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Are Olympic Athletes Born or Created? with Angela Kelly · Authentic Living

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  Welcome to authentic living with Roxanne, a place where we conscious conversations about
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  things that really matter in our lives.
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  And now here's your host, Roxanne Derhodge.
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  Sandra, let's let's just kinda jump into this whole concept of, that athlete athletes are
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  created.
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  You know, I'm gonna assume and the the Brian is how old now.
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  28, twenty eight years old.
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  And when did you kind of first see?
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  Now I know with your background, you were an athlete going up and, you went to things like
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  officer, which is the Ontario, kind of regionals for running.
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  So I'm gonna say that wasn't her blood to begin with.
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  Yes.
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  So at some point, she started to demonstrate a skill.
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  So when when was that?
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  That she started to kind of show the the ability to, to run or even had, you know, show
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  that you wanted to be an athlete.
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  We tried many different sports with Mariah, but nothing seemed to fit for her her personality,
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  her style.
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  So it was in, we would always do a little running ourselves as a family, and, she always
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  participated in that.
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  And there was a when she was at Notre Dame, which was a grade school, in the area.
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  So you're saying that, she showed acumen, not until she was about fourteen years old.
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  Actually, younger than that.
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  Around 12.
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  Around 12.
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  Okay.
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  Around 12 years Okay.
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  So you'd go on your little family runs.
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  I remember when we would go walking, or you'd say she would go on her roller blade.
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  She would give up, and you would keep running.
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  Yes.
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  And that was probably when she was a little bit younger.
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  Yes.
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  Okay.
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  So you're saying that there's she started to demonstrate something that said there was more.
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  Well, she always wanted to be good at something, and she would always talk.
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  What do I need to do?
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  What do I need to do to be the best at this?
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  So running was something that I said, you know, you have some natural talent in running.
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  Why don't you think about pursuing that?
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  So at 12, she competed at the Notre Dame Delegienes against all of the children there,
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  all grades, 7 and 8.
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  And she actually won the cross country meet.
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  So that was enough to instill the confidence she needed and be, you know, to allow her to
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  feel that, yeah, this is something I can do.
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  And by the time we got into grade 9, we had signed up with a local trackbook, Niagara
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  Regional Athletics.
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  And she was committed to making the Olympics at some point.
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  So she's been talking about making the Olympics since she was fifteen years old.
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  Wow.
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  That's pretty amazing.
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  Right?
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  So she's she had it in her.
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  I would say genetically from some from you guys running and you being going off and doing
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  regionals yourself.
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  And at some point, she decided I'm into it, and then she wants to go to the Olympics.
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  Was there ever talk about that when you were growing up and you were running?
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  Absolutely.
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  I was, I was third in all Canada or the 8 1500 meter.
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  And there was talk.
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  I was in grade 9 at the time, and there was talk of me, you know, going off for the summers
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  and competing at a higher level internationally in the US and throughout Canada.
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  And, my parents weren't quite sure if that was a good idea.
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  For me.
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  And at 15 or 14, the age I was, I wasn't really able to make that decision either.
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  So, I I don't regret not pursuing it, but in my cards, it just didn't play out, but I had the
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  town I had coaches and and schools looking at me also in grade 910 about going away to
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  compete.
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  So, yeah, there was some, you know, genetics that she gained, but I think what she had that
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  most athletes at this level, displayed as she had that innate ability to commit and do
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  whatever it took to make it.
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  And she believed that she could do it.
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  Let's talk about those that innate ability.
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  Right?
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  So what does that look like?
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  Like, she starts running.
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  Obviously, she I mean, she's talented.
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  She's she's she's slender.
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  She's longer.
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  She's got the record of physique.
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  So when you see any ability to kind of commit, what what does that look like?
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  It's never giving up.
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  Like, there's lots of setbacks in a sport like the 1500 meter, which is what she is
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  specializing in now.
