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BONUS EPISODE: Emily Answers Your Listener Questions · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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Speaker 1: When you look in the mirror, what do you see?
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Speaker 2: What is going on? Hurdle Community, Emily a body here.
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Speaker 3: You are listening to Hurdle, a wellness focused podcast where
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Speaker 3: I connect with everyone from your favorite athletes to top
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Speaker 3: experts and industry CEOs about their highest highs, toughest moments,
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Speaker 3: and everything in between. We all go through hurdles in life,
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Speaker 3: and my goal through these discussions is to empower you
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Speaker 3: to better navigate yours and move with intentions so that
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Speaker 3: you can stride towards your own big potential and of course,
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Speaker 3: have some.
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Speaker 2: Fun along the way.
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Speaker 3: Today, I wanted to add some fun to the mix
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Speaker 3: of Season seven premiere week by answering a bunch of
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Speaker 3: your listener questions.
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Speaker 2: I beginning so many lately.
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Speaker 3: I am so appreciative of you all leaving them for me,
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Speaker 3: And if you have one that you want to add
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Speaker 3: to the mix.
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Speaker 2: Feel free to click on over to the show.
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Speaker 3: Notes and add one by clicking leave me a voice message.
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Speaker 3: I won't answer it in an upcoming Hurdle listener episode,
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Speaker 3: but I digress. Today answering a bunch of your questions,
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Speaker 3: super excited to talk about everything from how to keep
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Speaker 3: the fun in your career even when you're passionate about it,
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Speaker 3: chatting about international travel, chatting about marathon training and recovery,
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Speaker 3: how to know when to listen to your body versus
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Speaker 3: when to just push through, and.
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Speaker 2: So so much more.
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Speaker 3: I made a bunch of big announcements in yesterday's episode,
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Speaker 3: so I want to make sure I highlight those right now.
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Speaker 3: First and foremost, the Hurdle Membership is live, so many
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Speaker 3: good questions coming in about structure and formatting, all of
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Speaker 3: which are answered in the Hurdle Membership Frequently Asked Questions page,
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Speaker 3: so head on over there. If you have anything else
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Speaker 3: you need to know that I haven't answered, feel free
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Speaker 3: that text welcome to seven three two Hurdler. That is
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Speaker 3: seven three two four eight seven three five three seven.
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Speaker 3: Don't forget to check out the season seven giveaway over
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Speaker 3: on the Hurdle Instagram at Hurdle Podcast. I'm over at
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Speaker 3: Emily Abadi and with that, let's get to hurdling.
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Speaker 4: Hi, Emily, this is Hannah from Vancouver in BC, Canada.
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Speaker 4: I am at a very busy point during the year
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Speaker 4: with my line of work right now, and I know
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Speaker 4: with what you do you often find yourself working very
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Speaker 4: long hours as well. I was wondering how you stay
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Speaker 4: motivated when the job you love also takes up so
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Speaker 4: much of your personal time. I'd love to hear your answer.
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Speaker 4: Thanks so much for me.
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Speaker 3: Sometimes I think that beyond articulating your why and your
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Speaker 3: purpose and knowing that we have the opportunity to do
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Speaker 3: good in this world, the thing that keeps me motivated
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Speaker 3: time in and time out is planning smart.
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Speaker 2: So what I say by that is sometimes.
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Speaker 3: When you're putting in long hours and you're burning the
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Speaker 3: candle at both ends, it is super super easy to
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Speaker 3: feel burnt out. And when I start to feel burnt
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Speaker 3: out and want to throw my hands up in the air,
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Speaker 3: I know that that's not symbolic of the fact that
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Speaker 3: I care about the work less. It's just me dealing
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Speaker 3: with the feeling of that lack of balance, right, And
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Speaker 3: so to find some more balance in my life, I
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Speaker 3: start to give myself a little bit more structure than
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Speaker 3: me I typically do, whether that's timed to do lists
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Speaker 3: throughout my day, or even on the personal side of
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Speaker 3: things as well, making sure that I'm calendaring in things
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Speaker 3: that bring me joy with the people that I care about,
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Speaker 3: including myself. Right So, whether that's a solo dinner on
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Speaker 3: a Tuesday night that I put into my calendar the
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Speaker 3: week before, or setting aside a specific block of time
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Speaker 3: to catch up with a girlfriend who maybe lives far away.
