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163. "Hot Girl" Monthly Reset... getting our sh*t together · Hot Girl Energy Podcast

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Speaker 1: Hello you guys, Welcome back to another episode of the
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Speaker 1: Hawtral Energy Podcast. I'm your host, Kayleie, and this is
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Speaker 1: your weekly reminder that it's a new day, a new week,
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Speaker 1: a new mindset, and another day for you to become
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Speaker 1: the hot grail energy you want to attract. I need
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Speaker 1: to start off by saying I apologize for this episode
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Speaker 1: being up a day late. I feel like the podcast
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Speaker 1: has definitely been something that I can't always make a priority. Unfortunately.
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Speaker 1: I feel like life has been truly the busiest it's
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Speaker 1: ever been. Like I feel like I compare my life
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Speaker 1: now versus like when we were planning the wedding, and yeah, sure,
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Speaker 1: like planning a wedding was like a lot of work.
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Speaker 1: But I feel like my life right now has been
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Speaker 1: the busiest it's ever have And I think I've been
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Speaker 1: putting a lot of stress on myself with trying to
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Speaker 1: do everything with obviously being social media my full time job,
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Speaker 1: like jumping on tiktoks, jumping on Instagram reels, trying to
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Speaker 1: be as active as I can on YouTube while also
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Speaker 1: recording an episode on a weekly basis is very tough,
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Speaker 1: especially when you don't have anyone that's working for you. Like,
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Speaker 1: I'm obviously a solo kind of gal. I am by
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Speaker 1: myself doing it all, and I have thought about hiring someone,
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Speaker 1: but I feel like I'm not there yet. I'd like
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Speaker 1: to wait a little bit more until I do so. Obviously,
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Speaker 1: I have a management team that helps me with my job,
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Speaker 1: offers that I get throughout my social media. But the
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Speaker 1: point is is that I don't have an editor for
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Speaker 1: the podcast, I don't have an editor for YouTube anything
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Speaker 1: like that, so I'm really just doing it myself. So
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Speaker 1: I apologize if this episode is up a daily But
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Speaker 1: the point is is that we really need to do
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Speaker 1: a reset here. Okay, As I said, I have been
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Speaker 1: feeling very, very overwhelmed. I have been feeling like things
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Speaker 1: have really just taken a tour earn these past few months,
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Speaker 1: and I'd rather be real here. I'd rather be real
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Speaker 1: and honest of like how things are going in my life.
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Speaker 1: And this is a month where I really promise myself
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Speaker 1: that I would try my best to reset and just
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Speaker 1: feel like I can find solutions to the problems that
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Speaker 1: I'm currently facing. And you know what the reality is
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Speaker 1: is that we're all going through shit. Okay, We're all
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Speaker 1: going through something in our life, whether it's small things,
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Speaker 1: big things, things that we just like want to work out.
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Speaker 1: And I really wanted to make this episode about things
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Speaker 1: that I'm currently going through that you could probably relate to,
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Speaker 1: or things that you can do on your end to
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Speaker 1: solve your own problems. Just how I'm going to share
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Speaker 1: these problems that I'm currently going through and the solutions
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Speaker 1: to how I'm going to solve these problems that I'm
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Speaker 1: currently going through. So essentially, I've created a shit list
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Speaker 1: of things that are shit in my life right now
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Speaker 1: that are bothering me, and I want you to do
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Speaker 1: the same. I want you to create a shit list
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Speaker 1: of things that are going on in your life currently
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Speaker 1: that you're not proud of or things that are bothering you.
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Speaker 1: And so you're going to look at this shit list
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Speaker 1: and be like, Okay, I need to work on this, this, this,
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Speaker 1: this right, And then you're going to create a getting
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Speaker 1: my shit together list of things that you can do
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Speaker 1: to help solve those problems that you're currently going through.
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Speaker 1: And we're going to create a solution. We're going to
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Speaker 1: create something that's going to make your life feel better
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Speaker 1: if you tackle this problem that you've been facing right
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Speaker 1: now in my life, I feel like we've been all
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Speaker 1: over the map. We have been trying to prepare this
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Speaker 1: house for move because we are leaving this house obviously
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Speaker 1: and moving into the new house. We are still designing
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Speaker 1: the new house, so I've been attending a lot of
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Speaker 1: meetings with the designers, and there's a lot of like
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Speaker 1: other people that I have to communicate with. It's not
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Speaker 1: just the designers, it's the builders, it's the contractors, it's
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Speaker 1: the manufacturers. Like there's so much communication that I'm trying
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Speaker 1: to go through with other contractors and all that. So
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Speaker 1: I'm dealing with that, I'm dealing with trying to prep
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Speaker 1: this house for moving. I'm obviously trying to prep for
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Speaker 1: pregnancy with my husband, which has been a whole other subject.
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Speaker 1: Then obviously managing my job, and then just managing life,
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Speaker 1: like managing relationships with friends, managing the relationship with your husband,
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Speaker 1: your family, like trying to like also make that a
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Speaker 1: priority while still you know, running your job and doing
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Speaker 1: your job and doing all those other things. So I'm
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Speaker 1: sure a lot of you are probably facing similar situations
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Speaker 1: where it's like you feel like you're literally running multiple
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Speaker 1: things at once and it's like you're feeling so overwhelmed
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Speaker 1: that you're like, I don't know what to do, Like
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Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Like that's how I feel
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Speaker 1: like I'm at in my life right now, where I
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Speaker 1: feel like there's so much happening all at once that
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Speaker 1: I'm like it's clearly impossible for me to do it
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Speaker 1: all at once, but like there is small things that
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Speaker 1: I can do in my life to make me feel
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Speaker 1: like I'm just feeling a little bit better about myself,
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Speaker 1: if that makes sense, And like there's just like many
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Speaker 1: things that are going on in my life. Like, for examp, sample,
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Speaker 1: something that I put on my shit list was I'm
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Speaker 1: extremely behind on my laundry. My laundry room is literally
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Speaker 1: a shit show right now. Am I proud of it? No,
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Speaker 1: I've cleaned every other part of this house. I'm talking baseboards,
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Speaker 1: I'm talking mirrors, windows, you name it. I've done deep
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Speaker 1: cleans of this entire house and deep cleaning my closets,
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Speaker 1: you know, under my cabinets, in my sink. But for
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Speaker 1: some reason, I put all my time and energy in
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Speaker 1: doing those things versus, oh, maybe I should do a
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Speaker 1: load of laundry. Maybe I should do a load of laundry,
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Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Like that's an example of, like,
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Speaker 1: this is not a big problem, but like it's a
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Speaker 1: problem that bothers me that I've been ignoring that it's
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Speaker 1: like I should probably find a solution to this problem
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Speaker 1: that could maybe help me out in the grand scheme
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Speaker 1: of things. So that's kind of like an example of
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Speaker 1: like how I'm going to be sharing my shitless. And
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Speaker 1: this is a judge free space. Okay, we do not judge.
