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Autism Sensory Survival for Social Events · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  Hey guys, this is my Autism Century Survival for Social
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  Events guide. This is going to be everything
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  we'll need to help prepare you and get you through those
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  horrible social situations that come awkward and potentially
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  triggering. Let's get into it guys.
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  Welcome back to the Ask Me world.
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  What is going on? My name is Dan, I have autism,
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  ADHD, and I make weekly videos all about the stuff because I'm
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  passionate about helping improve the lives of autistic people.
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  So if you want to come along for this journey with me, help
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  empower other people. Make sure to hear subscribe.
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  videos every day. OK stuff, Autism Century
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  survival. Now, you know there's different
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  times of year that come up. You know, we're we're
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  approaching the holidays, we're approaching different types of
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  things. There's going to be parties,
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  family gear togethers, events to go to like school events, plays,
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  outings, festivals, you name it. All the stuff happens over the
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  holidays between November and December.
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  It's packed. There's all kinds of stuff going
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  on. So I'm here to help you digest
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  and create some kind of landscape of how you can
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  actually do this. So I've actually written down 10
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  things that you can really take into consideration when you're
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  trying to survive these social events, especially for century
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  people. Right.
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  So the first thing on the top of the year is plan and prepare.
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  Now preparation is key. If you can prepare, you know
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  what to do. Like, I'm going to take this for
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  me and say what we mean. I'm going to make sure that I've
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  got backup food if I need to eat, in case the food there I
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  don't agree with or something like that.
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  You've got a taxi book or you've got friends to take you home.
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  You know exactly what you're going to do in that situation.
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  If you plan ahead and you prepare for some eventualities,
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  like I call it the ABC list. So you have Plan A, Plan B, and
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  Plan C, you know, always one of those are going to work.
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  If all will fail, then I'm sorry, you can come back and
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  kick my butt on this video. But typically, if Plan A fails,
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  Plan B will always work in fun. B fails and plus he will be the
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  one you take. The next one is using calming
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  techniques. When you're in a social
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  situation, when you're in a crowded social event, it's
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  always difficult to kind of keep your calm.
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  I get super anxious about everything.
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  But when you're in a social event like that, it's hard to
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  maintain your stability. So I would say using calming
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  techniques. Now, my best one is to breathe
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  in, hold your breath. You can breathe out.
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  If you can do that five times, you win every time.
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  And I'm telling you now, no matter where you are, what
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  you're doing, if you could just hold your breath for a minute
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  and then breathe out just at least three times what I'd say
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  to do five times, you're instantly calming yourself down
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  and really reduce a lot of that anxiety.
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  So #4 is kind of like a no brainer.
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  I love this one, but it's dressing comfortably.
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  When I go anywhere, I dress for comfort and ease of me.
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  I don't dress to oppress anybody because I don't care what I look
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  like to anybody. I just want to be able to
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  survive that situation. So if I'm going to a party or
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  something, if I'm going on a plane, I'll just dress in
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  pajamas. I don't care because, like, I
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  want to be comfortable. Don't be Century Trigger by
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  wearing jeans. And I don't wear jeans.
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  Or if I wearing like a tuxedo, like, no way, no way.
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  Jose, if I go to weddings, I'm wearing trainers.
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  I don't have a tie on. You know, I'm wearing a baseball
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  Catholic. I have to be super, super comfy
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  to be able to relax and survive the situation and so should you.
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  You come first. New number one, make sure you do
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  that. But these #5 is remembering to
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  bring headphones or earplugs. You know, headphones are
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  amazing. I love noise cancelling.
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  Headphones is the Apple ones, but you can get a whole bunch of
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  ones. I use the Bose ones for years
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  and years and you can also get the small Airpod ones a bit more
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  discreet, like the small Apple in ear ones.
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  They're amazing because they got like a noise cancellation
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  feature on them which is just fantastic.
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  So always remember to bring headphones with you because if
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  it's getting too loud, just put those bad boys on, you win.
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  video. OK, so number six is planning
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  for breaks, making sure you take small interval breaks.
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  That means going outside the party, getting out to fresh air,
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  getting out to a quiet room. It could even just be going to
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  the bathroom for a break. It's just giving yourself a
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  sensory break or a buffer of sensory deregulation so you can
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  just kind of decompress a bit and then go back to the chaos.
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  It's like if you break it up like that, things become way
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  more manageable and you're not getting overloaded the whole
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  time. You have a a decompression tile
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  and you can recuperate as and when you feel like it.
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  Very interesting. OK, so #7 is visual schedules.
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  If you're, you know, going to an event.
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  And there's a lot of things to do.
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  Like sometimes I work with Google and YouTube and MIT and
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  stuff like that and other types of charities, and we'll go to an
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  event and they'll be like dinner and then a presentation and then
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  something else. And then we'll have to have
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  speeches. And there's a lot of stuff going
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  on and I get really confused with things like that.
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  So if I write it down and draw it down and make it more visual,
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  and then I have a visual planner, a visual expectation of
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  what's going to happen on that day, I'm either you just get
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  emojis or gifts and I just put them into a Word document.
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  I just book or go to Google Docs, just put them in there and
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  say time, you know, this is what's happening.
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  Picture of dinner. You know, that makes everything
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  way more manageable because I can see what's happening, of a
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  visual representation of where I expect to happen.
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  And that's so cool. OK, so Miller 8 is practicing
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  social script. Now.
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  Scripting is really interesting because I use this a lot before
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  I go anywhere, before I do anything.
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  I go over and over and over in my head.
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  What I want to sound like. How do I want to come across?
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  Am I going to sound like I'm saying what I want to say?
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  And anyway, to do this comfortably is to make sure that
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  you know in your head what you're going to do with social
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  situation. Hey, I'm done.
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  This is what I do. Nice to meet you.
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  OK? We've all see the next people.
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  This whole kind of like idea of socializing in parties is kind
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  of just a small thing of getting to know people on networking and
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  maybe just relaxing. So I would always practice
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  social scripts. Maybe have two we have one
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  follow one info. And what I mean by that is one
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  for like people who you know you are, Be friends with and people
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  who you want to maybe, I don't know, partner up with or network
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  with super important and it's great.
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  And also it's kind of like a business building tip as well.
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  If you're an entrepreneur or a self-employed person, #9 is no
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  brainer, which is bringing a support person with you.
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  Now I don't really go anywhere alone.
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  I always have an assistant with me because it's really good to
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  have someone to kind of bounce ideas off or talk to you.
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  If you're kind of getting a bit freaked out or you need to do
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  something, you know, you should refer to them and say, hey dude,
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  you help me out, I need some help because I'm feeling like
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  this. Both people are amazing.
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  Always ask a family or friend to come with you and you just wait.
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  It's super awesome. Last but no means least, make
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  sure to focus on having fun. Enjoy yourself, relax.
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  This is your time to kind of hang out, see people maybe
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  making new friends. It's always important to have
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  the bigger picture in mind and the bigger picture is that just
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  enjoy yourself. This is your life.
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  Enjoy it guys. If you think this is awesome,
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  please give it a thumbs up and share.
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  Or social media if you think you can help someone, drop me a
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  comment and read every single one if you want to tell me
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  something. All right, see you in the next
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  video guys. Peace.