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Season 2 - Episode 13 - Being willing to make others uncomfortable. · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop.
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  Along with all her chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the very windy.
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  Chicken Coop, you probably can hear wind chimes in the
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  background because right now, it's so windy and the wind
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  chimes are actually blowing right.
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  Girls are talking wind, chimes, are blowing.
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  Not sure if you can hear them or not, but they're there.
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  So, today we are talking about the fact that sometimes you have
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  to make other people a little uncomfortable in order for you
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  to stick to what you have for intentions and goals.
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  Lots of people are setting have set their goals for the year are
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  Setting their goals for the year.
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  And one of the things that often comes up is, it's not in
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  alignment with what other people are doing and therefore you get
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  some pushback or discomfort or you decide you want to leave
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  your role in, whatever it is that you're doing and other
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  people are going to be inconvenienced by that and
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  there's this overriding sense of.
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  Well I don't want to make anybody else suffer for my
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  choices and I Don't think that that's healthy perspective when
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  you are trying to participate in your own rescue and doing so
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  successfully by making choices for yourself that are really
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  necessary and maybe it's inconvenient for the other
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  people. Maybe they, then have to look
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  for something else that are someone else that will replace
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  you someone else to do the job, but they're not suffering.
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  Suffering is a word that gets thrown around a lot and I really
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  like have to push you on the definition of it because
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  suffering, we don't even understand suffering in our day
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  and age when it comes to normal everyday life and will say, you
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  know, I suffer from this or I suffer from that or did it added
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  up, you know, we just don't have a comprehension of what the word
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  really terms out to be in daily life.
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  Now, I'm not talking about illness or other challenges like
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  that. I'm talking about daily life.
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  Life. You know, people will complain
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  about their job and they'll say, oh my God, it's so awful and
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  it's this innocence, this it's like, no really.
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  Awful jobs are, you know, having to do sewer work and cleaning in
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  the sewers and going down into disgusting things or working
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  outside in 110-degree heat, putting pavement down those
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  people. I do believe suffer, most of us
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  don't suffer, and when we try to start aligning ourselves and we
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  start putting that out there that we Change because we're
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  going to make someone else suffer.
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  Hmm, that's a big thing to rethink often.
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  You're making a decision for yourself but that is a gift for
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  somebody else to push them into something that they need.
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  So we can't keep our thoughts. Just trailed into one thing like
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  about making it convenient for everybody else or easy for other
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  people. What we need to do is think
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  well, if I do this, does this give somebody else the
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  opportunity for growth and care. Airing and whatnot.
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  And the answer is. Yes, it does.
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  The answer is absolutely. Yes, it does.
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  Because it puts us in a position where we have the opportunity to
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  change our approach, we have the opportunity to do something
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  different, we have the opportunity to create something
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  very different at that point in time.
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  And so do they? That's the crazy part.
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  So today, so by isolating ourselves and saying I have to
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  make everything great for other. Only and not putting them in a
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  position where they have to make changes as well, the
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  disadvantages. They don't get to grow, they
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  don't get a chance to have that cultivation of themselves.
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  When we do it, the way I'm talking about doing it.
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  It gives them an opportunity. Might they like it.
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  Well, they might not like it, but that's okay.
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  We all don't, like things that happen sometimes.
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  Sometimes our best and biggest growth spurts come in those
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  moments when things are different, Current and not easy.
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  Sometimes it becomes much more of a, you know, a challenge in
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  the process. But it doesn't mean we're
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  suffering, and it doesn't mean they're suffering.
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  And often those times when we do this stuff, what's fascinating
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  about it is we will end up having a better outcome by
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  having the changes will say, gosh, I'm so in the beginning, I
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  didn't think this was going to work but guess what?
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  It's actually pretty good. It's actually showing up the
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  right. I'm grateful for this.
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  So shying away from that Rob's yourself, it robs the other
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  people. It doesn't give Clarity to a lot
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  of, you know, the stressors around, what a real and what are
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  perceived. So I'm going to challenge you
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  all to think about this and think of it all the way through
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  before you actually make decisions that say I'm going to,
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  I'm going to put that aside. I'm not going to do this.
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  I don't want to inconvenience. Vince, anybody I don't want to
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  cause stress for anybody else because it's not going to help
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  you in the long run and it's not going to help them.
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  So, as you're working towards the goals, as you're putting
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  things out there that you're putting shifting into the new
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  year, just remember, everything is a tapestry and everything we
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  do all weaves together. And for, you know, one way or
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  another, The Weave is working and growing in our favor.
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  So take that with you as you go on your journey today and I hope
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  you guys all have a very Blessed wonderful day and I will see you
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  all tomorrow. Bye.