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Marcy believes you should GROW WITH your partner · Johnjay & Rich On Demand

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  Speaker 1: Good morning, Marcy, Good morning. Hey, what's going on? You're
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  Speaker 1: on the air.
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  Speaker 2: My friends are coming at me for this. They're on
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  Speaker 2: this tick that you shouldn't change for a man, and
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  Speaker 2: you know, don't don't change.
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  Speaker 3: For a guy.
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  Speaker 2: All this, and I add this different attitude that I
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  Speaker 2: feel like your partner should be the person that inspires
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  Speaker 2: you to change, like that, that you should be leveling up.
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  Speaker 2: You should have someone with you that makes you want
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  Speaker 2: to level up, makes you want to be a different person,
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  Speaker 2: makes you want to be better at the things you do.
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  Speaker 2: And like, I feel like if you're not doing that,
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  Speaker 2: if they're not inspiring to you, that you're just kind
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  Speaker 2: of being complacent. And they are hard disagreeing with me.
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  Speaker 2: So I'm just like, okay, I'm taking this distracting rich.
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  Speaker 2: They have professional approaches to things, so help me, help me,
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  Speaker 2: help me.
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  Speaker 3: I think it depends.
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  Speaker 4: I don't think that you should change your personality for
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  Speaker 4: a man, but everyone has a little bit of you know,
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  Speaker 4: fixing up to do when it comes to you as
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  Speaker 4: a person as a whole. So I think if your
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  Speaker 4: man levels you up, absolutely, but do you change who
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  Speaker 4: you are to your core for them?
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  Speaker 1: I don't know.
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  Speaker 5: No, I don't think you do. But I do also
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  Speaker 5: think there is in every relationship an element of compromise
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  Speaker 5: that needs to happen, but not to the cost of
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  Speaker 5: like you're literally changing the person you are. Like what
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  Speaker 5: are your friends concerned about?
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  Speaker 2: I mean I think they're just like, you know, you
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  Speaker 2: should be a whole person before you meet somebody, and
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  Speaker 2: then like if they're inspiring you to change, then you're
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  Speaker 2: being fake. I think it's what they're saying.
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  Speaker 1: Change in what way?
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  Speaker 5: Like are you making are you now changing your whole
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  Speaker 5: religion or are you now just changing your hair shampoo?
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  Speaker 5: Like what are there specific examples that are freaking them out?
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  Speaker 1: Like what's the red flags?
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  Speaker 2: I mean like habits and stuff. So like I think
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  Speaker 2: of like the first thing is like you know, he's like, like,
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  Speaker 2: I think we should be more active. I think we
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  Speaker 2: shouldn't do like as many like sit down dates. I'm
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  Speaker 2: just like, cool, Yeah, that's great, but like let's get
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  Speaker 2: out and like, especially as former let's get out and
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  Speaker 2: like work out for dates and stuff. But I don't
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  Speaker 2: normally do that. Well, I kind of liked it.
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  Speaker 3: I like that because he's leveling up too, He's he's
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  Speaker 3: joining you in me.
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  Speaker 1: Here's what I say. When she started telling that story,
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  Speaker 1: it made me think that I know this girl, and
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  Speaker 1: she was single. She would date somebody and she would
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  Speaker 1: act like whatever that guy was into, she also was
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  Speaker 1: into it. I started with golf all sudden, she was
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  Speaker 1: a big golfer, right, and she'd be posting golfing stuff.
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  Speaker 1: Then it was like pick a ball and it was
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  Speaker 1: like dating another guy and it was like he was
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  Speaker 1: into pick a ball. So she al said she was
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  Speaker 1: into pickaball. And I think this person made it, made
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  Speaker 1: the guy believe that she was already into that before,
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  Speaker 1: but she wasn't.
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  Speaker 4: That's actually kind of crazy.
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  Speaker 1: It's crazy.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, the girl I knew, she like was like kind
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  Speaker 5: of like really preppy, and then she started dating a
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  Speaker 5: skater and she started doing totally different.
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  Speaker 1: And I feel like, that's what your friends are talking about,
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  Speaker 1: finding something, in my opinion, finding somebody that's going to
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  Speaker 1: make you better. How can that how can that be
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  Speaker 1: a problem together?
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  Speaker 3: I think that's fine because he's said should have more
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  Speaker 3: active dates. He's not telling you change for me. He's saying,
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  Speaker 3: let's yeah, let's get better together. I think that's probably fine.
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  Speaker 1: If you're like, oh my god, I love I love
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  Speaker 1: Bruno Mars is a great and he also a guy's like,
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  Speaker 1: oh I love Bruno Mars too. You know they're making
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  Speaker 1: stuff off right, like that's what it's like, associopath. But
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  Speaker 1: either way, good luck, Marcy. I think you you. I
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  Speaker 1: think everybody here gave me good advice.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, okay, good thanks. Thanks Marcie, have a great day
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  Speaker 2: you too,