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323 - Human Design Reading with Christie Wylde - 6/2 Pure Generator · Unshakeable with Human Design - A Human Design For Business Podcast

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  Welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, the show dedicated to
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  helping entrepreneurs use human design to shift from hustle to
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  flow without sacrificing results.
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  Come here to become an unshakeable human and build an unshakeable business
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  according to your human design.
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  I'm your host, Nicole Laino.
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  Hello and welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, everybody.
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  I'm your host, Nicole Laino, and I am so excited to be here with you today
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  because we have a really fun, special episode for you where we are actually
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  with the lovely Christie Wylde.
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  Who is the winner of our recent contest here on the show, where we had the
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  contest where if you shared about the show and you tagged me on Instagram,
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  you got entered into a drawing to win a reading right here on the show with me.
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  And Christie was our lucky winner, which I was so excited to see
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  that you won, Christie, because you've been supporting the show.
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  You've been following me.
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  We had a clarity call at one point where we chatted.
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  So I was really excited.
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  I love when an OG wins something.
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  Not that I don't love the new people, but it's always nice that
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  we get to reward you because you have been so supportive of the show.
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  I was excited to see your name pop up.
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  So welcome!
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  Yeah.
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  Thank you so much.
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  And it's such a gift that you are offering thank you for thank
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  you for doing those drawings.
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  Thank you for allowing me to come on and share a little bit
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  and learn a little bit from you.
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  I came to human design, beginning of the year.
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  I think, I don't know, time feels so weird, but yours was one of the first
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  podcasts that I like did my little scrolly search that felt so authentic and real.
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  And I just appreciate your presence in the interwebs because I think what you
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  bring is really genuine to this space.
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  And there's a lot of not genuine out there.
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  Like we can just call that out.
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  So thank you.
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  I'm humbled and grateful to be here.
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  Well, thank you.
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  I'm humbled and grateful for that for what you just said, that was really sweet.
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  And I received that because that is my hope to make an impact
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  and to just be doing what we do and serving this audience.
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  And I'm happy that it's helped you with your human design journey, that you've
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  stayed with us for this whole time.
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  And that the show has been delivering you value.
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  Now you're studying, you're in medical school, so you're a busy woman.
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  Right.
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  You're currently a medical student, you're studying to be a naturopathic doctor.
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  And what else can we tell the audience about you?
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  I'll say just from a human design perspective, you are a 6/2 pure generator.
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  What else would you like the audience to know about you before
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  we start with your reading?
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  Yeah.
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  I am in my last year of medical school.
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  I will be graduating in June as a naturopathic doctor.
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  That's partly what brought me to the show is that I'm preparing to open a
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  private practice once I graduate and looking at that entrepreneur journey.
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  I was really curious about how that intersected with human design.
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  And my pronouns are she, they, I do identify as queer.
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  So I'm looking to be working with the queer community
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  predominantly when I'm practicing.
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  I'm also a mom to a two year old manifesting generator.
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  And so that's quite a journey, a wild ride that we're all on.
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  My partner is a generator.
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  We're all in just knee deep in our designs right now.
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  So it's a lot of fun to learn and grow in that way together.
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  And Yeah.
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  And they're just kind of fun hobbies.
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  I love to paint and write and do some creative projects on the side.
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  So that generator energy is very real to me.
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  I feel like I really do love building things.
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  And I have to say when I found out I was a generator, I was a little
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  sad that I wasn't a manifester.
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  I don't know if anyone out there feels the same because there is, you know, Right.
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  It's like out in the world, you're just like manifestors are the ones who make
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  the magic happen and they absolutely do bring so much magic, but generators
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  are always there building something.
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  Once I realized that really was a deep part of what I love to do.
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  It was a lot easier to accept like, okay, I'm a generator.
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  This is a part of that generator energy.
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  So I'm building a practice.
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  We're currently building our family and we live in Seattle currently,
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  but we'll be eventually moving to Portland, Oregon, and I'll practice,
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  be licensed in both states so I can practice serving people in both states.
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  But the big long term dream is to have some land and establish kind of a retreat
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  healing space with outdoor hydrotherapy setup where people can soak and sauna
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  under the stars is the big picture.
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  So, Again, that generator thing.
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  I was like, I'm going to be building this probably until the day I die.
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  And I'm really okay with that.
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  I feel very content and happy with that.
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  So
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  I mean, generators, you need something to build kind of till the day you die.
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  Our energy has to go someplace, and it feels best, particularly
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  for generators, to be like systematically building something.
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  I'm building this, I'm growing it, I'm building this on top of this.
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  That typically feels best.
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  Many gens are going to be a little bit more, sometimes manic in their
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  approach of what they're building.
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  It won't make sense.
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  They'll be building something over here and then they'll be
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  building something over there and that's part of their process.
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  But yours might look a little bit more linear, where it's not necessarily
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  the same things, but it's like, you're building yourself right now where
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  you're becoming this naturopathic doctor.
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  Now, you're also under the cross of identification, the left
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  angle cross of identification.
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  You're a 6/2 so you're a left angle, so it's not about
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  you, it's about other people.
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  Your purpose has more to do with the rest of the world and something to
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  do with, like, an outward work than necessarily all your inward work.
