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My friend told me to LEAVE my own house… for his girlfriend! -r/AmITheAsshole | Reddit Stories | EP3150 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 3: My friend told me to leave my own.
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  Speaker 2: House for his girlfriend.
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  Speaker 3: Sometimes you got to do what you got to do. I,
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  Speaker 3: 22 male, have a small group of friends who decided
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  Speaker 3: to have a vid-safe game night at my place. I mean,
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  Speaker 3: how is it vid-safe if you're together? You're all in
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  Speaker 3: different rooms. They're all six feet apart with masks on.
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  Speaker 4: They're holding their breath.
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  Speaker 3: That would work. My friend, Nick, 23, asked to bring
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  Speaker 3: his new girlfriend, Pam, 20. I said, sure, since none
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  Speaker 3: of us had met her yet. Only been dating for
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  Speaker 3: three months. So it seemed the perfect way to introduce
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  Speaker 3: her to the group. The night comes. Nick and Pam
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  Speaker 3: are the last to arrive. She greets everyone and Nick
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  Speaker 3: introduces her to us all. I welcome her to my
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  Speaker 3: home and introduce myself with my full name. She went
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  Speaker 3: quiet and asked me to say that again. I was
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  Speaker 3: a little weirded out.
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  Speaker 4: What, does she have a really great business idea?
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  Speaker 3: She's like, shut up. Shut up right now. Say that
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  Speaker 3: one more time. But I told her my name again.
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  Speaker 3: Fake name, but let's say Andrew James Manson.
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  Speaker 4: That's got to be.
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  Speaker 3: Like Charles Manson.
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  Speaker 4: That's got to be. We could do a different one, right? So, well, no,
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  Speaker 4: I think that's relevant. Bartholomew P.
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  Speaker 3: Dingus. I think that's relevant. I think it's like Tom, Jerry, Bundy.
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  Speaker 3: That's what I was thinking. I think OP is telling
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  Speaker 3: us that their last name is a serial unaliber.
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  Speaker 4: She screamed and fell to her knees.
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  Speaker 3: Nick immediately consoles her and tries to calm her down.
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  Speaker 3: Opie's actual name is Tom Jerry Vampire.
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  Speaker 4: Tom and Jerry.
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  Speaker 3: Tom and Jerry Vampire Edition. By the way, this comes
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  Speaker 3: from Not Another Manson. And if you want to submit
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  Speaker 3: your own stories, go to the r slash okay story
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  Speaker 3: time subreddit. I'm Sophia.
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  Speaker 4: I'm Dakota.
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  Speaker 3: And I'm Savannah. And we're here to give good advice goofily,
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  Speaker 3: but we don't have all the answers. And if you've
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  Speaker 3: got answers, give them here right now, right here. But
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  Speaker 3: we've got more from OP. It turns out that she
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  Speaker 3: has a fear of cereal unalivers.
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  Speaker 1: Idiot.
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  Speaker 3: I share a last name with one from the state
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  Speaker 3: I live in because I am also unfortunately distantly related
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  Speaker 3: to him.
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  Speaker 4: That's cool. You might be like super musically talented. This
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  Speaker 4: is not Mozart. That's what that was.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Manson was musically talented. It wasn't a big profile case
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  Speaker 3: that everyone around the country knows, but it's enough for
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  Speaker 3: some locals to wonder if I had a connection to him.
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  Speaker 3: This is considered pretty heavy information to most people. So
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  Speaker 3: I don't tend to tell it to everyone. My friends
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  Speaker 3: all knew at this point, but Pam didn't. Nick said
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  Speaker 3: she'd be okay in a while, but then she screamed,
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  Speaker 3: That seemed really atypical. So I asked her what was wrong.
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  Speaker 3: She said that her great aunt was one of the
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  Speaker 3: victims and her body was never found.
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  Speaker 5: Oh!
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  Speaker 4: Oh, my God. Okay. Oh. Okay. Okay.
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  Speaker 2: What?
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  Speaker 3: So, like, kind of reasonable.
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  Speaker 4: Dang.
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  Speaker 3: Kind of reasonable. Like, let's say your grandma was one
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  Speaker 3: of the victims of Charles Manson, and then you get
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  Speaker 3: taken to a house, and they're like, hi, I'm Charlotte Manson.
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  Speaker 4: I'm like. And you're like, any relation? And she's like, yes.
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  Speaker 4: That's when I, like, lock in, and I'm like, you
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  Speaker 4: must pay for the sins of your father. Yes. You
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  Speaker 4: have a blood debt to pay to my family.
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  Speaker 3: I told her that. I'm sorry, but I can't control
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  Speaker 3: my genetics. I'm related to Charles Manson.
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  Speaker 4: Again, not the real name. Who are you related to?
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  Speaker 3: But that doesn't mean I'm going to unalive anyone like
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  Speaker 3: he did. Then she screamed at me to get out.
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  Speaker 3: It's my house.
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  Speaker 1: No.
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  Speaker 4: It's the house that Manson built.
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  Speaker 3: And Nick told me to leave until she calms down.
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  Speaker 3: And I snapped, this is my house.
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  Speaker 4: So you should leave.
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  Speaker 3: He said to be reasonable and understanding because this is
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  Speaker 3: a hard thing for Pam to come down from. But
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  Speaker 3: where I may be the a-hole is I grabbed my
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  Speaker 3: keys from the kitchen. And when I went by the
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  Speaker 3: living room, I heard Pam say, I can't believe you
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  Speaker 3: brought me to a- So I snapped. I shouted to
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  Speaker 3: her that she has a lot of nerve acting this
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  Speaker 3: way the first time we meet her, and how dare
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  Speaker 3: she demand that I leave my home and call me
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  Speaker 3: an unaliver. I grabbed her and Nick's things, threw them
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  Speaker 3: at them, and demanded they leave right now. Pam wouldn't
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  Speaker 3: stop screaming and crying, and Nick asked me to be
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  Speaker 3: raised up all. I told him to F off if
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  Speaker 3: he's okay with his girlfriend insulting me like this. After
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  Speaker 3: I kicked them out, our other friends began arguing about
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  Speaker 3: how I could be such a wiener to someone having
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  Speaker 3: a panic attack. The others defended me and think that
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  Speaker 3: Pam was out of line and Nick didn't do a
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  Speaker 3: dang thing to defend his friend against his girlfriend of
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  Speaker 3: three months. If my partner is acting this way, I
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  Speaker 3: walk them outside. I say, let's take a deep breath.
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  Speaker 3: Let's go outside.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah. Holy guacamole. You're not taking this well. No.
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  Speaker 3: Also, like one, I don't want my girlfriend to have
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  Speaker 3: to be around other people while she's having this breakdown.
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  Speaker 4: I don't want my girlfriend around other people.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, she's dangerous. And two, I don't want her around me.
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  Speaker 3: That's it. She should go to therapy. And that's all.
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  Speaker 4: I mean, out of all the gin joints in all
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  Speaker 4: the world, she walked into the relative.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: What a coincidence.
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  Speaker 4: Took out her grandma.
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  Speaker 3: What a coincidence. What a coincidence. That it's her own
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  Speaker 3: fault for being overly dramatic and demanding just because of
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  Speaker 3: a panic attack, and Nick is only enabling her. Nick
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  Speaker 3: has demanded an apology for Pam and him, and I
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  Speaker 3: told them both it ain't gonna happen after the way
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  Speaker 3: she disrespected me. Everyone's split, but I feel like I'm
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  Speaker 3: in the right. Am I the a-hole? We doing at it.
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  Speaker 3: What do you guys think?
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  Speaker 4: I mean, I personally would have tried to just make
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  Speaker 4: it funnier.
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  Speaker 3: I'd be like, ooh, yeah, that's me.
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  Speaker 4: I'd be like, ooh, I'm going to get you. And
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  Speaker 4: then she starts screaming more.
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  Speaker 3: She starts attacking you. She's like, this is what my grandma.
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  Speaker 4: I would ask her, I'd be like, what did your
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  Speaker 4: grandma do? And she'd be like, I don't know. She
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  Speaker 4: was a. She was a painter. It's like, okay, stay
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  Speaker 4: away from my walls, because you're going to paint all
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  Speaker 4: over my walls with your painter genes.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's just dumb. But the crazy thing is, to me,
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  Speaker 3: I doubt she would have known her great aunt very well.
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  Speaker 3: You know, like, this seems like if it was a
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  Speaker 3: serial on a library, it's probably maybe an older person.
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  Speaker 4: Like 70s 80s well you know she probably she probably
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  Speaker 4: communes with her spirit.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah it just feels like she's having a really large
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  Speaker 3: reaction for someone she probably didn't know that well and
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  Speaker 3: also this happened very long ago clearly so like why
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  Speaker 3: is she having this intensive.
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  Speaker 4: Reaction well we're not considering the possibility there could be
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  Speaker 4: a prophecy involved if she's like the prophecy You're supposed
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  Speaker 4: to take my life. She saw fortune telling. She's like,
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  Speaker 4: what happened to your great aunt? What happened to you
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  Speaker 4: in the house of Manson?
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  Speaker 3: And she was like, oh, well, I'll never meet a Manson.
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  Speaker 3: What's the likelihood of that? And here she is. The
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  Speaker 3: prophecy is coming true.
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  Speaker 5: Yes.
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  Speaker 3: But anyway, we get an edit. So I'm going to
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  Speaker 3: step away from this for a while, but a lot
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  Speaker 3: of the comments have raised a lot of good points.
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  Speaker 3: I thank everyone's input. I know this is a very
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  Speaker 3: strange situation. I understand how my distant relative impacted her family,
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  Speaker 3: that it's painful, but he also impacted my family in
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  Speaker 3: many ways. We'll not elaborate for the sake of privacy.
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  Speaker 4: Elaborate.
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  Speaker 3: What do you do? The crimes in question all happened
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  Speaker 3: decades ago before any of us in my group were
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  Speaker 3: even born. That's what I'm saying. I was like, would
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  Speaker 3: she have even known her? And she didn't know her.
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  Speaker 4: You know what they say. It skips a generation.
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  Speaker 1: I thought that was twins.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, so confirmed. I was more than right. She
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  Speaker 3: didn't even know her at all. The last name in
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  Speaker 3: question is not really Manson. I merely used it as
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  Speaker 3: an example. I have considered changing it down the line,
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  Speaker 3: but since it's a long and also costly process, I'm
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  Speaker 3: putting it off. Focusing on my college courses for now.
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  Speaker 3: Don't really know what sort of last name I may
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  Speaker 3: change it to eventually, but I'll see.
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  Speaker 4: He's studying criminal justice. Yeah. He's going to change it.
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  Speaker 4: What was the last name in that movie with Kevin Costner?
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  Speaker 3: I don't know.
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  Speaker 6: Costner?
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  Speaker 4: What was that? I don't know. Shoot. What was the...
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  Speaker 4: And Sean Connery was in it?
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  Speaker 3: I have no idea what you're talking about.
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  Speaker 4: The freaking... Oh my... Someone help me out.
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  Speaker 3: Someone help it out. What? While someone's helping him out,
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  Speaker 3: I'm going to finish. The petty part of me started
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  Speaker 3: calling my place the more house in the group chat
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  Speaker 3: with the friends on my side.
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  Speaker 4: Ha ha ha.
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  Speaker 3: I think it's going to stick. And edit two, I'm
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  Speaker 3: a little surprised by the amount of people who find
• 8:30
  Speaker 3: it odd how I introduce myself with my full name.
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  Speaker 3: That's just a manner that my grandfather instilled in me.
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  Speaker 3: He always did the same and encouraged me to do
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  Speaker 3: the same.
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  Speaker 4: Hello, I'm Sophia Donner. Maybe don't do that when your
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  Speaker 4: last name is.
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  Speaker 3: For real, you can't be like, I'm thinking about changing
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  Speaker 3: my name, but I am going to continue to introduce
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  Speaker 3: myself by my full name. And also, OP, you can
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  Speaker 3: take your girlfriend's name if you ever get to the
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  Speaker 3: marriage part. That's an option. I just basically see it
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  Speaker 3: as being polite when I meet someone new, but I
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  Speaker 3: have never seen someone react this way. negatively before. That
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  Speaker 3: is strange. That is strange.
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  Speaker 4: At least you're polite. Hi, my name is Jimmy.
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  Speaker 3: No, not Jimmy. No, no, no.
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  Speaker 2: My grandma. My grandma.
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  Speaker 4: That is a crazy reaction.
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  Speaker 3: Like, imagine you're at your home and like Savannah brings
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  Speaker 3: a new boyfriend over and then I'm like, hi, I'm Sophia.
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  Speaker 4: She's like, no, no. You ate my family.
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  Speaker 3: You ate my family.
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  Speaker 4: You ate my family.
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  Speaker 5: No.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, but I didn't.
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  Speaker 7: That's the end of the story. That was my great, great, great.
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  Speaker 7: And actually, that's the only strain of that in our family.
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  Speaker 7: So I don't have that strain, so I can't actually
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  Speaker 7: do that.
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  Speaker 3: Can't even do that. Unless you make me.
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  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story. We're going to
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  Speaker 1: go to the next one.
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  Speaker 4: My friend bragged about new gadgets while dodging the money
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  Speaker 4: he owed me.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, Inspector Gadget.
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  Speaker 4: So for a little backstory, a few years ago when
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  Speaker 4: me and my friends were in uni together, we all
• 10:00
  Speaker 4: went for a meal together for another friend's birthday. One
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  Speaker 4: of our friends, not the one having the birthday, said
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  Speaker 4: he'd forgotten his debit card. I ended up agreeing to
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  Speaker 4: pay for his meal and drink for him on the
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  Speaker 4: condition he would pay me back. He never did. This
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  Speaker 4: became a continuous cycle with him having a different excuse
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  Speaker 4: all the time. I think I ended up paying for
• 10:18
  Speaker 4: a takeaway, the cinema, and another meal for him because
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  Speaker 4: I'm a sap, before I eventually stopped and refused to
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  Speaker 4: pay for stuff until he paid me back what he
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  Speaker 4: owed me, which was just over 100 pounds. Oh, boy.
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  Speaker 4: That's not nothing.
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  Speaker 3: It sure is not nothing.
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  Speaker 4: That's like a thousand dollars.
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  Speaker 3: That's more like a hundred dollars.
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  Speaker 4: About that. The following year after uni ended, I ended
• 10:43
  Speaker 4: up hitting a rough point and was struggling for cash.
• 10:46
  Speaker 4: I repeatedly asked him if I could have that money
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  Speaker 4: back to help me out a bit, but he kept
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  Speaker 4: on telling me that he couldn't afford to pay me
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  Speaker 4: back at that point in time. Meanwhile, he was quite
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  Speaker 4: happy to brag about buying himself a new $ 2, 000 Alienware laptop,
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  Speaker 4: a replica sword from the film Blade for a couple
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  Speaker 4: hundred quid, a new 65-inch TV, and a huge speaker
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  Speaker 4: and And a pool table. I'm sorry, but I don't
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  Speaker 4: see anything there that's not an absolute necessity.
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  Speaker 3: You needed all that. You needed every one of those things.
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  Speaker 4: You needed 100% of that in tandem together. Any one
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  Speaker 4: of those off the table ruins the vibe.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, you go to your pool table night and there's
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  Speaker 3: not a big speaker and a.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, and everyone goes, oh, oh no, there's no pool cues.
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  Speaker 4: What do we do? And that's when you take out
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  Speaker 4: your blade sword.
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  Speaker 3: Blade sword.
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  Speaker 4: You're playing pool with a blade sword now.
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  Speaker 3: And then you play the soundtrack. Couldn't do that if
• 11:37
  Speaker 3: you didn't have one of those things.
• 11:39
  Speaker 4: His family. are quite well off and give him an allowance,
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  Speaker 4: even though he's now in his 20s. And yet, despite this,
• 11:45
  Speaker 4: every time I ask him for the money, it's one
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  Speaker 4: excuse after another. By the way, this comes from Azbulmighty.
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  Speaker 4: And if you want to submit your own stories, go
• 11:54
  Speaker 4: to the r slash OK Storytime subreddit. I'm Dakota. I'm Zovia.
• 11:57
  Speaker 4: And we're going to read this story and give our
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  Speaker 4: little thoughts. And we don't know everything. We might be right.
• 12:01
  Speaker 4: We might be wrong. Who knows? Let us know what
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  Speaker 4: you think in the comments. And Opie says, skip forward
• 12:06
  Speaker 4: two and a half years.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, dang. We're jumping.
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  Speaker 4: I'm blaming you a little bit. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: If this is a two and a half year later situation,
• 12:16
  Speaker 3: gotta blame you a little bit.
• 12:18
  Speaker 4: And you're at like the level of, you're like Will Smith,
• 12:21
  Speaker 4: Pursuit of Happiness, like banging on the guy's door. Like,
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  Speaker 4: I need my $ 10.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Like.
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  Speaker 3: If you're not that situation, then you don't deserve that money.
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  Speaker 4: Call his parents. Yeah. They're rich. When the pandemic struck-
• 12:33
  Speaker 4: He kept telling me once lockdown restrictions eased that he
• 12:36
  Speaker 4: could visit and would bring me the money. But once
• 12:38
  Speaker 4: he was legally allowed to visit again, it was back
• 12:40
  Speaker 4: to the excuses of, oh, I don't have the money
• 12:42
  Speaker 4: yet and stuff like that. Anybody heard about, you know,
• 12:45
  Speaker 4: bank transfer apps?
• 12:46
  Speaker 3: Yeah, you go, uh, Zell, Zell me right now.
• 12:49
  Speaker 4: Despite all this, he bought himself a brand new PS5.
• 12:52
  Speaker 3: And then you just send him pictures of his PS5,
• 12:54
  Speaker 3: which he, I'm sure, posted about. And you go, hey,
• 12:57
  Speaker 3: how much did this cost, buddy?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, did you get that for free?
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  Speaker 2: Was that a free S5?
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  Speaker 4: He brought it around to my place where me, him,
• 13:06
  Speaker 4: and some friends played through the Dark Pictures games. I
• 13:09
  Speaker 4: don't know what that is. He ended up going home
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  Speaker 4: as it was easier for him for work and told
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  Speaker 4: me he would be back to pick up the PS5
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  Speaker 4: the next day.
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  Speaker 3: I know you won't until you give me my money.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, that's going to be on pawn until I get
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  Speaker 4: my payment.
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  Speaker 1: Mm-hmm.
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  Speaker 4: The next day came and he told me he was
• 13:26
  Speaker 4: on the way to pick it up. So I text
• 13:28
  Speaker 4: him saying, bring that money you owe me while you're
• 13:30
  Speaker 4: at it, please. He sent me the same drivel. Oh,
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  Speaker 4: I don't have it at the moment. Maybe next time. Blah, blah, blah.
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  Speaker 4: To which I said, no, that's that's fine. No worries.
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  Speaker 4: I'll just hold on to your PS5 until you have
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  Speaker 4: the money.
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  Speaker 3: Let's call that a me as five now.
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  Speaker 4: It's a minus five. And if that's all right, because,
• 13:44
  Speaker 4: you know, it's been nearly two years. He got angry.
• 13:47
  Speaker 4: He had a bit of a cough, but I stuck
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  Speaker 4: by my decision. He showed up within half an hour
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  Speaker 4: with the money in full. And I gave him his
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  Speaker 4: PS5 back. Huh. Huh. Huh. Did you find that money
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  Speaker 4: on the money tree?
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  Speaker 3: Oh, where'd that money come from? I thought you didn't
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  Speaker 3: have it right now.
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  Speaker 4: Did you dig a hole in the ground and happen
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  Speaker 4: to find that money there?
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  Speaker 3: Did a little leprechaun give you that money?
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  Speaker 4: Just to clarify, this was never planned. It was just
• 14:12
  Speaker 4: an idea that sprang to my head when he told
• 14:14
  Speaker 4: me he was collecting his PS5. I told a few
• 14:16
  Speaker 4: of the guys at work about it, and they basically
• 14:18
  Speaker 4: said that keeping his PS5 over, like, 100 pounds was
• 14:21
  Speaker 4: dramatic on my part. And then I was the a-hole
• 14:23
  Speaker 4: in the situation. It worked.
