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Season 5 - Episode 27 - When something goes wrong, where does your energy go? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermindset coach, creative strategist, and also happened to
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  be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy into the world. So welcome to the coop and let's
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  start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from the garage because it's too cold
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  for me to be outside and dark. It's just it's absolutely
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  unbelievable. Yesterday was unbelievable.
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  Today is unbelievable. And it looks like we're going to
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  be in this pattern for quite some time.
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  So in any event, let's talk about breakups.
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  Now there are many people out there who are already settled in
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  their relationships and they go, oh, why is she talking about
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  breakups? But I'm not just talking about
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  the breakup of your intimate relationship.
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  I'm talking about any kind of breakup with a client, with a, a
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  spouse, a partner, a friend. Anytime that we have conflict as
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  a human or a breakup, we which we may view as a conflict
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  doesn't always have to be, but we may view it that way.
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  We have reactions to it and those reactions that we have can
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  be very sticky. They're like Velcro.
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  They, they go on everything and we end up taking that stuff
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  wherever we go, however we feel about it, even if the breakup is
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  mutual, even if the distance is mutual, this happens.
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  So very recently I was talking to a client about the fact that
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  she had been working with someone for a very long time.
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  She felt like they were trusted, you know, that they were going
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  to always use her in her service.
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  And then all of a sudden, out of nowhere comes the conversation
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  of, listen, I have decided I'm not going to do this anymore.
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  And this was really shocking to her.
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  She felt like what? I have helped you through so
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  many things. I've done so many things.
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  And, you know, the business that she's in is very complicated.
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  So her skills are unique. And all of a sudden this comes
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  like out of nowhere and it's stick.
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  These things stick and they stay on you and it and it doesn't
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  mean that you can't get past it. But the point I'm I'm going for
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  here with this is that when they are on you, you are taking them
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  wherever you go and you're interrupting the good energy
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  that is coming to you. Because you're going to hear me
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  say this a lot this year. Nothing is more important than
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  the consistent energy you remain in.
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  If your energy is being pulled off to the side, you're going to
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  keep making variations in your trajectory.
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  So if you are trying to get somewhere in your company, your
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  work, your hobbies, whatever it might be, your creativity, and
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  you keep making slight variations to left, just a
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  little bit, just small degrees, you're going to end up somewhere
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  completely different. Just like if a plane takes off
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  from Boston and it is heading to Los Angeles and it keeps making
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  slight variations to the left as it's flying, even though they're
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  incremental, they're going to end up in San Diego or Mexico.
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  Because by the time you get there, those variations, while
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  they're so small, they add up over time.
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  And that actually is the beautiful fact about being
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  consistent with your actions. If you're consistent with your
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  actions over time, they all add up to great things.
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  But you have to be ultimately consistent.
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  Like I'm talking ridiculously consistent.
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  And the most consistent one that affects you is your mood, is
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  your energy, is your, is your emotions.
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  What emotion are you in? How are you feeling?
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  So when we say shake it off, this is one of those times where
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  you really have to shake it off. Because if she's consistently
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  worrying about the fact that this person is no longer going
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  to use her company and her service, and that means that
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  she's going to end up going to somebody else, they're going to
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  end up taking care of her. And that's all my client was
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  obsessing on like who is she going to use?
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  Who is she going to go to? Where is she going to go?
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  Because she wouldn't say what company she was going to use
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  instead. And it just spiraled and before
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  you know it, I mean, we all have people that do this.
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  I had, I have people that stop working with me and then they go
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  to someone else. That's the nature of people.
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  I mean, it's, it's just true. And while I try to do my
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  ultimate best every time I'm coaching somebody, sometimes
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  there are, you know, factors that come into it.
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  Maybe something changed in their life and they're moving and they
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  don't want to work in a different time zone.
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  Had that one happened not long, long ago, It was too, too much.
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  Just couldn't deal with a huge time zone change.
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  I mean, and when you move and it's an 8 hour time difference,
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  it's a big deal. So some things happen, it just
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  happens. And you've got to make sure that
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  you're doing something to for yourself to not have your brain
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  go and start attracting something that you don't want,
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  which is more people moving away from you or more confusion in
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  your writing or your creativity or whatever else is happening.
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  But it all starts with you inside because you have that
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  internal state, you have the ability to calibrate that energy
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  going in a specific direction. It's you and you alone.
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  So I suggest that you look at it, you work at it, and you make
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  sure you control it. All right, my friends, I hope
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  you have a blessed day. Stay warm.
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  I'm going to work on it and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.