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1 HOUR OF P.O.W.E.R. WQUEEN ANGELA EVERY MONDAY 9AM · DA CREW Podcast

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Speaker 1: Ladies and gentlemen, I have your attention. Please the show
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Speaker 1: starts in life Okay seven six hard shoot, Monday Cool.
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Speaker 2: Well, Hello, Hello, and good morning, Good morning, and welcome
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Speaker 2: to Monday Morning Motivation, your hour of power. I tell
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Speaker 2: you you got to know that you are a positioned
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Speaker 2: to be an overcomer because you are a willing vessel
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Speaker 2: to educate, empower and encourage through your resilience. Understand the
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Speaker 2: power that you possess, Know that you are powerful, and
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Speaker 2: know that you have the power to speak life or death.
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Speaker 2: And now I want you to know today I'm excited.
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Speaker 2: We have a very very special guest on today. Mary
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Speaker 2: Beth is going to be coming on and sharing with us.
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Speaker 2: We're gonna get to know Mary Beth, and she's gonna
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Speaker 2: drop some nuggets that can, you know, motivate you, not
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Speaker 2: only the rest of this week, motivate you for the
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Speaker 2: rest of the day, the rest of this week, and
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Speaker 2: maybe for the rest of the month in the year.
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Speaker 2: I'm telling you, hopefully she can drop some nuggets that's
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Speaker 2: gonna take you there.
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Speaker 3: So I want you to take.
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Speaker 2: A moment, share this with someone in your circle of influence,
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Speaker 2: get your notepath, get your pin and grab you a
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Speaker 2: beverleage so you can enjoy what's.
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Speaker 3: Gonna come forth on today.
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Speaker 2: So I'm gonna bring up my guests and we're gonna
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Speaker 2: dive in. You're gonna allow her to introduce herself on
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Speaker 2: this morning, very bad. How are you come on in
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Speaker 2: the room? Well, I got you turned around the other way.
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Speaker 2: That's not how I want you to turn. Let me
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Speaker 2: get you back on the screen, right, And y'all know
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Speaker 2: we're dealing with this new platform, so it's something new.
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Speaker 2: We're dealing with this this this year. We are we
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Speaker 2: are into our third season here on the Crew podcast,
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Speaker 2: and we're using a new platform. So I apologize, but
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Speaker 2: I had you upside down and I said, no, I
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Speaker 2: can't bring upside down. So I do apologize, and then again,
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Speaker 2: I have to let people know that we are human
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Speaker 2: and mistakes happen. So when these things happen, you know,
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Speaker 2: I love being live because when things happen, people can
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Speaker 2: see that mistakes happen. But we have to learn to adapt,
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Speaker 2: We have to learn to keep going, we have to
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Speaker 2: learn to push pasts. So I'm gonna move out the
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Speaker 2: way and I want to allow you to introduce yourself
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Speaker 2: if you would introduce yourself.
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Speaker 4: Man, sure, good morning everybody. My name is Mary Bethdillo
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Speaker 4: and I have been a registered nurse for almost forty
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Speaker 4: five years. I like to say I'm an oldie, but
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Speaker 4: a goodie, and i also have a master's degree in science,
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Speaker 4: so I'm sort of a science nerd. To really get
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Speaker 4: into it. I also wrote a book called Anti Aging
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Speaker 4: and Secrets of Healthy Living to stop the Clock. So
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Speaker 4: it is a guide to help people look younger, feel fantastic,
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Speaker 4: and wild the world, all without any kind of plastic
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Speaker 4: surgery or intractables and ideas you can fit into a
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Speaker 4: very busy lifestyle.
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Speaker 2: Now that's right up my alley. That is right up
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Speaker 2: my alley because in March, in two months, i will
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Speaker 2: be turning fifty and I'm definitely trying to not look
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Speaker 2: like so you are right on time. So I'm definitely
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Speaker 2: going to be sitting over here taking some nuggets and
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Speaker 2: taking some news from that. Definitely nursing for all those years.
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Speaker 2: It takes a special person to be a nurse. So
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Speaker 2: what has that journey been like?
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Speaker 4: Well, I think I've I came a nurse because I
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Speaker 4: was fascinated with the body, so I wanted to learn
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Speaker 4: more about the body. And you know, I think the
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Speaker 4: thing I love about nursing is there's something for everybody.
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Speaker 4: There's all different specialties, all different areas that you can
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Speaker 4: work in nursing. It's a fantastic career because you can
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Speaker 4: work full time, you can work part time. It's a
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Speaker 4: very versatile career. So I started out probably the first
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Speaker 4: ten years, I specialized in mental health nursing, and so
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Speaker 4: I worked in you know, the regular hospitals, and I
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Speaker 4: like the type of nursing where you're working with other
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Speaker 4: disciplines like social workers, rehab therapists, dietitians, and so after
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Speaker 4: spending ten years in mental health nursing, I sort of
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Speaker 4: morphed over into another are interdisciplinary type of nursing, which
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Speaker 4: was rehab nursing. So that's that's what I've been spending
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Speaker 4: like the last thirty five years on is to rehab nursing.
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Speaker 3: That's amazing. Rehab nursing.
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Speaker 2: That takes a very very special person because you're dealing
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Speaker 2: with people that are having to regain the use of
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Speaker 2: things that they have lost for various reasons. And that
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Speaker 2: takes a special person because it takes patience and it
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Speaker 2: takes someone that will be able to motivate that individual
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Speaker 2: and encourage them and uplift them. So that takes a
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Speaker 2: very special person. What has that journey been like being
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Speaker 2: a rehab nurse? Because right now we have a host
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Speaker 2: on the network that had a massive stroke two and
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Speaker 2: a half years ago.