• 14:25
  Speaker 3: It worked.
• 14:26
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it wasn't like, I'm going to destroy it unless
• 14:28
  Speaker 4: you give me the money. It's like, no. Yeah, no,
• 14:34
  Speaker 4: this was perfect. Your friend sucks. I would stop hanging
• 14:37
  Speaker 4: out with that guy. Mr.
• 14:38
  Speaker 3: Frodo, you've got to destroy it.
• 14:40
  Speaker 4: I won't destroy it if you give me $ 100. I
• 14:44
  Speaker 4: still think what I did and said was pretty fair.
• 14:46
  Speaker 4: I always intended to give him the PS5 back. And
• 14:49
  Speaker 4: just when I had my money. I wanted the input
• 14:52
  Speaker 4: of the good people who've read it. Thanks, guys. And
• 14:54
  Speaker 4: there's an update. Yeah, there's no way you actually had
• 14:58
  Speaker 4: people going, I mean, it was only like $ 100 and
• 15:01
  Speaker 4: it's been two years.
• 15:03
  Speaker 3: Interest.
• 15:04
  Speaker 4: It's like, yeah, at this point it should be at
• 15:06
  Speaker 4: least $ 150. Yeah, that's ridiculous. Well, we have an update.
• 15:11
  Speaker 5: Wow!
• 15:12
  Speaker 4: I didn't expect this to get so much traction. Thanks, guys.
• 15:16
  Speaker 4: I was going to respond to everyone individually, but I
• 15:18
  Speaker 4: really don't think I can with the amount of comments
• 15:20
  Speaker 4: I've received. I've had a busy few days, but I'll
• 15:21
  Speaker 4: give this a proper response by tomorrow, and here it is. Thanks, everyone.
• 15:25
  Speaker 4: It's given me a lot of time to think about
• 15:26
  Speaker 4: stuff after seeing all of your responses. I've been busy
• 15:29
  Speaker 4: with work the last few days, so I haven't really
• 15:31
  Speaker 4: had time to respond, but know that I appreciate and
• 15:34
  Speaker 4: have taken on board all the answers I got. The
• 15:37
  Speaker 4: general consensus seems to be I'm not the a-hole, which
• 15:39
  Speaker 4: I will gladly take. Although a lot of people said
• 15:42
  Speaker 4: everyone sucks and you are the a-hole, which I can
• 15:44
  Speaker 4: understand from other people's perspective, there are a few misunderstandings
• 15:48
  Speaker 4: I just want to clear up. Firstly, I understand that
• 15:50
  Speaker 4: what I did may or may not have been legal,
• 15:52
  Speaker 4: but to be honest, I was a bit livid at
• 15:54
  Speaker 4: the time. I mean, it's... how is it not legal?
• 15:58
  Speaker 4: It's also not illegal.
• 15:59
  Speaker 7: To, like.
• 16:00
  Speaker 4: steal $ 100 from your friend and never pay it back.
• 16:03
  Speaker 4: Just the lying, the constant like, oh, I don't have it. Oh,
• 16:06
  Speaker 4: maybe I'll give it later. And it's like, dude, shut up.
• 16:08
  Speaker 4: You're buying like thousands of dollars worth of stuff.
• 16:11
  Speaker 3: And anyone saying like, oh, well, it's not legal for
• 16:13
  Speaker 3: you to take his PS5. You never said you were
• 16:15
  Speaker 3: stealing it. You just said, oh, okay, well, you know.
• 16:18
  Speaker 3: Whenever you can drop off with the money, I'll get up.
• 16:21
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 16:21
  Speaker 3: We can trade off.
• 16:22
  Speaker 4: You said, go ahead and bring that money while you're
• 16:24
  Speaker 4: at it. And he goes, oh, I don't have it.
• 16:25
  Speaker 4: And you go, great. You don't have a PS5 until
• 16:27
  Speaker 4: you give me that money. Yeah. And miraculously, the money
• 16:31
  Speaker 4: showed up.
• 16:32
  Speaker 3: Not illegal.
• 16:33
  Speaker 1: Oh.
• 16:33
  Speaker 4: I knew he had the money because he was talking
• 16:35
  Speaker 4: the night before about how much he makes now. I
• 16:38
  Speaker 4: also know him well enough that he wasn't going to
• 16:40
  Speaker 4: go to the police. I guess we all get to
• 16:42
  Speaker 4: know our friends style and modus operandi. And I knew
• 16:46
  Speaker 4: that wasn't this guy's. Saying that, if he had gone
• 16:49
  Speaker 4: to the police, I have no doubt it would have
• 16:51
  Speaker 4: been that extreme of a crime, since I had a
• 16:53
  Speaker 4: willingness to basically give the thing back anyway if he
• 16:56
  Speaker 4: came without the money. While it is against the law,
• 16:58
  Speaker 4: I imagine, not to be serious enough to lead to
• 17:01
  Speaker 4: any sort of sentencing. It would likely just be a
• 17:04
  Speaker 4: case of, this is a civil matter, hand him back
• 17:06
  Speaker 4: the PlayStation. And I'd have done it. I mean, it
• 17:09
  Speaker 4: was just an idle threat, to be honest. I knew
• 17:11
  Speaker 4: him well enough to know that it would spur him
• 17:13
  Speaker 4: into action as I knew he had the money. A
• 17:15
  Speaker 4: lot of people are asking why I didn't go down
• 17:17
  Speaker 4: the legal route myself. Because that would be insane.
• 17:22
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm gonna, sorry, I'm gonna pay a couple what?
• 17:26
  Speaker 3: Like so much more money to get my hundred dollars back?
• 17:30
  Speaker 4: Ay yi yi.
• 17:31
  Speaker 3: People, people, use your brains.
• 17:33
  Speaker 4: Legal costs and whatnot likely would have cost more than
• 17:36
  Speaker 4: I was actually owed. I rounded the amount to 100,
• 17:38
  Speaker 4: but it was actually 138 pounds, I believe. But I
• 17:42
  Speaker 4: told him he could just round it to 130, as
• 17:44
  Speaker 4: I didn't care too much about that extra 8. Either way,
• 17:48
  Speaker 4: not enough for me to willingly push it to court.
• 17:50
  Speaker 4: People are also asking why I'm still friends with the dude.
• 17:53
  Speaker 4: It's mostly for the sake of the group dynamic as
• 17:55
  Speaker 4: a whole. We have a friend group of around 11 people,
• 17:58
  Speaker 4: and there's a few... that myself and him are both
• 18:00
  Speaker 4: really close to. Me and him were pretty close when
• 18:02
  Speaker 4: we lived together in the first two years of uni,
• 18:04
  Speaker 4: but since then we've drifted apart and I don't see
• 18:06
  Speaker 4: him all that often. Either way, he's part of our
• 18:08
  Speaker 4: friend group, so I treat him with civility. In response
• 18:11
  Speaker 4: to everyone wondering why I kept paying for him despite
• 18:13
  Speaker 4: him not paying me back, and also why I expected
• 18:16
  Speaker 4: paying back from a friend. I'm sorry, what?
• 18:19
  Speaker 3: How could you expect your dear, dear friend to give
• 18:22
  Speaker 3: you back the money he owes you?
• 18:23
  Speaker 4: There's a difference when it's like, yeah, I spot you
• 18:26
  Speaker 4: a five. Don't worry, I got you. Versus like 138 bucks.
• 18:30
  Speaker 4: It's like, I want that back.
• 18:32
  Speaker 3: Give me my money back.
• 18:34
  Speaker 4: Pay me my money.
• 18:35
  Speaker 5: In cash.
• 18:36
  Speaker 4: I don't think how I worded it was clear. The
• 18:39
  Speaker 4: first few times I loaned him money, I told him
• 18:41
  Speaker 4: not to worry about it and that I would cover it. Oh.
• 18:44
  Speaker 4: First he lost his bank card and then it was
• 18:45
  Speaker 4: something else and then it was a bank issue and
• 18:47
  Speaker 4: he couldn't access his account over something. I started to
• 18:50
  Speaker 4: realize all this was excuses. And that's when we went
• 18:53
  Speaker 4: for the birthday meal where I basically said, listen, dude,
• 18:55
  Speaker 4: I'll cover this for you, but this is kind of
• 18:57
  Speaker 4: frequent now. So any chance you could pay me back
• 19:00
  Speaker 4: all the times after this, I lent him money. was
• 19:02
  Speaker 4: when the $ 138, 000 accumulated, and it was within the space
• 19:05
  Speaker 4: of about two weeks. He kept pushing the payback date
• 19:08
  Speaker 4: back further and further, but at that point in time,
• 19:11
  Speaker 4: I thought he was being legit. It's only after this
• 19:13
  Speaker 4: two weeks I started pestering him for the money. and
• 19:15
  Speaker 4: refusing to loan him more. I disagree about not expecting
• 19:18
  Speaker 4: money back from your friends. Well, not when you say,
• 19:21
  Speaker 4: don't worry, bro, I've got you.
• 19:23
  Speaker 3: Well, okay, it sounds, to my understanding, more like OP loans, like,
• 19:29
  Speaker 3: let's say OP buys dinner, and he's like, oh, yeah, like,
• 19:32
  Speaker 3: just Venmo me, and then, you know... the friend goes,
• 19:35
  Speaker 3: oh shoot, my Venmo, like the bank account isn't working.
• 19:38
  Speaker 3: And he goes, oh, okay, it's fine. And then that
• 19:40
  Speaker 3: happens again and again and again. He's like, okay, you
• 19:43
  Speaker 3: know what? Like from now on, you owe me the
• 19:45
  Speaker 3: money that I lend you.
• 19:46
  Speaker 4: Yeah. You just, owe me now. Yeah. But I will
• 19:49
  Speaker 4: say if you want to get paid back, say it.
• 19:52
  Speaker 4: Say that.
• 19:53
  Speaker 3: Say it.
• 19:53
  Speaker 5: Right.
• 19:53
  Speaker 3: Say it. Don't spray it.
• 19:55
  Speaker 4: Say I've got you right now and you can get
• 19:57
  Speaker 4: me back. Not don't worry, brother. I've got you covered. Yeah.
• 20:00
  Speaker 3: Pay me. Pay me now.
• 20:01
  Speaker 4: OP says, sure, if they're struggling, it's cool. But if
• 20:05
  Speaker 4: they're on significantly more than you and you're the one struggling.
• 20:09
  Speaker 4: then I think it's perfectly reasonable to ask for money back.
• 20:11
  Speaker 4: Why was I bothering him for two years over $ 100? Well,
• 20:16
  Speaker 4: it probably seems petty, but I was really struggling once
• 20:18
  Speaker 4: uni ended with bills and stuff. That $ 100 could have
• 20:21
  Speaker 4: helped me and my partner massively with bills for a month.
• 20:24
  Speaker 4: And when you know that someone who owes you money
• 20:25
  Speaker 4: is getting by easy enough to be constantly spoiling themselves...
• 20:29
  Speaker 4: But making excuses as to why they can't give you
• 20:32
  Speaker 4: the money, it ticks you off a bit. Well, it
• 20:34
  Speaker 4: did for me anyway. By about February of last year,
• 20:37
  Speaker 4: I got myself out of debt, but I was a
• 20:38
  Speaker 4: little bitter, to be honest, and found the whole thing
• 20:41
  Speaker 4: quite audacious. So yeah, petty, I guess, but ah well.
• 20:44
  Speaker 4: To all the people saying, what about him letting you
• 20:47
  Speaker 4: play on the PS5? That's technically you renting it, so
• 20:50
  Speaker 4: you should take some of the money off for that.
• 20:53
  Speaker 3: I'm going to start charging people when they play on
• 20:57
  Speaker 3: my Switch.
• 20:58
  Speaker 4: Yeah, saying I should pay rent for using his PS4
• 21:01
  Speaker 4: is kind of stupid. Using that logic, he would owe
• 21:04
  Speaker 4: me way more because he's been around to my place
• 21:07
  Speaker 4: to play on my retro consoles way more than I've
• 21:09
  Speaker 4: played on his PS5. Aside from that, he doesn't drive,
• 21:12
  Speaker 4: so it's always up to me and my missus to
• 21:14
  Speaker 4: drive him everywhere. I think I've been to his place
• 21:16
  Speaker 4: since uni ended once, and he's been to mine several times,
• 21:18
  Speaker 4: so yeah. Not really a compelling argument for me, sorry.
• 21:21
  Speaker 4: You drive him around everywhere? You've been to his place once? What?
• 21:26
  Speaker 4: What is this? What is this friendship dynamic?
• 21:28
  Speaker 3: I feel like they're not really friends. They're just, they're
• 21:31
  Speaker 3: friends through the friend group.
• 21:33
  Speaker 4: And to all the people telling me to give him
• 21:36
  Speaker 4: back his PS5, I did.
• 21:38
  Speaker 3: Did you even read that story?
• 21:40
  Speaker 4: Are you illiterate?
• 21:41
  Speaker 3: Did you even read the story?
• 21:42
  Speaker 4: You fool.
• 21:43
  Speaker 3: You didn't read the story.
• 21:44
  Speaker 4: Once he brought the money around, within half an hour,
• 21:47
  Speaker 4: I gave him his PlayStation back straight away. I don't
• 21:50
  Speaker 4: still have it. I was only holding it until I
• 21:52
  Speaker 4: had the money. We have a third update. What?
• 21:57
  Speaker 3: I don't know what else he could tell us. Oh,
• 21:59
  Speaker 3: I'll be honest here. I don't know what else he
• 22:02
  Speaker 3: could tell us.
• 22:03
  Speaker 4: Does anyone else in the group have a problem with
• 22:05
  Speaker 4: this guy besides you?
• 22:08
  Speaker 3: Let's get rid of him.
• 22:09
  Speaker 4: I mean, you know. Group dynamic politics, but like.
• 22:13
  Speaker 3: Maybe because he's rich. He's got like rich connections. He's
• 22:17
  Speaker 3: got like a boat and a lake house and they
• 22:19
  Speaker 3: all like going to his boat lake house.
• 22:21
  Speaker 4: He's the rich friend. He's the rich friend that uses boat.
• 22:24
  Speaker 3: He's the boat friend. You need a boat friend. I
• 22:26
  Speaker 3: don't have a boat friend, but I'd like a boat friend.
• 22:28
  Speaker 4: You know what? If you have a boat friend, maybe
• 22:29
  Speaker 4: you let him keep that 138 bucks. Yeah. You know,
• 22:32
  Speaker 4: because he's got a boat. We don't know if this
• 22:35
  Speaker 4: guy's got a boat, but I do know that there's
• 22:37
  Speaker 4: a third update. The next day, his mom contacted me
• 22:40
  Speaker 4: on Facebook about the PlayStation. He's obviously had a bit
• 22:44
  Speaker 4: of a gossip session to her about it, and she
• 22:46
  Speaker 4: wanted to know what happened. and why I had refused
• 22:49
  Speaker 4: to give him his PlayStation back. I explained the whole
• 22:51
  Speaker 4: situation to her, and she apologized for his actions, and
• 22:54
  Speaker 4: basically told me that what I'd done was right, and
• 22:57
  Speaker 4: that in the future, it might teach him to pay
• 22:59
  Speaker 4: back money he owes. She ended up sending me an
• 23:01
  Speaker 4: extra 20 through bank transfers, and she still had my
• 23:04
  Speaker 4: details from when she sent me money for an escape
• 23:06
  Speaker 4: room I did with him about four years earlier.
• 23:09
  Speaker 3: She sent the money for him.
• 23:11
  Speaker 4: She said, here's a little tip. Here's a little money
• 23:13
  Speaker 4: for my son's escape room. She paid the interest.
• 23:17
  Speaker 3: I'll pay you more if you leave him in there.
• 23:20
  Speaker 4: She put a little note on it apologizing. And that
• 23:23
  Speaker 4: was pretty nice of her. He seems all right with me, too,
• 23:25
  Speaker 4: weirdly enough. Also, he is terrified of his mom. And
• 23:28
  Speaker 4: apparently she gave him a bollocking when she knew the
• 23:31
  Speaker 4: full story. So maybe that's why. Anyway, story over. No
• 23:34
  Speaker 4: more updates. Thanks for the responses, everyone. That is the
• 23:37
  Speaker 4: end of that. And exactly like I said earlier, call
• 23:41
  Speaker 4: his mom.
• 23:42
  Speaker 3: Call his mommy.
• 23:44
  Speaker 4: Call his parents.
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story. We're going to
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: go to the next one.
• 23:48
  Speaker 3: My friend crashed a car, then demanded I pay for it.
• 23:52
  Speaker 4: Was it your car?
• 23:53
  Speaker 3: Let me start off by saying I, 16 female, am
• 23:55
  Speaker 3: a minimum wage worker at Starbucks. Been there, girl. Been there.
• 23:59
  Speaker 4: Been there. She's done that. So are my.
• 24:02
  Speaker 3: Two friends in the story who I'll call Bea, 16 female,
• 24:05
  Speaker 3: and Tana, 17 female. Bea has her license and her
• 24:09
  Speaker 3: own car. Tana has her learner's but doesn't have a car.
• 24:13
  Speaker 3: I have neither since my mom lost my citizenship and
• 24:15
  Speaker 3: I barely have an ID. Anyway, we all.
• 24:18
  Speaker 5: Another story. That sounds like a whole other story to
• 24:20
  Speaker 5: talk about.
• 24:21
  Speaker 3: Anyway, we all work at Starbucks. Tana was hired by
• 24:25
  Speaker 3: reference from me and Bea. Bea lets Tana drive her
• 24:28
  Speaker 3: car around ever since she took it for a spin
• 24:30
  Speaker 3: without Bea's knowledge and filled up her tank.
• 24:33
  Speaker 4: Wait, sorry.
• 24:33
  Speaker 3: Bea lets Tana drive her car around ever since... Ever
• 24:36
  Speaker 3: since Tana took it for a spin without her knowledge.
• 24:39
  Speaker 4: But then, hey.
• 24:40
  Speaker 3: But then filled the tank.
• 24:41
  Speaker 5: They filled the tank.
• 24:42
  Speaker 4: She's like, oh, thank God.
• 24:43
  Speaker 5: In today's age, if you fill my tank, you can
• 24:44
  Speaker 5: drive my car.
• 24:45
  Speaker 3: You can drive my car. You, baby, you can drive
• 24:47
  Speaker 3: my car. Long story short, about two-ish weeks ago, me
• 24:50
  Speaker 3: and Tana were waiting for Bea to get off her
• 24:52
  Speaker 3: shift so we could go to the beach. While we
• 24:54
  Speaker 3: were waiting, me and Tana went to go fill Bea's
• 24:56
  Speaker 3: tank at the gas station Tana used to work at. Jokingly,
• 24:59
  Speaker 3: Tana's old co-workers suggested she bring them all drinks from Starbucks,
• 25:03
  Speaker 3: which we did. Me and Tana had also made two
• 25:05
  Speaker 3: drinks for ourselves. While parked at the gas station, we
• 25:08
  Speaker 3: placed our drinks on the dashboard, since the cup holders
• 25:11
  Speaker 3: were occupied. By bees, two water bottles.
• 25:13
  Speaker 4: I mean, liquids do you need in this car? Yeah,
• 25:15
  Speaker 4: two water bottles.
• 25:16
  Speaker 2: Jeez.
• 25:17
  Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from Standard Report 9304. And
• 25:20
  Speaker 3: if you want to submit your own stories, go to
• 25:21
  Speaker 3: the r slash showcase story time subreddit. I'm Sophia.
• 25:24
  Speaker 5: I'm Keon.
• 25:25
  Speaker 4: I'm Keon.
• 25:26
  Speaker 3: And we're all Keon today, I guess.
• 25:29
  Speaker 5: Happy Filipino pride, everyone. Half Filipino pride.
• 25:32
  Speaker 4: Let's go.
• 25:32
  Speaker 3: But if you got some Filipino pride, put it down
• 25:36
  Speaker 3: in the comments. And Obi says.