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Speaker 1: We do not judge about the things that I'm about
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Speaker 1: to say, because I'm sure there is stuff that you
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Speaker 1: may be not proud of right now with yourself that
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Speaker 1: you want to work on. So that's kind of what
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Speaker 1: I wanted to do in this episode. It was more
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Speaker 1: so just to inspire you guys, to you know, write
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Speaker 1: out a list of things that you might not be
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Speaker 1: proud of right now or happy with right now that
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Speaker 1: you want to change and make yourself just feel better
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Speaker 1: going into the month of May of doing small little
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Speaker 1: things to maybe help you get out of this problem
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Speaker 1: that you're currently facing. And that's what I really wanted
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Speaker 1: it to be about, is that I'm going to share
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Speaker 1: my examples of things that are on my shit list.
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Speaker 1: I'm going to share examples of how I'm going to
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Speaker 1: create solutions to these problems, and we're going to do
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Speaker 1: it together. Here is my shit list, again a judge
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Speaker 1: free space. We do not judge. Anything that's on this list.
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Speaker 1: Firstly is my laundry. I need to get my shit
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Speaker 1: together and figure that out. I feel like I literally
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Speaker 1: will just wash my socks and underwears and you know,
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Speaker 1: my workout clothes when I need it, and that's about it.
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Speaker 1: There are so many other things that I'm like, towels,
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Speaker 1: things that I wear on a daily basis, like we
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Speaker 1: just we need to clean that. So I think I've
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Speaker 1: just been making everything else a priority that needs to
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Speaker 1: be cleaned in this house and not the most important thing,
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Speaker 1: which is clothes that I wear on my body, which
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Speaker 1: is obviously important. So I need to figure out a
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Speaker 1: plan of how I'm going to get this laundry room
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Speaker 1: back to its original state and also just like make
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Speaker 1: it a priority to get laundry done. Another thing that's
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Speaker 1: on my shit list is that I have a very
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Speaker 1: bad night routine right now. And this is something that
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Speaker 1: I've been currently working on a night routine for myself
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Speaker 1: is definitely the top priority for me right now, because oh,
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Speaker 1: I've barely been getting sleep at night. I have been
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Speaker 1: waking up extremely anxious, overthinking, just like I don't know,
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Speaker 1: I wake up and I just like feel wired. I
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Speaker 1: almost feel like I'm constantly thinking of random things, like
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Speaker 1: why am I thinking about this one thing in the
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Speaker 1: middle of the night, And then oh, I can't sleep
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Speaker 1: for hours, and then it's six o'clock and I have
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Speaker 1: to go to a pilates class, Like I am purposely
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Speaker 1: like creating this anxiety for myself for no reason, and
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Speaker 1: I'm overthinking about these things that I shouldn't have to
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Speaker 1: overthink about in the middle of the night. So I
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Speaker 1: need to work on a night routine for myself. Scrolling
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Speaker 1: on my phone. You know, I'm addicted to my phone.
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Speaker 1: I think we all have a slight addiction to our
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Speaker 1: cell phone. And obviously I love scrolling, and it's part
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Speaker 1: of my job, obviously is to be scrolling on social media.
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Speaker 1: But I do think I'm consuming it probably too much,
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Speaker 1: and doing that before ben is probably the worst thing
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Speaker 1: you can do, especially for your sleeping, because I feel
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Speaker 1: like I have a hard time falling asleep and being
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Speaker 1: on my phone and scrolling is probably not helping the situation.
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Speaker 1: So working on a night routine is something that I'm
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Speaker 1: currently working on, and I'm going to share with you
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Speaker 1: guys things that I've been doing these past few days
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Speaker 1: of just like trying to have a better night routine
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Speaker 1: for myself. Another thing on my shit list is I've
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Speaker 1: been drifting away from my friends, not purposely, just accidentally.
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Speaker 1: As I said, I feel like there's been so much
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Speaker 1: going on in my life right now that I've been
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Speaker 1: having a hard time making my family a priority, making
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Speaker 1: my friendships a priority, not reaching out. We're texting people saying, hey,
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Speaker 1: you want to go for a walk, you want to
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Speaker 1: go get a coffee, Like I feel like I'm constantly
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Speaker 1: texting maybe my sister and my husband and my parents,
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Speaker 1: and that's basically it. I barely even see my parents
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Speaker 1: at this point. So I'm like, I need to make
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Speaker 1: an effort this month of getting my connections back with
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Speaker 1: my friends and my family, because I feel like you
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Speaker 1: don't realize how important that is until you feel like
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Speaker 1: you've been disconnected with those people, and then you're like,
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Speaker 1: oh shit, wait, I need to make that a priority.
