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Game Episode: Is It Aligned or Out of Alignment? | with PlateFit founder Rachael Blumberg · The Iconic Midlife with Roxy Manning

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  No.
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  No
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  is
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  a
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  full
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  sentence
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  like,
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  no
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  can't
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  come.
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  Bueller.
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  Oui.
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  The
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  name
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  of
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  this
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  game
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  is
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  called
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  aligned
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  or
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  out
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  of
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  alignment.
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  Staying
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  longer
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  than
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  you
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  want
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  to
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  in
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  a
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  conversation
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  to
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  avoid
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  being
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  perceived
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  as
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  rude.
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  Aligned
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  or
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  out
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  of
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  alignment.
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  Out
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  of
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  alignment.
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  Choosing
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  the
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  peaceful
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  option
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  over
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  the
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  honest
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  one.
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  Aligned
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  or
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  out
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  of
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  alignment?
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  Out
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  of
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  alignment.
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  Feeling
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  calm
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  in
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  a
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  relationship,
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  but
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  also
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  a
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  little
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  bored.
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  Aligned
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  or
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  out
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  of
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  alignment.
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  I
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  think
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  you.
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  I
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  always
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  like
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  to
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  play
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  a
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  game
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  with
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  my
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  guests.
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  If
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  you
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  are
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  feeling
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  up
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  for
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  it,
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  great.
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  Go
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  for
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  it.
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  All
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  right.
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  Okay,
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  let's
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  do
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  it.
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  The
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  name
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  of
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  this
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  game
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  is
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  called
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  aligned
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  or
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  out
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  of
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  alignment.
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  So
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  I'm
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  going
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  to
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  throw
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  out
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  different
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  situations
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  and
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  or
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  habits,
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  behaviors,
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  and
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  you
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  tell
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  me
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  your
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  gut
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  reaction.
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  Does
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  this
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  feel
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  aligned
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  for
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  you
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  right
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  now
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  or
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  out
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  of
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  alignment?
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  All
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  right,
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  so
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  here
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  we
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  go.
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  Staying
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  longer
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  than
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  you
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  want
• 1:03
  to
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  in
• 1:03
  a
• 1:04
  conversation
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  to
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  avoid
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  being
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  perceived
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  as
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  rude,
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  aligned
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  or
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  out
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  of
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  alignment.
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  Out
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  of.
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  I
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  was
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  on
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  a
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  birthday
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  and
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  a
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  bunch
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  of
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  women
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  were
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  talking
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  negatively
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  about
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  somebody
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  that
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  wasn't
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  there.
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  And
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  I
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  didn't
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  even
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  know
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  any
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  of
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  the.
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  I
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  didn't
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  know
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  any
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  context
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  to
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  anybody
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  there,
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  but
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  I
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  was
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  just
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  like,
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  you
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  know
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  what?
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  This
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  is
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  just
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  not
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  for
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  me.
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  So
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  I
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  just
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  exited.
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  I
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  literally
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  took
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  myself
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  up
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  and.
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  And
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  put
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  place
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  myself
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  somewhere
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  else
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  because
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  I
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  just
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  didn't.
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  It
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  was
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  just
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  a
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  physical
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  choice.
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  Like,
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  I
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  don't
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  want
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  to
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  be
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  in
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  that
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  conversation.
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  That's
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  a
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  powerful
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  thing.
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  Feeling
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  calm
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  in
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  a
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  relationship,
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  but
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  also
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  a
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  little
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  bored.
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  Aligned
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  or
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  out
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  of
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  alignment?
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  I.
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  I
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  think
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  you
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  could
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  go
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  both
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  ways.
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  What
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  I
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  would
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  do
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  is
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  I
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  would
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  ask
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  myself
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  the
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  question,
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  why
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  am
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  I
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  bored?
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  And
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  is
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  this
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  calmness,
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  is
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  it
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  a
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  tool,
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  a
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  fuel,
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  an
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  invitation
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  for
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  something?
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  Okay.
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  Or
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  is
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  it
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  less?
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  Is
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  it
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  also
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  an
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  invitation
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  to
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  just
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  learn
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  how
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  to
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  be
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  bored,
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  to
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  sit
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  in
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  the
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  calmness,
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  into
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  the
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  peace?
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  So
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  I
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  don't.
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  I
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  think
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  it
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  could
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  go
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  either
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  way.
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  I'm
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  gonna
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  go
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  both
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  ways.
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  You
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  know,
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  I
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  really
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  like
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  too,
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  the
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  idea
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  of
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  being
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  bored,
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  especially
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  as
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  it
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  relates
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  to
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  our
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  kids,
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  because
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  I
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  think
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  so
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  much
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  of
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  the
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  time
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  they're
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  like,
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  I'm
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  bored.
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  I'm
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  bored.
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  What
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  should
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  I
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  do?
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  Like,
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  fix
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  this
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  for
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  me.
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  And
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  it's
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  actually,
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  I
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  think
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  a
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  good
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  thing
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  for
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  them
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  to
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  sit
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  in
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  their
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  boredom.
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  We
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  used
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  to
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  be
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  bored.
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  So
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  much
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  as
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  kids
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  create
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  something
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  or.
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  Go
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  outside
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  or
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  yes,
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  absolutely
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  missing
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  a
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  version
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  of
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  yourself
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  that
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  doesn't
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  fit
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  your
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  life
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  anymore.
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  Aligned
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  or
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  out
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  of
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  alignment.
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  Aligned.
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  Yeah.
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  Yeah.
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  I
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  think
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  it's.
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  I
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  think
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  sometimes
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  as
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  you're
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  going
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  through
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  process,
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  it
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  gets
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  so
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  lonely
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  before.
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  It
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  doesn't
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  and
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  that's
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  what
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  nobody
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  really
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  talks
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  about.
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  So
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  the
• 2:38
  healing
• 2:39
  journey
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  can
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  feel
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  very
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  lonely,
• 2:40
  and
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  it
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  will
• 2:41
  get
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  lonely.
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  You're
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  dying
• 2:43
  and,
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  like,
• 2:44
  it's
• 2:44
  like
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  this
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  old
• 2:45
  self
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  is
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  going
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  away
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  and
• 2:47
  everything
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  is
• 2:48
  restructuring,
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  and
• 2:49
  it's
• 2:49
  so
• 2:49
  uncomfortable,
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  and
• 2:51
  it
• 2:51
  feels
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  like
• 2:52
  everything's
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  misaligned,
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  but
• 2:54
  it's
• 2:54
  really
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  like
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  your
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  soul
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  moving
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  into
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  alignment.
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  And
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  some
• 2:58
  of
• 2:58
  my.
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  My
• 2:58
  greatest
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  teachers,
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  I
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  just.
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  I'm
• 3:01
  so
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  happy
• 3:01
  that
• 3:01
  they
• 3:02
  said
• 3:02
  to
• 3:03
  me,
• 3:03
  it's
• 3:04
  so
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  lonely.