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Speaker 3: I know that there are things on my joy list
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Speaker 3: that I can schedule for myself in between all of
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Speaker 3: this work and make it all happen in a way
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Speaker 3: that makes me feel fulfilled. It's easier some than done
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Speaker 3: at times, but again, planning ahead, putting it in your calendar,
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Speaker 3: dedicating these moments of fulfillment, both in work and in
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Speaker 3: your personal life, it can make a really big difference.
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Speaker 5: Hi, Emily, this is midday from Bavee on New Jersey,
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Speaker 5: and I'm calling to ask, as we both have running
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Speaker 5: in common, have you ever felt the urge to kind
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Speaker 5: of embark on a new sport? Besides running as much
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Speaker 5: while you still love it, there's other things that you
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Speaker 5: want to try. I know you've recently taken up cycling,
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Speaker 5: and I agree it's fantastic as well. But are there
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Speaker 5: any other sports out there besides running that really interest
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Speaker 5: you and would be a new adventure for you. I'm
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Speaker 5: just curious. Have a great one, you.
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Speaker 2: Know, you hit it on the head.
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Speaker 3: I really find a lot of joy and cycling, and
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Speaker 3: I think it's something that I could get a lot
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Speaker 3: more into. I do think that the barrier with cycling
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Speaker 3: is that, unlike with running, which you know, we do,
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Speaker 3: layer up and getting out in the winter is a
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Speaker 3: little bit more difficult. The cycling community, at least it
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Speaker 3: feels as though to me really hibernates in the winter,
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Speaker 3: which makes it hard to be like the thing that
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Speaker 3: I choose constantly. I had a really fun, beautiful CrossFit
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Speaker 3: phase like six or seven years ago that was a
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Speaker 3: really fun sport for me to get into. Beyond that, though,
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Speaker 3: I have for years that I do want to dedicate
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Speaker 3: myself into being more diligent with my strength routine, especially
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Speaker 3: right now as navigating some wonkiness in my body leading
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Speaker 3: up to hopefully doing both of these marathons. I am
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Speaker 3: just reminded time and time again of the importance of
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Speaker 3: incorporating that work into my regular routine. I know it
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Speaker 3: as a coach, I know it as a trainer, and
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Speaker 3: yet sometimes it takes these momentary stepbacks of injury to
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Speaker 3: remind us about just how important making time for strength
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Speaker 3: training is so other sports.
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Speaker 2: I mean, maybe I should.
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Speaker 3: Get involved in an intramural league. Hit me up if
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Speaker 3: you've got an invite, But at the time, it's cycling
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Speaker 3: and running for me.
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Speaker 1: Hi, Emily, my name is Casey and I'm a hard
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Speaker 1: learning Chicago. I've been following along with you for a
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Speaker 1: while now. I see a hard working, strong, happy, and
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Speaker 1: refreshingly honest woman, running a wildly successful business and kicking
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Speaker 1: button marathon training. Your workouts are death inspiring me as
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Speaker 1: I trained for the Chicago Marathon next month. My question
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Speaker 1: for you this week is when you look in the mirror,
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Speaker 1: what do you see?
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Speaker 2: Oh? I see what you did there? Flipping my own
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Speaker 2: script on me.
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Speaker 3: You know, I always feel like in my heart some
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Speaker 3: kind of way when I ask this question of my
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Speaker 3: guests and they have a moment in reflection that can
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Speaker 3: be a little bit emotional, and I have that same
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Speaker 3: moment when I sit here and try to answer this question.
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Speaker 3: I see a woman that has worked her ass off
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Speaker 3: to build this community in hopes to keep building this community.
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Speaker 3: I see a woman who's doing her best, still so
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Speaker 3: many years later, to love her body for all that
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Speaker 3: it provides her, while still dealing with at times the
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Speaker 3: residual effects that come hand in hand with going through
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Speaker 3: a math of weight loss. I see a beautiful person
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Speaker 3: who truly wants to do good. Like I know it's
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Speaker 3: so deeply in my soul that my goal is to
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Speaker 3: help other people, and what I see there is what
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Speaker 3: helps me keep pushing forward day after day when someone
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Speaker 3: has something otherwise to say right, because it is so,
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Speaker 3: you know, part of the gig that in putting myself
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Speaker 3: out there, I open myself up at times to unsolicited feedback.
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Speaker 2: And so when I look.
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Speaker 3: In the mirror, I have to know that my intentions
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Speaker 3: are pure and my goals are legitimate, and that I
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Speaker 3: have the opportunity to help other people.
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Speaker 2: If I'm just willing to put in the work. I
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Speaker 2: above all, see.