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  But that cross of identification, to me, it's like, you're in the
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  process of identifying as a doctor.
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  You're in the process of building that identity.
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  But then what are you going to build on?
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  it's a private practice.
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  Then it's a wellness retreat center.
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  And then it's this, they're different things, but they're absolutely
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  in alignment with one another.
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  And that's very generatory.
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  And they have to do with other
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  I like that.
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  Generatory.
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  And they have to do with other people.
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  With serving other people.
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  With sharing with other people.
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  With helping other people.
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  I always like for these readings to be more like an interactive coaching session.
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  Where you can kind of guide the reading.
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  I can talk.
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  I'm never at a shortage of things to talk about in your chart.
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  So feel free, I'm happy to do that as well.
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  But do you have any questions?
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  You've been in this game for a while, you've been digging into
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  your design, you've looked at your partner's charts, your chart, you've
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  looked at your I'm sorry, did you say it was a son or a daughter?
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  We'll use they them pronouns
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  Oh, they then, oh, excuse me.
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  Okay, so you, you have your, you have your child that you are, you're looking
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  at their chart, you're well versed in this world of human design now.
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  Do you have questions or are there things that have come up through your
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  journey where you're like, I discovered this and this is where I got stuck, I'm
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  curious about this, is there something I can shed light on right away that
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  maybe we can as a jumping of point.
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  Yeah.
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  I think the thing that's been coming up the most recently is like the six person.
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  So on the six, two, so the six part of that and I've kind of been
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  comparing notes with a few other six twos that I know of like, do you have
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  a hard time connecting with people?
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  Like, do you have a hard time making social connections?
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  And one of the friends and I, we had this conversation back
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  and forth where we were both.
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  I mean, it just felt like so affirming because she was like, I feel like I've
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  been searching for mentors my entire life and I can never find anyone
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  that really fills that role for me.
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  And I was like, yeah, same.
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  I'm always looking for someone I can learn from and then usually the lesson
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  I get is that I am my own teacher.
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  I'm learning the things.
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  I'm learning from the situation are coming from within, not
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  necessarily from this person.
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  So I guess I'm just curious, like if six is because, we are
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  kind of like at the top of that spectrum for the personality lines.
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  If 6's, this is like a common struggle for 6's to feel socially
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  in connected to other people.
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  Well, yeah, they're one of the keynotes for the six is
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  aloof and by aloof, especially so you're on the roof right now.
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  You're on the roof phase.
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  So this is a time of retreat.
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  This is a time of pulling back.
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  I look at it like, from birth to 30 years, you were out there living life.
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  And you were in, like, I look at it like, you're gen pop.
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  You're down there in the weeds with people, living it.
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  Whatever that looked like for you.
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  Trial and error.
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  Fixing things, breaking things, just like living it, bumping into people,
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  having relationships, breaking up, there's this, vibrant side of life
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  that might have looked rebellious, might have looked tragic, might have
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  looked exciting, could be any of these things or all of them combined.
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  That's that first 30 years and then you climb up on the roof and you're literally
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  taking yourself out of that game and you're starting to get, for the first
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  time, that vantage point of being at the top of the hill looking down at everyone.
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  You are in the weeds, you are no longer in the weeds.
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  So one that can feel, a lot of 6's that I have talked to, there's just a different
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  way that they have experienced this.
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  It's the same thing, it's just what's their interpretation of it.
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  Some of them have been like, oh my god, finally, I really
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  needed to get out of that.
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  And then some of them have felt like, I used to be fun, I used to be adventurous,
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  I used to be daring, I used to be this.
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  And now I feel like I can't connect with people.
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  Like I don't want to do the things that I used to do.
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  I don't feel connected to the world in the same way.
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  Do either of those resonate for you or does any of that?
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  Yeah for sure.
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  I think it's compounded by, like, I did read something once about how
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  hard it is for those of us in our on the roof phase to parent during this.
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  And I'm like, that's when I became a parent and I don't feel like I have
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  a community around that and just really reassessing that this is
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  because my energy is pulling away from these things, not because I can't
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  connect with people like reframing that I think is really helpful for me.
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  I
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  think it's important
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  But yeah, I, I definitely had what I had my like, fucker.
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  I call my fuck around and find out phase.
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  I look back and I'm like, Oh yeah, I did that.
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  Wow.
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  I'm I made it through that somehow
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  yeah.
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  ause now my life is just so different from how it was then.
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  I think too, like, it's really hard for people to understand how
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  drastically different those phases are for those of us who are 6's.
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  So it's hard for them to stick around because they're like, well, I knew you
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  as this one person and now you're a totally different person and it's true.
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  That's true in a lot of ways.
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  I'm a much different person than I was 30 or younger.
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  And I'll be another 50, approaching 50, I'll be another
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  person emerging into that stage.
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  So, I don't know, being a six is a wild ride, man.
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  That's
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  It, it's a journey.
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  It's about the journey for you guys, and it's important for
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  Sixers to also understand what the on the roof phase is for.
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  It's for introspection.
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  It's for getting a different perspective on things.
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  You're not born with that higher view perspective.
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  That we talk about the 6's having.