• 3:05
  The
• 3:05
  path
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  where
• 3:06
  you're
• 3:06
  going
• 3:06
  is
• 3:07
  so
• 3:07
  lonely,
• 3:07
  but
• 3:08
  just
• 3:08
  stay
• 3:08
  the
• 3:08
  course,
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  because
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  you
• 3:10
  come
• 3:10
  out
• 3:10
  on
• 3:10
  the
• 3:11
  other
• 3:11
  side.
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  And
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  I
• 3:12
  just
• 3:12
  remember
• 3:12
  going,
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  like,
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  why
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  am
• 3:13
  I
• 3:13
  doing
• 3:13
  this
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  so
• 3:14
  many
• 3:14
  times?
• 3:14
  Like,
• 3:14
  why
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  do
• 3:15
  I
• 3:15
  keep
• 3:15
  doing
• 3:15
  this?
• 3:15
  Why
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  am
• 3:16
  I
• 3:16
  committing
• 3:16
  social
• 3:16
  suicide,
• 3:17
  like,
• 3:18
  over
• 3:18
  again,
• 3:18
  you
• 3:18
  know?
• 3:18
  But,
• 3:19
  like.
• 3:19
  But
• 3:19
  I.
• 3:19
  But
• 3:20
  I
• 3:20
  just
• 3:20
  stayed
• 3:20
  the
• 3:20
  course
• 3:21
  so
• 3:21
  happy
• 3:22
  I
• 3:22
  didn't
• 3:22
  go
• 3:22
  back
• 3:23
  to
• 3:23
  that
• 3:23
  old
• 3:23
  version
• 3:23
  of
• 3:24
  me.
• 3:24
  Like,
• 3:24
  I
• 3:24
  could.
• 3:25
  I
• 3:25
  could
• 3:25
  just,
• 3:25
  like,
• 3:25
  go
• 3:26
  back
• 3:26
  to
• 3:26
  drinking
• 3:26
  and
• 3:26
  start.
• 3:27
  Go
• 3:27
  back.
• 3:27
  Back
• 3:27
  out,
• 3:28
  and
• 3:28
  I
• 3:28
  could
• 3:28
  just,
• 3:28
  like,
• 3:28
  just
• 3:29
  go
• 3:29
  back
• 3:29
  to
• 3:30
  sleep,
• 3:30
  you
• 3:30
  know,
• 3:30
  it
• 3:30
  was
• 3:31
  easier
• 3:32
  before,
• 3:33
  and.
• 3:33
  Because
• 3:33
  the
• 3:33
  loneliness
• 3:34
  through
• 3:35
  is.
• 3:36
  Is
• 3:36
  real.
• 3:37
  Yeah.
• 3:37
  Because
• 3:37
  not
• 3:38
  everybody's
• 3:38
  on
• 3:38
  the
• 3:38
  same
• 3:39
  journey.
• 3:39
  Right.
• 3:39
  Like,
• 3:39
  it's
• 3:40
  not
• 3:40
  like
• 3:40
  all
• 3:40
  of
• 3:40
  a
• 3:40
  sudden,
• 3:41
  everybody
• 3:41
  in
• 3:41
  your
• 3:41
  family
• 3:42
  is
• 3:42
  like,
• 3:42
  let's
• 3:43
  do
• 3:43
  this
• 3:43
  together,
• 3:44
  you
• 3:44
  know?
• 3:45
  And
• 3:45
  you
• 3:46
  never
• 3:46
  know
• 3:46
  what's
• 3:46
  going
• 3:46
  to
• 3:46
  happen
• 3:47
  as
• 3:47
  a
• 3:47
  result,
• 3:47
  you
• 3:48
  know?
• 3:48
  Right.
• 3:49
  Terrifying,
• 3:50
  too.
• 3:50
  But
• 3:51
  staying
• 3:52
  the
• 3:52
  course.
• 3:53
  And
• 3:54
  that
• 3:54
  question
• 3:54
  is
• 3:54
  a
• 3:54
  really
• 3:54
  good
• 3:55
  question.
• 3:55
  That's
• 3:55
  a
• 3:55
  beautiful
• 3:56
  question.
• 3:56
  Oh,
• 3:57
  thank
• 3:57
  you.
• 3:58
  No,
• 3:58
  I'm
• 3:59
  glad
• 3:59
  you
• 3:59
  answered
• 4:00
  that
• 4:00
  because
• 4:00
  that's.
• 4:00
  I
• 4:01
  think
• 4:01
  that
• 4:01
  that
• 4:01
  too,
• 4:01
  holds
• 4:02
  people
• 4:02
  back,
• 4:02
  you
• 4:03
  know,
• 4:03
  like,
• 4:04
  not
• 4:05
  having
• 4:05
  that
• 4:06
  assurance
• 4:06
  because
• 4:07
  it's.
• 4:07
  You're
• 4:07
  taking
• 4:08
  a
• 4:08
  path
• 4:08
  that
• 4:08
  you
• 4:08
  haven't
• 4:08
  taken
• 4:09
  before.
• 4:09
  Yeah.
• 4:09
  It's
• 4:10
  unknown.
• 4:10
  Yep.
• 4:10
  You
• 4:11
  know,
• 4:11
  choosing
• 4:12
  the
• 4:12
  peaceful
• 4:13
  option
• 4:13
  over
• 4:14
  the
• 4:14
  honest
• 4:15
  one.
• 4:16
  Aligned
• 4:16
  or
• 4:16
  out
• 4:16
  of
• 4:17
  alignment?
• 4:17
  Out
• 4:18
  of
• 4:18
  alignment.
• 4:18
  I.
• 4:19
  I
• 4:19
  feel
• 4:19
  like
• 4:19
  this
• 4:20
  qu.
• 4:20
  These
• 4:20
  questions
• 4:20
  are
• 4:21
  so
• 4:21
  beautiful
• 4:21
  because
• 4:21
  it
• 4:21
  just
• 4:22
  depends
• 4:22
  on
• 4:22
  who
• 4:22
  you're
• 4:22
  talking
• 4:23
  to.
• 4:23
  And,
• 4:23
  like,
• 4:23
  it
• 4:23
  can
• 4:23
  be
• 4:24
  true
• 4:24
  either
• 4:25
  way.
• 4:25
  But
• 4:25
  for
• 4:25
  me,
• 4:26
  I'm
• 4:26
  just
• 4:26
  like
• 4:26
  a
• 4:26
  truth
• 4:27
  seeker.
• 4:28
  Like,
• 4:29
  just
• 4:29
  feel
• 4:29
  like
• 4:29
  I'm
• 4:29
  kind
• 4:29
  of.
• 4:29
  I'm.
