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Divorce Expectations vs Reality · I Do, Part 2

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  Speaker 1: Wow, we are back, Thelma and Louise still slaying in
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  Speaker 1: the dating world. Not I'm still single? Are you still
• 0:22
  Speaker 1: had a bunch of shitty dates? Did you? But super
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  Speaker 1: flattered that the audience spoke and responded and had more
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  Speaker 1: questions for us, and makes me feel good that what
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  Speaker 1: we're saying makes sense and it struck a chord and
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  Speaker 1: it's relevant and I guess we're approachable and easy to
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  Speaker 1: talk to, so maybe that will bode well for future
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  Speaker 1: dates for us. What do you think, Thelma, bring it on? Great, Well,
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  Speaker 1: let's go, let's let's do let's do some more questions.
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  Speaker 1: I love this stuff. I mean I love to not
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  Speaker 1: be in the position of always asking the questions because,
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  Speaker 1: as you know, I sit on dates now on my
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  Speaker 1: hands country myself. Stop with the questions because it feels
• 1:02
  Speaker 1: like an interrogation. One of my dates called the rapid Fire.
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  Speaker 1: That was not a compliment.
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  Speaker 2: I know it's the truth, though I don't even know did.
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  Speaker 1: He call me the next day? Maybe he didn't.
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  Speaker 2: I can't remember on that one.
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  Speaker 1: Anyways, I think Easton here has questions for us. And
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  Speaker 1: by the way, his name alone is so hot. So Easton,
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  Speaker 1: are you single? Are we too old for you.
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  Speaker 3: I am a married man.
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  Speaker 2: We don't do married.
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  Speaker 1: That's a red flag. When you go on a date
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  Speaker 1: with somebody and you go, why did your marriage break up?
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  Speaker 1: And they say they cheat? It it's like once a cheat,
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  Speaker 1: are always a cheater. Like I literally Elvis has left the
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  Speaker 1: building for me on that one.
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  Speaker 2: Or I don't mean to interrupt again, but I also
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  Speaker 2: think one a red flag for me is when somebody
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  Speaker 2: when I'm on a date and someone speaks very disparagingly.
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  Speaker 1: Well, look at Dingong who I dated, and then look
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  Speaker 1: what he did to me when we broke up. When
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  Speaker 1: people show you who they are, believe them.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. I think we have really good relationships with our
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  Speaker 2: exes and take great pride in that. And I don't
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  Speaker 2: think that that's everyone's case, and I don't think it
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  Speaker 2: needs to be, but I still think it says a
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  Speaker 2: lot about a person, especially when they do that right
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  Speaker 2: off the bat and they don't even know me. I
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  Speaker 2: just it just rubs me the wrong way.
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  Speaker 1: I think they are the mother of their children, and
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  Speaker 1: I think it's disgusting when they do that. And you're right,
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  Speaker 1: you and I are deeply proud of our relationships with
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  Speaker 1: our excess so much so that he and I had
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  Speaker 1: dinner last week. The kids are in college, he's engaged.
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  Speaker 1: I love his fiance, and I said to him, you know,
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  Speaker 1: if this is who you were when we were married,
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  Speaker 1: we'd still be married. And he goes, we would never
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  Speaker 1: still be married.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, oh, in the nursing home together. I
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  Speaker 2: still think you might be in the nursing home together. Yes.
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  Speaker 1: Anyways, Okay, what do you got for us? What do
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  Speaker 1: these people want to what do these people want to learn?
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  Speaker 3: You know, this is a question that just popped into
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  Speaker 3: my head as you guys were talking about that. At
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  Speaker 3: what point? I know it's like a case by case
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  Speaker 3: basis thing, but like when you're on a date and
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  Speaker 3: the other person was married before, how soon do you
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  Speaker 3: get into that conversation of why did your marriage break up?
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  Speaker 3: That seems like an it's a hard thing to do
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  Speaker 3: early on. But you also got to know that.
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  Speaker 1: Definitely not the first date in a real kind of
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  Speaker 1: pointed way if it organically comes up. But I've always
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  Speaker 1: found like being too heavy on a first date is
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  Speaker 1: not It should be a little more light and fun, right,
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  Speaker 1: It could be more in my opinion for me, you know,
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  Speaker 1: second or third date. Now, if it's a setup, then
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  Speaker 1: you kind of know a little bit about why relationship ended,
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  Speaker 1: so then you can kind of navigate around it.
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  Speaker 4: I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: In my experience, it does come up a lot on
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  Speaker 2: a first date. I feel like it just naturally comes
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  Speaker 2: up because hey, you both ended up at this date,
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  Speaker 2: so you know your history brought you here, so I do.
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  Speaker 2: I don't choose to delve too deep into it, but
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  Speaker 2: I think there always happens to be a few questions
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  Speaker 2: around it, and then I just try to like know
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  Speaker 2: when to move on.