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Speaker 3: Now she's still.
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Speaker 2: Unable to walk, she's still be it reading pretty much.
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Speaker 2: Just recently she was able to set up on her own,
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Speaker 2: so she's she's striving. But that has to be hard
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Speaker 2: to on you.
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Speaker 3: How how has just that journey being for you?
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Speaker 4: Yeah, you know, I think there's been a lot of
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Speaker 4: advances since when I started with rehab nursing, so there
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Speaker 4: are I'd say, there's more hope. I think also having
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Speaker 4: so many years as a mental health nurse, I think
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Speaker 4: that's probably one of the biggest challenges that people go through,
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Speaker 4: as if there is a change in your mobility or
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Speaker 4: your ability to speak of, how do you deal with
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Speaker 4: it and you know, get through the process to whatever
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Speaker 4: level of function you can return to. So I think
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Speaker 4: keeping people motivated, inspired, wanting to continue what they need
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Speaker 4: to do is a big part of what we do, because,
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Speaker 4: like I said, people can have a massive change in
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Speaker 4: their lifestyle. And you know, where I work, it's with
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Speaker 4: people that are in a rehab center, you know, hoping
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Speaker 4: to make enough progress to return home. But I think
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Speaker 4: just you know a lot of people just they get depressed.
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Speaker 4: You know, it's it's like it's not easy to go
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Speaker 4: through rehab. So I think encouraging them, focusing on what
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Speaker 4: people can do versus not so much what they can't do,
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Speaker 4: and just trying to instill hope and a positive outlook
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Speaker 4: with them.
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Speaker 2: So I have a so a little bit about me
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Speaker 2: really quick, so I can jump into this story because
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Speaker 2: I really want to get your input because I have
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Speaker 2: a I am a author as well, so I have
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Speaker 2: I'm connected to a lot of authors and right now
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Speaker 2: we're doing a movement called the Wandered Author Movement where
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Speaker 2: we have a whole bunch of authors. She's coming together
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Speaker 2: and you know, we're just working together, network and collaborating
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Speaker 2: and just trying to.
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Speaker 3: Push each other.
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Speaker 2: Where I have an author where her son who is
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Speaker 2: an adult, about three years ago, it may not even
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Speaker 2: be three years ago, it maybe two years ago, he
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Speaker 2: lost sight and she went through a grieving process, like
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Speaker 2: she really grieved because you know, her having to deal
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Speaker 2: with and help because now she's one of the main helpers.
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Speaker 2: She's not I'm not gonna say she's his caregiver because
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Speaker 2: he doesn't really need her full time, but support and help.
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Speaker 2: She's the main person that's there. He's also the full
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Speaker 2: guardian of two girls, one of them, one of the
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Speaker 2: little girls, plays basketball, and he was her coach, so
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Speaker 2: having to do that. He still tried to coach her,
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Speaker 2: but losing his sight and not being able to do
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Speaker 2: the things that he was able to do with her,
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Speaker 2: that has really been a transition for them. And I
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Speaker 2: oftentimes want to, you know, I'll be wanting to say stuff,
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Speaker 2: but I don't even half of the time know what
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Speaker 2: to say to her because of that, you know, and
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Speaker 2: I sympathize, but I really don't know what to say.
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Speaker 2: What do you say to someone that they've been cited
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Speaker 2: all this time and then because of medical issues, they
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Speaker 2: lose their sight and they having to adapt to this,
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Speaker 2: and then the people around them are having to adapt
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Speaker 2: to it. So it's like a whole different grief process.
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Speaker 4: You're right, there is a grief process that people go through,
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Speaker 4: I think just and a lot of times people don't
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Speaker 4: know what to say but just saying you know, how
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Speaker 4: are you doing? You know, and listening to people trying
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Speaker 4: not to do platitudes. You know, it'll get better, you know.
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Speaker 4: I mean that the things that people say, I think
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Speaker 4: just letting or saying is there anything I can do
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Speaker 4: to support you? You know? And then I do think
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Speaker 4: sometimes when people are going through things, it's hard at
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Speaker 4: times for people to reach out to other people. I
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Speaker 4: have this section in my book called No Woman is
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Speaker 4: an Island, and it happened to a family member where
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Speaker 4: they were very very ill in the hospital for over
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Speaker 4: a week and this person didn't want any help when
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Speaker 4: they got home, saide no, no, no, I can do it all,
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Speaker 4: and they couldn't. I think sometimes being willing to say Okay,
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Speaker 4: I will accept help, and I think what the support
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Speaker 4: system can do sometimes instead of saying how can I
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Speaker 4: support you? And that's good, But if you can tell
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Speaker 4: that somebody needs something, just start doing things like okay,
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Speaker 4: I'm bringing you dinner okay instead of that, or you know,
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Speaker 4: can I come over and cut your grass? You know,
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Speaker 4: what can I do to help you? And just start
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Speaker 4: doing things for the person, because when they're going through that,
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Speaker 4: sometimes they don't even know what they need, or they
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Speaker 4: don't want to ask for help, they don't want to
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Speaker 4: bother anybody. So I do think there may be people
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Speaker 4: who say, yeah, I could use someone to make dinner,
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Speaker 4: I could use someone to cut the grass or watch
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Speaker 4: the kids. And I think that's important not only for
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Speaker 4: the person going through the issue, but the support people
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Speaker 4: around them. Sometimes they just need a break, you know,
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Speaker 4: somebody because you know kids, or they're they're watching over
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Speaker 4: the person that went through something, just to say, you know,
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Speaker 4: I'm going to come over for an hour, I'm going
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Speaker 4: to watch the kids, or I'm going to sit with
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Speaker 4: you know, Danny, Well, you can go and do whatever
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Speaker 4: you want. Go for a walk, go in the room
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Speaker 4: and meditate. You know, if you have five errands you
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Speaker 4: have to run, go and do them without being stressed out.
