can say
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I am very proud of my son. My son has been with his girlfriend
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for the longest time. I'm not gonna say girlfriend anymore because she's his wife.
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His wife, they had a child together, He stuck by her,
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did everything they had to do to be a couple and to respect up.
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I applaud them. They're young couple, but the respect that they have for
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one another, I applaud it to the utmost because they don't have to because
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they're so young. But they made the choice theirselves to get married because they
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learned each other. And once they learned with each other, they knew that
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bond that they had. And they're married. And he said, Mom,
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I'm not getting married no more. This is my wife. I'm here.
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I'm here for the long run. That's what he said. You know,
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yeah, he's there for the long run. He ain't going on it,
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he said, because she too much like you, I ain't going on it.
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So you know, it's a good thing. But too many people sit
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out here and accept these things that other people put on their plate. You
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don't have to accept the married man because just like a married man can jump
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into your DM, a single man can jump into your DM. So right,
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and then they're is this thing. I don't know if you've heard it.
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My parents are older. My mom is like eighty one eighty two.
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So there's this thing that they take from the Bible and they use it in
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the wrong content. But they say, don't let your left hand know what
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your right hand is doing. But in a marriage, in a marriage,
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you were supposed to left let your right hand know what the left hand is
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doing. Because y'all are one, you're not trying anymore. So if you
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want to get a divorce, you tell that woman you want to get a
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divorced. You tell that man you want to get divorced. Don't sit that
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lead them on like that, because you don't know people mindset these days.
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If you can't have her or if you can't have him, ain't nobody gonna
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do? You know, nobody, And I've been in that situation of course,
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my mom and my stepdad. You know, you can't have nobody else
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can't have it, And it was, it was it's redundant. You can't
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keep doing that to people, you know, and the way the world is
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not you don't know what's gonna happen in your sleep, so you sleep one
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eye open, the one eye go. That's not comfortable, right. And
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there's so many women, men too, losing their lives behind. If I
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can't have you, no one else will. And I have family members that
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have died just trying to move on, like you know. And and I
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say this often, don't love me to death. I don't. I don't
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want it. Like if if you love me and it ain't working, love
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me enough to live with me, like, don't, Yeah, don't don't
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have my family mourning me, you know, sad songs and flower bringing and
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you know, stuff like that when it doesn't have to be all that.
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I mean, yeah, And then you have the people that like to blame
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the other woman. My take on that is one, she has no loyalty
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to you. She didn't stand before God to say I do to you.
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She you know, she don't. She has no loyalty to you, not
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to Yeah, it's not all these females going out here and confront these other
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women. Why are you confront other women? You didn't marry that woman.
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You marry that man. That man is the one that she write. That
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woman is not she know you, that man, that woman is gonna go
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do what that man allows her to do and what he accepts her to do.
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That woman don't need to be in none of your mess. If you
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catch your inner room in a closet somewhere and let her stay in that closet
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while y'all hander, y'all business. Once y'all hander, y'all business, you
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let that door, don't touch that moment. That's it, right, But
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most people want to go to that other person instead of a person that's standing
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running from me. But when you allow me, man, when you allow
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a man or a woman to do something to you, that gon keep on
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doing it because you are allow it. Stop allowing things, allowing people to
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do what they want to drive right, because I mean, at the end
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of the day, we set the tone for how people treat us. Like
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if you give them permission to walk all over you, that's just what they're
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gonna do. They're gonna treat you like a doormat and they're gonna step all
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over you. We set the tone for it, like if that's not how
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you want to be treated, stand up for yourself. You know, say
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this ain't it, This ain't working. I got to go, you know
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it doesn't I feel like the voice doesn't have to be nasty. No,
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you know some cases it is when people are fighting over material things, but
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you know it doesn't have it still don't have to be. But some of
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them make it that way. Yep, they make it that way. But
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if you keep egging it on, a person can argue with you so much
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over something so little until you close your mouth. When you close your mouth
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and you don't bring fuel to the fire, they will stop because they'll see,
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Okay, well she's not saying that that, he's not saying nothing.