• 25:38
  Speaker 4: Heck yeah.
• 25:38
  Speaker 3: When we were leaving, we had somehow forgotten that the
• 25:40
  Speaker 3: drinks were up there. And during a turn, the drinks
• 25:43
  Speaker 3: had spilled all over the car.
• 25:44
  Speaker 2: Genuinely.
• 25:45
  Speaker 3: Okay. I've seen this happen multiple times.
• 25:46
  Speaker 4: What a freaking disaster, by the way.
• 25:49
  Speaker 3: I've seen this happen multiple times. I don't understand how
• 25:52
  Speaker 3: people forget that they have drinks on their car.
• 25:54
  Speaker 4: Teenagers. Teenagers.
• 25:56
  Speaker 3: No, but adults do this too.
• 25:57
  Speaker 4: I know.
• 25:58
  Speaker 3: Everyone does this.
• 25:58
  Speaker 4: It pisses me off.
• 25:59
  Speaker 3: I've never done this in my life. Tana panicked and
• 26:01
  Speaker 3: hit a parked Volkswagen. She panicked because drinks fell?
• 26:05
  Speaker 5: I mean, I feel like it wasn't, I feel like
• 26:09
  Speaker 5: OP used the wrong words here. Probably distracted that the
• 26:13
  Speaker 5: drinks fell and was looking at the drinks that fell
• 26:15
  Speaker 5: and then swerved.
• 26:17
  Speaker 3: Oh no, drinks.
• 26:18
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 26:19
  Speaker 3: The lady we hit was understandably very mad.
• 26:21
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 26:22
  Speaker 3: The payment for the car ended up being $ 1, 300, which
• 26:25
  Speaker 3: Tana and Bea agreed to split since Tana was driving
• 26:29
  Speaker 3: and Bea let her drive.
• 26:29
  Speaker 4: What the heck?
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: No.
• 26:31
  Speaker 5: This is such a high school mishap here.
• 26:34
  Speaker 3: Now, today they had suggested I split it with them
• 26:36
  Speaker 3: since my drink also spilled.
• 26:38
  Speaker 4: Dude, that's where I'm going.
• 26:40
  Speaker 5: That was where I was going with it.
• 26:42
  Speaker 4: Stupidity. Stupidity. It was stupidity. This is so stupid. What?
• 26:46
  Speaker 2: What? Sorry?
• 26:48
  Speaker 3: No, the fact that B is even paying is actually crazy.
• 26:52
  Speaker 3: It should be Tana. She crashed the car. I argued
• 26:55
  Speaker 3: that the drink Tana had would have spilled regardless if
• 26:58
  Speaker 3: I was there or not. And my drink didn't make
• 27:00
  Speaker 3: much difference. They said it was the principle of it
• 27:02
  Speaker 3: and that I should do it because I'm their friend.
• 27:04
  Speaker 4: No!
• 27:05
  Speaker 3: OP, don't do that.
• 27:06
  Speaker 4: That's stupid.
• 27:07
  Speaker 3: I'm going to tell you right now, don't do that.
• 27:08
  Speaker 3: I don't feel $ 400 is fair for the amount I've contributed.
• 27:11
  Speaker 3: I would have felt $ 100 or $ 200 was reasonable.
• 27:14
  Speaker 4: None of it's reasonable.
• 27:15
  Speaker 3: You do not owe them any money, OP.
• 27:16
  Speaker 4: You weren't the driver.
• 27:18
  Speaker 3: Talk to your mom. But $ 400 doesn't seem reasonable. I
• 27:21
  Speaker 3: blocked them both after this argument because I just had
• 27:24
  Speaker 3: a rough day and can't deal with this.
• 27:25
  Speaker 5: Don't do that.
• 27:26
  Speaker 3: But what should I do? Am I the a-hole for
• 27:28
  Speaker 3: not wanting to pay $ 400? You didn't crash the car.
• 27:32
  Speaker 4: You didn't crash the car.
• 27:34
  Speaker 3: It wasn't your car. You weren't driving. No, you shouldn't
• 27:37
  Speaker 3: pay $ 400.
• 27:39
  Speaker 5: The only way I can see OP being the one
• 27:42
  Speaker 5: to pay for this is if she.
• 27:43
  Speaker 4: Went, hey, Donna. Yeah. In your face. Let me grab
• 27:47
  Speaker 4: the wheel. Oh, my gosh. We crashed into a Volkswagen.
• 27:49
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 27:49
  Speaker 5: That's the only time.
• 27:50
  Speaker 3: That's it.
• 27:51
  Speaker 4: If you did not do that, then you are innocent.
• 27:54
  Speaker 4: You're good.
• 27:54
  Speaker 3: You're good, OP.
• 27:55
  Speaker 4: Talk to your mom. Yeah. You're just playing music. Yeah. Yeah.
• 27:58
  Speaker 3: And edit. Yes, I did help clean the interior of
• 28:01
  Speaker 3: the spilled drinks. Luckily, most of it got on parts
• 28:04
  Speaker 3: that were easy to clean rather than the seats, so
• 28:06
  Speaker 3: it just took a few wipes. Yes, we should have
• 28:09
  Speaker 3: been driving with a driver's license. We went to an
• 28:12
  Speaker 3: insurance company and turned ourselves in. We filed a claim, lol.
• 28:16
  Speaker 3: And yes, Bea was fully aware we were taking the
• 28:18
  Speaker 3: car to fill up her tank and give Tana's old
• 28:20
  Speaker 3: co-workers drink. And there was no injuries from both parties
• 28:23
  Speaker 3: of the crash. Why did you turn yourself in?
• 28:25
  Speaker 4: You weren't driving! Okay. Say, Mr. Insurance Man, we were
• 28:30
  Speaker 4: all driving the car at the exact same time.
• 28:32
  Speaker 3: This is crazy. OP, did you never once talk to
• 28:35
  Speaker 3: a parent? Did you never once talk to either of your...
• 28:38
  Speaker 3: Do you have parents? I hope so, because it'll be
• 28:40
  Speaker 3: really sad if you're like, I don't even have parents.
• 28:42
  Speaker 5: This is dumb.
• 28:43
  Speaker 3: This is really dumb. Did anyone's parents get involved? Does
• 28:48
  Speaker 3: anyone have parents?
• 28:50
  Speaker 4: It makes no sense to.
• 28:52
  Speaker 3: You're telling me they went to 16-year-olds, one who doesn't
• 28:56
  Speaker 3: have a license, went to the, I don't know, the
• 28:59
  Speaker 3: DMV by themselves?
• 29:01
  Speaker 4: Yes. Yes.
• 29:03
  Speaker 3: Update.
• 29:04
  Speaker 4: This is the most 16-year-old logic story of all time.
• 29:08
  Speaker 4: We were all in this together.
• 29:09
  Speaker 3: We both turned ourselves in, and now I owe $ 400.
• 29:11
  Speaker 5: So does Bea, because Bea gave her car to Tana.
• 29:15
  Speaker 4: With their logic, though, if you just hadn't ordered a drink,
• 29:19
  Speaker 4: you would be completely not liable.
• 29:22
  Speaker 3: Yeah, what if Opie had ordered water?
• 29:24
  Speaker 5: You know what?
• 29:24
  Speaker 3: She's still alive.
• 29:25
  Speaker 5: Throw in the guy, throw in the friend who was
• 29:27
  Speaker 5: working at the gas station because you were.
• 29:29
  Speaker 4: Bringing them a drink.
• 29:30
  Speaker 3: Yeah, you were bringing them a drink.
• 29:31
  Speaker 4: They're the culprit.
• 29:32
  Speaker 5: Yeah, this is honestly the reason why you were driving
• 29:34
  Speaker 5: there anyway.
• 29:35
  Speaker 4: Good point. And who brought all those water bottles taking
• 29:37
  Speaker 4: up all the cup holders?
• 29:39
  Speaker 3: And who was... serving them those drinks at the Starbucks?
• 29:42
  Speaker 4: Who gave birth to you? You want to sue the
• 29:44
  Speaker 4: owner of Starbucks at this point? Corporation. I'm suing the
• 29:48
  Speaker 4: entire city of Seattle. Update.
• 29:50
  Speaker 3: For people asking what the payment is for, here's the thing.
• 29:53
  Speaker 3: I'm not very knowledgeable on cars and stuff like this,
• 29:55
  Speaker 3: so I'm not sure of the exact terms. I know
• 29:58
  Speaker 3: that originally when we went to the insurance company, they
• 30:00
  Speaker 3: quoted us $ 700 for the deductible.
• 30:04
  Speaker 5: Yeah, they went, they don't know anything about these cars.
• 30:08
  Speaker 3: Wait, no, but $ 700 and someone saying $ 1, 300? So they're
• 30:14
  Speaker 3: asking OP to pay more than half of what everyone owes?
• 30:19
  Speaker 4: This is giving such 16-year-old logic, like Dakota said.
• 30:23
  Speaker 3: Some people said that's unusually high, but the damages were
• 30:26
  Speaker 3: pretty bad on Bea's car, and it should actually be
• 30:28
  Speaker 3: considered totaled right now. What did she do?
• 30:31
  Speaker 4: How fast was she going? She must have been.
• 30:33
  Speaker 3: Going like 40 and then like full slammed.
• 30:36
  Speaker 5: 40 and a 15?
• 30:36
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 30:38
  Speaker 3: She texted her group chat a few days later, and
• 30:40
  Speaker 3: I don't exactly remember why, but the price went up
• 30:42
  Speaker 3: from $ 700 to $ 1, 300. That's what I'm asking. I will
• 30:47
  Speaker 3: update the post once I figure out why. Ask a parent.
• 30:49
  Speaker 3: Please involve your parents.
• 30:51
  Speaker 4: Show me receipts. Yeah.
• 30:52
  Speaker 3: Also, I know it was immature to block them. I've
• 30:55
  Speaker 3: known Bea since grade five, and Tana I met in
• 30:57
  Speaker 3: freshman year of high school. We're all very close. I
• 31:00
  Speaker 3: just had a really rough day and couldn't deal with
• 31:02
  Speaker 3: them then and there.
• 31:04
  Speaker 4: Oh, you are so 16.
• 31:04
  Speaker 3: You're so 16.
• 31:05
  Speaker 4: You're like, this is so hard.
• 31:07
  Speaker 6: This is so hard.
• 31:08
  Speaker 4: You don't make it really easy. Fuck.
• 31:09
  Speaker 5: Silence.
• 31:10
  Speaker 3: Wow.
• 31:11
  Speaker 4: Nothing.
• 31:12
  Speaker 5: If nobody texts me, nothing ever happened.
• 31:15
  Speaker 3: A lot of you said not the a-hole, but I
• 31:16
  Speaker 3: will still hold myself partially accountable for my drinks since
• 31:19
  Speaker 3: it was also up on the dashboard. My average paycheck
• 31:22
  Speaker 3: is around 600 and I still have to save for
• 31:24
  Speaker 3: a car, which is why I wasn't very open to
• 31:27
  Speaker 3: paying 400 since half my check goes in my savings.
• 31:30
  Speaker 3: but we will come up with something more reasonable, I'm sure.
• 31:32
  Speaker 3: You don't owe any money.
• 31:34
  Speaker 4: You know what's reasonable?
• 31:34
  Speaker 3: You do not owe any money.
• 31:36
  Speaker 5: You're not paying anything.
• 31:37
  Speaker 3: If B had said, hey, girl, hey, girlfriend, can you
• 31:42
  Speaker 3: drive my car and grab some gas for me? And
• 31:44
  Speaker 3: then you crash the car, I'd be like, yeah, you
• 31:47
  Speaker 3: probably owe some money there.
• 31:49
  Speaker 5: I also like how there's two people in the car.
• 31:51
  Speaker 5: They saw four drinks on the dashboard and went, fine.
• 31:54
  Speaker 5: That looks fine.
• 31:54
  Speaker 4: That looks safe, right? We've done this before.
• 31:57
  Speaker 3: You do not owe any money. And why aren't their
• 32:00
  Speaker 3: parents involved? Update two. It's been a day since me
• 32:03
  Speaker 3: and Bea talked. Bea's auntie reached out to me today
• 32:06
  Speaker 3: and told me that she informed her about the situation
• 32:08
  Speaker 3: and her auntie thought it was ridiculous they were trying
• 32:10
  Speaker 3: to make me pay.
• 32:11
  Speaker 4: Finally, an adult.
• 32:13
  Speaker 5: Logic.
• 32:14
  Speaker 4: Actual logic.
• 32:15
  Speaker 3: Her auntie thinks that Tana should be paying for the
• 32:18
  Speaker 3: whole thing since she's the one who crashed the car.
• 32:20
  Speaker 4: Yes.
• 32:21
  Speaker 2: Wow. Yes.
• 32:22
  Speaker 4: Oh, my gosh.
• 32:22
  Speaker 3: A logical person.
• 32:24
  Speaker 5: Well, again, Sophia, they are teenagers. Their brains are not
• 32:27
  Speaker 5: fully developed yet.
• 32:28
  Speaker 4: Clearly not. They thought putting drinks on the dashboard was safe. Yep.
• 32:33
  Speaker 3: As for the payments, I asked her auntie, and she
• 32:35
  Speaker 3: said that there was a flat fee of $ 700 for
• 32:37
  Speaker 3: both cars. For both cars?
• 32:39
  Speaker 5: $ 700 total.
• 32:42
  Speaker 3: So again, they were trying to make O.P. pay over
• 32:47
  Speaker 3: half of the entire bill.
• 32:48
  Speaker 5: That's a good friend.
• 32:50
  Speaker 3: The car that Tana hits.
• 32:51
  Speaker 4: Oh, wait, no, no, no.
• 32:52
  Speaker 3: Sorry.
• 32:53
  Speaker 4: No.
• 32:53
  Speaker 3: The car that Tana hit and these cars. So actually
• 32:55
  Speaker 3: a total comes out to fourteen hundred. OK, so it's
• 32:57
  Speaker 3: both not for both cars.
• 32:59
  Speaker 4: It's each.
• 33:00
  Speaker 3: And insurance is covering the rest. A lot of people
• 33:03
  Speaker 3: are disagreeing with me trying to take responsibility for my part.
• 33:06
  Speaker 3: And after speaking with a few adults in my life,
• 33:08
  Speaker 3: I'm starting to realize that it does in fact sound ridiculous.
• 33:11
  Speaker 3: They're trying to make me pay. Me and Bea are
• 33:13
  Speaker 3: both unfortunately quite petty. So I don't think that either
• 33:16
  Speaker 3: of us will be reaching out to talk and I
• 33:18
  Speaker 3: might just have to let them both go as friends. Again,
• 33:21
  Speaker 3: thank you all for the advice. It was much needed.
• 33:23
  Speaker 3: And that's it.
• 33:25
  Speaker 5: I like how Opie was like, I'm so petty. I
• 33:27
  Speaker 5: know that like it's wrong.
• 33:30
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 33:30
  Speaker 5: But what's what's more important here? My friendships with them
• 33:33
  Speaker 5: or I mean, not paying.
• 33:35
  Speaker 4: You know what? Yeah. For real.
• 33:37
  Speaker 3: I wouldn't want to be friends with people try to
• 33:39
  Speaker 3: make me pay four hundred dollars for an accident that
• 33:42
  Speaker 3: I didn't cause.
• 33:43
  Speaker 4: Yeah. It's dumb. I think this is a story, though,
• 33:46
  Speaker 4: that if you stay friends with these people, you you
• 33:49
  Speaker 4: look back at it.
• 33:50
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 33:50
  Speaker 3: You're like, oh, my God. You remember when you did that?
• 33:52
  Speaker 4: It's so funny. It's like, ha ha ha.
• 33:55
  Speaker 5: And you'll know next time when people put drinks on
• 33:58
  Speaker 5: your dashboard.
• 33:59
  Speaker 3: Don't do that.
• 34:00
  Speaker 5: Don't do that.
• 34:00
  Speaker 4: That's not where the drinks go. That's where your feet go.
• 34:04
  Speaker 4: They go in the cup holder.
• 34:04
  Speaker 3: We take the water bottles that presumably have some sort
• 34:07
  Speaker 3: of cover out.
• 34:09
  Speaker 5: And throw it on the ground.
• 34:10
  Speaker 4: Throw it on the ground. Throw them at somebody.
• 34:12
  Speaker 3: Throw them at somebody. Throw them at that Volkswagen.
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story. We're going to
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: go to the next one.
• 34:17
  Speaker 5: My friend paid for my whole trip to be her caretaker.
• 34:20
  Speaker 3: Well, I'm not going to do that.
• 34:22
  Speaker 5: So, I, 39 male, have a friend, 52 female, of
• 34:25
  Speaker 5: 16 years. Do some math on that one. We were
• 34:27
  Speaker 5: very close in the past. She met all my exes
• 34:29
  Speaker 5: and came to my wedding, but we've grown distant over
• 34:32
  Speaker 5: the last seven years. Where did you guys meet? So, recently,
• 34:35
  Speaker 5: she's been trying to reconnect, and she suggested we travel
• 34:38
  Speaker 5: together since she doesn't like traveling alone. We both live
• 34:41
  Speaker 5: in London, and she invited me to visit Istanbul with her.
• 34:43
  Speaker 5: I had between jobs and initially told her I couldn't
• 34:46
  Speaker 5: afford to go.
• 34:47
  Speaker 4: So she offered to pay for everything, flights, hotels, food,
• 34:51
  Speaker 4: and activities because she wanted to spend time with me.
• 34:55
  Speaker 4: And I go, what's the catch?
• 34:57
  Speaker 3: What's the freaking catch? What's the catch of the day?
• 34:59
  Speaker 5: So I helped her in many ways in the past,
• 35:01
  Speaker 5: so it didn't feel strange accepting this. She insisted it
• 35:04
  Speaker 5: would be fun and a chance to reconnect. I agreed
• 35:07
  Speaker 5: and offered to cover around 20% of the cost. After
• 35:09
  Speaker 5: booking the trip, she mentioned going to a clinic for.
• 35:12
  Speaker 4: A facial procedure.
• 35:13
  Speaker 5: This made me uneasy, so I asked for details.
• 35:16
  Speaker 3: Facial procedure sounds like some, it sounds a little bit
• 35:20
  Speaker 3: like we're doing some sort of a surgery. Maybe some
• 35:24
  Speaker 3: sort of like nose surgery?
• 35:27
  Speaker 5: Sounds like a kind of job.
• 35:28
  Speaker 3: Or maybe Botox?
• 35:30
  Speaker 4: At first, she refused, saying it was bad luck to
• 35:33
  Speaker 4: talk about it.
• 35:34
  Speaker 5: Over days... She revealed it involved taking skin from her
• 35:37
  Speaker 5: mouth and possibly her ear and admitted they might also
• 35:40
  Speaker 5: do eyelid surgery. What is that?
• 35:43
  Speaker 3: What is that for?
• 35:45
  Speaker 5: I felt blindsided and used. She apologized, saying she hid
• 35:49
  Speaker 5: it because she didn't want opinions about her surgery. I
• 35:52
  Speaker 5: raised concerns about travel insurance, but she dismissed them, saying
• 35:56
  Speaker 5: insurance attracts bad things and making me feel guilty for
• 36:00
  Speaker 5: being ill. negative by the way so negative and this
• 36:05
  Speaker 5: is when like there's a lot of flashing red lights
• 36:08
  Speaker 5: and waving red flags in your face.
• 36:11
  Speaker 4: Right op what even is that it's that's like saying
• 36:13
  Speaker 4: using protection is gonna get you pregnant.
• 36:15
  Speaker 5: By the way, this comes from user EarlySlice6325. And if
• 36:19
  Speaker 5: you want to submit your own stories, go to the
• 36:20
  Speaker 5: r slash OKStoryTime subreddit.
• 36:22
  Speaker 4: I'm Keon. I'm Sophia. I'm Dakota.
• 36:26
  Speaker 5: And us three, we don't know everything. We only know
• 36:28
  Speaker 5: what we do, so let us know what you do
• 36:30
  Speaker 5: in the comments down below. Right, guys?