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Speaker 4: So I think trying to think of creative ways to
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Speaker 4: support people. But you're right, it's hard to know what
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Speaker 4: to say. But I think, just you know, I'm here
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Speaker 4: for you. You know what's it feel like? What are
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Speaker 4: you going through? Is important for someone?
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Speaker 3: Yeah, like you said, just being able to listen.
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Speaker 2: You know, I've learned how to, you know, not say
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Speaker 2: something all the time when I don't when I don't
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Speaker 2: know what to say, to just listen and to allow
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Speaker 2: them to talk. And then once they begin to talk
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Speaker 2: and begin to have that conversation, then I can kind
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Speaker 2: of play off for what they say and what they
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Speaker 2: are relaying to me. That's what I have learned over
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Speaker 2: the years, to not talk all the time, to just
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Speaker 2: listen and allow them to get it out. My main
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Speaker 2: thing with this particular family is, you know, how do
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Speaker 2: I support the mom who does everything that you says
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Speaker 2: for the individual. She she goes over and the board
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Speaker 2: to make sure that you know, they have things that
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Speaker 2: they have, meals. She even go and stay weeks at
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Speaker 2: a time with them to make sure that you know,
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Speaker 2: the girls are able to you know, get back and forth,
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Speaker 2: and then he's able to have his time to himself.
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Speaker 2: You know, you know, just different things that I've watched
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Speaker 2: her her do, and I just it's just so much
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Speaker 2: more that I want to do for her, but I
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Speaker 2: just don't know what to do. You know, I'm and
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Speaker 2: and just just and it be. It'd be like that
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Speaker 2: for a lot of people. We are starting a grief
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Speaker 2: podcast on the network starting in March, and it's gonna
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Speaker 2: be it's only gonna be four shows. It's gonna there's
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Speaker 2: gonna be two hour shows, but they're gonna be very
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Speaker 2: impacted because we have five co hosts that are gonna
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Speaker 2: be on and they're gonna be bringing individuals on. So
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Speaker 2: it's gonna be like a big two hour panel discussion
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Speaker 2: where individuals gonna be able to share and unload and
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Speaker 2: then they're gonna be able to get those resources and
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Speaker 2: they're gonna be able to get that support, you know,
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Speaker 2: because a lot of times we don't have that. No,
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Speaker 2: I want to talk about your book. Just listening you know,
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Speaker 2: you mentioned your book and just hearing just just a
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Speaker 2: little short synopsis you gave. Uh, well, the section that
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Speaker 2: you talked about it just made me want to, you know,
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Speaker 2: no more. And of course we want to know how
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Speaker 2: we can get so let's talk about your bloot.
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Speaker 4: Okay, Well, it is available on Amazon or Barnes and Noble,
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Speaker 4: so it is easily accessible, and I focus on five
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Speaker 4: different areas exercise, nutrition, self care. Like we were talking about.
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Speaker 4: I talk about skincare because as I mentioned, it doesn't
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Speaker 4: involve any kind of botox or injectibles or plastic surgery
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Speaker 4: as far as maintaining your skin different ideas, and then
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Speaker 4: also hair and makeup. But I think with the self care,
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Speaker 4: as you were mentioning the importance of just having some
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Speaker 4: downtime for yourself and trying to realize especially women, I
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Speaker 4: don't think women realize how important it is to have
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Speaker 4: some time every day, ideally just to focus on yourself.
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Speaker 4: And it's like on an airplane where they give you
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Speaker 4: the safety instructions and they say you put on your
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Speaker 4: oxygen mask first before you help anybody else. And I
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Speaker 4: think as women, we put the oxygen mask on everybody else.
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Speaker 4: I forget about ourselves. We burn the candle at both ends,
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Speaker 4: and then what happens is we're not good for ourselves
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Speaker 4: or anybody else. And I think it can be hard
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Speaker 4: to say, okay, even if it's fifteen minutes a day,
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Speaker 4: what am I going to do fifteen minutes? Or when
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Speaker 4: am I going to find that fifteen minutes every day?
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Speaker 4: And I some people are successful with maybe getting up
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Speaker 4: fifteen minutes earlier or before you go to bed, you know,
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Speaker 4: turning off the TV and just saying okay, if you
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Speaker 4: like to meditate, you can do the fifteen minutes of meditation.
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Speaker 4: You know, sometimes you can't find a whole hour. But
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Speaker 4: even if you have little kids, you know, if you
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Speaker 4: live in a household with other people and you're on
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Speaker 4: the go and you can't find any time, then enlist
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Speaker 4: your family members. I mean even little kids can fold
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Speaker 4: their own clothes. You know, you get them out of
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Speaker 4: their dryer and you say, okay, you know, Susie and Jimmy,
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Speaker 4: go ahead and fold your clothes and put them away.
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Speaker 4: Instead of you folding them and putting them away, or
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Speaker 4: just letting people know, I need this time to myself
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Speaker 4: so I can be a better roommate or mother, or
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Speaker 4: a lover or spouse and let people know, and I
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Speaker 4: think they will rally around you to do that, and
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Speaker 4: then whatever you do for your own self care. I
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Speaker 4: think the the power of positivity is very important. Of
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Speaker 4: Some people are just born and they're naturally optimists and
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Speaker 4: they always see the bright side. But a lot of
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Speaker 4: people aren't. And you know, if you say, oh, you know,
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Speaker 4: now this happened, now that happened, or oh I knew,
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Speaker 4: you know, to try to turn things around and reframe
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Speaker 4: your thinking so that it is more positive. If you're
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Speaker 4: an example would be if you're in a traffic jam. Okay,
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Speaker 4: there's an accident and you know, maybe you're going to
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Speaker 4: be an hour delayed or two hours delayed. Who is
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Speaker 4: I going to get kind of negative about that as
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Speaker 4: far as I'm stuck in this traffic jam. But if
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Speaker 4: you say, okay, let's try to put a positive twist
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Speaker 4: on it. I have a girlfriend that every time I call.