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Speaker 1: I need to get back out there I need to
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Speaker 1: text my friends and like see them again and like
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Speaker 1: connect with them. So that's one thing that I feel
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Speaker 1: like I've been lacking at is just like not making
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Speaker 1: my friendships a priority and just like feeling disconnected from
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Speaker 1: them because I feel like I've just been consuming other
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Speaker 1: things and not making my friendships a priority. Another one
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Speaker 1: is feeling I'm inspired. I feel like I've been in
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Speaker 1: this rut with like creating content, but also just like
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Speaker 1: I don't know, like in my life, I'm not feeling
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Speaker 1: inspired by things, and I think that is something that
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Speaker 1: some people go through, and we're going to talk about
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Speaker 1: how we're gonna feel inspired again and doing thing things
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Speaker 1: that could really help make yourself feel inspired again. I'm
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Speaker 1: feeling stuck. I think that's another thing that's really common
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Speaker 1: for people. I feel like I like know what I
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Speaker 1: want as like my big goals. But I think the
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Speaker 1: point is is that we're supposed to create smaller goals,
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Speaker 1: which we always talk about here on the podcast, but
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Speaker 1: like smaller goals that will like make you feel really
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Speaker 1: good each week each day, and not just focusing on
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Speaker 1: like that big goal that we have to achieve, and
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Speaker 1: like also making slight changes in your day to day life.
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Speaker 1: So that is something that I feel like I'm going through.
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Speaker 1: I feel like I've been like living the same life
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Speaker 1: of obviously like doing the same things and going to
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Speaker 1: Pilate's and going on my walks, and like I love it.
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Speaker 1: I do love it, but like I do also think
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Speaker 1: that might be a sign of like, Okay, what can
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Speaker 1: I change to like reinspire myself but also like make
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Speaker 1: me feel less stuck, right, So kind of changing things
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Speaker 1: up in your day day life could be a huge
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Speaker 1: help as well. Another thing on my shit list is
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Speaker 1: overthinking everything and just feeling anxious kind of goes hand
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Speaker 1: in hand with my bad night routine. I'm trying to
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Speaker 1: find ways to, you know, not make me feel as anxious.
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Speaker 1: Anxiety is so freakin' real, and I'm so frickin' there
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Speaker 1: with you if you're currently going through it. The last
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Speaker 1: thing I want is to be on medication. I don't
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Speaker 1: want to have to do that, but if I have to,
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Speaker 1: I will maybe do it. I don't know. I'm just
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Speaker 1: like I'm not thinking medication yet because I'm like, you know,
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Speaker 1: I haven't done these little things that could really help
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Speaker 1: with my anxiety. So I'm doing everything I can to
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Speaker 1: work on my mental health and find ways to like
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Speaker 1: ease it by taking action instead of just resorting to medication. Right,
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Speaker 1: we never want to just like resort to that. So
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Speaker 1: really not loving that phase of my life of just
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Speaker 1: overthinking things and being overly anxious. But hey, it's the reality,
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Speaker 1: and that's what I'm currently going through. Not dressing up
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Speaker 1: for myself anymore. I feel like I'm constantly wearing sweatpants
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Speaker 1: twenty four to seven or active wear, and I'm like, Kayleie,
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Speaker 1: you used to love dressing up and styling yourself and
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Speaker 1: like going shopping buying things that like make you feel good.
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Speaker 1: And I feel like I've just dropped the ball on
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Speaker 1: that completely and just like haven't found the love for
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Speaker 1: fashion anymore, which is like kind of upsetting for me
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Speaker 1: because I feel like I always used to love like
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Speaker 1: styling my outfits for the day and like dressing up
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Speaker 1: for myself even if I wasn't going anywhere, I like
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Speaker 1: wanted to make sure I put a cute outfit on
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Speaker 1: for myself because I feel like it also like boosts
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Speaker 1: your confidence, which obviously we don't want to lack confidence.
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Speaker 1: That sucks, right, So I'm just in this phase where
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Speaker 1: I'm like, I need to reevaluate my efforts of putting
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Speaker 1: like effort in myself essentially, like I need to find
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Speaker 1: that energy and love again of like dressing for myself
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Speaker 1: and like feeling good about myself. So like wearing sweats
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Speaker 1: has just not been the vibe, Okay, I need to
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Speaker 1: change that. I need to stop wearing sweatpants all the
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Speaker 1: time or active wear and actually dress cute and feel
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Speaker 1: good about myself. And then the last one on my
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Speaker 1: shit list is running late. I tend to run late
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Speaker 1: to appointments or meetings and and I feel like this
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Speaker 1: is something that I really wanted to improve on this year.
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Speaker 1: And don't get me wrong, I feel like there's been
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Speaker 1: months where I've been really good or there's been months
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Speaker 1: where I'd been really bad. So I'm like, we just
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Speaker 1: need to find a better game plan and honestly, just
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Speaker 1: a better solution to this issue that just keeps coming back.
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Speaker 1: So that is definitely something that I've been shit at
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Speaker 1: and I need to work on this month. So that's
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Speaker 1: my shit list. That's everything that I can think of
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Speaker 1: right now that I'm currently feeling unhappy with in my
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Speaker 1: life that I'm like we need to figure out how
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Speaker 1: we're going to solve these many problems, cause they're not
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Speaker 1: big problems. I'm sure if you wrote a list down
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Speaker 1: right now of all the little things that have been
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Speaker 1: bothering you, whether it's like things that bother you with
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Speaker 1: your job, or things that bother you in your home,
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Speaker 1: or things that bother you in your routine, Like when
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Speaker 1: you actually write them down, it's like, Okay, it's not
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Speaker 1: that bad, but like, we can figure out a solution
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Speaker 1: to this, Like we can figure out how to problem
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Speaker 1: solve and make this not be a problem anymore and
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Speaker 1: make yourself feel better about this situation. Let's talk about
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Speaker 1: my getting our Shit together list. So these are things
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Speaker 1: that I just talked about, and these are going to
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Speaker 1: be the solutions that I'm going to have to these problems.