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  Speaker 1: But I also think the way we answer those questions
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  Speaker 1: on a first date it's going to be very different
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  Speaker 1: than how we answer it, like when you're more involved
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  Speaker 1: with something, right, Like I kind of a cat answer
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  Speaker 1: as to why my marriage went south, which is, you know,
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  Speaker 1: not inflammatory, it's you know, I'm never you know, negative
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  Speaker 1: about my ex husband or anything. So I just give enough,
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  Speaker 1: but not like enough of the depth that maybe I
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  Speaker 1: would share later on if I was really involved with
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  Speaker 1: somebody and I, you know, trusted them, agree.
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  Speaker 3: And now we're gonna we're gonna take things to the map.
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  Speaker 3: Here is the dating seemed really bad in Los Angeles.
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  Speaker 3: You always hear about that, but is it actually that bad.
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  Speaker 1: I think it's it's hard. I mean, look, I grew
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  Speaker 1: up in Los Angeles, so this is a lot of
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  Speaker 1: the reason why, you know, dating apps have made me
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  Speaker 1: uncomfortable is because the few times I've played around them,
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  Speaker 1: I've seen nine thousand people I know, so I feel
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  Speaker 1: super exposed. I prefer setups. Like if I was to
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  Speaker 1: go to northern California, where Belmow was from, I would
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  Speaker 1: be on every dating app because I don't know anybody.
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  Speaker 1: I think it's hard, like I think that there's well
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  Speaker 1: let's talk about this. I mean, we're in our f
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  Speaker 1: fifties and it's very rare that a fifty year old
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  Speaker 1: guy wants to date a fifty year old girl. In fact,
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  Speaker 1: my children came home last summer and they sat me
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  Speaker 1: down and they said, Mom, we're very concerned about what.
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  Speaker 1: They go, Well, we're concerned about your options. What do
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  Speaker 1: you mean. They go, well, it's the you know, eighty
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  Speaker 1: year old guy or the twenty five year old guy
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  Speaker 1: you need to support. And I was like, wow, that
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  Speaker 1: does sound dismal. Do you have a preference And they said, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: the eighty year old guy, and I was like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: but I think it's true, Like, I think there are
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  Speaker 1: way more. I mean, I would say, out of you know,
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  Speaker 1: my ten best friends, eight and a half of them
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  Speaker 1: are single, and I think they're all amazing, Right, there
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  Speaker 1: are fewer good men, and there are you know, fewer
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  Speaker 1: men out there that want a date age appropriate women.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I have a guy best friend who's you know,
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  Speaker 1: mid fifties, who's a fabulous guy. He's my guy best friend.
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  Speaker 1: His dating app age range is twenty five to thirty eight.
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  Speaker 1: He is fifty five with two kids, so he wouldn't
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  Speaker 1: even we wouldn't even come up on his swiping. And
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  Speaker 1: I think that's more normal. Oh, it's one eleven. Make
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  Speaker 1: a wish. It's my good luck number that my soulmate
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  Speaker 1: is coming. Okay, got it. I know I do this
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  Speaker 1: all the time. Anyways, I find LA dating hard.
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  Speaker 2: What do you think, Thelma, I don't know if it's
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  Speaker 2: La per se. I feel like my mindset is very different.
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  Speaker 2: When I am at home. I feel like I'm in
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  Speaker 2: kids mode or work mode, and I'm just going through
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  Speaker 2: the motions. I'm going to the same grocery store, I'm
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  Speaker 2: doing the same things I'm running around in my workout clothes,
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  Speaker 2: and I feel like part of it is just getting
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  Speaker 2: out of my comfort zone. And I am more apt
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  Speaker 2: to do that when I'm outside of my hometown. And
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  Speaker 2: I find that it's easier for me to date when
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  Speaker 2: I am traveling or going on vacation because I'm just giving.
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  Speaker 2: I'm on receive and I look like I'm open to
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  Speaker 2: meeting people more.
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  Speaker 1: Well, you still have a kid at home, I mean
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  Speaker 1: too in college and one at home, so your life
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  Speaker 1: is very different than mine, right, Like, I don't have
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  Speaker 1: children at home, so I could go on a date
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  Speaker 1: seven days a week. I could. I guess. I could relocate,
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  Speaker 1: I guess, But I don't know. I just think it's hard.
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  Speaker 1: I think it's hard in LA to meet people. And
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  Speaker 1: I think somebody who lives in Chicago or somebody who
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  Speaker 1: lives here wherever, you know, I think anyone's going to
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  Speaker 1: say that there's just a lack of options. And I
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  Speaker 1: think that there's so many amazing single women out here,
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  Speaker 1: and I think they're all beautiful, and I think they're
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  Speaker 1: all talented, and I think they're all really interesting. So
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  Speaker 1: I think that's also what the sweite mentality has done.
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  Speaker 1: Is it's kind of like thirty one flavors, right, I
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  Speaker 1: mean it's like, oh she was great, we had fun,
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  Speaker 1: but I could keep swiping. There could be somebody else
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  Speaker 1: better out there, and you never just kind of feel
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  Speaker 1: satisfied or content with what's in front of you. And
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  Speaker 1: I think that's I think that it's just too many
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  Speaker 1: options out there, good for men.
