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LIVE with The Naked Room: a conversation on joying up your life · The Naked Room

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SPEAKER_01: This is a special live edition of The Naked Room,
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SPEAKER_01: and we're excited for some audience participation today.
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I think,
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let's be honest,
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you're excited that you don't have to edit anything after this.
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SPEAKER_01: That also is kind of...
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this week it's all bill and i are here that's really sweet oh i
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see it's my first
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time ever doing Substack live so everything's really novel and
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fun to me there's
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comments it is fun and hearts yes it's gonna be fun and i love
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for the people who
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are not here right now and they're gonna be hearing this and be
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like wow that
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SPEAKER_01: sounded like a party i wish that i hadn't missed it
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SPEAKER_01: Okay,
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so you and I had talked about how we have had a lot of things
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lately in our life
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SPEAKER_01: that have been bringing us joy.
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SPEAKER_01: And we're going to get to that.
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But in typical naked room fashion,
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we have to keep it a little bit off the cuff.
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SPEAKER_01: So I brought the question jar.
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SPEAKER_02: All right.
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SPEAKER_02: All right.
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SPEAKER_02: Should I do a yellow or a green?
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SPEAKER_02: You can pick.
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SPEAKER_01: Yellow.
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SPEAKER_01: Okay, here we go.
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SPEAKER_01: This one I think was from the bottom of the jar.
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SPEAKER_01: Let's see.
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SPEAKER_01: Um, like we have this one one time.
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Actually,
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this feels good because I feel like it relates back to the idea
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of finding joy.
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SPEAKER_01: So what do you do to snap yourself out of a negative thought pattern?
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SPEAKER_03: Oh, that's funny.
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SPEAKER_03: Okay, to snap myself out of a negative thought pattern, I...
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I feel like I have a few tricks up my sleeve for that that I've
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developed over a lifetime.
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SPEAKER_03: But definitely music, it always goes back to that.
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That can always snap me out of whatever mood I'm in or bring me
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into whatever mood
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SPEAKER_03: I want to be in.
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SPEAKER_03: Yes.
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SPEAKER_03: I mean, if it's a negative thought that I have
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SPEAKER_03: the ability to kind of wrap my head around,
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SPEAKER_03: then I'll sit with it and I'll go through the feeling of it and be like,
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SPEAKER_03: why am I,
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SPEAKER_03: you know,
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SPEAKER_03: like working through it snaps me out of it.
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SPEAKER_03: I guess that's less of a snap and more of a like working through it,
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SPEAKER_03: but,
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SPEAKER_03: but not,
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SPEAKER_03: you know,
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SPEAKER_03: expecting it to go away and just sitting with it,
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SPEAKER_03: understanding why it's there,
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SPEAKER_03: where it's coming from.
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SPEAKER_03: Most of the time it's something that I have no control over.
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SPEAKER_03: So my big thing is like,
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SPEAKER_03: to never pre-worry about something or,
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SPEAKER_03: you know,
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SPEAKER_03: don't put energy into something that I don't have control over.
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SPEAKER_03: It's on another page.
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SPEAKER_01: You have been so,
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we've talked about this a lot and like you made a huge life
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change last year and
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SPEAKER_01: you moved across the country,
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SPEAKER_01: which is something that's like normal for,
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SPEAKER_01: you've done that a lot.
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So you were like,
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you were,
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you were prepared and,
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and all of the best ways possible.
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SPEAKER_01: But like,
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I know that there have been lots of times where you've been
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faced with the unknown,
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SPEAKER_01: like a lot of unknowns.
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SPEAKER_01: And I've always been so impressed with how you've been like,
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SPEAKER_01: I could worry about this right now,
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but I'm expending all this energy unnecessarily because I know
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that this worrying
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SPEAKER_01: is just going to create more strife for myself.
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SPEAKER_01: It's going to make me feel worse.
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SPEAKER_01: So I might as well put my energy into figuring out a solution.
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SPEAKER_03: Yeah,
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I think you go through enough trial and error and ups and downs
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that you realize
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SPEAKER_03: that the same energy that you put into worrying about it can be,
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SPEAKER_03: like you said,
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SPEAKER_03: just spent on finding a solution instead.
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SPEAKER_03: And it's easier said than done.
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SPEAKER_03: It's really paralyzing sometimes when shit happens and you roll over it.
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And the obsession of not being able to control whatever the
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outcome might be
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can be tough but yeah it's just I don't know it's an ex it's
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like a muscle that you
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exercise or at least for me it's a muscle that I've exercised
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where I'm like oh
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okay well I think you have to look at it from like an
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explorer's perspective like
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wonder how this is gonna turn out like because otherwise the
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alternative is just
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putting negative energy into it or thinking worrying about it
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like none of that's
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SPEAKER_03: gonna make it go away so what's the point yeah I
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I feel like I've been doing that a lot.
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SPEAKER_01: And we've talked, you and I talk about every single thing.
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SPEAKER_01: So we've touched on this before,
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SPEAKER_01: but I feel like this is probably helpful,
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SPEAKER_01: helpful for other people.
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SPEAKER_01: But like,
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SPEAKER_01: The connection that I have to scarcity and money,
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SPEAKER_01: thinking that it's going to run out and being afraid.
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I have no examples of being in a place where I am completely
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full of lack.
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SPEAKER_01: There's no examples of that in my life.
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SPEAKER_01: So why am I spending time worrying about it?
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SPEAKER_01: I think we're just deeply programmed to have this.
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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work for the thing get the thing have the thing keep the thing
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get insurance for
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the thing like it's just like oh it's it's crazy and I don't
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know it works for some
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people and they've they've figured it out but it's just never
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worked for me so yeah
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yeah might as well put that energy into I don't know building a
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farm stand or
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SPEAKER_01: something yeah
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Which we can come back around to because I want to hear more
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stories of people
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SPEAKER_01: coming up to the video talking to God.
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SPEAKER_01: I'm like,
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SPEAKER_01: confession,
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SPEAKER_03: while we're doing this live,
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SPEAKER_03: I literally have my security camera right here because I opened it today.
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Because we're supposed to get a big storm this weekend,
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like 829 inches of snow.
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SPEAKER_03: And so everyone's freaking out and they wanted to go shopping.
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SPEAKER_03: And I said, go for it.
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SPEAKER_03: I'll stock the stand.
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Yeah,
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I'm good too because it's been very entertaining for everyone
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else who's in your orbit.
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SPEAKER_01: Um,
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but I will say one of the things that I do that's been very
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powerful if I'm in a
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SPEAKER_01: negative thought spiral is talking to myself in the mirror.
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SPEAKER_01: I just go and look deep into my own eyes and I connect to some,
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SPEAKER_01: like,
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SPEAKER_01: it's the most authentic and calm version of myself.
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SPEAKER_01: And she's the one who's talking to me in that moment.
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SPEAKER_01: I sound like I need to go to a padded room right now.
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SPEAKER_01: But...
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SPEAKER_01: she's the one who's talking to me.