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  That the vision, it's built over the course of this journey of your life.
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  Now, it doesn't mean that you don't know that that's coming.
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  I think that that's why 6's can be hard on themselves in those first 30 years.
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  Sometimes they can beat themselves up for not getting things
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  right or for messing things up.
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  Like, oh boy, wow, that was really, I really wrecked a lot of stuff back then.
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  And they can be not terribly compassionate for themselves.
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  Because they do have some idea that they're going to be a role
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  model or that things matter and will matter down the road.
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  It's like, you know that the path is leading you someplace at the
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  top of that mountain, but you don't necessarily have that perspective yet.
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  It's this phase where you get it and you get to reflect on all of those
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  experiences of the first 30 years.
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  This is that time of reflection.
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  Without this time, you don't get to be the role model.
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  If you don't properly roof it, you will not be able to come down off the roof
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  properly with the wisdom that you're meant to have in that third phase of your life.
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  So it's all very purposeful.
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  I will not say that it's always comfortable, but I do know that I have
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  so many women who come to me, and it is all women, I haven't had a man come to me
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  that's a 6/2 that had any of this stuff going on, but they come to me a lot of
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  times, 48, 49, 50, 51,, like somewhere around that shift in their life, and
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  I certainly have people come after as well, but there is that sense of they're
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  like, they feel the change happening again, and they're just like something
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  is changing, something is coming, I feel like I can't stay still anymore.
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  I have to and it's that feeling of like I've got to come down off the roof.
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  And it is essential for you to do it because that is your purpose calling you.
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  And you may not know what that purpose is you're building stuff and you're following
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  all you can do now is follow what your you know, you have the 34/10 exploration
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  channel, which is about conviction.
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  It's about being in response to things so I'll give an example and I'm
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  just sort of illustrating a point.
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  If I'm wrong, I'm wrong, but just to sort of illustrate how this works.
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  So you identify as queer, so you want to serve the queer community
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  because that's a value that you have.
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  That is a conviction that you have.
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  Maybe it's that the community is underserved.
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  Maybe that you don't like the way they're being served.
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  That you want to take a stand and you're going to build something for them.
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  And that's going to be connected to who you are and how you identify as a person.
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  Now, if that were true, I'm just trying to give examples because I think
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  they can help to illustrate points.
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  If that were true, that would be how, as a builder, As a generator who's
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  here to build things, that you're building the things that feel right
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  to you in alignment with who you are, in preparation for whatever it
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  is that the wisdom phase brings you.
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  We don't know.
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  So I often get the question from 6's where it's like, can I lead before I'm 50?
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  Do I have to wait until I'm 50 to share, to be embodied, to No, not at all.
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  You're still living your life.
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  You're not going to sit there and hibernate until you're 50 years old.
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  That's not at all what this is saying.
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  You're just living in different ways that's preparing you for
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  who you're here to ultimately be.
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  But the key is you just follow strategy and authority until you get there.
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  And that might be that you actually respond to fewer things
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  now because you're on the roof.
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  You might respond to more things that take you inward rather than outward.
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  Don't forget we're looking at the six, you're also a two.
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  You're hermit.
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  Most 2's want to be left alone.
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  A 6/3 has a very different expression than a 6/2.
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  Don't sleep on that two.
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  It's very powerful.
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  So you just want to ask yourself, am I hermiting or am I hiding?
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  Am I just not allowing myself to be in connection with people
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  because I'd rather be alone?
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  The two is here to be called.
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  So I use the term, let your freak flag fly because the two is
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  unique, the two is different, the two is not like everybody else.
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  And you get recognized and called out for being unique.
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  So, It's not about you being like all the other parents on the playground
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  and assimilating with that group.
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  It's about you showing up as who you are and allowing the correct people
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  to see that in you where they're like, that's my person over there.
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  I think I want to get to know them.
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  Does that make sense from how these things work together?
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  Cause they're really seeing that you're a leader and a
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  visionary and all of those things.
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  But they're seeing, more.
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  You're unique.
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  We see the design side more than we see the personality.
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  We think everybody sees this like six leader.
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  Cause that's what we're focused on.
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  Cause that's what we identify with.
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  I identify as a five.
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  They see me as this problem solver and all of this.
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  And it's like, no, they kind of see me as an expert.
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  They see the depth of my knowledge.
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  They see that if I ask people what they see, the first thing out of
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  their mouths usually is expert.
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  When it comes to like human design and stuff, not in all things, but
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  that I have a defined expertise and I'm a specialist in something.
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  They're going to see you that you have a unique way of showing up in the world.
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  And then it's about like, but what is your thing?
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  That's the key with the two is, are you doing your thing and are you letting
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  yourself be seen doing your thing?
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  That's really the key with the profile there.
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  Yeah.
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  Yeah.
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  The conviction.
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  Yeah.
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  It, all of that resonates.
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  Especially like the conviction, you, the example you brought up, I, that really
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  got some wheels turning for me because I've been doing some work on identifying
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  your ideal client and some of those very basic like business building exercises.
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  And one of the questions that I was working through was I'm doing
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  like a practice building, incubator type thing with other physicians.
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  Most of them are In practice already, and they're just kind of,
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  converting or updating their models.
