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The Power of Words: How We Say It Matters · HAVE FAITH LET IT BEGIN®

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  I think we've all heard the expression, it's not what you say, it's how you say it.
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  Quite often, I think at one point in our lives, we have said something that
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  we'd regret, said something so fast that we didn't think before we spoke.
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  But there are so many times, at least in my life, just recently,
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  where individuals who are in power or in charge of putting your family,
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  your children in places where it is a very crucial decision for a parent,
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  for a loved one to think about.
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  And those people of power don't realize what they say to you can really affect
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  A, your decision, and B, hurt you indirectly.
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  Have faith, let it begin. Starts right now.
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  Have faith, let begin. When it starts right now.
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  Welcome to Have Faith. Let it begin. Here's your host, Angel Santana.
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  Ariel, can you say, have faith? Let it begin. Let it begin? Let it begin. Say, have faith.
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  Let it begin. Let it begin. No. No. No? Okay. Good boy. Hi, Noah. Noah! Noah!
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  Happy birthday, Noah! Hey, then. I'm done with you. It is what does that mean?
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  Noah. This little light of mine, I'm gonna let it shine.
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  This little light of mine, I'm gonna let it shine.
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  This little light of rain, I'm gonna let it shine. Let it shine.
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  Let it shine. Let it shine. Well, yeah.
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  Daddy, I'm so excited, but I have one question. What's your question?
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  I'm going to be a pastor or a minister.
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  Good question. I don't know, but it is all in God's hands. Good morning.
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  You're listening to Have Faith Let It Begin, and it starts right now.
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  Good morning, everyone, and welcome to Have Faith Let It Begin on this Tuesday, March 4th, 2025.
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  So, it's not what you say, it's how you say it.
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  Being disrespectful, being mean, saying things to others before you think about
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  what you say can be detrimental.
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  Infuriating for that person. I remember in my 20s, when I was a young manager,
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  I remember that I reacted very, very quickly when an individual would not respect
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  me when I was in the sales world.
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  Little did I know, of course, that respect is earned.
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  And just because you have a title, just because you have a position of power
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  does not give you the right to treat people disrespectfully.
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  And I think that that's the way I came across at a young age when I was given title of power.
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  It was all until this one lady pretty much set me straight, but did it professionally,
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  pulled me off to the side and told me that I was, you know, a likable person,
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  but very disrespectful manager and that I needed to grow up.
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  And at that moment, you know, I could have taken that feedback and just been even more of a jerk.
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  But no, I learned, I listened, and I realized that it's not what you say, it's how you say it.
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  And that each individual that you speak with, whether it's in your job,
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  whether it's personally, whether it's a stranger, everybody takes certain things
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  different to take feedback differently.
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  It's perception, but it's the tone and just recently you know we've been dealing with.
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  Administrative stuff with schooling and stuff like that for getting our son prepared.
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  And we had an individual of power speak to us in a manner where I felt made
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  us feel almost as if we were not putting our son first.
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  And I could see the aggravation first in my wife's eyes.
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  So of course, as a husband, you get defensive. And then when you finally start
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  to hear all the things that are being said, and then you realize,
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  hey, not only are they talking about me being a parent, but also me being a
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  parent to my son. Now Papa Bear comes out.
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  I'm so grateful that in my 20s and 30s, and even now my 40s,
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  as what, five days away from turning 47,
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  even now I'm still learning, but I'm so grateful and honored that God has given
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  me the patience to listen and the patience to think before I speak.
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  So I addressed it in a very, very respectful and professional manner,
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  but the person really wasn't listening and didn't hear exactly what I said because
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  continued on to say certain things.
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  And I, at that point realized, you know what, it would be in my best interest
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  to just keep my mouth shut. I've already expressed how I felt.
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  And if that person just chooses not to hear me, it's on them.
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  Now we will have a actual sit down meeting with these people in a couple of
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  weeks. And I will make my, my presence known.
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  And I think it'll have more of an impact when you're sitting in front of somebody.
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  And I will be of course, respectful, stern, but professional and,
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  and of course, make my, my point with words and not with a demeanor or tone.
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  So where, where do we get with all this? I think that we all live in a day and
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  age right now where there's so much anger toward one another.
