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77. Why You Need to Understand the Nervous System (with Guest Leah Davidson) · Burning Brightly

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  Danger,
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  danger,
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  danger,
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  danger,
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  danger.
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  Why
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  are
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  you
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  doing
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  this?
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  Everything
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  will
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  go
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  through
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  the
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  lens
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  of
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  the
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  nervous
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  system.
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  So
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  the
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  nervous
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  system,
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  the
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  first
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  question
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  is
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  like,
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  is
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  this
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  safe
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  or
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  dangerous?
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  If
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  it's
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  unfamiliar,
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  it's
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  automatically
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  danger.
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  When
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  you're
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  building
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  a
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  business,
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  essentially
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  almost
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  everything
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  that
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  you
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  are
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  doing
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  is
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  unfamiliar
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  and
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  everything
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  that
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  you're
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  doing
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  feels
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  like
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  a
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  risk
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  because
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  you
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  haven't
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  done
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  it
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  before.
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  This
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  is
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  burning
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  brightly,
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  a
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  podcast
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  for
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  Christian
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  moms
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  who
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  are
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  feeling
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  called
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  to
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  build
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  a
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  business
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  and
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  share
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  their
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  light
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  with
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  the
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  world.
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  I'm
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  Bonnie
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  Wiscombe,
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  a
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  life
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  coach,
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  mom
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  and
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  entrepreneur.
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  And
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  I'm
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  honored
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  to
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  be
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  your
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  guide
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  as
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  you
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  face
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  this
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  business
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  building
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  adventure
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  full
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  of
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  highs,
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  lows,
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  and
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  everything
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  in
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  between.
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  This
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  is
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  where
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  we
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  help
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  each
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  other
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  find
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  the
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  courage
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  to
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  shine.
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  If
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  you
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  are
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  a
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  life
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  coach,
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  then
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  I
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  know
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  you
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  want
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  to
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  be
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  one
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  of
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  the
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  best
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  life
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  coaches
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  out
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  there.
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  And
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  in
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  order
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  to
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  do
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  that,
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  you
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  need
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  to
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  be
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  aware
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  of
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  what
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  the
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  nervous
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  system
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  is
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  and
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  how
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  it
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  impacts
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  yourself
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  and
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  your
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  clients
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  as
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  you're
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  coaching
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  and
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  pretty
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  much
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  every
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  other
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  second
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  of
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  your
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  life.
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  That's
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  why
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  today's
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  guest
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  is
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  Leah
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  Davidson.
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  I
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  love
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  her
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  so
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  much.
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  She
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  is
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  so
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  fun
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  to
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  listen
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  to.
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  She
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  is
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  a
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  premier
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  expert
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  in
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  the
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  nervous
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  system,
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  and
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  her
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  aim
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  is
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  to
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  help
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  other
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  life
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  coaches.
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  understand
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  the
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  nervous
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  system
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  better.
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  So
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  Leah
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  is
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  actually
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  a
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  nervous
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  system
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  resilience
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  coach
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  herself
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  and
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  a
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  speech
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  pathologist.
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  She
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  has
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  over
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  26
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  years
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  of
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  experience
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  in
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  that
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  field.
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  She
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  has
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  a
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  podcast
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  herself
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  called
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  building
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  resilience
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  and
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  an
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  advanced
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  nervous
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  system
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  training
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  specifically
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  for
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  those
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  who
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  want
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  to
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  learn
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  more
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  or
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  those
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  who
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  are
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  in
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  the
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  helping
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  industry
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  like
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  life
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  coaches.
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  Lee
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  has
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  also
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  recently
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  founded
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  the
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  resilient,
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  brilliant
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  stationary
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  brand
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  intended
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  to
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  help
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  others
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  understand
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  their
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  nervous
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  system
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  so
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  that
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  we
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  can
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  learn
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  to
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  regulate
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  it,
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  reduce
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  our
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  stress,
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  build
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  resilience,
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  and
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  uncover
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  our
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  purpose.
