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Advice, Portrayed by a Dimwit · Armstrong & Getty One More Thing

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  Speaker 1: Life advice from the world of philosophy is portrayed by Dimwitz.
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  Speaker 1: It's one more thing I'm strong Andy. I guess I
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  Speaker 1: should have said at dim Wit, because I'll be reading
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  Speaker 1: it Joe might be able to portray it in a
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  Speaker 1: fully lit way, not a dimly lit way. Dimwit will.
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  Speaker 1: I came across this Twitter thread the other day. I
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  Speaker 1: don't even know if it's accurate, but it's this guy
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  Speaker 1: Tim Denning who had just started following on Twitter, and
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  Speaker 1: he's got a lot of life advice from different quarters,
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  Speaker 1: and he's very judgmental about it, but I agreed with
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  Speaker 1: most of it. Anyway. He's picking on Carl Jung spelled
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  Speaker 1: with a J j U n G, the uh psychologist, psychiatrist,
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  Speaker 1: philosopher dude from the early twentieth century. And I'll go
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  Speaker 1: through some of these through the thread and we'll see.
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  Speaker 1: I think there are the opportunities for conversation here. Some
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  Speaker 1: quotes from him, thinking is difficult, that's why most people judge.
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  Speaker 1: I don't even I'm not sure I even know what
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  Speaker 1: that means. But it goes on to say, where your
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  Speaker 1: fear is, there is your task.
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  Speaker 2: Huh.
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  Speaker 1: And again I would like to know more and the
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  Speaker 1: explanation of this from this person, This is why the
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  Speaker 1: work life balance and self care movements help people become losers.
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  Speaker 1: Discomfort is where the opportunity is. Find what you fear
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  Speaker 1: and look it in the eyes. Otherwise you become mediocre
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  Speaker 1: and the rewards are terrible. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I have a fair amount of sympathy to that point
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  Speaker 2: of view, partly because I've read I need to keep
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  Speaker 2: reading about it. But about stoicism, one of my favorite
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  Speaker 2: books is called The Obstacle is the Way, meaning that
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  Speaker 2: obstacles are not supposed to be there. That's exactly what's
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  Speaker 2: going to happen. Of course, it is embrace the obstacle,
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  Speaker 2: don't act surprised, and don't cower in front of it.
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  Speaker 1: That's what was supposed to happen.
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  Speaker 2: And so yeah, yeah, the idea that well as he
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  Speaker 2: expressed it, I think there's a lot of truth to that.
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  Speaker 1: I like the That's why the work life balance self
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  Speaker 1: care movements help people become losers. Discomfort is where your
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  Speaker 1: opportunity is. Of course, that's a fairly judgmental way to
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  Speaker 1: put it. Most people I know who use the term
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  Speaker 1: self care are way over the top, self indulgent, people. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: just in my personal experience.
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  Speaker 2: At the same time, though, to poo pooh work life
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  Speaker 2: balance I think is a mistake. Oh of course, it
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  Speaker 2: depends entirely on your circumstances. But you know, killing yourself
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  Speaker 2: to make a few more bucks for a corporation who cares?
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  Speaker 1: That is true. But again, the people I here use
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  Speaker 1: it the most are people who don't work very hard.
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  Speaker 1: It's just like people I've known who say a work
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  Speaker 1: hard and play hard, really really play hard and don't
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  Speaker 1: work That just in my experience most of the time. Yeah, right,
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  Speaker 1: So the concepts aren't wrong, it's just that the people
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  Speaker 1: that tend to use the conceptsuse them. I loved him.
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  Speaker 3: I loved the concept of self care until it started
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  Speaker 3: getting overused.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah it became sense. Yeah, you got it. You got
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  Speaker 1: to include yourself and the whole list. But again, most
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  Speaker 1: people I know who use it are really self indulgent people.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah here's another one for you. I spend quality time
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  Speaker 2: with my kids. Right, Yeah, that's somebody who doesn't spend
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  Speaker 2: much time.
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  Speaker 1: At all with their kids. Yeah, that's exactly right. Man.
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  Speaker 1: Seinfeld had some good stuff about that his most recent
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  Speaker 1: podcast tour, where he was I wish we'd had him on.
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  Speaker 1: He was like on every podcast in America for an
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  Speaker 1: hour and a half. He is, at age seventy, really
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  Speaker 1: willing to speak his mind about a lot of things,
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  Speaker 1: and he had a lot of opinions about because he
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  Speaker 1: didn't become a parent too late like me. He was
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  Speaker 1: even older than me. I was forty five. I think
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  Speaker 1: he was forty eight. Uh. But anyway, he talked a
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  Speaker 1: lot about that. No, no, no, that it's it's the
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  Speaker 1: sitting there in front of the TV. You're both eating
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  Speaker 1: a bowl of cereal. Those are the unbelievable moments you
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  Speaker 1: have with your kids. It's just the being there and
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  Speaker 1: the time and everything. Anyway, I didn't want to get
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  Speaker 1: off on that track. Here's some more from the guy
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  Speaker 1: Oh on that same topic. How to apply it, figure
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  Speaker 1: out what you fear, set challenges to face the fear,
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  Speaker 1: and as you face more fears, your confidence increases. I
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  Speaker 1: don't doubt that that's true. After you go through a
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  Speaker 1: certain number of obstacles, it becomes less daunting.
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  Speaker 2: Mm hmm.
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  Speaker 1: The world will add This is another one from Carl Jung.