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Speaker 4: She doesn't live around me, so she lives in another state.
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Speaker 4: But every single time I call her, I cannot get
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Speaker 4: off the phone for at least an hour. So you
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Speaker 4: know what I do when I'm in a traffic jam,
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Speaker 4: I call her because it's hard to find that hour
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Speaker 4: otherwise to call her. And I'll call her and it's like, okay,
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Speaker 4: the time is flying. There's you know other things that
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Speaker 4: you could do. You could try to focus on. Maybe
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Speaker 4: you want to listen to a podcast or something to
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Speaker 4: her self improvement, okay, while you have an hour when
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Speaker 4: you're in the car to do that. So I even
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Speaker 4: and it's not easy, but even when you run into
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Speaker 4: crabby people, I think vocals an initial response would be
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Speaker 4: to be crabby back. You know, someone's rude to you
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Speaker 4: or they're not very nice, and if people think you know,
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Speaker 4: who are you and you know, why are you treating
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Speaker 4: me that way? Or someone cuts you off in traffic
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Speaker 4: and you think jerk. But if you try to again,
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Speaker 4: this is more the positivity aspect. You try to reframe
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Speaker 4: it and it's not easy, especially when it's sometimes it's
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Speaker 4: happening to you. But if there's someone who's being a
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Speaker 4: really crabby maybe salesperson to you, of trying to think, well, one,
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Speaker 4: thank goodness, I'm not feeling that way, but number two,
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Speaker 4: you don't know what happened to that person. You know,
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Speaker 4: we could have had a fight with an argument with
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Speaker 4: a child, or someone in their household and they're feeling
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Speaker 4: ment reuble or something else is going on in their life,
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Speaker 4: and you know they had to go to work and
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Speaker 4: they don't really want to be there. And I think
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Speaker 4: if you can take a couple of deep breaths and
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Speaker 4: think about it and maybe instead of responding in a
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Speaker 4: like manner to say it seems like you're having a
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Speaker 4: bad day, I hope it gets better for you. That
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Speaker 4: could completely change someone's day. Or if someone cuts you
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Speaker 4: off in traffic, instead of thinking what egg jerk or
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Speaker 4: getting right on their tail like some people do to
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Speaker 4: try to think I mean, I think back to when
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Speaker 4: I was a single mom and my kids were in
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Speaker 4: daycare and I had to get there by five o'clock
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Speaker 4: to pick them up, otherwise they charged you all these
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Speaker 4: extra fees every five minutes. You relate, and I know
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Speaker 4: I probably cut some people off at one point, you know,
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Speaker 4: trying to get there. I always think if somebody's cutting
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Speaker 4: me off, to try to think, you know, if they
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Speaker 4: might be trying to get to the hospital, they might
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Speaker 4: not even they might be frantic trying to make a
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Speaker 4: less turn and they didn't even see you when they
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Speaker 4: caught you off. I always try to think something more positive,
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Speaker 4: like I hope that person gets wherever they're going safely.
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Speaker 4: So to try to think that way instead of being
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Speaker 4: angry yourself or negative with people, because.
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Speaker 2: That negative, being negative it takes too much energy. I
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Speaker 2: like to be positive because it seems like when when
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Speaker 2: you're positive and you're giving off that positive energy, it
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Speaker 2: comes back.
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Speaker 3: So I like to stay positive.
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Speaker 2: What are three neggatives that you would offer from your
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Speaker 2: book that would motivate somebody to get up and go
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Speaker 2: to get up and to live, because you know, we
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Speaker 2: have the power to live and to have that energy
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Speaker 2: you talked about you know, agent and you know a
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Speaker 2: lot of us we don't look our age and it's
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Speaker 2: because of probably some of the things that you shared.
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Speaker 2: So what are some nuggets that you Because I'm turning
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Speaker 2: fifty and I don't want to feel like I'm sixty.
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Speaker 2: I don't want to feel like I'm seventy. I want
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Speaker 2: to feel energized. So what are some things that you
24:32
Speaker 2: would you would share with me as I turn a
24:36
Speaker 2: half a century?
24:38
Speaker 4: Well, happy birthday. I think one of the areas is
24:43
Speaker 4: making sure that we exercise. You know, you think when
24:46
Speaker 4: you're a kid, you're outside running around all the time.
24:50
Speaker 4: You might not have a car, so you're riding your
24:52
Speaker 4: bike places or walking places, or even when you're a
24:57
Speaker 4: young adult, you tend to be walking lot more. And
25:01
Speaker 4: as we get older, we either we feel like we
25:05
Speaker 4: don't have the time to do it, or you just
25:07
Speaker 4: jump in the car and go somewhere. Now, I know
25:11
Speaker 4: everyone's probably heard you're supposed to get like ten thousand steps,
25:15
Speaker 4: and you know that was a marketing advertisement by a
25:21
Speaker 4: company that made the pedometers, So there wasn't any research
25:25
Speaker 4: in this ten thousand steps when it came out, but
25:28
Speaker 4: they have done research afterwards. So the research shows if
25:34
Speaker 4: you get twenty seven hundred steps a day, which is
25:39
Speaker 4: maybe about a mile maybe a little more, your risk
25:43
Speaker 4: of dying early goes down by eight percent, and then
25:47
Speaker 4: cardiovascular events like stroke and heart attacks goes down by
25:52
Speaker 4: eleven percent. So that's good to get a little bit
25:54
Speaker 4: of movement, but really the sweet spot is nine thousand steps.