• 36:32
  Speaker 2: Yeah!
• 36:33
  Speaker 4: Nah! Yeah! Yeah!
• 36:36
  Speaker 5: As OP says, My friend insists I won't need to
• 36:39
  Speaker 5: care for her. Just walk her from the clinic to
• 36:41
  Speaker 5: the hotel after anesthesia.
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: What?
• 36:46
  Speaker 4: That's going to be a fun walk.
• 36:49
  Speaker 3: Just the clinic. When I'm really drowsy and I don't
• 36:52
  Speaker 3: really know what's going on, just walk me from the clinic.
• 36:54
  Speaker 2: To my hotel.
• 36:54
  Speaker 5: It's like when they do your wisdom teeth and you
• 36:57
  Speaker 5: need someone to actually come get you. You cannot drive.
• 37:00
  Speaker 3: It's just that. Honestly, OP might have said yes if
• 37:04
  Speaker 3: she just said, hey, one of the days I am
• 37:06
  Speaker 3: doing this surgery, but I will pay for everything. She
• 37:09
  Speaker 3: probably would have said yes.
• 37:11
  Speaker 5: But then, Sophia, she said she won't be able to
• 37:13
  Speaker 5: eat or sleep well for days, and the surgery is
• 37:16
  Speaker 5: scheduled for day two, leaving no time for activities.
• 37:20
  Speaker 3: Yeah, this is messed up now.
• 37:22
  Speaker 5: At one point, she joked about getting lipo, a butt lift,
• 37:26
  Speaker 5: and implants, which made me question how honest she's been.
• 37:29
  Speaker 5: She later claimed it was a joke. But by then,
• 37:33
  Speaker 5: it felt like too much. She hasn't mentioned a backup
• 37:35
  Speaker 5: plan if I cancel, and I haven't offered to reimburse
• 37:38
  Speaker 5: her for the flight yet. The trip is next week.
• 37:41
  Speaker 5: Canceling now would mess up her plans and cost her
• 37:45
  Speaker 5: extra money. But after seven years of distance, it feels
• 37:47
  Speaker 5: like she only reached out because no one else would
• 37:49
  Speaker 5: help her. I had accepted this friendship was over, and
• 37:52
  Speaker 5: now I feel kind of used. I'm even tempted to
• 37:55
  Speaker 5: ghost her out of resentment. Am I the bad friend
• 37:57
  Speaker 5: if I cancel and risk ending the friendship for good?
• 38:00
  Speaker 5: Should I offer to reimburse her for the ticket? And
• 38:02
  Speaker 5: we have an update, Sophia. You were asked to go
• 38:05
  Speaker 5: on a fun trip. Let's go on a girl's trip
• 38:08
  Speaker 5: to Istanbul. And it's going to be fun. You know
• 38:10
  Speaker 5: what's going to be really fun? You taking care of me.
• 38:14
  Speaker 4: Yeah, no. No.
• 38:16
  Speaker 3: Well, you know what I could do is, if OP
• 38:19
  Speaker 3: spent money on.
• 38:22
  Speaker 3: I wonder if how much could be reimbursed and stuff
• 38:24
  Speaker 3: because tickets, I'd be like, you know what? I am going,
• 38:27
  Speaker 3: but I'm not, I'm not helping you. I will pay
• 38:29
  Speaker 3: you back.
• 38:30
  Speaker 4: For these tickets. I'm going, I'm sorry. I don't feel good.
• 38:33
  Speaker 4: I'm sick. I'm sick. Sorry. I don't feel good.
• 38:35
  Speaker 3: I would, I would pay back. I would say, Hey,
• 38:37
  Speaker 3: like cancel my stuff. Yeah, this is not okay. I'm
• 38:40
  Speaker 3: going to pay you back for the ticket. I'm still
• 38:42
  Speaker 3: going to go on this trip. If you can't refund
• 38:44
  Speaker 3: the ticket.
• 38:45
  Speaker 4: I don't even know.
• 38:46
  Speaker 5: This is someone who hasn't, by the way, you have
• 38:47
  Speaker 5: not talked to in seven-ish years.
• 38:50
  Speaker 4: That's crazy.
• 38:50
  Speaker 5: And they hit you up out of the blue.
• 38:51
  Speaker 3: Yeah, invite you on this trip, and you're like, oh, wow.
• 38:54
  Speaker 5: We're doing a girl's trip like we used to all
• 38:56
  Speaker 5: the time. But honestly, I'm getting all these surgeries, and
• 38:59
  Speaker 5: I need someone to hold my hand and be my chaperone.
• 39:03
  Speaker 3: You could have just said that.
• 39:05
  Speaker 4: Well, you know what?
• 39:06
  Speaker 5: I guarantee you OP's friend did try that with all
• 39:10
  Speaker 5: her other friends.
• 39:10
  Speaker 6: Mm-hmm.
• 39:11
  Speaker 4: Yeah, no one said yes. Yeah.
• 39:13
  Speaker 3: She went through all the people she has talked to
• 39:16
  Speaker 3: and no one said yes. She was like, well, maybe OP.
• 39:18
  Speaker 3: I know I haven't seen him.
• 39:19
  Speaker 4: I've seen him for like seven years.
• 39:20
  Speaker 5: If I don't let them know about what I really
• 39:22
  Speaker 5: am going to Istanbul for.
• 39:24
  Speaker 4: It'll be fun. It could work. We have an update.
• 39:28
  Speaker 4: Oh boy.
• 39:28
  Speaker 5: It better be you saying I'm not going. Opie says,
• 39:31
  Speaker 5: thanks for all the feedback. I'm usually very cautious about
• 39:33
  Speaker 5: accepting gifts or favors unless I know the person extremely well.
• 39:37
  Speaker 5: But this situation reminded me that we can often be
• 39:39
  Speaker 5: wrong about people's hidden intentions. After reflecting, I've decided to
• 39:43
  Speaker 5: skip this trip and and gradually phase her out. Made
• 39:46
  Speaker 5: me realize she's no longer someone I can trust or
• 39:48
  Speaker 5: rely on. I told her it would be best for
• 39:50
  Speaker 5: her to hire a local nurse, as I'm not comfortable
• 39:52
  Speaker 5: going since there wouldn't be much time for us to actually,
• 39:55
  Speaker 5: you know, hang out. For real.
• 39:57
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 39:58
  Speaker 5: For real. It's a girl's trip, but the entire time
• 40:01
  Speaker 5: you're getting surgery and I'm not really doing anything.
• 40:04
  Speaker 4: Hmm.
• 40:05
  Speaker 5: I also mentioned that my aunt had the same surgery,
• 40:08
  Speaker 5: which is true, and shared that the recovery isn't as
• 40:11
  Speaker 5: easy as she seems to think it is, adding details
• 40:14
  Speaker 5: based on my aunt's experience.
• 40:15
  Speaker 4: We can finish it up. I think that's great. I
• 40:17
  Speaker 4: hope he said no.
• 40:19
  Speaker 5: I don't want to do that.
• 40:19
  Speaker 3: No, I won't be doing that, actually.
• 40:21
  Speaker 4: That's awful. Doesn't sound like a good time.
• 40:23
  Speaker 2: Have fun.
• 40:24
  Speaker 4: Wish you the best.
• 40:25
  Speaker 6: Bye.
• 40:26
  Speaker 5: So, Opie says, Istanbul is affordable to travel from London.
• 40:29
  Speaker 5: And even though I'm not working at the moment, I
• 40:31
  Speaker 5: could still go on my own with cheap flights and
• 40:33
  Speaker 5: cheap Airbnb if I wanted to.
• 40:35
  Speaker 3: Yeah, so true. Exactly what I'm saying.
• 40:38
  Speaker 5: I visited last March to check out a shooting range. Instead,
• 40:40
  Speaker 5: I plan to visit a good friend in Munich this April.
• 40:43
  Speaker 4: Nice.
• 40:43
  Speaker 5: A great police officer I met during Muay Thai camp
• 40:46
  Speaker 5: in Thailand last year, where we spent 10 incredible days together.
• 40:49
  Speaker 6: What?
• 40:49
  Speaker 3: 10 incredible days together?
• 40:52
  Speaker 4: What does that mean?
• 40:52
  Speaker 3: What do you mean by that?
• 40:54
  Speaker 5: They taught you some moves, huh?
• 40:55
  Speaker 3: Yeah, a little Muay Thai moves.
• 40:57
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 40:57
  Speaker 3: A little Muay Thai moves.
• 40:58
  Speaker 5: We've stayed close and have weekly video calls. He even
• 41:00
  Speaker 5: offered to lend me money so I can join him
• 41:02
  Speaker 5: in Thailand this January, though I politely declined. And that's
• 41:05
  Speaker 5: the end of that story. All right.
• 41:07
  Speaker 3: Well, there we go.
• 41:08
  Speaker 4: All right, Mr. Worldwide. Mr. Worldwide. Dale. Dale.
• 41:14
  Speaker 3: 305 Hotel Motel. Get your holiday in.
• 41:17
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 41:18
  Speaker 3: And go on this trip to Istanbul.
• 41:19
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 41:20
  Speaker 3: I've never been to Istanbul. It seems cool.
• 41:23
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I've not been.
• 41:24
  Speaker 3: Closest I've been is hungry.
• 41:26
  Speaker 4: Mmm, I'm hungry too.
• 41:28
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• 41:35
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• 41:40
  Speaker 3: My best friend mocked me for years, so I exposed him. Whoa,
• 41:44
  Speaker 3: why would you do that? I, 26 male, called my
• 41:47
  Speaker 3: best friend, 26 male, a loser, after he tried to
• 41:51
  Speaker 3: embarrass me in front of our girlfriends.
• 41:53
  Speaker 4: Loser.
• 41:55
  Speaker 3: I have a best friend who I've known since childhood.
• 41:57
  Speaker 3: We grew up together, went to the same schools, parties, church, extracurriculars, etc.
• 42:02
  Speaker 3: I met the female versions of myself and my best
• 42:04
  Speaker 3: friend three years ago. Both of them are 26 female.
• 42:08
  Speaker 4: You met the female version of yourself?
• 42:09
  Speaker 3: I've never heard a girlfriend be referred to as the
• 42:12
  Speaker 3: female version of myself.
• 42:14
  Speaker 4: This is female me.
• 42:15
  Speaker 3: This is my boyfriend. He's the male version of me.
• 42:18
  Speaker 4: I hate it. I don't like that.
• 42:19
  Speaker 3: I introduced the other one to my buddy, and we
• 42:21
  Speaker 3: have both been in very happy relationships with our respective girlfriends.
• 42:25
  Speaker 3: We literally did everything together.
• 42:27
  Speaker 5: Everything?
• 42:28
  Speaker 4: Everything. Everything? Everything.
• 42:30
  Speaker 3: Double dates, hanging out, playing video games all together, going
• 42:34
  Speaker 3: to do fun couple crap.
• 42:35
  Speaker 5: Everything?
• 42:36
  Speaker 4: Everything.
• 42:37
  Speaker 3: Things started falling apart when my girlfriend and I moved
• 42:39
  Speaker 3: to our apartment downtown.
• 42:41
  Speaker 2: Downtown?
• 42:42
  Speaker 4: Things were great.
• 42:43
  Speaker 3: In the beginning. They'd come over every weekend, and we'd
• 42:46
  Speaker 3: drink and watch movies together.
• 42:48
  Speaker 5: Doing everything together.
• 42:49
  Speaker 4: Everything.
• 42:50
  Speaker 3: But slowly, I'm not even sure why, he just started
• 42:53
  Speaker 3: becoming aggressive with me. By the way, this comes from throwaway, two, three, four, two, three, four, three, two, three, two, four.
• 43:01
  Speaker 3: And if you want to submit your own stories, go
• 43:02
  Speaker 3: to the r slash showcase story time subreddit. I'm Sophia.
• 43:05
  Speaker 5: I'm Dakota.
• 43:06
  Speaker 4: I'm Dakota.
• 43:08
  Speaker 3: Oh, which one's the real Dakota? And if you know,
• 43:10
  Speaker 3: put it down in the comments.
• 43:11
  Speaker 5: You'll get a reward.
• 43:13
  Speaker 3: OP says. Like, for example, I am addicted to this
• 43:15
  Speaker 3: one video game. I probably have like 3,000 hours in
• 43:19
  Speaker 3: the game, and when I'm not working or doing something
• 43:21
  Speaker 3: with my girlfriend, I'll probably be playing that game.
• 43:24
  Speaker 4: All right, any guesses? Destiny 2. Destiny 2! What? I'm
• 43:28
  Speaker 4: going with Destiny. That's just for Kion. I'm going with Destiny.
• 43:33
  Speaker 5: There's no way you're grinding the game for more than
• 43:35
  Speaker 5: 3,000 hours, unless it's Destiny 2, World of Warcraft, something
• 43:40
  Speaker 5: like that.
• 43:40
  Speaker 4: Hey, Tetris. Minecraft.
• 43:42
  Speaker 3: The next time we all hopped on said game, he
• 43:44
  Speaker 3: made fun of me for having no life and still
• 43:46
  Speaker 3: being terrible at the game.
• 43:49
  Speaker 5: Hey, honestly, honestly, if I'm one of your bestest friends
• 43:53
  Speaker 5: and you have 3000 hours in a game and you're
• 43:55
  Speaker 5: still not good at it, I'm gonna make fun of
• 43:57
  Speaker 5: you for it.
• 43:57
  Speaker 4: I am gonna make fun of you.
• 43:58
  Speaker 5: You're on this nonstop. I'm gonna make fun of you
• 44:00
  Speaker 5: for it.
• 44:00
  Speaker 3: Too late. I'm making fun. It wasn't just us in
• 44:02
  Speaker 3: the call. A bunch of our friends and both our
• 44:05
  Speaker 3: girlfriends were in there. I laughed it off the first
• 44:07
  Speaker 3: few times, but it started spreading into other things. a
• 44:10
  Speaker 3: pretty lanky dude i'll be honest not particularly big my
• 44:14
  Speaker 3: best friend is everything everything he constantly tries to belittle
• 44:18
  Speaker 3: me in group settings by squeezing my biceps progressively these
• 44:22
  Speaker 3: types of things got worse until finally we both exploded
• 44:25
  Speaker 3: and i call that every single one of his flaws
• 44:28
  Speaker 3: the fact he has no job has had no desire
• 44:30
  Speaker 3: to look for one in all the years we've been
• 44:31
  Speaker 3: out of school the fact that he most definitely has
• 44:34
  Speaker 3: at least the same amount of hours in the same
• 44:36
  Speaker 3: video game i play plus all the others he plays,
• 44:38
  Speaker 3: and the fact that I introduced him to his now girlfriend,
• 44:41
  Speaker 3: and he milks her of all her money.
• 44:43
  Speaker 4: Ooh.
• 44:43
  Speaker 3: Yet he still chose to attack me after every time
• 44:46
  Speaker 3: I've held my tongue and put his feelings first. There
• 44:49
  Speaker 3: is a little bit left to this story.
• 44:51
  Speaker 5: I think y'all should have had a very deep conversation
• 44:54
  Speaker 5: about this a long time ago.
• 44:56
  Speaker 3: I think it's all jealousy.
• 44:58
  Speaker 5: I think it's jealousy, but I mean, like, they're going
• 45:00
  Speaker 5: tit for tat here, and it was, you know, like
• 45:04
  Speaker 5: a million paper cuts.
• 45:05
  Speaker 3: OP said it didn't, like, it It wasn't like this before.
• 45:07
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 45:08
  Speaker 3: It kind of started. So I imagine that girlfriend probably
• 45:12
  Speaker 3: of his friend, Opie's friend, girlfriend probably said something along
• 45:15
  Speaker 3: the lines of, oh, like, hey, when do you get
• 45:17
  Speaker 3: a good job? Like, why can't you get a job
• 45:19
  Speaker 3: like Opie? And then he was like.
• 45:22
  Speaker 5: The biggest context clue that I got from Opie is
• 45:25
  Speaker 5: it was once things started changing.
• 45:28
  Speaker 4: was once they moved in together.
• 45:30
  Speaker 3: Exactly.
• 45:30
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 45:31
  Speaker 3: So it's like, so not only does OP have a job,
• 45:34
  Speaker 3: but is now taking the next step with his girlfriend.
• 45:36
  Speaker 5: Moving in with his girlfriend.
• 45:37
  Speaker 6: Yeah.
• 45:38
  Speaker 4: And they have an apartment together downtown.
• 45:40
  Speaker 3: Probably are going to marry soon.
• 45:41
  Speaker 4: Yes.
• 45:42
  Speaker 3: So probably friend's girlfriend is like, oh, when are you.
• 45:45
  Speaker 5: Going to marry?
• 45:46
  Speaker 3: Like, when are we going to move in together? When
• 45:47
  Speaker 3: are we going to move in together? When are you
• 45:48
  Speaker 3: going to get a job? Why can't you afford to.
• 45:49
  Speaker 4: Get a job?
• 45:50
  Speaker 2: You saw that video game.
• 45:51
  Speaker 5: You have a lot of time in that game.
• 45:52
  Speaker 4: Are you good at it? Yeah. You should be good
• 45:54
  Speaker 4: at it, right?
• 45:55
  Speaker 3: I feel like she was saying something rightfully so. And
• 45:58
  Speaker 3: then he took it out on LP. But there's more.
• 46:00
  Speaker 5: Look at us.
• 46:00
  Speaker 4: Look at us. Psychologists?
• 46:02
  Speaker 2: What?
• 46:02
  Speaker 3: We haven't talked since. His girlfriend called me and apologized
• 46:06
  Speaker 3: on his behalf.
• 46:07
  Speaker 4: That's high key pathetic. Yeah, that's pretty crazy.
• 46:11
  Speaker 5: I'm so sorry for him.
• 46:12
  Speaker 4: I'm sorry. He doesn't act like this.
• 46:13
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know why he's acting like that. It
• 46:15
  Speaker 3: made me even angrier that he didn't have the balls
• 46:17
  Speaker 3: to call me himself. She begged me to talk to
• 46:20
  Speaker 3: him and apologize because our situations are different and I'm
• 46:23
  Speaker 3: hurting him while he's down. I told her that he
• 46:25
  Speaker 3: can eat crap and come talk to me face to face,
• 46:28
  Speaker 3: and then maybe we can discuss this. My girlfriend is
• 46:31
  Speaker 3: also asking me to just talk to him to keep
• 46:33
  Speaker 3: the peace. I don't know what to do.
• 46:35
  Speaker 4: Yeah, honestly, both of you need to grow up.
• 46:37
  Speaker 3: Both of you need to just talk to each other.
• 46:40
  Speaker 4: You guys are brothers.
• 46:41
  Speaker 3: You're brothers. I'm really conflicted. He really tried to hurt me,
• 46:45
  Speaker 3: even though all I've ever done is be there for him.
• 46:48
  Speaker 3: I get that you don't fight fire with fire, but
• 46:50
  Speaker 3: I was mad. Am I the a-hole?
• 46:52
  Speaker 4: I mean, you didn't start it.
• 46:53
  Speaker 5: No. You certainly didn't finish it. I'll tell you that
• 46:57
  Speaker 5: right now.
• 46:57
  Speaker 3: It's not over.
• 46:58
  Speaker 5: You didn't squash that. If anything, you added more fire
• 47:02
  Speaker 5: to it.
• 47:02
  Speaker 3: This is like in Harry Potter and the Goblet of
• 47:05
  Speaker 3: Fire when Ron is almost exactly like this.
• 47:08
  Speaker 4: You know what?
• 47:10
  Speaker 5: Very good. Yeah, yeah.
• 47:11
  Speaker 3: This is one-to-one. Did you just copy the Goblet of Fire?
• 47:14
  Speaker 4: Did you put your name in the Goblet of Fire?
• 47:15
  Speaker 5: As I said calmly?
• 47:16
  Speaker 3: This is Ron going up to Harry and being like, oh,
• 47:18
  Speaker 3: why didn't you tell me? Why didn't you include me?
• 47:19
  Speaker 3: Because he's jealous. He's jealous of Harry.
