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Season 4 - Episode 309 - Are you feeling alone? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermindset, coach, creative strategist, and also happened to
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  be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy. Into the.
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  World. So welcome to the coop and let's
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  start your day off in a fantastic way, hey?
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  Everybody, good morning. Yesterday I had a client ask me
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  how I don't get thrown from person to person.
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  Like if you're coaching and someone's in a horrible state
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  and then you have to go to the next person, how do you do that
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  without getting thrown? And the, and the question came
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  up because he manages a very large team and there are lots of
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  emotions flying because he manages humans and it's that
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  time of the year and it's stressful and there's lots of
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  things happening. And he said it's just, it can be
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  daunting. And I said, yes, it can be
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  daunting for sure. But the question is, how do you
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  go into it? What are your beliefs around it?
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  And as he asked me, I was in a very he this is a person that I
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  coached for a very long time and we have very deep conversations.
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  And I wanted to impart on him the absolute truth.
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  So I paused and I was like, OK, I have to source this because
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  it's something that happens automatically for me of how I
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  manage these things because I don't take something from one
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  session to another to another. And how do you leave something
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  and then go on. And I went on to explain that in
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  my work, it's much easier than it is in my personal life.
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  In other words, if I have an argument with my husband, it's
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  harder for me to leave it behind because I'm not in that space.
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  I feel like when I am off, I can be my like completely be myself
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  and be present. And if I'm emotional, I can let
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  that emotion sit with me. Right or wrong, that's how I
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  feel. And that's just truth.
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  Can I get rid of it? Sure.
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  Do I put them aside? Yes.
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  But often it takes harder. And it's also in align with
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  what's the depth of the offense that I've I've made something up
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  in my head. Where is the meaning in it?
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  So as I dug into this, I realized in order to explain
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  this to him, I had to explain to him that I am.
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  I don't feel like I ever coach alone.
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  I feel I'm a very spiritual person, very spiritual person.
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  I don't believe I'm separated from anything.
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  I'm part of, you know, the energy of this planet when you
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  really study and and read in terms that I can understand
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  because I am not a scientist. Let me be very clear about that.
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  But I love reading that stuff and understanding how quantum
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  physics works. Energy is everything and just
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  because we can't see it or process it or are guys can't see
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  all the different colors in the nuances.
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  We see lots of them, but we don't see them all.
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  And we can hear all frequencies but we can't hear them all.
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  And there are parts of us that are, we can't deny are connected
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  to everything. So to me, that is a sign that
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  the universe lives within me. So therefore I am tapped into
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  everything that is the universe. So therefore I am not doing
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  anything by myself. And I can stay centered and stay
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  calibrated because I believe that the universe constantly
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  conspires to have my back. I think it constantly conspires
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  to set me up. And if I wasn't supposed to be
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  doing this job, I wouldn't be given these tools and it there,
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  it's a part of me. And no matter where I was in my
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  life, even at the down times, those things provided stuff to
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  me that helped me be the person I am and and coach the way that
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  I coach and the patterns that I'd coach.
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  So as I'm explaining this to him, he says, wow, that is a
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  distinct difference. So you really never believe
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  you're like an island. And I was like, no.
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  And he really had believed that he was an island.
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  He was having this experience and this experience was it was
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  putting him in this isolated bubble and he felt lonely.
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  So his frustration as much as it was, he thought dealing with
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  people, which and and getting, you know, the funk off in
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  between sessions of talking to people on his team, It was
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  really a sense of loneliness too.
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  And I said, when you take this, this part and you entrench it in
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  you, you soak it up and you own it.
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  And you know, you're not alone. It eliminates so many other
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  parts of us. And it was like a light went
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  off. It was like something happened
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  in that moment for him. And you could feel it.
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  You could actually feel it. And he was like, wow.
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  So all I have to do is pause and recognize that when I'm in that
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  state, I can be present for them, not feel like I have to
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  take that to the next person. I'm not doing it by myself and I
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  can feel better. And I was like 100% if you tap
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  into it. So the question is, do you feel
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  like you're by yourself? And if you do, are you doing
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  that because you're just not tapped into the faith that you
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  may say you have? Now?
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  Some people may say I don't have the faith and some people may
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  say I don't believe that. And that's cool.
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  Everyone is a can believe whatever they choose.
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  I'm sharing what I believe and what works for me and has worked
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  for me brilliantly for years. So whether it's made-up or real,
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  I don't know. My friends, I'm in the sense of
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  saying I certainly feels very real to me and I live a very
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  like very centered life where I just feel so entrenched and good
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  in it. So it's a possibility for you to
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  think about that. All right, my friends, I hope
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  this helps and I hope you have a fantastic day.
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  Bye.