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  It's only you you can look at when you fail or when you have setbacks.
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  There's no one else.
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  In a team, you have the whole team behind you in in running or track and field.
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  It's only you.
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  So she just demonstrated the ability, what do I need to do?
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  Tell me what I need to do, and I will do it.
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  And she did.
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  Everything that she was told, she did.
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  She left nothing to chance.
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  And she slowly started to succeed.
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  The other thing I think she, displayed was the belief that she could overtake her opponents.
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  So she'd look at someone like, that was way better than her and say next year, I'm gonna
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  get her.
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  And the following year, she'd be way ahead of this this young lady that she was competing
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  with.
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  So that that whole concept of of seeing it in your mind.
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  Yes.
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  Right?
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  Is something that she sounded that she did very well, very young.
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  Was that her personality
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  all her life?
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  Yeah.
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  Always.
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  Okay.
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  So tell me what she was like as a little girl.
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  Well, whatever she set her mind to, she would do.
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  She just asked, how do I need what do I need to do to accomplish this?
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  How will this be if I if I get to this level?
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  And we always instilled in her if you believe and you try, you will succeed.
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  Right?
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  So I think that's, something that's important and and and neatly believing that because
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  sometimes you can say that to children, they they don't believe it.
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  She really did believe that if she put in the hard work and she did everything she was
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  supposed to, that she would succeed.
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  So let's talk about some of these traits you're referring too.
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  The that there's certain, like you said, athletes are created.
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  They're not born.
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  And that said, I wanna say she had to have certain genetics.
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  Like we said, she may have gained from you.
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  She obviously had the right environment that said, hey.
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  You know, if you can see it, you can you can do it, but it's gonna take a whole lot of hard
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  work.
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  And, and, I mean, I know I follow her on Instagram and Facebook, and I see what it
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  takes.
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  You know, and and it's ongoing, you know, day in, day out and and the sacrifice that she's
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  had to make.
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  But so what are some of the qualities that you said These athletes or people like Mariah have.
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  I think it's they have to have confidence, and the confidence comes from their success.
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  From that, they have to have a strong sense of motivation.
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  There are times where she puts way more effort in what she gets back out of it, meaning that,
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  you know, her her workouts translate into a certain performance, and then it doesn't ever
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  not ever.
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  Sorry.
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  It sometimes doesn't show when it should on the track.
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  Mhmm.
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  So dealing with that setback and having to analyze and look at where you can do things
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  differently.
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  Think being able to receive criticism or being coachable you can never get to a level where
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  you're not coachable.
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  You always need to be able to improve.
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  I think the other thing is, having that inner desire to succeed and she's demonstrating the
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  that most of her life, she's never gonna be a failure.
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  She was never going to fill anything she ever put her mind to, she was successful at.
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  Another example is academically, we put her in an all French school from Junior kindergarten
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  to grade 8.
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  She ended up being fluent in French.
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  She was the valedictorian of that school.
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  So you know, all the challenges that we presented to her, she overcame with some
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  setbacks and, of course, some, you know, difficult trying times, but believed in what
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  sorry.
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  She was trying to accomplish.
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  I think they have to be a natural goal center, and she was always very good at that.
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  In fact, I still have her 4 year plan when she was fifteen to get to the Olympics and what she
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  had to do and every step of the way and the things that
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  she had to take Well, did she have, like, a journal or a log of just journaling?
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  And she also had a poster of Robert bed where she laid out the time frame.
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  With all the steps.
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  All the steps.
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  Wow.
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  Yeah.
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  So it's so funny because I, obviously, you know, RJ gulfs that that's also something that
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  he does.
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  And you know, I would see on his desk at night, he would talk about what he did that day and
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  what he was going to try to achieve that day.
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  So it's interesting.
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  Because that was not something that I ever taught him or he was really exposed to at a
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  young age.
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  Right.
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  You know?