• 47:21
  Speaker 5: My favorite thing is they're using Hermione.
• 47:25
  Speaker 4: Yeah, exactly.
• 47:25
  Speaker 3: Well, that's what I'm saying. This is the same thing.
• 47:27
  Speaker 3: Because you're using, like, he's using his girlfriend to go
• 47:30
  Speaker 3: apologize to you. Be like, just talk to him. And
• 47:32
  Speaker 3: he's like, no, I'm not going to talk to him.
• 47:34
  Speaker 3: So you guys are Harry and Ron. And you just
• 47:37
  Speaker 3: need to talk to each other and work it out
• 47:39
  Speaker 3: because you're best friends. And, yeah, he was being a
• 47:42
  Speaker 3: bit of a wiener. But, you know, sometimes that happens
• 47:45
  Speaker 3: when you're in a long-term friendship. And, honestly, talk it out.
• 47:49
  Speaker 5: Sometimes you do need to have a little.
• 47:50
  Speaker 4: You're on the a-hole, though, P.
• 47:52
  Speaker 5: All you guys need to do is just settle.
• 47:54
  Speaker 4: It in Smash.
• 47:55
  Speaker 3: Settle in Smash or whatever game you played 3,000 hours of.
• 47:58
  Speaker 4: 1v1 each other.
• 47:59
  Speaker 3: Whoever wins has to apologize.
• 48:02
  Speaker 5: Whoever wins gets both girlfriends.
• 48:04
  Speaker 3: Oh, the loser has to apologize.
• 48:05
  Speaker 4: You have to decide it in the true gentleman's duel. Tic-tac-toe.
• 48:09
  Speaker 3: Tic-tac-toe.
• 48:11
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story. We're going to
• 48:13
  Speaker 1: go to the next one.
• 48:14
  Speaker 4: My stepdaughter called me a nobody, so I stopped paying
• 48:17
  Speaker 4: for her. Yeah, I guess nobody's paying for you now. Odysseus!
• 48:24
  Speaker 4: I married my wife, Elise, 12 years ago.
• 48:26
  Speaker 5: She has a 16-year-old daughter, Anna, from her previous relationship,
• 48:30
  Speaker 5: And we have a seven-year-old son as well. From pretty
• 48:32
  Speaker 5: much the beginning of our relationship, Anne and I have
• 48:34
  Speaker 5: never gotten along.
• 48:36
  Speaker 4: Sounds like a match made in heaven.
• 48:38
  Speaker 5: I don't know how to emphasize that it is not
• 48:40
  Speaker 5: because of a lack of trying. She just does not
• 48:43
  Speaker 5: like me.
• 48:44
  Speaker 4: Did you know that you don't have to stay? You
• 48:47
  Speaker 4: don't have to like her back. You just have to
• 48:49
  Speaker 4: tolerate it.
• 48:50
  Speaker 5: When she was young, she was just scared of me
• 48:52
  Speaker 5: and afraid I'd tear their family apart. Nowadays, it's more
• 48:56
  Speaker 5: of a neutral dislike mentality. rather than strong antipathy, so
• 49:00
  Speaker 5: I suppose that's progress? Elise is a stay-at-home mother, so
• 49:04
  Speaker 5: she relies on me for income. As a result, I
• 49:07
  Speaker 5: pay for everything for Anna. Food, clothes, volleyball fees, field trips.
• 49:13
  Speaker 5: I take an interest in her hobbies, I go to
• 49:15
  Speaker 5: her games. I'm not saying I'm perfect, but I try
• 49:18
  Speaker 5: my dang hardest to be the stepfather I can.
• 49:21
  Speaker 4: But it's so hard. Yeah, it's hard being the father
• 49:26
  Speaker 4: who stepped up.
• 49:27
  Speaker 5: She's also a teenager.
• 49:29
  Speaker 4: Yeah, good luck. She's always giving me curt, one-word responses. Teenager.
• 49:34
  Speaker 4: Always having to have an attitude. Teenager. She does things
• 49:37
  Speaker 4: to get a rise out of me. Teenager. Staying out late,
• 49:39
  Speaker 4: reeking of booze. Teenager?
• 49:41
  Speaker 5: Teenager.
• 49:43
  Speaker 4: Always trying to sneak boys in. Teenager. Typical rebellious teenager stuff. Teenager.
• 49:49
  Speaker 5: But I always let her know I love her and
• 49:51
  Speaker 5: I'm there for her in hopes of her craphead teenager
• 49:54
  Speaker 5: phase pass. By the way, this comes from user NoLongerADoormat.
• 49:59
  Speaker 5: And if you want to submit your own stories, go
• 50:01
  Speaker 5: to the r slash OKStoryTime subreddit.
• 50:03
  Speaker 4: I'm Keon. I'm Dakota.
• 50:05
  Speaker 5: And we're here to give good advice goofily and talk
• 50:08
  Speaker 5: about this teenager. Go listen to the song Teenagers by
• 50:11
  Speaker 5: My Chemical Romance and put it on blast and then
• 50:14
  Speaker 5: come back to us.
• 50:14
  Speaker 4: Go listen to Ween.
• 50:16
  Speaker 5: That too.
• 50:18
  Speaker 4: And that's it. Weenager. We're going to read the story
• 50:21
  Speaker 4: and give our takes. You can give your takes in
• 50:23
  Speaker 4: the comments down below. As Opie says, the opposite is
• 50:27
  Speaker 4: true for her biological father. She adores him. I can't
• 50:31
  Speaker 4: tell you why.
• 50:32
  Speaker 5: He never goes to her games, always makes excuses for
• 50:35
  Speaker 5: why he doesn't want to see her. He forgot her
• 50:37
  Speaker 5: birthday last month, and she cried herself to sleep.
• 50:40
  Speaker 4: Yeah, did you know that she has daddy issues? That
• 50:45
  Speaker 4: should have been apparent. Apparent? Oh, yeah!
• 50:49
  Speaker 5: We're going to be here for a while. Well, anyways, Friday,
• 50:52
  Speaker 5: I came to her room to check her phone and
• 50:54
  Speaker 5: read her messages.
• 50:55
  Speaker 4: Why did you do that? Because he's being the dad
• 50:58
  Speaker 4: that stepped up.
• 50:59
  Speaker 5: Don't do that, parents. Don't read your teenagers, don't read
• 51:03
  Speaker 5: your kids' messages.
• 51:04
  Speaker 4: I'm the dad that stepped up and breached the prophecy
• 51:09
  Speaker 4: of my stepdaughter.
• 51:11
  Speaker 5: Opie continues saying, not a permanent thing, but she's been
• 51:13
  Speaker 5: caught sneaking out twice in the last month, so this
• 51:16
  Speaker 5: is her punishment.
• 51:17
  Speaker 4: I ask for her to the phone.
• 51:18
  Speaker 5: She says, no, I'm tired of you checking my phone.
• 51:22
  Speaker 4: Leave me alone.
• 51:24
  Speaker 5: I tell her I'm not asking again and she goes,
• 51:26
  Speaker 5: just F off already.
• 51:28
  Speaker 4: You're not my real dad. You never have been. Stop
• 51:31
  Speaker 4: acting like you can tell me what to do before
• 51:33
  Speaker 4: getting up and slamming the door.
• 51:35
  Speaker 5: I have a little sister. Sounds a lot like her.
• 51:38
  Speaker 5: Other than the you're not my real dad part. And
• 51:41
  Speaker 5: I'm not saying this is like, yeah, sure, you did
• 51:45
  Speaker 5: your best. I'm saying she needs consequences. She needs a punishment.
• 51:50
  Speaker 5: Because if my sister did this, she did get a punishment.
• 51:53
  Speaker 5: If I did this, I got a punishment. You should
• 51:57
  Speaker 5: punish her. What does your wife say? What does your
• 52:02
  Speaker 5: wife say? What does her mother say? Is she allowing
• 52:05
  Speaker 5: this to happen?
• 52:06
  Speaker 4: Imagine the wife's just like, are you going to let
• 52:08
  Speaker 4: her talk to you like that? She goes, geez, maybe
• 52:12
  Speaker 4: I should get back with her real father. It's like, yeah,
• 52:13
  Speaker 4: get back in there, champ. I think she's got one
• 52:16
  Speaker 4: up on you right now. You're giving up against a teenager? Well,
• 52:19
  Speaker 4: I mean, we all know. What could be said to
• 52:23
  Speaker 4: knock her down a couple pegs, but don't ever do that.
• 52:27
  Speaker 4: That's plan Z. Don't ever do that.
• 52:31
  Speaker 5: Opie continues saying, like I said, guys, I'm tired. Tired
• 52:36
  Speaker 5: of the blatant disrespect. Tired of being the verbal bag
• 52:40
  Speaker 5: while still providing more for her than anyone else in
• 52:42
  Speaker 5: her family.
• 52:43
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I got to say, I don't know if I'd
• 52:45
  Speaker 4: have the strength to not just let it slip a little.
• 52:48
  Speaker 4: She's like, you're not my real dad. I'd be like,
• 52:51
  Speaker 4: where is your dad? That's funny.
• 52:53
  Speaker 3: Where's your dad? Oops.
• 52:56
  Speaker 5: So we haven't really talked since until this morning during breakfast.
• 53:00
  Speaker 5: She asked if I could pay for her plane tickets
• 53:02
  Speaker 5: so she could see her boyfriend cross state.
• 53:05
  Speaker 4: And I go, you're not my real daughter. Yeah, no,
• 53:09
  Speaker 4: you're not my real daughter.
• 53:10
  Speaker 5: Go ask your real dad to do that for you.
• 53:12
  Speaker 4: Yeah, let's see what your real dad has to say
• 53:14
  Speaker 4: about that. Oh, he's left you unread. Got it. It's
• 53:16
  Speaker 4: a bold strategy, Cod.
• 53:18
  Speaker 5: Let's see if it pays off.
• 53:18
  Speaker 4: Again, do not do that.
• 53:20
  Speaker 5: Don't do that. We're being very funny.
• 53:23
  Speaker 4: Or mean. It's funny and mean because it's not what
• 53:26
  Speaker 4: you would say. Because we would never say it.
• 53:28
  Speaker 5: Like I said, her mom doesn't work and her dad
• 53:31
  Speaker 5: is a POS, so I normally would be the one
• 53:33
  Speaker 5: to cough up the money.
• 53:35
  Speaker 4: Not this time. I responded, go ask your real dad. Honestly,
• 53:41
  Speaker 4: so valid. Holy crap, he did it.
• 53:43
  Speaker 5: He got pushed. He got pushed to that point. He went,
• 53:46
  Speaker 5: all right, I've done plans A, B, all the way.
• 53:51
  Speaker 5: All right, we're going to Z. We're going to Z,
• 53:53
  Speaker 5: and this is the one. Plan, yeah, go ask your
• 53:55
  Speaker 5: real dad.
• 53:56
  Speaker 4: Plan, no, plan W. Plan, what about your dad? What
• 54:00
  Speaker 4: about your dad?
• 54:02
  Speaker 2: Where's your dad?
• 54:03
  Speaker 5: I could tell she was hurt. Tears swelled up from
• 54:06
  Speaker 5: her face and she excused herself from the table. I'm
• 54:09
  Speaker 5: not gonna lie, OP, you're stooping down to her level.
• 54:12
  Speaker 5: But you're, yeah, it's a real talk.
• 54:15
  Speaker 4: I mean, she earned it, but... My wife took me.
• 54:19
  Speaker 5: Aside later and said my comment was extremely disrespectful. I said,
• 54:23
  Speaker 5: if anything's disrespectful, it's her treating me like a doormat
• 54:26
  Speaker 5: and a credit card and I will no longer tolerate
• 54:28
  Speaker 5: this treatment in my house. I told my wife, We
• 54:32
  Speaker 5: don't have to be friends, but if she can at
• 54:34
  Speaker 5: least be cordial to me or respect my position as
• 54:37
  Speaker 5: an authority figure, she can find someone else to pay
• 54:40
  Speaker 5: for her non-essentials.
• 54:41
  Speaker 4: Am I the a-hole? Yes, a little still. Because the
• 54:44
  Speaker 4: adult way to respond to that isn't, what about your dad? It's, um,
• 54:50
  Speaker 4: I'm not going to give you any money after you
• 54:52
  Speaker 4: spoke to me that way yesterday. That's actually absurd that
• 54:54
  Speaker 4: you would ask me that.
• 54:55
  Speaker 5: I would go, do you think you deserve it after
• 54:58
  Speaker 5: how you treat me?
• 54:58
  Speaker 4: Do you think if I talk to you that way...
• 55:01
  Speaker 4: Do you think you would give anything to me if
• 55:03
  Speaker 4: I asked you for it? Not, um, where's your actual
• 55:07
  Speaker 4: dad that doesn't like you? You can't do it.
• 55:10
  Speaker 5: You have, you can push that button, but you never
• 55:13
  Speaker 5: push that button. It's not fair, dude.
• 55:15
  Speaker 3: It's like, it's like.
• 55:16
  Speaker 5: It's like taking candy from a kid.
• 55:18
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's like being a grown man hitting grand slams
• 55:20
  Speaker 4: at t-ball. Like, you're just, you're not playing with your competition.
• 55:24
  Speaker 5: It's different leagues.
• 55:26
  Speaker 4: Edit.
• 55:27
  Speaker 5: To add more context, my wife is a saint. She does.
• 55:30
  Speaker 5: does stick up for me when Anna says something rude
• 55:33
  Speaker 5: or snarky. She just said stooping to her level was inappropriate.
• 55:38
  Speaker 4: Agreed.
• 55:39
  Speaker 5: But she's a wonderful mom and tries her best.
• 55:42
  Speaker 4: We have an update.
• 55:43
  Speaker 5: I think what you said to her was out of pocket,
• 55:47
  Speaker 5: but I don't think you regret it.
• 55:50
  Speaker 4: Yeah, but I think if you're going to move forward
• 55:51
  Speaker 4: from this, you're going to just have to clean slate,
• 55:55
  Speaker 4: just apologize and say what you did was unacceptable. Don't
• 55:59
  Speaker 4: bring any of the other stuff into it. Just fully apologize.
• 56:02
  Speaker 4: And then the next time she is way out of
• 56:05
  Speaker 4: pocket with you, then you start being the, you know,
• 56:08
  Speaker 4: then you start, hey, that was unacceptable and that's going
• 56:11
  Speaker 4: to have consequences. I don't know.
• 56:12
  Speaker 5: I would just go, hey, if you don't like me,
• 56:15
  Speaker 5: you can move out. Do you want to move out?
• 56:17
  Speaker 4: You can move out. You have roof, you have food,
• 56:20
  Speaker 4: you have all of this.
• 56:21
  Speaker 5: You can move out.
• 56:22
  Speaker 4: I don't know how mom's going to think about that.
• 56:24
  Speaker 4: But yeah, to be clear, the correct thing to do
• 56:28
  Speaker 4: here was... Like you said, just saying, well, there's going
• 56:31
  Speaker 4: to be consequences for you doing this. Then the next day,
• 56:33
  Speaker 4: she goes, I want plane tickets. You go, oh, look,
• 56:36
  Speaker 4: it's the consequences. They're here. Wow, that flew in pretty quickly. Oh,
• 56:41
  Speaker 4: that one almost flew over my head.
• 56:44
  Speaker 5: We have an update. Hey, guys, it's been a good
• 56:47
  Speaker 5: two weeks since I've posted, and I figured you would
• 56:50
  Speaker 5: like an update. A lot has happened since the last
• 56:52
  Speaker 5: time I posted. So that night, I did what many
• 56:56
  Speaker 5: of the commenters.
• 56:56
  Speaker 4: Said, which was to apologize.
• 57:00
  Speaker 5: I told her that I'm sorry, that implying that I'm
• 57:02
  Speaker 5: not her real father. But, like it or not, that
• 57:05
  Speaker 5: I consider her my daughter. That I loved her and
• 57:08
  Speaker 5: will always be there for her. She started to cry
• 57:11
  Speaker 5: and sob uncontrollably and said, Why doesn't he, her biological father,
• 57:17
  Speaker 5: love me? Dang, she did the Fresh Prince of Bel-Air.
• 57:22
  Speaker 4: Imagine he just goes, Well, first. No, no, no, no.
• 57:29
  Speaker 4: He did. Oh, this is Fresh Prince now.
• 57:32
  Speaker 5: Oh, man, that's really sad.
• 57:34
  Speaker 4: Yeah, and now it feels like you really, you were
• 57:39
  Speaker 4: really down with that comment.
• 57:41
  Speaker 5: Well, honestly, if he didn't do that, it wouldn't have
• 57:44
  Speaker 5: gotten to this point.
• 57:45
  Speaker 4: Chinese horse proverb.
• 57:47
  Speaker 5: Opie continues saying, I held her and told her she
• 57:49
  Speaker 5: didn't need to fight for his approval. I also apologized
• 57:52
  Speaker 5: for looking through her phone. That, I've come to accept
• 57:55
  Speaker 5: that it's not an appropriate punishment for a teenage girl,
• 57:58
  Speaker 5: and I was going to find alternatives. Lastly, I brought
• 58:02
  Speaker 5: up therapy, and while she was hesitant at first, I
• 58:04
  Speaker 5: let her know it was nothing to be ashamed of,
• 58:06
  Speaker 5: that everything she said at therapy would be entirely confidential,
• 58:10
  Speaker 5: and that it could help to have a confidant to
• 58:12
  Speaker 5: help her sort through her feelings. She sat on this
• 58:15
  Speaker 5: for a day, but the next day let me know
• 58:17
  Speaker 5: that she was ready, so I set up the soonest appointment,
• 58:21
  Speaker 5: which was last Friday, and her second appointment this afternoon.
• 58:24
  Speaker 4: There it is, folks. She's right where she needs to be. Therapy.
• 58:28
  Speaker 5: I think this is going to solidify their relationship as
• 58:34
  Speaker 5: stepfather and daughter.
• 58:36
  Speaker 4: It certainly sounds like it will. You did exactly what
• 58:40
  Speaker 4: you needed to do. And folks, let this serve as
• 58:42
  Speaker 4: a warning. Don't, just don't, you can't, you can't do it.
• 58:47
  Speaker 4: You can't, you can't bust out the where's your dad
• 58:51
  Speaker 4: to the, you know, Stepdaughter who doesn't have her dad.
• 58:56
  Speaker 5: Who's also a teenager, emotionally vulnerable, and just like going
• 59:01
  Speaker 5: through everything.
• 59:02
  Speaker 4: Does it excuse how she talked to you? Heck no.
• 59:07
  Speaker 5: But there are other alternatives of going about this. than
• 59:11
  Speaker 5: what OP did.
• 59:11
  Speaker 4: It's just the one thing you can't say. There's rules
• 59:14
  Speaker 4: like that for all kinds of people.
• 59:16
  Speaker 5: A little bit left. Let's go ahead and finish it up.
• 59:18
  Speaker 5: It's only been a week, so I don't want to
• 59:20
  Speaker 5: get too optimistic. But honestly, I feel like I'm noticing
• 59:23
  Speaker 5: an improvement already. She's actually been engaging back in small
• 59:26
  Speaker 5: talk when normally she wouldn't give me the time of day.
• 59:29
  Speaker 5: She's been following all of the rules, coming home at
• 59:32
  Speaker 5: reasonable hours. She's been less withdrawn and more social even
• 59:36
  Speaker 5: to the point where her brother commented on the change today.
• 59:39
  Speaker 5: But the most exciting news of them all is when
• 59:41
  Speaker 5: getting out of the car on her way home from therapy,
• 59:44
  Speaker 5: she said, and I quote, thanks, dad.
• 59:46
  Speaker 4: Oh, man. I'm sure her rejection of you was rooted
• 59:55
  Speaker 4: in some kind of like misplaced devotion to her father.
• 59:59
  Speaker 4: Where she's like, if I hate my stepdad, my dad
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 4: will like me more. Because I'm hating the guy who's
• 1:00:05
  Speaker 4: replacing him.
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 5: Yes. Man.
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 4: It's like the Grinch.