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Speaker 1: So one of them being feeling disconnected. I talked about
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Speaker 1: how I feel like I've been super distanced with my friends.
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Speaker 1: I feel disconnected. I feel like, you know, I haven't
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Speaker 1: made the effort of seeing them. So now I'm going
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Speaker 1: to be taking the effort this month of reaching out
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Speaker 1: to one person each week, planning something small, like it
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Speaker 1: could be going on a walk, it could be going
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Speaker 1: on a coffee date. It could be going on a
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Speaker 1: dinner date. I've actually already done a really good job
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Speaker 1: at this to the point where I will literally put
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Speaker 1: texts my friend Alyssa to plan a walk date next week,
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Speaker 1: so that's on my to do list. I literally will
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Speaker 1: text her be like, hey, how are you. We need
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Speaker 1: to catch up one e free next week, Let's go
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Speaker 1: on a walk. I ended up seeing her yesterday. We
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Speaker 1: had a great catch up. It was so nice to
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Speaker 1: see her. Felt so connected. She texted me after saying,
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Speaker 1: I'm so happy you texted me. I'm so happy we
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Speaker 1: connected again. I felt really good about having that date
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Speaker 1: with her because it felt like it was a great
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Speaker 1: way to catch up. It was a great way to
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Speaker 1: see her. I felt again connected with her because I
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Speaker 1: reached out to her and wanted to see her. Not
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Speaker 1: only that, I've actually seen three of my other friends
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Speaker 1: last week and then this week as well, So within
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Speaker 1: these what six days of May that we've been in,
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Speaker 1: I've already seen four of my friends. So I have
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Speaker 1: actually made the effort of reaching out planning something, like
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Speaker 1: I said, something just as small as a coffee date
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Speaker 1: or a walk or even just chilling with your friend
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Speaker 1: in her kids playroom and playing with her kids and
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Speaker 1: entertaining herself that way while catching up. I am not
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Speaker 1: picky about what we do. I really just like want
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Speaker 1: to get together and chat and yeah, just connect again.
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Speaker 1: So that's been a really big goal for me, and
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Speaker 1: I think just making the effort of even like as
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Speaker 1: I said, adding it to your to do list, of
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Speaker 1: saying you want to text this person or call this
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Speaker 1: person to plan something makes yourself feel so good and
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Speaker 1: you're again already feeling connected by reaching out and planning something.
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Speaker 1: Another thing is phone addiction. So obviously I've mentioned that
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Speaker 1: I've been on my phone constantly, especially before bed, which
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Speaker 1: is probably the worst time to go on your phone,
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Speaker 1: is before you fall asleep. Like I'm consuming stuff that
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Speaker 1: I just probably shouldn't be consuming before bed. So I've
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Speaker 1: been making it a non negotiable to not be on
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Speaker 1: my phone thirty minutes before bed. I've actually started to
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Speaker 1: put my phone in an area in my bedroom where
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Speaker 1: I don't feel the urge to grab it, so I
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Speaker 1: actually have it, like in the far corner where we
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Speaker 1: have obviously an outlet that I can charge it, and
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Speaker 1: I use my hatch alarm clock as my alarm clock,
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Speaker 1: so I don't need my phone for like my alarm
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Speaker 1: in the morning, so I don't need it right by
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Speaker 1: my nightstand or buy me twenty four to seven. So
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Speaker 1: having it on my dresser in like the corner of
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Speaker 1: our bedroom has been honestly a game changer because I
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Speaker 1: don't feel the need to grab it. I'm usually watching
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Speaker 1: a TV show a Zach But anyways, at the end
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Speaker 1: of the day, I just I don't feel tempted to
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Speaker 1: grab it right now, And I think that has been
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Speaker 1: a really big game changer, is not feeling this urge
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Speaker 1: to like grab my phone and scroll. So the phone
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Speaker 1: addiction is real. I think we can all agree that
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Speaker 1: everybody probably has a slight phone addiction. So finding times
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Speaker 1: like you know, not going on it for thirty minutes
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Speaker 1: before bed or waking up in the morning, maybe not
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Speaker 1: going on it for thirty minutes in the morning when
17:14
Speaker 1: you want to have your routine and get things done,
17:16
Speaker 1: Like I feel like in the morning, I'm fine, I
17:18
Speaker 1: don't ever have this urge to grab my phone and scroll.
17:21
Speaker 1: I'm usually like turn off my hatch and I have
17:24
Speaker 1: to get to a workout right, so I book workouts
17:26
Speaker 1: in the morning. That way, I'm not scrolling aimlessly. Like
17:29
Speaker 1: I start my day immediately by getting a workout in,
17:32
Speaker 1: and that's how I kind of start my day, right,
17:34
Speaker 1: I have my breakfast, go on my walk, whatever the
17:36
Speaker 1: case I may be, so I don't always feel an
17:38
Speaker 1: urge to scroll in the morning. My issue is scrolling
17:41
Speaker 1: at night. So that's why I've been trying to make
17:43
Speaker 1: a routine for myself to really like limit my screen
17:46
Speaker 1: time and like focus on doing these things for myself
17:49
Speaker 1: to help with obviously multiple things like my anxiety and overthinking,
17:52
Speaker 1: which goes into my conversation of my next problem, which
17:55
Speaker 1: is overthinking and anxiety. So this kind of goes hand
17:59
Speaker 1: in hand with my bad night routine, which is what
18:02
Speaker 1: I've been trying to create, is a good night routine
18:05
Speaker 1: for myself to hope ease the overthinking and anxiety that
18:09
Speaker 1: I've currently have been going through. Journaling at night is
18:12
Speaker 1: something that actually a lot of you guys recommended because
18:15
Speaker 1: I did post the video about just me and trying
18:18
Speaker 1: to build a night routine for myself currently, and Zach
18:22
Speaker 1: also has been pushing me to journal at night and
18:24
Speaker 1: like brain dump and express how I'm feeling about this
18:28
Speaker 1: certain situation and express how I'm feeling. So that is
18:32
Speaker 1: something that I feel like I should do because I
18:34
Speaker 1: do think that would help a lot. Is just like
18:37
Speaker 1: brain dumping how I'm feeling, especially before bed. I feel
18:40
Speaker 1: like I would usually do that in like my notes
18:41
Speaker 1: in my phone, but again we're trying to avoid being
18:44
Speaker 1: on a cell phone, so this is why we need
18:46
Speaker 1: to resort to a journal. So anyways, obviously there's always
18:51
Speaker 1: things that we can do to improve things that we're
18:53
Speaker 1: currently going through. So I feel like journaling is something
18:55
Speaker 1: that I do during the day obviously, and like use
18:59
Speaker 1: my planner for like any of my day, but I
19:00
Speaker 1: don't really think about using it at night, So it
19:03
Speaker 1: might be worth me purchasing a journal that I can
19:06
Speaker 1: bring dump and like express how I'm feeling, especially before beds.
