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- 0:00Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeart
- 0:04Speaker 1: Radio and the Black Effect Network.
- 0:06Speaker 2: Talk Talk Talk. We're just two unapologetically black women with
- 0:11Speaker 2: an opinion who talks. What's out?
- 0:17Speaker 1: Y'all tuning in for a new episode of We Talk Back,
- 0:20Speaker 1: a show dedicated to you dreamers and chasers.
- 0:23Speaker 2: This is your co host, A J.
- 0:25Speaker 1: Holiday.
- 0:26Speaker 2: What's up, Tam Bam?
- 0:29Speaker 1: What's up y'all? I fucking love y'all, Lass so much.
- 0:33Speaker 2: Calm down, I do. I was trying to make your energy.
- 0:38Speaker 2: I sound excited today.
- 0:40Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm on my rise coffee, my mushroom coffee.
- 0:45Speaker 2: I'm gonna have me some here in a minute. I
- 0:47Speaker 2: love my mushroom coffee. Yeah.
- 0:50Speaker 1: Our weekend was great, but wake your ass.
- 0:53Speaker 2: That's why I'm tired. I'm tied. Listen, I te tied.
- 0:57Speaker 2: That was a lot my body went through this weekend.
- 1:01Speaker 1: One thing about it. I know my limitations. Tammy be
- 1:04Speaker 1: pushing it, bitch, listen, limit thinking about what I gotta do. Shit,
- 1:13Speaker 1: we had a fun filled weekend. This past weekend was
- 1:16Speaker 1: a Black Effect Podcast Festival, second annual. Okay, yeah, let
- 1:22Speaker 1: per usual. You know, we only got one other to
- 1:25Speaker 1: compare it to, and it was great. You know what
- 1:27Speaker 1: I want to see next year, which I might even
- 1:28Speaker 1: suggest because there was an R and B festival going
- 1:32Speaker 1: on simultaneously, because my homegirl came to the podcast festival
- 1:35Speaker 1: and she left and went to this R and B. Yeah,
- 1:39Speaker 1: we need a stage with some with some music outside
- 1:41Speaker 1: because I don't I don't feel like that whole outside
- 1:44Speaker 1: was open like that last year.
- 1:46Speaker 2: No, because they had the food vendors all on the
- 1:49Speaker 2: other side. We didn't. It wasn't like that. Yeah, so
- 1:52Speaker 2: it did split the crowd up a bit exactly.
- 1:55Speaker 1: So that big ass open outside field, they can go
- 1:59Speaker 1: ahead and throw another age out there and throw some music.
- 2:03Speaker 1: Maybe even somebody who already does podcasts can perform their
- 2:07Speaker 1: podcast and do some songs, like maybe like R and
- 2:10Speaker 1: B money to do some ship.
- 2:12Speaker 2: Yeah, I think.
- 2:14Speaker 1: Yeah.
- 2:15Speaker 2: I also think we should move to another city.
- 2:17Speaker 1: No, I think Atlanta is it. I mean it's not
- 2:21Speaker 1: like maybe another black city like Houston or something like that. Like,
- 2:24Speaker 1: I don't think they should move. They definitely shouldn't have
- 2:26Speaker 1: it in New York. Remember the first one was supposed
- 2:28Speaker 1: to be in New York. I don't think that would
- 2:29Speaker 1: have been a good move.
- 2:30Speaker 2: I think that should have it as Charlotte, so I
- 2:32Speaker 2: ain't got to travel. Oh that part.
- 2:34Speaker 1: No, I did suggest that too, So Charlotte. Charlotte definitely
- 2:38Speaker 1: would be lit.
- 2:39Speaker 2: It's the same thing. Yeah, it would be It would
- 2:42Speaker 2: be a good thing.
- 2:42Speaker 1: And people from Atlanta would you know, they will travel.
- 2:46Speaker 2: It's not that far. It's not that far, right.
- 2:48Speaker 1: Because I spoke to some people and they were alway
- 2:50Speaker 1: from Ohio. Girl, people was flying in for that ship.
- 2:53Speaker 1: But yeah, shout out to a black Effect podcast.
- 2:56Speaker 2: Network and yeah, okay, so there, we booked a we
- 3:02Speaker 2: booked a party for Sunday emphasis on week and then
- 3:07Speaker 2: this has been said. You know what I'm gonna do?
- 3:09Speaker 2: Talk back?
- 3:09Speaker 1: Oh, talk back to your ass later. We ain't doing shit,
- 3:14Speaker 1: that said tavy ass right on, Like you went home,
- 3:17Speaker 1: Like that's about right. I would have had to drive
- 3:20Speaker 1: from Atlanta to Charlotte and then back to Charleston.
- 3:25Speaker 2: Yeah, that was too much. Ire y'all was like, y'all
- 3:28Speaker 2: have fun. We did have a great time. It was
- 3:31Speaker 2: a good it was a good old time. But now
- 3:34Speaker 2: I'm sleeping for two days straight. You gotta we need
- 3:37Speaker 2: to recuperate. Yeah, but it was good time, good time.
- 3:41Speaker 1: Listen y'all, we did go to the strip club this weekend.
- 3:43Speaker 2: I'm excited when.
- 3:45Speaker 1: We go to the strip club, okay, because I only
- 3:47Speaker 1: go like once every ten weeks or some shit.
- 3:52Speaker 2: You looked excited to go in early, but then about
- 3:54Speaker 2: after twenty minutes to be in there, you looked over it.
- 3:57Speaker 1: It was I was over, yeah, because I didn't get
- 3:59Speaker 1: the fucking sit down. Bit ch'all was standing up in
- 4:02Speaker 1: that little ass hot box they had.
- 4:04Speaker 2: Oh you was standing while you here. I told you
- 4:06Speaker 2: could sit on my lap.
- 4:07Speaker 1: Girl, you'd had to throw some ones on the side.
- 4:10Speaker 2: Bitch. I had enough. I can't listen. I had enough one.
- 4:15Speaker 1: I wasn't one of the ones who threw my one
- 4:17Speaker 1: hundred and then said no more.
- 4:18Speaker 2: I was like, give me another, give me another, Can
- 4:23Speaker 2: I have another? I know I threw at least six
- 4:26Speaker 2: hundred dollars by myself.
- 4:28Speaker 1: I kept asking for a stack of one. This bitch
- 4:31Speaker 1: wanted to rotate the hose that was in it. All
- 4:34Speaker 1: of them bitches wanted to rotate the hose. Girl, I
- 4:36Speaker 1: was giving that money out. Just the only one who
- 4:38Speaker 1: said something. I was like, Chola, man, let's rotate these bitches.
- 4:41Speaker 2: Man new Batch y'all black women, black people. Nuts.
- 4:49Speaker 1: Dog. I feel like I feel like y'all motherfuckers was
- 4:52Speaker 1: discriminating a little bit.
- 4:54Speaker 2: On the light skinned girls, not even the lap I
- 4:58Speaker 2: don't know. I I just feel like we've had the
- 5:02Speaker 2: light skined strippers be celebrated since I can remember. I
- 5:04Speaker 2: just wanted some chocolate in there, right, and jocolate is
- 5:08Speaker 2: so nice? Okay, No, no shade to the light skinned strippers.
- 5:12Speaker 2: I mean, in Puerto Rican strippers, they's beautiful too, But
- 5:14Speaker 2: I just wanted to see some chocolates. You know.
- 5:18Speaker 1: I'm such a data analyst, Like I really be analyzing
- 5:21Speaker 1: the weirdest shit and the weirdest places. All I could
- 5:24Speaker 1: think about was like, damn, this is a whole new,
- 5:26Speaker 1: fresh batch of hoes like.
- 5:29Speaker 2: They mama probably used to worry.
- 5:31Speaker 1: I'm talking about the girls that get up on a
- 5:32Speaker 1: pole and do all the things like how do you like,
- 5:35Speaker 1: how do you know you coming from high school to
- 5:37Speaker 1: go do this?
- 5:37Speaker 2: Like what were you? Were you a dancer in high school?
- 5:40Speaker 1: Like what was y'all doing to prepare to be swinging
- 5:42Speaker 1: from the ceiling and magic City?
- 5:44Speaker 2: Okay, how does that happen? They probably learned all that
- 5:47Speaker 2: shit there you think so that they look early twenties
- 5:52Speaker 2: like y'all. Yeah, but they strong, they young, they susceptible
- 5:57Speaker 2: the information. I'm sure they understand learned how to do
- 5:59Speaker 2: it real information very very but listen, I turned around.
- 6:07Speaker 2: This girl. She did something amazing. She bent over and
- 6:09Speaker 2: put her one leg straight up in the air, and
- 6:12Speaker 2: they was like, timmy, look, I turned around, y'all was
- 6:15Speaker 2: a pussy right eye level with my face. I was like,
- 6:18Speaker 2: oh my god, I didn't mean to be that close.
- 6:22Speaker 2: I wasn't like that. I ain't like that. I don't
- 6:26Speaker 2: want that. I'm cool. I'm cool. I'm cool, but I
- 6:29Speaker 2: just have I always wanted to understand the psychology behind
- 6:35Speaker 2: being able to be fully naked in public and not
- 6:40Speaker 2: feel shame or anything.
- 6:43Speaker 1: Yeah, that's all I was thinking about.
- 6:47Speaker 2: Like I'd be feeling shame when my titties a sitting
- 6:49Speaker 2: upright in my dress. I don't know, man, on the
- 6:54Speaker 2: level of is it confidence or is it something else?
- 6:59Speaker 2: That's what I'm trying to understand.
- 7:00Speaker 1: Like, I mean, they was drinking just as much liquor
- 7:02Speaker 1: as us. So do y'all get drunk to do this?
- 7:05Speaker 1: Do you have to be on drugs to do this
- 7:07Speaker 1: is this really you?
- 7:08Speaker 2: You know? Right? So I don't know.
- 7:11Speaker 1: I mean, you watch the movies and you see the
- 7:12Speaker 1: girls they be on cocaine all that shit in the back,
- 7:15Speaker 1: like they gotta get high in order to do their job.
- 7:18Speaker 1: I don't ever want to be doing nothing in life
- 7:19Speaker 1: that I can't do one hundred percent. So I'm pretty
- 7:21Speaker 1: sure there's some women in their sober Yeah.
- 7:23Speaker 2: They don't do nothing, and then they're just having a great time, yeah,
- 7:27Speaker 2: and they feel empowered or something like that.
- 7:29Speaker 1: I guess it's two different types of strippers. It's some
- 7:31Speaker 1: that gotta do it and some that you know, do
- 7:34Speaker 1: it because they like.
- 7:35Speaker 2: Maybe we should get a camera behind me and I
- 7:37Speaker 2: be a strip of a day. I'd be the worst
- 7:39Speaker 2: stripper though. I'll be up there doing a robot and ship.
- 7:41Speaker 2: They be like, just been over bit, are you.
- 7:43Speaker 1: Gonna hear some fucking knees that need oil and bitch
- 7:46Speaker 1: a lot of shit.
- 7:47Speaker 2: My knees is good.
- 7:48Speaker 1: It's the hip, is that right, hire that you hear crack?
- 7:51Speaker 2: So they ain't gonna be able to hear it over
- 7:53Speaker 2: the music. Let's get it to says y'all big Lotto.
- 8:02Speaker 1: I said, y'all, Ship in front of y'all man, I
- 8:04Speaker 1: sneak downstairs. She's asking, do y'all ship in front of
- 8:07Speaker 1: your man? Or do y'all go in another room? What
- 8:09Speaker 1: should be doing?
- 8:11Speaker 2: First of all, everybody ain't got no downstairs Lotto, so
- 8:16Speaker 2: some of these motherfuckers got one bathroom. Okay, but listen,
- 8:22Speaker 2: go ahead.
- 8:22Speaker 1: Now, I was gonna say, yeah, send us some money
- 8:24Speaker 1: for a downstairs. You remember a couple of weeks ago
- 8:26Speaker 1: she sent this girl some money for her rent because
- 8:29Speaker 1: Lotto has said something. And the girl was like, now, Lotto,
- 8:32Speaker 1: everybody don't got that. She was like, oh, I'm sorry.
- 8:35Speaker 1: How much your runners? Right?
- 8:37Speaker 2: Yeah, we need to down build on.