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  And I think that's something that you see in these elite athletes some self disciplines,
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  another one that she's had to make many decisions and be disciplined, when everyone
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  else in her age group or out, you know, drinking and partying.
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  She she would go along, but come home early because she knew she had a long run the next
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  day or she had, you know, a race that she was competing at.
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  Optimism is another one, I think, to be optimistic and believe that you can make that
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  world stage.
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  And what that performance translates to.
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  There's no self doubt.
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  Right?
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  You have to believe and, move forward.
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  We talked about the natural leadership, and I think she demonstrated that most of her young
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  life and into her adult life.
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  I see it how she speaks to her teammates.
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  How she is at events.
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  When she does do interviews, she talks about that leadership, you know, ability and leading
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  others.
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  Resilience, I think is another one.
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  And I think all elite athletes have this sense of resilience.
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  You know, and, the ability to to work through that.
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  So let's talk a little bit, you know, resilience which, you know, we talk a lot, and,
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  you know, obviously, you know, my brand is completely about resilience and get them back
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  up when you get knocked down and how you're gonna make sense of it.
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  Now as a parent, so I'm gonna think you played 2 roles.
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  I think you gotta you probably helped her with the mindset stuff ongoing, but you also were a
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  mom.
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  And, obviously, you know, dad was there too.
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  And so how do you kinda differentiate those roles?
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  It it can become it was easier as she was younger because needed more of that parenting
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  mother figure plus the, you know, the believing, the raw raw that she or leader in
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  the background.
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  As she's been in her adult life, It's been much more difficult.
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  She doesn't need me as a mother anymore.
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  She needs me more as a mom that asks about how she's doing personally, not how she's doing
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  with her races or how she's performing.
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  So I've taken a conscious approach to this, and I try not to follow all of her races.
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  I looked them up after.
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  I don't talk about them with her until she's ready to talk about them.
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  If I do watch a race, via video.
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  I'll wait till she calls me to talk about it versus calling Ruff saying, oh, I saw your
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  race.
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  You look so great.
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  I try to give much technical feedback.
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  I stick more with the, you know, what I see as a mom.
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  And how proud I am of her and all of that.
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  She'll often get into those discussions, the technical piece, and she'll, you know, sound
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  things off and I listen.
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  Think listing is really important, especially with an adult elite runner.
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  Mhmm.
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  She knows exactly what she needs to do, and sometimes she just needs some reassurance.
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  It's really kind of taking the perspective as being mom first as she's become an adult versus
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  maybe when she was younger, you know, you probably were teaching her a lot more
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  nutrition, maybe a bit about mindset.
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  I mean, obviously, with her training camps, like, that I see all the time, she's got the
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  coaches.
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  She's got I mean, her eating, obviously, you know, she's ripped to the point where, you
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  know, it's it's just phenomenal to watch.
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  Right.
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  The level of commitment it takes with nutrition and all those things, right, and she's
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  constantly training.
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  So really being unconditional with her as a mom, you're saying is one of the best qualities
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  that she needs at this point to to help her kinda get to where she's going.
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  Right.
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  Yeah.
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  She doesn't need me to be telling her what to she already knows what she needs to do.
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  Sometimes she needs some reassurance that she's on the right track, or she might ask me
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  something about nutrition and what she might be able to clean up, and then I'll give some
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  feedback on that, but you're right.
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  She's supported by a lot of efforts.
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  Sometimes she just needs to just to be listened to.
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  So let's talk a little bit.
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  Now when she started to she went from, obviously, winning.
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  You said that 1st championship there's she's been at level after level, and she's to get to
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  have gotten where she's gotten.
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  So tell everyone kind of where she's at now and, in reference to where where she's trying
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  to get to in the next law.
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  So right now, she is on track for 2020.
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  And, She is, very close, I would say.
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  There's a third spot open top 3 athletes in Canada go.
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  To the Olympics.
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  She is competing for 3rd spot right now, and the difference between the three other girls
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  that are there is a 10th the second each.