• 1:00:10
  Speaker 5: Heart grew three times the size that day.
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 4: Send this guy to the hospital. His heart's way too
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 4: big right now. Think I'm having a cardiac arrest. He's
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 4: got a baboon heart in his chest. It's so big.
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 5: Pounding like a drum.
• 1:00:21
  Speaker 8: Genetically modified gorilla heart. Bubby continues saying, she's never called
• 1:00:26
  Speaker 8: me dad before, so honestly... I've been riding off that
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 8: high for the last two hours. I'm not delusional enough
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 8: to think everything's peachy, but honestly, the behavior change in
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 8: the last week was the most progress we've had since, well, ever.
• 1:00:39
  Speaker 8: I'm cautiously optimistic going forward. Thanks again, everyone, for your comments,
• 1:00:42
  Speaker 8: especially the ones who gave me the punt in the
• 1:00:45
  Speaker 8: butt that I needed. And that's the end of that story.
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 4: The boot in the pants. Wow.
• 1:00:50
  Speaker 5: I think you guys are going to have a great
• 1:00:52
  Speaker 5: relationship going forward. And that's lovely.
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it really, I'm a little concerned because it does
• 1:01:01
  Speaker 4: sort of sound like if you hadn't posted this on Reddit,
• 1:01:04
  Speaker 4: you would have just continued to double down on the, well,
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 4: I'm not her dad. She said, I'm not, which is concerning,
• 1:01:11
  Speaker 4: but I'm glad that you didn't. And you found the
• 1:01:13
  Speaker 4: other way.
• 1:01:14
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story. We're going to
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 1: go to the next one.
• 1:01:18
  Speaker 4: My kids gave up their toys to share, but their
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 4: aunt took them all. Sharing is caring. My children take
• 1:01:27
  Speaker 4: very good care of their toys and possessions. As it's
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 4: nearing Christmas, they have chosen old toys to donate, some
• 1:01:34
  Speaker 4: to keep, and some that they weren't quite ready to
• 1:01:37
  Speaker 4: get rid of yet. My in-laws don't have many toys
• 1:01:41
  Speaker 4: at their home and have said they needed to get
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 4: more for their toy closet for all their grandkids. My
• 1:01:46
  Speaker 4: eldest suggested that they bring the toys to their grandparents
• 1:01:49
  Speaker 4: for the toy closet. This way, they could still play
• 1:01:52
  Speaker 4: with them and see them when they wanted. And bonus,
• 1:01:55
  Speaker 4: all their cousins could play with them, too. Oh, these
• 1:01:58
  Speaker 4: are such little sweetie pies. Oh, they're sweeties, and they
• 1:02:03
  Speaker 4: know how to share. Oh.
• 1:02:06
  Speaker 5: This is going to go great.
• 1:02:08
  Speaker 4: Oh, nothing will go wrong. My in-laws were excited and
• 1:02:12
  Speaker 4: thanked them for donating the toy closet. The first time
• 1:02:15
  Speaker 4: we saw the kids' cousins, they were excited to show
• 1:02:17
  Speaker 4: them the toys, and they all had fun playing together.
• 1:02:21
  Speaker 4: Cut to a couple months later, when we stopped over,
• 1:02:24
  Speaker 4: and they were all gone.
• 1:02:26
  Speaker 5: Oh my gosh, it's Toy Soldiers!
• 1:02:28
  Speaker 4: God, it's the rapture for toys. It's the toy rapture,
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 4: all those toys went to toy heaven.
• 1:02:34
  Speaker 5: Quick, name every toy movie where they come alive.
• 1:02:36
  Speaker 4: Toy Soldiers, Toy Story, uh... What was the one in
• 1:02:40
  Speaker 4: the cabinet? The cowboy? Yeah, that one. There's more out there,
• 1:02:46
  Speaker 4: but yeah, you get it. Andy's coming. My kids asked
• 1:02:49
  Speaker 4: Grandma and Grandpa what happened, and they weren't sure. They
• 1:02:53
  Speaker 4: texted my sister-in-law, and she said, Oh, sorry. They were
• 1:02:57
  Speaker 4: really nice, and my kids liked them, so we decided
• 1:02:59
  Speaker 4: to bring them all home with us. Oh, that's cool. Hey,
• 1:03:04
  Speaker 4: come back over. Give me your car keys.
• 1:03:05
  Speaker 5: I really liked it. I'm going to take it now.
• 1:03:07
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I really like your car. I really like your wardrobe.
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 4: That's how we do things. Yeah, you know what? Give
• 1:03:13
  Speaker 4: me your clothes. You know what? I like your husband.
• 1:03:15
  Speaker 4: Give me your husband too.
• 1:03:16
  Speaker 5: Wow.
• 1:03:17
  Speaker 4: Oh, see? raw entitlement by the way this comes from
• 1:03:22
  Speaker 4: a deleted user and if you want to submit your
• 1:03:24
  Speaker 4: own stories go to the r slash og story time
• 1:03:26
  Speaker 4: subreddit i'm dakota i'm dakota and one of us tells
• 1:03:29
  Speaker 4: only truths the other only lies uh and we're gonna
• 1:03:33
  Speaker 4: read this story and have our thoughts about it and
• 1:03:35
  Speaker 4: we're gonna say them and you can agree or you
• 1:03:36
  Speaker 4: can disagree and you can let us know in the
• 1:03:38
  Speaker 4: comments down there um and let's see what op has
• 1:03:43
  Speaker 4: to say you do that dakota My mother-in-law asked if
• 1:03:47
  Speaker 4: they were bringing them back for their toy closet, and
• 1:03:51
  Speaker 4: she wrote back and simply said no. What do you
• 1:03:54
  Speaker 4: mean no? I love how she was still trying to
• 1:03:57
  Speaker 4: give her like the, okay, so you're borrowing them, right? No. No,
• 1:04:01
  Speaker 4: I'm not.
• 1:04:02
  Speaker 5: They like it. They get what they want.
• 1:04:04
  Speaker 4: My kids like these toys. My kids matter more than
• 1:04:07
  Speaker 4: the others. They're ours. Honestly, they like it more than
• 1:04:10
  Speaker 4: your kids. Yeah, I guarantee you she'll say that.
• 1:04:12
  Speaker 5: The kids, your kids love them so much, they wouldn't
• 1:04:14
  Speaker 5: take their hands or their eyes off of them.
• 1:04:17
  Speaker 4: Obviously, they hate them. Your kids didn't even want them.
• 1:04:19
  Speaker 4: They brought them to leave at grandma and grandpa's. My
• 1:04:21
  Speaker 4: kids are kind of hurt, as they weren't ready to
• 1:04:24
  Speaker 4: give them up yet, and they wanted to be able
• 1:04:26
  Speaker 4: to share and play at their grandparents' house. So, one,
• 1:04:30
  Speaker 4: would I be an a-hole if I wrote and asked sister-in-law,
• 1:04:33
  Speaker 4: to please bring the community toys back. And for some
• 1:04:37
  Speaker 4: more info, my in-laws are afraid to anger sister-in-law because
• 1:04:40
  Speaker 4: she is very easy to hold a grudge. Oh, you
• 1:04:42
  Speaker 4: don't say. So this convo would fall on myself and
• 1:04:47
  Speaker 4: or my husband, who also feels the same way. He
• 1:04:50
  Speaker 4: actually suggested we ask on here. We might be the
• 1:04:55
  Speaker 4: a-holes if we do this. Let's ask Reddit first. That's
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 4: what he said. She stole all of the... She's like,
• 1:05:01
  Speaker 4: to be clear, your sister-in-law is on cartoon villain levels.
• 1:05:06
  Speaker 5: And then if you bother her, she holds a grudge.
• 1:05:09
  Speaker 5: When you say it out loud, you're like, wow, she sucks.
• 1:05:12
  Speaker 4: She stole all the toys from all the children in
• 1:05:16
  Speaker 4: the family except her own.
• 1:05:18
  Speaker 5: She pulled a Grinch.
• 1:05:20
  Speaker 4: What she got in there, Augustus Gloop?
• 1:05:23
  Speaker 2: That.
• 1:05:24
  Speaker 5: Doopity-doop.
• 1:05:25
  Speaker 1: Also.
• 1:05:26
  Speaker 4: Their kids have plenty of toys at home, so it's
• 1:05:30
  Speaker 4: not like they don't have anything to play with. Also,
• 1:05:33
  Speaker 4: there are multiple families who come to the home with kids,
• 1:05:35
  Speaker 4: not just our family and this particular brother-in-law's family. My
• 1:05:40
  Speaker 4: husband has four other siblings with kids. And there are
• 1:05:46
  Speaker 4: some comments.
• 1:05:47
  Speaker 5: Okay, we can do some things here. We can do one.
• 1:05:50
  Speaker 4: What are our options? The notion's 11. We can just
• 1:05:53
  Speaker 4: pull a heist. Do a heist. Do a Mission Impossible
• 1:05:56
  Speaker 4: style Tom Cruise from the ceiling.
• 1:05:58
  Speaker 5: Super fun. That sounds really fun, actually. But that can
• 1:06:00
  Speaker 5: get into legal matters, and that's not fun. If you
• 1:06:03
  Speaker 5: get caught.
• 1:06:04
  Speaker 4: Danny Ocean was in prison.
• 1:06:05
  Speaker 5: Exactly. Second one is, yeah, ask and tell her, hey,
• 1:06:11
  Speaker 5: that wasn't for your kids.
• 1:06:13
  Speaker 4: Sorry. Third option, you cut out a bunch of letters
• 1:06:17
  Speaker 4: from the newspaper and magazines, and you write a ransom note.
• 1:06:23
  Speaker 4: It's up to you what it says.
• 1:06:24
  Speaker 5: You can use your imagination.
• 1:06:25
  Speaker 4: It should be persuasive. Comment number one here, asking for info.
• 1:06:30
  Speaker 4: Did your in-laws tell your sister-in-law she can't keep them?
• 1:06:33
  Speaker 4: They did. My response would vary dependent on that information.
• 1:06:37
  Speaker 4: My in-laws didn't tell her she could take them. They
• 1:06:40
  Speaker 4: didn't even know they were gone as she must have
• 1:06:42
  Speaker 4: snuck them out of their house. They asked if she
• 1:06:45
  Speaker 4: took them, then asked if she was bringing them back.
• 1:06:48
  Speaker 4: And she said, no. Did they ask why? No, they
• 1:06:53
  Speaker 4: just said, okay, thank you. We tried. We tried our hardest. Gosh,
• 1:06:58
  Speaker 4: she's so hard to bargain with. And she did explain herself.
• 1:07:01
  Speaker 4: She's like, well, my kids really like the toys, so
• 1:07:03
  Speaker 4: we took them. Game. Blouses.
• 1:07:05
  Speaker 3: Evil.
• 1:07:07
  Speaker 4: Evil cartoon villain.
• 1:07:09
  Speaker 1: What?
• 1:07:10
  Speaker 4: And then it's like, it turns out that the kid
• 1:07:13
  Speaker 4: is actually really nice, and they're just like, yeah, I...
• 1:07:16
  Speaker 4: I don't know. My mom's an evil cartoon villain and
• 1:07:18
  Speaker 4: she does stuff. She told me it was for us.
• 1:07:21
  Speaker 4: I'm just a kid. I can't. What am I supposed
• 1:07:22
  Speaker 4: to do? I don't know.
• 1:07:23
  Speaker 5: The kid, it's, let's be real. These kids are probably
• 1:07:26
  Speaker 5: really spoiled.
• 1:07:27
  Speaker 4: Yeah, but in the movie where this cartoon villain is in,
• 1:07:31
  Speaker 4: at the end of the movie, that kid becomes one
• 1:07:33
  Speaker 4: of the best friends. He's in the circle now.
• 1:07:36
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 1:07:37
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I got the plot. I'm writing it. So, and
• 1:07:41
  Speaker 4: they are afraid to anger her by asking for them back.
• 1:07:44
  Speaker 4: What is she going to do? What is she, the Hulk? Like,
• 1:07:47
  Speaker 4: what are the consequences? She just probably just withholds access
• 1:07:51
  Speaker 4: to her child. She just gets snarky and, like, snippy.
• 1:07:54
  Speaker 4: Comment two says, info. To me, the important distinction is
• 1:07:58
  Speaker 4: whether your kids gave the toys to their grandparents or
• 1:08:00
  Speaker 4: whether they were storing their toys at their grandparents' house,
• 1:08:03
  Speaker 4: which that's what they, I mean... From the sounds of it,
• 1:08:06
  Speaker 4: it was like, well, we're going to give these away.
• 1:08:08
  Speaker 4: And the kids were like, well, no, I like these still.
• 1:08:10
  Speaker 4: And you're like, all right, well, we'll leave them at
• 1:08:11
  Speaker 4: grandpa's and grandma's. So you can still play with them
• 1:08:15
  Speaker 4: when you're there. OP says, we never really had that
• 1:08:18
  Speaker 4: specific of a discussion about it. But I take it
• 1:08:22
  Speaker 4: as we gave the toys to the grandparents to put
• 1:08:24
  Speaker 4: in the toy closet. My children were not expecting the
• 1:08:27
  Speaker 4: toys to ever come back to our house. We had
• 1:08:29
  Speaker 4: donated other toys to local nonprofits. But these, they didn't
• 1:08:33
  Speaker 4: want to give up completely, so they donated them to
• 1:08:36
  Speaker 4: Grandparents Toy Closet. This is why I'm so torn, because
• 1:08:40
  Speaker 4: they technically did give them away, as I see it,
• 1:08:42
  Speaker 4: and there is an update.
• 1:08:44
  Speaker 5: Yeah, you gave it to the grandparents to have, not
• 1:08:47
  Speaker 5: for the grandparents to give it away to somebody else.
• 1:08:49
  Speaker 4: Yeah, they gave them away to a very specific place.
• 1:08:52
  Speaker 4: Like a safety deposit box, you know? I put stuff
• 1:08:57
  Speaker 4: in the safety deposit box, and it stays there if
• 1:09:01
  Speaker 4: i were to find out it was not in the
• 1:09:03
  Speaker 4: safety deposit box well something has gone wrong something's gone
• 1:09:06
  Speaker 4: awry who has been in my safety deposit box the
• 1:09:10
  Speaker 4: evil mother there's an update We spoke to my mother
• 1:09:15
  Speaker 4: and father-in-law and husband told them he didn't like that
• 1:09:18
  Speaker 4: they were too afraid to say anything. Wasn't he also
• 1:09:22
  Speaker 4: a little afraid? That's alright. Mother-in-law said that she was
• 1:09:26
  Speaker 4: afraid since sister-in-law is very quick to go no contact
• 1:09:29
  Speaker 4: with people. That's crazy. Yeah.
• 1:09:33
  Speaker 5: Sounds like someone who can dish it out but can't
• 1:09:35
  Speaker 5: take it.
• 1:09:35
  Speaker 4: She seems to get sick of people in her life
• 1:09:38
  Speaker 4: easily and cuts them out when she gets offended.
• 1:09:41
  Speaker 5: Give me my flowers.
• 1:09:42
  Speaker 4: That is, until she needs something, right?
• 1:09:45
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 1:09:46
  Speaker 4: Mother-in-law is afraid to not get to see her grandchildren,
• 1:09:50
  Speaker 4: which I understand the fear, but it's still not right.
• 1:09:54
  Speaker 4: I asked them if they at all offered, even inadvertently,
• 1:09:58
  Speaker 4: for her kids to take the toys we left, and
• 1:10:01
  Speaker 4: they said definitely not. I believe them. My husband called
• 1:10:05
  Speaker 4: my brother-in-law and said, and thanks to those who suggested this, said, hey,
• 1:10:11
  Speaker 4: we were just over at mom and dad's and there
• 1:10:13
  Speaker 4: seems to have been some confusion. Our kiddos left some
• 1:10:16
  Speaker 4: toys there to store and for all the grandkids to share.
• 1:10:20
  Speaker 4: And I think your wife thought we wanted to get
• 1:10:22
  Speaker 4: rid of them. Total miscommunication. Sorry about that. We're headed
• 1:10:26
  Speaker 4: to the area and can swing by now to grab them.
• 1:10:30
  Speaker 4: Brother-in-law said that was fine and he didn't even know
• 1:10:34
  Speaker 4: they had them.
• 1:10:37
  Speaker 5: This is like smart tactics, but also dumb tactics.
• 1:10:40
  Speaker 4: Brother-in-law doesn't know it's not going to be fine.
• 1:10:42
  Speaker 5: It's going to be releasing the Kraken.
• 1:10:45
  Speaker 4: Well, hey, I don't care. I don't care. She's a
• 1:10:48
  Speaker 4: cartoon villain. You know what used to happen to cartoon?
• 1:10:51
  Speaker 4: You know, when I was a kid, what they did
• 1:10:52
  Speaker 4: to cartoon villains? Go watch 101 Dalmatians.
• 1:10:55
  Speaker 5: Go watch Wacky Races.
• 1:10:57
  Speaker 4: Go watch Tarzan. So we swung by. He found them
• 1:11:02
  Speaker 4: and helped us pack them all in the trunk. Sister-in-law
• 1:11:05
  Speaker 4: was getting ready and came out as we were packing up.
• 1:11:09
  Speaker 4: Her face got red, and she turned around and went
• 1:11:13
  Speaker 4: back in the house.
• 1:11:14
  Speaker 5: Oh, boy. This is where you go to your brother-in-law
• 1:11:19
  Speaker 5: and be like, you can come with us.
• 1:11:21
  Speaker 4: You can come with us. You don't have to go
• 1:11:23
  Speaker 4: back in there.
• 1:11:24
  Speaker 5: He was like, he's so just like, what's going on?
• 1:11:28
  Speaker 4: She's going into the house to grab a cartoonishly oversized
• 1:11:33
  Speaker 4: medieval mace. And like, it's going to bring it back
• 1:11:35
  Speaker 4: out and smash your car with it. Yeah.
• 1:11:38
  Speaker 5: You go, I'm telling you, your brother-in-law got thrown under
• 1:11:41
  Speaker 5: the 18 wheeler here. Not under the bus, under the
• 1:11:45
  Speaker 5: 18 wheeler because he went, yeah, that's fine.
• 1:11:47
  Speaker 4: Let's see how this pans out. So we stood out
• 1:11:50
  Speaker 4: for a while talking to brother-in-law until he checked his phone.
• 1:11:54
  Speaker 4: He said he had to get inside and he went
• 1:11:57
  Speaker 4: in to talk to his wife. We could hear through
• 1:12:00
  Speaker 4: the walls that she was yelling and crying. Yeah. Ryan, woman,
• 1:12:07
  Speaker 4: these toys were for your child too.
• 1:12:09
  Speaker 3: They just live at grandma and grandpa's.
• 1:12:13
  Speaker 5: I guarantee it's not even about the kids. It's about
• 1:12:15
  Speaker 5: what mother wants.
• 1:12:18
  Speaker 4: After 10 minutes or so of extremely awkward looks between
• 1:12:22
  Speaker 4: my husband and I, we texted him that we were
• 1:12:24
  Speaker 4: going to head out and he came back out looking upset.
• 1:12:28
  Speaker 4: He said his wife was crying inside. and that she
• 1:12:31
  Speaker 4: kept trying to go back and forth with why she
• 1:12:34
  Speaker 4: had the toys, and he was confused. We just played
• 1:12:38
  Speaker 4: dumb and said that our kids couldn't find the toys.
• 1:12:40
  Speaker 4: We left when we went back, and we were told
• 1:12:42
  Speaker 4: that you guys had possibly accidentally taken them. He said
• 1:12:46
  Speaker 4: he was sorry, and we said our goodbyes and left. Ooh, tactical, dude.
• 1:12:52
  Speaker 4: Very tactical, but I would whisper to him, like, we
• 1:12:54
  Speaker 4: owe you a dinner or dinners.
• 1:12:57
  Speaker 5: Thank you, bye.