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  Speaker 3: On the last episode, you guys did uh Thelma, you
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  Speaker 3: said that sometimes a plane ride is easier than an
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  Speaker 3: hour hour and a half drive. And now I'm curious, like,
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  Speaker 3: if you were to meet someone that was long distance,
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  Speaker 3: how does that work? Like are you does there have
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  Speaker 3: to be an end point in site? Is there a distance?
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  Speaker 3: Like would you do across country thing? What do you
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  Speaker 3: think about dating long distance?
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  Speaker 2: Like I'm obsessed with it? Well, you did it, you
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  Speaker 2: did it four years years and I love it. I
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  Speaker 2: think I'm I like to compartmentalize my life apparently, but
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  Speaker 2: I think for me, what I love about it is
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  Speaker 2: unlike when I say a plane ride, I think it's
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  Speaker 2: nice because it's it's a total separation. Like when I
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  Speaker 2: get on that plane to go see my significant other,
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  Speaker 2: I feel like I'm all in, I'm present, I'm engaged.
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  Speaker 2: It's almost I mean not literally but engaged. I feel
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  Speaker 2: like it's almost like this honeymoon and I have great
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  Speaker 2: time and it's amazing, but then it's great because I
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  Speaker 2: get to leave or he leaves, and then I get
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  Speaker 2: to go back to my week and I have my
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  Speaker 2: friends and my family and work and everything. So I
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  Speaker 2: kind of get the best of both worlds. Now, it's
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  Speaker 2: not necessarily balanced in like the traditional sense, but it is.
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  Speaker 2: It's like I get to have my fun, I get
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  Speaker 2: to have that romantic hit, but I also get to
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  Speaker 2: kind of keep my life intact, which I think is
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  Speaker 2: you become older and are you know, fifty plus. I
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  Speaker 2: think we alluded to this our last episode, But it's
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  Speaker 2: a little harder to juggle. You have a lot going
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  Speaker 2: on and a lot of times, I feel like when
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  Speaker 2: you are all in on a relationship, sometimes men are
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  Speaker 2: needy and they kind of need a lot of your
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  Speaker 2: attention and time, and I feel like sometimes distance it's
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  Speaker 2: easier to manage it.
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  Speaker 1: Do you see yourself ever finding yourself in a situation
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  Speaker 1: where you are twenty four to seven, you know, remarried,
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  Speaker 1: seven nights a week, sharing a bed with somebody like
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  Speaker 1: living that life that we all did when we first
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  Speaker 1: got married. Or do you think when we fall in
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  Speaker 1: love and have relationships in our fifties that it's just
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  Speaker 1: part of our life, it's not all encompassing. Or do
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  Speaker 1: you think it's a function that you and I say
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  Speaker 1: that because we just haven't met the person that has
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  Speaker 1: swept us off our feet that would make us want
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  Speaker 1: to make some significant changes in our lives.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, how many times have we had this conversation.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, the thought of sharing a bed, a closet,
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  Speaker 2: a bathroom with somebody twenty four to seven sounds my
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  Speaker 2: living nightmare, like so, and the longer I stay single,
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  Speaker 2: I appreciate it so much. I mean I even go
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  Speaker 2: to dinner with my married friends and I think some
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  Speaker 2: of my girlfriends are like, oh my god, I'm so
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  Speaker 2: jealous of you. Well, the grass is not greener, right,
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  Speaker 2: And so I think that's one thing to always remember.
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  Speaker 2: But I think that for me, I'm not saying that
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  Speaker 2: I couldn't meet the right person. I think with my
• 11:01
  Speaker 2: first relationship, I was able to be twenty four to
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  Speaker 2: seven with somebody because they very much had their own life.
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  Speaker 2: So I know, for me, if I met somebody who
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  Speaker 2: had his own interests and own priorities in life, and
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  Speaker 2: we could come together but also have our independence. I
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  Speaker 2: will never say never that I couldn't be with somebody
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  Speaker 2: under the same roof. But I also feel like I
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  Speaker 2: wouldn't be surprised if my next chapter looks far less
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  Speaker 2: traditional than my first.
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  Speaker 1: Great answer, thank you, I try. You're a smart cookie, Thoma,
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  Speaker 1: glad you're guiding me.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, who needs a boyfriend when your friends compliment you?
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  Speaker 4: Right?
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  Speaker 1: I mean, by the way, you're a hard act to follow.
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  Speaker 2: Let me tell you, I don't put out, but I
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  Speaker 2: do a lot of other things for you.
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  Speaker 3: You guys are so fun. What's one thing that people
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  Speaker 3: don't talk about when dating posts divorce that you wish
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  Speaker 3: every divorced person knew when entering the dating world.
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  Speaker 1: I think that when you first get divorced, I mean
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  Speaker 1: I can speak from myself, like I think I thought
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  Speaker 1: like I would just find my next person really easily,
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  Speaker 1: and I would just slide right back into almost like
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  Speaker 1: a traditional relationship. I don't think I anticipated how hard
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  Speaker 1: it would be to find another really great situation. So
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  Speaker 1: I think that was the hardest thing for me, that
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  Speaker 1: it hasn't happened the way I thought it was going
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  Speaker 1: to happen. And you know, I'm comfortable being by myself.