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  So the question is what's your favorite kind of patient to work with?
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  And I do work with patients as a student.
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  We have a student clinic, a teaching clinic and I was like, man, the
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  patients I always get really excited about, they're always queer.
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  That was surprising to me for some reason.
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  it is very personal and very authentic to me but it was still surprising to me.
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  And so kind of hearing that that's like built in a little bit to my
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  design is that I'm going to be building something that is personal to me.
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  I think part of my hesitation is I don't want to niche down too
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  hard and then like but what if this person needs me or this, you know,
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  I don't want to turn anyone away.
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  But at the same time, what I do get excited about is in working with this
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  particular community, and they have particular needs, and I can see those
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  needs, and I can understand those needs, even if they're not all personal to
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  me I can see what needs to be done.
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  So anyway, I'm just kind of processing that out loud.
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  That was a really interesting piece for me.
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  So would you like me to tell you why I'm not surprised that you like
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  working with the queer community?
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  Just from a chart perspective, because I'm giggling over here because
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  what I look at to start to piece together your niche from your chart.
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  Now I want to preface this by saying that I don't like to jam a niche into a gate.
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  There's a much more organic process of really honing in on it but you
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  feel like you know right now and so I'm looking at it backwards.
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  I'm like you came to me with something and I'm looking at it and I'm saying okay well
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  here's how maybe you could feel validated in that choice and then you know if you
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  go further with that you could start to dig into well what else does this mean
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  to me where it might naturally expand that niche a little bit more, or it may
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  not, based on actually these qualities, rather than it necessarily being like
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  the queer community, but it's like the queer community and people like this.
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  This is what is attracted to me and what I will be attractive to other people for.
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  Because your niche gates that I'm looking at, gate 10 is one of your niche gates.
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  And then 15 is the polarity to that.
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  And gate 10 is about authentic behavior.
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  And it is about loving yourself just as you are.
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  Forgetting about like, it is purely you.
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  It has nothing to do with anybody else or what they think is right.
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  Or it's about authentic, and we use the word behavior.
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  Because behavior, it's a gate of self love.
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  I love myself so damn much because I'm just me.
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  And I don't change my behavior for anyone.
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  I show up as me every single time.
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  So that can be where you've seen people be very in alignment with this.
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  And you've probably seen people be very out of alignment with this.
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  And now we pair that again.
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  This is how, like, this is why it's the whole chart.
• 20:02
  So like some charts have a lot of themes to me and they jump out at me
• 20:06
  and it usually helps when I know a lot or somewhat about what you do.
• 20:10
  Cause then I can start to connect the dots faster.
• 20:12
  Then you pair that with, okay, maybe you've seen people not
• 20:15
  be free to be who they are.
• 20:17
  Maybe not love themselves and hate themselves because everything
• 20:20
  in the chart tells us what to have it is and to have not.
• 20:23
  So to love yourself so much or to loathe yourself so much for being who you are.
• 20:28
  10 is both of those things.
• 20:30
  And the more people we have with Gate 10 who are in the I love myself so much
• 20:34
  just because I'm me, you teach other people how to love themselves so much
• 20:39
  just because they're them and people become more empowered to be who they are.
• 20:43
  But we pair that with, so you've seen people have it and you've seen people not
• 20:46
  have it, you've seen them love themselves, you've seen them hate themselves,
• 20:49
  now you have convictions about this.
• 20:52
  Now that 10/34 channel of exploration, you're responding to it.
• 20:56
  So an example of that could be.
• 20:57
  Maybe you see someone in the queer community loathing themselves
• 21:00
  because they were told that that was not the right way to be.
• 21:03
  I'm just making this up.
• 21:05
  You have a visceral gut reaction to that of like, no.
• 21:10
  The channel of conviction, the channel of exploration says in order for me to
• 21:14
  be me, I have to live my convictions.
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  So I'm going to be super out and proud about who I am.
• 21:20
  I'm going to openly identify as queer and I'm going to allow people to see that and
• 21:26
  maybe that gives these people courage.
• 21:29
  Maybe that shifts into, it can be activism, there's so many different
• 21:33
  ways that this can show up.
• 21:34
  I'm just giving one illustration for how that could and using the queer community
• 21:39
  as that path to show you like, cause obviously if you're thinking of dedicating
• 21:42
  your life to it, there's conviction there.
• 21:44
  And it shows you that when we follow that, I'm not hearing a
• 21:48
  lot of you second guessing these choices, but some people can.
• 21:51
  They can say like, that is what I believe, but I'm worried about what people will
• 21:55
  say, I'm worried about what the, I mean, you were saying, the only thing
• 21:58
  I heard you say where you're second guessing it is I don't want to niche
• 22:00
  down too hard where I'm excluding people.
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  But it could be marginalized people, it could be people who just fit this bill.
• 22:08
  A niche isn't about necessarily being so niched down that you're like, I only
• 22:12
  help people in the queer community.
• 22:13
  You're free to do that if you want.
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  But, if you are just being an example of what it means to be proud and
• 22:21
  in love with yourself and be proud of who you are for what you are
• 22:25
  and for who you are, purely that.
• 22:26
  Then you will attract the right people to you.
