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Grief and Choosing How You Move Through a Situation · Intuitive Coaching with Amy Radio

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  Speaker 1: Hi Hay with Intuitive Coaching with Amy dot Com and
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  Speaker 1: I recently my mom passed this year and as we
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  Speaker 1: were going through the funeral arrangements and you know, getting
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  Speaker 1: clearing out her apartment and resolving aspects of her finances
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  Speaker 1: in the state, I had a moment right after she
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  Speaker 1: passed where I was like, I can be chaotic and
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  Speaker 1: crazy and dramatic about all of this, or I can
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  Speaker 1: decide that I'm going to move through this peacefully. And
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  Speaker 1: I rooted into that thought, that belief, that way of
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  Speaker 1: being that no matter what happens as we move through this,
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to do it peacefully. So even when you know,
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  Speaker 1: just then, I think, as you're going through a high
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  Speaker 1: energy situation, like you know, as Rob and I were,
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  Speaker 1: my brother and I were planning her funeral and stuff,
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  Speaker 1: we had to we need to have conversations and make
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  Speaker 1: decisions really quickly. And so of course, like you're trying
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  Speaker 1: to get it right, and you know, you really don't
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  Speaker 1: know what it's like to go through someone passing until
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  Speaker 1: they do, you know, And so even if there was conflict,
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  Speaker 1: I could always go back to I made the choice
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  Speaker 1: to move through this peacefully, and so I do believe
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  Speaker 1: Abraham Hicks when they say you can't go from like
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  Speaker 1: the bottom of the emotional guidance scale to the top
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  Speaker 1: of the emotional guidance scale. You got to work your
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  Speaker 1: way up. But I do believe that you can set
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  Speaker 1: an intention of the emotion you want to hold as
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  Speaker 1: you move through an experience and lock that in and
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  Speaker 1: so then no matter where you're at on the journey emotionally,
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  Speaker 1: you can choose. Hey, I said I was going to
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  Speaker 1: do it this way. Let me find myself there. Yeah, okay,
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  Speaker 1: we're having conflict about that. That is annoying the hell
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  Speaker 1: out of me. This is so frustrating. And I chose
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  Speaker 1: that I was going to move through this peacefully, and
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  Speaker 1: so how do I get back to peace right now? Okay,
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  Speaker 1: I need to shut my mouth. I need to shut
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  Speaker 1: my mouth because this isn't really that important. Oh you
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  Speaker 1: know what I need to be observing right now, because
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  Speaker 1: I'm realizing this situation isn't what it is. This is
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  Speaker 1: emotions coming up. This is anxieties, worries, fears coming up,
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  Speaker 1: and has nothing to do with what we're actually dealing with. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: I'm observing that, Hey, this is all going on and
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  Speaker 1: I chose to be peaceful. I chose to be peaceful.
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  Speaker 1: It's not minimizing your feelings when you decide how you're
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  Speaker 1: going to move through a situation. I felt a range
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  Speaker 1: of feelings the whole time. I had frustration. I had
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  Speaker 1: some anger about the way my mom left our estate.
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  Speaker 1: I had I had some annoyance because you know, I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: I had some anxiety, I had some like worry. I
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  Speaker 1: had some sadness. My mom had been sick for a
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  Speaker 1: long time, like seventeen years, so, I mean like every
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  Speaker 1: year my brother and I were like, oh god, you
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  Speaker 1: know there was something that showed up, or were like,
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  Speaker 1: is this the end? So and so, there wasn't like
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  Speaker 1: a lot of that sad sad sadness I had already
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  Speaker 1: really processed through and I had spent some time with
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  Speaker 1: my mom over the last couple of years since I
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  Speaker 1: moved back to Los Angeles, and I could work through
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  Speaker 1: the last of some childhood things, and so actually felt good,
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  Speaker 1: like I don't feel like anything's unresolved. Yeah, it's it's
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  Speaker 1: weird to say that. Most people don't talk that way
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  Speaker 1: about that. But I know she's safe now, I know
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  Speaker 1: she's in heaven. Doing life the way she does it,
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  Speaker 1: or her existence the way she does it. I know
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  Speaker 1: that she's still present in guiding us as it seems
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  Speaker 1: right and true for our life. And I know she's
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  Speaker 1: not in pain. I know she's not suffering. No, this
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  Speaker 1: doesn't minimize any of my grief. I had to go
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  Speaker 1: through the grieving process. I had to feel all of
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  Speaker 1: my feelings. But as I moved through the experience of
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  Speaker 1: her death, of her funeral, of her passing, I chose peace.
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  Speaker 1: I said, I was going to move through this peacefully.