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SPEAKER_01: And it like breaks up that cycle.
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SPEAKER_01: Um,
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SPEAKER_01: cause sometimes I'll wake up in the morning and I'll immediately go into,
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SPEAKER_01: um,
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SPEAKER_01: like dread or I'll,
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SPEAKER_01: and you know,
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SPEAKER_01: thus is life.
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SPEAKER_01: Cause we're in, we're in, it feels very chaotic.
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SPEAKER_01: So to say the least.
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SPEAKER_01: Um, but yeah, I, I love doing the mirror exercise and then
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SPEAKER_01: Sometimes when I'm sitting in the house,
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SPEAKER_01: I get into that,
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SPEAKER_01: like the afternoon fuzz starts to come on.
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SPEAKER_01: I'm like,
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this is the time that I need to go outside and take Zula for a
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walk and or be
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SPEAKER_01: around other people,
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SPEAKER_01: go to a third space,
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SPEAKER_01: do something like local coffee shop,
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SPEAKER_01: do something that changes my environment.
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SPEAKER_01: I think that's really the biggest thing.
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SPEAKER_01: Let's see.
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SPEAKER_01: Peter, he made a couple comments here.
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_01: Well put,
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especially the part about music being able to put you in a mood
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or headspace where
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SPEAKER_01: you want to be in.
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SPEAKER_01: And he also said, has your partner ever caught you doing that?
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SPEAKER_01: Talking to yourself here.
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SPEAKER_01: Happened to me this morning.
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SPEAKER_01: I love it.
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Peter's one of my friends from LinkedIn and we've like had
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phone calls and he's
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SPEAKER_01: wonderful and I'm so glad he's here.
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SPEAKER_01: Have I.
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SPEAKER_01: I think Curtis and I are just so open-door policy with everything.
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SPEAKER_01: That was the first thing I thought.
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SPEAKER_03: I was like,
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that's probably the least embarrassing thing he's probably seen
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you do in a
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SPEAKER_03: bathroom.
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SPEAKER_03: Yes.
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SPEAKER_03: Curtis and I are puzzled by your open-door policy.
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SPEAKER_03: We just can't.
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SPEAKER_03: It's not something that we jive with.
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SPEAKER_01: But I love it.
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I mean,
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I got a little cranky either this morning or yesterday where I
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was like...
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SPEAKER_01: I feel like I need boundaries right now.
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SPEAKER_01: Like I really, I was like, go away.
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SPEAKER_01: This is too close.
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SPEAKER_01: So yeah, but I don't know.
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SPEAKER_01: It's yeah.
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SPEAKER_01: He,
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SPEAKER_01: he had seen me talk to myself in the mirror,
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SPEAKER_01: but that's typically,
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SPEAKER_01: that's like something I'll do before.
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A lot of times he'll wake up slightly after me and I'll go in
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and do it in the
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SPEAKER_01: mirror and talk to myself or it's usually in a quiet moment,
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SPEAKER_01: but yeah.
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_01: Okay, I really want to talk about your firm, Stanmore.
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That's a new development in the last,
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like,
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couple of weeks,
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and it's kicking ass.
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SPEAKER_01: You're pretty good.
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SPEAKER_03: No pun intended.
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SPEAKER_03: Goods in the woods.
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SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_03: I mean, what is there to say?
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SPEAKER_03: We talked a little bit about it before,
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SPEAKER_03: I guess,
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SPEAKER_03: but it's bringing me a lot of joy,
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SPEAKER_03: so that's on theme.
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SPEAKER_03: I mean, so when we moved here,
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SPEAKER_03: what was it,
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SPEAKER_03: like eight months ago now,
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SPEAKER_03: I knew that I wanted to offer up like,
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SPEAKER_03: well,
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SPEAKER_03: we knew we'd get chickens.
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SPEAKER_03: We got chickens.
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SPEAKER_03: And I knew I'd want to offer up eggs because we can't like,
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SPEAKER_03: we're not going to be eating six dozen eggs a week.
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SPEAKER_03: So I knew I wanted to do that.
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SPEAKER_03: And I wanted to grow enough vegetables to be able to bear them.
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SPEAKER_03: And then I think after living here for a few months,
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SPEAKER_03: it's going to sound so funny to you because you're in LA,
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SPEAKER_03: but like you have,
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SPEAKER_03: you know,
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SPEAKER_03: both
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areas so you get it like traffic in LA is bonkers obviously but
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like traffic in
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Charlottesville isn't that great either so it's like I think
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for a few months I
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just was like man I don't know if anybody else feels this way
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but and it kind of
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SPEAKER_03: ties into like you know romanticizing your life or creating joy but like
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getting on the main road that sounds so hillbilly but like
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getting on the main road
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driving into town all the way into charlesville which sounds so
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silly it's like six
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miles it's it doesn't bring me joy like i don't like to be
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around it is so
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overstimulating for me too which is like a whole nother
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probably nut to crack but i
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get home i'm like exhausted from being like around all the
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people and the commerce
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SPEAKER_03: and like all of that and so i
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SPEAKER_03: shop as locally as I can when I can.
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SPEAKER_03: Like I love in the,
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SPEAKER_03: you know,
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SPEAKER_03: in the summers when like our friend,
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our mutual friend has a farm and like they always have fresh
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veggies and stuff that
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SPEAKER_03: I can,
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SPEAKER_03: you know,
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SPEAKER_03: go and grab.
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SPEAKER_03: And it's so nice to not have to make a special trip for it.
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And I guess I didn't realize that everyone else in my area
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feels the same way.
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SPEAKER_03: It's like, that's been the feedback.
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SPEAKER_03: The fact that they don't have to
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leave our little more rural area and travel into town to get
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what is now cookies
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and muffins and bagels and all the things that I can make until
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we have vegetables
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SPEAKER_03: and flowers and stuff.
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SPEAKER_03: They are just loving it.
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SPEAKER_03: And I'm loving that they love it.
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SPEAKER_03: And it's just joyful.
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SPEAKER_01: I mean, it's bringing me joy and I'm not even there.
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Like some of the things that you told me about people talking
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into the camera and
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SPEAKER_01: my mom and Bill are here and
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Like,
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their back and forth when they picked up their cookies was
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adorable,
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as to be expected.
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SPEAKER_01: Because my mom is adorable.
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SPEAKER_01: So, she was like, I'm getting many cookies.
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SPEAKER_03: Oh, thanks, Phil and Brenda.
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SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_03: So,
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SPEAKER_03: I think,
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SPEAKER_03: too,
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SPEAKER_03: you go into those things,
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SPEAKER_03: or at least I did,
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SPEAKER_03: because I'm,
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SPEAKER_03: like,
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SPEAKER_03: a prepared-minded person.
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SPEAKER_03: I went into it.
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SPEAKER_03: Hey, tater tot.
