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Getting Out of the Mud: Turning Setbacks into Foundation (S5) S4:E2 · Inspirations for Your Life

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  Well, hey guys, I'm good evening.
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  It is John C.
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  Morley here, Serial Entrepreneur.
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  All right, guys.
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  So without any further ado, let's go ahead
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  and kick this show off.
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  Are you ready?
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  I know I am.
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  All right, guys.
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  So, you know, we are in our brand
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  new Master Topic week, as you guys know.
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  It kicked off just yesterday.
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  So again, it's really great to have everybody
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  here with me.
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  And I think you're going to really enjoy
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  tonight's show of inspirations for your life.
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  By the way, this is the Daily Motivational
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  Show, taking you from stuck to unstoppable.
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  And, you know, we have a really good
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  show today.
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  And it's all about getting out of the
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  mud.
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  Yes.
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  Series five, show four, episode number two, turning
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  setbacks into, well, foundation.
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  And, yeah.
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  By the way, I'm John C.
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  Morley, serial entrepreneur.
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  And hello there and welcome back to Inspirations
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  for Your Life.
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  It's the daily motivational show where growth is
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  actually intentional, healing is powerful, and success is
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  built upon truth, not pressure.
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  I am your host, John C.
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  Morley.
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  Like I said, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist,
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  video producer, podcast host, coach, graduate student, and
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  yes, guys, a passionate lifelong learner.
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  It's great to be with all of you.
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  Today's episode is for anyone who has ever
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  felt stuck in the mud.
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  Not because they failed, but because, well, life
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  hit them hard.
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  And that's not a reason to give up,
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  guys.
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  Absolutely not.
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  Getting out of the mud, turning setbacks into
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  foundation is about transforming what tried to bury
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  you into the very ground you build your
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  future upon.
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  And so I know how this can bring
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  many people down.
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  I get it.
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  I mean, that can happen.
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  It's just one of those things, right?
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  But we have to be very strong.
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  Number one, guys, you didn't just survive life.
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  You tried to bury you and accidentally planted
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  you.
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  So number two, your rock bottom can become
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  your launchpad.
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  A lot of people hit rock bottom like,
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  oh my gosh, what am I going to
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  do?
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  How am I going to handle this?
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  And it's important to realize that this might
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  be just a spot in your life.
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  It's not somewhere you are having to stay.
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  It's a temporary spot.
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  That's all it is.
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  Number three, guys, stop calling it a failure.
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  Call it data.
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  Yeah, call it data.
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  So data allows us to process things.
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  And then once we do that, we can
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  go back and do even more things, right?
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  We can measure it.
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  We can change it.
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  Number four, you're not starting from scratch.
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  You're starting from experience.
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  And if we embrace that whole concept, well,
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  then the life doors just really open up
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  to infinite possibilities.
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  Number five, the version of you that went
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  through hell deserves to see you win.
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  Yeah.
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  All that struggle, all that challenge that you
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  went through, you deserve to win every single
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  time.
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  Number six, guys, you learn more from the
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  losses than the trophies ever taught you.
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  I know we all want the trophies.
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  Don't get me wrong.
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  But if we can understand that sometimes we
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  have to go through some challenges before we
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  can actually get, you know, the decadent chocolate,
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  before we can get the rewards.
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  I think the rewards are much sweeter when
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  we had some challenges, just to be honest
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  with you guys.
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  Number seven, your scars are not ugly.
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  They're proof you healed.
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  Yeah, they're proof.
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  Number eight, you are not broken.
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  Let me say that again.
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  You are not broken.
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  You are not broken.
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  You're battle tested.
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  That's it.
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  Number nine, you can't control where you fell,
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  but you can control where you stand up.
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  You can't control where you decide to replant
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  yourself.
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  You can do that, guys, every single day.
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  But I think sometimes when people feel hard,
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  they don't know where to go.
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  They don't know what to do.
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  And I think that's a problem for a
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  lot of people.
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  They get stuck in this pattern.
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  And for whatever reason, guys, this pattern just
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  kind of gets them to do what?
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  Procrastinate over and over and over again.
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  And unfortunately, that's not great.
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  But that is what happens.
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  It causes that procrastination to just go on
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  and on and on and on.
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  That's important.
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  Very, very important to realize and to be
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  cognizant, aware of.
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  Number 10, guys, you weren't stuck.
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  You were forced to pause and rethink.
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  You know, that's something a lot of people
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  don't really get.