- 8:39Speaker 1: Top of our ship. We need to upstairs build us
- 8:41Speaker 1: up because the.
- 8:42Speaker 2: Fuck I used to at some point I was with
- 8:47Speaker 2: my last boyfriend. We were together like four or five years,
- 8:51Speaker 2: and at some point I got comfortable enough to shit.
- 8:55Speaker 2: But in the first maybe two years, no, and it
- 8:58Speaker 2: used to be such a painful experience. I used to
- 9:01Speaker 2: have to like send it. I said, can you gonna
- 9:03Speaker 2: get me some ice cream? Ice cream? Right now? Please
- 9:07Speaker 2: go go, like just trying to get that one fuck
- 9:11Speaker 2: out of the house. I can take a poop and
- 9:16Speaker 2: He finally caught on that I was trying to avoid
- 9:18Speaker 2: like pooping around him, and he had to sit me
- 9:21Speaker 2: down and be like, bro, stop sending me places just
- 9:24Speaker 2: so you can use the bathroom. You're a human, are we, bitch?
- 9:30Speaker 1: Because I'm still nothing. Maybe I get that from my mama,
- 9:33Speaker 1: Like I feel like she ain't never.
- 9:34Speaker 2: Poop or.
- 9:37Speaker 1: Excuse me poop or poop in front of my daddy.
- 9:40Speaker 1: Cause I don't even want to say farnt fart for
- 9:43Speaker 1: this bitch to be trying to correct my uh.
- 9:46Speaker 2: Ain't no internet words as up anyway.
- 9:49Speaker 1: Yeah, I can't do it, not even far like I
- 9:53Speaker 1: only farn't when I am unconscious, like in my fucking sleep,
- 9:58Speaker 1: I might let one out and it might wait me up,
- 10:00Speaker 1: But I'm not just intentionally letting loose. Fra Once, when I.
- 10:04Speaker 2: Tell you I stayed at her house one, you feel
- 10:06Speaker 2: like your ruins the intimessey.
- 10:08Speaker 1: That's what I was about to say, like I had
- 10:10Speaker 1: a friend who I watched her, continued, I mean, just
- 10:14Speaker 1: just a weekend, I'm at her house. She just is sparting,
- 10:16Speaker 1: like letting loose, letting loose, and I'm looking at her, nigga,
- 10:18Speaker 1: and I'm like, yo, like that does to me. I
- 10:22Speaker 1: don't want my man super ripping it off all the
- 10:25Speaker 1: damn time. I don't like it, and close the door
- 10:27Speaker 1: when you're taking a shit.
- 10:28Speaker 2: I'm cool.
- 10:29Speaker 1: I don't want to see that, and I don't want
- 10:31Speaker 1: to smell it.
- 10:33Speaker 2: I don't like man. I almost end up in a
- 10:34Speaker 2: hospital on some shit like that. Me my my ex boyfriend,
- 10:39Speaker 2: not the last one, but the one prior to that.
- 10:41Speaker 2: Me and him in his home his cousin, which was
- 10:43Speaker 2: also a man. We went to the outlets in Myrtle
- 10:46Speaker 2: Beach from Columbia, so that's like what two and a
- 10:49Speaker 2: half hour drive or something like that. We stopped at
- 10:51Speaker 2: McDonald's to get some breakfast. I got the steak bagel
- 10:54Speaker 2: had just come out. I was like, I'm gonna try that, baby,
- 10:58Speaker 2: that shit ball my stuff up. About forty five minutes
- 11:01Speaker 2: to the round, I had to fart so bad, but
- 11:03Speaker 2: there's no way I'm farting in front of these two men,
- 11:06Speaker 2: So I held my fart and by the time we
- 11:10Speaker 2: made it to the beach, I needed to go to
- 11:12Speaker 2: the emergency room. It felt like I was having a
- 11:13Speaker 2: heart attack. Gas was all up in my chest and everything.
- 11:17Speaker 2: We were and we were going to the outlet, and
- 11:19Speaker 2: I knew he was gonna buy me stuff, but I
- 11:21Speaker 2: couldn't even get out the car. I stayed in the
- 11:23Speaker 2: car while they went shopped, and I just laid there
- 11:26Speaker 2: and farted for like forty minutes. This really happened. I
- 11:32Speaker 2: was so miserable. I couldn't move.
- 11:37Speaker 1: That crazy of some farns just stuck to my body
- 11:40Speaker 1: like that, like I'll wait in ta take a shower.
- 11:42Speaker 1: I'm gonna close the door. And I burned incense like
- 11:44Speaker 1: that kid that cuts the smell immediately, right if I
- 11:48Speaker 1: got to do it while he is home. But I
- 11:50Speaker 1: try to let all my poops and poops out on
- 11:55Speaker 1: this nigga go home.
- 11:57Speaker 2: I can't do it. Eventually, I had to. Eventually, I
- 12:00Speaker 2: had to just be a human being.
- 12:02Speaker 1: I can't do it.
- 12:03Speaker 2: So you never be. You ain't never been. Like, can
- 12:05Speaker 2: you pass me tissue? Like you realized there was no
- 12:08Speaker 2: rong chuck?
- 12:09Speaker 1: No, actually no, I want to make sure I got
- 12:12Speaker 1: all my things. I don't want to have to do that.
- 12:15Speaker 2: I don't I don't want to have to, but it
- 12:18Speaker 2: has happened. I'm a cat.
- 12:20Speaker 1: Cats literally cove it, shut up and hide it. Y'all
- 12:22Speaker 1: fucking dogs. Leave y'all shit out for people to see him. Smell, baby,
- 12:27Speaker 1: give me a row, please out the cabinet, ask it
- 12:31Speaker 1: to me, because what I'm gonna do?
- 12:36Speaker 2: Shut up? All right? So Diddy's daughter Chance looks so
- 12:43Speaker 2: beautiful attending her prom with Branson Bailey and he is
- 12:47Speaker 2: the younger brother of Chloe and Halle Bailey. And they
- 12:51Speaker 2: looked very beautiful. They looked very like simple and elegant prom.
- 12:56Speaker 2: And one of the comments AJ is there with hard
- 13:00Speaker 2: eyes under the picture, and then right under that there's
- 13:03Speaker 2: a person that says, see how people with actual money
- 13:06Speaker 2: do prom. She didn't need a camel, a ski mask
- 13:09Speaker 2: on a yacht, a step squad to introduce her. Just
- 13:13Speaker 2: be broke as hell and tacky for no reason. Laughing faces.
- 13:17Speaker 1: I agree, I disagree, I agree.
- 13:22Speaker 2: Listen, pomp and circumstance your shit, because a lot of
- 13:25Speaker 2: times these young people are a chance. I promise you
- 13:29Speaker 2: Chance and Branson probably been on the yacht. They probably
- 13:33Speaker 2: can go ride a camel on their family vacations. They
- 13:36Speaker 2: at least some of these people don't get to experience
- 13:38Speaker 2: none of that ever in life. Like sometimes prom is
- 13:41Speaker 2: the only time they'll wear a gown in their entire life.
- 13:45Speaker 2: Do it big, baby, do it big. Let your people
- 13:48Speaker 2: celebrate you, because they don't. Because they're rich. They've had
- 13:53Speaker 2: all these expensive, extravagant experiences, and it's just not fair
- 13:57Speaker 2: to judge people who don't get to have that this
- 13:59Speaker 2: one day. They want to feel like the like the
- 14:02Speaker 2: rich people.
- 14:03Speaker 1: You saying that, but you are the one who has
- 14:06Speaker 1: have been sending me these people proms over done and
- 14:11Speaker 1: talking shit.
- 14:14Speaker 2: Why I feel so bad?
- 14:16Speaker 1: I talked shit to you about the jerseys being like
- 14:19Speaker 1: a big gaudy but I wouldn't say I wouldn't either
- 14:23Speaker 1: of them, like, don't do this. This is because this
- 14:25Speaker 1: is for you and you may not get to experience
- 14:28Speaker 1: this again. A lot of these you can see the
- 14:30Speaker 1: project building in the back, you know, Like.
- 14:32Speaker 2: And that is maybe problem.
- 14:34Speaker 1: They are in the projects because the parents are not
- 14:37Speaker 1: prioritizing what is actually important. You can say, like this
- 14:41Speaker 1: may be the only time they can do this. That's
- 14:43Speaker 1: not true. Those children got their whole life ahead of them,
- 14:45Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Like, why go in debt
- 14:47Speaker 1: for this one event when you already don't fucking have it?
- 14:50Speaker 1: That is the point the people who actually have the
- 14:53Speaker 1: money are doing the simplest of things. And yes they
- 14:56Speaker 1: may have had those other experiences, but this is a
- 14:58Speaker 1: high school PM. Why y'all got horses? Not the one
- 15:03Speaker 1: little girl who had the horse her and her boyfriend.
- 15:05Speaker 1: I know it was fire, that was flies, hell, dress
- 15:07Speaker 1: was regular black. Nice that was and that probably didn't
- 15:10Speaker 1: cost much just to get a horse to pull up
- 15:12Speaker 1: in some cameras. But some of that shit I'm seeing.
- 15:15Speaker 1: They gotta have a lambbo they got Come on, man.
- 15:18Speaker 2: The dance crew coming out. They'll walk you out.
- 15:21Speaker 1: I remember seeing a post guy posted asking if he
- 15:25Speaker 1: was wrong because he's co parenting with his son's mom
- 15:29Speaker 1: and the son mom is trying to go all out
- 15:31Speaker 1: for his prom. He she wants to get this, get that,
- 15:34Speaker 1: and the daddy's like, listen, I don't have all that
- 15:36Speaker 1: money to spend on prom, and I don't think it's
- 15:39Speaker 1: wise that you're doing it either. She basically call him
- 15:41Speaker 1: a broke ass nigga.
- 15:42Speaker 2: That is not cool. He's not a broke ass nigga.
- 15:46Speaker 1: If he's trying to, like really prioritiz like y'all want
- 15:50Speaker 1: to live it out for this one fucking day. What
- 15:51Speaker 1: happens next week when you're renting you and all this shit,
- 15:55Speaker 1: like what type of money.
- 15:56Speaker 2: Are you tying to put yourself out? But look, I say,
- 15:58Speaker 2: you put yourself out of your hat.
- 16:00Speaker 1: But look at the proms and the things that these
- 16:02Speaker 1: kids are having for the for this one day.
- 16:04Speaker 2: I can appreciate it because they feel very special. They
- 16:08Speaker 2: feel special on this one day. Maybe they ain't never
- 16:10Speaker 2: got to feel like that before.
- 16:12Speaker 1: It's all for social media. It's all for social media.
- 16:15Speaker 1: It's the parents doing it for social media. It's the
- 16:16Speaker 1: kids doing it for social media. Y'all doing the most
- 16:18Speaker 1: for no reasons. One prom you got college coming up hopefully,
- 16:22Speaker 1: y'all all motherfuckers is going to college?
- 16:24Speaker 2: What type of.
- 16:25Speaker 1: Money are the millennials making that they can afford this
- 16:28Speaker 1: type of shit for these kids?
- 16:29Speaker 2: Because I don't got no kids and not be broken
- 16:31Speaker 2: as hell? What is fucking happening?
- 16:35Speaker 1: If you wanted to rent a camel tomorrow, you could
- 16:37Speaker 1: rent a camel, sit your ass down.
- 16:40Speaker 2: And I wouldn't bitch.
- 16:41Speaker 1: I like furniture and shit like that, like other things
- 16:44Speaker 1: I can have for longer than a day.
- 16:46Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, I mean I get what I understand exactly
- 16:49Speaker 2: what you're saying. But I can understand why a parents
- 16:52Speaker 2: would want to do the most for their baby on
- 16:55Speaker 2: they one prom. Maybe their mama didn't even get to
- 16:58Speaker 2: go to prom.
- 16:59Speaker 1: I do like, still wouldn't I'd be exciting when my
- 17:01Speaker 1: like my youngest niece, she's ready for prom just this Saturday,
- 17:06Speaker 1: and I helped her get her dress and all that stuff,
- 17:08Speaker 1: Like that's enough excitement for me, and she's happy. Also,
- 17:11Speaker 1: like all this extra shit is fucking wild to me.
