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753. Character vs. Reputation: Which Matters More? (rerun) · Daily Influence

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  [SPEAKER_01]: Hey, everybody, Brian Smith here with the Iainteam series and your Daily Influence.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And today, we're gonna be talking about,
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  [SPEAKER_01]: character and reputation and how the two are very different yet they can often times be connected and you know we all proactively really worry about our reputation.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: But what we fail to remember is that our reputation is actually the perception of others.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So reputation can be skewed.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It's our personal foundation, it's, you know, it's built on our core values, it's built on who we are behaviorally internally as a human in, it's built through choices integrity and character is maintained even when nobody's watching and it's really important that we actually think and understand how our character is supporting and or damaging.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: our reputation, especially if you're worried about your reputation.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: In that external view can be damaged by how others interpret our actions.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And it can be filtered through the bias of myself, where the biases of others and biases are not a bad thing, they're actually built to protect us.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: But if we're doing things that are contrary to what our underlying character is,
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  [SPEAKER_01]: be hurt by it.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And, you know, another thing is incomplete information or out of context.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: You know, being in context is so important.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Having context in our understanding, it's why we dive into smart, so deeply here is that without full context, our understanding has gaps in it.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: We remain ignorant.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And out of that ignorance, we can damage our reputation.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Even
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  [SPEAKER_01]: with good character.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So how can we focus on our character over a reputation and have a stronger sense of self and resilience against what that external judgment is?
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And one of the first things is, don't worry about what people think if they're ignorant.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Don't worry about what's being set
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  [SPEAKER_01]: and stick to your character.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And if you really want to feed understanding and help people understand who you are better and sure that you are contextual, don't be vague.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Don't be ambiguous, especially on the things that matter.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I see this all the time.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I interface with a lot of people
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  [SPEAKER_01]: a foundation of really good character, but their reputation is damaged because of the way they portray themselves.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I recently saw, and this is common now, arguments about politics and emotion can get into our conversations so deeply that our reputation is damaged.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: even though we have a foundation of good character.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And it's not about right or wrong.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It's about integrity and what you believe in in consistency and how you treat others through that integrity and consistency.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Because you can be honest and mean and you can be dishonest and nice.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So you could have a good reputation but not have any character.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And these things are all led by our agendas and some of our agendas are controlled by other people.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And that means that sometimes what we're leaning into, what we believe especially if we lack context, might not be an accurate reflection of our core values and might not be an accurate reflection of who we are as individuals.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: However, over time, character stands above
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  [SPEAKER_01]: reputation and it solves that equation.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Over time, our character will remain steady.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: It will be revealed in those difficult moments when context actually is understood fully.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Any poor reputational issues you might have had will be vindicated in it's in those moments when we realize that we've been damaged unfairly and we've had a reputation tainted.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: that we need to take that high road rise above the emotion that anger that hurt that can come up and keep our character in place.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: Feed into that context and not by gloating but by guiding others to see that character is better.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: That despite the hit to a reputation that was unjust or unfair,
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  [SPEAKER_01]: behavior that may have damaged reputation because of ignorance or lack of context, doesn't damage our overall foundation, our character.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: So lean into what your character is, go for full context.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And when people challenge you about context, understand that there's gaps then we are creating those gaps.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And our character, if it's true to form,
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  [SPEAKER_01]: And we want it to be positive and responsible.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: We will be contextually consistent.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: We will provide those details so that ambiguity, vagueness, doesn't get in the way.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I hope that you
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  [SPEAKER_01]: will think more clearly about the differences between reputation and character and how you can build your character, support your character, despite what might happen in emotional situations, what might happen out of ignorance, misunderstanding, that through context, through consistency, through integrity, through our core values.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: We can maintain our character and our reputation will
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I hope you have a great day.
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  [SPEAKER_01]: I look forward to seeing you again soon on The Daily In Bruyne.