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  Speaker 1: I've gotten really good at being by myself and I
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  Speaker 1: have a really full life. But I do want to
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  Speaker 1: find a partner. And I didn't think nine years later
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  Speaker 1: I would be looking in the rear view mirror at
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  Speaker 1: multiple great relationships but not one significant relationship.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I didn't anticipate that I would still be here nine
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  Speaker 1: years later, and it makes me scared. Sometimes Sometimes I
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  Speaker 1: call down Lap in the morning, Oh, I love to FaceTime.
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  Speaker 1: She hates hated in the morning, and I say to her,
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  Speaker 1: is this the best it's going to be?
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  Speaker 2: And I think for both of us, I don't want
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  Speaker 2: to speak for you, but I think right now I
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  Speaker 2: am totally happy. My life is full. I do sometimes
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  Speaker 2: get concerned that, like when my last child really really
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  Speaker 2: leaves and ten years from now, am I going to
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  Speaker 2: be rattling around in my house and sad?
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  Speaker 1: Well that I am.
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  Speaker 2: I'm not there yet, But I think for me, the
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  Speaker 2: back to your post divorce question, I think I didn't
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  Speaker 2: realize how many, how much more complicated it was, and
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  Speaker 2: how many more variables there were it's really not solely
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  Speaker 2: about me anymore. Right, it's I have children, they potentially
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  Speaker 2: have children. Are we in the same place socioeconomically, Like
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  Speaker 2: do we have different aspirations?
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  Speaker 1: Are they?
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  Speaker 2: Are they slowing down because they're ten years older, and
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  Speaker 2: you know, we just operate at different frequencies and levels.
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  Speaker 2: Like I don't know. The first time I fell in love,
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  Speaker 2: I was twenty two years old, I was married for
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  Speaker 2: seventeen years, and it just seemed really simple. We were
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  Speaker 2: in the same place, kind of growing up together. And
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  Speaker 2: I think now everybody has so much history that I mean,
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  Speaker 2: in many ways, it's really interesting because you get to
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  Speaker 2: meet very interesting people, but it's also, I don't know,
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  Speaker 2: it's a lot more fumple.
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  Speaker 1: I think we have to look at it like an opportunity, right,
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  Speaker 1: It's about flipping our lens. And I think what I
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  Speaker 1: started to do is wake up every day and say,
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  Speaker 1: I get to not I have to write. And I
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  Speaker 1: think it's awesome to meet a lot of people. And
• 14:41
  Speaker 1: you know, I think so much about getting excited, you know,
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  Speaker 1: about going on a date is less about being the
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  Speaker 1: right person, but the anticipation. I mean, you and I
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  Speaker 1: have so much fun, like we'll be at Plate's and
• 14:51
  Speaker 1: you know, and I know you're going to probably just
• 14:53
  Speaker 1: have a little salad for the day so your stomach
• 14:55
  Speaker 1: is flattered. And then we talk about the outfit, and
• 14:56
  Speaker 1: then we FaceTime the outfit and it's like it's like
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  Speaker 1: a whole thing, and the data is actually less important.
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  Speaker 1: It's the prep that's fun. One thing I wanted to
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  Speaker 1: just bring up because somebody said this to me the
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  Speaker 1: other day, to your point when you talk about like
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  Speaker 1: how am I going to feel in ten years when
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  Speaker 1: I'm an empty nester, And I was telling somebody I'm
• 15:12
  Speaker 1: the empty nester, it's interesting, and she because, don't call
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  Speaker 1: yourself an empty nester. Look at it like it's an
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  Speaker 1: open door, right, like you are walking into a sliding door.
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  Speaker 1: I love that Gwyneth Paltrow movie. Right, this is an
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  Speaker 1: open door where every day I wake up something new
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  Speaker 1: and exciting can happen, Like what surprise is in store
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  Speaker 1: for me today? So every day I'm looking for the
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  Speaker 1: magic in whether it's a date or if it's a
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  Speaker 1: swiping thing, or it's you and I, you know, laughing
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  Speaker 1: about something, or getting our weighted vest. Because we now
• 15:41
  Speaker 1: have osteoporosis like I every day am looking for the
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  Speaker 1: magic in my day where it's not focused on just
• 15:48
  Speaker 1: finding a partner, And there are so many amazing things
• 15:51
  Speaker 1: that we all have going on. And I think at
• 15:54
  Speaker 1: the end of the day, friendships obviously, our relationships are
• 15:57
  Speaker 1: family in our case, like friendships are the glue, Like
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  Speaker 1: you are on my gratitude list every day. So I
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  Speaker 1: don't know, like we have open doors.
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  Speaker 2: And we can't control what is isn't going to happen
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  Speaker 2: in terms of a relationship, but we can really control
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  Speaker 2: our mindset and our outlook.