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  Speaker 1: Let me find my way into peace, not minimizing my feelings. Yes,
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  Speaker 1: that's how I feel about that situation. I'm not all
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  Speaker 1: of a sudden turning her into a saint. I'm not
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  Speaker 1: making her the most evil person in the world. I'm
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  Speaker 1: not making up any stories. I choose to move through
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  Speaker 1: this with peace. Oh, this didn't go the way I
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  Speaker 1: wanted it to. Yeah, I could be an asshole about it,
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  Speaker 1: or I could be like, Okay, this is the nature
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  Speaker 1: of it. I do want this thing to be the
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  Speaker 1: way I wanted to. Because you know, the funeral industry
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  Speaker 1: is its own thing, and so you do have to
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  Speaker 1: hold to your sense of professional standards as you move
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  Speaker 1: through that. So yeah, I could be like, oh, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: that did not go as we have planned. That's okay.
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  Speaker 1: I still said I was going to move through this
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  Speaker 1: with peace. And so you do get to choose how
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  Speaker 1: you want to move through an experience. You can choose
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  Speaker 1: a feeling, and I'd say, choose a feeling that feels
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  Speaker 1: accessible to you. I believe everybody has a default high
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  Speaker 1: vibrational setting that works really well for them. For some people,
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  Speaker 1: it's joy, for some people, it is love, for some people,
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  Speaker 1: it's freedom. For me, it's peace. I can get to
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  Speaker 1: peace really easily. I can work up the scale and
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  Speaker 1: get myself to a place of peace. And So what
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  Speaker 1: high vibrational feeling works for you consistently, Maybe it's gratitude,
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  Speaker 1: whatever the feeling might be. Decide how you're going to
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  Speaker 1: move through an experience, no matter what it is, particularly
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  Speaker 1: stuff that's unexpected, things that are outside of your control.
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  Speaker 1: Because we all have the choice to feel terrible and
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  Speaker 1: anxious and worried and down and frustrated and dramatic and
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  Speaker 1: chaotic and confused, we always have that choice available. But
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  Speaker 1: you also have the choice of choosing a high vibrational feeling. Oh, choose,
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  Speaker 1: choose how you're going to move through an experience, and
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  Speaker 1: you'll find that situations and circumstances will show up inspiration,
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  Speaker 1: intuitive wisdom will show up that will support that journey.
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  Speaker 1: So I know, as I was moving through the grieving process,
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  Speaker 1: I was just inspired one night to say, because my
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  Speaker 1: brother and I have a way of like like we're humorous, right,
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  Speaker 1: like like we we could be. We weren't like solemn,
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  Speaker 1: you know, if we you know, we both would show
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  Speaker 1: up at the funeral home. We weren't like you know,
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  Speaker 1: making arrangements and stuff. We weren't solemn. And so I
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  Speaker 1: was like, we could make a joke, you know, and
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  Speaker 1: and feel fine, you know. And it wasn't didn't feel
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  Speaker 1: like we were minimizing, But there was part of me
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  Speaker 1: was like, hey, I think this might be the way
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  Speaker 1: we're moving through grief. And so one night I was
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  Speaker 1: I felt an intuition to google the graving process and
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  Speaker 1: ways to move through grave and one of them is humor.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm not saying if you're not a jokey person,
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  Speaker 1: that could easily be a way to bypass what you're feeling. No,
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  Speaker 1: we were still feeling our feelings, but the way we
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  Speaker 1: moved through it was, hey know, we could chuckle about something, right,
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  Speaker 1: And so you get to decide how you move through
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  Speaker 1: an experience, even if it is something as big. I
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  Speaker 1: say that in quotes because now that I'm looking at death,
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  Speaker 1: I'm saying, oh, it's just a part of our human experience.
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  Speaker 1: It's not any larger or smaller than anything else we
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  Speaker 1: go through. Yeah, I know, that's that's bold, because a
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  Speaker 1: lot of people can take a death and let it
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  Speaker 1: really just you know, destroy them, And I'm taking that
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  Speaker 1: away from you at all. But there is a way
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  Speaker 1: to choose how you want to move through it emotionally.
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  Speaker 1: So I hope this is helpful to somebody. Also, I
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  Speaker 1: will give this sidebar on grief. I did listen to
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  Speaker 1: a lot of books on grief. I started immediately, and
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  Speaker 1: it was more so there was another way of being
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  Speaker 1: in my consciousness, another understanding of the process. I knew
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  Speaker 1: a lot about grief because of the work I do,
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  Speaker 1: and I think we grieve not just a death, but
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  Speaker 1: we grieve any type of loss. And so it was
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  Speaker 1: really helpful to just start picking out some books and
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  Speaker 1: I listened to them and if it wasn't the right book,
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  Speaker 1: I'd switch to another one. But I really consciously wanted
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  Speaker 1: to have some intellectual understanding of what I might be
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  Speaker 1: going through as I moved through it, and that was comforting.
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  Speaker 1: It was really comforting. So I would say, if you
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  Speaker 1: are going through a loss, be willing to pick up
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  Speaker 1: a book on grieving because it might be the comfort
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  Speaker 1: that you need that will get you through that process.
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  Speaker 1: All right, I'm Amy with Intuitive Coaching with Amy and
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  Speaker 1: I'm a high end one on one intuitive coach. You
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