• 22:29
  You can certainly say I specialize in helping the queer community.
• 22:33
  You might have a mission out there, channel of exploration, that conviction.
• 22:38
  Letting your convictions be front and center with how you run your
• 22:42
  practice when you have it running.
• 22:44
  That is how this can start to take shape around a business and around like how
• 22:49
  you show up for it is when you lead with conviction, you're in alignment.
• 22:53
  You'll start to find that you'll probably get more excited about what you do when
• 22:57
  it's in alignment with your convictions.
• 22:59
  Because again, that channel is the one thing that connects your sacral.
• 23:04
  It's what defines it.
• 23:05
  You only have one channel there.
• 23:06
  And that one channel connects to your identity.
• 23:09
  If you think about response, what truly you are in response to fuels your
• 23:13
  authentic behavior, fuels who you are.
• 23:16
  You're not you if you're not in alignment with your convictions.
• 23:19
  If you're not truly in response, then suddenly you're not who
• 23:22
  you're meant to be on this planet.
• 23:25
  So do you see, like, we start to weave these things together and businesses,
• 23:29
  lives, little clues to how this is all, I don't want to say preordained,
• 23:34
  we have free will, but there's stuff here that I don't know what
• 23:38
  your convictions are going to be.
• 23:39
  That's you as an individual, and frankly, you don't know what they
• 23:42
  are until you're out in the world, you experience something and you
• 23:46
  respond, yes, I care or no, I don't.
• 23:49
  That means something to me.
• 23:50
  That doesn't.
• 23:51
  That gets me excited.
• 23:52
  That doesn't.
• 23:53
  Generators and manifesting generators, we're here to learn about ourselves,
• 23:57
  and that's how we learn about ourselves, is by what we respond to and some
• 24:02
  people respond to different things.
• 24:03
  Yours will probably have a lot to do with what you think is right
• 24:07
  and what you think is wrong.
• 24:08
  What do I want to put my power behind?
• 24:10
  And what feels like me?
• 24:11
  And where do I feel like people are being, maybe their rights are being trampled on?
• 24:15
  Or different things piss different people off.
• 24:17
  You know?
• 24:19
  There's lots of people with this channel who have very
• 24:21
  different convictions than you.
• 24:23
  But that's how you find your alignment is through that.
• 24:25
  And then that six is seeing something bigger picture
• 24:29
  than the rest of us can see.
• 24:30
  That's the potential that's there.
• 24:32
  How's that all resonating or landing with you?
• 24:35
  I feel like I just went through a second hour of therapy.
• 24:39
  No I mean, I was just processing so much of this with my therapist and
• 24:43
  it's feels, I love human design for this reason, because it's so affirming
• 24:49
  of things that I'm sensing, but I don't yet have the language for, or I
• 24:54
  don't really have the context or the organizational piece for and part of
• 24:58
  what I was sharing with her is just I'm coming to this place of likeke really
• 25:02
  deep acceptance that this is my design.
• 25:04
  This is who I am.
• 25:06
  This is the uniqueness of what I bring back to humanity is like, just
• 25:11
  by accepting who I am, instead of fighting it, instead of othering it,
• 25:15
  or labeling it as bad or whatever we do, because we're, it's hard for us
• 25:21
  sometimes to confront parts of ourselves.
• 25:24
  I feel like human design just gives me that permission to be like, well,
• 25:27
  this is why I feel so strongly about this and that's actually a gift.
• 25:31
  That's a gift that I bring to people is to feel this way or
• 25:36
  to act this way, to be this way.
• 25:38
  A thousand percent
• 25:39
  yeah.
• 25:39
  So Thank you.
• 25:40
  There are two aspects, if I could just sort of call out a couple of
• 25:43
  other things that I'm seeing as we're having this conversation.
• 25:46
  You've two halves of your design.
• 25:48
  You have the 34/10 channel that's connecting that sacral to the G-center,
• 25:53
  which is what we've been talking about.
• 25:55
  And then you have a defined ajna and a defined throat.
• 25:59
  So you have two channels, that channel is the 17/62, which
• 26:02
  is the channel of acceptance.
• 26:04
  This is a channel of being able to explain things in ways that people
• 26:08
  understand and that they can grasp easily.
• 26:11
  I think the challenge with this one, you probably are already good at this, but
• 26:15
  the challenge with this one is to not just have wild opinions about things, to ground
• 26:21
  them in facts, to ground them in receipts, to ground them in something it's logical.
• 26:25
  It's not abstract.
• 26:27
  This is logical circuitry.
• 26:29
  So something that will support you in your mission.
• 26:32
  Because your mission might be a lot bigger than your practice.
• 26:35
  I don't know.
• 26:36
  But if it feels that way for you, that maybe you are here, I mean, whenever I
• 26:40
  look at 6's and 6/2s in particular, it's just sort of like, yeah, you sort of
• 26:45
  learn that first 30 years, what doesn't work, then you ponder it for another
• 26:49
  20, and then you come down off that roof and you're just like, I have the way.
• 26:54
  And nobody knows what that way is going to be, it's probably
• 26:58
  a lot bigger than you think.
• 27:00
  You also have a sixth line pearl in your pearl sequence.