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  Speaker 1: And I know our attitude.
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  Speaker 2: We're just cheesy, but it's so true.
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  Speaker 1: I'm a little woo woo. You know, me and my crystals.
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  Speaker 2: Who doesn't love a crystal in la?
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  Speaker 3: Do you do you charge them up in the moonlight?
• 16:26
  Speaker 2: Is that I do it during the day? Actually really yeah?
• 16:30
  Speaker 2: Is it supposed to be at night? Because maybe that's
• 16:32
  Speaker 2: my problem.
• 16:33
  Speaker 1: I think you have to do it for what works
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: for you. What I've learned is I used to try
• 16:36
  Speaker 1: to follow the rules on it. I thought, you know,
• 16:38
  Speaker 1: I'm just gonna I'm going to operate spiritually in a
• 16:41
  Speaker 1: way that speaks to me, right, whether it's like the
• 16:44
  Speaker 1: one crystal here or not washing them or like I
• 16:47
  Speaker 1: try to like be comfortable with the way that I'm
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: doing it because it's pressure all the other rules on
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: how to do all of it.
• 16:54
  Speaker 2: I meditate laying down. It's way more comfortable.
• 16:58
  Speaker 3: So there's so much importance on a first eight. What
• 17:01
  Speaker 3: do you think is to each of you, what's which
• 17:05
  Speaker 3: first date activity is the best way to determine if
• 17:08
  Speaker 3: there's like a spark is it? Is it a walk,
• 17:10
  Speaker 3: a coffee, a dinner, miniature golf. Is there something that
• 17:14
  Speaker 3: stands out above the others?
• 17:16
  Speaker 1: Glass of wine?
• 17:16
  Speaker 2: For me?
• 17:18
  Speaker 1: I know, at meat at a restaurant that has like
• 17:21
  Speaker 1: at like five or six that has like a bar,
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: a bar slash restaurant. I like to go, And I
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: actually like to sit next to somebody at the bar
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: if I'm on a date with them, just to feel
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: if there's kind of any energy. And it's interesting, like
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: you can kind of tell if you feel yourself gravitating
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: and turning towards somebody or if you're kind of sitting back.
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: And I don't know, body languages super important, but I'm
• 17:47
  Speaker 1: definitely not one who likes to go on a walk
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: or miniature golf or do I like to talk to
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: somebody and just see if there's an organic conversation that
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: starts to flow.
• 17:58
  Speaker 2: Yeah, not to sound like I'm not interesting, but I
• 18:01
  Speaker 2: kind of am the same the same for me. I
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: also think being kind of in an environment where there's
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: people around you and background noise and all of that,
• 18:11
  Speaker 2: like it just takes a little of the pressure off,
• 18:12
  Speaker 2: you know. It's like, I don't know about you, like
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: when I went on my honeymoon, or you go to
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: these quiet resorts where it's like you can hear a
• 18:18
  Speaker 2: pin drop, and even if you're with like the you know,
• 18:20
  Speaker 2: the love of your life, it's just so awkward, Like
• 18:23
  Speaker 2: you find yourself talking about the weather because you feel
• 18:25
  Speaker 2: like the three other people are listening to what you're saying.
• 18:27
  Speaker 2: And we all know, we've all been in restaurants where
• 18:29
  Speaker 2: you look at somebody on a first date and you're
• 18:31
  Speaker 2: just like, oh my god, I feel for them and
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: like they're barely able to, you know, care on the
• 18:36
  Speaker 2: conversation or whatever. And I just feel like being in
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: a bar environment or something where there's just more going on,
• 18:42
  Speaker 2: it just seems a little like it diffuses the fact
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: that you don't I.
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: Think people like people up right, Like I just think
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: it creates like a buzz and an energy. And but
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: by the way, to your point, like I recently was
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: aut of dinner and I saw two people on what
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: clearly looked like at first date, and I was with
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: my twenty two old son, and it was like, watch,
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: you can't try And I was so uncomfortable them. So
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: I found a way to try to start chatting with
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: them with the conversation because you know me, I don't
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: shut up, and so we were chatting all of us together,
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: and then it didn't.
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: Be kind of like you then I feel like he
• 19:13
  Speaker 2: kind of well, that was bad.
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: Then he asked when I got up, he kind of
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: asked for my own phone number in a work thing,
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: And I thought to myself, I hope she's paying attention
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: to the kind of guy that he is, because that's not.
• 19:23
  Speaker 2: Like I'm a girl's girl.
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: Oh, such a girl's girl. Such a girl's girl. I
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: love setting up my friends with somebody i've gone out
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: with that maybe doesn't feel right to me. And you know,
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: I'm doing that for my sister right now, and I
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: don't know. I would hope somebody would do that for
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: me too. Recycle. We have to recycle men.
• 19:43
  Speaker 2: We think that that's a business idea. How are we
• 19:45
  Speaker 2: going to properly recycle men?
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: Matchmaking is hard. I tried to be a matchmaker for
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: a minute.
• 19:49
  Speaker 4: It was not easy.