25:59
Speaker 4: If you get nine one thousand steps, your risk of
26:01
Speaker 4: dying early goes down by sixty percent and your risk
26:05
Speaker 4: of cardiovascular events by fifty one percent. So it's like, okay,
26:10
Speaker 4: how do you get those steps in? You know, if
26:13
Speaker 4: you don't have an hour to go to the gym,
26:15
Speaker 4: what do you do to try to get those steps
26:17
Speaker 4: in during the day. I always recommend I wear a
26:21
Speaker 4: step tracker. I love the little fit fit thing here.
26:25
Speaker 4: It's some people like Apple, some phones automatically track your steps.
26:29
Speaker 4: There's just you know, you don't even have to buy something.
26:33
Speaker 4: But some tips are if you go to the grocery store,
26:38
Speaker 4: you work in an office, park as far away as
26:40
Speaker 4: you can, you know, instead of trying to find that
26:43
Speaker 4: parking spot that's up close, park as far away as
26:46
Speaker 4: you can, and then your car's not going to get dinged,
26:49
Speaker 4: and you'll probably get an extra five hundred steps in.
26:53
Speaker 4: The Other thing is if you have to, if you
26:56
Speaker 4: work in an office, think about getting up and going
27:00
Speaker 4: and talking to your colleague versus sending an email. It'll
27:04
Speaker 4: get you up, it'll get you move in a little bit,
27:07
Speaker 4: you'll get some steps in. Another good rule of thumb
27:11
Speaker 4: is to if you're taking the steps, to walk up
27:16
Speaker 4: one story and then walk down too. So even if
27:20
Speaker 4: you have to go to the fifth floor, you can
27:21
Speaker 4: take the elevator to the fourth and then walk up,
27:24
Speaker 4: and then when you're leaving, you can walk down. So
27:27
Speaker 4: those are some ways. If I know I'm going to
27:30
Speaker 4: be super busy and it's like, okay, how am I
27:34
Speaker 4: going to get my exercise in? I will strap leg
27:38
Speaker 4: weights onto my ankles if I'm at home and I'm
27:42
Speaker 4: running around. Sometimes I even wear them out to the store.
27:46
Speaker 4: People look at you like, how are you doing? You're
27:49
Speaker 4: wearing these leg weights, But I'm like, hey, I'm getting
27:51
Speaker 4: my exercise in. Or if I'm brushing my teeth, I
27:56
Speaker 4: will do squats or leg lifts, so you're combining it
28:01
Speaker 4: so with my electric toothbrush, it's two minutes in the
28:04
Speaker 4: morning and two minutes in the evening, so at least
28:07
Speaker 4: I'm getting four minutes in. So those are some things
28:11
Speaker 4: to you know, exercise and try to get your exercise
28:16
Speaker 4: in during the day. I think another thing that's important
28:23
Speaker 4: is hydrating. So when you're hydrating, if you have as
28:31
Speaker 4: little as a two percent loss in the fluid that
28:37
Speaker 4: your body needs, it impacts your mood, your memory, and
28:43
Speaker 4: your response time. And what people don't realize is you know,
28:48
Speaker 4: in the afternoon, when you get tired, you think, oh,
28:50
Speaker 4: I need a cup of coffee or I want a
28:54
Speaker 4: candy bar or something to wake me up and give
28:56
Speaker 4: me energy. A lot of times what people are is dehydrated.
29:02
Speaker 4: So what you really need is a glass of water.
29:06
Speaker 4: So that glass of water would it plumps everything up,
29:11
Speaker 4: It plumps your skin up, so that that looks good.
29:16
Speaker 4: If you're taking in an a fluid, you're going to
29:19
Speaker 4: feel full and it's associated if you're well hydrated, people
29:24
Speaker 4: take in less added sugar, cholesterol, and fat laden food.
29:32
Speaker 4: So it's like, how do you get your your fluid in?
29:37
Speaker 4: So one of the things that I do is at
29:40
Speaker 4: my bedside, I'll have a cup of water so that
29:44
Speaker 4: when I wake up in the morning, I try to
29:47
Speaker 4: drink like the water, which is like at least eight
29:50
Speaker 4: ounces there before I have my coffee, because coffee is dehydrating.
29:56
Speaker 4: So you can at least get a glass in that
29:58
Speaker 4: way and then and maybe try to drink half a
30:01
Speaker 4: glass before your meals so it fills you up. Plus
30:05
Speaker 4: you're being hydrated and just thinking about it during the day.
30:10
Speaker 4: If you think in the afternoon, Okay, I'm feeling a
30:14
Speaker 4: little tired, maybe I'm going to try what Mary Beth
30:16
Speaker 4: said and have a glass of water and then, you know,
30:20
Speaker 4: some people don't like tap water, but there are things
30:23
Speaker 4: you can do. You can make a picture of it
30:26
Speaker 4: and put a bunch of qcumbers in it like they
30:29
Speaker 4: have with the spa. You know, that's like spaw water.