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  There's so much turmoil out in the world. It feels like there's so much hate.
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  And I think a lot of it starts with the way we speak to one another, you know?
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  And it's kind of like this, you know, Have Faith, Let It Begin is a show for
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  you, the daily commuter, right?
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  Inspirational stories, personal testimonies, motivational topics set out to change the world.
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  But never, ever do I come across or try to come across as if I'm telling you,
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  the listener, the family member of Have Faith at a Begin, how to live your life.
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  I've always said I'm going to be in the future,
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  a pastor or minister that will try to
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  show and explain others through my life
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  and my personal experiences and my personal stories and others to help motivate
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  you and inspire you to make a decision that you feel is best of your interest
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  by putting faith and spirituality with the stories.
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  I want everyone to know that no matter what you do in life, no matter how many
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  times you approach others, it doesn't matter what type of degree they have, if they have a PhD, if,
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  they've gone to more schooling, at the end of the day, we are all people.
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  And some of us need to understand that when we speak to one another,
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  we have to treat each other as if we were family.
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  Remember that all of us create the body of Christ. All of us are God's children.
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  If we treat each other with respect, if we treat each other with love and understanding,
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  and even if others don't understand what you're trying to say and you feel as
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  if you're articulating that conversation in a manner where they should understand you and they don't.
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  It's not for you to get frustrated.
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  It's for you to figure out another way to explain it so that when you're done
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  conversating, you realize that both of you understand what you're talking about.
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  It's just like Christ did, walked everywhere. He preached everywhere.
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  There were people that followed him, the people that ridiculed him.
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  There were people that just didn't understand what he was talking about.
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  Heck, his disciples didn't understand half the time. And even Jesus got a little frustrated.
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  You know, when he would talk to his emma, he would talk to, you know,
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  Mary, and he would say, I don't get why they don't understand.
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  And even Mary told her son, you just have to be patient. You have to be kind.
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  Think of Paul. All he knew was to take down Jesus.
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  All he knew was to go after those that persecuted Christ.
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  All he wanted to do was take down Christ. And Christ blinded him so that he
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  could understand and see past everything that he was thinking. And what did Paul do?
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  He felt that he wronged Christ. He felt that he wronged others. And,
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  God forgave them. Christ forgave him. And he was baptized in the water.
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  His eyesight came back and he realized that when he went back out into the wilderness,
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  when he went back out into the world, people started to judge him.
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  And he realized his actions spoke louder than his words.
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  And his ability to speak with others through writing, through love,
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  through kindness, made people realize that he had changed, not all, but some.
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  So as you go out into the world today, think before you speak.
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  Respect each other, make decisions and choices based on what your spirituality,
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  what your faith, what your heart wants to be.
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  But always remember to put God first, your family and your feelings and wrap
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  them all up together and make a respectful decision.
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  I want you to think about that today. Let us pray.
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  Heavenly Father, we thank you for all that you give us. We thank you,
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  Lord, for coming together.
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  And we pray today that no matter what we hear and no matter how often we think
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  of all the things that we can do to make the world a better place,
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  it all starts with the way we speak.
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  It all starts with the way we treat and respect others.
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  It all starts with how we need to not judge anyone for the way they live,
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  but to respect them, to understand them, to learn about them before we judge,
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  disrespect, and say things that we don't mean.
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  Always remember what I've said before. When you're right and you're rude, then you're wrong.
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  May God be with you. May he shine his light upon you and grant each and every
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  single one of you peace on earth.
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  And remember the words that Jesus taught us. our Father
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  who art in heaven hallowed be thy name thy kingdom come thy will be done on
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  earth as it is in heaven give us this day our daily bread and forgive us our
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  debts as we forgive our debtors lead us not into temptation,
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  deliver us from evil for yours is the kingdom the power and the glory forever.
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  Music.
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  In Jesus name we pray Amen.
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  Have a great day and never forget, have faith, let it begin.
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  Tomorrow's episode is very powerful.
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  It's about an individual who is being told that they cannot do a baptism photograph,
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  because they live a lifestyle that some people don't agree with.
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  And now the church will refuse to do that. And that to me is unacceptable.
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  Music.