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  So
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  you
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  guys
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  are
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  going
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  to
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  love
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  this
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  interview.
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  Hello
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  friends.
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  Welcome
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  back
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  to
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  the
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  show.
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  I
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  have
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  an
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  awesome
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  guest
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  today.
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  Her
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  name
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  is
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  Leah
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  Davidson.
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  We
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  have
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  met
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  in
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  person
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  once,
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  twice,
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  a
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  couple
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  of
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  times,
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  anyway,
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  and
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  uh,
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  yeah,
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  and
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  I
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  just
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  love
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  her
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  work
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  and
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  welcome
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  to
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  the
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  show,
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  Leah.
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  Thank
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  you.
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  I'm
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  so
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  happy
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  to
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  be
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  here.
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  I
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  already
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  gave
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  you
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  a
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  little
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  intro
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  on
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  my
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  own,
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  but
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  let's
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  just
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  hear
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  in
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  your
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  words
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  who
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  you
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  are
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  and
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  what
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  you're
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  passionate
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  about.
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  Yeah,
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  so
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  Leah
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  Davidson.
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  I'm
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  from
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  Toronto,
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  Ontario,
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  Canada.
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  And,
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  uh,
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  professionally,
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  I'm
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  a
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  coach.
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  Nervous
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  system
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  resilience
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  is
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  my
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  jam.
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  I
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  have
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  a
• 2:06
  training,
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  I
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  have
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  a
• 2:07
  membership,
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  I
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  have
• 2:08
  a
• 2:08
  journal.
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  Um,
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  yeah.
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  And
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  I'm
• 2:10
  also
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  a
• 2:11
  speech
• 2:11
  language,
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  I
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  can't
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  say
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  the
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  word,
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  even
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  I'm
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  a
• 2:14
  speech
• 2:14
  language
• 2:14
  pathologist.
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  The
• 2:15
  irony
• 2:16
  of
• 2:16
  that,
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  right?
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  Um,
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  I
• 2:18
  worked,
• 2:19
  uh,
• 2:19
  for
• 2:19
  25
• 2:20
  years
• 2:20
  with
• 2:20
  people
• 2:21
  who
• 2:21
  had
• 2:21
  experienced
• 2:22
  traumatic
• 2:22
  brain
• 2:22
  injuries.
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  So
• 2:23
  that's
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  where
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  really
• 2:24
  I
• 2:25
  got
• 2:25
  to
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  know
• 2:25
  the
• 2:25
  brain
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  really
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  well
• 2:26
  and
• 2:26
  the
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  nervous
• 2:27
  system
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  and
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  how
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  they
• 2:28
  interact
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  and
• 2:29
  the
• 2:29
  importance
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  of
• 2:30
  them.
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  Um,
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  and
• 2:31
  then
• 2:31
  personally,
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  I'm
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  married
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  to
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  an
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  amazing
• 2:34
  man.
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  We
• 2:34
  have
• 2:34
  a
• 2:35
  blended
• 2:35
  family
• 2:36
  of
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  five
• 2:36
  kids
• 2:36
  who
• 2:37
  are
• 2:37
  all
• 2:38
  pretty
• 2:38
  much
• 2:38
  grown
• 2:38
  now.
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  And
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  The
• 2:40
  dynamics
• 2:41
  get
• 2:41
  interesting
• 2:42
  as
• 2:42
  they
• 2:42
  all
• 2:42
  grow.
• 2:43
  So,
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  yeah,
• 2:45
  I'm
• 2:45
  just
• 2:45
  at
• 2:45
  the
• 2:45
  cusp
• 2:45
  of
• 2:46
  that.