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SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
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assuming or i guess preparing myself that there would
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definitely be some um some
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neighbors that that it did not bring them joy that they were
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like what is that or
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you know either they were just confused by it or they felt that
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it like didn't add
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value to the neighborhood or whatnot and the opposite
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experience has been true
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SPEAKER_03: which has been a huge relief but
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SPEAKER_03: Yeah,
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SPEAKER_03: having the security camera to be able to,
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SPEAKER_03: you know,
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SPEAKER_03: just make sure that nothing gets stolen.
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But then I found myself checking it anytime I would set up the
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stand just to be
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SPEAKER_03: like,
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SPEAKER_03: I wonder what people's reactions are.
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SPEAKER_03: Like, are they going to be excited?
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SPEAKER_03: Do they want to buy a half dozen cookies?
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SPEAKER_03: Do they just want a single cookie?
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SPEAKER_03: Like, it's been really good.
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insight into their um feedback without them having to like
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reach out and and it's
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like very honest feedback because even though the the camera is
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like this big like
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they know it's there but i think you know they're just having
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their own little
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experience and that's been so cute to see people walk up and
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just say like oh
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SPEAKER_03: Cool.
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SPEAKER_03: Like, that's usually like, oh, wow, nice.
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SPEAKER_03: Oh, it's so, oh, my God, beautiful.
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Like,
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all these positive reactions versus somebody being like,
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what the hell is this?
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SPEAKER_03: Like, what is this monstrosity?
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SPEAKER_03: Because we built it out of, you know, garbage.
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SPEAKER_01: It's so cute, though.
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SPEAKER_01: Thank you.
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SPEAKER_01: Peter's coming in with a lot of comments.
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SPEAKER_01: I love my retirement plan is opening a broth stand.
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Only issue is I live at the end of a dead end road in the
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middle of the woods.
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SPEAKER_01: Working name is David Lee broth stand.
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SPEAKER_03: God, I love it.
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SPEAKER_01: You,
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SPEAKER_01: you and Peter,
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you and Peter would a hundred percent like play off each other
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with all the play on
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SPEAKER_01: words and stuff.
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SPEAKER_03: Marketing firm, Peter.
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SPEAKER_01: He's so good.
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SPEAKER_01: I know he, well, he is a marketer.
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SPEAKER_01: So that, yeah, he's got that brain just like you.
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SPEAKER_01: He's, he's got sectional healing.
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_02: Sectional.
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SPEAKER_02: Sectional healing.
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_01: I, I am.
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SPEAKER_01: So I've been doing some gardening myself.
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SPEAKER_01: I got my, look at that free bird.
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SPEAKER_01: I know it's not a beer.
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SPEAKER_01: If you were wondering.
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SPEAKER_01: Getting us through.
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SPEAKER_01: Product place.
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SPEAKER_01: I dry January, very dry air January.
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I forgot because I've only had it when you brought it when you
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came for the summer.
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SPEAKER_03: And then now I have it and I forgot how like crisp it is.
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It's like it's because I drink sparkling water all day long
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more than I should.
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SPEAKER_03: But this one, I don't know what they do.
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SPEAKER_01: They like extra carbonate it.
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SPEAKER_01: It's so good.
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SPEAKER_01: It's really good.
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SPEAKER_01: And yeah, we're doing a shameless plug for Freebird right now.
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SPEAKER_01: But I drove all the way across the country to get that water.
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SPEAKER_01: I did.
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SPEAKER_01: I did a trip to Virginia just to get Freebird.
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SPEAKER_03: Oh, to deliver me water.
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SPEAKER_01: And now they're delivering you water.
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_01: But I got that garden bed like a year ago.
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SPEAKER_01: And it's coming up on a year at the end of February.
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SPEAKER_01: And I just went and bought some more plants in the last couple of days.
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SPEAKER_01: And I have...
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SPEAKER_01: plants on the patio.
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And I think I was telling you how it's one of the few things
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that makes me so
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SPEAKER_01: present and so focused on the one thing that I'm doing.
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SPEAKER_01: Hi, Loggie.
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SPEAKER_01: Hi, buddy.
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SPEAKER_01: I know it's almost done.
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SPEAKER_01: Sweet boy.
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SPEAKER_01: But it's the one thing, this feels like, I love, I love the, we are live.
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SPEAKER_03: We live.
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SPEAKER_03: And in case you're wondering what time it is on the East Coast,
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SPEAKER_03: Lucknut will let you know that it is somewhere between 3 p.m.
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SPEAKER_03: and 4 p.m., which is dinner time.
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_01: And he's like, I need to go outside.
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SPEAKER_01: I want to go experience the outside.
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SPEAKER_01: That's what brings me joy.
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SPEAKER_01: But there are various things right now that that keep me so present that.
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SPEAKER_01: I forget about everything else.
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SPEAKER_01: Like all the other things fade away because there's that for you.
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SPEAKER_03: Right.
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SPEAKER_03: Which is so cool.
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_01: Well,
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SPEAKER_01: and just beautifying my yard and like,
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SPEAKER_01: like I had beautified our,
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SPEAKER_01: our porch with different plants before we came to Virginia last July.
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SPEAKER_01: And then when I came back,
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they'd put like the the landlord had put a new fence like
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cleaned up kind of like
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behind the porch and stuff and that looks beautiful but there
16:14
were all these random
16:15
pots that were like in the dirt and they like just stacked them
16:18
up on the porch i
16:18
was like the thing that i had done painted yeah so i had to
16:24
redo that it wasn't
16:25
SPEAKER_01: that much work but um my like brain was like free pots yeah right
16:31
SPEAKER_01: They were a little sketchy.
16:33
SPEAKER_01: There were some spiders.
16:34
SPEAKER_01: There was one spider on them,
16:35
SPEAKER_01: and I was a little nervous about that because we have had some brown...
16:39
SPEAKER_01: Recluse.
16:41
SPEAKER_01: Not the brown recluse, the brown widow, which...
16:47
SPEAKER_01: is supposed to be first in the photo.
16:50
SPEAKER_01: Oh, really?
16:50
SPEAKER_01: Yes, we've had a couple of those, like, and they come in fast.
16:55
SPEAKER_01: Like,
16:55
SPEAKER_01: if we put one of those,
16:57
SPEAKER_01: like,
16:57
SPEAKER_01: Zula will have to have a towel to,
16:58
SPEAKER_01: like,
16:59
SPEAKER_01: wipe her paws to come,
17:00
SPEAKER_01: like,
17:00
SPEAKER_01: she does it,
17:01
SPEAKER_01: she wipes her paws.
17:03
SPEAKER_01: No,
17:03
but we'll drape it over the chair and there'll be a spider
17:06
hiding in there within
17:07
SPEAKER_01: the next,
17:07
SPEAKER_01: like,
17:08
SPEAKER_01: day or so.
17:08
SPEAKER_01: So they come in and make their home really fast and it's very sketchy.
17:14
SPEAKER_03: Like,
17:15
SPEAKER_03: I feel like I have to knock on wood,
17:16
but as cold as it's been getting here and as as many of our
17:20
friends around us have
17:23
SPEAKER_03: mice problems like.