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  They don't understand why that is.
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  But I'm here to tell you that when
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  you pause and think, you actually become a
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  better version of yourself.
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  I know that, you know, looking at things,
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  it becomes hard.
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  But I also know that when we dig
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  deep, there's so much we can do.
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  So much.
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  Number 11, the mess that embarrassed you will
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  one day empower someone else.
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  It's a mess to you.
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  But it's actually something that I think a
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  lot of people don't realize.
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  They don't realize how this matters.
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  Number 12, you didn't lose time.
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  You actually gained wisdom.
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  And as I said before, you're not starting
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  over.
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  You're starting with more education.
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  Right?
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  That's important.
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  And that's something we all need to basically
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  embrace.
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  Okay?
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  It's something we have to embrace.
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  Something we really need to embrace.
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  And we can.
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  Number 13, your stability now is built upon
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  all the times you refuse to stay down.
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  I know that we get these times when,
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  you know, we wish things would be different.
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  But we have to embrace what we have
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  now.
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  I think that's a very, very important thing
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  that we can embrace and we can grow
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  with every single day.
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  All right?
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  I'm not saying it's going to be easy.
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  But I'm here to tell you that you
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  can do it.
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  I think that's an important thing to really
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  understand.
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  It's an important thing that you need to
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  realize.
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  You need to appreciate.
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  You need to prepare for.
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  But when, you know, we see lemons, the
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  first thing most people do is, oh, my
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  gosh, it's a mess.
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  Instead of figuring out how to turn lemons
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  into lemonade, how do you turn lemons into
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  lemonade?
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  Number 14, guys, you deserve a life that
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  doesn't constantly feel like survival mode.
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  Right?
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  We've all been in survival mode.
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  And survival mode, guys, is not fun.
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  It's just one of those things where we
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  can't really do anything because we're constantly chasing
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  our tail, right?
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  You've had those moments, right, where we're always
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  chasing our tail round and round and round
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  and round.
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  And maybe you're saying to myself, gee, John,
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  you know, I'm chasing my tail, but I
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  don't really know even how I'm chasing my
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  tail.
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  Or what I'm chasing it for.
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  So those are important moments that I think
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  we need to embrace.
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  And we need to grow with it in
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  our lives.
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  We need to grow.
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  Number 15.
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  You are allowed to outgrow the version of
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  you that accepted less.
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  Yeah, you can outgrow it, and you don't
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  have to give anybody a reason or saying,
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  hey, you know, this is what's going on.
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  You don't have to tell somebody anything.
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  Okay?
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  You can outgrow the fact that you accepted
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  less and were happy with it.
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  Well, now you can want more.
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  Now you can want more.
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  That's pretty powerful, guys.
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  Very, very powerful.
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  And so what I want to say to
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  you guys is that sometimes, you know, procrastination
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  just kind of rears its head without us
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  being totally aware of it.
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  And then when it comes full force, it's
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  like, well, we're already exhausted.
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  We're already giving up.
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  Number 16.
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  Sometimes, I say sometimes, the universe blocks you
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  because small doors don't fit big futures.
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  So it means that your mind and where
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  you want to go, it's much bigger than
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  that.
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  Much bigger than that.
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  Okay?
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  And if we allow that to transpire, then
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  we can become, well, pretty powerful.
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  But we have to first believe in who
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  we are every single day of our lives.
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  We have to get up and not only
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  be proud and confident and knowing that we
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  can succeed, even when everyone else around us
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  doesn't believe that it's actually possible.
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  Okay?
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  Maybe that's the whole reason.
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  Does that make sense?
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  I'm hoping it does.
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  If it doesn't, then I'm hoping
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  it does.
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  If it does, then maybe you'll understand who
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  you are, who we are, and why we're
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  doing things.
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  Right?
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  But if we get stagnated, then it's like,
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  oh, my gosh, what do we do?
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  We get stagnated.
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  Does that mean something to you?
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  If it doesn't, then how do you go
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  somewhere?
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  How do you ever go somewhere in life?
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  How do you figure out what your dreams
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  are going to be?
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  How do you go somewhere?
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  How do you go somewhere?
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  How do you figure out what you need
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  to be or what you need to become?
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  It's not because of somebody else.
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  It's because of you.
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  It's because of you.
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  That's the most important thing.
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  Number 17, your comeback doesn't need an announcement.
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  Just consistency.
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  Just consistency.
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  Somebody that goes on and on and on
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  and that comes back over and over again,
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  they are consistent.