- 17:14Speaker 1: And guess what all you're doing is ready and your
- 17:17Speaker 1: damn daughter to get smashed tonight. Also, and you know
- 17:22Speaker 1: I gave her a car, all the things, she got
- 17:24Speaker 1: everything she need.
- 17:27Speaker 2: Listen, she gonna get. She gonna get smashed in a
- 17:29Speaker 2: regular dress or that fancy dress. So I just wouldn't
- 17:32Speaker 2: get a dolled up Yo.
- 17:35Speaker 1: It's just too much, man, it's just too much.
- 17:38Speaker 2: Did you have sex after your prom?
- 17:40Speaker 1: I didn't go to prom.
- 17:42Speaker 2: I don't know.
- 17:43Speaker 1: I didn't go to prom because you know, I have
- 17:46Speaker 1: a mom who doesn't see the importance of that type
- 17:48Speaker 1: of shit. She don't think like weddings are necessary, she
- 17:51Speaker 1: don't think baby showers are necessary. She didn't think prom
- 17:53Speaker 1: is necessary. She was like, if you want to go
- 17:54Speaker 1: to prom, you gotta buy your own prom dress. I
- 17:58Speaker 1: didn't hear a prom. Yeah, so what my nieces done? Like,
- 18:01Speaker 1: I make sure I show up for them and I
- 18:03Speaker 1: could see them off the prom because I never.
- 18:05Speaker 2: Went, I don't do. I regret it.
- 18:08Speaker 1: Another problem, y'all, my big fucking young ass was talking
- 18:11Speaker 1: to old ass niggas. So these niggas was not in
- 18:13Speaker 1: high school to even go to prom with me. Another
- 18:16Speaker 1: part fast I was just so.
- 18:20Speaker 2: I was like a prom whore. I went to every nigga.
- 18:24Speaker 2: I went to all the high school's proms with different niggas.
- 18:31Speaker 2: I'm talking about from freshman year up. Like I was
- 18:34Speaker 2: just prom prom prom. I loved it. That was my
- 18:38Speaker 2: favorite pastime in the spring Well, Richland Spring Valley. I'm
- 18:42Speaker 2: going to everybody's prom.
- 18:44Speaker 1: Yeah.
- 18:45Speaker 2: But I used to get the boy to buy my dress.
- 18:48Speaker 2: I've been getting tricked down since fourteen, That's what she said.
- 18:55Speaker 2: Dress because my mom she was like, I'll buy a
- 18:59Speaker 2: dress for your prom. That's it. I can't buy a
- 19:01Speaker 2: dress from every nigga prom in Columbia. So I think
- 19:06Speaker 2: one time I wore the same dress to two different proms.
- 19:11Speaker 2: You got a full mottit. Jac's Penny's finest sort, all right.
- 19:17Speaker 1: So look, this is some well all of this shit
- 19:20Speaker 1: is stupid internet news. So this post online. It actually
- 19:24Speaker 1: was on Laura le Ross's page. So this girl tweeted
- 19:28Speaker 1: and said this lady on ig posted an engagement photo
- 19:31Speaker 1: and that was the first time she had ever posted
- 19:33Speaker 1: her man. Soon as she posted that shit, the woman
- 19:37Speaker 1: her fiance had been cheating with contacted her and now
- 19:41Speaker 1: they are no longer engaged. Now I gotta been guilty
- 19:44Speaker 1: of that because I don't think when I got engaged.
- 19:47Speaker 1: I think I posted a candid picture of me and
- 19:49Speaker 1: him and you see a ring on my finger. I
- 19:51Speaker 1: never like posted like this my man and had all
- 19:53Speaker 1: the wedding slew of pictures, you know, because I had
- 19:57Speaker 1: gotten engaged this person. I remember one of my homegirls
- 19:59Speaker 1: at the time telling me, oh, my engagement was going
- 20:02Speaker 1: to be real until I post it.
- 20:04Speaker 2: I'm like, what, what hey? Girl?
- 20:07Speaker 1: That makes absolutely no fucking sense, because look, I didn't
- 20:10Speaker 1: post it. And the only way y'all know I was
- 20:11Speaker 1: engaged is because I told y'all. Now, what if I
- 20:13Speaker 1: had a slew of pictures of this relationship only to
- 20:16Speaker 1: now not be with the person. That's what happened when
- 20:19Speaker 1: you post all this shit online.
- 20:21Speaker 2: So you didn't post him at all.
- 20:23Speaker 1: I had one picture, maybe two, maybe two pictures and
- 20:27Speaker 1: that and he had to initiate that. Any relationship I've
- 20:30Speaker 1: ever been in that work that had any posting, the
- 20:32Speaker 1: man initiated it.
- 20:33Speaker 2: I don't like doing it.
- 20:34Speaker 1: I don't like people in my business, and I don't
- 20:37Speaker 1: like bitches coming to me as a woman. Once I
- 20:38Speaker 1: do post my nigga because I'm coming as a sniper
- 20:40Speaker 1: every fucking time.
- 20:43Speaker 2: Don't come to me as a woman. Please, But why
- 20:45Speaker 2: are you gonna come to her as a sniper? WF
- 20:47Speaker 2: she think that's her man too? Girl?
- 20:49Speaker 1: Women be knowing if I'm engaged to this man, that
- 20:52Speaker 1: means I'm probably I've probably spent every holiday with.
- 20:54Speaker 2: Him where you've been at.
- 20:57Speaker 1: No women be knowing, you know what?
- 21:00Speaker 2: But sometimes niggas are stealthy liars. I was talking to
- 21:04Speaker 2: this guy and I just was like so smitt with him.
- 21:07Speaker 2: I thought, Okay, this could be a husband. Right. He
- 21:10Speaker 2: was successful, he was handsome. I mean it didn't last
- 21:13Speaker 2: that long, so I probably would have found out eventually,
- 21:16Speaker 2: But I like we had got drunk one night, I
- 21:19Speaker 2: hadn't even slept with him yet, right I was holding
- 21:21Speaker 2: my vagina. Something was just telling me, like, don't rush
- 21:24Speaker 2: into intimacy in that way. Make out, do some heavy petting.
- 21:28Speaker 2: But it never did to do. And one night we
- 21:31Speaker 2: got really drunk together and I said to him, like
- 21:34Speaker 2: I got like a little emotional, and I just told
- 21:36Speaker 2: I thanked him for being a good person, Like I
- 21:38Speaker 2: feel like a lot of men come and try to
- 21:40Speaker 2: take advantage and I just really need good people in
- 21:43Speaker 2: my life, So thank you for being that baby. I
- 21:46Speaker 2: ain't hear from him after that. I didn't know he disappeared.
- 21:49Speaker 2: He disappeared, and then he came back like months later
- 21:52Speaker 2: trying to say something to me, and I was like,
- 21:56Speaker 2: you ghosted me and we were getting along so well,
- 21:59Speaker 2: like why he was like, I'm married, get married, And he.
- 22:05Speaker 1: Knew you were getting serious with him, like so.
- 22:07Speaker 2: He just yeah, And I got all emotional and really
- 22:11Speaker 2: telling him. But I let him know upfront that I
- 22:13Speaker 2: was only interested in dating for marriage, so he knew
- 22:17Speaker 2: that from the beginning, but he.
- 22:20Speaker 1: Didn't on getting that pussy first, and you just was
- 22:22Speaker 1: taking too long. This is the importance of waiting.
- 22:26Speaker 2: Right, he was gonna be regardless. Yeah, he was gonna
- 22:30Speaker 2: ghost me regardless. But I think he developed a little
- 22:33Speaker 2: bit of a conscience when I was pouring my heart
- 22:36Speaker 2: out to him and then just was like, man, I'm
- 22:38Speaker 2: just gonna go now. Shame.
- 22:41Speaker 1: So uh, is it true that you don't know somebody
- 22:45Speaker 1: until you live with them, or you don't know him
- 22:47Speaker 1: until you post him on social media?
- 22:49Speaker 2: You don't know until you post them? Baby? Is that
- 22:51Speaker 2: a whole nothing? So, yes, that's an episode to.
- 22:54Speaker 1: Be had because I don't I can't imagine and you
- 22:59Speaker 1: know anytime. That is part of the reason that might
- 23:01Speaker 1: be one of the reasons why I don't post. I
- 23:03Speaker 1: don't like people in my business. I'm a very private person.
- 23:05Speaker 1: Even though we talk a whole lot of shit on here,
- 23:07Speaker 1: you still only know what I want you to know. Okay,
- 23:10Speaker 1: So now that is a part of the reason why
- 23:12Speaker 1: I don't like posting people. I remember one time, this
- 23:15Speaker 1: current nigga. Okay, this is when we were together years ago,
- 23:19Speaker 1: a bitch came on my page and only liked a
- 23:24Speaker 1: picture of him.
- 23:27Speaker 2: Who fuck you playing with? And I'm like, who's this right?
- 23:31Speaker 2: Because you know her? Yeah? Who the fuck? Is this.
- 23:37Speaker 1: You gotta know this bitch, because why the who the
- 23:40Speaker 1: fuck comes on a bitch page that only like her?
- 23:42Speaker 2: Nigga? Listen, I went on a bitch page one time
- 23:45Speaker 2: and like all her baby show our pictures with my
- 23:48Speaker 2: ex boyfriends. You petty bitch. Congratulations, bitch, I'm praying for you.
- 23:56Speaker 2: You're probably forever for real now.
- 23:59Speaker 1: Yes, anyway, post your man when y'all feel like it.
- 24:02Speaker 1: I mean, I don't see the significance of posting relationships
- 24:06Speaker 1: social media is for me. I'd like for it to
- 24:09Speaker 1: be more of some business shit, but you know, people
- 24:12Speaker 1: want to see a life, especially when you.
- 24:14Speaker 2: Like a puppet public.
- 24:17Speaker 1: About to say puppet figure, a public figure. You said
- 24:20Speaker 1: it right, exactly, a puppet figure. Yeah. You want to
- 24:24Speaker 1: see you and what you got going on and who
- 24:27Speaker 1: you fucking with? Nah, dang your business. So I mean
- 24:31Speaker 1: she did right, yeah, because when it got serious and
- 24:33Speaker 1: then now she knows what time it is.
- 24:35Speaker 2: I don't like when people be posting all their relationship everything.
- 24:38Speaker 2: We're having ice cream today, we're doing this, or so
- 24:41Speaker 2: in love and then he just disappeared. No, bitch, you
- 24:43Speaker 2: need to tell us what happens. We've been to every
- 24:45Speaker 2: dinner we've been to every lunch. Now I don't know. No,
- 24:49Speaker 2: I'm fully investigate what happened.
- 24:51Speaker 1: But how about I can count all the bodies you
- 24:54Speaker 1: done had the last decade. You're not to every man
- 24:58Speaker 1: you've ever been with on your soci your media. I'm
- 25:01Speaker 1: carrying all your body and these the ones we know about, right,
- 25:08Speaker 1: I just.
- 25:08Speaker 2: Be I be in person with women who can switch
- 25:11Speaker 2: boyfriends like panties like and be really like claiming niggas
- 25:14Speaker 2: publicly so quickly. Who you're talking about me?
- 25:18Speaker 1: Yeah, y'all, y'all this episode is about.
- 25:23Speaker 2: Cheating respectfully.
- 25:29Speaker 1: Man, I love these naggets and niggas live me.
- 25:38Speaker 2: He was a skill y'all?
- 25:41Speaker 1: Is there such a thing as respectful cheating? So this
- 25:44Speaker 1: guy who we didn't she didn't find out about any
- 25:48Speaker 1: side bitches until she posted. Maybe, like if if there
- 25:51Speaker 1: was no inkling he was actually cheating at any point,
- 25:55Speaker 1: maybe he was doing respectfully and maybe this one person
- 25:58Speaker 1: he just couldn't keep in line enough to keep the
- 26:01Speaker 1: lie going. But I think that most women are more
- 26:05Speaker 1: disappointed in the embarrassment that they feel when other people
- 26:09Speaker 1: know that they've been cheated on. Right, So is there
- 26:12Speaker 1: such a thing as respectful cheating. Y'all stay tuned for
- 26:17Speaker 1: this week's episode. Will be right back after this commercial.