19:10
Speaker 1: So before sleeping, I feel like I've gotten everything out
19:13
Speaker 1: that I'm overthinking. I don't have to think about it.
19:15
Speaker 1: And so obviously with dealing with this overthinking and anxiety,
19:19
Speaker 1: I'm also not having the best sleeps. So I've been
19:22
Speaker 1: really trying to adjust my night routine by adding two
19:26
Speaker 1: to three new habits to support a more relaxing environment
19:30
Speaker 1: for myself and just all in all support my sleep
19:32
Speaker 1: because I just haven't been getting the best sleeps. Some
19:36
Speaker 1: of you guys said magnesium, which I have been using
19:39
Speaker 1: the ritual magnesium, which has helped a little bit. I
19:43
Speaker 1: wouldn't say it's helping fully. I don't know if I
19:44
Speaker 1: need a higher dosage or not. But one time when
19:47
Speaker 1: I did a higher dosage up magnesium with a different company,
19:51
Speaker 1: I had the opposite effect of where I felt more
19:55
Speaker 1: wired and more awake, and then I couldn't sleep but
19:58
Speaker 1: all throughout the night. Like I don't really want to
20:02
Speaker 1: like find something stronger. I'd rather just like stick to
20:05
Speaker 1: something that works. But I don't know. So the ritual
20:08
Speaker 1: magnesium has helped a little bit, but like, yeah, I
20:11
Speaker 1: don't want to go down the road of like trying
20:13
Speaker 1: something stronger because I've done that before and it's done
20:16
Speaker 1: literally the complete opposite effect, which I was really shocked
20:18
Speaker 1: about because I'm like, it can't be the magnesium, Like,
20:21
Speaker 1: you know, I've never felt wired in the middle of
20:24
Speaker 1: the night before and till now, and literally my doctor
20:27
Speaker 1: was like, if you take too much magnesium, like if
20:30
Speaker 1: you take too strong of a dosage, which I have
20:33
Speaker 1: done in the past, as I said, it could do
20:35
Speaker 1: the opposite effect, which I had no idea about. So
20:37
Speaker 1: that's something I learned. But right now I'm really just
20:41
Speaker 1: trying to do other things like kim emeal tea before bed.
20:44
Speaker 1: Hot showers before bed hot showers have actually been the
20:47
Speaker 1: biggest game changer. Heat for me is like the most
20:50
Speaker 1: relaxing thing ever. I've also been trying to use my
20:53
Speaker 1: heating pad on the bed just to like have some
20:56
Speaker 1: sense of comfort, if that makes sense. I don't need
20:58
Speaker 1: it for like muscle recovery or anything like that. I'm
21:00
Speaker 1: really just using the heating pad for enjoyment because I
21:04
Speaker 1: really find it very relaxing. So anything with heat has
21:08
Speaker 1: been like a really big game changer just for like
21:11
Speaker 1: relaxing myself and then just like doing a little form
21:15
Speaker 1: of self care, whether it's like a face mask, you know, eyepatches,
21:20
Speaker 1: reading red light therapy mask, like just like finding something
21:24
Speaker 1: that brings me some like comfort in doing some self
21:28
Speaker 1: care makes me feel really relaxed, And the whole point
21:32
Speaker 1: is really just to make my body feel very relaxed
21:35
Speaker 1: before bed and not feel tense or stress. So that's
21:39
Speaker 1: kind of like what I'm doing currently. It's definitely a
21:41
Speaker 1: work in progress. I'm like documenting my experience on TikTok
21:45
Speaker 1: just because I feel like that's something that I've just
21:48
Speaker 1: been shitited at lately and I just like need to
21:50
Speaker 1: work on it. So that's currently what I've been going
21:52
Speaker 1: through with my night routine. In terms of the laundry problem.
21:55
Speaker 1: How are we going to solve this? We're going to
21:58
Speaker 1: be doing loads of laundry. So I've been trying to
22:01
Speaker 1: do one to two loads every single morning before I
22:03
Speaker 1: leave for my workout class. So I've made it a
22:05
Speaker 1: non negotible to wake up, make my bed, you know,
22:08
Speaker 1: do my skincare, brush, my teeth, get changed, into my
22:11
Speaker 1: workout clothes. Literally throw whatever color I see, whether it's white, grays, colors,
22:17
Speaker 1: throw it in the laundry. Do it. Then when I
22:20
Speaker 1: get home from plates, go upstairs, throw it in the dryer,
22:23
Speaker 1: eat my breakfast, do whatever, and then I'll quickly fold everything,
22:26
Speaker 1: put it away, and then I move on with my day.
22:28
Speaker 1: So my goal right now is to not like do
22:30
Speaker 1: multiple loads at once and feel overwhelmed. I'm really just
22:33
Speaker 1: trying to do like one to two loads a day.