• 20:00
  Speaker 3: Here's a scenario for you. You're you're casually you see
• 20:03
  Speaker 3: someone that you're casually dating, You see them out in
• 20:06
  Speaker 3: public and they're clearly on a date with somebody else.
• 20:09
  Speaker 3: Do you bring that up to them? Do you pretend
• 20:11
  Speaker 3: like you never saw them? What's your reaction there?
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: I don't think that that bothers me unless I feel
• 20:16
  Speaker 2: like we're exclusive, you know, and I think that at
• 20:19
  Speaker 2: the time that I mean, the way you present that scenario,
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: I'm taking it like, hey, we've gone out on one
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: or two dates, which I think until you have that conversation,
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: that's okay.
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: Do you think you have to have a conversation to
• 20:32
  Speaker 1: be exclusive or do you feel like it organically happens?
• 20:35
  Speaker 2: Well, I think either romantically things start happening and then
• 20:38
  Speaker 2: at that point I'm having a conversation or I mean,
• 20:41
  Speaker 2: reading the situation where you're starting to want to be
• 20:44
  Speaker 2: with each other all the time, you kind of understand
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: that that's where you are but if I've just come
• 20:48
  Speaker 2: out on a couple days. I mean, I did have
• 20:50
  Speaker 2: a situation where I had just broken up with a
• 20:54
  Speaker 2: guy literally like the night before, and I remember feeling
• 20:59
  Speaker 2: bad that I had ended it because he was a
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: nice guy. And then the next day I picked up
• 21:05
  Speaker 2: a friend from the airport and was coming back from
• 21:06
  Speaker 2: LAX and went to where what's the old AOC whatever
• 21:10
  Speaker 2: tavern or something, and I walk and they have communal
• 21:13
  Speaker 2: bathrooms and he is literally at the bar in the
• 21:18
  Speaker 2: same first date outfit, I guess, same first date outfit.
• 21:21
  Speaker 2: Then he wore with me, same spot. And then the
• 21:23
  Speaker 2: worst was I was in the bathroom and he came
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: into the communal bathrooms. Obviously he didn't know I was there,
• 21:29
  Speaker 2: and it was really awkward.
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: Wait, I don't know the story. Would you say this
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: is your worst dating story. We didn't even talk about,
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: like what's your worst dating story? Something.
• 21:37
  Speaker 2: I had broken up with him, so it's not like
• 21:39
  Speaker 2: he broke up with me and the next worse than heartbreak.
• 21:41
  Speaker 2: But I mean, who knows, Maybe he had it set up.
• 21:43
  Speaker 2: I don't know, But the point was I broke up
• 21:45
  Speaker 2: with them, and then I mean it was so awkward
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: and then he was like, hey, how are you? And
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: then he and then he texted me the next day
• 21:50
  Speaker 2: and was like, oh, I hope that was not I
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: was just like, just move on.
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: What is your worst dating story?
• 21:55
  Speaker 2: I don't know what. I don't feel like I've had
• 21:57
  Speaker 2: any horrific I mean, do you have one?
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: I had a weird I had a really weird one.
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: I mean I haven't ever gone had a scary, like
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: dangerous one, but I had an interesting thing happened. So
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: it was a brief. So during the pandemic, because it
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: was harder, I was like, you know what, my friends
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: and I were like, let's just do these apps for fun,
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: Like we made it like fun, right. So I talked
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: a couple of times to this guy and he lived
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: on the East Coast. He's like, I want to fly
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: out and meet you. And that was stressful for me
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: because then you're like, oh, he's flying all the way
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: out to meet me, Like it's not just a drink,
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: like at least have to sit with dinner and then
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: and he's like, and I'd love to know that we're
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: going to have lunch the next day and we're going
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: to do this. I go, let's just start with the
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: first date. So we meet for a first day and
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: you know, and he's staying at a hotel and so
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: we meet at the bar and weet it just have
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: dinner there or whatever, and you know, I was like,
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: in my head, I was like, I'm definitely gon have
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: lunch with him tomorrow. It's like the right thing to do.
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: But I wasn't like I was not into it. But
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: he was nice, and you know, he was you know,
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: he had a good core value system and we were
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: aligned down a lot of things. So I was like, okay,
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: you know whatever. So the next day we're at the lunch.
• 23:01
  Speaker 1: So now this is now probably you know, ninety minutes
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: total of learning meeting him and talking to him, and
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: he says, oh, I just was diagnosed with can't They
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: just found a tumor and they have to buy upstate
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: and they think it's lung cancer, which was like talked
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: about it's like a heavy a heavy first date, right,
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: And I was like, WHOA, okay, fine, And it just
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: felt I actually didn't know if it was true or
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: not true, Like it was just it was really strange.
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: He's liked, can we go in to dinner tonight? And
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: I said, oh, I have plants whatever, Okay, cut you.
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: So he goes back to the East Coast and he's
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: texting me, and then he texted me He's like, great news,
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: false alarm. I'm totally fine. Check your email. And he
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: had sent me airline tickets for Saint Bart's to go
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: on a trip with him for ten days. And I
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: was like, I barely knew this guy, and you're so weird.