- 26:24Speaker 2: All right, guys, we're back. All right. So, Ninny Leeks
- 26:26Speaker 2: did an interview and she said that there's a such
- 26:29Speaker 2: thing as respectful cheating, and it's when a woman, the
- 26:33Speaker 2: side chick, stays fifty feet away from the main tie.
- 26:36Speaker 2: Just fifty rules. I must have missed that. Ye have
- 26:38Speaker 2: rules fifty feet. They don't take no pictures together, no
- 26:42Speaker 2: babies or anything that happens. And that was pretty much it,
- 26:47Speaker 2: Like she just stays very anonymous who says the rules.
- 26:51Speaker 2: I guess the party's involved. I guess her and not Yanni.
- 26:56Speaker 2: I mean, I don't know if that's I don't know.
- 26:58Speaker 2: They be on again, off again.
- 26:59Speaker 1: Y'all think you what that got? I mean, was he
- 27:02Speaker 1: not still married when they got together?
- 27:04Speaker 2: I do not know that part, but I wanted to
- 27:09Speaker 2: discuss that because that seems to be a thing. Now.
- 27:12Speaker 1: Is there such thing as respectful cheating? Yes, there is
- 27:16Speaker 1: such a thing as respectful cheating. I never want to
- 27:21Speaker 1: know that you cheated. If you I don't. Okay, we
- 27:24Speaker 1: talk about this shit a lot, like being in non
- 27:27Speaker 1: monogamous relationships. I don't really believe in non monogamy, but
- 27:32Speaker 1: I believe in honesty. And if you can't be fucking honest, nigga,
- 27:36Speaker 1: just do it so well that I never know. When
- 27:39Speaker 1: you start producing kids, Okay, I know all your dirt.
- 27:44Speaker 1: At that point, you just produced a whole another human being.
- 27:48Speaker 1: When a bitch is calling the phone, calling the house,
- 27:51Speaker 1: messaging me from your bed.
- 27:55Speaker 2: Is okay, man to have a side cheek. No, it's
- 27:58Speaker 2: not okay.
- 27:59Speaker 1: But I don't think that we can go through this
- 28:01Speaker 1: life without ever having access to the opposite sex. And
- 28:05Speaker 1: maybe you and your partner can set a standard like,
- 28:07Speaker 1: look when we married, but when we turn fifty, we're
- 28:11Speaker 1: gonna have some other people. Maybe it's something like that,
- 28:15Speaker 1: but and we know about it. But if you happen
- 28:19Speaker 1: to get your dick and some shit, I don't want
- 28:21Speaker 1: to know about it. I want you to do it,
- 28:23Speaker 1: so I don't want to know about that shit. Like
- 28:30Speaker 1: I don't want to know that you're playing in my face.
- 28:34Speaker 1: I don't want to know that.
- 28:35Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, ignorance is bliss, that's what you're basically saying.
- 28:38Speaker 2: But in my opinion, there's no such thing as respectful cheating,
- 28:43Speaker 2: because once you're cheating, you're disrespecting the fuck out of me.
- 28:47Speaker 2: Once you're cheating is disrespect I don't think. Because yeah,
- 28:51Speaker 2: because there's such thing where is twenty twenty four? There's
- 28:54Speaker 2: such thing as open relationships. If that's what you want,
- 28:58Speaker 2: share that with me because I can. I can open up.
- 29:01Speaker 1: I can open up with your baby already. Men can't
- 29:04Speaker 1: handle the shit they dish. They can't handle it.
- 29:06Speaker 2: This is true.
- 29:07Speaker 1: Do I want to not be with my partner because
- 29:10Speaker 1: I know he can't handle me cheating on him?
- 29:13Speaker 2: Quarterly? You want to respectfully cheat too? Is that what
- 29:16Speaker 2: you're saying? Oh? Absolutely?
- 29:19Speaker 1: So the thing is you want to respectfully do it
- 29:21Speaker 1: because if I find out I don't leave you because
- 29:24Speaker 1: of cheating, I am a big tit for tatter. Okay, so, motherfucker,
- 29:29Speaker 1: if you tip me, I'm aa tat yourt tat tat
- 29:33Speaker 1: What the fuck? Where movie is that?
- 29:36Speaker 2: I don't know you? And the movie is that? Y'all?
- 29:39Speaker 2: Tat tat tat what the fuck? I don't know? Y'all,
- 29:43Speaker 2: go in the comments, tell us what the movie that is?
- 29:45Speaker 2: I need y'all to know what if y'all's real, Because
- 29:47Speaker 2: y'all know that movie. What's the movie? I'm not telling
- 29:50Speaker 2: I want them to gage. Okay, they gonna know, or
- 29:52Speaker 2: maybe I'll tell it at the end, but I ain't
- 29:54Speaker 2: gonna tell you now.
- 29:54Speaker 1: Yeah, So yeah, don't tip me, and I want tat
- 29:57Speaker 1: If you're faithful, I'll be faithful. If I find out
- 30:01Speaker 1: you doing some ships, if you do do some shit, right,
- 30:04Speaker 1: I better never find out about it because I'm not
- 30:07Speaker 1: gonna leave you for jeating.
- 30:08Speaker 2: I'm listening. Yeah, if you paid for some puzzy, it
- 30:12Speaker 2: gotta listen. If they got pussy, they paid for it,
- 30:17Speaker 2: because listen outside outside, women.
- 30:19Speaker 1: Just be cheap, okay, is not you?
- 30:23Speaker 2: You're man for free. You're a man somebody else's man.
- 30:28Speaker 2: Those women want something and they can't have him in
- 30:31Speaker 2: a real way, so they're gonna want tangible things. It
- 30:33Speaker 2: just depends.
- 30:34Speaker 1: Because if he's a scorpio, he definitely and multiple full
- 30:39Speaker 1: fledged relationships. He is figuring out a way to juggle
- 30:43Speaker 1: his dick between multiple women.
- 30:45Speaker 2: Oh, I just that scares me so bad because I
- 30:47Speaker 2: just I just be. I have this fear, I really
- 30:51Speaker 2: have this fear, you guys, that I'm gonna end up
- 30:53Speaker 2: on snap you know, that show that come on crime TV.
- 30:56Speaker 1: No, you're not gonna end up on there.
- 30:57Speaker 2: I have no idea because you don't play with me
- 31:00Speaker 2: like that because I'm so open and like with the
- 31:04Speaker 2: ships oftentimes that you can just tell me anything. Don't
- 31:07Speaker 2: play with me because well everybody be like, yeah, we
- 31:11Speaker 2: was watching that episode and we talked back and she
- 31:14Speaker 2: said we was gonna be here evidence.
- 31:16Speaker 1: They're gonna have your ass rerun it on YouTube, just
- 31:18Speaker 1: like the young thug trout Yo, niggas, it's.
- 31:22Speaker 2: Tuning in every day to me. Just tell me the truth,
- 31:25Speaker 2: you know, because and I'm being.
- 31:27Speaker 1: There as a witness, like, man, listen, it was it break.
- 31:32Speaker 1: She ain't do it with a body because I didn't
- 31:35Speaker 1: help you hide it with a body.
- 31:39Speaker 2: Man, Y'll help you hide a body, just so y'all.
- 31:41Speaker 2: So I just don't. I don't believe in cheating, respectfully,
- 31:44Speaker 2: there's no such thing. There's just cheating and you just slick.
- 31:48Speaker 1: But what how would you feel if your mate actually
- 31:50Speaker 1: came to you and say, hey, I want to I
- 31:53Speaker 1: met this person. You know, you know I wanted that
- 31:55Speaker 1: business trip two weeks ago and I met a really
- 31:58Speaker 1: nice No, I want to say two weeks let's say
- 32:01Speaker 1: four months ago. Okay, I met a woman on a
- 32:04Speaker 1: flight four months ago. You know we have been chatting
- 32:07Speaker 1: up a little bit. You know, sometimes we have problems.
- 32:09Speaker 1: I can't every come I can't always come to the
- 32:12Speaker 1: problem with the problem. So I've been chatting it up
- 32:14Speaker 1: with her, and you know, I want to fuck her.
- 32:19Speaker 2: How would you take that? All? Right? First, I would
- 32:22Speaker 2: want to exercise the understanding that we have a problem,
- 32:26Speaker 2: but I'm not the problem. Let's attect. Let's discover what
- 32:29Speaker 2: the problem is and attact that. Don't view me as
- 32:32Speaker 2: the problem. There's an issue, right, and let's fix that.
- 32:34Speaker 2: But that's what a coincidence that you met you met
- 32:38Speaker 2: someone four months ago? Because in my DM there's this
- 32:44Speaker 2: guy let him this is just one of them. But
- 32:48Speaker 2: he's been at me for four months and I've been
- 32:49Speaker 2: ignoring him. But he looks great. So if that's what
- 32:53Speaker 2: something you want to explore, we can do that. But
- 32:56Speaker 2: if you're not okay with me exploring, please don't try to.
- 32:59Speaker 1: You know, Nigga gonna beat you up, Christopher Columbus baby,
- 33:05Speaker 1: because that will be the Nina, the Santa, every and
- 33:08Speaker 1: every other boat there is. So they can't take it,
- 33:13Speaker 1: but I I if it happens, if one night. You know,
- 33:18Speaker 1: this is why I'm a firm believer in Like, you know,
- 33:20Speaker 1: when you you cohabitate with somebody, maybe y'all are married,
- 33:24Speaker 1: living in the same space, don't ever put your nigga out.
- 33:27Speaker 1: There are so many quality women like you literally sending
- 33:31Speaker 1: your man to somebody else's house when you be like,
- 33:34Speaker 1: get out for us. You know, the pigas is very slim,
- 33:39Speaker 1: so it's always a bitch and the cut somewhere right?
- 33:41Speaker 2: What was that Beyonce song? Exactly let you Go? Exactly?
- 33:47Speaker 1: That's if I help you build some ship.
- 33:49Speaker 2: Like what if he's a good dude, Yeah, if he's
- 33:51Speaker 2: a good dude. All right, So what was that movie?
- 33:53Speaker 2: I don't know if y'all saw that movie. It was
- 33:56Speaker 2: with Channon Tatum and the white girl I can't remember.
- 34:00Speaker 2: She real pretty and they were in a car accident
- 34:02Speaker 2: in the snow. They were married, and she lost her
- 34:05Speaker 2: whole memory and she could not remember her husband. And
- 34:10Speaker 2: she eventually remembered that her father had sex with her
- 34:13Speaker 2: homegirl and that's why she ran away. And then she
- 34:16Speaker 2: came back to her mom. Yeah, and she was like, Mom,
- 34:21Speaker 2: how did you not leave him. Why wouldn't you leave him?
- 34:23Speaker 2: Like that's so weak of you not to leave him
- 34:26Speaker 2: for that. And she was like, I analyzed over the
- 34:29Speaker 2: last thirty years, and I realized how much good he
- 34:34Speaker 2: had done, and I couldn't let the one bad mistake
- 34:37Speaker 2: he made outweigh all the good things he had done
- 34:41Speaker 2: throughout our life. And that's why I chose to stay.
- 34:44Speaker 2: And that shit was like so profound for me. I
- 34:47Speaker 2: was like, wait, because a lot of women leave for
- 34:49Speaker 2: that one infraction even though a nigga done provided them.
- 34:52Speaker 2: I mean a man. I gotta stop saying a nigga,
- 34:55Speaker 2: a man has provided them such a good lifestyle and
- 34:58Speaker 2: all these things, and he makes it it's one infraction
- 35:00Speaker 2: and then they leave. But sometimes that's people's deal breakers.
- 35:04Speaker 1: Yeah, Like I have one of my cousins, I mean,
- 35:07Speaker 1: her baby daddy cheated on her one time girl and
- 35:10Speaker 1: she literally had a whole apartment the next week and
- 35:12Speaker 1: never looked back. She married so a whole other man.
- 35:15Speaker 2: Now is she happier? I mean, I don't know.
- 35:20Speaker 1: I just remembered when she first met her baby daddy
- 35:23Speaker 1: and how she was talking about I remember I was
- 35:25Speaker 1: in town and Charleston this was years ago.
- 35:28Speaker 2: How she was like talking about him.