• 27:04
  There's just a lot of things that lend to like kind of a
• 27:06
  big vision or something bigger.
• 27:08
  And you have a voice.
• 27:09
  Your conscious sun sits in your throat.
• 27:11
  So that to me is just, it is about doing, it is about sharing, it is
• 27:15
  about putting something out there.
• 27:17
  So when you're doing that, something, especially when you're dealing in new
• 27:21
  age-y stuff, naturopathic medicine to catering to or specializing in the
• 27:27
  queer community, and really getting a message out there, you have that
• 27:31
  63/64 gate pairing in your unconscious sun and your unconscious earth.
• 27:36
  So in your incarnation cross, you have My Conscious Son and My
• 27:40
  Conscious Earth, which are very much, they're head center gates, which
• 27:44
  are about seeing beyond just here.
• 27:47
  They're very visionary.
• 27:48
  They are very much about like possibility.
• 27:51
  What can we do and how can we do it and let's not get stuck in reality here.
• 27:56
  So, it's about ushering people into something brand freaking new
• 28:01
  and having the courage to do that.
• 28:03
  I get a lot of people with these gates in my life because I attract them because
• 28:07
  that's what I put out as my personality.
• 28:09
  So I put it out as my personality and you're like, you're speaking
• 28:12
  to the unconscious in me.
• 28:14
  So we match that way.
• 28:16
  I get a lot of people with these gates that come into my world.
• 28:18
  And you have to break that.
• 28:21
  piece of reality, you have to be looking at the more you go into the
• 28:26
  ethereal spaces and you explore the things that other people maybe call you
• 28:30
  crazy for, probably the more excited you'll get lit up by your sacral will
• 28:34
  go, ideas, new things will come in.
• 28:37
  But what you have is a specific talent to be able to explain maybe the esoteric
• 28:44
  and weird stuff that other people can't necessarily understand in a logical way.
• 28:50
  And if you make that the focus where you mix, I don't want to say equal
• 28:55
  parts, but you're always including some of the esoteric woo, the things
• 29:01
  that are a little bit more out there.
• 29:02
  I mean, we'll look at the way that I approach human design.
• 29:05
  I really do try to bring it down to earth for people.
• 29:08
  I really do try to ground it in something logical because I recognize the benefit
• 29:12
  of it and while I don't have that channel I do have the 60 second gate which is
• 29:16
  about explain, the explaining part.
• 29:18
  I just have a million ways of processing that.
• 29:20
  You have maybe one very much faster way of doing it because you have it.
• 29:25
  It's sort of like a highway that's built for you.
• 29:27
  Mine, I'm kind of like always finding a new way to get to that explanation.
• 29:32
  But that talent that you have of blending the esoteric with logical explanations.
• 29:38
  With, if you can maybe put that in your mind as a way, and 6's usually
• 29:43
  just have a way of doing this too.
• 29:44
  You're normally very good teachers or explainers of things.
• 29:48
  But that breaking it down, that you might have the ability to break through to
• 29:52
  the people who maybe seem unreachable.
• 29:55
  Or maybe seem like they're on the fence, that if, maybe if you don't get
• 29:59
  emotionally involved in it and you allow yourself to come at it from more of a
• 30:04
  scientific approach, that if I break this down right, there's nobody I can't reach.
• 30:09
  Might be like a mantra you want to play with.
• 30:12
  If you choose.
• 30:12
  It's a talent that exists.
• 30:14
  And again, we never know what it will be used for.
• 30:17
  It's what turns you on.
• 30:18
  What do you want to do?
• 30:19
  But I think you mentioned you started a podcast, right?
• 30:22
  Yeah, yeah.
• 30:23
  I started a podcast for the naturopathic medical community.
• 30:27
  Because we are just, for anyone listening, we are trained, as medical providers, so
• 30:32
  we're trained in all the basic standards of care, but we also have this whole
• 30:36
  plethora of modalities that we learn how to utilize nutrition, supplements,
• 30:41
  lifestyle, movement, gut health.
• 30:43
  I mean, all the pieces, really intense.
• 30:46
  And there's just not really a resource for us to share about those experiences.
• 30:52
  So the main mission when I started this was to create kind of like a really
• 30:55
  central hub for talking to doctors in the field, the things that they're doing.
• 31:00
  There's a lot of really cool stuff that our docs are doing.
• 31:03
  And our students and other people in the field can connect with
• 31:06
  them, get trainings, get pearls of clinical pearls, all these things.
• 31:11
  What's really been really fun to see is that there's this personal element has
• 31:15
  been evolving out of it where they're telling me what they're doing clinically,
• 31:19
  but then we're like, okay, and then tell me about, you've been in practice for
• 31:22
  15 years and like, tell me how that's evolved or you practice with your partner.
• 31:26
  Tell me what that looks like.
• 31:28
  The way that's opened up people to share just honestly about their journeys and
• 31:33
  how things have changed, how they've evolved, things they've become more
• 31:37
  committed to over time, less committed to.
• 31:40
  I feel like that's like going to be the nugget of the podcast.
• 31:43
  yeah, and I can see kind of how that's lining up with what you're
• 31:47
  saying too is like being able to see the trajectory of things and also
• 31:52
  a need that this profession has.