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  They're the ones that are living, right?
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  Their dreams.
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  They're the ones living their dreams.
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  I think that's something that many people feel
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  that maybe they don't deserve a dream.
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  But everyone deserves a dream.
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  And everyone has the right and the God
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  -given birth privilege to dream big, not to
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  dream small.
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  I know that sometimes you want to dream
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  small.
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  I really, I know that, okay?
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  I absolutely, absolutely know that.
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  But when you think about what's going on,
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  when you think about why something's happening, when
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  you think about the fact that you're procrastinating
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  all because of something somebody did, or maybe
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  something you saw, or maybe something you felt,
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  but it's not every moment.
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  It's just this moment.
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  And number 18, you owe it to yourself,
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  your younger self, that is, to keep going.
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  I know it seems hard, okay?
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  But I want to tell you that it's
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  important to embrace this every single day.
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  Every single day.
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  And if you embrace it every single day,
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  then you'll start to see changes are going
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  to happen.
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  Does that make sense?
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  Hopefully it does.
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  If it doesn't, then maybe you need to
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  re-look at your values, re-look at
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  your priorities in life.
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  Number 19, guys, you're not defined by the
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  worst thing that happened to you.
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  A lot of people might say, oh my
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  gosh, I can't do this.
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  This is like all I can do, right?
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  That's what some people say.
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  That's all I can do.
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  It's all I can do.
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  It doesn't have to be that way.
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  No, it doesn't have to be that way.
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  I want to tell you right now, guys,
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  that you make your future.
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  You make your bed.
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  Regardless of what anybody else is going to
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  tell you, your energy creates tomorrow.
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  And the day after that and the week
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  after that and the month after that, quarter
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  after that, whole year after that, and beyond.
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  When you change your energy, it's like you're
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  running a new program.
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  See, a lot of times we don't reach
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  our goals because the program we're running is
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  not in alignment with what we're trying to
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  get.
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  It's in alignment with what we already have,
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  and it's not adjusted to where we want
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  to go.
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  Does that make some sense?
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  I hope it does.
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  Number 20, some of your mistakes were just
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  misaligned environments.
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  That's it.
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  Misaligned.
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  Nothing totally bad, just you were not in
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  alignment with where and why you were doing
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  something.
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  Right?
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  Your why was not loud enough.
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  And by not being loud enough, I mean
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  that it did not align with your core
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  values in life.
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  That's the truth.
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  That's the real truth of that.
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  But the good news is you can change
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  those core values every single day of your
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  life.
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  You can change them.
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  Okay?
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  You can change them every single day.
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  Every single day, you can change them.
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  And maybe you're saying to me, John, this
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  doesn't quite make the sense that I want
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  it to.
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  Maybe you're saying that to yourself.
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  Maybe you're not.
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  But if we can understand that where we're
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  going is based on our mindset.
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  Number 21, you're not fragile, guys.
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  You're flexible.
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  It's just maybe you haven't learned how to
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  bend.
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  Maybe you haven't learned how to turn.
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  Maybe.
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  Maybe not.
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  Maybe you haven't discovered the knowledge you need
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  to be more adaptable, to be more like
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  a chameleon.
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  Number 22, you didn't fail at life, guys.
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  You passed the lesson.
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  And once you pass the lesson, you keep
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  going after it time in and time again.
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  Time in and time again.
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  You keep making that lesson.
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  Time in and time again.
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  Time in and time again.
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  That's very powerful, guys.
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  Very, very powerful.
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  So powerful that you would not believe how
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  this little shift in your mind can make
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  really major changes in your life.
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  Now, the thing is, it's not going to
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  happen overnight.
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  As much as you want it to happen
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  tomorrow, it's not going to happen overnight.
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  I'm sorry.
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  It's just not.
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  It's going to take a little time.
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  Number 23, what tried to sink you is
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  now part of your story and actually the
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  foundation of your core strength now.
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  Funny how that kind of happens, isn't it?
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  How we can just kind of replace that.
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  That's really funny.
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  Number 24, you're allowed to rebuild differently.
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  This time, okay?
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  And it doesn't have to be the exact
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  same way that it was before, guys.
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  It doesn't have to be that way.
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  All right?
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  And if it doesn't have to be that
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  way anymore, that means we have choices to
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  be different in life.
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  We have choices to be different in life.
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  We have the choices to be different in
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  life.
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  If we have the choices to be different
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  in life, then why is it that people
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  don't understand some things?