22:35
Speaker 1: So it sounds so funny because it's just like it's laundry,
22:39
Speaker 1: you know. I think everyone has difficulty keeping up with
22:41
Speaker 1: their laundry. It's just an annoying task that I personally
22:44
Speaker 1: don't love. Like Zach is so on top of his
22:47
Speaker 1: shit with laundry, I'm the complete opposite. It's just something
22:49
Speaker 1: that I'm not good at, I'll be honest. So that
22:51
Speaker 1: is something that I'm trying to do this month is
22:53
Speaker 1: just like make it a little mourning non negotiable and
22:56
Speaker 1: my morning routine to just get it done. So I'm
22:58
Speaker 1: hoping that I'll have my laundry done fully this week
23:01
Speaker 1: because I've been making that a non negotiable. Another thing
23:04
Speaker 1: that was on my shit list that we're going to
23:06
Speaker 1: solve is feeling stuck. I think this is a big
23:09
Speaker 1: one for a lot of people, is just feeling like
23:13
Speaker 1: maybe every day feels the same, or feeling like you're
23:16
Speaker 1: just like needing some type of change. And it could
23:20
Speaker 1: be the smallest thing. It could be changing up something
23:21
Speaker 1: in your routine, it could be changing up your environment.
23:25
Speaker 1: I think like forcing yourself to be in a new
23:28
Speaker 1: space is definitely a good idea. And a new space
23:31
Speaker 1: meaning like instead of working from home, maybe start working
23:34
Speaker 1: at coffee shops more, or you know, maybe change your
23:37
Speaker 1: bedroom furniture around, maybe you know, change the gym that
23:42
Speaker 1: you're going to. I know, for me, I've been obviously
23:45
Speaker 1: going to like the same workout studios for a long
23:47
Speaker 1: period of time. I have been feeling the urge to
23:51
Speaker 1: not change, but like add something into my routine. Instead
23:54
Speaker 1: of just like doing pilates multiple times a week, I've
23:56
Speaker 1: been trying to do strength workouts again. So I've been
23:58
Speaker 1: doing two strength workouts a week and then two pilates
24:01
Speaker 1: classes a week, and I've been wanting to look at
24:04
Speaker 1: getting a gym membership. Right now, I'm just using the
24:07
Speaker 1: weights at my home, which is fine, but I feel
24:09
Speaker 1: like because I've worked from home, I need to be
24:11
Speaker 1: out more and like get out of the house more.
24:13
Speaker 1: So I've been trying to figure out a gym that
24:15
Speaker 1: I can get a membership too. I also love Matt Plates,
24:19
Speaker 1: and I used to do a hot Matt pilates class
24:23
Speaker 1: a few times a week, but I haven't been wanting
24:25
Speaker 1: to do the heat of workouts. I've been wanting just
24:27
Speaker 1: to do like a normal pilates class. And there's a
24:31
Speaker 1: new pilate studio opening up next month. And Guys, if
24:37
Speaker 1: I could describe the perfect esthetic for a pilate studio
24:40
Speaker 1: that you would see on Pinterest, this place is giving
24:44
Speaker 1: that exact Pinterest vibe, like literally matches my Pinterest board.
24:48
Speaker 1: So I'm so excited because not only are they doing
24:51
Speaker 1: matt plates, but they're also doing yoga, which yoga is
24:54
Speaker 1: another thing that I really want to get into for again,
24:57
Speaker 1: distressing anxiety, stretch for my back all that. Like everyone's
25:02
Speaker 1: always like to me, Killy, you need to get into yoga,
25:03
Speaker 1: And I know, I know I need to get into yoga.
25:06
Speaker 1: I just don't like any of the yoga studios that
25:08
Speaker 1: are near me. I've tried literally every single yoga studio
25:11
Speaker 1: you can think of that are nearby, and I absolutely
25:14
Speaker 1: hate it. It's just not worth it. And I like convenience.
25:18
Speaker 1: Like I'm not saying every studio in Ottawa is shit.
25:20
Speaker 1: I'm just saying that, like I'm not going to travel
25:22
Speaker 1: forty minutes or thirty five minutes to all the way
25:26
Speaker 1: downtown to like go to the best studios there and
25:28
Speaker 1: then drive thirty five minutes home. Like I like the
25:32
Speaker 1: convenience of being in something that's in close proximity. And yeah,
25:36
Speaker 1: so I'm really excited about this new place opening up.
25:38
Speaker 1: I think that's going to make me feel really excited
25:41
Speaker 1: to try something new, kind of like again branch out
25:44
Speaker 1: of my routine and try something new for my routine,
25:47
Speaker 1: and a new environment just kind of feels exciting new change.
25:52
Speaker 1: So yeah, so it could be like little things like that.
25:54
Speaker 1: It could also be like, if you've been a gym
25:56
Speaker 1: girl for a while and you've been kind of like
25:58
Speaker 1: over just like doing strength workouts, maybe change it up
26:02
Speaker 1: by doing, like, instead of working out in the gym
26:04
Speaker 1: like five times a week, maybe do it two times
26:06
Speaker 1: a week and then the other days try different workout
26:08
Speaker 1: classes out like maybe try spinning, try pilates, try whatever, right, like,
26:13
Speaker 1: just try and change it up. So I think that's
26:16
Speaker 1: something that I'm currently working on. It's kind of changing
26:18
Speaker 1: up my routine and like making it a little bit
26:21
Speaker 1: more different by being in new environments. So that's something
26:25
Speaker 1: that I'm currently working on. My problem of constantly being
26:28
Speaker 1: in sweatpants, Okay, we're going to actually make the effort
26:30
Speaker 1: of dressing up once or twice a week by wearing
26:34
Speaker 1: clothes that make me feel good. And again, it could
26:36
Speaker 1: be for me wanting to go to a coffee shop.
