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Understanding Discipline Self-Control & Consistency: (S5) S23:E3 Monday · Inspirations for Your Life

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Welcome everyone to Master Building Your Life with
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Discipline, Growth, and Ownership.
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This is season or series five.
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It's show 23, and it's episode number three.
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This is more than a show.
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This has become a standard for people, a
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way of life.
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Hey, I'm John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer,
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podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student, and
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a proud, passionate, lifelong learner and a very
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grateful author.
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But beyond titles, I'm someone who believes that
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your life is built by what you do
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consistently, not occasionally.
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Today, I'm diving into one of the most
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powerful forces that determine success or failure.
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What is it?
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Discipline.
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It's not motivation.
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It's not luck.
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It is discipline.
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Because you see, motivation fades, feelings change, but
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discipline stays with us through the thick and
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the thin.
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Discipline, ladies and gentlemen, is what gets you
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up in the morning when you do not
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feel like it.
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It's what keeps you focused when distractions are
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everywhere.
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It's what separates people who talk about success
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from those who actually live it.
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Yeah, there's a concept.
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Self-control and consistency are the foundation of
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everything meaningful you want to build.
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Without them, goals remain ideas.
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With them, ideas actually become a reality we
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can celebrate.
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So today, I'm going to challenge you to
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take ownership, to raise your standards, and commit
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to small actions that shape your future.
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Are you ready?
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Let's break it down together.
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Number one, wake up with a purpose and
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stick to a routine.
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When you wake up with intention, you control
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your day instead of reacting to it.
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A strong routine builds stability and sets the
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tone for consistent success.
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What do I do?
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You guys know I did the paper for
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a while, but I also have moved to
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the electronic version because when you get things
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off the paper, you actually stress less because
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it's just all there.
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All right?
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I think a lot of people say, oh,
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John, that's a lot of work.
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But I got to tell you, looking at
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that sheet and saying, oh, gee, I did
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this, I did that, that's a great feeling.
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I mean, just going on to my Google
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Calendar or whatever calendar you guys want to
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use, it's totally up to you.
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But I can tell you that going on
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to my digital calendar every day, which I
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do several times a day, and so there
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was a task I did before.
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So what I do is I go over
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to that task that I was working on,
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and then all I do is I click
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the little button there, like there was a
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post I did this morning, I'll click on
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that, and there it goes.
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There's another thing I did, and I could
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see that's gone too.
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So pretty cool, right?
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Really, really cool.
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But this happens because of discipline.
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That's why it happens.
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Okay?
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That's why it happens.
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So number two, guys, do hard things first
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and avoid procrastination.
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You see, the longer you delay difficult tasks,
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the heavier they become.
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Tackle them early and you build confidence, momentum,
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and mental strength.
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Some people are waiting for things to be
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handed to them, but they don't actually take
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the action, and then they're wondering why they're
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in the same spot they were before.
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I'm going to tell you, because you're just
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hoping, not taking any action.
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Pretty cool, right?
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I think a lot of people get stuck
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sometimes, and I think what happens is when
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you realize you're not going where you want
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to go, all right?
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You can do one of two things.
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You can complain, or you can take action
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and you can fix it, right?
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You know something's not working, so you've got
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to change.
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Number three, guys, control impulses and limit distractions.
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Every distraction steals time from your future, everyone,
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even the small ones.
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Discipline means choosing what matters most over what
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feels easy to the moment.
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And I know we all want things that
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are easy, right?
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Things that are so easy and simple.
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But when we really understand this, it comes
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down to the fact that when we have
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discipline and we win, the dopamine in our
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brain kicks up more, and we want to
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do more of this.
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It's like a natural drug that's in our
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body, and it propels us forward, and that's
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pretty powerful, guys.
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Number four, build strong habits and eliminate the
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weak ones.
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Your habits are your system.
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Strong habits push you forward automatically, while the
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weak ones, they quietly hold you back.
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And sometimes it shows up where people say,
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you know, just let him be, let her
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be.
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But letting somebody be in the way that
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they can just be the same way and
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keep getting the same results, you know, when
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we think about change, Einstein said something a
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long time ago, doing the same thing over
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and over again and expecting different results, that
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is insanity.
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So why are we doing that?
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Why?
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Why are we doing that?
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There's no need for it.
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Number five, track progress and stay consistent daily.
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What gets measured improves.
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I've said that before.
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When you track your actions, you stay accountable
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and can clearly see your growth over time.
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That's what marketing companies do, advertising companies do,
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customer service teams do.
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They look at things over time and they
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track them.
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Number six, finish what you start and stay
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committed.
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Starting is easy.
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Finishing is where discipline lives.