• 4:30
  I'm
• 4:30
  a
• 4:30
  truth
• 4:30
  alchemist,
• 4:31
  like,
• 4:31
  legitimately,
• 4:32
  Like,
• 4:32
  I,
• 4:32
  like,
• 4:32
  desire
• 4:33
  to
• 4:33
  find
• 4:34
  real
• 4:35
  truth,
• 4:35
  as
• 4:35
  tough
• 4:36
  as
• 4:36
  it
• 4:36
  is.
• 4:37
  I
• 4:37
  love
• 4:37
  that
• 4:37
  you
• 4:38
  call.
• 4:38
  That's,
• 4:38
  like,
• 4:38
  your
• 4:39
  title
• 4:40
  too.
• 4:40
  Like,
• 4:40
  Truth
• 4:40
  Alchemist.
• 4:41
  It's
• 4:41
  like,
• 4:41
  because
• 4:42
  it
• 4:42
  does
• 4:42
  my
• 4:42
  gift,
• 4:42
  it's
• 4:43
  like,
• 4:43
  it's
• 4:43
  such
• 4:43
  a
• 4:43
  gift,
• 4:43
  and
• 4:44
  I
• 4:44
  have
• 4:44
  this.
• 4:45
  Just
• 4:45
  have
• 4:45
  such
• 4:45
  a
• 4:45
  gift
• 4:46
  for
• 4:46
  finding
• 4:47
  my
• 4:47
  own
• 4:48
  truth.
• 4:48
  And
• 4:48
  then
• 4:49
  when
• 4:49
  I
• 4:49
  find
• 4:49
  my
• 4:49
  own
• 4:49
  truth,
• 4:50
  I
• 4:50
  help.
• 4:50
  I
• 4:50
  can
• 4:50
  just
• 4:51
  really
• 4:51
  help
• 4:51
  other
• 4:51
  people
• 4:51
  find
• 4:52
  theirs
• 4:52
  as
• 4:52
  hard
• 4:52
  as
• 4:53
  the
• 4:53
  truth
• 4:53
  is.
• 4:54
  Because
• 4:54
  it
• 4:54
  isn't
• 4:55
  Always
• 4:55
  the
• 4:56
  greatest
• 4:56
  thing
• 4:56
  to
• 4:56
  see.
• 4:58
  Yeah.
• 4:58
  But
• 4:58
  when
• 4:59
  you're
• 4:59
  right,
• 4:59
  you're
• 4:59
  like.
• 5:00
  It's
• 5:00
  like,
• 5:00
  I
• 5:00
  feel
• 5:01
  like
• 5:01
  it's
• 5:01
  an
• 5:01
  invitation
• 5:02
  for
• 5:02
  me,
• 5:03
  like
• 5:04
  an
• 5:04
  invitation
• 5:04
  to
• 5:05
  be
• 5:05
  different.
• 5:05
  It's
• 5:05
  an
• 5:05
  invitation
• 5:06
  to
• 5:06
  be
• 5:06
  like,
• 5:06
  oh
• 5:07
  my
• 5:07
  God.
• 5:07
  That's
• 5:07
  what
• 5:07
  I've
• 5:07
  been
• 5:08
  up
• 5:08
  to.
• 5:09
  That's
• 5:09
  what
• 5:09
  I've
• 5:09
  been
• 5:09
  doing.
• 5:10
  That's
• 5:11
  why
• 5:11
  I'm
• 5:11
  not
• 5:11
  getting
• 5:11
  the
• 5:12
  thing
• 5:12
  that
• 5:12
  I
• 5:12
  want.
• 5:13
  That's
• 5:13
  what
• 5:13
  I've
• 5:13
  been
• 5:13
  blocking.
• 5:15
  Oh
• 5:15
  my
• 5:15
  God.
• 5:16
  And
• 5:16
  then
• 5:17
  what
• 5:17
  do
• 5:17
  I
• 5:17
  need
• 5:17
  to
• 5:17
  do
• 5:17
  in
• 5:18
  order
• 5:18
  to
• 5:18
  like,
• 5:18
  not
• 5:19
  to
• 5:19
  not
• 5:20
  do
• 5:20
  that
• 5:20
  anymore?
• 5:22
  Yeah,
• 5:22
  what
• 5:22
  to
• 5:22
  do.
• 5:23
  Exactly.
• 5:23
  That's
• 5:24
  like
• 5:24
  the
• 5:24
  exciting
• 5:24
  part
• 5:25
  too,
• 5:25
  right?
• 5:25
  It's
• 5:25
  like,
• 5:26
  what
• 5:26
  can
• 5:26
  you
• 5:26
  do?
• 5:27
  What's
• 5:27
  like
• 5:27
  a
• 5:27
  new
• 5:27
  outcome,
• 5:28
  a
• 5:28
  new
• 5:28
  way
• 5:28
  of
• 5:28
  approaching
• 5:29
  something.
• 5:30
  Being
• 5:30
  the
• 5:30
  easy
• 5:31
  one
• 5:31
  in
• 5:31
  a
• 5:32
  relationship.
• 5:33
  Aligned
• 5:33
  or
• 5:34
  out
• 5:34
  of
• 5:34
  alignment.
• 5:37
  I
• 5:37
  mean,
• 5:38
  bless
• 5:38
  us.
• 5:39
  Honestly,
• 5:39
  like,
• 5:39
  I
• 5:40
  fit
• 5:41
  in
• 5:41
  a
• 5:41
  box
• 5:41
  for
• 5:42
  as
• 5:42
  long
• 5:42
  as
• 5:42
  I
• 5:42
  could
• 5:42
  fit
• 5:43
  in
• 5:43
  a
• 5:43
  box
• 5:45
  and
• 5:45
  I
• 5:45
  don't
• 5:45
  easy
• 5:46
  going.
• 5:46
  And
• 5:47
  I
• 5:47
  did
• 5:47
  whatever
• 5:47
  wanted
• 5:48
  me
• 5:48
  to
• 5:48
  do
• 5:48
  and
• 5:48
  I
• 5:49
  like,
• 5:49
  felt
• 5:49
  like
• 5:49
  I
• 5:49
  was
• 5:49
  just
• 5:50
  like.
• 5:50
  And
• 5:50
  then
• 5:50
  I
• 5:50
  would
• 5:51
  like,
• 5:51
  and
• 5:51
  then
• 5:52
  I
• 5:52
  would
• 5:52
  explode.
• 5:53
  You
• 5:53
  know
• 5:53
  what
• 5:53
  I
• 5:53
  mean?
• 5:54
  And
• 5:54
  it's
• 5:55
  like,
• 5:56
  no,
• 5:57
  I
• 5:57
  feel
• 5:57
  the
• 5:58
  exact
• 5:58
  same
• 5:58
  way.
• 5:58
  I
• 5:58
  feel
• 5:59
  like,
• 5:59
  you
• 5:59
  know,
• 6:00
  too
• 6:00
  for
• 6:00
  myself.