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  So it's it's all reachable.
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  She still has to run the standard, which is for 406.5.
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  For the fifteen hundred meter.
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  Her best performance is 409 low.
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  So it seems like a lot, but, I think under the right circumstances, she's right there.
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  This year, she placed 3rd in Canada, and she was on the podium and received a medal.
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  And I think that was a really another good place for her to be to boost her confidence.
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  As to where she should be this year.
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  So this is a big year for her.
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  The Olympics is in July of 2020.
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  It's in Tokyo, and, everything goes on the track today, as of today and this year.
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  She's got nothing to lose.
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  Everything to gain and all of her hard work is going to, transpire into a place.
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  On the Canadian side.
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  Wow.
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  That's that's amazing.
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  Well, you know, the sheer amount of, you know, tenacity that it takes even when things went
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  wrong.
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  So let's talk a little bit about that.
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  For anybody that obviously has a goal, like, we you talked a lot about, seeing that goal well
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  ahead of time.
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  And I know with you with a lot of the the things that you've done, not just with Angela,
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  with, Mariah, but just with other people in your different environments, and health and
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  wellness and those types of things.
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  You're co you're constantly coaching people to maximize.
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  So I'm I'm gonna assume some people on the line that are listening to us are parents that are
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  trying to coach their kids if they see aptitude at times in HR, which is your background and
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  disability management.
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  You're trying to support people.
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  To to do to do the best.
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  So what kind of things do you find from an HR perspective?
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  If we could talk a little bit about that, shifting a bit from sports, which is really no
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  different, to be able to support people when they do have goals.
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  But maybe they're not so good as Marai, which she just kinda you know, locks it up, seals it
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  down, and it's it's done.
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  But the every everyday person that has goals, we all struggle with goals, first of all, I
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  would say.
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  I think the most important again is instilling that confidence, right, believing that they
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  could achieve that goal and breaking that goal down to help them with the little steps.
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  To say to someone, you know, you need to eat right in order to lose weight, that's easier
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  said than done.
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  So you need to break it down.
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  What is eating What do they know about eating right?
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  What do they think is eating right?
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  Mhmm.
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  What are some of the things that they've never really been active?
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  How do they get If you don't just go and run a 5 k, you start with maybe walking 10 minutes a
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  day.
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  Maybe you start with just walking on your lunch.
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  Taking the stairs.
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  So we break down the goals, and I found that most successful when I had a program at the,
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  Niagara Falls View Casino And Casino Niagara.
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  Where we took 700 participants over a 1 year period, and they were all in, you know, on the
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  line of having 4 chronic illnesses, and needed to make some major changes.
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  And we sort of turned the most of them competed and turned it all around with a translation of
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  about a 25% reduction in our benefit costs.
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  Wow.
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  And that was over a short period of time, like 3 months stints, and I think we had 4 four
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  programs.
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  So in that short period of time, but what we found was not only did you have to motivate
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  them, make it fun.
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  You had to educate them.
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  And then you had to show them how to sustain it.
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  So I think that sort of all goes a long way when you're dealing with, when you're talking
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  about an elite athlete or a potential elite athlete that your child or, you know, an
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  individual that's just trying to improve their overall health and wellness.
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  Breaking it down.
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  You know, we we we would say small, salience, doable.
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  Yeah.
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  And, time limited.
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  Right?
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  Right.
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  Because all of us you know, we'll make these, you know, new, you know, the New Year's
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  resolution goals.
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  And then and people go, oh, yeah.
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  Yeah.
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  2 weeks out.
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  You know, every gym is, you know, signed up and everybody's gotten those things.
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  And then before you know about week 3 or 4 of January, everybody's kinda dropped off.
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  So So goals, really achievement of goals, whether it's at an, like I said, an elite
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  level, like Mariah, or whether you're coaching someone, you know, at work, you're really
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  trying to understand the person's why.
