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When Your Divorce Goes Public ( Kandi Buruss speaks out) · The Breakfast Club

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  Speaker 2: into the latest. Speaking of community and people being Happy.
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  Speaker 2: You guys know that Todd Tucker and Candy Birds Candy
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  Speaker 2: Birds formerly of Escape, also of Real Housewives of Atlanta,
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  Speaker 2: they got a divorce. They got a divorce which finalized
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  Speaker 2: in March of twenty twenty six. Candy Birds initially filed
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  Speaker 2: for the divorce back in November twenty twenty five.
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  Speaker 1: To this day, we still don't know what happened.
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  Speaker 2: There have been speculations that there was in fidelity on
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  Speaker 2: Todd's part, but we don't know what happens still to
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  Speaker 2: this day.
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  Speaker 1: But what we do know is that they are raising
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  Speaker 1: children together both.
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  Speaker 2: You know, they both have daughters from previous relationships. So
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  Speaker 2: Candy Birds has Riley, who is her daughter, who's on
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  Speaker 2: that nextion NYC show. Todd has a daughter as well,
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  Speaker 2: and then they have young children together and with them
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  Speaker 2: being recently divorced, Todd has begin to kind of come
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  Speaker 2: into his own as a social media personality. I know,
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  Speaker 2: we talked about the Housewives in the last episode here
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  Speaker 2: on the Latest with Laurna Rosa in the Real Housewives
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  Speaker 2: of Atlanta. Candy was a big part of that show
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  Speaker 2: before she left, and her relationship in her marriage with
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  Speaker 2: Todd was as well with her mother, and a lot
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  Speaker 2: of people kind of questioning where Todd stood, like, you know,
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  Speaker 2: was he okay with not being the breadwinner? Was he faithful?
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  Speaker 2: There were a lot of questions at the time around
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  Speaker 2: certain things. I personally understood where that conversation came from.
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  Speaker 2: I think anytime a woman is very successful and she
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  Speaker 2: Candy has been successful forever and continues to grow in
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  Speaker 2: her success, and a man is not equally as successful
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  Speaker 2: or you know, their success is a part of the
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  Speaker 2: woman's success, like Todd was creating businesses with Candy and
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  Speaker 2: working with Candy on things. That becomes a conversation and
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  Speaker 2: it can be tough, like you know, as a woman
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  Speaker 2: who's dealt with, you know, men that had you know,
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  Speaker 2: more than me, that had less than me, but not
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  Speaker 2: even just financially. But I think ambition is the conversation.
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  Speaker 2: And I think sometimes as women were naturally more ambitious
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  Speaker 2: and outgoing when it comes to certain thing the men are,
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  Speaker 2: it gets tough trying to figure out that dynamic sometimes
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  Speaker 2: and I can't imagine doing it across reality TV, but
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  Speaker 2: in this new era they are now going through a divorce,
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  Speaker 2: not on reality TV, but in the public eye. It
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  Speaker 2: was a huge thing when they filed for divorce and
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  Speaker 2: when it was finalized, there was some back and forth
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  Speaker 2: over custody and different you know, who would take what
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  Speaker 2: and who owned what and what business belonged to who.
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  Speaker 2: But they figured it out. They figured it out to
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  Speaker 2: the point where they now. We've seen them on a
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  Speaker 2: few vacations together and cold parenting, and Candy actually talked
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  Speaker 2: about this. She sat down with Danielle Brooks for her
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  Speaker 2: Intermission podcast that she does. It's a video podcast, and
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  Speaker 2: Candy talked about like how weird it was in the
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  Speaker 2: beginning of the divorce because they still share children together,
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  Speaker 2: and then where it's grown to now and sick listen.
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  Speaker 3: I feel like it was a little challenging during while
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  Speaker 3: we were in the middle of the divorce because it's
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  Speaker 3: like I just cushed your ass out and now we
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  Speaker 3: gotta go over here on vacation just me, you and
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  Speaker 3: Asa Blade. I remember, I think the first one was
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  Speaker 3: for New Years. He all of a sudden was like
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  Speaker 3: he was taking the kids somewhere and hold on, like,
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  Speaker 3: I got those days off.
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  Speaker 1: What make you think? Like? I was like, well we're
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  Speaker 1: both going.
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  Speaker 3: Wow, And he was like all right, cool. So we
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  Speaker 3: both were together with our two little ones to bring
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  Speaker 3: in the new year, and it was kind of awkward
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  Speaker 3: in my brain because I was like, Okay, one part
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  Speaker 3: of me is like, we're not gonna be together anymore.
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  Speaker 1: And typically you want.
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  Speaker 3: To bring the year in with the person that you
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  Speaker 3: put print plan to be with, right, and I knew
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  Speaker 3: we wasn't gonna be together, So it just was kind
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  Speaker 3: of like, Okay, how is this gonna work? But we
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  Speaker 3: got along well one and I can do like when
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  Speaker 3: it comes to the kids, we're good at, you know,
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  Speaker 3: putting the drama to the side and being able to
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  Speaker 3: just you know, be there for the kid.
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  Speaker 2: Todd has been doing these I said, he's coming into
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  Speaker 2: his own. He's been doing this like journey with me
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  Speaker 2: via social media of like his new single life. Let's
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  Speaker 2: take a listen to some of the videos Ted has passed.