• 6:01
  Like,
• 6:01
  you
• 6:02
  know,
• 6:02
  I'm
• 6:02
  kind
• 6:02
  of
• 6:02
  this
• 6:02
  easygoing
• 6:03
  person
• 6:03
  and
• 6:04
  you
• 6:04
  know,
• 6:04
  have
• 6:05
  always
• 6:05
  been
• 6:05
  really.
• 6:06
  And
• 6:06
  so
• 6:06
  the
• 6:06
  friends
• 6:06
  are
• 6:06
  always
• 6:07
  like,
• 6:07
  oh
• 6:07
  my
• 6:07
  God,
• 6:07
  you're
• 6:08
  always
• 6:08
  so
• 6:08
  fun
• 6:08
  to
• 6:08
  be
• 6:08
  around
• 6:09
  and
• 6:09
  like,
• 6:09
  you
• 6:09
  know,
• 6:10
  easy
• 6:10
  and
• 6:10
  like
• 6:11
  all
• 6:11
  those
• 6:11
  things.
• 6:11
  But
• 6:12
  then,
• 6:12
  you
• 6:12
  know,
• 6:12
  in
• 6:12
  these
• 6:12
  last
• 6:13
  couple
• 6:13
  years,
• 6:13
  it's
• 6:14
  really
• 6:14
  started
• 6:14
  to
• 6:14
  shift
• 6:15
  for
• 6:15
  me.
• 6:15
  And
• 6:15
  it's
• 6:15
  like
• 6:16
  now
• 6:16
  I
• 6:17
  put
• 6:17
  down,
• 6:17
  you
• 6:17
  know,
• 6:17
  more
• 6:18
  boundaries
• 6:18
  and
• 6:19
  like,
• 6:19
  you
• 6:19
  know,
• 6:19
  doing
• 6:20
  things
• 6:20
  in
• 6:20
  a
• 6:20
  different
• 6:20
  way.
• 6:21
  And
• 6:21
  sometimes
• 6:22
  people
• 6:22
  are
• 6:22
  the
• 6:23
  most
• 6:23
  receptive
• 6:24
  to
• 6:24
  that.
• 6:24
  Even
• 6:24
  the
• 6:24
  people
• 6:25
  that
• 6:25
  are
• 6:25
  the
• 6:25
  closest
• 6:25
  to
• 6:26
  you.
• 6:26
  No,
• 6:27
  of
• 6:27
  course,
• 6:27
  usually
• 6:27
  the
• 6:28
  people
• 6:28
  that
• 6:28
  are
• 6:28
  closest
• 6:28
  to
• 6:28
  you
• 6:29
  are
• 6:29
  the
• 6:29
  worst.
• 6:30
  The
• 6:30
  people
• 6:31
  that
• 6:31
  don't
• 6:31
  want
• 6:31
  you
• 6:32
  to
• 6:32
  change
• 6:32
  because
• 6:32
  when
• 6:33
  you
• 6:33
  change,
• 6:33
  that
• 6:33
  means
• 6:34
  they
• 6:34
  have
• 6:34
  to
• 6:34
  change.
• 6:34
  People
• 6:35
  want
• 6:35
  you
• 6:35
  to
• 6:35
  stay
• 6:35
  the
• 6:36
  same,
• 6:36
  especially
• 6:37
  the
• 6:37
  people
• 6:37
  closest
• 6:38
  to
• 6:38
  you.
• 6:38
  It's
• 6:39
  like
• 6:39
  predictable.
• 6:39
  They
• 6:40
  know
• 6:40
  what
• 6:40
  they're
• 6:40
  getting.
• 6:41
  Yep.
• 6:42
  Like,
• 6:42
  like
• 6:42
  that's
• 6:42
  the
• 6:42
  way
• 6:43
  that
• 6:43
  you're
• 6:43
  supposed
• 6:43
  to
• 6:43
  be.
• 6:44
  And
• 6:44
  then
• 6:44
  all
• 6:44
  of
• 6:44
  a
• 6:44
  sudden
• 6:44
  somebody
• 6:45
  uproots
• 6:45
  their
• 6:45
  life
• 6:46
  and
• 6:46
  like
• 6:46
  decides
• 6:46
  to
• 6:47
  just
• 6:47
  like,
• 6:47
  do
• 6:48
  something
• 6:48
  completely
• 6:48
  different
• 6:48
  or
• 6:49
  set
• 6:49
  a
• 6:49
  boundary
• 6:49
  and
• 6:49
  say,
• 6:50
  you
• 6:50
  know
• 6:50
  what?
• 6:50
  I'm
• 6:51
  not
• 6:51
  going
• 6:51
  to
• 6:51
  come.
• 6:52
  I.
• 6:52
  It's
• 6:52
  too
• 6:53
  late
• 6:53
  for
• 6:53
  me.
• 6:53
  Have
• 6:54
  a
• 6:54
  time.
• 6:55
  No.
• 6:55
  No
• 6:56
  is
• 6:56
  a
• 6:56
  full
• 6:56
  sentence.
• 6:56
  Like,
• 6:57
  no,
• 6:57
  can't
• 6:58
  come.
• 6:59
  Feel
• 6:59
  like,
• 7:01
  yeah,
• 7:02
  yeah.
• 7:03
  Where,
• 7:03
  Where'd
• 7:03
  she
• 7:04
  go?
• 7:05
  The
• 7:05
  over
• 7:05
  explainer
• 7:06
  that
• 7:06
  I
• 7:06
  used
• 7:06
  to
• 7:06
  be.
• 7:07
  Right.
• 7:07
  You
• 7:07
  see
• 7:08
  like,
• 7:08
  like
• 7:08
  dialogues
• 7:09
  about,
• 7:09
  like,
• 7:09
  why
• 7:09
  I
• 7:09
  Couldn't
• 7:09
  come
• 7:10
  to
• 7:10
  somebody,
• 7:10
  something
• 7:10
  because
• 7:11
  I
• 7:11
  felt
• 7:11
  like
• 7:11
  I
• 7:11
  was
• 7:11
  going
• 7:11
  to
• 7:11
  disappoint
• 7:12
  somebody
• 7:12
  by
• 7:12
  being
• 7:13
  honest
• 7:14
  about
• 7:14
  what
• 7:14
  I
• 7:14
  actually
• 7:14
  wanted
• 7:15
  to
• 7:15
  do.
• 7:15
  And
• 7:15
  now
• 7:15
  I'm
• 7:16
  just
• 7:16
  like,
• 7:16
  sorry,
• 7:16
  I
• 7:16
  can't
• 7:16
  come.
• 7:18
  And
• 7:18
  that's
• 7:18
  that.
• 7:19
  It's
• 7:19
  just
• 7:20
  so,
• 7:20
  it's
• 7:20
  so
• 7:20
  empowering.