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  Right.
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  So Mariah's why was what?
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  Her why was she just needed felt this need to be successful at something.
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  This sense of belonging.
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  You needed to belong to something her brother was a natural athlete.
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  Also did well in hockey, did well in baseball, we'd play soccer, and she did those sports as
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  well, but didn't find that real love for that sport.
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  When she found learning, she found a real love for that sport.
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  Wow.
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  And to this day, I've asked her many times.
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  Do you ever lose the passion?
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  She says, no.
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  On my worst days, my, you know, where I haven't felt like I've performed, I still enjoy the
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  freedom of what running gives me.
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  And that's the clear mindset going out there and doing it.
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  So in all these years, which has been now, we're talking
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  14, 15 years,
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  12 years.
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  12 to, like, heavy competitive, training for 12 years.
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  She has not once lost her focus for it.
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  And I think that's the other thing that elite athletes have is this focus and this ability to
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  see the end and to keep motivated while you're going through your setbacks, which is your
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  resilience, and and being able to pick yourself up and go after it again.
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  So I I just wanna talk a little bit more on the HRN You know?
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  Because, you know, when you think about leadership, right, and you think about change
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  in environments and you've been in multiple environments now, in the on the HR end.
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  And sometimes organizations make changes.
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  Right?
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  And what And they may not get people with that same level of motivation that you were talking
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  about here today.
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  So what kind of guidance would you give HR, right, like, hey.
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  You know, they've been told about it.
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  You know, the change is coming, and some people kinda, you know, they get in the the fast lane
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  and they kinda make the change and other people Hannah, chug along, and then you have the
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  people that say, I'm not getting off the sidewalk.
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  Do no no hell.
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  Am I doing it?
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  From a from a HR coaching perspective, for people that leaders that might be listening or
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  HR people, what kind of things have you found that were success in URLs to mow to use the
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  kind of motivation that we know Mariah hell has to kind of motivate that employee base around
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  around change.
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  Define what's in it for them.
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  Yep.
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  You know?
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  And I think you have to break it down.
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  So, you know, if we take the Niagara Casinos and that, health and wellness program.
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  Yeah.
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  The staff, the employees were asking for wellness programs.
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  They wanted fitness memberships.
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  When we went back to them to ask them why they all, you know, listed issues that they had,
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  whether they had diabetes or they were overweight or you know, not able to participate
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  with their children that the how they used to.
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  So we decided to create a challenge I think that's the other thing when you're invoking
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  change around health and wellness.
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  If you can create create a competition between people, then they know what's in it for them.
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  There's a competition, whether it be a department, an individual teams that are
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  forming, there's camaraderie.
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  They support each other.
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  And at the end of the day, our goal was to have a healthier, more engaged workforce.
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  And at the same time, we made a, significant impact on our bottom line.
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  Senior management, their focus was what's in it for them, which was the bottom line focus.
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  How are we gonna save money?
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  Right.
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  The employee didn't really care about that.
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  Doesn't have any impact because they weren't paying the benefits.
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  It was all part of the plan, but they had a personal goal, whether they wanted to engage
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  more with their family, They wanted to feel healthier, have more energy, and this program
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  was able to, meet the needs of everyone involved And I think the fact that it was
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  tailored and it had lots of different opportunities for people to participate, was
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  another.
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  A part of its success.
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  The last piece is it wasn't free.
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  They had to pay.
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  They had to pay a little bit of it.
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  So the company paid half and they paid half.
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  And I think that's another piece that goes a long way.
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  When they have some skin in the game, they might have something to lose.
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  It wasn't a lot of money, but it was something then they make the commitment as well.
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  So reading from a leadership level, like, I mean, we always say, like you said, the
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  leadership said, what's the ROI?
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  Right.
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  Right.
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  On this change happening, but really, and I often talk about return on relationships versus
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  return on investments.