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  Speaker 1: This is a pretty good one. The world will ask
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  Speaker 1: you who you are and if you do not know,
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  Speaker 1: the world will tell you that's true. Oh okay, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: whether you're a I don't know, back to being parent,
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  Speaker 1: whether you're a good parent, hard worker, whatever, the world
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  Speaker 1: will the world will let you know at some point
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  Speaker 1: in your life what you were where you were on
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  Speaker 1: on those topics.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's that's a tough one because I grew up
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  Speaker 2: in a family where there was a fair amount of
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  Speaker 2: discussion of what our principles are and what, you know,
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  Speaker 2: what it's like to live a principled life as opposed
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  Speaker 2: to not a principled life. And I suppose if you're
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  Speaker 2: in a situation and you don't need to be told
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  Speaker 2: that verbally, you can see it as a kid, I mean,
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  Speaker 2: what you observe is so much more powerful than what
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  Speaker 2: you're told. But if you grew up in a culture
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  Speaker 2: of family without real principles, it'd be tougher to develop
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  Speaker 2: him on your own, no doubt, and then the world
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  Speaker 2: will tell you who you are.
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  Speaker 1: I'm guessing with a dad as a judge KT who
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  Speaker 1: had a lot of God principles and guidance, Yes, quite
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  Speaker 1: a bit.
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  Speaker 2: Did he ever at the dinner table hold you in
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  Speaker 2: contempt all the time?
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  Speaker 1: Still does did he regularly? Did he ever, like you know,
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  Speaker 1: something's gone haywire in high school and he says, we
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  Speaker 1: need to talk. I'll be right back, And then he
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  Speaker 1: goes and he puts on the robe and he comes back.
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  Speaker 1: That would have been hilarious if he did. I wish
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  Speaker 1: he did that. Are you kidding me?
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  Speaker 3: When I was getting in trouble, I was my room
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  Speaker 3: was at the top of the stairs. And my sign
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  Speaker 3: that I was just absolutely in deep. You know what
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  Speaker 3: was his sound of his feet coming up the stairs.
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  Speaker 2: Boy, Oh, I am so screwed. I picture him in
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  Speaker 2: the living room saying, please approach the easy chair.
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  Speaker 1: I'd picture him bringing the gavel to the dinner table.
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  Speaker 1: You know, it's exactly this meal is over. Bang bang.
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  Speaker 3: My favorite thing on his desk was something. It was
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  Speaker 3: a It was a grenade. It was a metal grenade,
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  Speaker 3: and it said complaint desk, Please pull a number, as
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  Speaker 3: if you were pulling the pin out of a grenade.
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  Speaker 2: Got it.
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  Speaker 1: I got one more of these and then we'll call
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  Speaker 1: her good. This is very, very long. We could do
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  Speaker 1: these for an hour. But the word happy would lose
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  Speaker 1: its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness. That's
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  Speaker 1: another Carl Jung, saying the word happy would lose its
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  Speaker 1: meaning if it were not bounced by sentence. That's obviously true.
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  Speaker 1: Christopher Hitchins wrote in his book when he was dying
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  Speaker 1: of cancer that you know, if we were all immortal,
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  Speaker 1: everything would lose its meaning. Nothing would be special. So
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  Speaker 1: you know the fact that there's an end date makes
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  Speaker 1: gives meaning to an awful lot of things. Anyway, on
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  Speaker 1: this head so heavy, it is heavy. Uh. The word
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  Speaker 1: happy with lose its meaning if it were not bounced
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  Speaker 1: by sadness. This guy interpreting it said, darkness is a superpower.
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  Speaker 1: Rock bottom is where you find your potential. Dark times
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  Speaker 1: lead to amazing comebacks.
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  Speaker 2: Sure.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes my experience is all those things, all these things
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  Speaker 1: are so much easier to believe in when you're not
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  Speaker 1: in that situation. Oh yeah, it's easy when things are
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  Speaker 1: going well, or to tell somebody else.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's how you react to failure.
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  Speaker 1: That is the key, and then all that And that's
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  Speaker 1: all true. It's just that when you're in it, in
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  Speaker 1: the failure, it's not as easy to absorb.
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  Speaker 2: Which is why you internalize thoughts like that before you're there.
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  Speaker 1: I just write him down on a piece of paper
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  Speaker 1: and then I get in a jam. I'm like that,
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  Speaker 1: and I think I know I wrote it down somewhere.
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  Speaker 2: It's pot where's my jam bucket, my bucketed jam thoughts
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  Speaker 2: there it is? Don't give up, come back to your
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  Speaker 2: wonder Oh right, right, right.
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  Speaker 1: Right, right, right right. This is the true test of
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  Speaker 1: who you are. Okay, good.
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  Speaker 3: Could you imagine feeling like you're at rock bottom and
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  Speaker 3: somebody going, you know what rock bottom is?
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  Speaker 1: Where you find your potential? Oh? Shut up? Yeah, that's
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  Speaker 1: kind of the old do you want to be helped
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  Speaker 1: her hugged?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: And then the famous Shakespeare thing from uh, I don't
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  Speaker 1: remember which one it's from King Lear. I believe this
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  Speaker 1: is not the worst of it, as long as we
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  Speaker 1: are here to say this is the worst of it.
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  Speaker 1: In other words, until you're dead. Yeah, it can always
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  Speaker 1: get worse.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, you think this is rock bottom uplifting, Well,
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  Speaker 2: I guess that's it.