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So guess what it's done with. That's it. But you have to open
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your mouth and you have to tell people how you feel, and you have
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to tell them, hey, look, you know what you're doing this,
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this and this. I'm not allowing this, this and this. So when
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you don't allow it, they can't walk on you anymore. If you pull
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that brick out of that ground, that little, one little brick out of
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that ground, guess what you gonna fall. Whoever tries to walk that way,
28:44
we'll fall. So you pull that brick and tell them no, you're
28:48
not allowing it anymore, and you're not gonna walk on me no more.
28:51
I'm done. That's it. Make the first move. And that doesn't just
28:56
go for spouses. That goes for anybody's siblings, paying friends, polls,
29:00
whatever. I mean, we set the term for how people treat us,
29:04
Like yo, you know we can't stuff too, I said, we can't
29:11
allow people to do stuff to us just because hey, it feels all right
29:15
or well you know they're okay. NOA. I asked one of my friends
29:22
why do I attract people like that? And she told me, she said,
29:26
you are a very forgivable person and you are a very understanding person.
29:32
I said, yes, I am to extend. She said no, she
29:36
said, you're caring spirit that you have. You allow people to do certain
29:41
things to you until you get tired of it. But when you get tired
29:44
of it, they do know that you're tired of because you don't let it
29:45
go anymore. And I'm like, yes, I don't let things go anymore
29:49
because I got tired of living under that mask that I was living under when
29:55
I was with certain people. When I removed that mask, I out how
30:00
to become Lakeisha and not how to become just that person's wife, just that
30:04
person's friend. When I allow myself to find myself, those dems they be
30:14
on block, right because I don't have time for it, right, I
30:18
don't have time for it. So you know we have to Like someone is
30:22
saying trip trivia. Yeah, like she's saying, you know, we teach
30:27
people how to treat us. If I keep allowing you to treat me like
30:33
bull crap, you're gonna keep treating me like that because I am allowing you.
30:37
You know, I'm not gonna allow you to do that to me because
30:41
I'm not that You can't wipe you You can't wipe your tail with me and
30:42
think it's okay. Can't because I'm not that person, right, So exactly,
30:52
And you know, I will say having sessions with you has changed a
31:00
lot for me, Like I don't I don't sit in in the wallow in
31:07
self pity, Like I don't blame myself for nothing that nobody's done to me.
31:12
They did it because they wanted to, it felt good at the moment,
31:17
whatever, whateverever the situation it is. It's not on me, it's
31:21
on them. So you know, I'm because of you, I'm learning to
31:26
walk in my purpose and you know, just love on me a little bit
31:30
more than I have been in the last We're not even gonna talk about how
31:37
many years, but you get what I'm saying. Yes, and I am
31:42
very proud of you. You betther made me cry, but I am very
31:45
proud of you. Oh, don't do that. But before, before I
31:49
can, I was able to tell you and everyone else that I had to
31:56
learn myself and I had to stop allowing people to walk over me. So
32:01
when I stop allowing people to walk over me, it's a whole new outlet
32:07
on life. And we are able now to open our mouths to voice what
32:14
we need to do, to tell people. I'm not going to allow you
32:19
to tell me that you're going this place, but you're over here with somebody
32:22
else. You know, I'm not going to allow someone else to come into
32:24
my home and be disrespectful of me. This is my home. This is
32:30
not just something on something or somewhere on the outside that's not mine. This
32:35
is mine. This is my piece, and you're not going to come into
32:37
this jerve my piece, you know. So with other people allowing people to
32:44
go in their dms. Your DM is your private area, right, that's
32:46
your piece, that's like your personal space. Yes, so if you don't
32:51
want nobody your DM, you block them from your DM. Don't keep telling
32:54
them, we'll stop. Stop stop no, block them, stop giving access
33:00
to you. You know, when you stop giving people access to you,
33:04
they ain't gonna come back. They ain't come back, don't they know you
33:08
mean business? Yeah, but if you keep playing them on, I mean
33:13
that's just what it is like. If no means no, that's it.
33:16
Yeah, no means no. It's a universal word is knowing every language.