• 23:58
  Speaker 2: I mean, you're such a private person, like and it
• 24:01
  Speaker 2: made me so uncomfortable and I was like, oh gosh, no, no, no, no, no, no,
• 24:05
  Speaker 2: like I don't know you, like I didn't even know
• 24:08
  Speaker 2: if it's going to about a second, and I'm hardly
• 24:09
  Speaker 2: going to stay in a hotel.
• 24:10
  Speaker 1: And I felt really uncomfortable, and I felt like it
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: was super forward and slightly aggressive, and so I was like, okay, fine,
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: that's fine, but can I come to LA again? And
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: I thought I just didn't. There was something about it
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: that seemed a little too fast to It didn't feel authentic.
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: It felt weird. It was rushing, you know, and that
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: was it. I mean, I'm sure I would have liked
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: to have gone to Saint Barts, but with somebody that,
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: you know, I really am would have been into me. Yeah, totally.
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: Dating is hard.
• 24:39
  Speaker 3: Dating is so hard. It's so hard. Here's this might
• 24:43
  Speaker 3: be a this is a deeper question, Uh do you
• 24:46
  Speaker 3: have do you believe you have to be fully healed
• 24:48
  Speaker 3: from your previous lover in order to love someone new
• 24:51
  Speaker 3: to have that capacity again?
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: I mean, look, we've all had our hearts broken where
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: you just want to, like right away go out with
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: somebody else. And for me and my personal experience when
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: I have been heartbroken or really really really hurt, I
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: am not able to switch gears that quickly, like I
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: have to be totally healed to be open to meet
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: somebody else. Like it's I've tried it. It's just too
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: hard for me. I feel breakups very intensely, and I
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: think it's really important to you know, to almost kind
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: of shut that door and then move on to the next.
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: So for me, I'm not one who can overlap to
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: try to move on.
• 25:32
  Speaker 2: And I don't know if you're asking more from like
• 25:34
  Speaker 2: a time perspective or is it the first person after
• 25:38
  Speaker 2: a breakup, because I think it could be the first person,
• 25:43
  Speaker 2: but maybe you know you can't expedite the time on
• 25:48
  Speaker 2: feeling and healing.
• 25:49
  Speaker 3: Do you think, is it like a set you know
• 25:52
  Speaker 3: they said on I think it was on Friends, one
• 25:54
  Speaker 3: of those sitcoms. They said, like, you take the time
• 25:56
  Speaker 3: of the relationship and what cut in half, and that's
• 25:58
  Speaker 3: the time it takes to get over it. Do you
• 26:00
  Speaker 3: believe that? Is it a time thing or I think
• 26:03
  Speaker 3: it has.
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: To do with the intensity of it. And like I
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: dated a guy for two and a half months and
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: he dubbed me, and I swear to god, I think
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: it took me a year to get over him. And
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: my friends are like, what is wrong with you?
• 26:12
  Speaker 2: He was not even a great guy.
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: I mean, she's none of that. But I know and
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: I think that that falls under the category of, you know,
• 26:21
  Speaker 1: something in his childhood wounds, emotional baggage in mind. It
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: was like this like imprinting right, and it was it
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: just I don't know, I could not recover from that.
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: And then there have been people I've dated for a
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: year and a year and a half and it's like
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: I don't even look back, like it just didn't trigger
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: me in that way. So I don't think it's so
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: much time for healing. I think it's like, what was
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: it that struck such a chord? With you that you
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: have to get over it. It's more about like what
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: work do I need to do within myself, you know?
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: And I feel like every relationship I've had, I'm making
• 26:57
  Speaker 1: healthier choices and I'm learning like I like this from
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: this person, this from this person to help build the
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: toolbox of what's going to be you know, the perfect,
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: the perfect thing for me. But I don't think it's time.
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: I think it has to do with something with your wound,
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: your emotional baggage.
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: For me, I agree, And I think also on making
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: healthier choices, I feel like I'm getting much better at
• 27:23
  Speaker 2: course correcting or communicating earlier so that something doesn't either
• 27:28
  Speaker 2: become a bigger problem as I continue on in a
• 27:31
  Speaker 2: relationship and has a chance to potentially, you know what
• 27:34
  Speaker 2: I mean, kind of rectify itself because I'm doing a
• 27:37
  Speaker 2: better job of communicating. And I think dialogue is so important.
• 27:42
  Speaker 2: That's a total tangent.
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: And communication is really important and vulnerability. That's something I've
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: had to learn is have really uncomfortable conversations instead of
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: shut down.
• 27:53
  Speaker 3: Okay, this will be our last question. We're in the
• 27:56
  Speaker 3: holiday season here. Do you think it's a red flag
• 27:59
  Speaker 3: if a guy and suspend the holidays with his family
• 28:01
  Speaker 3: instead of being with yours.
