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Spouse Socials · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for American mama's. Dear mama's, do
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  Speaker 1: you think your spouse should have access to your social
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  Speaker 1: media accounts? Well, let's ask our American mamas.
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  Speaker 2: And joining us now.
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  Speaker 1: Our American mama is Terry Neediville and Kimberly Burlison. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: y'all both have social media. I don't think Kevin does.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think. I don't think I've seen Mike does
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  Speaker 2: he have social media?
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  Speaker 3: He does, but he's mostly a gamer on his phone games.
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  Speaker 2: All right, so he's not really involved.
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  Speaker 3: No, no, all right.
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  Speaker 1: So do they have access to your social medicause both
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  Speaker 1: of y'all are very active on social media?
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  Speaker 3: They he could. I don't care. He knows my passwords, okay,
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  Speaker 3: you know, and sometimes he's gotten in my phone because
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  Speaker 3: he's looking for something and it doesn't bother me. I'm
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  Speaker 3: sure you probably do feel the same way.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't mind at all. I'm just thinking I
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  Speaker 4: don't remember my password. I had to change it a
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  Speaker 4: couple of time. So if i'm out, if I get
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  Speaker 4: out of Facebook somehow, I don't remember.
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  Speaker 3: You're excited if he can get into it, Yeah, if.
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  Speaker 4: He can figure it out, figure it out, but he'll
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  Speaker 4: say I'll show him like, you know, look at this
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  Speaker 4: with this. There's a time here that I was like,
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  Speaker 4: just get a just get your I'm telling you you'll
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  Speaker 4: have fun.
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  Speaker 2: You'lleah.
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah.
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  Speaker 4: He's like, that's I'm not interested at all. If I
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  Speaker 4: need to know something, I'll ask you. And so, yeah,
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  Speaker 4: I would have zero problem with him looking at my Facebook.
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  Speaker 3: Have y'all seen that TikToker? So this guy he walks
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  Speaker 3: in malls or he's at like State Bears or whatever,
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  Speaker 3: and he stops couples and he asks that they're a couple,
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  Speaker 3: and then he says, how long have you been together? Yes,
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  Speaker 3: he's seen it, and so I've seen it where they've
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  Speaker 3: been together for two years but also married couples like
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  Speaker 3: twenty five years. And he'll say, do y'all trust each other?
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  Speaker 3: And they'll like, oh yeah, absolutely absolutely. He goes, would
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  Speaker 3: you give me your phone so I can see do
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  Speaker 3: that test? And you always in the ones he shows,
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  Speaker 3: there's one that just has that look on their face
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  Speaker 3: like oh gosh, so and always there's one like oh yeah,
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  Speaker 3: here you go. So he looks at their phones and
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  Speaker 3: he starts whatever he does. He starts scrolling through things
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  Speaker 3: like the apps, like apps, He'll go through apps and
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  Speaker 3: he'll say who is Travis and he'll and the husband
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  Speaker 3: will say what. So you see where things fall apart
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  Speaker 3: right in front of your eyes on these little tiktoks.
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  Speaker 3: And I have been shocked at the number of people
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  Speaker 3: that are not doing the right thing, that are talking
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  Speaker 3: to other people behind their person's back.
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  Speaker 2: That's wow.
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  Speaker 4: And or they'll be on that on a dating app
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  Speaker 4: that's for cheaters, and that is devastating to the person
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  Speaker 4: that's like, you know, in fact, some of them have
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  Speaker 4: broken up at that at that moment.
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  Speaker 2: Moment the spot. I would think if you had a
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  Speaker 2: dating app che your phone, yeah, that would be it. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: you know what.
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  Speaker 3: I think one of the signs and people have talked
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  Speaker 3: about this if you have your cell phone and your
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  Speaker 3: spouse and you go to look at their phone and
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  Speaker 3: they like act weird, like what are you looking? What
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  Speaker 3: do you want? Why do you want my phone? That's
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  Speaker 3: a red flag.
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  Speaker 4: You know.
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  Speaker 3: If if my husband wanted to look at my phone,
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  Speaker 3: he can look at it anytime. There's my phone, open it.