26:38
Speaker 1: It could be me working from home. Still, like, I
26:41
Speaker 1: also feel like I've actually done a really good job
26:43
Speaker 1: at not buying new clothes for myself. Last week was
26:46
Speaker 1: the first time I was shopping in like forever, Like
26:50
Speaker 1: I think I bought two things in Toronto when I
26:52
Speaker 1: was a zach and that's it. Like literally, I've I
26:56
Speaker 1: have not boughten myself anything. Like of course I received
26:58
Speaker 1: pr from brands, which I I truly do appreciate, but
27:01
Speaker 1: like when it comes to like buying clothes for myself,
27:04
Speaker 1: like I've done a really good job this year of
27:05
Speaker 1: not doing so, which I'm not complaining about. I'm actually
27:08
Speaker 1: proud of myself for doing that. But I do feel
27:10
Speaker 1: like when a new season comes around, I do feel
27:12
Speaker 1: like this sudden urge of like wanting to style fun
27:15
Speaker 1: pieces and like buy fun things for a new season.
27:18
Speaker 1: So I do think a shopping spree is due. I
27:22
Speaker 1: did buy a few things last week from Aritzia and
27:25
Speaker 1: Dynamite that I just wanted for like going out clothes.
27:28
Speaker 1: So when you know it's someone's birthday or you know
27:32
Speaker 1: my girlfriends want to go out for dinner, I feel
27:34
Speaker 1: like I have like two to three good outfits now
27:36
Speaker 1: where I'm like, these could be like my go to
27:37
Speaker 1: outfits to wear. I'm also traveling this year to Europe,
27:40
Speaker 1: so saph and I are going to Portugal in the summer,
27:43
Speaker 1: so I really want to obviously find cute outfits for that.
27:46
Speaker 1: So I think I'm just like waiting for things to happen.
27:49
Speaker 1: But it's like, girl, just buy yourself something nice. Dress
27:52
Speaker 1: the way you want to dress, and feel good and
27:55
Speaker 1: feel confident in the things that you want to wear
27:57
Speaker 1: and not feel ugly and worsewetpam. It's an active war
28:00
Speaker 1: all the time. Like I just like you need to
28:02
Speaker 1: branch out and start dressing up more running late for
28:05
Speaker 1: appointments or meetings. This is something that I actually tried
28:09
Speaker 1: today for the very first time. I had a appointment
28:13
Speaker 1: before recording this podcast episode. You guys are going to
28:15
Speaker 1: see this day, to be honest, because I filmed a
28:17
Speaker 1: full day in the life today for TikTok and Instagram,
28:22
Speaker 1: So you guys are going to see everything that's happened
28:24
Speaker 1: before this, which has just been once again a shit
28:26
Speaker 1: show of a day. But I had an appointment downtown Ottawa,
28:30
Speaker 1: and downtown takes some time to get from where I am,
28:34
Speaker 1: and there's also no parking, so of course I have
28:37
Speaker 1: to take time to find a parking spot. And there's traffic, right.
28:41
Speaker 1: So the one thing that I suck at when it
28:44
Speaker 1: comes to like traveling to places to attend meetings or
28:46
Speaker 1: appointments is that I think everywhere takes ten to fifteen
28:51
Speaker 1: minutes to get which is not the reality. It takes
28:54
Speaker 1: way longer. Like, it takes way longer than that because
28:59
Speaker 1: you have to take into a affect the traffic or
29:01
Speaker 1: unexpected you know, things that could happen when you're driving there,
29:04
Speaker 1: obviously car accidents, whatever, Oh, can't find parking, there's street parking,
29:08
Speaker 1: there's no parking lot there, So like I've sake all
29:10
Speaker 1: those things into account. So I literally set a timer
29:14
Speaker 1: for how long I had to get ready and actually
29:17
Speaker 1: be out the door in order to make it to
29:20
Speaker 1: my appointment ten to fifteen minutes early, which is what
29:23
Speaker 1: I wanted. So I ended up setting a timer, and
29:28
Speaker 1: let me tell you guys, I got there fifteen minutes early,
29:30
Speaker 1: which I never get to an appointment fifteen minutes early,
29:34
Speaker 1: to be fully honest, I usually get there like maybe
29:37
Speaker 1: two minutes before, or like literally on time or five
29:41
Speaker 1: minutes late. Like usually that's just my world. I just
29:43
Speaker 1: like I'm always like running to get to somewhere and
29:46
Speaker 1: be there within that timeframe. So the fact I was
29:48
Speaker 1: there fifteen minutes early, I'm going to say the timer worked.
29:52
Speaker 1: So I'm a timer girl. I'm going to be setting
29:54
Speaker 1: timers to keep myself on task. I get easily distracted.
29:57
Speaker 1: I have ADHD. I'm going to be honest here, So
30:00
Speaker 1: I think having the timer just like makes me walk
30:04
Speaker 1: in and like I realize, like, Okay, I need to
30:06
Speaker 1: get all this done before this time, and it just
30:09
Speaker 1: creates like that motivation and that urgency of like needing
30:13
Speaker 1: to get shit done before I leave. I have talked
30:15
Speaker 1: about this in the past too, but like setting timers
30:17
Speaker 1: for yourself when you're trying to get task done around
30:19
Speaker 1: the house also really helped. So if you've been feeling
30:23
Speaker 1: like a lack of motivation or just like there's shit
30:25
Speaker 1: around the house that you've just been ignoring that you
30:27
Speaker 1: like you need to get back into. I'm telling you
30:30
Speaker 1: right now, if you set a timer, you are going
30:33
Speaker 1: to feel so productive and you're going to see how
30:36
Speaker 1: much you can actually get done in thirty minutes or
30:38
Speaker 1: sixty minutes and complete tasks around your house that you've
30:42
Speaker 1: been avoiding and just feel so much more accomplished. So
30:47
Speaker 1: I do think that setting timers are a big game
30:49
Speaker 1: changer for anything. Whether it's like running late for appointments
30:53
Speaker 1: and you want to keep yourself on track, set a timer,
30:56
Speaker 1: or if you want to get shit done around the
30:58
Speaker 1: house and you feel like you need some thing to
31:00
Speaker 1: keep you motivated or again on task, set a timer
31:04
Speaker 1: for you to clean and tidy up around your house
31:07
Speaker 1: and it does wonders. So I'm a timer girl. I
31:10
Speaker 1: think timers work. So that's a tip for anyone that
31:14
Speaker 1: feels like they need something to hold themselves accountable for
31:17
Speaker 1: or just like actually like have the motivation and urge
31:20
Speaker 1: to get things done. And the last thing that was
31:22
Speaker 1: on my shit list that I need to improve on
31:25
Speaker 1: is just feeling inspired again, and I've been feeling uninspired.