• 7:21
  But
• 7:21
  people
• 7:22
  are
• 7:22
  not
• 7:22
  going
• 7:22
  to
• 7:22
  like
• 7:22
  it
• 7:23
  and
• 7:23
  that's
• 7:23
  okay.
• 7:23
  And
• 7:24
  that's
• 7:24
  part
• 7:24
  of
• 7:24
  this
• 7:24
  process
• 7:25
  too.
• 7:26
  Yeah.
• 7:26
  You
• 7:26
  don't
• 7:26
  have
• 7:26
  to
• 7:26
  always
• 7:27
  be
• 7:27
  liked.
• 7:27
  Right?
• 7:28
  I
• 7:28
  mean,
• 7:28
  that's,
• 7:29
  you're
• 7:30
  not
• 7:30
  going
• 7:30
  to
• 7:30
  always
• 7:30
  be
• 7:30
  liked.
• 7:31
  And
• 7:31
  I
• 7:31
  think
• 7:31
  the
• 7:31
  acceptance
• 7:32
  of
• 7:32
  that,
• 7:32
  like
• 7:33
  is
• 7:33
  such
• 7:33
  a
• 7:34
  beautiful
• 7:34
  gift.
• 7:34
  One
• 7:35
  of
• 7:35
  my
• 7:35
  friends
• 7:35
  said
• 7:36
  to
• 7:36
  me,
• 7:36
  I
• 7:37
  think
• 7:37
  it
• 7:37
  was
• 7:37
  like
• 7:37
  a
• 7:38
  few
• 7:38
  months
• 7:38
  ago.
• 7:38
  She's
• 7:38
  just
• 7:38
  like,
• 7:39
  I,
• 7:39
  I
• 7:39
  just
• 7:39
  feel
• 7:39
  like
• 7:40
  everybody's
• 7:40
  going
• 7:40
  to
• 7:40
  judge
• 7:41
  me.
• 7:41
  And
• 7:41
  I
• 7:41
  said,
• 7:42
  and
• 7:43
  what
• 7:43
  she
• 7:43
  said,
• 7:44
  what
• 7:44
  I
• 7:44
  said
• 7:44
  to
• 7:44
  her
• 7:45
  is
• 7:45
  that
• 7:45
  they
• 7:45
  are,
• 7:46
  everybody
• 7:46
  is
• 7:46
  going
• 7:46
  to
• 7:46
  judge
• 7:47
  you.
• 7:47
  And
• 7:47
  it's,
• 7:48
  it's
• 7:48
  really
• 7:48
  your,
• 7:49
  it's
• 7:49
  your
• 7:49
  own
• 7:50
  reflect,
• 7:50
  it's
• 7:50
  your
• 7:50
  own
• 7:51
  judgment,
• 7:51
  it's
• 7:51
  the
• 7:52
  own,
• 7:52
  it's
• 7:52
  a
• 7:52
  reflection
• 7:52
  of
• 7:53
  your
• 7:53
  own
• 7:53
  self
• 7:53
  judgment,
• 7:54
  but
• 7:54
  it's
• 7:54
  showing
• 7:54
  up
• 7:55
  as
• 7:55
  a
• 7:55
  mirror.
• 7:55
  Everybody
• 7:56
  is
• 7:56
  going
• 7:56
  to
• 7:56
  judge
• 7:56
  you,
• 7:57
  so
• 7:57
  expect
• 7:57
  that
• 7:58
  and
• 7:58
  do
• 7:58
  it
• 7:58
  anyways.
• 8:00
  And
• 8:00
  by
• 8:00
  the
• 8:01
  way,
• 8:01
  they're
• 8:01
  going
• 8:01
  to
• 8:01
  forget
• 8:02
  about
• 8:02
  it
• 8:02
  in
• 8:02
  like
• 8:02
  two
• 8:03
  seconds.
• 8:03
  This
• 8:04
  has
• 8:04
  been
• 8:04
  like,
• 8:04
  by
• 8:04
  the
• 8:04
  way,
• 8:05
  all
• 8:05
  the
• 8:05
  people
• 8:05
  that
• 8:05
  were
• 8:05
  judging
• 8:06
  me
• 8:06
  are
• 8:06
  now
• 8:06
  back
• 8:06
  on
• 8:07
  board.
• 8:07
  Right?
• 8:07
  Right.
• 8:08
  I'm
• 8:08
  building
• 8:09
  something
• 8:09
  actually
• 8:09
  really
• 8:10
  successful
• 8:10
  and
• 8:11
  it's
• 8:11
  like
• 8:11
  growing
• 8:11
  and
• 8:11
  like
• 8:12
  I'm
• 8:12
  reaching
• 8:12
  people
• 8:12
  and
• 8:13
  people
• 8:13
  see,
• 8:14
  see
• 8:14
  what
• 8:14
  I'm
• 8:14
  doing
• 8:14
  now
• 8:15
  because
• 8:15
  at
• 8:15
  first
• 8:15
  they
• 8:16
  were
• 8:16
  like
• 8:16
  cringing.
• 8:16
  They
• 8:17
  were
• 8:17
  like,
• 8:17
  what
• 8:17
  is
• 8:17
  she
• 8:17
  doing?
• 8:18
  Huh?
• 8:20
  Well,
• 8:20
  you.
• 8:20
  I
• 8:20
  was
• 8:21
  going
• 8:21
  like,
• 8:21
  what
• 8:21
  am
• 8:22
  I
• 8:22
  doing?
• 8:22
  Yes.
• 8:23
  Well,
• 8:23
  you
• 8:23
  also
• 8:24
  like
• 8:24
  took
• 8:25
  the
• 8:25
  step
• 8:25
  to
• 8:26
  do
• 8:26
  it.
• 8:26
  You,
• 8:26
  you
• 8:27
  know,
• 8:27
  and
• 8:27
  like
• 8:28
  a
• 8:28
  lot
• 8:28
  of
• 8:28
  times
• 8:28
  people,
• 8:29
  that
• 8:29
  even
• 8:30
  scares
• 8:30
  people,
• 8:30
  you
• 8:31
  know,
• 8:31
  they're
• 8:31
  like,
• 8:31
  oh
• 8:32
  God,
• 8:32
  she
• 8:32
  took
• 8:32
  the
• 8:32
  chance.
• 8:33
  And
• 8:33
  like,
• 8:33
  because
• 8:34
  maybe
• 8:34
  they
• 8:34
  wanted
• 8:35
  to
• 8:35
  do
• 8:35
  that
• 8:35
  too
• 8:35
  and
• 8:36
  they
• 8:36
  haven't,
• 8:37
  you
• 8:37
  know.
• 8:38
  Yeah.
• 8:38
  It's
• 8:39
  so
• 8:39
  wild.
• 8:41
  Okay.
• 8:41
  Letting
• 8:42
  something
• 8:42
  slide.