• 1:12:58
  Speaker 4: No, hey, dance it through the raindrops. All right, hey,
• 1:13:02
  Speaker 4: brother-in-law knows where he's at, okay? He knows who he's
• 1:13:04
  Speaker 4: married to, okay? Whatever, I'm not changing that. Hey, you
• 1:13:08
  Speaker 4: took that burden upon yourself, brother.
• 1:13:10
  Speaker 5: I mean, after I see what he's been married to,
• 1:13:13
  Speaker 5: I'm giving him at least like one adult beverage.
• 1:13:16
  Speaker 4: He's getting a gift card. Two gift cards. And we
• 1:13:19
  Speaker 4: are almost done with this story. I really didn't think
• 1:13:22
  Speaker 4: you were getting those toys back. Way to go. You
• 1:13:25
  Speaker 4: guys were like secret agents the way you did a
• 1:13:28
  Speaker 4: covert op. Technically, I'm not going to lie. Dakota, they
• 1:13:32
  Speaker 4: did a heist. They did a heist. They did an
• 1:13:34
  Speaker 4: Ocean Style heist. They did Ocean's Eleven. With some edits
• 1:13:40
  Speaker 4: here and there. Called it. I want to hear the soundtrack.
• 1:13:44
  Speaker 4: I love those soundtracks, dude. Oh, yeah, dude. So, let's
• 1:13:48
  Speaker 4: see how this ends. Sister-in-law has since been posting about
• 1:13:53
  Speaker 4: how family isn't blood and how she doesn't know who
• 1:13:56
  Speaker 4: to trust anymore.
• 1:13:58
  Speaker 5: Like your husband?
• 1:13:59
  Speaker 1: Over.
• 1:14:00
  Speaker 5: Over kids' toys.
• 1:14:01
  Speaker 4: Over kids' toys. Used kids' toys that she stole. She
• 1:14:06
  Speaker 4: stole them. Don't trust you. You're a thief. Whatever. I'm
• 1:14:11
  Speaker 4: sure it'll all blow over one day. We also spoke
• 1:14:14
  Speaker 4: with our children about how kind they were to want
• 1:14:17
  Speaker 4: to share with their cousins and that we are a
• 1:14:20
  Speaker 4: kind and giving family. But that doesn't mean that we
• 1:14:23
  Speaker 4: let people take advantage of our kindness. Nice. Look at
• 1:14:28
  Speaker 4: you cooking, little chef. my god you know turn these
• 1:14:32
  Speaker 4: kids of yours into a michelin star dinner thanks remy
• 1:14:36
  Speaker 4: we understood that these were given to stay at grandma
• 1:14:38
  Speaker 4: and grandpa's and how upsetting it was that they weren't
• 1:14:42
  Speaker 4: there but it was maybe a misunderstanding and mom and
• 1:14:45
  Speaker 4: dad got them back now so don't worry i think
• 1:14:49
  Speaker 4: they are too young now but one day they will
• 1:14:52
  Speaker 4: realize how their aunt is and that is the end
• 1:14:57
  Speaker 4: of that story We all have that moment, I guess,
• 1:15:00
  Speaker 4: don't we?
• 1:15:02
  Speaker 5: Sure do.
• 1:15:02
  Speaker 4: When we realize, oh, that person's... That person's icky. That
• 1:15:08
  Speaker 4: person's evil. Now I know why I was scared of
• 1:15:12
  Speaker 4: Aunt Melinda. And now I know. Or, you know, whoever.
• 1:15:17
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story. We're going to
• 1:15:18
  Speaker 1: go to the next one.
• 1:15:20
  Speaker 2: My parents called my in-laws to turn them against me,
• 1:15:23
  Speaker 2: but they shut them down.
• 1:15:25
  Speaker 4: Yeah, my in-laws are my real parents now.
• 1:15:28
  Speaker 2: So for some background, I have self-absorbed parents. They constantly
• 1:15:34
  Speaker 2: made my life a living heck. So I cut them off.
• 1:15:38
  Speaker 2: But if any of you have experience with having narc parents,
• 1:15:41
  Speaker 2: just know that evil doesn't pass away so easily. My
• 1:15:45
  Speaker 2: parents would make up lies about how I treat them
• 1:15:48
  Speaker 2: and constantly try to play the victim. But in reality,
• 1:15:51
  Speaker 2: they are the ones who treat me like crap and
• 1:15:53
  Speaker 2: call me horrible names. At first, they tried with my fiance,
• 1:15:58
  Speaker 2: but he immediately shut it down. He knew they were
• 1:16:01
  Speaker 2: liars and could hear my parents through the phone when
• 1:16:04
  Speaker 2: they would call me names. Last time, they tried to
• 1:16:07
  Speaker 2: lie to him again, and all he had to say was,
• 1:16:10
  Speaker 2: I heard you. Immediately, they hang up the call. By
• 1:16:14
  Speaker 2: the way, this comes from illrelationship9673, and if you want
• 1:16:18
  Speaker 2: to submit your own stories, go to the r slash
• 1:16:20
  Speaker 2: ok story time subreddit. I'm Savannah.
• 1:16:22
  Speaker 4: I'm Dakota.
• 1:16:23
  Speaker 3: And we're here to.
• 1:16:24
  Speaker 2: Talk about some kids, some advice, but we don't have
• 1:16:26
  Speaker 2: all your darn answers. We're only going to tell you
• 1:16:28
  Speaker 2: what we would do, but let us know what you
• 1:16:30
  Speaker 2: would do down in the comments.
• 1:16:31
  Speaker 4: Yee doggie! I gotta say, I think I would just
• 1:16:34
  Speaker 4: stop talking to them.
• 1:16:37
  Speaker 2: Yeah, well, that's what Opie did. They cut him off,
• 1:16:39
  Speaker 2: and then they started with the fiancé, and now I'm
• 1:16:41
  Speaker 2: sure the fiancé' s like, yeah, bye. As Opie says, once
• 1:16:45
  Speaker 2: they knew they couldn't get to my fiancé, they went
• 1:16:47
  Speaker 2: to my in-laws. My parents told them horrible things about me,
• 1:16:51
  Speaker 2: that I am a pathological liar, and that they needed
• 1:16:55
  Speaker 2: to beware of me. Most in-laws would dump me off
• 1:16:59
  Speaker 2: the street, but thankfully, my in-laws loved me so much
• 1:17:02
  Speaker 2: that they actually called and listened to me. My fiancé
• 1:17:05
  Speaker 2: and I told them everything about my parents, and they
• 1:17:08
  Speaker 2: believed us 100%. Oh yeah, of.
• 1:17:11
  Speaker 4: Course they did, because they know you, right?
• 1:17:14
  Speaker 2: Because I am the one who made a relationship with them,
• 1:17:17
  Speaker 2: not my parents. My parents never even attempted to be
• 1:17:20
  Speaker 2: friends with my in-laws. Recently, my in-laws told me that
• 1:17:24
  Speaker 2: they understood why I didn't want them talking to my parents.
• 1:17:28
  Speaker 2: Each time they do it has never been anything nice
• 1:17:31
  Speaker 2: or pleasant about me. It's not about caring what my
• 1:17:35
  Speaker 2: parents think about their family. What matters is supporting and
• 1:17:38
  Speaker 2: loving me because that is what I need right now.
• 1:17:41
  Speaker 2: So just even talking to my parents and entertaining their
• 1:17:44
  Speaker 2: negative conversation about me, that hurts me and they don't
• 1:17:48
  Speaker 2: ever want that. Because their loyalty is to their son
• 1:17:52
  Speaker 2: and now their daughter.
• 1:17:54
  Speaker 4: That's right. Yes, you're in the fold.
• 1:18:00
  Speaker 2: There's a little bit left. I think it's working. It's working.
• 1:18:06
  Speaker 4: Yeah, you're in a good place. There's one thing I
• 1:18:09
  Speaker 4: feel is missing, though, and your parents need a large
• 1:18:12
  Speaker 4: dose of shame in their lives, public shame.
• 1:18:16
  Speaker 2: I think that will do it. That should do the trick,
• 1:18:20
  Speaker 2: I think.
• 1:18:21
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's, you know, come up with some creative, since
• 1:18:24
  Speaker 4: they love lying about you, come up with some creative
• 1:18:28
  Speaker 4: lies of your own.
• 1:18:30
  Speaker 2: You should just say that they're... They eat people. Can't
• 1:18:34
  Speaker 2: really come back from that one. They're going to be
• 1:18:36
  Speaker 2: known as people eaters.
• 1:18:37
  Speaker 4: Yeah, they love Soylent Green over there. They just eat
• 1:18:40
  Speaker 4: it up all day. Sorry, spoiler alert, Soylent Green is people.
• 1:18:43
  Speaker 2: Oh, Pete continues, I cried hearing that. I have never
• 1:18:47
  Speaker 2: felt so loved and so seen in that moment. Not
• 1:18:50
  Speaker 2: even my own family members love me that much. Today,
• 1:18:53
  Speaker 2: my parents asked to speak to my in-laws again. But
• 1:18:57
  Speaker 2: do you know what their reply was? Respectfully, we don't
• 1:19:01
  Speaker 2: want to talk about anything relating to OP and our son.
• 1:19:05
  Speaker 2: My parents have been absolute crickets. Tens across the board
• 1:19:10
  Speaker 2: letting my parents know they are done with their crap.
• 1:19:13
  Speaker 4: They really said, I respectfully decline any further conversation. And
• 1:19:18
  Speaker 4: I refer you to the wall over there. Just talk
• 1:19:22
  Speaker 4: to that.
• 1:19:23
  Speaker 2: Yeah. I mean, that's basically what they're doing anyway. They're
• 1:19:25
  Speaker 2: talking to people who do not care because they know
• 1:19:29
  Speaker 2: who they are. They see your true form. So bye, Narcs.
• 1:19:34
  Speaker 2: See you later or see you never.
• 1:19:36
  Speaker 4: I think it's time to put their phone number maybe
• 1:19:39
  Speaker 4: into every single, you know, national call bank that there is.
• 1:19:45
  Speaker 4: Let every salesman on earth from here to Mumbai know
• 1:19:51
  Speaker 4: about your parents' phone number.
• 1:19:53
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story. We're going to
• 1:19:54
  Speaker 1: go to the next one.
• 1:19:56
  Speaker 2: My mother posted every room in my apartment online, including
• 1:20:01
  Speaker 2: my address.
• 1:20:03
  Speaker 4: Oh, the good old mom doxing. That's nice.
• 1:20:06
  Speaker 2: So I, 26 male, live in a foreign country and
• 1:20:09
  Speaker 2: started renting a new apartment a few months ago. My
• 1:20:12
  Speaker 2: mom visited here for the first time this week and
• 1:20:15
  Speaker 2: stayed at my place. She loves taking pictures and posting
• 1:20:18
  Speaker 2: on Instagram to an excessive degree, in my opinion. From
• 1:20:22
  Speaker 2: this week-long trip, she already made two posts of about
• 1:20:26
  Speaker 2: 12 photos each. Yesterday, she made a new post and
• 1:20:29
  Speaker 2: texted me while at work that I need to like
• 1:20:31
  Speaker 2: it on Instagram. Your mom's doing that? I could understand
• 1:20:36
  Speaker 2: maybe a teenager saying, oh my God, go like my post.
• 1:20:40
  Speaker 3: I just posted, go like it.
• 1:20:42
  Speaker 2: Like, shut up. Your mom is saying, I just posted.
• 1:20:45
  Speaker 4: Something, go like it. She's trying to influence.
• 1:20:48
  Speaker 2: I was quite busy. Saw she posted a picture of
• 1:20:51
  Speaker 2: herself on my balcony, but didn't look further. I quickly
• 1:20:54
  Speaker 2: liked it and let her know so she would leave
• 1:20:56
  Speaker 2: me alone. When I got back home, I checked the
• 1:20:58
  Speaker 2: post again. There were about nine photos total of One
• 1:21:03
  Speaker 2: with me and her on the balcony, one with just herself,
• 1:21:06
  Speaker 2: three different photos of the interior of the apartment in
• 1:21:09
  Speaker 2: different angles, three photos taken from the balcony in different
• 1:21:12
  Speaker 2: angles of the whole surrounding area, and one in front
• 1:21:15
  Speaker 2: of the apartment. I really, really didn't like that she
• 1:21:20
  Speaker 2: posted that publicly. You can super easily figure out the
• 1:21:24
  Speaker 2: exact address and you can absolutely see everything I have inside.
• 1:21:28
  Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from Gentle Gamers, and if
• 1:21:30
  Speaker 2: you want to submit your own stories, go to the
• 1:21:32
  Speaker 2: rslashokstorytime subreddit. I'm Savannah.
• 1:21:34
  Speaker 4: I'm Dakota.
• 1:21:35
  Speaker 2: And we're here to talk about some stuff, get some advice,
• 1:21:37
  Speaker 2: but we don't have all of the answers. We're only
• 1:21:39
  Speaker 2: going to tell you what we would do. Let us
• 1:21:41
  Speaker 2: know what you would do down in the comments. As
• 1:21:44
  Speaker 2: OP says, I try to gently confront her by saying,
• 1:21:49
  Speaker 2: I'm very uncomfortable with having all of this information publicly posted,
• 1:21:53
  Speaker 2: and I would like you to delete the post. I
• 1:21:56
  Speaker 2: honestly thought she would just instantly delete it and there
• 1:21:59
  Speaker 2: wouldn't be a problem. But that was far from the truth.
• 1:22:03
  Speaker 2: She started arguing back that I am overreacting, that she
• 1:22:07
  Speaker 2: only wanted to share my new apartment because she likes
• 1:22:09
  Speaker 2: it so much, and that it was intended for her friends.
• 1:22:13
  Speaker 2: But I don't think that's true because her profile is
• 1:22:15
  Speaker 2: set to public and she has about 4,000 followers.
• 1:22:19
  Speaker 4: Yeah, so it's time mom learns how the close friends
• 1:22:23
  Speaker 4: story function works.
• 1:22:25
  Speaker 2: Or if she wanted to just show her friends, just
• 1:22:28
  Speaker 2: text them.
• 1:22:29
  Speaker 3: In a group chat.
• 1:22:29
  Speaker 2: Just be like, oh my God, look at my son's plays.
• 1:22:34
  Speaker 4: I think she's partially right, but so are you as well.
• 1:22:39
  Speaker 4: You might be overreacting, but it always pays to be safe.
• 1:22:42
  Speaker 2: The apartment post was even reposted by two strangers from
• 1:22:45
  Speaker 2: different countries, which made me even more uneasy. We literally
• 1:22:50
  Speaker 2: went back and forth with this for 30 minutes with
• 1:22:52
  Speaker 2: me saying that I just want the post deleted. I
• 1:22:55
  Speaker 2: am not telling you to delete the pictures. You can
• 1:22:57
  Speaker 2: keep those. And it's also fine if you show them
• 1:23:00
  Speaker 2: at work or amongst friends. But please do not publicly
• 1:23:03
  Speaker 2: post it. I want to be more private like that.
• 1:23:06
  Speaker 3: And she was.
• 1:23:06
  Speaker 2: Saying that she cannot delete it because she already has
• 1:23:10
  Speaker 2: 60 likes and it would be super embarrassing for her
• 1:23:12
  Speaker 2: because everyone will now know she deleted the post and
• 1:23:15
  Speaker 2: they would ask her about it and she doesn't know
• 1:23:17
  Speaker 2: what to tell them. Tell them exactly that.
• 1:23:20
  Speaker 3: Or also, I really.
• 1:23:22
  Speaker 2: 100% doubt anyone is going to like text her and
• 1:23:27
  Speaker 2: be like, what happened to your post? I really, really
• 1:23:30
  Speaker 2: liked that. Can you put it back up?
• 1:23:32
  Speaker 4: There is 0% chance anyone is going to be sniffing
• 1:23:36
  Speaker 4: around asking what happened to that post. Yeah.
• 1:23:39
  Speaker 2: If I like, if I'm looking for a post and
• 1:23:41
  Speaker 2: I see it's not there anymore, like it's deleted, I'm like, oh,
• 1:23:44
  Speaker 2: it's deleted. Or, oh, dang it, they deleted it. Like,
• 1:23:46
  Speaker 2: it's not like, I got to text them and be like,
• 1:23:49
  Speaker 2: why'd you delete this? You know, I needed to see it.
• 1:23:52
  Speaker 4: Instantaneously moving on with my life. I think the real
• 1:23:55
  Speaker 4: problem is you needed to start this by being like, wow,
• 1:23:59
  Speaker 4: your post is so great. Oh my God. It's the best.
• 1:24:04
  Speaker 4: You know, you've got my address in there though. And
• 1:24:07
  Speaker 4: there's a gang of thieves that are after me. So
• 1:24:09
  Speaker 4: I need to make sure that I'm protected and I
• 1:24:12
  Speaker 4: need you to take it down, but it's so good. Oh,
• 1:24:15
  Speaker 4: I wish you could post it.
• 1:24:16
  Speaker 3: Easy as that.
• 1:24:18
  Speaker 2: She gave me her phone because she's not very tech
• 1:24:20
  Speaker 2: savvy and told me to look at the post and
• 1:24:23
  Speaker 2: see if I can delete only some pictures until I
• 1:24:26
  Speaker 2: approve it. I told her I just don't like her
• 1:24:29
  Speaker 2: posting from here and I deleted the whole post. Cue
• 1:24:32
  Speaker 2: another 30 minutes of begging and negotiating how she can
• 1:24:35
  Speaker 2: make another post with the same pictures because she needs
• 1:24:37
  Speaker 2: to save face and that I completely embarrassed her in
• 1:24:41
  Speaker 2: front of everyone she knows. It was already midnight yesterday
• 1:24:46
  Speaker 2: when this was happening and I have work now. I'm
• 1:24:48
  Speaker 2: really struggling to stay awake on my commute now because
• 1:24:51
  Speaker 2: I barely slept. So I told her firmly, I told
• 1:24:54
  Speaker 2: you I am not comfortable with you posting these images.
• 1:24:58
  Speaker 2: You should have just said, that's fine, and that you
• 1:25:01
  Speaker 2: would delete them because you are my mother and you
• 1:25:04
  Speaker 2: don't want to make me uncomfortable with a crappy Instagram
• 1:25:07
  Speaker 2: post nobody cares about. But instead, we are here with
• 1:25:10
  Speaker 2: you begging and negotiating something you know... Makes me uncomfortable.
• 1:25:16
  Speaker 4: Yeah, your mom's weird. She's chronically mom-line. That's crazy.
• 1:25:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I've never really met, like, a mom influencer. And
• 1:25:26
  Speaker 2: I just find that really, really weird.
• 1:25:28
  Speaker 4: Yeah, and to be clear, she's not. She's not a
• 1:25:31
  Speaker 4: mom influencer. She's got 60 likes on a random post,
• 1:25:33
  Speaker 4: and there's probably, like, just a bunch of random people
• 1:25:36
  Speaker 4: from all over the planet following her for no reason.
• 1:25:39
  Speaker 4: Or following her because she posts stuff like this, and
• 1:25:40
  Speaker 4: then they can make scams out of it.
• 1:25:43
  Speaker 3: It's, I don't know.
• 1:25:44
  Speaker 2: I just think that this is really unnecessary. And the
• 1:25:47
  Speaker 2: fact that she's, like, taking this so to heart is
• 1:25:50
  Speaker 2: another thing. Like, maybe she needs to talk to someone.
• 1:25:53
  Speaker 4: Is your mom okay? Like, for real? I mean, I
• 1:25:56
  Speaker 4: feel like it's the most reasonable thing in the world.
• 1:25:58
  Speaker 4: If she's so worried about having to delete it, she's going, oh, yeah,
• 1:26:01
  Speaker 4: I accidentally posted his address, so I had to repost it.
• 1:26:04
  Speaker 4: And no one will think anything about that ever again.
• 1:26:07
  Speaker 3: Literally.
• 1:26:09
  Speaker 2: Like, I know this might be, you know, hard to hear, but...
• 1:26:13
  Speaker 2: She is not the most important person in the world.
• 1:26:16
  Speaker 2: Nobody really cares. And the people that do, good. But,
• 1:26:21
  Speaker 2: you know, those 60 people who liked it, great.