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: Well, this is really interesting because a friend of mine's
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: daughter who's thirty, has been dating this guy for about
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: a year. And my friend called me and said, do
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: you think it's weird that she's not invited on the
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: You know, she went last year on the family trip
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: with them, and this year they haven't brought it up here.
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: Do you think that's a red flag? And I said,
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: I do for her, right, because they're you know, at
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: a year end, you thinks potentially starting their life together.
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: I think for us when people have children or maybe
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: like a regular plan that they've always doe. I think,
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: as long as you're kind of communicating, maybe why like, hey,
• 28:47
  Speaker 1: like it would be so fun to do something together
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: this vacation. But you know, we just started dating recently,
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: and I'd already had this plan or I had, you know,
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: committed to doing this. But you know, it's nothing more
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: than a function of of you know that, right. It's
• 29:02
  Speaker 1: not a deeper message of like I'm just not that
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: into you. But we can all read the tea leaves
• 29:07
  Speaker 1: and read the room and know if somebody's into us
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: or not or wants to be that and where there's
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: a will, there's a way, you know, somebody could fly
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: home to be home for New Year's Eve if they
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: really want to see somebody.
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: And I think that's back to like the post divorce
• 29:20
  Speaker 2: where life is a little messier and complicated, and when
• 29:23
  Speaker 2: it comes to the holidays, I think kind of what
• 29:25
  Speaker 2: you're saying, Louise is if you communicate on what why
• 29:29
  Speaker 2: the reason for not wanting to be there, I think
• 29:32
  Speaker 2: it's totally fair because post like, I prioritize my family
• 29:37
  Speaker 2: holidays with my immediate family. And I mean I dated
• 29:42
  Speaker 2: somebody for several years and we would do Christmas the
• 29:47
  Speaker 2: three days prior to my family, you know, I remember, Yeah,
• 29:52
  Speaker 2: and then I would essentially kick him out and be like, Okay,
• 29:54
  Speaker 2: my family's here now. That really hurt his feelings, Yeah
• 29:58
  Speaker 2: I did. But I aren't going to change your routine,
• 30:01
  Speaker 2: which is a happy routine. Yeah. So I guess I'm
• 30:05
  Speaker 2: on the flip side of that question. But yeah, I
• 30:06
  Speaker 2: mean that's how I feel. It's important to me.
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: But if you are really I mean I also think
• 30:15
  Speaker 1: like sometimes we don't make changes because we don't want
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: to make the changes. Like it's like there's a will,
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: there's way if you really wanted him to be a
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: part of it, you know what I'm saying, Like you
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: could have made changes, you just didn't want to, And
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: that's okay too.
• 30:33
  Speaker 2: But I also think I have it all. I think
• 30:35
  Speaker 2: you can have your cake and eat it too. And
• 30:36
  Speaker 2: I think if you guys, do you know, a week
• 30:39
  Speaker 2: with each other and then a week with families for
• 30:40
  Speaker 2: various reasons, like, I think that that can work. So
• 30:43
  Speaker 2: I think it's I don't think you can generalize, and
• 30:46
  Speaker 2: I think all situations, no, I.
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: Agree, But I also think friends no friends like you.
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: When I'm getting somebody and I'm like, look warm on it,
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, it's great. You're like yeah, you look
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: like you're really excited, but no, it's amazing.
• 30:57
  Speaker 4: This is it.
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: This is really great, and you're like okay. And then
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: when I'm like, yeah, we're done, and she's like, no surprise.
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: I've been waiting for weeks for her. I was at dinner,
• 31:05
  Speaker 1: Oh my god, I and then I know we have
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: to go. I've been dating somebody and it was it
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: was good.
• 31:11
  Speaker 4: Like it was. It was good.
• 31:12
  Speaker 1: It was nice and fun and it was good and
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: it fell under the category of like I had a
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: big life. It was a part of my life. And
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: I was at a dinner with a bunch of a
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: bunch of girls and in front of mine sat down
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: and she was like glowing and she said, the fucking
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: my boyfriend, I'm so in love. And I was like
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: sitting there thinking, I don't know that way, why don't
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: I feel that way? And my other friend looks at me,
• 31:31
  Speaker 1: she goes, you're dating somebody, right, I go yeah, She goes,
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  Speaker 1: why don't you sound like that? And I was like
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  Speaker 1: and it was like like getting hit over the head.
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  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, because I knew what I
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  Speaker 1: felt on the inside, but when a friend can see
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  Speaker 1: it and can like call it out, it's sometimes hard
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  Speaker 1: to hear because the truth, you know, the truth deep
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  Speaker 1: down that voice we have that little inner voice in
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  Speaker 3: M hm, Well, this has been so much fun. Thank
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  Speaker 3: you guys for letting me be part of the action here.
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  Speaker 3: I feel like we j all just went on our
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  Speaker 3: first date.
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  Speaker 1: Would we get a second date?
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  Speaker 3: Yes? I was going to say, I would call you
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  Speaker 3: both back the same time.
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  Speaker 4: Thanks Easton, such a cutie.
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  Speaker 3: Well, thanks for your vulnerability thanks for being so honest.
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