17:25
SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
17:26
SPEAKER_03: And I'm like, I don't know.
17:27
SPEAKER_03: I don't think the dogs really keep them away, but.
17:29
SPEAKER_02: I don't know.
17:31
SPEAKER_02: Happy to not have mice.
17:33
SPEAKER_01: They might.
17:34
SPEAKER_01: Yeah,
17:35
we definitely get them at our cabin up in like an hour and a
17:39
half from from
17:40
SPEAKER_01: Charlottesville.
17:41
SPEAKER_01: Anyway, I digress.
17:44
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, what are you all doing right now to find joy?
17:47
SPEAKER_01: Bill said free bird water holds its bubbles well.
17:50
SPEAKER_01: That's right.
17:53
SPEAKER_01: But I know my mom is an incredible gardener.
17:57
SPEAKER_01: She has a huge garden and just keeps it so beautiful.
18:01
SPEAKER_01: Her horticulture degree has served her well.
18:05
SPEAKER_01: And I,
18:05
SPEAKER_01: for a long time,
18:06
SPEAKER_01: thought that the green thumb skipped a generation and I have no children.
18:10
SPEAKER_01: So I don't know where it's going to go from here.
18:14
SPEAKER_01: Seems like that's the natural trajectory here.
18:18
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I'm going to pass it down to Zula, my dog.
18:23
SPEAKER_01: But, yeah, I don't know.
18:26
SPEAKER_01: I wonder what other people are like,
18:28
what hacks are you doing to exist in more joy in this time when
18:35
we need to find
18:36
SPEAKER_01: things that make us happy and feel good?
18:39
SPEAKER_01: Annette said YouTube karaoke.
18:43
SPEAKER_01: Oh, yeah.
18:44
SPEAKER_03: I didn't...
18:45
SPEAKER_03: You know,
18:45
SPEAKER_03: YouTube is,
18:46
SPEAKER_03: like...
18:47
SPEAKER_03: It's changing my...
18:48
SPEAKER_03: It's,
18:49
SPEAKER_03: like...
18:50
SPEAKER_03: It's obviously been around for so long,
18:52
SPEAKER_03: but I'm just,
18:53
SPEAKER_03: like,
18:54
SPEAKER_03: really tapping into its resources lately.
18:56
SPEAKER_03: I didn't know that...
18:59
they had karaoke but i've been putting on every morning when i
19:02
wake up i have like
19:03
a whole routine speaking of like bringing joy and you know this
19:07
but i guess for the
19:08
listeners i like highly romanticize my life with like very
19:12
specific things and one
19:14
of them is now like youtube goes on the tv every morning and
19:18
during like christmas
19:19
or like you know that season it was a like a fireplace
19:23
background i've been very
19:25
SPEAKER_03: into um
19:27
SPEAKER_03: the Lord of the Rings Shire like YouTube thing,
19:31
which is just like the background is like a little Hobbit house
19:35
and there's like a
19:35
sunbeam coming in and there's just like beautiful little like
19:39
flute music playing.
19:40
SPEAKER_03: And then the other day though,
19:43
SPEAKER_03: And these things are, like, you know, six to eight to ten hours long.
19:47
SPEAKER_03: Like, you put it on and you just, like, set it, forget it.
19:49
SPEAKER_03: And then it just, like, plays in the background.
19:51
SPEAKER_03: And I like it because instead of having just,
19:53
SPEAKER_03: like,
19:53
SPEAKER_03: a big black TV in the middle of the cabin,
19:55
SPEAKER_03: it's a pretty background.
19:57
SPEAKER_03: And Lugnut, I'm a Fiji student.
20:00
SPEAKER_03: We got some comments from Peanut Gallery.
20:04
SPEAKER_03: But the other thing I had it on, and I hadn't listened to this one yet.
20:07
SPEAKER_03: And so there's, like, flute music's going.
20:10
SPEAKER_03: It's, like, so relaxing and just kind of adorable.
20:14
SPEAKER_03: And I go upstairs and I hear a man talking.
20:16
SPEAKER_03: And I was like, is Oliver home early?
20:18
SPEAKER_03: Like, what is that?
20:19
SPEAKER_03: The dogs aren't freaking out.
20:20
And it's just like,
20:22
like,
20:24
I don't know,
20:24
a character like is on the screen.
20:26
SPEAKER_03: He's like in a little garden.
20:27
SPEAKER_03: He's just like, it's like this like old man talking.
20:32
SPEAKER_03: And I was like, who's in the house?
20:34
So be careful if you do turn on,
20:36
you know,
20:37
know that sometimes it's not just music.
20:39
SPEAKER_03: And yeah.
20:41
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I could.
20:43
and you could think that somebody's in your house oh it's yeah
20:46
and like the channel
20:47
changes or something at some point like your your music runs
20:50
out super loud yes
20:55
exactly yeah um i don't know i'm i haven't been like sometimes
21:03
i'll put on
21:04
SPEAKER_01: a YouTube channel like for Zula, like music for Zula or something.
21:07
I don't do it very often,
21:09
but there'll be like jazz for dogs or something.
21:11
SPEAKER_01: And I just imagine her,
21:13
SPEAKER_01: I'm coming home and she's like playing Curtis's little piano,
21:17
SPEAKER_01: like the 67 key piano or something.
21:20
SPEAKER_01: What'd you say?
21:21
SPEAKER_03: Got inspired by the dog jazz.
21:24
SPEAKER_01: Yes.
21:25
SPEAKER_01: Oh my God.
21:26
SPEAKER_01: I so badly.
21:26
SPEAKER_01: Have you seen those videos?
21:28
SPEAKER_01: Like,
21:28
SPEAKER_01: I think my mom sent me one the other day,
21:30
SPEAKER_01: but there was like a dog playing piano and I would like play a bunch.
21:34
SPEAKER_01: It sounds terrible.
21:35
SPEAKER_01: It's just like a bunch of keys.
21:36
SPEAKER_01: And then it goes,
21:37
SPEAKER_01: like it starts howling,
21:38
SPEAKER_01: like in between,
21:39
SPEAKER_01: like feeling the soul and his,
21:43
SPEAKER_01: and his heart.
21:46
SPEAKER_03: That's what that dog is doing to bring itself joy.
21:48
SPEAKER_03: Yeah.
21:49
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, exactly.
21:50
SPEAKER_01: I mean, what are some other things?
21:55
Like,
21:55
I'll go and do a good workout or something,
21:58
and that changes my whole day.
21:59
I don't feel that much joy in the midst of doing the workout a
22:03
lot of times,
22:03
SPEAKER_01: but it's the feeling afterwards.
22:06
SPEAKER_03: I mean,
22:07
SPEAKER_03: there's,
22:07
SPEAKER_03: I think there's a lot of like standard things that people do like that,
22:10
SPEAKER_03: like working out.