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Speaker 3: A woman that I'm proud of, and a woman who
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Speaker 3: has so much more to give and such a big
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Speaker 3: heart and want so desperately not just to give love,
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Speaker 3: but to be loved in return.
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Speaker 2: That's what I see.
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Speaker 6: Hey, Emily, I'm training for my first marathon coming up
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Speaker 6: this fall in Chicago. I'm excited about the big day,
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Speaker 6: but every week that goes by, I can feel my
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Speaker 6: body need the rest. What do you do when the
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Speaker 6: miles and the time add up? Do you pull back?
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Speaker 6: And if so, how do you learn how to give
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Speaker 6: your body the rest it needs to finally make it
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Speaker 6: to the start line.
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Speaker 3: Listening to your body is really really important. With that said,
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Speaker 3: all marathon training programs are I would say ninety nine
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Speaker 3: point nine percent of them are designed with this in mind.
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Speaker 2: Right.
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Speaker 3: They are built to help you accumulate mileage to get
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Speaker 3: you to a place where you feel comfortable putting in
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Speaker 3: the miles that are necessary to show up on race
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Speaker 3: day and do good. With that said, it's important that
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Speaker 3: you speak to a coach or a physical therapist or
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Speaker 3: a trainer who can help you better understand how to
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Speaker 3: take care of your body in this time, especially as
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Speaker 3: a new marathon a.
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Speaker 7: Right.
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Speaker 3: Again, this is something you've never done before. It is
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Speaker 3: a massive accomplishment, so recovery becomes more integral than ever.
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Speaker 3: And this isn't just like finding yourself a pair of
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Speaker 3: Norma tech boots or using a hyperise right, this is
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Speaker 3: recovery in your nutrition, This is recovery in your stress levels.
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Speaker 3: This is the people that you're surrounding yourself with. So
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Speaker 3: be really smart and intentional about how you continue on
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Speaker 3: your journey, knowing that there is going to be a
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Speaker 3: certain amount of opportunity costs and there's definitely going to
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Speaker 3: be a certain amount of exhaustion. But if you handle
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Speaker 3: it right and you talk to the right people, this
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Speaker 3: is going to all pay off.
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Speaker 2: You've just got to believe.
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Speaker 8: Hi. Emily as Britain and I'm an Avid Herdle listener.
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Speaker 8: My question is how do you go about setting smart
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Speaker 8: goals for yourself? And I mean smart SMRT and given
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Speaker 8: that you've accomplished so much, how do you push yourself
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Speaker 8: to reach new heights.
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Speaker 3: I feel like it's important for me just to say
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Speaker 3: this because I sometimes get the vibe that y'all might
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Speaker 3: think that I just have endless.
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Speaker 2: Motivation, and it's.
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Speaker 3: Here's it's not endless, Like there are times that I
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Speaker 3: am tired and fed up and literally like can't even
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Speaker 3: bring myself to do a damn thing. But the way
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Speaker 3: that I keep pushing is by setting these goals that
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Speaker 3: are smart and what we are referring to here. I
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Speaker 3: know you've heard about me talking on the show specific, measurable, attainable.
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Speaker 2: Relevant, and time bound.
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Speaker 3: By asking yourself if a goal fits into all of
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Speaker 3: those categories when setting it for yourself. Well that is
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Speaker 3: I won't say a shore fire, but you are much
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Speaker 3: more likely to succeed in going after a goal when
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Speaker 3: you have dissected it in this way.
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Speaker 2: To make it easier for yourself to hit the nail
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Speaker 2: on the head.
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Speaker 3: I always, you know, give this example when it comes
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Speaker 3: to setting smart goals. If you're someone who sits at
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Speaker 3: your desk during the day and you're quote unquote bad
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Speaker 3: at drinking water, I totally used to identify this way.
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Speaker 3: If you set a goal to start drinking eight bottles
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Speaker 3: of water a day, well, hate to break it to you,
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Speaker 3: but that's not a smart goal, right that. Although it
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Speaker 3: is specific and measurable, I would argue it's not attainable,
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Speaker 3: and it would be relevant because our bodies are made
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Speaker 3: of a shit ton of water, so it's very important
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Speaker 3: for you, and it's time bound, but again, it's not
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Speaker 3: attainable to go from zero to one hundred or zero
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Speaker 3: to eight, so to speak. In this sense, isn't something
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Speaker 3: that's just going to happen in one day. What could
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Speaker 3: happen in one day, however, is if you set the
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Speaker 3: goal to drink maybe two bottles of water a day.