- 35:30Speaker 1: She was like, girl, that's my husband, this and that
- 35:31Speaker 1: and third like they didn't get married, but they did
- 35:34Speaker 1: produce a very beautiful young lady and she's about to
- 35:36Speaker 1: graduate from high school now. But one thing, she got
- 35:40Speaker 1: the fuck up out of there, and he had to
- 35:43Speaker 1: me he hasn't recovered.
- 35:45Speaker 2: Well that worked. They didn't always work.
- 35:47Speaker 1: Miserable if you ask me, yeah, well, I feel like
- 35:51Speaker 1: men only learn from hurt, right, So if you actually
- 35:54Speaker 1: want a man to course correct some shit, you gotta leave.
- 35:58Speaker 2: You gotta leave, you know what I'm saying.
- 35:59Speaker 1: And then maybe he'll get it together and come back,
- 36:02Speaker 1: or maybe he'll learn from the situation with you, and
- 36:05Speaker 1: then he'll go on and treat the next woman.
- 36:08Speaker 2: But the next woman better. He okay, was.
- 36:10Speaker 1: Giving a woman a refurbished man. It's okay, Ladies like,
- 36:13Speaker 1: don't It's like you're not building somebody else.
- 36:15Speaker 2: It's so infuriating to see the nigga that the man
- 36:20Speaker 2: that you wanted to treat you.
- 36:22Speaker 1: Right, Okay, Drake was better, I said, Okay, Drake, Drake, Drake,
- 36:28Speaker 1: you bad from saying niggas alone. Summons Israel on a
- 36:36Speaker 1: on uh now seeing he like, nah, I get it.
- 36:40Speaker 1: I'm in a rap battle. New bitches is talking about cheating.
- 36:43Speaker 1: I ain't cheating on nobody, committing to nobody. Y'all tell
- 36:47Speaker 1: me love fucking Drake. Okay, I told Tammy earlier, I said, Drake.
- 36:51Speaker 2: Is not Listen, you are not Drake type. Come about Drake.
- 36:53Speaker 2: He's funny to me. I mean we're getting off topic.
- 36:58Speaker 2: I mean drinking along anyway. So all right, So I
- 37:02Speaker 2: looked up an article. You guys, we love a good article.
- 37:06Speaker 2: I love a good article.
- 37:07Speaker 1: It's so fucked up from the solar eclips.
- 37:09Speaker 2: Because she's like, I'm Jesus said, I'm magical, and I
- 37:14Speaker 2: can look at the sun.
- 37:15Speaker 1: You couldn't see sis, but hold on, the only thing
- 37:18Speaker 1: I can't see is technology.
- 37:20Speaker 2: I was like, it's my last on. She's like, I
- 37:21Speaker 2: don't know, bitch, I can't even see you. I got
- 37:23Speaker 2: a small.
- 37:26Speaker 1: If you can't put three fingers on that foet between
- 37:28Speaker 1: that forehead and the.
- 37:29Speaker 2: Mind, brother, that's brought down low. I got four head,
- 37:34Speaker 2: all right. So I found an article on signs that
- 37:37Speaker 2: your man is cheating. So if y'all think he is cheating, respectfully,
- 37:41Speaker 2: here goes some signs, all right, So he has different
- 37:47Speaker 2: levels of sexual interaction. So if your man used to
- 37:52Speaker 2: wanna sleep with you all the time, and all of
- 37:54Speaker 2: a sudden he's like, I'm tired, that's because his balls
- 37:57Speaker 2: is empty. If he make him money, he's tired.
- 38:02Speaker 1: If your nigga is playing that he was from all
- 38:06Speaker 1: night and now he come home talk about am Dar
- 38:08Speaker 1: and me playing two K every day and saying his way,
- 38:11Speaker 1: he tired, that's a problem. Two K like the basketball, right,
- 38:15Speaker 1: that's my game. Like if he playing mothers still playing
- 38:18Speaker 1: that ship? I thought they was playing, Like I have
- 38:20Speaker 1: one in my house right now on a motherfucker chest.
- 38:24Speaker 2: I don't want it on.
- 38:25Speaker 1: I'd be worthy of the damn four arms swipe that ship. Yeah,
- 38:29Speaker 1: but he still want to fuck you though, absolutely? Okay,
- 38:33Speaker 1: too much sex, please, somebody tell.
- 38:35Speaker 2: Me me with it.
- 38:37Speaker 1: I it's not moving, No, But that's what I'm saying.
- 38:39Speaker 1: If he is like at home, he's not that busy,
- 38:44Speaker 1: and he also is not having sex with you, there's a.
- 38:47Speaker 2: Chance that he's cheating.
- 38:49Speaker 1: Right, Okay, But if it's a man making money, I'd
- 38:52Speaker 1: rather a busy man than anything.
- 38:54Speaker 2: I want my man to be busy.
- 38:56Speaker 1: I want him to have a lot of shit going
- 38:58Speaker 1: on trying to get me a million dollars.
- 39:00Speaker 2: Absolutely. Absolutely. If we ain't having sex, I'm cool. But
- 39:04Speaker 2: if he turned you down for sex all the time,
- 39:06Speaker 2: that's the problem. Either you done got too fat and.
- 39:08Speaker 1: He think you Some niggas like that. Bitches like why
- 39:11Speaker 1: I said too fat?
- 39:14Speaker 2: Too bad? Whatever he likes you ain't that. No, I'm
- 39:17Speaker 2: smiling at your baby mama, and nigga, I'm winning. What
- 39:19Speaker 2: are you talking about? I'm skinny or to something that
- 39:22Speaker 2: he don't like. He's not physically attracted to you anymore.
- 39:25Speaker 1: That's a whole nother episode because I can't really be
- 39:27Speaker 1: feeling some type of way. I seen a court TV
- 39:30Speaker 1: video one time and the guy was saying how she
- 39:33Speaker 1: doesn't look like who he married. I mean, men are
- 39:37Speaker 1: I won't say men are super visual, but I know
- 39:38Speaker 1: men are predators aside a tide from being very visual,
- 39:42Speaker 1: so it's fair.
- 39:45Speaker 2: Like they look the same though. That's the crazy part.
- 39:48Speaker 1: Like your moms were sitting up here now they're down here,
- 39:51Speaker 1: and nigga, you are hips now, why are you talking shit?
- 39:53Speaker 2: Yeah, don't do me like that wall you were changing together.
- 39:56Speaker 1: You had to hear when I met you and now
- 39:58Speaker 1: you don't so, but I actually to get no, man,
- 40:01Speaker 1: we I actually go to Turkey, right. I've been looking
- 40:05Speaker 1: on the boss spots, loving them, and you got the
- 40:07Speaker 1: nerve to say something about this role the fuck. Luckily,
- 40:11Speaker 1: my nigga loves rolls. Lick this roll bo rolls.
- 40:16Speaker 2: Okay, this one is inconsistent explanations. Lyne is much harder
- 40:22Speaker 2: than many people understand, especially constant line to a committed partner.
- 40:26Speaker 2: While liars would do their best to repeat the same
- 40:28Speaker 2: story each time they lie, they usually start to give
- 40:31Speaker 2: inconsistent information when they when they're understressed, or if they're
- 40:34Speaker 2: asked the same question in the way they're not used to.
- 40:38Speaker 2: So a nigga started lying a man A man gets
- 40:41Speaker 2: the lion, Like I was.
- 40:43Speaker 1: Working later than late and they had the boss man.
- 40:47Speaker 1: That shit was crazy today they had like it was
- 40:51Speaker 1: like the fact went out in the building and then
- 40:55Speaker 1: they had to put on the half masks who and
- 40:57Speaker 1: then I came down there and it was like, it's
- 41:00Speaker 1: those fucking lies on the Clarence Rock somewhere because I'm
- 41:03Speaker 1: not buying them, right, It's all kind of crazy shit.
- 41:06Speaker 2: Now, don't be offering me no lies?
- 41:07Speaker 1: Am I ask you no questions, don't lie, and I
- 41:09Speaker 1: really don't ask questions. And I probably enable people to
- 41:13Speaker 1: cheat because I do like to let people do what
- 41:15Speaker 1: the fuck they want to do, so I can see
- 41:16Speaker 1: what you rather do. I know I've said that a
- 41:18Speaker 1: million times, but I mean it like I really just
- 41:21Speaker 1: let people live. I don't be on a nigga neck
- 41:24Speaker 1: and none of that shit and no whulch. You start
- 41:26Speaker 1: feeling different because we know when you're cheating, Okay. Our
- 41:29Speaker 1: bodies tell us when something isn't right. Yes, so if
- 41:33Speaker 1: I feel some way, if I smell some way, I'm
- 41:37Speaker 1: cutting your head off.
- 41:38Speaker 2: But sometimes men be telling the truth, but it sound
- 41:41Speaker 2: like a lie. You know, give me some time, it'll
- 41:44Speaker 2: be like a lie might sound better than the truth
- 41:46Speaker 2: because the truth sound like a lie. Like did you
- 41:49Speaker 2: ever see that video where the man was pulled over
- 41:51Speaker 2: by the police and he was like, man, talk to
- 41:52Speaker 2: my girl. Man, just talk to my girl, because I
- 41:55Speaker 2: ain't got time for that shit. When I get home,
- 41:57Speaker 2: he put the police on facetide with his girl because
- 42:00Speaker 2: he's like, look, I'm with the police, man, I can't
- 42:02Speaker 2: believe nothing.
- 42:03Speaker 1: No, you better be with the police are dead. If
- 42:06Speaker 1: it's a case where you didn't come home. Yeah, I
- 42:08Speaker 1: don't understand how women literally be living with men who
- 42:11Speaker 1: don't come home, that.
- 42:14Speaker 2: Don't come home. Just said the sun beat them home.
- 42:17Speaker 1: Like he was at your house and didn't go home.
- 42:19Speaker 2: He don't let the sun beat you home. That's your girl.
- 42:22Speaker 1: You don't go home, right, and you just take into
- 42:25Speaker 1: that to me, I'm not gonna be home when he
- 42:27Speaker 1: gets there. That's how I do it. Yeah, you wanna
- 42:30Speaker 1: do that type of shit. You gonna be like it's
- 42:32Speaker 1: six o'clock in the morning. Oh, because then that make
- 42:34Speaker 1: you just as bad, and then you.
- 42:37Speaker 2: Don't have a leg to stand on.
- 42:38Speaker 1: I don't.
- 42:39Speaker 2: I don't go high. I don't go high.
- 42:41Speaker 1: I go to hell every time.
- 42:43Speaker 2: I'm just sitting in there dark with gospel music playing,
- 42:45Speaker 2: scared of the nigga.
- 42:46Speaker 1: Like he gonna come in the house, like, oh shit,
- 42:50Speaker 1: hes a kya walker blasted to hide decibels in there,
- 42:56Speaker 1: and he just and I'm sitting in the dark. No,
- 42:59Speaker 1: I ain't gonna be there. I may not be at
- 43:00Speaker 1: another man's house because I do feel like when you cheat,
- 43:03Speaker 1: if you are a woman and you want to get
- 43:06Speaker 1: back I don't feel like giving your pussy to another
- 43:08Speaker 1: man is get back leaving, and leveling up is get
- 43:12Speaker 1: back leaving. And the fucking with a millionaire is get back.
- 43:16Speaker 1: That's the only way men feel the type of way.
- 43:18Speaker 2: Yeah, but get back.
- 43:20Speaker 1: Letting somebody else borri your kouchi is not.
- 43:22Speaker 2: Get back with millionaires. Like it's not just like I said, millionaire.
- 43:27Speaker 1: Maybe that may be extreme. Just fucking with somebody better
- 43:31Speaker 1: than the man you're with. Let's just say that you
- 43:33Speaker 1: ain't even.
- 43:33Speaker 2: Gotta be better. All he gotta do is be like
- 43:35Speaker 2: three inches taller than your nigga, and he like.
- 43:37Speaker 1: Oh hurt, mom, I kill everybody.
- 43:44Speaker 2: He ain't gotta have no money. He just gotta be
- 43:46Speaker 2: three inches taller. I swear to God, that's all I
- 43:48Speaker 2: gotta be. His dick is bigger.
- 43:51Speaker 1: They ready to kill everybody, nigga knocking everything over in
- 43:54Speaker 1: the house.