22:11
SPEAKER_03: So obviously,
22:11
SPEAKER_03: like,
22:12
SPEAKER_03: I feel like if you looked up,
22:13
SPEAKER_03: like,
22:13
SPEAKER_03: you know,
22:14
SPEAKER_03: how to whatever,
22:15
SPEAKER_03: lift your vibration,
22:16
SPEAKER_03: like getting exercise,
22:17
SPEAKER_03: releasing endorphins.
22:18
SPEAKER_03: So I would think that most people know about,
22:22
SPEAKER_03: you know,
22:22
SPEAKER_03: kind of the basic stuff,
22:24
SPEAKER_03: like little things I feel like that I do.
22:27
SPEAKER_03: I feel like I try to turn everything into like art.
22:31
SPEAKER_03: Mm hmm.
22:33
more as I've gotten older like I mean especially now like
22:35
baking and stuff because
22:36
I'm baking every day for the farm stand like making sure like
22:40
taking the time I
22:42
think that's kind of like circling it back to the farm stand
22:46
because that's just my
22:47
life now it's like that's something I didn't realize too that
22:51
even like people or
22:52
maybe more so people aren't like very artistic it like brings
22:55
them a lot of joy
22:56
like people appreciate when you do something like thoughtfully
22:59
and delicately and
23:00
SPEAKER_03: artfully and
23:02
been programmed to go through life so fast and like rapid and
23:07
and like just like
23:08
get it done and go and move forward or like or to you know
23:13
whatever like purchase
23:14
something instead of like making it or putting thought into it
23:17
and and it just is
23:20
like a lot it's like a lost art I guess to like I don't know
23:24
like I wish I had an
23:25
SPEAKER_03: example like within arm's reach but like I'm putting together um
23:31
stuff for Valentine's Day like trying to think ahead and like
23:34
prep things because
23:36
it takes a lot of time and I've been trying to be more
23:40
sustainable like it brings
23:41
me joy to feel more sustainable I guess and to know that I'm
23:45
doing like my tiny
23:46
little part and I found these like tags I was going to make
23:52
them but it ended up
23:53
being better to support this like small Etsy person but these
23:57
tags that are the
23:58
SPEAKER_03: plantable seed paper that
24:01
SPEAKER_03: like a gift tag.
24:02
SPEAKER_03: And then I found like non-toxic ink stamp, like to and from or whatever.
24:05
SPEAKER_03: And I just like, I did it cause it brought me joy.
24:07
SPEAKER_03: Like I was like,
24:08
SPEAKER_03: I feel better knowing that like,
24:09
this is a cute additional thing that is like a plantable and
24:13
somebody can like
24:13
SPEAKER_03: bring wildflowers.
24:15
And I posted,
24:15
um,
24:17
a like picture of it as like a teaser for what's coming up.
24:20
SPEAKER_03: And the amount of people who are like, what?
24:22
SPEAKER_03: Like, I can't like, this is exciting.
24:24
SPEAKER_03: Like, this is so cool.
24:25
SPEAKER_03: Like those little things, um,
24:28
SPEAKER_03: That maybe come so easily to us because we're a little more like,
24:31
SPEAKER_03: I don't know,
24:31
SPEAKER_03: maybe creative brained than some.
24:33
Like,
24:33
I think I sometimes take for granted how much joy it brings
24:39
other people.
24:40
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
24:41
SPEAKER_01: I'm getting a package right now, apparently.
24:43
SPEAKER_01: From FedEx.
24:45
SPEAKER_01: Maybe it's my free bird.
24:47
SPEAKER_01: Exciting.
24:48
SPEAKER_01: Why does this feel like Mr. Rogers or something?
24:51
SPEAKER_01: Or just clues.
24:53
SPEAKER_01: He just got a letter.
24:54
SPEAKER_01: I know.
24:55
SPEAKER_01: I just got a letter.
24:56
SPEAKER_01: Oh, yeah.
24:56
SPEAKER_01: Well, that was another thing.
24:58
it on camera what's that ever your audio is cutting out i
25:02
wonder if that's
25:03
happening for everyone else too or if it's just me what were
25:07
you saying what you
25:09
have to open on camera whatever i'll tell you i'll tell you
25:15
afterwards it could be
25:15
that other thing i ordered wink wink no i i love like you and i
25:22
talked about the
25:23
SPEAKER_01: idea of
25:25
doing some handwritten letters for people like kind of as a
25:30
marketing tactic for
25:31
getting more people interested like anyone who's already
25:33
listening to the podcast
25:35
but also trying to get more people's interest peaked because
25:41
right now it feels
25:42
like what's happening in society is as things are feeling more
25:48
uncertain around
25:49
what's real and what's not people are like I'm gonna gravitate
25:52
towards the thing
25:52
SPEAKER_01: that I know is real like
25:55
something tangible or a place that I can go to and talk to
25:58
people in person.
25:59
SPEAKER_01: And I heard this is a tangent,
26:01
SPEAKER_01: but I heard this thing on NPR when I was going to the gym the other day,
26:04
SPEAKER_01: where
26:07
SPEAKER_01: This guy,
26:08
SPEAKER_01: specifically one of the guys they were interviewing,
26:09
SPEAKER_01: this is about people having relationships with chatbots.
26:12
And this guy got divorced from his wife because she was talking
26:18
to spirits through her chatbot.
26:20
SPEAKER_01: What?
26:23
SPEAKER_01: And one of the people who was interviewed in this,
26:26
SPEAKER_01: I think he was a doctor or a therapist or something.
26:29
He's like,
26:29
the only remedy for this is human interaction,
26:33
human connection.
26:36
SPEAKER_01: So...
26:37
SPEAKER_03: It's gotten to where I'm a little triggered.
26:41
I feel like I need to be better about my reaction to it because
26:47
I understand
26:48
SPEAKER_03: there's so many benefits,
26:51
SPEAKER_03: obviously,
26:51
SPEAKER_03: on one hand,
26:52
SPEAKER_03: but...
26:56
creative person seeing people who have the ability to be
27:00
creative and create
27:00
something and decide not to and use it it's like it's so
27:04
obvious when you see
27:05
something like right now because I'm in farm stand world like
27:08
I'm in these groups
27:09
with these other bakers and seeing them all like make their
27:13
like photos and their
27:15
SPEAKER_03: menus using AI is just
27:18
SPEAKER_03: Like there's no, and you can't, it's so funny.
27:20
Cause like,
27:21
it is very realistic,
27:23
but the naked eye,
27:24
it's like,
27:24
it looks so fake.
27:26
SPEAKER_03: It's just like,
27:27
SPEAKER_03: is there something about,
27:28
about inauthenticity and like just fake shit that just really
27:34
grinds my gears.
27:35
SPEAKER_03: It's so funny.
27:37
I'm like,
27:38
it's like their decision,
27:40
but I see it and I'm just like,
27:41
use your noggin.
27:44
SPEAKER_03: Like, yeah, I know.