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  So it was finding something of, why in those individuals lives, plus like you said, the
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  challenge and making it fun.
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  Right.
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  Right.
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  So not just you know, by a certain date, I'm gonna wait a certain amount without knowing
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  what was important, but really digging down into why?
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  Why am I doing what I'm doing?
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  If I'm diabetic, And I have to, like, you know, give myself a shot every day, and I can't get
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  out there with my kids.
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  That motivation for that person would be I wanna be able to get out there and, you know,
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  run around or get on the hockey rink with my kids.
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  That's that person's motivation.
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  So leadership could learn something from making that connection to just really kinda
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  understand.
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  It's not about, I'm gonna say, you know, 4.8 days on short term disability claims.
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  But it's that the fact that, you know, if it's, you know, Jane Doe that she can actually enjoy
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  her family a little bit more, and that's where you get the buy in for people to be able to
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  challenge, have fun, and to make change.
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  Right.
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  Makes sense.
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  Yeah.
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  So much sense.
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  And I think would you agree that a lot of environments miss that?
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  I think they missed the opportunity to connect the dots for
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  their employees.
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  You know, it it comes across.
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  I think that's the intention, but it comes across as being driven from the top down versus
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  the bottom up.
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  It comes across as a benefit for the company instead of the employee.
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  And it comes across that we must do versus we want to do.
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  And it's it's a pleasure or it's, it's a, added benefit for you as an employee to participate
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  with.
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  So it's almost like an ideal model would be that the top and the bottom should kind of meet
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  somewhere in the middle.
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  Where they almost create, like, a, a hybrid.
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  Yes, the bottom line is, yes, this is gonna benefit the company, but really, you know,
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  what's gonna be the benefits in that person's individual life?
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  Right.
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  Right.
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  About why they're making the change.
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  And often you get that from your surveys, right, and anytime you do a survey and
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  implementing a health and wellness program.
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  The employees all will suggest child care, you know, better flexible working hours, gym
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  memberships because they're all struggling with this, you know, trying to balance between the
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  healthy lifestyle and working.
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  Right.
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  So that's that's pivot a bit more and kinda go back to parents.
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  So I don't know about you, but I I know I know a lot a lot of parents that want the kids to,
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  you know, be the top on the hockey team or, you know, be the best runner, going off to offset
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  or whatever.
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  And people, you know, a lot of times we have dreams for our children And we superimpose
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  those, not knowingly sometimes, what kind of guidance would you give parents that might have
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  an athlete potentially that has acumen, or other kids that just don't have it as their
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  parents to be able to excel that kid to a certain level.
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  What kind of things would should parents consider.
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  Yeah.
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  I think it's the same thing that we just talked about.
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  It's finding where the passion is for that child.
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  Mhmm.
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  And once you find that passion, and you you support it with the, the sense of confidence,
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  the the belief that they can achieve.
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  That sense of belonging.
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  Mhmm.
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  And then you let the child lead.
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  And if the child is taking that initiative, they know that, you know, to be a good runner,
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  they need to go out and run three times a week, and you're not have to say, have you done your
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  run yet?
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  Are you going over your run?
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  Right.
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  You know, and they're taking that initiative then,
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  they're
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  you're likely all you're doing is guiding and allowing that to happen.
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  Mhmm.
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  Now with Mariah, it was never a problem of you know, her going out for a run.
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  Her problem was when she was gonna run.
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  So sometimes we'd have to set some parameters.
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  Okay.
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  We've got you know, this much time.
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  So you need to do your run between 9:1 o'clock.
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  Because after that, we've got other things that we're doing.
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  So Those were some of the, you know, earlier stages where we would have to set a little bit
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  of, boundaries around when she was gonna do it because she often would you know, do all kinds
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  of things before she got to that.
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  And and some of it was schoolwork.
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  She grew a lot of effort.
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  That's the other thing with Elaine athletes.
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  They're often very good at school.