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Speaker 3: You want to sit down at your desk at nine
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Speaker 3: am and by the time you get up at six
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Speaker 3: pm you will have drink two bottles. That seems a
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Speaker 3: lot more manageable, right. So by setting smart goals, that's
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Speaker 3: what helps me continue to go after new goals. And
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Speaker 3: then in turn, when it comes to staying motivated, I
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Speaker 3: would say that I continually go back to my why
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Speaker 3: and my purpose. And I also have made it an
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Speaker 3: effort to be open and honest with my friends off
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Speaker 3: of social media about where I'm at and lean into
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Speaker 3: their support when I truly feel like I need it.
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Speaker 3: I would like to think I'm pretty self sufficient, but
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Speaker 3: I also believe that you need a good support network
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Speaker 3: if you want to go far.
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Speaker 2: If you want to go far, you go together, not alone.
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Speaker 3: And so, although you know hurdle this is the thing
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Speaker 3: that I am building, I truly believe that it is
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Speaker 3: a community effort and that the community motivation is what
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Speaker 3: keeps me coming back for more each and every day.
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Speaker 3: So motivation found within community, within the support of my friends,
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Speaker 3: and within coming back to my wife. That's how I
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Speaker 3: keep going.
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Speaker 9: Hey, am, what advice would you give to someone who's
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Speaker 9: looking to travel internationally for the first time? Where should
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Speaker 9: I go? What resources should I look to to get
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Speaker 9: me started? And any other tips you have? Thanks?
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Speaker 2: This is a great question.
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Speaker 3: I actually have an entire episode on solo travel that
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Speaker 3: I would love to recommend and refer you to. I'll
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Speaker 3: link to it in the show notes with travel expert
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Speaker 3: Jeannette Saiha. But a few thoughts on traveling internationally that
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Speaker 3: I'll share with you right now. And these thoughts, I
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Speaker 3: know that COVID is a very real thing, so of
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Speaker 3: course there are certainly more things that you need to
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Speaker 3: take into consideration when planning trips these days.
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Speaker 2: But I would say my two biggest.
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Speaker 3: Tips for international travel. One, really be organized before you go,
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Speaker 3: especially especially if you're going somewhere where you don't speak
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Speaker 3: the language. You will never regret like over researching your trip.
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Speaker 3: And although I'm not the kind of person who really
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Speaker 3: thinks you need like a one hundred percent detailed itinerary.
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Speaker 3: My go to point of view is that you need
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Speaker 3: to have one thing every day of your trip that
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Speaker 3: is planned and you're really looking forward to. But knowing
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Speaker 3: exactly where all the things on your agenda are, knowing
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Speaker 3: exactly where your reservations are, having all of your tickets
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Speaker 3: perhaps if they need to be printed out and not
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Speaker 3: on mobile like in your phone, although it still boggles
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Speaker 3: my mind that anyone needs anything that's printed out anymore,
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Speaker 3: but having these things planned ahead of time will be
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Speaker 3: really helpful in lowering anxiety because hey, you're on a vacation,
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Speaker 3: but also like preventing any room for like maybe being
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Speaker 3: take advantage taken advantage of. So I say that in
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Speaker 3: that if you're trying to book something last minute, prices
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Speaker 3: could be higher. If there's a language barrier, that always
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Speaker 3: adds a little extra level of difficulty. So really knowing
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Speaker 3: your plan going into your trip and being detail oriented
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Speaker 3: in that plan can be super helpful. And the last
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Speaker 3: thing I want to say about international travel is if
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Speaker 3: you're gonna take the plunge, if you're gonna go do it,
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Speaker 3: then make sure you're going somewhere that you feel really
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Speaker 3: excited about, right because just like setting a goal. If
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Speaker 3: you set a goal that you just saw someone else
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Speaker 3: do that you thought was cool, but you don't feel
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Speaker 3: any personal passion or excitement toward this goal, then that's
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Speaker 3: not the goal for you.
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Speaker 2: Same with this trip.
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Speaker 3: When I went on my first international solo trip, I
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Speaker 3: went to Italy and I felt a deep, burning excitement
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Speaker 3: and passion about going there specifically. So do some inventory.
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Speaker 3: Ask yourself, what kind of trip are you really looking forward.
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Speaker 3: Do you want to be laying on a beach for hours?
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Speaker 3: Do you want to be doing activities? Do you want
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Speaker 3: to be actually really active and going on bike tours
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Speaker 3: and hikes and stuff like that. Ask yourself what it
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Speaker 3: is that you're looking for so that you can best
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Speaker 3: choose the trip that's truly right for you.