27:46
SPEAKER_01: I feel very,
27:49
I'm I'm mostly against it because I know all of the well I
27:54
don't know all of the
27:55
implications environmentally speaking but I know that it's
28:00
really bad as far as
28:02
water usage is concerned but there's also the other side of it
28:07
where if people are
28:08
SPEAKER_01: outsourcing all of their thoughts
28:10
SPEAKER_01: to it, there's their thoughts and their creativity and everything.
28:14
SPEAKER_01: There is the potential for it to become a major crutch.
28:19
SPEAKER_01: But I think like a doctor is using it for research or something.
28:24
Like if it's a supplement to something that you already are
28:27
good at or you already
28:28
SPEAKER_01: know or you're like doing mixed media or something,
28:32
SPEAKER_01: mixed media art,
28:34
SPEAKER_01: that's a different.
28:35
SPEAKER_01: That's where I'm like, okay, I can get it.
28:38
SPEAKER_01: I can understand.
28:40
SPEAKER_01: But I, and this will probably be not surprising, but also like gasp.
28:46
I've never used chat GPT or any of these things other than to
28:52
make a couple of
28:53
SPEAKER_01: photos of German shepherds one time.
28:55
SPEAKER_03: I feel like something else that you made though too,
29:02
SPEAKER_03: like we're experimenting with like,
29:06
SPEAKER_03: like you're so,
29:06
SPEAKER_03: you're great in the way that like when you don't,
29:09
not necessarily agree with something but if you don't like
29:11
understand something
29:12
like you okay get down you dive into it and try so that you can
29:18
see it from both
29:19
sides and I feel like from a photographer's perspective like
29:23
when AI photos and
29:24
things started coming out like you were like I'm gonna dive
29:26
into this because I
29:27
need to understand what we're up against eventually and I feel
29:31
like that you did
29:32
SPEAKER_03: you made some like funny
29:34
SPEAKER_03: Yes.
29:35
SPEAKER_03: Like 70s women or I can't remember what it was,
29:38
SPEAKER_03: but it was like so funny because they had like like seven fingers on one,
29:41
SPEAKER_03: like trying to give a peace sign.
29:42
SPEAKER_01: But it was like, yes, that was in mid journey.
29:46
I was like experimenting and I made like a Polaroid photo at
29:49
Woodstock or something.
29:52
it could not get a peace sign right it was doing like the one
29:56
and then eventually
29:56
it got the peace sign um but it was it was so laughable and
30:02
then at one point it
30:03
SPEAKER_01: made the woman topless but like nothing looked right like it just I don't
30:12
SPEAKER_02: understand no
30:15
SPEAKER_01: It's like, I don't understand.
30:16
It also,
30:16
it also was a little bit of a prude in some ways when I was
30:20
doing it.
30:21
SPEAKER_01: Like it took like multiple rounds for it.
30:23
Then it to eventually be like,
30:24
oh yeah,
30:24
I'll show you my boobs or something,
30:26
you know?
30:26
SPEAKER_02: Things.
30:29
SPEAKER_01: You what?
30:30
SPEAKER_01: It wanted to censor you.
30:33
SPEAKER_01: It did.
30:33
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
30:34
SPEAKER_01: And I don't even know if I had explicitly said like topless or something,
30:37
SPEAKER_01: but I think it like it just like went in that direction.
30:40
SPEAKER_01: And it was the whole thing was so strange.
30:43
I canceled that membership to mid journey because I was like,
30:47
I don't need to be doing this.
30:49
SPEAKER_01: I don't like this.
30:50
SPEAKER_01: This is not the route I'm going.
30:51
SPEAKER_01: I'm going to go and have like real conversations with people.
30:54
Like create this podcast idea with my friend and do things that
31:00
promote connection.
31:02
SPEAKER_02: I like it.
31:03
Have you done today to shift your day into a more joyous or
31:12
like positive path?
31:14
SPEAKER_03: Because I know you said like a lot of times you'll wake up and it's like,
31:18
SPEAKER_03: you know, people have it opposite ways.
31:20
Sometimes they'll wake up and they'll be like in a good mood
31:22
and then it kind of
31:23
SPEAKER_03: like fades throughout the day.
31:24
SPEAKER_03: But like sometimes you wake up and you have that like,
31:27
SPEAKER_03: uh,
31:27
SPEAKER_03: like,
31:27
SPEAKER_03: you know,
31:28
SPEAKER_03: you have to kind of pep yourself up.
31:30
And I wonder if there's anything you did today to like get in
31:33
that headspace.
31:34
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
31:35
SPEAKER_01: Um,
31:36
So one thing that I got out of the habit of doing with changing
31:40
my environment
31:41
coming to Virginia was that I started looking at my phone
31:45
before I went to,
31:47
SPEAKER_01: before I go to bed and doing for like an entire year.
31:51
SPEAKER_01: And I could, I would read analog books before bed, not look at screens.
31:55
SPEAKER_01: And I could tell a huge difference in the level of anxiousness and like,
32:02
my regulation of my nervous system before i was going to sleep
32:06
like it was
32:06
noticeable within a few days but i'm still in that habit
32:10
because i started playing
32:11
those new york times games and i'm like this is so fun before i
32:15
get like i look
32:15
forward to it and i'm like i do it's funny we used to do it in
32:19
the morning ounce
32:20
SPEAKER_03: before bed just like
32:22
Yeah,
32:23
it's it's not that's not a very like high octane,
32:26
like stressful thing.
32:28
SPEAKER_01: It's kind of nice to just play word games and stuff.
32:30
But I think just the looking at the screen component is the
32:34
really not good part.
32:36
SPEAKER_01: It messes with your circadian rhythm.
32:39
SPEAKER_01: And so what I did this morning was.
32:44
SPEAKER_01: Like, I've been I've been.
32:46
trying to practice mindfulness when I get up in the morning and
32:49
instead of grabbing
32:50
SPEAKER_01: my phone,
32:50
SPEAKER_01: which now is next to me,
32:53
SPEAKER_01: I get up.
32:54
SPEAKER_01: I'm like, no, you're not going to look at your phone first.
32:56
SPEAKER_01: You're going to get up.
32:57
SPEAKER_01: You're going to go stretch.
32:58
SPEAKER_01: You're going to go like greet the day a little bit more.
33:02
SPEAKER_01: You're going to take some deep breaths,
33:03
like get myself into a more grounded headspace before I pick up
33:08
any device.
33:09
SPEAKER_01: So I'm not always on it with that.
33:13
SPEAKER_03: But I've been trying to do the same thing and I
33:17
SPEAKER_03: I probably have a 50-50 success rate as far as like some days,
33:21
SPEAKER_03: you know,
33:22
SPEAKER_03: I'll be like,
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SPEAKER_03: no,
33:22
SPEAKER_03: no,
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SPEAKER_03: no.
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SPEAKER_03: But it is hard too because I think you and I both have that,
33:27
SPEAKER_03: you know,
33:27
SPEAKER_03: if I am going on my phone,
33:30
SPEAKER_03: the good thing,
33:31
SPEAKER_03: I guess,
33:31
SPEAKER_03: but also maybe it's not even good.