• 31:55
  Pulling that down and like making it really tangible for people.
• 31:59
  So it's like more digestible.
• 32:01
  Yeah, I feel like all my neurons are firing.
• 32:04
  All the
• 32:04
  sparks are
• 32:05
  yeah, and
• 32:05
  going.
• 32:05
  You know, you went through this and now you go walk around in your life
• 32:08
  and you see what aha moments come up.
• 32:11
  What are the things that are resonating with me?
• 32:13
  I always treat readings like I always say, like they're an activation.
• 32:16
  So I'm gonna say some things.
• 32:18
  I'm gonna put some words to some things that maybe you have been feeling.
• 32:22
  We're gonna work together.
• 32:23
  We're gonna have this conversation.
• 32:25
  I'm gonna walk you through your chart and then walk away and then
• 32:29
  see what happens from now, because this is like the seeds get planted.
• 32:33
  We planted seeds now you walk around and you live your life.
• 32:37
  And you follow your strategy and authority and you're watering those seeds, you're
• 32:41
  contemplating things, you're kind of like gently putting attention on what we
• 32:44
  discussed and what meant something to you.
• 32:48
  And it's like you're chewing on it, it's like you're digesting it over time.
• 32:52
  And then as you're walking through life, and that's where like, I call it like
• 32:55
  shower moments you know, you're just, you're in the shower and you're like,
• 32:57
  I never thought of it that way, that's what she meant, or that's totally this or
• 33:01
  you're in a moment with somebody and it clicks because you're in response to them.
• 33:06
  That's the power of this is to not push the answer, but allow these seeds to bloom
• 33:12
  in their time and the way to get them to bloom in their time faster is to keep
• 33:16
  following that strategy and authority.
• 33:19
  Noticing the shadows and conditioning that can come up, yours are going to
• 33:24
  be those bridging gates that you have are going to be the ones that are real
• 33:27
  traps for you, which might be around 20, gate 20 is one of your bridging gates.
• 33:33
  I want it and I want it now.
• 33:34
  In fact, I want it yesterday.
• 33:35
  So let's go, go, go, go, go, go, go.
• 33:37
  And it wants to force and push and make it happen.
• 33:40
  You're also a quad left with your variables, so probably a
• 33:44
  very action oriented person.
• 33:46
  Take charge of a situation like that's just sort of naturally usually what
• 33:50
  happens there and then you have gate 33.
• 33:53
  That one typically, I don't find to be like a terribly shadowy gate.
• 33:57
  It is a throat center gate.
• 33:59
  It is the gate of retreat.
• 34:00
  It's about reflection.
• 34:02
  Usually it's like, you know, are you reflecting too much or
• 34:04
  are you pulling back too much?
• 34:06
  Gate 20 is the one that I would look out for.
• 34:08
  That's the one that I think that usually people who have Gate 20 as a bridging
• 34:12
  gate and I say, I want it and I want it now, I want it yesterday, they're
• 34:16
  like, oh yeah, yeah, yeah, I do that.
• 34:17
  That's normally the hot button one.
• 34:19
  As long as you're not falling into that and you trust like it's happening, maybe
• 34:23
  I can't see it, but I trust that it's happening and if I focus my energy on
• 34:28
  where it wants to go rather than where I want it to go, good things happen.
• 34:33
  And I love that it sounds like you're already doing a lot of these things.
• 34:36
  It's the message is to kind of keep doing more of it, keep going.
• 34:39
  Did you have a
• 34:39
  I've been doing it unconsciously.
• 34:42
  Hearing you say that and pointing that out, that's really helpful for me,
• 34:45
  because I can be more aware of that.
• 34:47
  Yep.
• 34:47
  I also had a question for you.
• 34:49
  If you had any tools around, I know, like, when someone has an open center.
• 34:54
  There's a lot of things that happen more receptivity.
• 34:57
  You can magnify a person who is defined, who's kind of in your sphere.
• 35:01
  And I'm curious what tools you use for protecting open centers.
• 35:06
  In certain spaces, I just noticed sometimes with my open head center and
• 35:11
  open emotional center that those places can get, I don't know if co-opted is the
• 35:17
  right word, but I lose control somewhere along the way and I feel like I'm like
• 35:22
  just at the whim of people around me and
• 35:26
  Yeah.
• 35:26
  just curious if you have tools for navigating that, if there's
• 35:29
  any strategies for that.
• 35:31
  Yeah, I mean there's tools like, simple grounding really does help because a
• 35:37
  lot of it is being out of your body and not being grounded in your body.
• 35:41
  You're much more susceptible to be taken on a ride if you're floating up in
• 35:44
  the air like a balloon and someone can just grab the string and start dragging
• 35:47
  you along on wherever they want to go.
• 35:49
  Whereas if you're firmly grounded and planted where you are in your body,
• 35:53
  it's harder to be taken on that ride.
• 35:55
  So that's a simple practice that I suggest everybody do, which
• 35:58
  there are grounding techniques.