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  They have a very high IQ because they have to be able to, you know, understand and,
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  understand their bodies, be able to, have that knowledge to ask the right questions of their
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  coaches.
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  To challenge their coaches and to make sure that they're getting what they want.
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  So in her in her routine, I'm gonna think that the mental piece is a big part of it.
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  Can you speak a little bit to what kind of, coaching she's had?
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  Well, she's had some very, even at 15, we had her with a sports psychologist, working on goal
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  setting.
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  When she got, into a D 1 University, Bailey University, she was accepted on 5 year running
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  scholarship.
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  She had the support of a psychologist on staff.
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  Mhmm.
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  And now where she's at the Olympic Development Center in Victoria.
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  It's called the Pacific Institute of excellence, and she has a sports psychologist
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  that she works with.
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  And that sports psychologist is really important because, with any kind of sport,
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  there's a whole mental piece that goes along with it.
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  So not only are you training physically for it, you're training your mind mentally.
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  You need to be able to accept the setbacks, analyze those setbacks, make those changes, you
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  know, believe and and really articulate what your needs are to your coach and those around
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  you to ensure that you do get.
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  What you want.
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  Because I I mean, the amount that she trains, it's anchored in her body.
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  Mhmm.
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  Right?
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  I think the body becomes the instrument at some point.
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  Right.
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  But we know how the mental impacts the physical.
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  And we're talking what what's what's the shave off time we're looking at for her?
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  It's a couple seconds.
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  Couple of seconds.
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  So think about that.
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  Right?
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  Like, you know, when I think, you know, as a psychotherapist, you know, and what I teach
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  people ongoing about how thought impacts the body and how the body impacts her thoughts.
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  Right.
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  It could be a millisecond that she could potentially think something Right.
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  That shifts her off Oh, that That would stop her from shaving that time off.
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  Right?
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  And I think that's the other thing, that brings me back to the elite athletes.
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  They have to remain focused.
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  Mhmm.
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  And they have to be focused in the moment regardless of what's going on, the morning of
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  the day before, what may be anticipating in their mind that's gonna go on.
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  She often speaks that in a race, she needs to be in that moment to hear the movements of the
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  other women around her so that she can, you know, anticipate the move when she needs to
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  make.
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  So to hear the movement during the race, Yeah.
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  Wow.
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  Tough focus.
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  So that's
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  a not the crowd applauding, not, you know, me yelling in there in
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  the skin
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  and cheering her own.
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  She has none of that in the moment.
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  And when she's in the moment, you can see it, in her race performance.
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  Wow.
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  So completely right in the present, which is always what we we talk about in psychotherapy.
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  Right?
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  You know, or coaching.
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  It's gonna this is all you have right now.
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  This is all you have right now.
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  What's gonna happen tomorrow?
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  You have no control over and what just happened a second ago is gone.
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  Yeah.
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  And it's interesting because, at nationals, she actually forgot her spikes.
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  And this is a girl that forgets nothing on
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  race day.
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  Her bag is packed.
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  Everything's there.
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  Forgot her spikes had to wear another person's spikes that weren't the size that she needed.
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  And still, she was able to pull off, a third place finish.
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  Amazing.
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  Nationals.
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  Again, not wearing, oh my god.
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  I don't have my spikes.
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  She just had to do what she had to do and get herself into that moment and and run that race.
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  So now I'm gonna say that I'm super proud because she's from our little village of
• 30:47
  Chippewa, and I'm gonna call out to Chippewa because this is amazing.
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  Because I remember when you and I would be out and she would, you know, we wanna you'd wanna
• 30:54
  go further and run and she she'd go off to her grandma's and then she pivots, and then she's
• 30:59
  doing this amazing thing.
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  She's, you know, she's made Niagara Falls proud already and regardless of where this goes.