30:32
Speaker 4: It's really good what it's called. Or some people like
30:35
Speaker 4: alkaline water. Alkaline water I find takes away my appetite
30:41
Speaker 4: and it's really like smooth. It's very easy to drink
30:46
Speaker 4: alkaline water. Some people like sparkling water, so they'll drink
30:51
Speaker 4: that instead. The other thing that I tried once on
30:55
Speaker 4: a camping trip was hot water. And you think, ew,
31:00
Speaker 4: who wants to just drink hot water? But at the
31:03
Speaker 4: hot water, you put some lemon in it. It's actually
31:07
Speaker 4: pretty good and kind of addicting. So depending on what
31:12
Speaker 4: the temperature is, the weather where you're at. These are
31:16
Speaker 4: just some ideas to get your work to hydrate and
31:20
Speaker 4: make sure you can get it in. So that's those
31:24
Speaker 4: are some tips on hydration.
31:28
Speaker 2: Wow, and I love to walk so exercising. I used
31:34
Speaker 2: to be like that they got me with the ten
31:37
Speaker 2: thousand steps because I used to be one of those
31:39
Speaker 2: I'm telling you they got me with the ten thousand
31:41
Speaker 2: steps because I used to be one of those people
31:43
Speaker 2: that you know, my phone, I got an app on
31:46
Speaker 2: my phone. And then not only that, they get all
31:47
Speaker 2: these apps in these different things now that they want
31:50
Speaker 2: to encourage you to get out and be active because.
31:52
Speaker 3: You can win.
31:54
Speaker 2: You can win different little things like you can get
31:57
Speaker 2: points for every step you take and points turned into
32:01
Speaker 2: like gift certificates and just different things like you can
32:04
Speaker 2: get a five dollar Amazon gift card for a certain
32:09
Speaker 2: amount of steps, and then they go up different levels.
32:11
Speaker 2: You go up different things, so they can go and
32:13
Speaker 2: buy your book, they can go and buy some old
32:15
Speaker 2: people book, they can go and support some office, go
32:17
Speaker 2: out walk. So I love to walk. I used to
32:22
Speaker 2: live in Murder Beach before I moved here. I lived
32:25
Speaker 2: at Murder Beach for five years, and I had this
32:29
Speaker 2: routine where we lived that there was a they had
32:33
Speaker 2: like a walking trail. So I would walk from my
32:37
Speaker 2: apartment complex through this subdivision to this walking trail. And
32:41
Speaker 2: once I walked that trail, I did well over five miles,
32:46
Speaker 2: well over ten thousand steps. I would walk all the
32:49
Speaker 2: way around the subdivision. And then they begin to build
32:52
Speaker 2: this other subdivision. So it was it was safe. You
32:55
Speaker 2: felt safe. So you would get out there and you
32:58
Speaker 2: would put your music on and you would start walking,
33:01
Speaker 2: and you'll forget and I'll be on walk and forget
33:04
Speaker 2: how far I walk. I be like, man, I got
33:06
Speaker 2: to walk back now. But I love walking and getting
33:11
Speaker 2: that that It's like you may be tired, and then
33:15
Speaker 2: when you start walking and you get out there and
33:18
Speaker 2: you get the moving, it's like when you get ready
33:21
Speaker 2: to go back, you got so much energy you want
33:23
Speaker 2: to go back and do something else. You don't even
33:24
Speaker 2: want to go back and sit down. You don't even
33:26
Speaker 2: that tiredness.
33:27
Speaker 3: It's gone.
33:28
Speaker 2: So I tell people it's just about getting up.
33:31
Speaker 3: And doing it.
33:32
Speaker 2: Even if you don't want to go out and like
33:36
Speaker 2: she say, get them twenty five hundred steps in that
33:40
Speaker 2: get Yeah.
33:41
Speaker 4: Twenty five hundred is better than none. Well, you know,
33:46
Speaker 4: one of the things I do in the evening if
33:49
Speaker 4: the weather isn't all that good, because I like to
33:52
Speaker 4: get my ten thousand and two is on my phone.
33:57
Speaker 4: If I want to be looking at like social media,
34:01
Speaker 4: I walk around the house and straw so I'm so
34:06
Speaker 4: I can get like half a mile or a mile
34:09
Speaker 4: walking around the house instead of just sitting and looking
34:12
Speaker 4: at my social media. That now everyone might I'll be
34:17
Speaker 4: able to move and look at it. But that's another
34:20
Speaker 4: way instead of me sitting there for fifteen minutes going
34:23
Speaker 4: through the social media, I can get my steps uff
34:27
Speaker 4: I need them at the end of the day.
34:30
Speaker 2: Right, It is so much that we could do to
34:34
Speaker 2: be active and to get the energy going and the
34:38
Speaker 2: energy flowing. You also talked about skin care. I hear
34:45
Speaker 2: a lot of people saying that things are breaking them out.
34:50
Speaker 3: You know, they're having dry skin.
34:53
Speaker 2: You know, they say they didn't have dry skin before
34:56
Speaker 2: and now they're developing dry skin. Do you give tips
34:59
Speaker 2: in your books about how we can you know, keep
35:03
Speaker 2: our skin. I guess hydrated and moisturized and stated and
35:10
Speaker 2: just you.
35:11
Speaker 3: Know, keep it looking young and beautiful.
35:15
Speaker 4: Yes, well, certainly hydration is one of the keys to
35:22
Speaker 4: keeping your skin plumped up and looking good. There are
35:26
Speaker 4: other things that that you can do. You know. A
35:31
Speaker 4: great moisturizer that people don't think about is coconut oil.
35:37
Speaker 4: Coconut oil absorbs very very well. Most people don't have
35:43
Speaker 4: a reaction to it, and so you don't want to
35:46
Speaker 4: use a lot of drying things on your face. But
35:49
Speaker 4: that's an option, is coconut oil. Certainly, if you're trying
35:54
Speaker 4: not to use hot water on your skin, whether it's
35:57
Speaker 4: in the shower or on your face, because that's more
36:01
Speaker 4: drying to try to try to use a more like
36:06
Speaker 4: lukewarm when you're washing your face or you're washing your body.