- 43:57Speaker 2: Sorry. The next one is inconsistent expense. Oh yeah yeah,
- 44:02Speaker 2: hotel ship girl, I was. And spending habits can be
- 44:06Speaker 2: a sign that there might be something else going on
- 44:09Speaker 2: with your partner. A big red flat, for example, is
- 44:11Speaker 2: unexplained large cash withdrawals. Hmm, So can I say, like cousin.
- 44:18Speaker 2: I sorry, cousin. Okay. So one of my one of
- 44:22Speaker 2: my close friends.
- 44:23Speaker 1: Which is also my first cousin, she was talking to
- 44:25Speaker 1: this guy recently and he he flew her out, but
- 44:29Speaker 1: he wouldn't order food the polices they would go, so
- 44:33Speaker 1: you would just she would just.
- 44:34Speaker 2: Have one meal exactly before I came, order for yourself.
- 44:45Speaker 1: One meal because somebody else looking at the big.
- 44:47Speaker 2: Statements that slick.
- 44:51Speaker 1: That's not slick. It's obvious to the woman you're with,
- 44:54Speaker 1: and right now in this moment, it's one. It was
- 44:57Speaker 1: obvious to her, was what I'm saying. Not obvious to
- 45:00Speaker 1: the woman that's looking at the bank statements. It's obvious
- 45:03Speaker 1: to the woman that you're with.
- 45:05Speaker 2: Your Oh he was sitting with. He was with someone
- 45:08Speaker 2: he wasn't honest about.
- 45:10Speaker 1: Yes, So she came to the conclusion that she was like, man,
- 45:12Speaker 1: I think that Nigga married. When she got back home,
- 45:14Speaker 1: she was like, I think he's married, and I'm like, girl,
- 45:16Speaker 1: he probably is, because at what point do you go
- 45:19Speaker 1: visit somebody and they're not eating.
- 45:20Speaker 2: Y'all go out to eat right, let me taste that
- 45:23Speaker 2: it looks good.
- 45:26Speaker 1: No, just order something, get your own beggar boy, like
- 45:30Speaker 1: the fuck, let me taste that state.
- 45:35Speaker 2: Yeah, we got COVID in the building. You order a down,
- 45:41Speaker 2: She's like no, making a twelve bounce yo.
- 45:48Speaker 1: I would embarrass the dude, like what are you doing?
- 45:50Speaker 1: I would have asked him. I don't like to speculate.
- 45:52Speaker 1: I don't like to assume shit. I asked too many
- 45:57Speaker 1: questions for nigga to lie, Like, just tell me what
- 45:59Speaker 1: it is and let me decide whether or not I
- 46:01Speaker 1: want to deal with it, you know, because once I
- 46:04Speaker 1: know who you are, I can deal with it. But
- 46:06Speaker 1: don't just be lying in my face and not eating,
- 46:08Speaker 1: Like why eat?
- 46:09Speaker 2: Hungry as hell? Y?
- 46:12Speaker 1: Yo?
- 46:15Speaker 2: No, that's why here's a good one. False accusations of cheating.
- 46:18Speaker 2: Have you ever had someone like, oh, you just on
- 46:21Speaker 2: you about doing shit so hard? It's like, what are
- 46:23Speaker 2: you doing? Because why you keep being on me so heavy?
- 46:26Speaker 2: And I ain't even doing nothing.
- 46:27Speaker 1: You know, I've been in every single relationship I've been in,
- 46:30Speaker 1: I've always felt like, damn, am I doing something to
- 46:33Speaker 1: make men feel insecure? But I've never been with a
- 46:37Speaker 1: man who didn't cheat on me. So the whole time,
- 46:39Speaker 1: you accusing me of some shit because you out here
- 46:42Speaker 1: doing the fucking most. So you just can't fathom in
- 46:44Speaker 1: your mind why I wouldn't be.
- 46:47Speaker 2: I leave instead. I swear one time we was in
- 46:50Speaker 2: the drive through at bow Jangles. I'm not lying, and
- 46:53Speaker 2: I was like, thank you. He's like, what the fuck?
- 46:56Speaker 2: You smiling in a nigga faith so hard? You're always
- 47:00Speaker 2: smiling in a nigga face. I was like, I was
- 47:03Speaker 2: just being polite. He was passing the food through the window,
- 47:06Speaker 2: Like that's that's a problem. You're doing too much. You
- 47:08Speaker 2: do too fucking much like calming and smiling down. I
- 47:11Speaker 2: was like, this nigga is cheating on meigg That's all
- 47:14Speaker 2: I heard. I can't smile out all I heard window,
- 47:18Speaker 2: That's all I heard. Yeah, damn.
- 47:20Speaker 1: Like I've said this before, like how my ex like
- 47:22Speaker 1: I would call people babe, and it's no, that's a
- 47:25Speaker 1: problem because you're a boy. That's when I called baby.
- 47:29Speaker 1: I really get that from my mom, Like I'm calling
- 47:31Speaker 1: grown people babe. I'm calling kids babe. When I get
- 47:34Speaker 1: like if I'm at the grocery store in line, I'm like,
- 47:36Speaker 1: think you babe, go on by my business. This nigga
- 47:39Speaker 1: started doing it like intentionally though, like if you don't
- 47:42Speaker 1: use that word, like why are we out at a
- 47:44Speaker 1: restaurant and you like telling the waitress thank you, babe, bitch,
- 47:47Speaker 1: I'll smack across the.
- 47:49Speaker 2: Under the don't call that bitch babe. That's not your babe.
- 47:55Speaker 2: Don't do that. I don't play that.
- 47:57Speaker 1: So yeah, I definitely have been accused of cheating, and
- 48:00Speaker 1: I've never cheated.
- 48:01Speaker 2: Black women don't cheat never. I have never kid. You
- 48:06Speaker 2: share a story where you knew you were being cheated on,
- 48:12Speaker 2: I as the fucking well, like, what happened? What happened? Girl?
- 48:16Speaker 2: What happened?
- 48:16Speaker 1: I always know I'm being cheating on, cheated on. I
- 48:19Speaker 1: just be wanting the person to be honest. You know
- 48:23Speaker 1: what I'm saying, Like, I remember it so my last relationship,
- 48:29Speaker 1: I was like, you know what, I'm talking with you
- 48:30Speaker 1: no more. I literally it was like a Wednesday. I
- 48:33Speaker 1: think it was Wednesday. My memory is pretty good. It's
- 48:35Speaker 1: like an elephant and the nigga wasn't answering the phone.
- 48:39Speaker 1: Some calling, calling, calling back to back to back to back.
- 48:42Speaker 1: That's not love, y'all. If you got to call somebody
- 48:44Speaker 1: more than one time, that's not like because you're in
- 48:45Speaker 1: love with them, it's actually a form of being possessive
- 48:49Speaker 1: because they saw you call the first time. Some calling, calling, calling, calling, calling, calling,
- 48:53Speaker 1: He's not answering the phone. Okay, I go to sleep.
- 48:55Speaker 1: I couldn't sleep though, so the next morning I woke
- 48:58Speaker 1: up and I went on my little date walk and
- 49:00Speaker 1: he called my phone. I was like, listen, I ain't
- 49:02Speaker 1: fucking with you no more, like this shit over it.
- 49:05Speaker 1: I don't like feeling like that because as a woman,
- 49:07Speaker 1: you have this innate feeling. This this your intuition is
- 49:11Speaker 1: never wrong. And I think men have intuition too, because
- 49:14Speaker 1: I swear to God the times I've been fucking off
- 49:16Speaker 1: a nigga call your phone, like, goddamn, nigga, you smell
- 49:19Speaker 1: me on another nigga did like, what's happening?
- 49:24Speaker 2: God, I should know.
- 49:25Speaker 1: I shouldn't fuck you wrong, because I feel like you
- 49:27Speaker 1: start getting like some type of connection with somebody. Yeah,
- 49:31Speaker 1: so they kind of know all of a sudden as
- 49:33Speaker 1: soon as you get to where you go on a
- 49:34Speaker 1: nigga calling the phone, Now you got to act like
- 49:36Speaker 1: you in bed when you're in your car. I don't
- 49:38Speaker 1: know what you're talking about. I've never been there, So
- 49:42Speaker 1: I'm like I'm not fucking with you no more. That
- 49:45Speaker 1: was like a Wednesday, and I feel like maybe it
- 49:48Speaker 1: was like the following Monday. I'm on the phone with him.
- 49:52Speaker 1: He's in waffle house ordering food, right, and I'm like
- 49:55Speaker 1: on the phone with him, and also simultaneously like scrolling
- 49:58Speaker 1: through Instagram, and I saw some they sent me a
- 50:00Speaker 1: request message. So I clicked the request message.
- 50:03Speaker 2: It's a bitch.
- 50:05Speaker 1: It's a bitch done sent me a video from my
- 50:09Speaker 1: Nigga's bed from that Wednesday where you weren't answering the phone.
- 50:15Speaker 1: So now I get to see you not answer your phone.
- 50:18Speaker 1: And she's behind the camera and she's like so and
- 50:22Speaker 1: so turn the light off. I gotta go to work tomorrow.
- 50:24Speaker 1: And I'm watching him like leaning on the on the headboard,
- 50:28Speaker 1: like scrolling through the phone. So and it would would
- 50:30Speaker 1: have synced up with the time that I was calling him.
- 50:33Speaker 1: So now I get to see you now.
- 50:35Speaker 2: Girl.
- 50:35Speaker 1: When i I'm like this is calling, I was like, oh,
- 50:38Speaker 1: your bitch messaged me. Well that Nigga couldn't even order
- 50:41Speaker 1: this food no more. This bore.
- 50:42Speaker 2: He started trembling.
- 50:44Speaker 1: Oh now you're not You're nervous, stand on business, bitch
- 50:46Speaker 1: now you're not hungry, order your pekan waffle, your light
- 50:50Speaker 1: skinned pek and waffle Nigga, and your goddamn grand slam.
- 50:54Speaker 2: But did you stay with him? I did.
- 51:01Speaker 1: That's my dumb bitch story for this episode. I definitely
- 51:03Speaker 1: stayed with his ass for at least two more years.
- 51:06Speaker 2: It's so dumb. You are really dumb for real?
- 51:09Speaker 1: Okay, even got engaged in all the bullshit. Yeah, my buddy,
- 51:13Speaker 1: the addol sub meta fingers to my old life.
- 51:15Speaker 2: But probably, and it was a lot of others.
- 51:17Speaker 1: It wasn't even together, like yet, what's the girl, Realista,
- 51:21Speaker 1: don't got ship on the stories I have from that
- 51:25Speaker 1: one relationship.
- 51:25Speaker 2: I got others, but from that one, do not compare
- 51:28Speaker 2: yourself to recent because I was like, now, girl, I
- 51:34Speaker 2: was layd in the red rubbing my feet together like
- 51:36Speaker 2: sus now, God damn maw, come on now.
- 51:38Speaker 1: Some of that shit was like a right outlandish lies outlandish. Yeah,
- 51:45Speaker 1: I ain't never had nobody lied to me like that.
- 51:46Speaker 2: When I was getting cheated on, somebody else had to
- 51:48Speaker 2: tell me I was in Lola Land, Like why, Nigga,
- 51:50Speaker 2: that's my man, Miami and Miami. Can't nobody tell me
- 51:54Speaker 2: shit about my man, and my friend was like, your
- 51:57Speaker 2: man cheating on you. I'm like, no, what makes you
- 52:02Speaker 2: something like that? You're jealous?
- 52:06Speaker 1: See, that's why I don't tell a bitch of shit
- 52:08Speaker 1: like you have to find on your own man.
- 52:11Speaker 2: Because we're so happy, bitch, I flew out because we
- 52:13Speaker 2: were in a long distance relationship. We was doing like
- 52:16Speaker 2: little weird shit. I was like, it's the time zones.
- 52:20Speaker 2: He's just so far away. He's in California. I'm in
- 52:22Speaker 2: South Carolina. It's the time zones. That's why he's sometimes unavailable.
- 52:26Speaker 2: It's not meanwhile, you know.
- 52:28Speaker 1: Hold.
- 52:28Speaker 2: But then she told me he was cheating on me.