• 2:46
  My
• 2:46
  oldest
• 2:46
  is
• 2:46
  out
• 2:46
  of
• 2:46
  the
• 2:46
  house
• 2:47
  and
• 2:47
  I'm
• 2:47
  like,
• 2:47
  Oh
• 2:47
  boy,
• 2:47
  this
• 2:47
  is
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  a
• 2:48
  whole
• 2:48
  new,
• 2:48
  a
• 2:49
  whole
• 2:50
  new
• 2:50
  world,
• 2:50
  a
• 2:50
  whole
• 2:51
  new,
• 2:51
  we
• 2:52
  just
• 2:52
  were
• 2:52
  away
• 2:52
  with
• 2:52
  all
• 2:53
  our,
• 2:53
  um,
• 2:53
  kids
• 2:54
  and
• 2:54
  three
• 2:55
  of
• 2:55
  them,
• 2:55
  three
• 2:55
  of
• 2:55
  their
• 2:55
  partners.
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  And
• 2:56
  somebody
• 2:57
  was
• 2:57
  asking
• 2:57
  me,
• 2:58
  you
• 2:58
  know,
• 2:58
  how,
• 2:58
  how
• 2:59
  was
• 2:59
  it?
• 2:59
  And
• 3:00
  I
• 3:00
  was
• 3:00
  like,
• 3:00
  put
• 3:01
  10
• 3:01
  nervous
• 3:01
  systems
• 3:02
  in
• 3:02
  a
• 3:02
  room
• 3:02
  and.
• 3:03
  See
• 3:03
  how
• 3:03
  it
• 3:03
  was.
• 3:03
  I
• 3:04
  was
• 3:04
  about
• 3:05
  right.
• 3:05
  Yeah.
• 3:07
  So
• 3:07
  just,
• 3:07
  just
• 3:08
  as
• 3:08
  a
• 3:08
  refresher
• 3:09
  for
• 3:09
  the,
• 3:09
  for
• 3:09
  those
• 3:09
  who
• 3:10
  are
• 3:10
  intro
• 3:11
  for
• 3:11
  those
• 3:11
  who
• 3:11
  may
• 3:11
  not
• 3:11
  know
• 3:12
  you,
• 3:12
  I
• 3:12
  just
• 3:12
  want
• 3:12
  to
• 3:13
  say
• 3:13
  that,
• 3:13
  for
• 3:13
  those
• 3:14
  of
• 3:14
  us
• 3:14
  who
• 3:14
  are
• 3:14
  trained
• 3:14
  in
• 3:14
  the
• 3:14
  life
• 3:15
  coach
• 3:15
  school
• 3:15
  world,
• 3:16
  we
• 3:16
  are
• 3:16
  taught
• 3:16
  the
• 3:16
  model,
• 3:17
  right?
• 3:17
  We
• 3:17
  have
• 3:17
  our
• 3:17
  circumstance,
• 3:18
  we
• 3:18
  have
• 3:18
  our
• 3:18
  thought,
• 3:18
  we
• 3:18
  have
• 3:19
  our
• 3:19
  feeling,
• 3:19
  our
• 3:19
  action,
• 3:19
  our
• 3:20
  result.
• 3:20
  But
• 3:20
  what
• 3:21
  I
• 3:21
  love
• 3:21
  about
• 3:21
  how
• 3:21
  you
• 3:22
  teach
• 3:22
  the
• 3:22
  nervous
• 3:22
  system
• 3:23
  is
• 3:23
  that
• 3:24
  it
• 3:24
  interrupts
• 3:24
  the
• 3:24
  model,
• 3:25
  right?
• 3:25
  Where
• 3:25
  does
• 3:25
  the
• 3:26
  nervous
• 3:26
  system
• 3:26
  play
• 3:27
  its
• 3:27
  part
• 3:27
  in
• 3:27
  the
• 3:27
  model?
• 3:29
  So,
• 3:29
  I
• 3:29
  look
• 3:30
  at
• 3:30
  it
• 3:30
  as
• 3:30
  circumstances
• 3:31
  we
• 3:31
  have,
• 3:31
  life
• 3:32
  events,
• 3:32
  whatever
• 3:32
  you
• 3:32
  want
• 3:33
  to
• 3:33
  call
• 3:33
  it,
• 3:33
  other
• 3:33
  people,
• 3:34
  past
• 3:34
  things,
• 3:36
  they
• 3:36
  happen.