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Following through builds trust with yourself and strengthens
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your identity.
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See, guys, this is how real growth happens,
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not overnight, not instantaneously, but through daily consistent
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small actions.
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Through these small actions, repeated with intention, focus,
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and discipline, you do not need to be
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perfect.
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Let's get that out of the way.
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You need to be consistent because when you
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take ownership of your actions, control your habits,
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and commit to improving every single day, you
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begin to build a life that reflects your
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highest potential.
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This is your moment to step up, stay
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focused, stay disciplined, and keep building.
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I think a lot of times when people
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hear these things, they're just like, how do
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I do this stuff?
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Like, how am I supposed to move forward?
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And I know this can be a very,
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very big problem for everybody, a very, very
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big problem.
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And I know you're saying to me, John,
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this doesn't make sense, right?
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Doesn't make sense.
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And you're probably saying to me, John, it
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doesn't make sense, but then how do I
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change it?
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How do I become different?
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I think this comes down to an awareness,
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guys, an awareness.
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That's where it comes down to, an awareness,
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right?
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So we know how to control impulses.
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Not every urge deserves an action, right?
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I think that's hard for some people to
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realize because they think that you have to
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respond, but sometimes in responding, we're actually responding
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wrong, right?
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I know that can get people really, how
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can I say, a little bit crazed up
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if I do say so myself.
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So that's important to actually understand.
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Number six, guys, finish what you start and
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stay committed.
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Starting is easy, as I said, but it's
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the finishing, the finishing that makes life hard.
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Not that you can't do it, not that
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it's not possible, but you find ways to
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not want to do it because you're procrastinating,
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right?
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I think that's hard for a lot of
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people to admit to procrastinating, even to themselves.
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They don't want to admit that.
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So as I said, Einstein said, if you
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do the same thing over and over again
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and you expect different results, that is insanity.
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That's insanity.
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So let's stop doing that, right?
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Let us stop doing that.
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And when we stop doing that, we'll start
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to move in a positive direction.
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We'll start to become aware of those things
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that maybe were there the whole time, but
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for whatever reason, we just decided to dismiss
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them, to not pay attention to them.
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When those were the keys that we needed
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to become successful.
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Think about that for a moment.
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The keys are already in you, but sometimes
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you just let them go.
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You dismiss them like they have no validity.
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And I know that's hard for a lot
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of people to understand, but if you're at
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the same place that you've been for a
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long time, then I think this advice might
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actually pay off for you.
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You need consistency, okay?
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And you need discipline.
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That's what you need.
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That'll help you build the strong habits, right?
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And your habits become that system.
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They'll push you forward automatically while the weak
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ones try to hold you back.
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Track your progress and stay consistent.
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As I said, let's measure things.
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What gets measured can get changed, all right?
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That's important.
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And I know you don't wanna finish things,
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but it's important to finish.
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See, that's where success lives, when it gets
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hard.
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The next time it becomes a little bit
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easier, a little bit easier than it was
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before.
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Ladies and gentlemen, avoid procrastination.
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Delaying tasks increases stress.
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We know this.
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Taking action immediately builds confidence and clarity.
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So I want you to focus on priorities.
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Not everything matters equally.
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Identify what moves your life forward and give
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it your true energy.
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I think sometimes we don't go somewhere because
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somebody else says, oh, that's not gonna work.
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But that's for them, that's not for you.
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They shouldn't be telling you what you should
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or shouldn't be doing.
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That's you, that's your mind, that's your body.
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A lot of people allow others to put
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them into the state where they basically, well,
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sabotage themselves.
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And they don't even know they're doing it.
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They think they're trying to help them, but
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really they're not.
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And they're not doing it intentionally.
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They think they're giving good advice, but they're
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really not.
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Number 17, set boundaries.
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Protect your time and your energy.
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Saying no is often more powerful than saying
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yes.
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Because you see, when you say no to
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some things, you're actually saying yes to yourself.
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That's a powerful thing, guys.
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A very, very powerful thing.
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But I know a lot of you are
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gonna write this off and say, oh, John,
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it doesn't matter.
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It does matter.
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It matters a lot.
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Number 18, limit distractions.
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Distractions will always destroy the focus, regardless of
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how small or big they are.
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Create an environment that supports deep, uninterrupted work.
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Yeah, there's a concept.
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Number 19, build strong habits.
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Success is automated through habits.
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Build routines that work for you, not against
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you, all right?
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I think that's an important one for us
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to understand.
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Eliminate the weak habits, guys.
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Small bad habits compound over time.
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Identify and remove what holds you back right
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now.
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Stay consistent daily.
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Consistency beats intensity.
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Small actions done daily create lasting change.