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Speaker 10: Emily, it's Molly from New Jersey. Here. I'm in the
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Speaker 10: midst of training for my fifth or six half marathon
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Speaker 10: and having such a hard time with these longer runs.
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Speaker 10: I just constantly get in my head and can't stop
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Speaker 10: myself from quitting and walking and just getting so defeated
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Speaker 10: and frustrated.
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Speaker 7: I could really use some advice.
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Speaker 10: On what to do to prepare myself for these longer runs,
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Speaker 10: especially with this rates coming up in less than a month.
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Speaker 10: Thanks love your show.
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Speaker 3: I just want to throw into the mix that whether
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Speaker 3: you're training for your first or your hundredth marathon, half marathon,
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Speaker 3: five k mile, whatever, everyone feels this way at some point.
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Speaker 2: So find some happiness, some like welcoming.
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Speaker 3: Some community in that right, like even the top of
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Speaker 3: the top, the elite runners, the des Is, the Mollies,
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Speaker 3: the Shalane's, like, everyone has these moments where they're like,
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Speaker 3: my motivation is waiting, what am I doing?
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Speaker 2: Et cetera.
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Speaker 3: Okay, cool, Glad that we've established that when it comes
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Speaker 3: to finding the motivation though, because it is within you too.
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Speaker 3: Things that I will say, One, you've got to scrap
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Speaker 3: this idea that walking is the evil. Right, walking doesn't
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Speaker 3: have to be the evil, and in fact, it's probably
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Speaker 3: one of the most important tools in your runner's toolbox
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Speaker 3: when you need to regroup, you need to take a moment.
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Speaker 3: There is nothing wrong with, I will say, technically slowing
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Speaker 3: down your pace to a walk, but take advantage of
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Speaker 3: the walk, let yourself come back to yourself, take a
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Speaker 3: deep breath, have that moment.
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Speaker 2: It's cool.
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Speaker 3: Stop making the walk the devil of your running routine.
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Speaker 2: Cool. Glad we've established that as well.
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Speaker 3: The second thing that I will say is believing that
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Speaker 3: you can like it starts with that inner dialogue. It
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Speaker 3: starts by flipping the switch. I don't believe in toxic
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Speaker 3: toxic positivity, excuse me, but what I do believe is
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Speaker 3: that we are a result of the way that we
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Speaker 3: talk to ourselves, and we are the person that talks
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Speaker 3: to ourselves the most in any given day. So ask yourself, like,
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Speaker 3: what is that conversation? Like how are you navigating the
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Speaker 3: way that you're speaking to yourself? Could you have a
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Speaker 3: little bit more compassion and remembering in this journey to
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Speaker 3: celebrate the small winds, like maybe that longer run didn't
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Speaker 3: go exactly how you hoped, but it was the longest
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Speaker 3: that you've ever run. Or maybe in that longer run
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Speaker 3: you had a five minute period we're running for the
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Speaker 3: first time in months, felt truly effortless, And how amazing
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Speaker 3: is that that it could feel that way that you
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Speaker 3: did that thing. So make sure that you're hyping yourself up,
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Speaker 3: that it starts with you, that that dialogue skewing positive,
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Speaker 3: and that you're taking time to celebrate the small winds
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Speaker 3: and keep going because you can.
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Speaker 2: You just have to believe that you can.
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Speaker 11: Hi, Emily, I'm just wondering if you have any tips
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Speaker 11: on dealing with burnout, just kind of the best ways
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Speaker 11: that I can maybe be a little bit more organized,
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Speaker 11: or more grounded, or just more mindful of my time
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Speaker 11: and just really deal with all of the things I
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Speaker 11: have going on, but also still keep taking care of myself.
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Speaker 2: Man burnout the topic of twenty twenty one.
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Speaker 3: Well, in addition to what I said before, the good
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Speaker 3: news is that you are well on your way to
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Speaker 3: navigating burnout already. So often we pretend that everything is
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Speaker 3: fine when inside we literally feel like we are absolutely dying.