• 1:26:24
  Speaker 4: She's like, Rajit cares. Yeah. I don't know who he is,
• 1:26:28
  Speaker 4: but he cares.
• 1:26:28
  Speaker 2: In South Africa, he liked my post. I don't even
• 1:26:31
  Speaker 2: know who he is. But look, I've influenced him. He
• 1:26:34
  Speaker 2: must like something I do. I need to put those
• 1:26:37
  Speaker 2: posts up immediately.
• 1:26:38
  Speaker 3: OP continues.
• 1:26:41
  Speaker 2: Why are you doing this? And it also stings that
• 1:26:44
  Speaker 2: you really don't give a crap about what I think
• 1:26:46
  Speaker 2: and instead you're trying to find any possible reason or
• 1:26:49
  Speaker 2: way so you can post something I did not consent to.
• 1:26:53
  Speaker 2: Please don't post it. This is final. Good night. And
• 1:26:58
  Speaker 2: she said that you ruin the only thing I enjoy.
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  Speaker 3: Good night.
• 1:27:04
  Speaker 2: Then she went to bed sobbing, which made me feel
• 1:27:07
  Speaker 2: really crappy. But I had to end it there. Now
• 1:27:11
  Speaker 2: I'm on my way to work and she was sleeping
• 1:27:13
  Speaker 2: when I left. I don't know if I overreacted and
• 1:27:16
  Speaker 2: I felt bad in the end, but I just didn't
• 1:27:18
  Speaker 2: want that post. And I told her that she can
• 1:27:20
  Speaker 2: post whatever else of us from the city at museums
• 1:27:23
  Speaker 2: and restaurants, etc. Just not from my place. What do
• 1:27:27
  Speaker 2: you guys think? I don't think that's unreasonable. I wouldn't
• 1:27:32
  Speaker 2: really want my address like everywhere for everyone to see it.
• 1:27:36
  Speaker 2: And then people come and stalk me or send me
• 1:27:39
  Speaker 2: unsolicited things that I don't want.
• 1:27:40
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I think your mom's mentally ill.
• 1:27:43
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I think she has a problem with, like, social media.
• 1:27:45
  Speaker 2: She has, like, social media brain or something that's, like,
• 1:27:49
  Speaker 2: messing with her, like, reasoning to things.
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  Speaker 3: It's not good.
• 1:27:53
  Speaker 2: It's not good for anyone to be, like, obsessed with
• 1:27:55
  Speaker 2: social media or obsessed with, like, your phone.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: She's, like, delusional about it, though. Like, I don't know. Like,
• 1:28:01
  Speaker 4: she thinks she's got, like, 40 million followers, and she's like, well,
• 1:28:05
  Speaker 4: you don't understand. If I delete this post, the controversy...
• 1:28:10
  Speaker 4: will be so extreme.
• 1:28:12
  Speaker 2: TMZ is going to post about this later. It's like, actually,
• 1:28:16
  Speaker 2: I don't think nobody really gives a crap. But, you know, whatever.
• 1:28:22
  Speaker 2: I wish you luck. And I hope that she gets
• 1:28:24
  Speaker 2: some help for that because that's very unhealthy. And it
• 1:28:27
  Speaker 2: looks like she's going down a very, very bad and
• 1:28:30
  Speaker 2: dangerous road.
• 1:28:30
  Speaker 4: Yes, we wish your mother well.
• 1:28:33
  Speaker 2: And also the fact that she is not tech savvy,
• 1:28:36
  Speaker 2: that's definitely not gonna help in this situation either.
• 1:28:39
  Speaker 4: Yeah it's really weird for her to phrase great you've
• 1:28:42
  Speaker 4: ruined the only good thing i had going for.
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  Speaker 1: Me and that's the end of this story we're gonna
• 1:28:47
  Speaker 1: go to the next.
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  Speaker 6: One hey it's dakota your favorite good time boy host
• 1:28:52
  Speaker 6: here we're gonna get back to the stories but here's
• 1:28:54
  Speaker 6: three minutes of ads from our sponsors I turned down
• 1:28:57
  Speaker 6: my stepsister's demand for money, and now I'm banned from Christmas.
• 1:29:02
  Speaker 3: Aw, what?
• 1:29:03
  Speaker 2: No presents?
• 1:29:05
  Speaker 4: For context, I, 23, female, and my mom, 42, female,
• 1:29:10
  Speaker 4: have generally always gotten along. She married my stepdad, 45, male,
• 1:29:14
  Speaker 4: about 14 years ago. He has three kids, 22, female, 22, male,
• 1:29:18
  Speaker 4: and 20, female. My mom has two kids, a 23
• 1:29:23
  Speaker 4: female and a 19 female.
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  Speaker 2: I really hope none of that is all necessary to
• 1:29:27
  Speaker 2: write down, because I ain't get that.
• 1:29:29
  Speaker 4: That's all right. We can remember. Me and my sister
• 1:29:32
  Speaker 4: were never a priority in our house. We always came
• 1:29:36
  Speaker 4: last to my step-siblings. All of my step-siblings have kids.
• 1:29:40
  Speaker 4: And I am currently 25 weeks pregnant with my first.
• 1:29:45
  Speaker 4: I don't live with my mom. I am married... and
• 1:29:48
  Speaker 4: living on my own, even though it's only a few
• 1:29:51
  Speaker 4: blocks away from my mom's house. My oldest stepsister has
• 1:29:54
  Speaker 4: hated me for about a year now. We would get
• 1:29:57
  Speaker 4: into fights, just like regular sisters do, but I got
• 1:30:00
  Speaker 4: tired of me always having to apologize just because she
• 1:30:03
  Speaker 4: wouldn't let me or my mom see my niece, who's five, female,
• 1:30:08
  Speaker 4: until I apologized. I didn't want to be the reason
• 1:30:11
  Speaker 4: my mom didn't get to see her granddaughter. So sorry.
• 1:30:15
  Speaker 4: Forgot to mention why we were fighting. She wanted me
• 1:30:18
  Speaker 4: to help her get a house and a car. I
• 1:30:20
  Speaker 4: told her I could co-sign for a car, but as
• 1:30:23
  Speaker 4: I'm only 23, I couldn't get approved to co-sign on
• 1:30:27
  Speaker 4: a house. She accused me of hiding money and saying
• 1:30:31
  Speaker 4: that I own my house. And by the way, This
• 1:30:36
  Speaker 4: comes from Mama K2023. If you want to submit your
• 1:30:39
  Speaker 4: own stories, go to the r slash OK Storytime subreddit.
• 1:30:42
  Speaker 4: I'm Dakota.
• 1:30:43
  Speaker 2: And I'm Savannah.
• 1:30:44
  Speaker 4: And we are going to read this story and we're
• 1:30:46
  Speaker 4: going to give our good advice. Goofily, we don't have
• 1:30:47
  Speaker 4: all the answers. We only know what we know. Let
• 1:30:50
  Speaker 4: us know what you know in the comments. As OP says,
• 1:30:54
  Speaker 4: I do not own my house. I'm renting from a friend.
• 1:30:58
  Speaker 4: She said that if I didn't give her $ 30, 000 for
• 1:31:01
  Speaker 4: a down payment, she would tell our parents... And I
• 1:31:05
  Speaker 4: told her to go ahead and tell them because I
• 1:31:07
  Speaker 4: would not be giving her that much money. She's always
• 1:31:10
  Speaker 4: been petty like this. And when someone doesn't give her
• 1:31:12
  Speaker 4: exactly what she wants, she goes crazy. Now my stepsister
• 1:31:17
  Speaker 4: refuses to come around to anything I will be at.
• 1:31:20
  Speaker 4: Family functions, our parents' house, Christmas, Thanksgiving, anything. My stepdad
• 1:31:26
  Speaker 4: told me I couldn't go to three of my grandparents'
• 1:31:28
  Speaker 4: houses for Christmas because she wanted to go. I didn't
• 1:31:32
  Speaker 4: fight back because I don't want to be the reason
• 1:31:34
  Speaker 4: my grandmas don't get to see my niece. The other day,
• 1:31:37
  Speaker 4: I was at my mom's house, and her and my
• 1:31:39
  Speaker 4: stepdad told me to leave because they wanted my stepsister
• 1:31:42
  Speaker 4: and niece to come over, and I wasn't allowed over.
• 1:31:45
  Speaker 4: And these people are aware she asked you for $ 30, 000? Yeah.
• 1:31:51
  Speaker 2: I don't get why they're taking your side. Seems very
• 1:31:56
  Speaker 2: unreasonable to me.
• 1:31:57
  Speaker 4: You say, well, how about you give me $ 30, 000 and
• 1:32:00
  Speaker 4: I'll give it to her? And then you can be
• 1:32:02
  Speaker 4: on the hook for that.
• 1:32:04
  Speaker 7: What?
• 1:32:05
  Speaker 4: I had been there for hours at that point. If
• 1:32:08
  Speaker 4: they had come to talk to me and told me
• 1:32:10
  Speaker 4: they wanted to come over, it would be a different story.
• 1:32:13
  Speaker 4: But they just tossed me out with no warning or anything.
• 1:32:17
  Speaker 4: I don't want to separate the family and I want
• 1:32:19
  Speaker 4: my child to have the opportunity to play with their
• 1:32:22
  Speaker 4: cousins and not have to deal with tension from family
• 1:32:25
  Speaker 4: members and not have to deal with being told they
• 1:32:27
  Speaker 4: have to leave because someone else wants to come over.
• 1:32:30
  Speaker 4: I don't know what to do anymore because I know
• 1:32:33
  Speaker 4: I have to do what's going to make my child
• 1:32:35
  Speaker 4: happy in the long run. So am I the a-hole? Wow,
• 1:32:39
  Speaker 4: and there's an update. Very clearly not the a-hole.
• 1:32:43
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know how in any situation you would
• 1:32:45
  Speaker 2: be the a-hole.
• 1:32:48
  Speaker 4: Your stepsister is just a manipulator.
• 1:32:51
  Speaker 2: And a nightmare.
• 1:32:52
  Speaker 4: And like, yeah, she knows that she will always win
• 1:32:56
  Speaker 4: because grandchild. oh, I'm taking away your grandchild. They'll do anything.
• 1:33:02
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, what about, well, because, oh, he's pregnant
• 1:33:05
  Speaker 2: right now, so what about what happens when she has
• 1:33:08
  Speaker 2: her child?
• 1:33:09
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 1:33:10
  Speaker 2: Be like, eh, we don't care, this one came first,
• 1:33:11
  Speaker 2: or what?
• 1:33:12
  Speaker 4: Like, you're not the one who's making the decision to
• 1:33:17
  Speaker 4: tear the family apart. It's your stepsister. And, yeah, I
• 1:33:23
  Speaker 4: would voice all of this to your parents, your mother
• 1:33:28
  Speaker 4: and your father-in-law. Or your stepfather. It's crazy. Update! Sorry,
• 1:33:35
  Speaker 4: I know I left out details. I had just gotten
• 1:33:38
  Speaker 4: out of a fight with my mom and stepsister before
• 1:33:40
  Speaker 4: I made this post and needed somewhere to vent and
• 1:33:43
  Speaker 4: get advice. Growing up, my bio parents divorced when I
• 1:33:46
  Speaker 4: was seven and I spent weekends at my dad's house.
• 1:33:49
  Speaker 4: My mother would take the child support my dad sent
• 1:33:52
  Speaker 4: for me and my sister and use it to pay
• 1:33:54
  Speaker 4: for things my step-siblings needed. I had to get a
• 1:33:58
  Speaker 4: job at 14 to pay for clothes, food, phone, sports gear,
• 1:34:01
  Speaker 4: and anything I needed for school. At 16, I had
• 1:34:04
  Speaker 4: to get a loan from a bank to buy my
• 1:34:06
  Speaker 4: first car while the child support my dad was sending
• 1:34:09
  Speaker 4: was used to pay for stepsisters' car payments after my
• 1:34:12
  Speaker 4: mom paid for half her car up front. I was
• 1:34:16
  Speaker 4: forced to move out at 18 while my step-siblings got
• 1:34:18
  Speaker 4: to live in the house rent-free, job-free, and got everything
• 1:34:21
  Speaker 4: paid for by our parents. I have a theory. One,
• 1:34:26
  Speaker 4: your mom sucks. That's not a theory.
• 1:34:29
  Speaker 2: That's a fact.
• 1:34:30
  Speaker 4: Yeah, that is a fact. Two, I think she sees
• 1:34:35
  Speaker 4: you and your sister as like your father and she
• 1:34:38
  Speaker 4: hates your father and she's taking it on you guys.
• 1:34:42
  Speaker 4: And three, I think she is so desperate to not
• 1:34:45
  Speaker 4: be alone that she was like, I will prioritize this
• 1:34:49
  Speaker 4: man's children so that he will see I am devoted
• 1:34:52
  Speaker 4: to him.
• 1:34:53
  Speaker 2: All of those are very good theories.
• 1:34:55
  Speaker 4: And it all adds up to your mom being trashed.
• 1:34:58
  Speaker 4: While I was two months behind on rent from having
• 1:35:01
  Speaker 4: the vid and my grandma and stepmom passing away, my
• 1:35:05
  Speaker 4: parents told me I was on my own. I didn't
• 1:35:08
  Speaker 4: even ask them for help. I was just ranting to
• 1:35:10
  Speaker 4: my mom about it. After meeting my husband at 19,
• 1:35:14
  Speaker 4: he helped me get back on my feet and helped
• 1:35:16
  Speaker 4: me manage living on my own without feeling overwhelmed. He's
• 1:35:20
  Speaker 4: supporting in whatever decision I make. We don't get any
• 1:35:23
  Speaker 4: financial help from my parents, siblings, or grandparents. My stepdad
• 1:35:27
  Speaker 4: is the breadwinner of their family and brings in all
• 1:35:30
  Speaker 4: the money. My mom thinks she can't speak out against
• 1:35:33
  Speaker 4: him or he takes all the money away. My bio
• 1:35:37
  Speaker 4: sister has been low contact with all of our step
• 1:35:39
  Speaker 4: siblings and parents for about two years now. She saw
• 1:35:43
  Speaker 4: all the crap going on in our whole lives and
• 1:35:46
  Speaker 4: she felt that she didn't want to be around any
• 1:35:48
  Speaker 4: of it anymore. And I don't blame her. As for
• 1:35:52
  Speaker 4: the other step siblings, I think They all think I'm
• 1:35:55
  Speaker 4: in the wrong for not giving her $ 30, 000.
• 1:35:57
  Speaker 2: I just don't understand how that makes any sense. You
• 1:36:04
  Speaker 2: don't even have $ 30, 000 for yourself.
• 1:36:06
  Speaker 3: How are you going to give it to her?
• 1:36:08
  Speaker 4: They think because I am married and have a husband
• 1:36:11
  Speaker 4: that we have all this money we can throw away
• 1:36:14
  Speaker 4: when that is not the case. They aren't as bad
• 1:36:17
  Speaker 4: as the oldest, and they do talk to me some,
• 1:36:19
  Speaker 4: but we don't see each other very often. Uh, and...
• 1:36:23
  Speaker 4: Coming up to the end of this story, I mean, honestly, like,
• 1:36:27
  Speaker 4: I think what's best for your kid is to not
• 1:36:30
  Speaker 4: grow up in that environment at all.
• 1:36:32
  Speaker 2: Yeah, these people are so toxic and so negative. Like,
• 1:36:36
  Speaker 2: I would, I mean, I would take the baby away
• 1:36:38
  Speaker 2: from them. Like, you know, they don't want the baby
• 1:36:41
  Speaker 2: to be taken away from them from the stepsister. And
• 1:36:44
  Speaker 2: so it's, you can just play that same card. Be like, actually, I,
• 1:36:47
  Speaker 2: but it's not, you know, a threat. It's a, it's
• 1:36:50
  Speaker 2: an actual action.
• 1:36:51
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 1:36:52
  Speaker 2: Just be like, yeah, no, I don't I don't feel
• 1:36:53
  Speaker 2: like they you guys don't really need to be a
• 1:36:55
  Speaker 2: part of it.
• 1:36:56
  Speaker 4: And it's like not even you don't even have to
• 1:36:57
  Speaker 4: do it out of spite. They'll probably try to say
• 1:37:00
  Speaker 4: that you are. But it's like if you just look
• 1:37:02
  Speaker 4: at all of the variables, I think it's clear what's
• 1:37:05
  Speaker 4: best for your kid is to not be an environment
• 1:37:08
  Speaker 4: where like his grandparents have the opportunity to other him
• 1:37:12
  Speaker 4: and all of the other kids that your step siblings
• 1:37:15
  Speaker 4: have will be prioritized over yours. And your kid doesn't
• 1:37:21
  Speaker 4: need that at all. So, there's that. And if they
• 1:37:25
  Speaker 4: can come around with some boundaries and some regulations, maybe,
• 1:37:30
  Speaker 4: maybe that can be a reality.
• 1:37:32
  Speaker 2: I doubt it, though, because they've been like this for
• 1:37:34
  Speaker 2: so long. They don't care. They're still resenting her for
• 1:37:37
  Speaker 2: not giving her stepsister money.
• 1:37:40
  Speaker 4: Yeah, you've got an actual baby on the way and
• 1:37:42
  Speaker 4: they're asking for 30 grand from you. That's 30 grand
• 1:37:46
  Speaker 4: you could spend on your child.
• 1:37:49
  Speaker 5: Yep.
• 1:37:49
  Speaker 4: It's insanity. Yeah. OP says, as for me not being
• 1:37:53
  Speaker 4: invited to family functions and everything else, as far as
• 1:37:56
  Speaker 4: my side of the family is concerned, they know me
• 1:37:58
  Speaker 4: and stepsister had a huge fight and my parents told
• 1:38:01
  Speaker 4: them that I don't want to come around anymore, which
• 1:38:05
  Speaker 4: that isn't true at all. I've tried talking to my
• 1:38:09
  Speaker 4: grandparents about it, but they aren't listening. My stepsister has
• 1:38:12
  Speaker 4: since made a threat to me because I told my
• 1:38:14
  Speaker 4: mom she had to choose. I have blocked her on
• 1:38:17
  Speaker 4: everything and will not talk to her anymore. Thank you, everyone,
• 1:38:20
  Speaker 4: for the advice and support. We have some comments to
• 1:38:23
  Speaker 4: finish off this story. Where is Opie from that she
• 1:38:27
  Speaker 4: was able to sign for a loan from a bank
• 1:38:28
  Speaker 4: at 16? Opie says, I'm from the US and it
• 1:38:31
  Speaker 4: was a special circumstance. I had two and a half
• 1:38:33
  Speaker 4: years of stable work and a stable balance in my
• 1:38:35
  Speaker 4: bank account, and they didn't see me as a big risk.
• 1:38:37
  Speaker 4: And I made a really hefty down payment. So the
• 1:38:40
  Speaker 4: loan was only for 2000, but I wanted to build
• 1:38:42
  Speaker 4: my credit. The interest was insanely high, though. Banks can
• 1:38:45
  Speaker 4: issue personal credit building loans to anyone over the age
• 1:38:47
  Speaker 4: of 16 as long as they aren't over.
• 1:38:49
  Speaker 5: $ 2, 500.
• 1:38:49
  Speaker 4: That was the end of that story. An interesting little
• 1:38:54
  Speaker 4: comment we needed nothing from, but.
• 1:38:57
  Speaker 2: But now we know. In case we ever go back
• 1:38:59
  Speaker 2: in time and we're 16 and we can now be
• 1:39:03
  Speaker 2: part of a bank.
• 1:39:04
  Speaker 4: That's right. And for the love of all that is holy,
• 1:39:09
  Speaker 4: focus on you and your husband and your child and
• 1:39:12
  Speaker 4: Building your lives and your friendships and maybe your relationships
• 1:39:15
  Speaker 4: with your in-laws.
• 1:39:17
  Speaker 2: Yeah, get away from these people. They're horrible.
• 1:39:19
  Speaker 4: Ball's in their court. Say you don't want me around? Fine.
• 1:39:22
  Speaker 1: And that's the end of this story.