• 36:00
  There are simple things that you can do like walking barefoot in the grass,
• 36:04
  those type of things, all the way to doing like central channel breathing,
• 36:08
  which is something where you like tighten up your whole central channel,
• 36:11
  your root like you're doing a kegel, you tighten up your sacral, you tighten
• 36:15
  up your heart, you tighten up your throat, do ujjayi breathing, which
• 36:19
  is like a yoga breathing technique.
• 36:21
  So you're breathing like closing off your throat.
• 36:23
  Sounds like you're snoring when you breathe through your nose.
• 36:26
  You're breathing through that back of your throat, you're closing your eyes, and
• 36:30
  you're just picturing that breath and your energy go up and down the central channel,
• 36:34
  you're reconnecting your energy there.
• 36:36
  So those are some grounding techniques that you can use.
• 36:39
  But outside of that, for protecting your energy around conditioning, honestly,
• 36:46
  it's been my experience that it's about, you have to decondition first,
• 36:51
  so you can know that it's happening.
• 36:53
  You get more control the less full you are in an open center.
• 36:57
  So if you are overwhelmed by the pressure of an open root center, and
• 37:03
  that is a feeling that you have, and I have an open root too, and that can
• 37:08
  be like an overwhelming feeling just where you feel overwhelmed all the time.
• 37:11
  Like you're running out of time all the time.
• 37:12
  The list is so long and you're just thinking about what do I have to do?
• 37:15
  What's next?
• 37:16
  You have to be able to tune into that it is that pressure first
• 37:21
  in order to fight that pressure.
• 37:23
  So the first step is to be aware that it's happening.
• 37:25
  And then you start the process of deconditioning.
• 37:28
  I use tapping, that's sort of the way that I clean out the centers
• 37:32
  and you have an open solar plexus.
• 37:34
  Emotions, feel your feelings.
• 37:36
  Don't push them aside and say, that's inconvenient.
• 37:40
  Don't have time for that.
• 37:41
  I'll deal with that later.
• 37:42
  And then you don't deal with it.
• 37:44
  So the tools are really to decondition those centers, to recognize.
• 37:49
  And what I like to do is I tell people, go one at a time.
• 37:53
  Say like, I'm going to really pay attention to root center pressure.
• 37:56
  And I'm really going to focus on noticing when I am acting out of trying to be free
• 38:03
  of pressure versus acting from my sacral.
• 38:07
  My favorite question to ask with an open root is does this really
• 38:09
  need to be done now or am I just trying to be free of the pressure?
• 38:12
  If I can ask that question and then realize how many things don't actually
• 38:16
  need to be done now, they could be done later, that that gives me my power back.
• 38:21
  Then you start to have more grounding, because the Root
• 38:25
  Center is about grounding, you're gonna get grounding from that.
• 38:28
  But then you start to clean out that center and you stop
• 38:30
  being taken for the ride.
• 38:32
  And then when you're in that place, you're very sensitive, you know what
• 38:35
  root center pressure feels like, you know what it feels like, so when
• 38:38
  someone comes in and they have it, you suddenly have a different relationship
• 38:42
  to it, because you're just like, that's not mine, that's not mine.
• 38:45
  And I can feel that, and I can feel their pressure, and that's not my pressure,
• 38:51
  and I don't need to be a part of it.
• 38:53
  And then you can take yourself out of their physical space as well to show
• 38:57
  yourself the difference between being near them and feeling it and being
• 39:01
  away from them and not feeling it.
• 39:02
  Like take a step outside, touch a tree, hang out for a couple of
• 39:06
  minutes, remind yourself what your energy feels like, and you go, oh
• 39:10
  that's totally not me, that's them.
• 39:12
  You will be surprised how much of that protects you.
• 39:14
  How much of that shifts where you suddenly become, It's like
• 39:18
  you're psychic in a certain way.
• 39:19
  You're feeling and receiving what they're throwing down.
• 39:22
  And you can get a sense of, they feel a little out of alignment in that place
• 39:27
  and you can start to see what they have rather than identify with it yourself.
• 39:32
  Does that help?
• 39:33
  That's Very helpful.
• 39:35
  Thank you.
• 39:36
  Well, I mean, especially like as the work that you're going into, you're
• 39:39
  cleansing your energy and staying clear in between your patients because you're
• 39:44
  going to be taking on a lot, like don't identify with it, don't hold it.
• 39:49
  We have a saying, be a screen, not a sponge.
• 39:52
  Allow it to pass through, you can understand what's
• 39:55
  there, but you don't hold it.
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  And then there's good old sage for like your space, like I would recommend
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  things like that for your office wherever you're practicing as just
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  kind of a cleansing each day, making sure that you're clearing the space.
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  Any other questions or anything else that I can answer for you?
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  I don't think so.
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  This was so lovely.
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  Thank you.
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  Thank you for being here.
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  I appreciate you well, I appreciate your support for sharing about the
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  show, for listening to the show, but then also letting us telegraph
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  your design and put it out on the show for other people's benefit.
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  That's really, it's wonderful that you do that.
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  I appreciate you.
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  For anyone who's kind of on the fence about getting a reading or exploring
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  this more, like, this is very helpful.
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  So just keeping that in mind.
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  I'm so happy to hear that.
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  Thank you so much.
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  Well, I appreciate you.
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  end of this episode with us.
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