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  Why is it that people go one way?
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  Why is this?
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  Why is it that, you know, people do
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  things a certain way?
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  I just want to know why.
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  And if the why is there, then I
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  just want to say, how do we make
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  the change?
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  Again, we can't make the change maybe overnight,
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  but we can make the change over time.
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  Over time, we can.
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  Over time.
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  And when we do this, it's like, well,
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  we get this whole perspective of something that
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  shifted just a little bit.
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  Maybe not a lot.
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  But that little shift, okay, that little shift
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  tells us that maybe we need to do
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  something different in our lives.
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  Maybe.
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  Does it at least make you think?
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  I'm hoping it does.
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  I'm hoping it makes you think.
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  If it doesn't, then I get it.
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  I get it.
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  If something happens a certain way, then maybe
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  you'll change where you are or what you're
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  doing.
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  But if it doesn't, then would you change
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  your direction?
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  I don't know.
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  Number 25, your story gets better every time
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  you choose not to quit.
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  It becomes just a little bit easier.
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  It becomes a little more manageable.
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  It becomes a little more believable for you,
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  right?
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  It's not about winning tomorrow.
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  It's about getting a little bit further than
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  where you were.
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  Getting just a little bit further than where
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  you were yesterday.
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  Number 26, guys, you are stronger than the
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  thing that almost broke you.
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  You are very, very strong.
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  Very strong.
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  Number 27, guys, that chapter hurt.
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  But it also woke you up.
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  It taught you a lesson.
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  It said, hey, you're not going to do
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  this stuff anymore.
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  Right?
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  I hope it taught you a lesson.
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  Number 28, you can grieve what happened and
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  still be excited for what's next.
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  You can.
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  Number 29, your pain has a purpose.
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  It woke up your potential.
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  It wasn't there to scare you.
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  It was there to shock you into changing
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  the way you currently operate and live in
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  the world.
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  That's powerful, guys.
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  Very powerful.
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  Number 30, you're stepping out of the mud
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  into your main character error.
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  And we all know what it's like to
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  have our car stuck in the mud or
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  have known someone that's got their car stuck
• 25:44
  in the mud.
• 25:44
  Whether you have four-wheel drive or not,
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  you know that when you're stuck in the
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  mud, sometimes it calls for drastic measures, including
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  calling a tow truck to possibly get you
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  out.
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  But you know what?
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  You get out, and you can talk about
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  it, and you can move forward.
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  Ladies and gentlemen, this has been Inspirations for
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  Your Life, the daily motivational show for people
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  who've been knocked down but refuse to stay
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  there.
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  I am John C.
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  Morley, serial entrepreneur, and I'm reminding you that
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  what tried to bury you didn't end you.
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  It strengthened you.
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  You're no longer stuck, folks.
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  You're solid.
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  You can listen now.
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  Go to BelieveMeAchieve.com.
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  You can listen to the audiocast, the videocast,
• 26:32
  podcast, whatever you like, short-form, long-form
• 26:35
  content, articles, reels.
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  Yeah, so much more.
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  You can replay these shows because these nuggets,
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  folks, are very, very powerful.
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  Very, very powerful.
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  And if you can admit that, then you'll
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  know that you can make the difference.
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  Again, all you need to do is visit
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  BelieveMeAchieve.com.
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  By the way, you can do this 24
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  hours a day, 7 days a week.
• 27:08
  Maybe you have an itch for some motivation
• 27:11
  at 1 in the morning, and you don't
• 27:12
  have to listen to it at 1 a
• 27:13
  .m. Or maybe you can't get to sleep,
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  and you just need something to, I don't
• 27:18
  know, maybe comfort you a little bit.
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  Right?
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  Maybe.
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  Maybe not.
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  And I think if we can appreciate those
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  kinds of things, then we can realize the
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  true potential in our life.
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  The true potential in our life.
• 27:44
  That's a very interesting thing, guys.
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  Okay?
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  Very, very interesting thing.
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  It's interesting because you know what's going on.
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  You know why something is going on or
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  why it's not going on.
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  So I invite you to check out BelieveMeAchieve
• 28:08
  .com for more of my amazing, of course,
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  inspiring creations.
• 28:11
  I'll catch you guys real soon.
• 28:12
  And remember, get yourself unstuck out of the
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  mud.
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  It's a mental mindset, and I know you
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  can do it.
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  Have a good one, everyone.
• 28:18
  Be well.