33:33
SPEAKER_03: It's never to just like doom scroll.
33:35
SPEAKER_03: It's always because I want to get ahead of something.
33:38
SPEAKER_03: Like I want to like look at my email or check my,
33:41
SPEAKER_03: you know,
33:42
SPEAKER_03: whatever,
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like anything that I feel like I'm going to have to do at some
33:45
point during my
33:46
SPEAKER_03: morning.
33:48
SPEAKER_03: sometimes I will lay in bed and I'll just like go ahead and do like,
33:51
let me go ahead and look at my emails and see if there's
33:52
anything to like get back
33:54
SPEAKER_03: to,
33:54
SPEAKER_03: or I'll,
33:55
SPEAKER_03: you know,
33:55
SPEAKER_03: I put my phone on,
33:56
SPEAKER_03: um,
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SPEAKER_03: like sleep or do not disturb at night.
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So I'll like turn that back on and see if there's anything I
34:01
need to respond to.
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SPEAKER_03: So I guess at least it's not that I'm just going on to be like,
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SPEAKER_03: what's going on in Instagram world today.
34:08
Like I definitely have drawn the line with that,
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but starting,
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I guess at 3.34 PM today.
34:19
that's okay maybe maybe what we do is just like talk about one
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thing that we're
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both looking forward to like something that we have coming up
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that we're like like
34:30
you have an arctic circle coming to you like inches of snow
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it's 24 to 29 inches
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every time i look it's like another two inches i'm like okay
34:43
that's what she's
34:45
SPEAKER_02: what'd you say that's what she said
34:49
nice uh what's one thing that you're they're like i don't know
34:55
a sentiment or like
34:57
just anything that you have coming up that you're excited about
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honestly i'm
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excited about the snow like i feel like everyone's in panic
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mode but it makes me
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SPEAKER_03: think of um you know the fact that like
35:09
SPEAKER_03: there may be a lot in life that I don't know.
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And like a lot of education that I may not have received that
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other people have,
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SPEAKER_03: but I am definitely somebody who has like honed my preparedness skills.
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So when weather events and stuff like this happen,
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I,
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I get into like helper mode.
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SPEAKER_03: So I feel like I'm like, all right, we've got our oxygen mask on.
35:30
SPEAKER_03: Like I have, we have everything we need.
35:31
SPEAKER_03: We have a generator, we have camping stuff.
35:34
SPEAKER_03: I mean, we have, you know, whatever, like if the power goes out,
35:37
SPEAKER_03: it won't be,
35:38
SPEAKER_03: you know,
35:38
it turns what could be like a very like sweet winter experience
35:42
into something
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SPEAKER_03: that's a little more like,
35:43
SPEAKER_03: all right,
35:44
SPEAKER_03: we need to survive because it's going to be like five degrees apparently,
35:48
SPEAKER_03: but I'm not in panic mode.
35:50
SPEAKER_03: And I think a lot of people, um,
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that happens to or i'm like we're you know like i don't know i
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just feel like i'm
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looking forward to like the weather event coming coming and
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going because there's
36:03
just like this like panic in the air right now of everybody
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being like oh my god
36:07
this giant storm's coming and it's like it's not like it is not
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great like if
36:13
you're not prepared but if you're just like it's weather you
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know and so be it
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_01: My mom says snow slows us down and it's delightfully quiet.
36:24
SPEAKER_01: That's true.
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SPEAKER_03: Like it just like muffles and it's beautiful.
36:31
SPEAKER_03: And,
36:31
SPEAKER_03: you know,
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SPEAKER_03: I like that it slows people down because,
36:36
SPEAKER_03: you know,
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SPEAKER_03: there's not a lot that can do that as far as like.
36:41
SPEAKER_03: Shutting down the roads,
36:42
SPEAKER_03: like businesses closed down,
36:43
SPEAKER_03: whatever forces people to kind of like get back and then like,
36:46
SPEAKER_03: yeah,
36:46
SPEAKER_03: the power going out.
36:47
SPEAKER_03: It's like I kind of love that.
36:49
SPEAKER_03: Not for more than a couple of days.
36:51
Like I'll say that because we experienced that in California
36:54
when the fires happened.
36:54
SPEAKER_03: I was like two weeks without power.
36:56
SPEAKER_03: But I do love a couple of days where you're just like,
36:59
SPEAKER_03: oh,
36:59
SPEAKER_03: no,
37:00
SPEAKER_03: OK,
37:00
SPEAKER_03: we can't like you notice so much about yourself,
37:03
SPEAKER_03: about being like,
37:04
SPEAKER_03: oh,
37:04
I reach for this electronic or or it's like kind of puts us
37:08
back into I feel like
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SPEAKER_03: it's a good check that any time it happens where.
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Well,
37:13
one,
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you realize,
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okay,
37:14
what do I need to have to be more prepared next time?
37:18
SPEAKER_03: And then you realize what habits you've gotten into.
37:23
Last time the power went out,
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I fall asleep with a heating pad in the bed.
37:28
SPEAKER_03: I'm such an old lady.
37:29
SPEAKER_03: I put a heating pad in the bed.
37:30
SPEAKER_03: I make the bed with a heating pad in it.
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SPEAKER_03: And then before I go to sleep,
37:36
SPEAKER_03: I,
37:36
SPEAKER_03: or Oliver most of the time,
37:37
SPEAKER_03: because he's a sweet,
37:38
SPEAKER_03: sweet man,
37:39
SPEAKER_03: will turn it on so that it heats up the sheets for me.
37:43
SPEAKER_03: I'll go and get in bed and we'll do our wordle and I'll have,
37:46
SPEAKER_03: like,
37:46
SPEAKER_03: the heating pad on my back or,
37:47
SPEAKER_03: like,
37:47
SPEAKER_03: you know,
37:48
SPEAKER_03: my shoulders,
37:48
SPEAKER_03: wherever I'm feeling.
37:49
SPEAKER_03: Like, I need, like, to be cozy.
37:51
And last time the power went out,
37:54
that was,
37:54
like,
37:54
something where I was,
37:55
like,
37:55
oh,
37:55
shit.
37:56
SPEAKER_03: I, like, really, really, like, have gotten in the habit of doing that.
37:59
SPEAKER_03: Or, like, a hot bath.
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SPEAKER_03: Like, I usually take a hot bath, like, almost every night.
38:03
SPEAKER_03: And... Wait, is that the one?
38:10
SPEAKER_03: I feel like I sent you...
38:13
SPEAKER_03: A link to that one because I'm like, it's weighted.
38:15
SPEAKER_03: Is that the weighted one?
38:17
SPEAKER_01: It's not weighted, but it looks so big right now.
38:21
No,
38:22
but I put it,
38:22
I always turn it on at night sitting here in the corner of the
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sofa.
38:27
SPEAKER_01: And I sometimes eat a gummy and then I'll put the,
38:31
and I'm like living my best life over here in the corner of my
38:33
orange sofa.