33:22
So you know, if they're making you uncomfortable, block them. I mean,
33:28
watch sitt and entertain people that do nothing for your life. You know,
33:32
they have nothing to offer you except for drama. So drama. Why
33:38
why entertain that drama? That's all they have and they want they want you
33:44
to come into their drama. They always already having an a household to bring
33:46
into your household. No, don't let stuff rove up on you. I'm
33:50
sorry, don't. Don't. Don't bring it to your house because your house
33:52
is your peace area, your mind. If you let it, if you
33:55
allow a person in your mind, then they take it over. They're taking
34:00
over your thoughts because you're thinking, oh, well, you know, he
34:01
say he go get a divorce. He's not doing this with her, but
34:06
they stay at the same house. So how do you know they're not doing
34:07
something? How do you know he's not telling her that you're trying to get
34:10
with him. I don't need all that around me. All I need is
34:15
my peace to keep on going with my life. You know. So unless
34:20
you close that chapter of your life in front of me and let me know,
34:24
let me see you, let me like that, like, and if
34:32
you don't, don't come at me. Don't come at me because I don't
34:38
want it. I haven't been married before. I know how it is.
34:40
I don't want your issues. I have enough in my own right. So
34:46
nobody won't see anybody sloppy seconds. Nobody wants anybody's slocky seconds. Like I
34:53
mean, it's it goes back to knowing your worth. Yep. And that's
34:59
the big lind your voice, Yeah, yep. And I mean it's okay
35:04
to not be liked. It's okay. I don't have to be like I
35:08
like myself as how as I like myself. I'm good because I liked myself
35:15
me myself, because I tell everybody, each one of us have a pair
35:21
of eyes. And if you are able to see, you see your life
35:24
through your eyes, not through nobody else's eyes. So, once you see
35:29
your life through your eyes, how do you how do you want your life
35:30
to be? You don't want your life to be like nobody else because I
35:34
don't want to be like Susie down the street. I want to be like
35:36
Asha. I don't want to be like what's like are you? I want
35:39
to be like Asha. So once you see your life through your eyes and
35:45
you make it up in your mind, hey, this is how I'm gonna
35:47
be. That's when you are realized you are not to be treated any kind
35:52
of way by anybody. That's just it, And that's how I live.
35:59
I don't want to be treat it in any kind of way. I want
36:00
to be treated like I would treat other people. And if they can't treat
36:04
me that way, that mean they know they don't need to be in my
36:06
room, right and see, And that's that's another thing I'm thankful for you
36:13
for, like you have shown me how to find my voice. I've let
36:17
so many things slide in my life. It was just a whole slipping slide
36:27
going on. But now that I know who I am, I know whose
36:31
I am. You know, I stand up for myself a little bit more
36:36
than I used to. And you know, me having empathy, I tend
36:42
to be a little on the soft side, soft parted side about everything.
36:47
It doesn't take much to hurt my feelings. But now I'm learning that I
36:53
can't take on everything for everybody, Like everybody's situation is not mine to carry.
37:01
So you know, again I took my hat to you. I thank
37:07
you for you know, taking me on as a client because you know,
37:13
I know I'm a handful and you got the door to two, so you
37:15
know we were a whole little handful over here. But but that's that's that's
37:22
why I let me ask you of it. Let me ask you. Have
37:28
you had any females to come into your d MS trying to say they saw
37:32
you talking to their man, or you know, why are you and my
37:37
man's d MS. I'm gonna cut my eyes on that one, but yes,
37:44
I have had some that asks me, well, did he come on
37:49
to you? I said, did you read his message? That's how I
37:52
feel because you asked me right, YEA but right, did he missage you?
37:57
Did he call you? Why you got his phone number? He gave
38:00
it to me. You see him that he texts me. That's your husband,
38:06
not mine. Right If he tell you that me and him a friends,
38:09
trust and believe we just friends, that's it right. Don't ask me
38:14
if I don't did the sex has sex with your man? Because I'm not
38:17
gonna tell you that. Your man is gonna tell you that I'm not with
38:21
you. He with you, He sleep onside you every night, away over
38:23
y'all sleep at That's not my responsibility to tell you that. That's his responsibility
38:29
to tell you that. So don't come at me like that. And that's
38:30
why I say, you know the other woman doesn't owe you anything like nothing.