31:30
Speaker 1: I've been feeling stuck. I've been feeling like I just
31:34
Speaker 1: like need to change up my environment or just like
31:37
Speaker 1: do something different. Right. So it's hard for me specifically
31:41
Speaker 1: because you know, some of these things that I feel
31:45
Speaker 1: like help for me, which is like you know, rearranging
31:47
Speaker 1: my space. So like last year, I feel like I
31:48
Speaker 1: flipped my entire bedroom around, which I feel like really
31:51
Speaker 1: helped it. I felt really inspired when we changed my
31:53
Speaker 1: bedroom around, and then I changed it back this year.
31:57
Speaker 1: But I've been wanting to change up like spaces in
31:59
Speaker 1: my head. But financially, that's really stupid of me because
32:02
Speaker 1: I'm moving, like I'm literally leaving this house in four months.
32:06
Speaker 1: So I think for me, I'm like obviously being impatient
32:09
Speaker 1: and I just like want to move into my new
32:11
Speaker 1: house because i know I'm going to feel so inspired again,
32:15
Speaker 1: so excited. It's a new space, you know, it's change.
32:18
Speaker 1: It's a house that like obviously like we put so
32:21
Speaker 1: much love and energy towards that we are just so
32:24
Speaker 1: excited for. But I think I'm feeling uninspired almost because
32:28
Speaker 1: of that, where it's like I know that I have
32:30
Speaker 1: this new house coming that I'm feeling uninspired in my
32:33
Speaker 1: space that I currently am in, where i feel like
32:35
Speaker 1: I'm like not really putting any effort into it because
32:38
Speaker 1: I'm putting so much effort into the next, the next thing,
32:42
Speaker 1: the next best thing, right, So I feel like I'm
32:45
Speaker 1: starting to outgrow this place. And as much as I
32:47
Speaker 1: love it, and like I do still think it's such
32:50
Speaker 1: a beautiful house, Like I love my house. It's just
32:52
Speaker 1: the point is is that I feel like I'm just
32:54
Speaker 1: ready for the next I'm ready for the next step
32:57
Speaker 1: of my life, and I feel like I'm just like waiting,
32:59
Speaker 1: you know, I'm just like sitting here waiting and like
33:01
Speaker 1: wanting to just go into it. And so I think
33:04
Speaker 1: my energy right now is just chasing something new. I
33:08
Speaker 1: can just feel that I'm craving change and I just
33:10
Speaker 1: like really want to start this new chapter in her
33:13
Speaker 1: life of like being in this new house. And I
33:15
Speaker 1: don't know, I think that's okay to feel that way.
33:18
Speaker 1: I know there's small things that I can do, like
33:21
Speaker 1: changing up my routine, And if you have the luxury
33:24
Speaker 1: of like changing up your bedroom or changing up your
33:27
Speaker 1: home to make yourself feel inspired, I highly recommend doing so.
33:31
Speaker 1: Like I just can't right now because it doesn't make
33:33
Speaker 1: sense for me to do that, but if you can
33:36
Speaker 1: do that, I do find it actually really helps. Like
33:38
Speaker 1: me changing my bedroom last year was like such a
33:40
Speaker 1: nice refreshing feeling and just like a really nice change
33:44
Speaker 1: that I felt like I wanted for so long, and
33:47
Speaker 1: I felt really inspired again. After doing that, So I
33:51
Speaker 1: don't know, those little things do actually make a huge difference.
33:56
Speaker 1: But yeah, right now I'm just like craving change and
34:00
Speaker 1: I'm creating my new chapter. Also side note, this kind
34:03
Speaker 1: of goes with the phone addiction one where obviously I
34:06
Speaker 1: need to stop scrolling at night and I've been trying
34:08
Speaker 1: to not go on my phone for thirty minutes and
34:10
Speaker 1: also put my phone in an area where I won't
34:12
Speaker 1: grab it. But I talked about reading a little bit,
34:15
Speaker 1: but like, reading for me is something that I really
34:17
Speaker 1: want to make a goal this year and this summer alone,
34:20
Speaker 1: because I feel like it stimulates your mind. It's something
34:23
Speaker 1: to consume that's probably better than just consuming random videos
34:27
Speaker 1: and content on social media. So I'm trying to be
34:30
Speaker 1: better at picking up a book and reading for scrolling,
34:33
Speaker 1: and I don't know, I just think it's way more
34:35
Speaker 1: beneficial to do that first scrolling on my phone. So anyways,
34:38
Speaker 1: that is my shit list and the things that I'm
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Speaker 1: doing to get myself back on track and solve those
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Speaker 1: problems of getting my shit together. I really wanted to
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Speaker 1: create this episode just because I really wanted to inspire
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Speaker 1: you guys to create yourself your own shit list and
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Speaker 1: finding ways to solve your problems of getting your shit
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Speaker 1: together again by yeah, problem solving and finding ways to
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Speaker 1: find solutions to your problems. So that's kind of like
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Speaker 1: what I wanted to make this episode about. Obviously, we're
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Speaker 1: in a new month, we're so close to a new season.
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Speaker 1: I really just wanted to make this episode about you
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Speaker 1: resetting and finding yourself again, going into this new month
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Speaker 1: and just finding the motivation and inspiration again. So I
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