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How To Tell Your Partner You Are Autistic (3 Top Strategies) · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  So how do you tell your partner that you are autistic?
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  Here are three top strategies that I used coming up Hey guys,
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  welcome back to the apps we world.
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  My name is Dan. I have autism ADHDOCD and
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  Dyslexia and I make weekly videos on this type of content.
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  more autism content. OK, so I I've been asked
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  questions about how to tell people you're artistic.
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  You know people ask me all the time how to do I did one on
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  like, how to tell your family and friends.
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  But one of the biggest ones I get asked all the time is how to
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  tell your partner. Like how do you tell your
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  partner you're on the autism spectrum?
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  Because they're the people that you know you're around all the
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  time, and you know they are. They're the people who are going
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  to be supporting you. They're the people that are
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  there all the time. So I get asked this question all
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  the time, and I just want to make this video to help you
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  understand how to do this with these top three strategies.
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  Now, if you're new around here and you haven't already
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  It's totally free. Okay.
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  So here are my three top strategies for actually telling
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  somebody that you're with your partner, your your girlfriend,
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  your boyfriend, or whatever you know that you're on the autism
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  spectrum. Because they need to know, you
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  know, if you're with somebody, then you're sharing your
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  romantic life with, then they need to know at the end of the
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  day. So this is my three top
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  strategies and I use these exact ones.
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  And it worked absolutely perfect.
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  So the first one is to be open. So the first thing I did after
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  my diagnosis as my partner was present there was to be open and
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  honest with my family and and with her.
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  So tell them everything that you can about the process, the
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  diagnosis, what it means. And this is the same for you and
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  your partner. You know, like be open, Have
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  that open dialogue. Tell them exactly the process.
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  Tell them what happened because they're going to want to back
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  you up. They're going to everyone be
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  there with you side by side, because that's what we do with
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  relationships, especially romantic relationships.
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  When you love someone and you're in a relationship with somebody,
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  they want to help and protect you as best they can and do all
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  those things with you. So if you're open and honest
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  with them, then you can have great success in those areas.
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  OK, so #2 for me was vital, which is answer questions.
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  Now, you know, be mindful that your partner will want to ask
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  you a bunch of questions about autism, about your diagnosis,
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  about the whole process, right? And so the best thing you can do
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  is to be open and and answer those questions.
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  So prepare yourself for the fact that you're going to be
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  interrogated about it because they've just found out, you
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  know, like it's not something that you're you should be
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  ashamed about. Something that is part of you.
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  It is you. You are autism.
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  Autism is you. So just be open and honest.
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  Answer those questions because you're going to be the best
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  person to answer those questions on the subject because it is
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  you, it is about you. And they will get the full
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  picture because they're they're asking you specific questions
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  like how does impact this part of a relationship?
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  How does this impact this part of relationship?
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  And then you'll be able to answer those questions honestly,
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  open and completely direct, because you are going to know
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  the answers. That is perfect and prime for
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  this kind of situation, especially when you're talking
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  to your partner or loved one or when you're explaining that to
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  the person that you're spending your whole life with.
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  OK, so #3 is providing research. One of the things that I found
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  most interesting and helpful and useful was educating anyone,
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  including your partner about autism.
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  Diagnosis is finding that the right information.
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  So getting the right books, getting the right, even if it's
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  the diagnostic report from the the doctor, the analysis, pass
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  this to them and get them to read it.
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  Because when they, you know, they know that you have, you
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  know, an autism spectrum disorder, you've answered
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  questions on it. But then they'll want to kind of
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  know some academic research. So the best way to get the
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  academic research in is to literally get it the academic
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  research from the library or a bookstore or whatever, and then
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  present it to them and say, hey, you know, I've got autism and
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  this is it. And you answer all the questions
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  and you say, well, why not do some research on it?
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  Why don't you check out, you know, what is it, how it's going
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  to affect, you know, our relationship, if at all.
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  And then you'll be ahead of the game.
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  I think this is absolutely paramount for any relationships.
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  If you have any more questions about autism and relationships,
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  I did a bunch of videos on autism and relationships and
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  I'll leave them in the end slate and in the description and stuff
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  so you guys can check those videos out.
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  But if you have anything specific to ask me, pop it in a
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  comment. I read every single one and I
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  definitely have that conversation with you if you
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  need any help with anything. Also guys, if you found this
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  Alright, I'll see you next time guys.
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  Peace.