38:37
I mean, she in most cases is an innocent bystander. But you
38:42
know, you do have those that know that you know the man is married,
38:47
has a family, or you know what happened. Still I don't care,
38:52
it's still on. Yeah. Yeah, I had a gentleman. I
38:55
had a gentleman came up to me at a club said of the night and
39:01
me knowing him and knowing that he married, he was like, you know
39:06
I could do this, this this for you. I said, yeah,
39:07
you can do this, this and this for your wife too. He's like,
39:09
man, stop ring with me. I said, I'm not playing with
39:13
you. I'm real. I said, I can dance with you, but
39:16
to go home with you or to do anything else with you, oh no,
39:21
we're not having You can't even buy me a drink. Man. It's
39:23
like that. Yeah, it's like that because I have more respect for your
39:27
wife than I have it for you. He was like, oh, so
39:30
you gonna do it like that. Yeah, I'm gonna do it like that,
39:31
and when I see you and your wife together in front of my face,
39:35
I might just tell hook if you try anything else with me. And
39:37
he was like, man, you so mean. It's not that. I
39:40
mean, I'm respectful. I respect myself more than I respect a man that
39:45
come at me that's married, So right, I mean, you know,
39:53
it's it's sad in a way because again, like men, they do that
40:01
and the woman is supposed to just forgive and forget. But if the woman
40:07
wants to do tent for tact and the tat hit a little bit harder,
40:13
then yeah, they can't take it. They need oxygen and extra extra stuff
40:19
so that they can breathe it. They can't. They can't. They can't
40:22
take what they did shout and you think that that would teach them, you
40:28
know, if you can't take it, don't don't give it, you know.
40:32
But see that's what they don't understand when they do it. Yeah,
40:37
they go out there, they cheat, they do what they want to do,
40:39
right, they come home all baby, Hey, how you doing,
40:43
blah blah blah blah blah. But then you turn around and you go out
40:46
there and you do it, and you got You come home and you be
40:50
like, have they well where you being? Which you mean where I be?
40:52
And I told you where I was going. Well, such and Stuss
40:55
said you was with it. But when you went when such and such told
40:59
me this, you didn't want me to believe it. So now you believing
41:01
what you heard out there. But I'm not really cheating. You don't one
41:06
that took it to the next level. Not me. You guilty, they
41:08
say, a guilty mind will speak, So you're gonna blame me because you
41:15
did it, So you're guilty. Conscious is kind of getting to you,
41:17
not because you're thinking I did it, but I didn't mean to do it,
41:22
So I got beat up for that. I got beat up because I
41:29
was accused of doing a lot of things that I did not do. You
41:31
because I'm a very sociable person, so I took the rough end of it
41:37
and I got beat because of it. Why because I'm a sociable person,
41:39
I'm not gonna I'm not gonna stop being who I am for you, I
41:43
did that for so long and I'm not gonna stop. So either you leave
41:46
me or either we get it together. But we didn't get it together.
41:51
So now, because once you put your hands on me, you gotta go.
41:54
You gotta go. There's no more. And that's why I say a
41:58
lot of these people that's in these dems, you don't know what your wife
42:00
or your husband is looking at when you know, because a lot of people
42:05
can get into your messages and stuff without you even know it. So you
42:08
don't know if they know or not. Wait until that day comes. And
42:12
when that day comes, mad day comes. They sit there and they be
42:16
like, hey, don't go to this place and don't go that place.
42:20
You end up getting killed, you get beat or anything like that, you
42:23
get some kind of harm done to you. I have been in those shoes,
42:28
and I wouldn't put it on no one. I don't wish it on
42:31
no one because I haven't been there. You know, you just have to
42:37
learn to reject those people. I don't care how much you want the person
42:40
or whatever. Reject those people. Yeah, I mean, you got to
42:45
know your worth. I mean, if you don't know your worth, you
42:50
can't expect the next person to know your worth. So yeah, but but
42:54
this case, it's been fun talking to you to night. Girl. We
43:00
guys, always to do this again. We got to do this again.
43:04
We got to there has to be a part three in somewhere. Well,
43:08
I told you I've bought none. I've bought none. Iman, I go,
43:12
you could coded a thing. Oh, I know, I definitely know
43:15
that. But again, for real, I would like to have you come
43:20
back. You know, we'll always find something to talk about. I mean,
43:25
hey, my platform is open. I'm here whenever you need me.
43:34
I appreciate you. I appreciate you you guys for watching tonight. And as
43:39
I tell you all the time, you may be delayed, but what God
43:45
has for you will never be denied unto you. So until the next time,
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We'll see you later a night. Every second Monday and fourth Friday of
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each month,