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  But we're rooting for her Now there's an event coming up, that I'd love people to reach out
• 31:11
  and and and and support her, and hoping that she's gonna try to the time to be on the show,
• 31:17
  so that it, you know, she can get more support from Niagara, not just Niagara, Canada.
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  Right.
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  So tell tell everyone listening how they could support her if there, you know, there's a I
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  think there's a go fund me page.
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  Yes.
• 31:29
  And there's this golf tournament coming up, you know, how they could help out for so we could
• 31:34
  see our girl go off and do big things.
• 31:37
  Right.
• 31:37
  So, the other thing that everyone should know, these elite acts in Canada struggle immensely.
• 31:44
  It costs anywhere from $10,000 to $30,000 a year to support these athletes Canada does the
• 31:51
  best that they can, but their parameters around sport is not as lucrative as the US.
• 31:57
  The US tends to have a lot of private sponsors, corporations in Canada, unless you're already a
• 32:04
  medalist at the Olympics.
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  Is the only time that your funding is completely covered.
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  So we are raising funds as a family, you know, from Ryas last year, and we're a host a golf
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  tournament on October 6th at Will Adele Golf Course.
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  It's a 12:30 shop and start.
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  It's a $100 per each player if they register before October 1st, and thereafter up to the
• 32:29
  event from October 2nd to 6th, it's a $120.
• 32:33
  There'll be a dinner after that will be open to people to attend, which will be $40 a person.
• 32:39
  There'll be raffles and giveaways as well as a silent option that we're hoping to raise about
• 32:45
  $12,000 to help Mariah along her way.
• 32:48
  So that she can focus on her training and not have to worry about finances.
• 32:54
  She also has a go fund me page, which she's been, people have been reaching out asking how
• 33:00
  they can support, and that's on, Facebook, right now.
• 33:05
  And, all the monies that are raised through that will help to get her to where she needs to
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  be.
• 33:12
  Awesome.
• 33:12
  So what I will do is, I'll include both links So, so for the for the GoFundMe and also for
• 33:19
  the golf
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  Tokyo is the What's it?
• 33:21
  What is it?
• 33:22
  Kellytokyo@gmail.com.
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  It's the tagline that we've come up with for the eye on
• 33:28
  the prize golf tournament.
• 33:30
  Awesome.
• 33:30
  Awesome.
• 33:31
  Well, Anchas has been amazing.
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  And
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  It's been thank you for sharing and allowing me to have this opportunity to speak to everyone.
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  And,
• 33:42
  And I'm sure everybody listening has gained a lot, but so I I just wanna kind of encapsulate
• 33:46
  what I heard, about what it is to to raise an elite athlete it's nurturing, its confidence,
• 33:56
  and it's allowing that elite athlete to connect with what they see mentally already so you can
• 34:01
  create anything in your mind first, and then everything else turns into place.
• 34:05
  For HR leaders and just leadership, Again, you talked about fun, buy in, and hooking the ROI,
• 34:14
  into, I'm gonna call it, say the ROR, which is a return on relationship.
• 34:18
  So get to know what your people, are wanting different in their own lives.
• 34:24
  And, you know, this top down strata mac macro to micro, is, you know, something that doesn't
• 34:31
  work in most environments when you're trying to motivate people.
• 34:34
  Try to figure out what the top says and what the bottom is needing and could currently try
• 34:38
  to kinda create that space.
• 34:42
  And, for anyone, needing, to get a whole of Angela, we'll make sure that there is an email
• 34:49
  if you're looking at, potentially, reaching out, talking as, as a parent that, maybe wants
• 34:55
  to learn a little bit more and, also maybe potentially coaching.
• 35:00
  So, and for myself, if you're needing any further information on me, you know that I'm a
• 35:05
  mental health and wellness expert, a keynote speaker and a coach, and, you can reach me at
• 35:10
  Roxanne.
• 35:12
  Okay, Anj.
• 35:13
  We'll talk to you soon.
• 35:14
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• 35:16
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• 35:21
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• 35:22
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