- 52:30Speaker 2: So then I was like, no, he's not. But then
- 52:32Speaker 2: I bought a plane ticket to fly out there, right,
- 52:35Speaker 2: and I came in being like a South Carolina stuff
- 52:38Speaker 2: for white. Oh, let me as soon as I get here,
- 52:39Speaker 2: I'm gonna clean your whole house. That was me, right.
- 52:42Speaker 2: I was in his closet, soaring through his dirty fucking
- 52:46Speaker 2: clothes to wash him, and there was a hole. All right.
- 52:49Speaker 2: That's how y'all gonna know how long ago this was.
- 52:52Speaker 2: It was a photo album that a bitch made for
- 52:55Speaker 2: him of a trip where they went on the wine train.
- 53:01Speaker 2: He was shet and cheating. They went on a wine train, bitch,
- 53:04Speaker 2: and she took all kind of pictures and put it
- 53:06Speaker 2: in a photo album. Let me tell you what I did,
- 53:12Speaker 2: because man, like I was young and I was broken,
- 53:14Speaker 2: he was taking so such good care of me. I
- 53:17Speaker 2: ripped the ship up and put it back in the backroom.
- 53:19Speaker 1: I've done that to somebody.
- 53:22Speaker 2: I ripped it up and put it back in the
- 53:24Speaker 2: back I ripped all the pictures, closed them up in
- 53:26Speaker 2: there and put it back like you know how to
- 53:27Speaker 2: they have sleeves. I ripped the picture and put it
- 53:29Speaker 2: back in the sleeve, rip it and put it and
- 53:31Speaker 2: then I didn't say a word. Enjoyed my weekend, went
- 53:33Speaker 2: home with him and went home.
- 53:36Speaker 1: Did he ever say anything about the pictures? Yeah?
- 53:39Speaker 2: Like the next week, what is it like? That was
- 53:42Speaker 2: my co worker And that was a work trip and
- 53:44Speaker 2: we was had a morale trip. Not a morale trip,
- 53:49Speaker 2: mos nuts, yo.
- 53:55Speaker 1: Boy, men won't really try your pictures. It was morown
- 53:59Speaker 1: because we were like we need is a team building,
- 54:02Speaker 1: team building trip? Yo?
- 54:05Speaker 2: You in just one based Napa Valley had a team
- 54:08Speaker 2: building trip. Okay, you think I'm fucking stupid? That'd be
- 54:12Speaker 2: the thing.
- 54:13Speaker 1: Man.
- 54:13Speaker 2: Look, don't tell me no fucking lies. I really don't.
- 54:16Speaker 1: I don't mind lies. I don't mind liars. I be
- 54:19Speaker 1: mad when a motherfucking think got the leader lie. That's
- 54:22Speaker 1: what gets a minor.
- 54:23Speaker 2: No, I don't lie to me. Just tell me believable liar.
- 54:28Speaker 1: But if you're telling traceable lies, I'm like, why, nigga,
- 54:32Speaker 1: why why are you telling traceable lies?
- 54:35Speaker 2: I'm confused. And I stayed with that man for so long.
- 54:38Speaker 2: I mean, he just cheating the last straw, the final straw.
- 54:42Speaker 2: So he left California, came to Atlanta. Bottom house. We're
- 54:46Speaker 2: young too, this is we're in our twenties. I moved
- 54:50Speaker 2: to Atlanta, I got my own place. I did not
- 54:51Speaker 2: move in with him, and I came to spend the
- 54:54Speaker 2: night with him, but to cry, no, girl, this girl, girl.
- 55:01Speaker 1: No.
- 55:02Speaker 2: I still be hurt, girl, I still be trying to
- 55:04Speaker 2: care about him. My damn. He released me, and I
- 55:07Speaker 2: had lived a good life. I think if I would
- 55:08Speaker 2: have just stayed out, just been like just very country
- 55:12Speaker 2: and not knowing nothing and never experienced nothing. So he
- 55:15Speaker 2: did me a favor by doing all that. It was
- 55:17Speaker 2: a condom in the bed That's when I was like, Okay,
- 55:21Speaker 2: this man don't respect me at all. I have to go.
- 55:26Speaker 2: And the bed was made up all nice and neat.
- 55:30Speaker 2: The bed was made up so nice and neat. I
- 55:32Speaker 2: got into bed and felt so like, it's a slug
- 55:35Speaker 2: on my left. It's a slug in the bed, a
- 55:39Speaker 2: whole condom on my left.
- 55:40Speaker 1: Girl, I've literally been in a man's bed and felt
- 55:43Speaker 1: some shit wrap around my toes.
- 55:45Speaker 2: You know, you just wrap it, you wrap it unneath,
- 55:47Speaker 2: and then you put your foot up. A whole thumb,
- 55:51Speaker 2: a whole fuck it. You ain't washed these sheets. Yeah
- 55:54Speaker 2: you got me, you made the bed up, but you
- 55:56Speaker 2: had someone else in the bed. You ain't washed these sheets.
- 55:59Speaker 1: You felthy animal.
- 56:01Speaker 2: Animal. He used to lie so bad. I know, he
- 56:03Speaker 2: just got tied a lion. It was like in the
- 56:06Speaker 2: other bedroom, it was like some girl women's clothes in
- 56:08Speaker 2: a drawer. It's nothing. It ain't even no furniture.
- 56:11Speaker 1: Oh, that's his girlfriend. You leaving shit at a man's house,
- 56:13Speaker 1: that's your man.
- 56:14Speaker 2: That's when it's closed in the drawer. I was like,
- 56:16Speaker 2: who's closing this? Oh? My homeboys girlfriend came over there.
- 56:20Speaker 2: They stayed in the bathroom and then I was like,
- 56:22Speaker 2: it's no bed in that room. They stayed back at yo.
- 56:24Speaker 2: They just lay back there.
- 56:30Speaker 1: Yo.
- 56:30Speaker 2: I hate niggas, dog not men, niggas so bad goodness.
- 56:35Speaker 2: So I had to get out of that. But I
- 56:37Speaker 2: think that's the only time I've only had two boyfriends
- 56:40Speaker 2: in my life. Everybody else I ain't claimed these niggas
- 56:45Speaker 2: since these men, no, I think they are all long term,
- 56:51Speaker 2: like long relationship.
- 56:52Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel and then I double back like I
- 56:54Speaker 1: be with the same mouff fucking people. So I feel
- 56:56Speaker 1: like I might have only had like four relationships. Yeah,
- 57:00Speaker 1: And everybody else in between was just.
- 57:02Speaker 2: That's not my man, that's not your nigga, your man,
- 57:11Speaker 2: all right. I guess we told our dumbish stories. You
- 57:14Speaker 2: don't have to share one, and we don't have to
- 57:17Speaker 2: get no call up. Have you ever cheated? What clutches pearls?
- 57:21Speaker 2: I am a patron saint, alright, So one time I'm
- 57:28Speaker 2: gonna tell you all the truth. Cause that nigga, I
- 57:30Speaker 2: don't know where he married somewhere. We weren't together technically,
- 57:35Speaker 2: we were still living in the same house, but I
- 57:39Speaker 2: was moving out. The plan was for me to move
- 57:41Speaker 2: out in a couple months, right, So we weren't together.
- 57:45Speaker 2: He went away and there was I went to this bar.
- 57:50Speaker 2: I had like a one night stand with a guy,
- 57:54Speaker 2: and like we had we were already broken up. We
- 57:57Speaker 2: hadn't been sleeping together for a while, and it was
- 58:00Speaker 2: just like dead in the water. We was just in
- 58:02Speaker 2: the same house until we separated, because I mean, it's
- 58:05Speaker 2: not like you break up and you can just move
- 58:07Speaker 2: away like that. You got to separate everything, you know,
- 58:09Speaker 2: got to move Yeah, it's a process.
- 58:12Speaker 1: Look, I'm still going through a process, and I'm in
- 58:14Speaker 1: a whole nother relationship and still going through a process
- 58:17Speaker 1: right now.
- 58:17Speaker 2: Right, So he went on a guy's trip to fucking
- 58:23Speaker 2: where they go to fuck girls from the Midic Republic
- 58:25Speaker 2: somewhere like that. So I knew what he was on.
- 58:29Speaker 2: This fine ass Middle Eastern guy, right, and he had
- 58:33Speaker 2: that sharp cut in his area, you know how they
- 58:34Speaker 2: be putting that sharp parting. He was like all suave
- 58:38Speaker 2: and he was like so fine, and we like vibe
- 58:41Speaker 2: so hard. We got junk together in the bar and
- 58:44Speaker 2: then we like went to his house and we were
- 58:45Speaker 2: like kissing off passionately, and it was just like knocking
- 58:48Speaker 2: ship off the walls. Oh my god, y'all, this man
- 58:53Speaker 2: fucked me. It was so bad, so fast.
- 59:00Speaker 1: I was like, oh, I swear to god. I drove
- 59:04Speaker 1: home crying, Yah, immediately remorse and like when I laughed,
- 59:14Speaker 1: I was like call me. He was like, I don't
- 59:15Speaker 1: have your number.
- 59:16Speaker 2: I was like, shut the door, bye bye. God. I
- 59:23Speaker 2: just felt so bad, even though we weren't together. I
- 59:25Speaker 2: just felt so terrible about doing that.
- 59:30Speaker 1: I have never cheated in film. He is lying, I know, bitch.
- 59:35Speaker 1: I said I've never cheated and felt bad about it.
- 59:38Speaker 1: I'm telling the truth because if I actually engaged with
- 59:42Speaker 1: somebody else, I'm done with you.
- 59:44Speaker 2: We were done. Yeah, I'm with you.
- 59:46Speaker 1: I don't consider it cheating. I told you a thousand
- 59:49Speaker 1: times that I don't fuck with you no more. We done,
- 59:53Speaker 1: did all therapy, whatever else we you do. I've given
- 59:56Speaker 1: myself permission to sho on you.
- 59:58Speaker 2: Yeah, it was, it was. I don't consider I still
- 1:00:00Speaker 2: felt like bad because we still were cohabitating. Oh no,
- 1:00:05Speaker 2: you know he was probably having forty dollars six all
- 1:00:08Speaker 2: week here, you know, forty dollars you know over you know,
- 1:00:10Speaker 2: overseas he was at you know, you know, how they
- 1:00:12Speaker 2: be having sex with the girls over there, like maybe
- 1:00:15Speaker 2: all bad bitch's forty dollars HOLLI, you know, like having
- 1:00:17Speaker 2: a good time. Hey, hey, you know, I know he
- 1:00:20Speaker 2: was having his good time and I just needed to
- 1:00:23Speaker 2: feel something, you know, But I did not feel nothing.
- 1:00:27Speaker 2: I did not feel nothing warm, warm fuck me. And
- 1:00:32Speaker 2: I was like, oh, that is the worst.
- 1:00:35Speaker 1: Like niggas be wanting somebody would have fat ass, but
- 1:00:37Speaker 1: you can't even get in there. You can't even get
- 1:00:40Speaker 1: past the fat ass. You can't get past these time
- 1:00:43Speaker 1: get off.
- 1:00:47Speaker 2: So, yeah, something was good.
- 1:00:48Speaker 1: Would you still be crying in the car?
- 1:00:50Speaker 2: Oh, you'd be like yep. I probably would have been happier.
- 1:00:53Speaker 2: I would have been happy or I don't know what
- 1:00:55Speaker 2: I would have felt. Honestly, I might have still felt
- 1:00:57Speaker 2: bad about it, but the fact that I did enjoy
- 1:01:01Speaker 2: would have been like, that is a rap for this nigga.
- 1:01:04Speaker 2: It was already a rap. By to move all my
- 1:01:05Speaker 2: shit out of this house. It's over. It was already
- 1:01:08Speaker 2: a rap. But it was just like kind of sad.
- 1:01:10Speaker 2: The way I felt. I was like, he wridden, he's winning.