• 8:43
  Because
• 8:43
  it's
• 8:43
  not
• 8:44
  a
• 8:44
  big
• 8:44
  deal.
• 8:44
  Even
• 8:44
  though
• 8:45
  it
• 8:45
  kind
• 8:45
  of
• 8:45
  is.
• 8:46
  It
• 8:46
  depends
• 8:47
  on
• 8:47
  what
• 8:47
  the
• 8:47
  big
• 8:48
  deal
• 8:48
  is.
• 8:49
  So
• 8:49
  here's
• 8:50
  my
• 8:50
  quick
• 8:50
  story
• 8:50
  about
• 8:51
  this
• 8:51
  one,
• 8:51
  which
• 8:51
  is
• 8:51
  so
• 8:52
  good.
• 8:52
  It's
• 8:52
  so
• 8:52
  good.
• 8:53
  So
• 8:53
  I
• 8:53
  came
• 8:54
  home
• 8:55
  from,
• 8:56
  I
• 8:56
  just,
• 8:56
  I
• 8:56
  hold
• 8:57
  circles.
• 8:57
  I
• 8:57
  have
• 8:57
  these
• 8:58
  circles
• 8:58
  that
• 8:59
  I
• 8:59
  do.
• 8:59
  And
• 9:00
  I
• 9:00
  came
• 9:00
  home
• 9:00
  from
• 9:00
  this
• 9:01
  two
• 9:01
  hour
• 9:01
  circle
• 9:01
  and
• 9:02
  it's,
• 9:02
  I
• 9:02
  just
• 9:03
  feel
• 9:03
  so
• 9:03
  alive
• 9:04
  in
• 9:04
  these
• 9:04
  circles
• 9:04
  and
• 9:04
  they're
• 9:05
  wonderful
• 9:05
  and
• 9:05
  they're
• 9:05
  beautiful.
• 9:06
  And
• 9:06
  I
• 9:06
  come
• 9:06
  home
• 9:07
  and
• 9:07
  Yuval
• 9:08
  has
• 9:08
  the
• 9:08
  kids
• 9:08
  and
• 9:08
  I
• 9:08
  walk
• 9:09
  into
• 9:09
  the
• 9:09
  kitchen
• 9:09
  and
• 9:09
  it's
• 9:10
  like
• 9:10
  a
• 9:10
  bomb
• 9:10
  blew
• 9:10
  up
• 9:11
  in
• 9:11
  the
• 9:11
  kitchen.
• 9:13
  I'm
• 9:14
  like,
• 9:15
  yeah,
• 9:15
  you're
• 9:16
  like,
• 9:16
  what
• 9:16
  the.
• 9:18
  Like,
• 9:18
  doing
• 9:19
  this.
• 9:19
  Like,
• 9:19
  oh,
• 9:20
  why
• 9:20
  did
• 9:20
  he
• 9:20
  not
• 9:21
  do
• 9:21
  the
• 9:21
  kitchen?
• 9:21
  Why
• 9:22
  didn't
• 9:22
  he.
• 9:22
  Why
• 9:22
  didn't
• 9:22
  he
• 9:22
  just
• 9:23
  clean
• 9:23
  up
• 9:23
  the
• 9:23
  kitchen?
• 9:24
  Yes,
• 9:24
  yes.
• 9:25
  And
• 9:25
  it
• 9:25
  was
• 9:25
  like.
• 9:27
  And,
• 9:27
  and.
• 9:28
  And
• 9:28
  I'm
• 9:28
  right.
• 9:29
  Because
• 9:29
  he
• 9:29
  could
• 9:30
  just
• 9:30
  clean
• 9:30
  up
• 9:30
  the
• 9:30
  kitchen
• 9:31
  good.
• 9:32
  It
• 9:33
  was
• 9:33
  worth
• 9:33
  fighting
• 9:33
  for
• 9:34
  because
• 9:35
  why
• 9:35
  couldn't
• 9:35
  he
• 9:35
  just
• 9:35
  do
• 9:36
  the
• 9:36
  thing?
• 9:36
  Like,
• 9:36
  it's
• 9:36
  not
• 9:37
  that
• 9:37
  hard.
• 9:38
  But
• 9:38
  I
• 9:38
  was
• 9:38
  just
• 9:38
  like.
• 9:38
  Then
• 9:39
  I.
• 9:39
  Then
• 9:39
  I.
• 9:39
  I
• 9:39
  was
• 9:39
  like.
• 9:40
  And
• 9:40
  then
• 9:40
  I
• 9:40
  was
• 9:40
  like,
• 9:40
  did
• 9:40
  you
• 9:41
  take
• 9:41
  the
• 9:41
  dog
• 9:41
  on
• 9:41
  a
• 9:41
  walk?
• 9:41
  And
• 9:42
  he
• 9:42
  was
• 9:42
  like,
• 9:42
  no,
• 9:42
  I
• 9:42
  was
• 9:43
  just
• 9:43
  shut
• 9:43
  my
• 9:43
  mouth.
• 9:43
  I've
• 9:44
  learned
• 9:44
  to
• 9:44
  zip
• 9:44
  my
• 9:44
  mouth.
• 9:45
  Okay,
• 9:45
  take
• 9:46
  a
• 9:46
  beat.
• 9:46
  Take
• 9:46
  a
• 9:47
  beat.
• 9:47
  And
• 9:47
  I
• 9:48
  walk
• 9:48
  the
• 9:48
  dog.
• 9:48
  And
• 9:49
  I
• 9:49
  came
• 9:49
  back
• 9:50
  and
• 9:50
  I
• 9:50
  took
• 9:50
  a
• 9:50
  deep
• 9:51
  breath.
• 9:51
  When
• 9:51
  I
• 9:52
  came
• 9:52
  back
• 9:52
  in,
• 9:52
  I
• 9:52
  heard
• 9:53
  exactly
• 9:53
  what
• 9:53
  I
• 9:53
  needed
• 9:53
  to
• 9:54
  hear.
• 9:54
  I
• 9:55
  heard
• 9:55
  him
• 9:55
  laughing
• 9:55
  with
• 9:56
  the
• 9:56
  kids
• 9:56
  upstairs
• 9:57
  and
• 9:57
  having
• 9:58
  the
• 9:58
  best
• 9:58
  night,
• 9:59
  and
• 9:59
  they
• 10:00
  had
• 10:00
  his
• 10:00
  attention,
• 10:01
  and
• 10:02
  I
• 10:02
  just
• 10:02
  didn't
• 10:03
  need
• 10:03
  to
• 10:03
  fight
• 10:03
  the
• 10:03
  battle.
• 10:06
  And
• 10:06
  so
• 10:06
  I
• 10:06
  walked
• 10:06
  into
• 10:07
  the
• 10:07
  kitchen
• 10:07
  and
• 10:08
  I
• 10:08
  just
• 10:08
  did
• 10:08
  the
• 10:08
  dishes.