38:34
SPEAKER_01: It makes me so happy.
38:36
Perfect.
38:37
SPEAKER_01: You said that you forgot to turn.
38:39
SPEAKER_01: I remember it was a Christmas Eve or something.
38:41
SPEAKER_01: You said you forgot to turn your heat.
38:50
SPEAKER_03: Like sponsor lane.
38:51
SPEAKER_03: We need to go down like heating.
38:54
Like I'll talk all day about the benefits and the joy of having
38:57
a hot,
38:58
you know what?
38:59
SPEAKER_03: Oliver got me.
38:59
We went on the camping trip where we were gone for like a month
39:04
and we're camping the van and
39:06
SPEAKER_03: I have it.
39:07
SPEAKER_03: I need to charge it up before the big storm.
39:09
It's like one of those big like hoodie poncho things,
39:13
but it has a battery pack.
39:15
SPEAKER_03: It's a giant heating pack there and it has a hood.
39:18
SPEAKER_03: And it's just like, I will take all the gas.
39:25
SPEAKER_03: I have no shame.
39:25
SPEAKER_03: I had a friend who, I think I told you, Kelly, but
39:30
who like loves her heating pad but when she was she's now
39:34
married so it's fine but
39:35
and I'm sure she's like opened up more but she's like oh my god
39:38
I would never use
39:39
my heating pad in front of my partner like I always like only
39:42
if he's not home or
39:43
something and I'm like you don't want that heating pad what
39:48
what do you do with
39:48
that
39:50
SPEAKER_03: She was like, no, she thought it was embarrassing.
39:52
SPEAKER_03: She's like, no.
39:53
And I'm like,
39:54
I think that probably day one,
39:56
Oliver came over to my house.
39:58
SPEAKER_03: It is there, plugged in.
40:01
SPEAKER_03: I'm like, this is part of my life.
40:04
SPEAKER_03: Does she associate it with being geriatric or something?
40:07
She felt like it was going to make her,
40:10
it's like the equivalent of orthopedic shoes to her.
40:13
SPEAKER_03: She's like, I just can't.
40:14
SPEAKER_03: I can't let him see me in this state yet.
40:18
SPEAKER_01: I do not care.
40:19
SPEAKER_01: If Curtis didn't like it, maybe it would be him versus the heating pad.
40:23
SPEAKER_01: I don't know.
40:27
SPEAKER_03: I'm just joking.
40:28
SPEAKER_03: To cap your point,
40:31
I'm looking forward to it because it brings things to light
40:35
that I'm like,
40:35
SPEAKER_03: okay,
40:36
SPEAKER_03: maybe I'm a little too reliant on that.
40:37
SPEAKER_03: I love to be...
40:39
I feel like I shouldn't say that too loud to the universe
40:41
please don't give me any
40:42
more struggles right now but I love to be put like to be put in
40:46
my place a little
40:47
bit with like my reliance on technology and things and to like
40:53
be kind of like
40:54
brought back down to earth and be like you can survive off this
40:57
this and this or
40:58
like you know yeah you can't go buy that but you can make it
41:01
you have these things
41:02
SPEAKER_03: here like and it just makes
41:04
more um like secure in who i am and more like i don't know
41:08
strong as a woman to be
41:09
like i don't need that thing like if amazon stops running and
41:14
the store closes or
41:15
whatever like i know how to make that thing like that thing it
41:18
exists i just have
41:19
to use my skills and bring it to life so i feel like weather
41:23
events and stuff like
41:24
SPEAKER_03: that is always a good time to check back in with that so
41:28
I'll update you in a few days when I'm maybe buried in 30 to 60
41:32
inches of snow or whatever.
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SPEAKER_03: I'm like, I don't want it.
41:35
SPEAKER_03: I want my heating pad back.
41:37
SPEAKER_01: It just creeped up to five feet.
41:39
SPEAKER_01: That's amazing.
41:40
SPEAKER_03: That heating pad on the generator.
41:43
SPEAKER_03: Yes.
41:43
SPEAKER_01: The heating pad is a necessity.
41:46
SPEAKER_01: We must have it.
41:47
SPEAKER_01: I was going to say...
41:50
SPEAKER_01: Yeah,
41:51
I do feel like you have been paying your dues plenty and you
41:55
deserve to have the
41:56
SPEAKER_01: path cleared for you.
41:57
SPEAKER_01: So somebody should come over and shovel your driveway for you.
42:00
SPEAKER_01: Literally.
42:00
SPEAKER_01: Speaking of how prepared we are.
42:02
SPEAKER_01: So I have to go get one of those today.
42:04
SPEAKER_01: It's on my list.
42:05
SPEAKER_01: Well, yeah, but, you know, just in general, like.
42:09
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_01: I do.
42:11
SPEAKER_01: I do.
42:11
SPEAKER_01: I wanted to comment on that part.
42:13
I'm like,
42:14
you do deserve to have some things just like go very easily for
42:17
you.
42:19
SPEAKER_01: I'm going to go and plant a few more things in my garden bed.
42:22
SPEAKER_01: I have them sitting outside now.
42:23
SPEAKER_01: I've got some bib lettuce and it's beautiful.
42:27
Some starters,
42:29
a couple of spinach plants,
42:31
and we got some yellow onions yesterday.
42:34
SPEAKER_01: I'm very excited.
42:35
SPEAKER_03: Oh, you were like, we have used so many onions in this household.
42:39
SPEAKER_03: It's like seriously.
42:40
SPEAKER_02: I mean, here, cause I feel like we eat a lot of sweet potatoes.
42:46
SPEAKER_01: That's a good, that's a good one.
42:47
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
42:48
SPEAKER_01: I want to plant some of those too.
42:49
SPEAKER_01: Cause we eat a lot of them also, but, um, well, I love you so very much.
42:56
SPEAKER_02: This was nice.
42:57
SPEAKER_02: This was really cool.
42:59
SPEAKER_02: Your free time.
42:59
SPEAKER_02: You're going to go plant things.
43:01
SPEAKER_01: I'm going to go plant some things.
43:03
SPEAKER_01: And I freaking love, I'm going to feed this guy.
43:06
SPEAKER_01: Cause if not,
43:09
SPEAKER_03: He looks so displeased.
43:10
SPEAKER_03: He's so dejected.
43:15
I'm thankful that Annette commented that her heating pad is
43:19
within arm's reach,
43:20
too.
43:20
SPEAKER_01: That made me really happy to see that.
43:22
SPEAKER_01: So we're all in this together.
43:24
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
43:25
SPEAKER_01: Heating pad hose.
43:29
SPEAKER_01: All right.
43:30
SPEAKER_01: Hope you have a good rest of your day.
43:32
Godspeed to all of you on the East Coast right now with your
43:34
weather coming.
43:36
SPEAKER_01: We'll we'll think of you and our 60 degrees over here in Los Angeles.
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SPEAKER_02: Love you.
43:44
SPEAKER_02: Bye.
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SPEAKER_02: Bye.