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Speaker 3: And the truth is is that you're not alone in
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Speaker 3: feeling this way. We all feel this way from time
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Speaker 3: to time, and in order to navigate it, the first
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Speaker 3: step again is admitting it. I have an episode that
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Speaker 3: I'm going to link in the show notes with a
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Speaker 3: ton of tips when it comes to navigating burnout, But
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Speaker 3: first and foremost admit it. And then my next tip
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Speaker 3: is being very realistic about the things that you're trying
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Speaker 3: to get done in your day. If you are making
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Speaker 3: a to do list with twenty things on it and
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Speaker 3: there's absolutely zero chance that you're actually going to be
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Speaker 3: able to get all those twenty things done. Then reevaluate,
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Speaker 3: have some grace with yourself. The last thing that any
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Speaker 3: of us need is to be made to feel like
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Speaker 3: we're not doing good enough, and we are the person
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Speaker 3: that is putting that pressure on ourselves. So in the morning,
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Speaker 3: when you sit down, make a realistic to do list
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Speaker 3: with less items on it. You will feel so good
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Speaker 3: come the end of the day when you see that
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Speaker 3: you're actually checking this stuff off. And of course a
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Speaker 3: little self care goes a long way, so it doesn't
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Speaker 3: hurt to have something to look forward to at the
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Speaker 3: end of your workday.
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Speaker 7: Hello Emily, this is Alex from Virginia and my question
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Speaker 7: is with podcasting, how do you balance keeping it fun
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Speaker 7: while also taking it seriously and knowing that it's one
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Speaker 7: of your full time jobs. Thanks so much.
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Speaker 3: You know, when I first started Hurtle, I think that
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Speaker 3: I began it with the intention of just something to
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Speaker 3: do to have fun, and when it was on a
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Speaker 3: bi weekly cadence, it was totally a side project and
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Speaker 3: I had a lot of fun learning about who I was,
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Speaker 3: who I wanted to interview, and what my goals were
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Speaker 3: with this project. As it became more of, let's say,
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Speaker 3: my full time thing, what I began to realize is that, yes,
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Speaker 3: I have made this thing that I can have a
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Speaker 3: lot of fun with my job right, and the way
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Speaker 3: that it stays fun while also being a pretty strong
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Speaker 3: balance of effort and work. A ton of work, as
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Speaker 3: you can imagine, goes into producing this. The way that
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Speaker 3: it stays fun for me is by continuing on my mission,
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Speaker 3: knowing who I'm trying to talk to, what I'm trying
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Speaker 3: to do, and exactly who I'm trying to help, which
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Speaker 3: I think is really really important. The last thing I
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Speaker 3: will say, and I talked to anyone I coach with
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Speaker 3: when I'm one about my three columns role. Over the
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Speaker 3: last few years, I've had the opportun unity to sit
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Speaker 3: down and articulate what are the things in my three columns?
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Speaker 2: So to speak.
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Speaker 3: There's column A, column B, collum C. Column A is
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Speaker 3: what are the things that I do in my job
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Speaker 3: that I absolutely love. Colum B is what are the
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Speaker 3: things that I do in my job that I'm cool with,
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Speaker 3: I don't mind, but they're not in column A? And
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Speaker 3: colum C is this is the stuff that I would
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Speaker 3: rather not do at all. I'm so over it, no
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Speaker 3: thank you. And the thing I realize is that I
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Speaker 3: have it in my power as a contractor, not just
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Speaker 3: the podcaster. I'm talking about Emily the journalist, Emily the writer,
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Speaker 3: Emily the podcaster, Emily the host, Emily the person who
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Speaker 3: has some sort of a social media presence.
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Speaker 2: What are the things about.
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Speaker 3: All of those roles that I enjoy versus the things
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Speaker 3: that I don't, And how can I work hard so
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Speaker 3: that I can get rid of a lot of things
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Speaker 3: that I have felt in the past obligated to in
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Speaker 3: column C. This is an exercise I would recommend for
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Speaker 3: all of you at any time. I digress by eminating
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Speaker 3: a lot of the C. I've learned how to enjoy
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Speaker 3: my job more and focus on the things that I
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Speaker 3: feel like I'm really talented and really good at. Does
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Speaker 3: that mean that there aren't things in my day to
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Speaker 3: day that I wish that maybe I wasn't doing. Not necessarily,
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Speaker 3: but there are a lot less things now that I
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Speaker 3: do just to for instance, make a quick dollar than
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Speaker 3: I used to. And that's really really empowering and exciting.
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Speaker 3: That's it for now, That's all she wrote. Thank you
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Speaker 3: so much everyone for your questions. Again, if you have
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Speaker 3: anything else that you would love for me to answer,
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Speaker 3: I would love for you to ask it head on
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Speaker 3: O where the show notes click, leave me a voice
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Speaker 3: message and I will answer it in an upcoming episode.
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Speaker 3: Thanks so much for your support this week. You're the best.
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Speaker 3: Another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.