• 10:09
  And
• 10:10
  by
• 10:10
  the
• 10:10
  way,
• 10:10
  I
• 10:10
  kind
• 10:10
  of
• 10:11
  like
• 10:11
  doing
• 10:11
  the
• 10:11
  dishes.
• 10:12
  Pausing
• 10:12
  is.
• 10:12
  Is
• 10:13
  like
• 10:13
  a
• 10:13
  major,
• 10:14
  major,
• 10:14
  major
• 10:15
  tool
• 10:16
  that
• 10:16
  is
• 10:17
  never
• 10:17
  really
• 10:17
  talked
• 10:18
  about,
• 10:18
  but
• 10:18
  it's
• 10:18
  like
• 10:18
  one
• 10:18
  of
• 10:19
  the
• 10:19
  greatest
• 10:19
  gifts
• 10:19
  of
• 10:19
  my
• 10:20
  life.
• 10:20
  And
• 10:21
  last
• 10:21
  one,
• 10:22
  not
• 10:22
  bringing
• 10:23
  something
• 10:23
  up
• 10:23
  because
• 10:24
  you
• 10:24
  don't
• 10:24
  want
• 10:25
  to
• 10:25
  shift
• 10:25
  the
• 10:25
  dynamic
• 10:27
  aligned
• 10:27
  or
• 10:28
  out
• 10:28
  of
• 10:28
  alignment.
• 10:29
  I
• 10:30
  will
• 10:30
  bring
• 10:30
  it
• 10:30
  up
• 10:31
  if
• 10:32
  I'm
• 10:32
  asked.
• 10:33
  Okay.
• 10:34
  If
• 10:35
  you're
• 10:35
  asked,
• 10:36
  it's
• 10:36
  not
• 10:36
  any
• 10:36
  of
• 10:36
  my
• 10:36
  business.
• 10:37
  I
• 10:37
  can't
• 10:37
  bring
• 10:37
  it
• 10:38
  up.
• 10:38
  So
• 10:38
  it
• 10:39
  depends
• 10:40
  if
• 10:40
  it's
• 10:40
  none
• 10:40
  of
• 10:40
  my
• 10:40
  business.
• 10:41
  I
• 10:41
  think
• 10:41
  sometimes
• 10:42
  we
• 10:43
  as
• 10:43
  human
• 10:44
  beings
• 10:45
  want
• 10:45
  to
• 10:45
  insert
• 10:46
  ourselves
• 10:46
  in
• 10:46
  something
• 10:47
  that's
• 10:47
  none
• 10:47
  of
• 10:47
  our
• 10:47
  business.
• 10:48
  That's.
• 10:48
  You're
• 10:49
  right.
• 10:49
  That's
• 10:49
  human
• 10:49
  nature.
• 10:50
  Right.
• 10:50
  To
• 10:50
  kind
• 10:50
  of
• 10:50
  get
• 10:50
  in
• 10:51
  there
• 10:51
  and.
• 10:52
  And
• 10:53
  I
• 10:53
  think
• 10:53
  I
• 10:53
  can
• 10:53
  fix
• 10:53
  it
• 10:54
  for
• 10:54
  people.
• 10:54
  Right,
• 10:55
  Right.
• 10:56
  And
• 10:56
  I
• 10:56
  think
• 10:56
  I
• 10:56
  have
• 10:56
  the
• 10:57
  solution.
• 10:57
  And
• 10:57
  I
• 10:57
  may
• 10:58
  have
• 10:58
  the
• 10:58
  solution.
• 10:59
  So
• 10:59
  it
• 11:00
  just
• 11:00
  depends.
• 11:00
  Yeah.
• 11:01
  If.
• 11:01
  If,
• 11:01
  if
• 11:01
  I
• 11:02
  always
• 11:02
  ask
• 11:02
  somebody,
• 11:03
  like,
• 11:03
  do
• 11:03
  you
• 11:03
  want
• 11:04
  my
• 11:04
  opinion?
• 11:05
  Want
• 11:06
  me
• 11:06
  to
• 11:06
  just
• 11:06
  listen?
• 11:07
  I
• 11:08
  can
• 11:08
  be.
• 11:08
  I
• 11:08
  can
• 11:08
  play
• 11:08
  both
• 11:09
  roles.
• 11:09
  And
• 11:10
  a
• 11:10
  listening
• 11:10
  role
• 11:11
  is
• 11:11
  just
• 11:11
  as
• 11:11
  powerful
• 11:12
  as
• 11:13
  a
• 11:13
  giving
• 11:14
  advice
• 11:14
  role.
• 11:15
  So
• 11:16
  what
• 11:16
  if
• 11:16
  you
• 11:16
  see
• 11:17
  a
• 11:17
  good
• 11:17
  friend
• 11:17
  struggling
• 11:19
  but
• 11:19
  they're
• 11:19
  not
• 11:20
  asking
• 11:20
  for
• 11:20
  help?
• 11:21
  Like,
• 11:22
  what
• 11:22
  do
• 11:22
  you
• 11:22
  do
• 11:22
  in
• 11:22
  a
• 11:22
  situation
• 11:23
  like
• 11:23
  that?
• 11:23
  Like,
• 11:24
  if
• 11:24
  you
• 11:24
  really.
• 11:25
  If
• 11:25
  you
• 11:25
  want
• 11:25
  to
• 11:26
  give
• 11:26
  them
• 11:26
  help
• 11:26
  or
• 11:26
  you
• 11:27
  think
• 11:27
  you
• 11:27
  might
• 11:27
  know
• 11:27
  something
• 11:28
  that
• 11:28
  might
• 11:28
  be
• 11:28
  helpful,
• 11:29
  but
• 11:30
  they're
• 11:30
  struggling
• 11:30
  and
• 11:30
  they're
• 11:31
  not
• 11:31
  asking
• 11:31
  you
• 11:31
  for
• 11:32
  help,
• 11:32
  what
• 11:32
  do
• 11:32
  you
• 11:32
  do?
• 11:33
  I
• 11:33
  listen
• 11:34
  to
• 11:34
  them
• 11:35
  and
• 11:35
  I'll
• 11:35
  reflect
• 11:36
  back
• 11:36
  maybe
• 11:36
  what
• 11:37
  they've
• 11:37
  said
• 11:38
  and
• 11:38
  give
• 11:38
  empathy
• 11:38
  and
• 11:39
  validation
• 11:39
  for
• 11:39
  their
• 11:40
  experience.
• 11:41
  And
• 11:41
  from
• 11:41
  that
• 11:42
  place
• 11:43
  ignites
• 11:43
  more
• 11:44
  conversation.