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Follow-through, doing what you say builds self
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-trust.
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Without follow-through, goals remain ideas.
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And people, well, they kind of lose hope
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in you.
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They lose faith in you.
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Do what you said.
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Keep the promises to yourself.
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Integrity with yourself is one thing.
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But when you destroy it with others, that
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could be even worse.
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Stay organized, guys.
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Clarity creates efficiency.
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Organization helps you move faster with less stress.
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So why do we wanna move slower with
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more stress?
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Like, that doesn't seem to make a lot
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of sense that people do it.
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Respect your time.
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Your time is limited.
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Use it wisely and invest it where it
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matters most, okay?
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Where it matters most.
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And if you don't know where it matters
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most, you gotta figure out what's important in
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your life.
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I can't tell you that.
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You have to figure out what's important in
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your life and act upon it.
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Respect other's time.
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Being disciplined includes valuing others.
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Punctuality and preparation.
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Show respect.
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Had a client, oh, many, many years ago.
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The lady's not in business anymore.
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It was a medical company.
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And her company was supposed to open at,
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let's say we were meeting in the morning.
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It was nine o'clock.
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At this time, she didn't have any employees.
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And I come to her house, so it
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was no big deal because she was there.
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But a year or two later, when she
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grew her business, she thought it was okay
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to dismiss punctuality.
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I'm busy, I'm making money, I don't have
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time to be on time.
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So she did this to me once or
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twice.
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And the next time she did this, she
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got a bill.
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For the whole two hours, I waited for
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her.
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She almost had a heart attack.
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I said, when you tell me to come
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and to wait for you, I do.
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But the clock starts the moment I get
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in your door.
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I don't charge you travel time, but my
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clock starts billing you the moment I step
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in your door.
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Well, she was never late again.
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Avoid the shortcuts, guys.
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Shortcuts often cost more in the long run.
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They seem like an easy way, but they're
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not.
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Build it right, even if it takes longer
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to do, because chances are next time you
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won't have to do it.
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It'll be built solid.
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I'll give you another example.
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So this chair that I'm sitting on, and
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some of you might recall the story from
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several months ago, I was going to do
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the show, and all of a sudden, I
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was going to get on the chair, and
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the chair literally went down to the ground.
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Now, I knew the chair was going down,
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so I held the desk, and I kind
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of braced myself as the chair was going
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down.
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And the thing is, for about a year
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or two, I would tighten things up, but
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nothing was working.
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And we kept getting carpenters, and nobody knew
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what they were doing.
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And I knew that we had to put
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something in the chair to hold it, but
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everybody said, oh, that's not possible.
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Well, this guy knew exactly the type of
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bolt or flange that had to be put
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in there.
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And I got to tell you, and after
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I wiggle on the chair, the chair is
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stable.
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And he fixed the chair, let's see.
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We're in June right now.
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He fixed it around the 18th of April.
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So April 18th, April to May, May to
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June.
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We're almost two months.
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We've had a month.
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Normally, the chair would start falling apart in
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a month.
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I would say if the chair doesn't wiggle
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within six months, we're probably good.
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Stay committed, guys.
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Commitment keeps you moving when excitement fades.
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It is the backbone of the discipline engine.
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Track your progress.
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Measurement creates awareness.
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Awareness drives improvement and accountability.
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When we know that we're going to be
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accountable for something, we take more time.
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When other people know that they're going to
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be accountable for something, they're more conscientious, aren't
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they?
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Stay focused, guys.
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Under pressure, pressure reveals discipline.
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Stay calm, think clearly, and execute.
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If something's not right, do it again, right?
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When we know we made a mistake, there's
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no harm in redoing something.
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How many times have you done a job
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for a client, maybe, and something went wrong?
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Do you pass that off like that?
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No, you fix it.
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Even though you're like, they may never catch
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it, it's a reputation, it's an image.
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I'm not here to do shoddy work.
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A lot of people think they should just
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collect the gold and don't worry about it
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because nobody will ever figure it out.
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That's important to know.
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Build mental toughness.
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Growth requires resilience.
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Train your mind to handle challenges without quitting.
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I know that sounds like an impossibility, but
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trust me, ladies and gentlemen, you can do
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it.
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It's not gonna be easy, but I have
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faith in you that you can do it.
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Show up.
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Regardless of your mood, feelings are temporary.
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Discipline means showing up even when you don't
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feel like it.
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That's what successful people do.
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We all have feelings, we all have emotions,
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but we do what we need to do
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regardless of our feelings or emotions.
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Avoid burnout, guys.
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I should know, I wrote a book on
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it.
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Through structure, balance effort with recovery.