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  Speaker 4: Do whatever. Kevin and my kids use my phone all
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  Speaker 4: the time. They'll grab it to get photos and stuff
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  Speaker 4: all the time. It's like the family phone, you know.
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  Speaker 1: Actually, just the other night, Wendy picked up my phone
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  Speaker 1: and all of a sudden, a Group met text comes
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  Speaker 1: in and she goes, wait, you're on Group me, and
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  Speaker 1: I go, actually, it's the Alter Ministry group up at church.
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  Speaker 1: They're asking for prayers for people, and so I have that.
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  Speaker 1: I don't like Group me, but I'm on that because
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  Speaker 1: of that, And sure enough comes the next thing comes in,
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  Speaker 1: Would you.
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  Speaker 2: Pray for this guy? He's got that? And she's like, oh, no,
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  Speaker 2: that's fine. But I was like, that's like an app
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  Speaker 2: she didn't know I had, but she had my phone.
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  Speaker 2: I don't care.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, all right, So let me ask another question,
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  Speaker 1: because Wendy and I about the time that she saw
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  Speaker 1: the group Met thing come up, we had this other
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  Speaker 1: conversation about bank accounts, about having separate bank accounts. Do
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  Speaker 1: you think couples should have separate bank account I mean,
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  Speaker 1: if they should be able to have access to everything
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  Speaker 1: on their phone, does that include the bank account.
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  Speaker 3: We always had a separate bank account for many years
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  Speaker 3: while I worked, and then when I stopped working, we
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  Speaker 3: had a joint checking account. We deal with money very differently,
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  Speaker 3: and it is not easy. I'm freer with money, huh,
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  Speaker 3: you know, with sending it to the kids if they
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  Speaker 3: need something, and he is tight. Yeah, and so this
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  Speaker 3: is interesting. This just happened this week. So Shane was
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  Speaker 3: texting me Mom, I need some money. Can you send
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  Speaker 3: me some money? And she's like, I'm scared. I don't
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  Speaker 3: want to ask dad. I don't want dad, you know.
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  Speaker 3: So I'm texting her, Yes, I'm just gonna send you
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  Speaker 3: some money. Just don't say anything. The only time in
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  Speaker 3: my entire marriage that Mike has wanted to she had
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  Speaker 3: sent me pictures and said, oh, Shane sent me the
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  Speaker 3: cutest pictures. He goes, let me see.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, oh gosh.
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  Speaker 3: So I handed my phone and he goes, can I
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  Speaker 3: read the messages? And I went sure, here we go,
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  Speaker 3: Here we go, and he reads the messages and he goes,
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  Speaker 3: are you kidding me? How much did you send her?
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  Speaker 4: Oh? My god?
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  Speaker 3: The one time?
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  Speaker 4: The one time. Yeah, that is hilariously.
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  Speaker 2: So if that had happened in them all with the guy, yeah.
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  Speaker 4: That's what you'd be worried about. Just don't show them.
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  Speaker 2: The one with my kids.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, we're her husband's so freaking tight. I don't know,
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  Speaker 4: you know, because we've we've had a joint ever since.
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  Speaker 4: But I mean, you might as well just sit it's
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  Speaker 4: Kevin's because I'd say, Hey, I'm gonna I would like
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  Speaker 4: to buy a new rug? Is that okay with you?
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  Speaker 1: You know, that's how it is, you know, for Wendy Night,
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  Speaker 1: it's always We've always had a checking account. When we
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  Speaker 1: were first married, she was the one who managed all
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  Speaker 1: the money, and then, uh, now I'm the one who
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  Speaker 1: manages all the money. And I don't remember why that
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  Speaker 1: switched or when that switched, but it definitely switched. But
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  Speaker 1: we've always had a joint checking account. But we've always
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  Speaker 1: discussed big purchases together. Yeah, so we've always had the
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  Speaker 1: same mindset about money. So that's been a little bit
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  Speaker 1: easier for us. But we've had several friends who had
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  Speaker 1: separate checking accounts and they ended up with separate last names.
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  Speaker 2: Oh god, wow, Well are are we ended in one?
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  Speaker 2: Go ahead real quick?
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  Speaker 4: I was just gonna I don't even know what I
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  Speaker 4: was gonna say.
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