- 1:01:16Speaker 1: I remember this is in my early twenties, y'all. Again,
- 1:01:18Speaker 1: from middle Finger to my old life. My boyfriend that
- 1:01:22Speaker 1: I had from like sixteen to I don't know how
- 1:01:26Speaker 1: long it'd be the same motherfucking people. Anyway, I remember
- 1:01:30Speaker 1: I met this guy and we actually we still. I
- 1:01:33Speaker 1: haven't spoken to him in a few years now, but
- 1:01:35Speaker 1: when we talked, it is like, all good. But he's
- 1:01:37Speaker 1: in the military. He was stationed in not stationed, but
- 1:01:40Speaker 1: in Columbia for some training shit. So I yeah, I
- 1:01:43Speaker 1: linked up with his ass and like we was just
- 1:01:45Speaker 1: inseparable the month he was in Columbia and my boyfriend
- 1:01:52Speaker 1: was busting my phone down and I wasn't answering the phone,
- 1:01:55Speaker 1: and my funny as if I answered the phone with
- 1:01:56Speaker 1: the nastiest attitude.
- 1:01:59Speaker 2: Girl, why was in birthday? That's how I wrapped up.
- 1:02:03Speaker 2: I was in this other person way. It was your man,
- 1:02:06Speaker 2: y'all was still together.
- 1:02:08Speaker 1: Yes, it was his birthday.
- 1:02:09Speaker 2: Oh wow, I don't know. Well you that's all right,
- 1:02:14Speaker 2: thank you for tuning in. You forget it, you're fucking
- 1:02:19Speaker 2: another day. You're you're sleeping with another man? Is your
- 1:02:22Speaker 2: man's birthday? He like, damn, you forgot my birthday?
- 1:02:26Speaker 1: See this be the thing, right, This is why whenever
- 1:02:28Speaker 1: I do a little sum So maybe just hanging out
- 1:02:31Speaker 1: with somebody or actually engaging in sex. I don't feel
- 1:02:34Speaker 1: bad because I already caught you cheating. I lit it slide.
- 1:02:38Speaker 1: I didn't leave. I didn't cheat back, right, But now
- 1:02:41Speaker 1: I'm over all this ship and this then now this
- 1:02:43Speaker 1: is when I'm moving on. So he had already done
- 1:02:46Speaker 1: a whole bunch of shit. I just didn't leave. So
- 1:02:49Speaker 1: we even now, right, But why didn't Because I just
- 1:02:52Speaker 1: don't think like cheating.
- 1:02:53Speaker 2: Is the all n be all?
- 1:02:54Speaker 1: You know what I mean?
- 1:02:55Speaker 2: It was you forgot a nigger birthday? Was it being
- 1:02:59Speaker 2: like a whole a whole slewis shit?
- 1:03:01Speaker 1: And at that time I was in a relationship with
- 1:03:03Speaker 1: somebody where I felt like I was a breadwinner, like
- 1:03:06Speaker 1: I swear to guy, y'all I was. I feel like
- 1:03:08Speaker 1: I was a millionaire in my twenties. I had so
- 1:03:10Speaker 1: much money in back I don't know what the fuck
- 1:03:13Speaker 1: is my money?
- 1:03:15Speaker 2: Oh my god, don't even get on that. Cause when
- 1:03:17Speaker 2: I was living in England, I was like making so
- 1:03:20Speaker 2: much money, where's my money? And I was just so
- 1:03:22Speaker 2: reckless with my money. I was like just paying for friendships,
- 1:03:26Speaker 2: like girl.
- 1:03:26Speaker 1: You get came, I'm taking this nigga on vacation.
- 1:03:29Speaker 2: I'm the man doing all that shit.
- 1:03:31Speaker 1: I'm the man, and you cheat on me. Okay, you're
- 1:03:35Speaker 1: not the man.
- 1:03:35Speaker 2: You'll still never be the man. You know if you are, If.
- 1:03:39Speaker 1: You're not being a man in a relationship, and now
- 1:03:41Speaker 1: your girl is wearing a wearing a.
- 1:03:43Speaker 2: Pussy and a dick, how you wearing a dick? Y'all?
- 1:03:46Speaker 1: My mom would be saying that that's why I got
- 1:03:48Speaker 1: that from. That's bad, right, Yeah, you can't listen.
- 1:03:51Speaker 2: Even if he don't make as much money as you,
- 1:03:55Speaker 2: he's still the man. He's still the man, is he?
- 1:03:59Speaker 1: Yeah?
- 1:04:01Speaker 2: I guess no, y'all.
- 1:04:03Speaker 1: Make sure y'all wearing the pantsy y, our relationship make
- 1:04:05Speaker 1: you a woman.
- 1:04:05Speaker 2: But money isn't the only way to wear the paint
- 1:04:08Speaker 2: we live in. I know women who make more money
- 1:04:10Speaker 2: than they man, and they man still is the hell.
- 1:04:13Speaker 1: I'm not gonna be doing all the things, and you're
- 1:04:15Speaker 1: still cheating.
- 1:04:16Speaker 2: But he had he provides value in other ways.
- 1:04:19Speaker 1: This same nigga hacked my computer. This motherfucker did not
- 1:04:21Speaker 1: even have a high school diploma. But he's an evil genius,
- 1:04:27Speaker 1: like he would sit up in a laboratory like Jill
- 1:04:30Speaker 1: not the science guy and like shit pinky and the
- 1:04:34Speaker 1: brain type ass do. But he literally hacked my computer
- 1:04:38Speaker 1: and this is like a long ass time ago, So
- 1:04:40Speaker 1: how do you even know how to do this shit?
- 1:04:41Speaker 1: Nigga had a children horse on my computer and anytime
- 1:04:46Speaker 1: I would type my password into anything, it would automatically
- 1:04:49Speaker 1: send him an email.
- 1:04:50Speaker 2: Yeah, bitch, I see what you're doing.
- 1:04:54Speaker 1: Well. I remember one time I came to my apartment
- 1:04:56Speaker 1: that he's up and visiting me in my apartment.
- 1:04:59Speaker 2: I'm coming home from work.
- 1:05:00Speaker 1: He's at my apartment. This nigga, I went through all
- 1:05:04Speaker 1: my like I had like his college trunk which I
- 1:05:06Speaker 1: still have in storage that I need to burn, just
- 1:05:10Speaker 1: burn a whole True, it's so much incriminating. No, it's
- 1:05:13Speaker 1: some incriminating shit in there. It's some incriminating shit in
- 1:05:16Speaker 1: this trunk.
- 1:05:17Speaker 2: You know what. He went through that trunk and found
- 1:05:19Speaker 2: my list up of everybody. He found a list, and
- 1:05:24Speaker 2: he was mad that he wasn't one on the list.
- 1:05:30Speaker 2: He was mad he wasn't at the top of the list.
- 1:05:33Speaker 1: I'm like, I wasn't a virgin like niggas listed based
- 1:05:36Speaker 1: on who I've had.
- 1:05:37Speaker 2: Sex with you. You weren't my first? Oh, he thought
- 1:05:40Speaker 2: it was listening. I don't know what he thought, but I.
- 1:05:43Speaker 1: Was honest when I'm like, listen, you looking at a
- 1:05:45Speaker 1: ship that's not for your eyes one And that list
- 1:05:49Speaker 1: is not based on like good divad or no shit
- 1:05:51Speaker 1: like that. It's just from my first to now you somewhirst. Anyway, Look,
- 1:06:00Speaker 1: this is my twenties. It wasn't no nigga was turning pages.
- 1:06:04Speaker 1: Don't play with me like you have the most of
- 1:06:07Speaker 1: your sex in your twenties, right, absolutely, especially.
- 1:06:10Speaker 2: If you went to college.
- 1:06:11Speaker 1: You really no reason, no reason. Ain't nobody buying no bags.
- 1:06:16Speaker 1: Ain't nobody paying no bills. You need a wash machine,
- 1:06:19Speaker 1: ain't doing that. They ain't doing ship but smiling your face.
- 1:06:22Speaker 2: Yeah you're like, what's up?
- 1:06:24Speaker 1: But now these young girl today a tumble we rolled
- 1:06:27Speaker 1: past my bitches, prairie dogs that like this is ry there.
- 1:06:33Speaker 2: I don't have nothing going on, So.
- 1:06:36Speaker 1: God send me somebody Jesus every day, all right, we
- 1:06:41Speaker 1: will cheat a right not cheat in this big age nowadays?
- 1:06:45Speaker 2: What's the last last?
- 1:06:46Speaker 1: My last last is communicate with your partner. Talk to
- 1:06:49Speaker 1: your partner, put down rules. I mean, like every single
- 1:06:53Speaker 1: thing you could think of from cheating, from other people
- 1:06:59Speaker 1: from cleaning, Okay, everything, Just write it all down and
- 1:07:03Speaker 1: have a discussion to make sure that the person you're with,
- 1:07:07Speaker 1: y'all on the same page. You know what I'm saying, because,
- 1:07:09Speaker 1: like you said, there's no respectful cheating. But for me,
- 1:07:12Speaker 1: there is such thing as respectful cheating. Right if it
- 1:07:16Speaker 1: happens to happen, maybe we had an argument, you end
- 1:07:18Speaker 1: up at a bar, you end up having a white
- 1:07:20Speaker 1: one night said with a bitch strap up, And I
- 1:07:22Speaker 1: don't ever have to know about it because you don't
- 1:07:24Speaker 1: bring home an SCD and you don't bring home a kid.
- 1:07:27Speaker 2: That's all you really can ask for from another Oh
- 1:07:30Speaker 2: that's all you can ask or there's the bare minimum
- 1:07:34Speaker 2: of things to ask.
- 1:07:34Speaker 1: Girl, I'm being realistic at this page. I'm telling you,
- 1:07:38Speaker 1: I'm just being really.
- 1:07:39Speaker 2: Is like alternative facts. It's the same thing like if
- 1:07:43Speaker 2: you're cheating, you're deceitful. You can't be deceitful respectfully. Just
- 1:07:48Speaker 2: be honest, Just be honest.
- 1:07:51Speaker 1: But we ask men to be honest all the time,
- 1:07:54Speaker 1: but are we actually in the mental state to accept
- 1:08:00Speaker 1: honesty because for men, for men, they think that when
- 1:08:03Speaker 1: they're honest they can still have you. But sometimes when
- 1:08:07Speaker 1: you're honest, I still make a choice to leave you.
- 1:08:09Speaker 1: So just because you tell the truth doesn't mean I'm mistake.
- 1:08:12Speaker 1: And in their minds, they feel like if I tell
- 1:08:14Speaker 1: the truth, they'll stay. So that's why they lie because
- 1:08:17Speaker 1: they know you gonna leave.
- 1:08:20Speaker 2: Right, Okay, they're gonna tell me the truth. Like, just
- 1:08:29Speaker 2: be honest, be real, because some people are not gonna leave.
- 1:08:32Speaker 2: A lot of women ain't gonna leave, you know.
- 1:08:34Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of men don't leave. Men
- 1:08:36Speaker 1: have been cheated on and they don't leave. But like
- 1:08:38Speaker 1: I said before, and it actually we're viral. If you
- 1:08:42Speaker 1: cheat on the man and he keeps you, bitch, you
- 1:08:44Speaker 1: better leave. You better, you better leave, because he gonna
- 1:08:48Speaker 1: make you pay every day of that relationship.
- 1:08:53Speaker 2: Cheated on him.
- 1:08:54Speaker 1: He may not even Actually I would prefer for you
- 1:08:56Speaker 1: to actually go out and cheat, then to want to
- 1:08:59Speaker 1: have periodic arguments with me about what may or may
- 1:09:05Speaker 1: not have trans transpired. Yeah, I would prefer that leave
- 1:09:08Speaker 1: me or go cheat on me and get it over with.
- 1:09:11Speaker 1: Don't be harassing me in the fucking relationship.
- 1:09:13Speaker 2: Dog. You can't try to.
- 1:09:14Speaker 1: Keep me hostage here and we have sex and have
- 1:09:18Speaker 1: a good night and have a good day, maybe even
- 1:09:20Speaker 1: on vacation. As soon as we get back, you on
- 1:09:22Speaker 1: some bullshit about what happened a month ago.
- 1:09:25Speaker 2: Nah, I'm not doing it.
- 1:09:26Speaker 1: Leave me this because I'm like a nigga like y'all get.
- 1:09:32Speaker 2: He's ow day. I don't care.
- 1:09:37Speaker 1: I don't care, don't do that, don't give no money away,
- 1:09:40Speaker 1: give it all right, you guys?
- 1:09:41Speaker 2: All right? Listen, all right, y'all, hit hit him with it.
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