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Structure prevents exhaustion and it sustains performance.
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And you know what it also does?
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It actually gives us freedom.
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I think that's important to understand.
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And when you understand that, you know there's
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more.
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You have to realize what you're doing and
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you have to understand why you're doing it.
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I've said this to people many times.
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If you can't do what you want, it's
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because your why is not loud enough.
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I don't mean you're not screaming.
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I mean the reason, the passion behind what
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you're doing is not strong enough.
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It's not strong enough.
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It means something very, very important.
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Something that maybe you didn't know about.
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Something that maybe you were afraid to talk
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about, maybe.
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And I can tell you guys that a
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lot of times when you're at the cliff
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of doing something and you can't, it's not
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because you can't do it.
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It's because you sabotage yourself.
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You said to yourself, I can't.
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I tell clients this all the time.
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Just like Henry Ford said, if you believe
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you can't, you're right.
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If you believe you can, you're also right.
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So our words in our mind and what
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comes out of our lips affect our reality.
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It changes our chemical makeup at the moment.
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Take breaks intentionally.
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Rest is productive when planned.
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It helps you recharge and stay sharp.
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I'll give you an example.
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I was doing a hike with the guys
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the other day and I had an early
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morning.
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I started early.
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I didn't take a shower in the morning.
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I had breakfast, something light.
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And then I got out to the trail
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and I was there from about 10 30
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in the morning.
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I don't think I finished till 3 45.
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Then I went for a nice, what was
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it?
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It was a burrito.
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Actually, no, it was just a salad.
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It was what was in a burrito, but
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it was in a salad.
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Came home, took a shower.
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And I said to myself, you know what,
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John?
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I need to take a nap.
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I did a few things, took a two
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hour nap and I powered right through the
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rest of the evening.
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See, when you respect yourself like that, then
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I went to bed and I kept getting
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up every couple of hours.
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My body had plenty of energy.
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You know what, gentlemen?
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Another thing I want to tell you is
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finish what you start.
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You see, completion builds momentum.
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And a lot of people I know start
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something great but they never finish it.
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They give them some excuse, right?
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Is it time?
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Is it money?
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Is it knowledge?
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Any one of those can be resolved.
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Every finished task strengthens your discipline.
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Every finished task.
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Avoid overloading yourself.
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See, too much leads to inconsistency.
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Focus on what you can execute well.
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Stay disciplined in small things.
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Small actions define you.
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Discipline in little things leads to grand results.
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Build routines stably.
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Stability creates reliability.
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A stable routine keeps you progressing steadily.
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It's not about trying to be a hero.
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It's about doing something consistently every single day.
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Consistency and structure.
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You do it the same way every day
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and you're consistently doing it daily.
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Repeat, guys, what works.
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Success leaves clues.
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Identify what works and do it again and
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again consistently.
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Don't burn out.
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End strong.
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How you finish matters.
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Strong endings build confidence and prepare you for
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the next day.
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And the feeling you get, oh my gosh,
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it's incredible.
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You know, finishing that hike, coming back even
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though I was tired, I felt great.
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And that's what propels me back to do
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it again.
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Now, I've disciplined to do it, but I
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love the feeling, that tired feeling, that I
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get after the hike.
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It's a tired feeling, but it's a little
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bit of a rejuvenation as well.
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And ladies and gentlemen, this is how real
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success is built.
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It's not a magic formula, all right?
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There's work.
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Not in one moment, but in thousands of
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small, disciplined actions repeated daily.
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That's the key to success.
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Pretty easy, right?
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Why don't people do it?
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People don't have structure.
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People don't wanna be consistent.
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They think they're being boring.
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Take ownership, ladies and gentlemen.
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Stay consistent in your lives.
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Build your life with, what am I gonna
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say?
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Purpose.
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We have core values in our lives.
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Everything we do should align to our core
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values.
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If it does, that gives our life purpose
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and it gives us meaning, and it makes
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our why loud enough so we will do
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more things in life.
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We will do more things in life.
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And when that happens, it's like, oh my
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gosh, I have this amazing understanding now that
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I didn't know was even there before, right?
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And that's something that a lot of people
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don't realize.
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They don't realize that they've had the power,
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they've had the energy, that they've had everything
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they needed all along.
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You know what they needed?
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They needed belief.
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They needed the desire to really come up
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with discipline and consistency.
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And when you do that, your life is
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sure to change.
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Because ladies and gentlemen, discipline always wins, regardless
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of what other people tell you.
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Discipline's not overrated.
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Growth mindsets, own your life, success happens.
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And let's level up daily, everyone.
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Have a great one, be well, and check
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out BelieveMeAchieved.com.
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And let's start becoming successful.
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