36:12
Speaker 4: And then there's other things for your face. One of
36:17
Speaker 4: the things that I have been doing, probably for thinking
36:20
Speaker 4: about this the other day, maybe ten years, is I
36:24
Speaker 4: go and I have acupuncture for my face. They stick
36:27
Speaker 4: a bunch of needles in my face once a month
36:30
Speaker 4: and that helps to produce collagen and get rid of
36:36
Speaker 4: my fine lines and wrinkles. And it's a little different
36:40
Speaker 4: than if you would use botox because the acupuncture, which
36:44
Speaker 4: has been around for ages, will maintain the natural shape
36:50
Speaker 4: of your face, where some of the other things changes
36:56
Speaker 4: what your face looks like. I know sometimes if you
36:58
Speaker 4: see people, you're like, that actress doesn't even look like
37:01
Speaker 4: they did, you know, because they might be using things
37:06
Speaker 4: that are changing the natural look of their face. The
37:10
Speaker 4: other thing that I do, and I sort of combine
37:15
Speaker 4: I sort of combine it with self care, is I
37:19
Speaker 4: use red light therapy. So the red light therapy you
37:22
Speaker 4: can get a piano, or you could get something that
37:26
Speaker 4: looks like a mask that you put on and you
37:29
Speaker 4: have it on your face like maybe ten minutes once
37:33
Speaker 4: a day, and then you build up then maybe maintaining
37:37
Speaker 4: it three times a week. But the red light therapy
37:41
Speaker 4: does a similar thing. It helps to produce collagen, It
37:45
Speaker 4: gets rid of some of the fine lines there. So
37:50
Speaker 4: those are some things for your skin that you can
37:55
Speaker 4: be doing and some things that you know are a
37:57
Speaker 4: little bit outside the box. Avoiding always using sunscreen. You
38:05
Speaker 4: just use your makeup that has at least some type
38:08
Speaker 4: of sunscreen in it, even if it's like SPF twenty
38:12
Speaker 4: to have something on or when you go outside to
38:15
Speaker 4: have a hat on, and think about the rest of
38:17
Speaker 4: your skin too. Sometimes people are really good about using
38:21
Speaker 4: a foundation or a face scream that has SPF protection,
38:27
Speaker 4: but they forget about the rest of their body and
38:30
Speaker 4: or they don't think of their neck and their chest area.
38:36
Speaker 4: But making sure and your hands. Sometimes your face can
38:39
Speaker 4: look real good, but your hands are aging from not
38:44
Speaker 4: using the sunscreen on it. So those those are some tips.
38:48
Speaker 4: And I really think the other thing that I use
38:51
Speaker 4: that is a gold standard is retinal products. Retine. Retine
38:58
Speaker 4: has been around a very very long time and it
39:02
Speaker 4: helps with the exfoliation as well as promoting collagen development too.
39:10
Speaker 4: And nowadays you can find a retine or retinal in
39:16
Speaker 4: a lot of different space creams that are out there.
39:20
Speaker 4: But it does work and it helps to maintain your skin.
39:26
Speaker 2: Wow, you have definitely dropped a lot of nuggets on
39:30
Speaker 2: today for those individuals that there's no excuse how you
39:36
Speaker 2: can not look your age.
39:38
Speaker 3: You can age gracefully.
39:40
Speaker 2: And then she dropped mood Naked's little things that you
39:43
Speaker 2: can do, not drastic things that you've got to go
39:46
Speaker 2: out and just you know, pay a whole lot of money.
39:48
Speaker 2: Things that you can do within your home, with things
39:51
Speaker 2: that you already have and then you can gradually, you know,
39:54
Speaker 2: grow and develop in however you want to do it.
39:58
Speaker 2: But she dropped some great tips. Again, how can we
40:03
Speaker 2: follow you? How can we support some of the things
40:07
Speaker 2: you're doing? Do you hold workshops? Do you have seminars?
40:11
Speaker 2: Do you provide outlets for individuals to connect and learn
40:16
Speaker 2: some of these tips from you?
40:18
Speaker 4: Well? Sure, so I do have a website Wwwmarybethnewall dot com,
40:27
Speaker 4: and people can certainly reach out to me. I do
40:30
Speaker 4: have I even have if people are interested, they can
40:34
Speaker 4: reach out to me. I have a free mini book,
40:37
Speaker 4: So I have the book that's on Amazon that you
40:40
Speaker 4: can get in a kindle version or a paperback. But
40:44
Speaker 4: I also have a free, little complimentary mini book on
40:50
Speaker 4: easy Ways to delay aging and live better. So if
40:54
Speaker 4: anyone's interested in that, they can reach out to me
40:56
Speaker 4: and I'll send them their free copy of the minibook.
41:00
Speaker 4: And then I do do coaching. So people are interested
41:04
Speaker 4: in that, they can reach out to me. So there's
41:07
Speaker 4: the website also on Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn as well.
41:15
Speaker 2: Wow, and in the beginning you mentioned your mental health.
41:20
Speaker 3: Expertise.
41:22
Speaker 2: Like I said, we're gonna be doing a grief podcast,
41:24
Speaker 2: and we're gonna be doing different things, and we're gonna
41:27
Speaker 2: be inviting different people with resources to come on and
41:31
Speaker 2: talk with individuals because you know, I've come across individuals
41:34
Speaker 2: that have they're lost their kids, some lost kids to
41:39
Speaker 2: to gain violence, some lost kids to you know, natural death,
41:43
Speaker 2: and then some lost to you know, terminal illnesses, rare diseases.
41:49
Speaker 3: You know, I have a guy that's a part of
41:51
Speaker 3: our book.