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  Speaker 2: It just in this post, it just in this last
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  Speaker 2: couple months. Let's take a listen. It's cringe as you.
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  Speaker 1: Get backed out there dating. How young is too young?
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  Speaker 1: And is there a age that's too old? So my
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  Speaker 1: buddy said, if you're gonna go younger, you gotta go
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  Speaker 1: your oldest child's age and had eight years my.
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  Speaker 2: Daughter Kayla's thirty, so thirty eight is that appropriate?
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna be fifty three.
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  Speaker 3: Another friend said it's happy age months up and how
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  Speaker 3: old is too old?
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  Speaker 1: Like, I'm fifty three? Can I go sixty?
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  Speaker 2: As I'm watching these videos, I'm like, yo, I get it,
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  Speaker 2: you're single. To me, this is like the girl who
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  Speaker 2: gets out of relationship and it's posting everywhere single single
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  Speaker 2: back outside. I had looking for the holes, like it's like,
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  Speaker 2: why you don't have to do this? And I think
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  Speaker 2: at fifty some years old, I just wouldn't like it.
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  Speaker 2: I look at it, and I have no issue with Todd.
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  Speaker 2: I've never been one of those people that thought less
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  Speaker 2: of him because Candy was the breadwinner or whatever. I
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  Speaker 2: actually thought that their marriage and their family was adorable.
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  Speaker 2: I loved seeing them together and I love the dynamic
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  Speaker 2: they had, because you want to be able to build
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  Speaker 2: with your many a person. But when I see these videos,
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, the one that he was at the
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  Speaker 2: jay Z concert talking about single dad outside he posted
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  Speaker 2: a photo and I was like, why just go to
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  Speaker 2: the concert, Just go so Riley. TMZ caught up with
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  Speaker 2: Riley following her comments to clarify if it is different
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  Speaker 2: between them.
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  Speaker 1: And here is what she had to say. How did
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  Speaker 1: save here that you and Todd were not the same?
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  Speaker 1: But he still supports me a lot. He texts me
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  Speaker 1: even when I have bad episodes.
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  Speaker 3: He's always like, I'm here for you always.
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  Speaker 1: But you know, going through divorce is never easy, and
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  Speaker 1: you know we all feeling last, that's last. Would you
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  Speaker 1: be open to your mom getting married.
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  Speaker 2: Again in the mere people, Well, in the future, Maybe
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  Speaker 2: not now, but maybe in years to come.
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  Speaker 1: I know you've been through Coby a lot. Anything that
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  Speaker 1: makes her happy. Man, divorce is not easy.
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  Speaker 2: It's one of the things I always say when I
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  Speaker 2: see people getting divorced.
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  Speaker 1: Divorce is not easy.
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  Speaker 2: And I don't ever want to be in the middle
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  Speaker 2: of a divorce like ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, because
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  Speaker 2: there's so many people that are like.
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  Speaker 1: Emotionally attached to the marriage.
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  Speaker 2: I just don't want to be the person I have
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  Speaker 2: to navigate people's feelings in that way and my own
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  Speaker 2: feelings at all. Candy talked a little bit about how
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  Speaker 2: you know, when everything first happened, she was here in
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  Speaker 2: New York on Broadway doing and Juliette, and how she
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  Speaker 2: poured herself into work, trying to get through it, the divorce.
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  Speaker 1: That's tack a listening.
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  Speaker 3: Around that time, I had got the opportunity to do
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  Speaker 3: and Juliette on Broadway, and at first I was kind
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  Speaker 3: of like thinking about it, but then I said, I'm
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  Speaker 3: going to do it because I knew I was gonna
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  Speaker 3: need that to like keep my mind out of being sad.
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  Speaker 1: And distraught, you know what I mean.
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  Speaker 3: So I pour into work. And then as as far
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  Speaker 3: as people close to me, Don Juan and Carmen, they
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  Speaker 3: were definitely people for me to lean on. Yeah, during
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  Speaker 3: the time, of course my mom. But at first I
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  Speaker 3: didn't want to tell my mom at first because I
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  Speaker 3: didn't want to hear.
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  Speaker 1: All I can say is get off Instagram, Todd, please
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  Speaker 1: get off Instagram. I don't know, y'all. Let me know.
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  Speaker 2: Any recently divorced people, And maybe I feel like this
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  Speaker 2: because of his age, but any recently divorced people hit
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  Speaker 2: me up, get in the streets, get into sweets, talk
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  Speaker 2: to me a bit like they're not on the reality
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  Speaker 2: show anymore. They're not on Real Housewives. There's no cameras following.
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  Speaker 2: Candy has held it down, She's supported them. He also
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  Speaker 2: supports her too. He posted about her wo woman and
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  Speaker 2: show that she was doing, congratulated her. Candy just posted
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  Speaker 2: him for his birthday, so it seems cordial in the
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  Speaker 2: public eye.
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  Speaker 1: But do y'all feel like this is too much?
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  Speaker 2: Like sometimes I feel like Kenny Kenny don't have to
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  Speaker 2: post it and say every birthday if she doesn't feel
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  Speaker 2: like it. And I don't know, she feels like she
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  Speaker 2: has to establish it the public that they're good because
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  Speaker 2: she's a public figure. And he also doesn't pick us
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  Speaker 2: on the journey of your single life. Y'all, let me
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