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Mamas - 2nd Weddings · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question for our American mamas. Dear mamas,
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  Speaker 1: do you what do you think of couples who get
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  Speaker 1: married before their official public wedding.
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  Speaker 2: Well, let's ask our American mama's mama, mama, she.
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  Speaker 1: Said, and joining us now our American mama's Terry Edville
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  Speaker 1: and Kimberly Burlason. Please tell me this isn't just like
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  Speaker 1: more than a one off. This is not a thing
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  Speaker 1: that people are getting married. They're going off having their
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  Speaker 1: own elopement and then they're having their big, expensive wedding
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  Speaker 1: in the big church, and then they tell everybody that
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  Speaker 1: what this is, or worse, they don't even tell aybody
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  Speaker 1: that that that that's a fake wedding. They've already been married.
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  Speaker 3: Is this a thing?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's a trend. And we all know friends that
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  Speaker 4: are doing it, like everybody has done it. Why, well,
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  Speaker 4: I the one friend that we have. It's military purposes.
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  Speaker 4: Her husband was going to sort of understand that they
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  Speaker 4: got married, so that one I understood that I had
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  Speaker 4: the big wedding. So when she was at the big,
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  Speaker 4: the big expensive wedding, they announced they had been married
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  Speaker 4: and announced that they were having a child. Oh yeah,
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  Speaker 4: so that was the big announcement. My best friend whose
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  Speaker 4: daughter got married, she didn't like that. Even that bothered her,
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  Speaker 4: although they had been married for a whole year. But
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  Speaker 4: wait looked, she said. But other people are doing it,
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  Speaker 4: and a lot of people are saying that they feel
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  Speaker 4: it's very deceptive and it's their way of getting people
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  Speaker 4: to come to their wedding and give them gifts, because
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  Speaker 4: if they knew that they had already gotten married, they would.
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  Speaker 1: Have never come.
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  Speaker 4: Would it would have never come.
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  Speaker 1: I did officiate a wedding where the public ceremony came
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  Speaker 1: the day after the wedding. We signed the paperwork, but
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  Speaker 1: that was because it was an outdoor wedding and the
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  Speaker 1: initial wedding day was on the Saturday when the thunderstorms
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  Speaker 1: were coming rolling through. They didn't want to change their
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  Speaker 1: anniversary dates, so we just signed the paperwork in the
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  Speaker 1: middle of the thunderstorms and then had the outdoor wedding
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  Speaker 1: the next day. I don't think that was necessarily deceptive
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  Speaker 1: because it was all it had been planned. It was
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  Speaker 1: just the weather was changing things in the last minute.
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  Speaker 1: But that's not what you're talking about here.
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  Speaker 3: No one of stealing Tristan's friends. Uh, they got married
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  Speaker 3: and Tristan they were both actually in the wedding and
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  Speaker 3: they did the whole thing, and when they got to
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  Speaker 3: the ceremony, uh, they showed a video the couple did
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  Speaker 3: of them getting married a year before in Vegas. They
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  Speaker 3: just you know, they went and had their own ceremony.
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  Speaker 3: So when they showed this, Andy were like, oh my gosh.
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  Speaker 3: And I asked them later. I was like, well, how
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  Speaker 3: did I mean? That's cool? You know, I guess that's cool.
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  Speaker 3: I don't I didn't know why, So how did y'all feel?
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  Speaker 3: And he was like, I mean it was kind of strange.
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  Speaker 3: I'm like, oh my gosh, because they're out of town.
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  Speaker 3: The money we could have saved. You know, they're poor,
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  Speaker 3: they're young, poor married couple, but the money we could
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  Speaker 3: have saved for you know. And I think it boils
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  Speaker 3: down to maybe they were had to get married for
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  Speaker 3: different reason. They didn't have a baby or anything. Maybe
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  Speaker 3: the parents want them to get me before they live
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  Speaker 3: together or whatever, so they secretly got married, but they
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  Speaker 3: wanted the dream wedding so they could have the wedding gifts.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, you never know why people do this. I
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  Speaker 3: don't know why. It's become a trend unless it's like people,
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  Speaker 3: everything is out there on social media. Your entire life
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  Speaker 3: is out there, so maybe it's a fun way to
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  Speaker 3: have your own little secret for a little bit of time.
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  Speaker 3: Kind of like Janet Jackson when she was married to
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  Speaker 3: that billionaire for a long time and it was years later,
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  Speaker 3: or no, the other guy, the singer, she was married
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  Speaker 3: to him and then it came out that they had
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  Speaker 3: been married for years and you're like like what, Like
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  Speaker 3: they want something that's just for them, and maybe that's
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  Speaker 3: a fun thing to then do.
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  Speaker 4: It just for you and then announce that you're married
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  Speaker 4: and then have a big party. But to me, it
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  Speaker 4: feels somewhat deceptive to not tell people that they're not
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  Speaker 4: coming to the because there's something about being there in
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  Speaker 4: the in the group people and guests. You're coming, you're
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  Speaker 4: sacrificed to be there to watch this moment that they
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  Speaker 4: say their vowels in front of man and God and
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  Speaker 4: you're witnessing it. I do feel jypped in some way
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  Speaker 4: if it's not real, if they've already been married, you
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  Speaker 4: feel suckered.
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  Speaker 1: It's a play.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, it's a play a priest, yeah, and that's That's
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  Speaker 5: the other thing I wonder about that is as they're
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  Speaker 5: doing this, is the minister aware that this has gone on?
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  Speaker 1: Or is the minister finding out for the first time.
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  Speaker 3: In the middle of the Would that make a difference
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  Speaker 3: for me?
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, if I were if I were an officiated wedding,
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  Speaker 1: I thought this was the first time, and I find
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  Speaker 1: out that they've already been married for a year and
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  Speaker 1: that this is all just for play. No, no, no,
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  Speaker 1: because now I can't put my ordination. I can't put
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  Speaker 1: my name on your wedding because your wedding was deceptive
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  Speaker 1: from the beginning and God, God doesn't appreciate that.
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  Speaker 3: Well, what I mean is is it would it make
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  Speaker 3: a difference to the priest or to somebody, like legally,
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  Speaker 3: if somebody has already married them and had their name
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  Speaker 3: on their certificate, does it make a difference for you
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  Speaker 3: or another clergyman to come in? Can I I signed over?
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  Speaker 1: Like?
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  Speaker 3: Sign over there?
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  Speaker 1: Like? Actually you Actually that could be a crime because
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  Speaker 1: they're already technically married and you're marrying them again. So
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  Speaker 1: if you're signing new paperwork, that could be that could
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  Speaker 1: be seen as a deceptive and perhaps a crime. But
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  Speaker 1: then you know, part of the process of doing a
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  Speaker 1: wedding isn't just the legality of it, it's the spirituality
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  Speaker 1: of it. You know, we're coming before God and everyone,
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  Speaker 1: and God's already seen what you've done. We're not going
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  Speaker 1: to fool him, right.
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  Speaker 3: Man.
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  Speaker 1: This is not a This is not a trend of mine.
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  Speaker 1: I like the ide if you're going to do that,
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  Speaker 1: get married and then have a party the part that's right.
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  Speaker 3: Problem having a big reception, you know, two months do that, that's.
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  Speaker 1: Fine, But the second marriage seems it seems to ticktokish
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  Speaker 1: button turned out of Kimber the Brothers and thanks so
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  Speaker 2: Much, Thank you,