41:54
Speaker 2: Movement right now, he lost his daughter a rare skin disease,
41:58
Speaker 2: and just different forms of grief in dealing with mental health.
42:04
Speaker 3: So I may invite you to.
42:06
Speaker 2: Come and sit on and share your resources and and
42:11
Speaker 2: share some of your different things that you may be
42:14
Speaker 2: able to provide through your platform for them. So definitely
42:18
Speaker 2: we'll be in contact with you again. What's one thing
42:23
Speaker 2: that you would like to share with the individuals that
42:28
Speaker 2: are tuned in or may hear this replay that will
42:31
Speaker 2: motivate them and stay encouraged on whatever journey they may
42:34
Speaker 2: be on.
42:36
Speaker 4: Well, I think it's I like to say I can
42:42
Speaker 4: do this okay with a big C, A N. And
42:45
Speaker 4: I think just anything you know, people might might want
42:50
Speaker 4: to be at a certain level and it's a journey
42:54
Speaker 4: to get there, and it's just changing your thinking, making
43:01
Speaker 4: time for things, or trying to multitask. Like I said,
43:05
Speaker 4: brushing your teeth and doing your squats, Okay, you can
43:07
Speaker 4: do that. There's facial exercises you can do, so sometimes
43:12
Speaker 4: I do them in the car. If you really exaggerate
43:16
Speaker 4: saying your vowels. Remember as a little kid, a E
43:20
Speaker 4: I owe you how you learned your vowels. What if
43:24
Speaker 4: you exaggerate that with your face, That's a way to
43:28
Speaker 4: exercise your facial muscles. And you can do that in
43:32
Speaker 4: the car.
43:33
Speaker 3: Now.
43:33
Speaker 4: Sometimes people look at me and they're like, what is
43:35
Speaker 4: that lady doing? Eat? And I look like I'm yelling
43:39
Speaker 4: in the car. But you can find time and whatever
43:42
Speaker 4: you do. You know is strapping on leg weights might
43:46
Speaker 4: work for somebody, it might not work for somebody else.
43:49
Speaker 4: There's lots of things there, but you can do this.
43:53
Speaker 4: Even little changes will make a huge difference in your life.
44:00
Speaker 2: Wow. Well, I definitely have enjoyed sharing with you on today.
44:05
Speaker 2: Chatting with you on today. You have been very inspirational.
44:09
Speaker 2: You have dropped some amazing nuggets and I just thank you.
44:14
Speaker 2: I want to thank you for your work as a nurse,
44:17
Speaker 2: because again, like I said at the beginning, it takes
44:20
Speaker 2: a special person, and just sitting and chatting with you today,
44:23
Speaker 2: I know that you are a very special person. Your
44:26
Speaker 2: spirit is very it's very special you are. I mean,
44:32
Speaker 2: you're just very pleasant to be around, and I know
44:35
Speaker 2: that you've helped many people. And I just thank you
44:39
Speaker 2: for taking time to come by and share with us
44:42
Speaker 2: on today. Truly was a blessing, and I thank you
44:46
Speaker 2: from the bottom of my heart.
44:48
Speaker 4: You're welcome. It was a pleasure. I really enjoyed talking
44:52
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44:54
Speaker 2: And again I want to encourage you guys to go
44:57
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44:58
Speaker 3: Over to her website.
45:00
Speaker 2: You know, y'all may go over to Emma Dunn and
45:01
Speaker 2: check out what she has, but I always tell individuals
45:04
Speaker 2: to go to the author's website, visit that personal website
45:08
Speaker 2: and purchase their book so that you can get that
45:11
Speaker 2: personalized copy from them. They can sign it, they can
45:14
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45:17
Speaker 2: want to encourage you guys to go over to her website,
45:20
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45:25
Speaker 2: see what she has going on, see the webinars she
45:28
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45:28
Speaker 3: Offering and the different things that she has. Grab your
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45:32
Speaker 2: You get an opportunity to get an autographic copye you
45:35
Speaker 2: get she can sign it and leave you a little
45:38
Speaker 2: personal note. I always like to get a personal note
45:41
Speaker 2: from the person that I'm supporting.
45:43
Speaker 3: Because it makes me feel special.
45:45
Speaker 2: And then knowing that they took that extra time to
45:49
Speaker 2: sign it and to write that note, it should make
45:53
Speaker 2: you feel special. So again, Mary Beth, thank you for
45:56
Speaker 2: stopping by and sharing. Know that I will be in
45:59
Speaker 2: contact with you because this is the beginning of a
46:02
Speaker 2: new friendship. Because I love to collaborate, I love to network,
46:06
Speaker 2: and I love sharing people. When I think that you
46:10
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46:13
Speaker 2: So know that other people may be in contact with
46:15
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46:18
Speaker 3: That's what we do over here. We love to we
46:21
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46:24
Speaker 2: And that is connect, collaborate, create, and community and that's
46:31
Speaker 2: that's what we are doing over here. Again, thank you
46:33
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46:35
Speaker 2: I hope you have a great rest of your day.
46:39
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46:42
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Speaker 2: every week we get someone new coming on and sharing
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Speaker 2: and getting to know other individuals that's on this journey
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Speaker 2: of trying to empower and motivate you and to keep
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Speaker 2: you on this journey. So, y'all, I hope you have
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Speaker 2: a great rest of your day. I hope you have
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Speaker 2: a marvelous week, and I will see you back here
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Speaker 2: next Monday, same time, same place. I love y'all. I
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Speaker 2: love y'all.
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Speaker 3: I love y'all.
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Speaker 2: I truly do, and I appreciate y'all so much. Y'all
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Speaker 2: have a great day.