• 11:45
  So
• 11:45
  the
• 11:45
  reflection
• 11:46
  circles
• 11:46
  that
• 11:46
  I
• 11:47
  lead
• 11:47
  are
• 11:48
  one
• 11:48
  of
• 11:49
  the
• 11:49
  most
• 11:49
  powerful
• 11:49
  practices
• 11:50
  that
• 11:50
  I
• 11:50
  have
• 11:50
  also.
• 11:51
  I
• 11:51
  mean
• 11:51
  there's
• 11:51
  so
• 11:51
  many
• 11:52
  and
• 11:52
  so
• 11:52
  many
• 11:52
  circles,
• 11:53
  many.
• 11:53
  But
• 11:54
  this
• 11:54
  is,
• 11:54
  this
• 11:54
  is
• 11:54
  a,
• 11:55
  a,
• 11:55
  a,
• 11:55
  a
• 11:56
  safe
• 11:56
  container
• 11:57
  where
• 11:57
  women
• 11:57
  come
• 11:58
  and
• 11:59
  they
• 11:59
  get
• 11:59
  to
• 12:00
  share
• 12:01
  on
• 12:01
  the
• 12:02
  prompts
• 12:02
  that
• 12:02
  I
• 12:02
  give.
• 12:03
  And
• 12:04
  what
• 12:04
  comes
• 12:04
  out
• 12:04
  are
• 12:05
  life
• 12:05
  experiences
• 12:06
  and
• 12:06
  things
• 12:06
  that
• 12:06
  are
• 12:06
  women,
• 12:07
  that
• 12:07
  women
• 12:07
  are
• 12:07
  going
• 12:07
  through.
• 12:08
  And
• 12:09
  the
• 12:09
  container
• 12:10
  is
• 12:10
  no
• 12:10
  advice
• 12:10
  giving
• 12:11
  at
• 12:11
  all.
• 12:12
  No
• 12:12
  advice.
• 12:13
  And
• 12:13
  there's
• 12:13
  no
• 12:13
  same
• 12:14
  sameing.
• 12:14
  You
• 12:14
  can't
• 12:14
  say
• 12:15
  that
• 12:15
  happened
• 12:15
  to
• 12:15
  me
• 12:15
  too.
• 12:16
  You
• 12:17
  keep
• 12:17
  the
• 12:17
  entire
• 12:18
  experience
• 12:18
  with
• 12:18
  the
• 12:19
  person
• 12:19
  and
• 12:19
  ultimately
• 12:20
  what
• 12:20
  happens
• 12:20
  is
• 12:23
  there's
• 12:23
  like
• 12:23
  a
• 12:23
  healing
• 12:24
  that
• 12:24
  happens.
• 12:25
  And
• 12:25
  they
• 12:25
  almost
• 12:25
  figure
• 12:26
  it
• 12:26
  out
• 12:26
  themselves
• 12:27
  by
• 12:27
  talking
• 12:27
  and
• 12:28
  then
• 12:28
  having
• 12:28
  everyone
• 12:28
  reflect
• 12:29
  back
• 12:29
  and
• 12:29
  give
• 12:30
  validation
• 12:30
  for
• 12:31
  where
• 12:31
  they're
• 12:31
  at.
• 12:32
  And
• 12:32
  then
• 12:33
  from
• 12:33
  that
• 12:33
  place
• 12:33
  they
• 12:34
  can
• 12:34
  say,
• 12:34
  oh,
• 12:34
  I
• 12:34
  do,
• 12:35
  I
• 12:35
  want,
• 12:35
  I
• 12:35
  want
• 12:35
  somebody's
• 12:36
  opinion
• 12:36
  or
• 12:36
  advice.
• 12:37
  I
• 12:37
  don't
• 12:38
  really
• 12:38
  give
• 12:38
  my
• 12:38
  opinion
• 12:39
  often
• 12:39
  unless
• 12:39
  I'm
• 12:40
  hired
• 12:40
  to
• 12:40
  do
• 12:40
  it
• 12:41
  or
• 12:42
  somebody
• 12:43
  asks
• 12:43
  me
• 12:43
  for
• 12:43
  their
• 12:43
  opinion.
• 12:44
  And
• 12:44
  usually
• 12:44
  when
• 12:45
  I
• 12:45
  insert
• 12:45
  my
• 12:45
  opinion,
• 12:46
  it's
• 12:46
  not
• 12:46
  well
• 12:46
  received.
• 12:47
  They
• 12:47
  don't
• 12:47
  want
• 12:47
  to
• 12:47
  hear
• 12:47
  it.
• 12:48
  Huh.
• 12:48
  People
• 12:49
  don't.
• 12:50
  And
• 12:51
  then
• 12:51
  I
• 12:51
  just
• 12:51
  have
• 12:51
  to
• 12:51
  say
• 12:51
  it's
• 12:51
  not
• 12:52
  mine.
• 12:52
  Like
• 12:53
  as
• 12:53
  much
• 12:54
  as
• 12:54
  hard
• 12:54
  as
• 12:54
  it
• 12:54
  is,
• 12:55
  like,
• 12:56
  you
• 12:57
  know,
• 12:58
  and
• 12:58
  when
• 12:58
  it
• 12:58
  comes
• 12:58
  to
• 12:59
  kids,
• 12:59
  it's
• 12:59
  even
• 12:59
  harder.
• 13:01
  Gosh,
• 13:01
  tell
• 13:02
  me
• 13:02
  about
• 13:02
  it.
• 13:02
  I
• 13:02
  mean,
• 13:03
  God
• 13:03
  bless
• 13:03
  us.
• 13:03
  I
• 13:03
  mean
• 13:03
  I
• 13:04
  got
• 13:04
  to
• 13:04
  have
• 13:04
  a
• 13:05
  11
• 13:05
  year
• 13:05
  old
• 13:05
  in
• 13:06
  two
• 13:06
  years
• 13:06
  with
• 13:06
  a
• 13:07
  girl,
• 13:07
  so
• 13:08
  God
• 13:08
  bless
• 13:08
  you
• 13:08
  because
• 13:09
  she's
• 13:09
  already
• 13:09
  hard.
• 13:10
  Yes.
• 13:11
  The
• 13:11
  pre,
• 13:12
  like.
• 13:15
  The
• 13:15
  pre
• 13:15
  teens
• 13:16
  hit
• 13:16
  hard,
• 13:16
  you
• 13:17
  know,
• 13:17
  I
• 13:17
  mean
• 13:17
  it's,
• 13:17
  it's
• 13:18
  a
• 13:18
  whole
• 13:18
  other
• 13:18
  ball
• 13:19
  game,
• 13:19
  you
• 13:19
  know,
• 13:20
  different,
• 13:21
  different
• 13:21
  time
• 13:22
  and
• 13:22
  hormones
• 13:23
  and
• 13:23
  all
• 13:24
  the
• 13:24
  things,
• 13:24
  you
• 13:25
  know,
• 13:25
  I
• 13:25
  know.
• 13:26
  God
• 13:26
  help
• 13:26
  us.