• 3:36
  And
• 3:37
  then
• 3:37
  the
• 3:37
  Life
• 3:37
  Coach
• 3:37
  School,
• 3:38
  that
• 3:38
  model,
• 3:38
  and
• 3:39
  a
• 3:39
  lot
• 3:39
  of
• 3:39
  actually
• 3:40
  my,
• 3:40
  I
• 3:40
  mean
• 3:40
  the
• 3:40
  Life
• 3:40
  Coach
• 3:40
  School
• 3:41
  models
• 3:41
  based
• 3:42
  on
• 3:42
  really
• 3:42
  CBT,
• 3:43
  so
• 3:43
  Cognitive
• 3:44
  Behavioral
• 3:44
  Therapy
• 3:44
  generally
• 3:45
  says
• 3:45
  we
• 3:45
  have.
• 3:46
  thoughts
• 3:46
  about
• 3:47
  our
• 3:47
  circumstances,
• 3:48
  which
• 3:48
  we
• 3:49
  do,
• 3:49
  but
• 3:50
  in
• 3:50
  between
• 3:51
  our
• 3:51
  circumstance
• 3:52
  and
• 3:52
  the
• 3:52
  thought
• 3:53
  is
• 3:53
  there's
• 3:53
  a
• 3:54
  behind
• 3:54
  the
• 3:54
  scenes
• 3:54
  that's
• 3:55
  happening
• 3:55
  and
• 3:56
  that's
• 3:56
  where
• 3:56
  the
• 3:56
  nervous
• 3:56
  system
• 3:56
  is.
• 3:57
  So
• 3:57
  the
• 3:57
  nervous
• 3:57
  system
• 3:58
  is
• 3:58
  always
• 3:59
  functioning
• 4:00
  behind
• 4:00
  the
• 4:00
  scenes.
• 4:01
  So
• 4:01
  you
• 4:01
  will
• 4:02
  experience
• 4:03
  something
• 4:03
  in
• 4:03
  life,
• 4:04
  you'll
• 4:04
  experience
• 4:04
  what
• 4:05
  somebody
• 4:05
  else
• 4:05
  says,
• 4:06
  you'll
• 4:06
  experience
• 4:07
  thinking
• 4:07
  about
• 4:07
  a
• 4:08
  past,
• 4:08
  a
• 4:08
  past
• 4:08
  memory,
• 4:09
  and
• 4:10
  your
• 4:10
  nervous
• 4:10
  system
• 4:11
  is
• 4:11
  having
• 4:11
  a
• 4:12
  biological
• 4:14
  Reaction
• 4:14
  to
• 4:15
  it.
• 4:15
  It
• 4:15
  is.
• 4:15
  It's
• 4:15
  responding
• 4:16
  to
• 4:17
  the
• 4:17
  subtle
• 4:17
  cues
• 4:18
  that
• 4:18
  are
• 4:18
  out
• 4:19
  there.
• 4:19
  And
• 4:19
  so
• 4:19
  it's
• 4:20
  not
• 4:20
  something
• 4:20
  that's
• 4:20
  conscious
• 4:21
  and
• 4:22
  then
• 4:22
  based
• 4:22
  on
• 4:23
  where
• 4:23
  your
• 4:24
  nervous
• 4:24
  system
• 4:24
  lies
• 4:25
  because
• 4:25
  your
• 4:25
  nervous
• 4:25
  system
• 4:26
  essentially
• 4:26
  is
• 4:26
  scanning
• 4:27
  to
• 4:27
  see
• 4:27
  is
• 4:27
  this
• 4:27
  safe
• 4:28
  or
• 4:28
  dangerous
• 4:29
  and
• 4:30
  based
• 4:30
  on
• 4:30
  what
• 4:30
  it
• 4:31
  decides
• 4:31
  of
• 4:32
  safety
• 4:32
  or
• 4:32
  danger.
• 4:33
  It
• 4:34
  will
• 4:34
  be
• 4:34
  the
• 4:34
  new
• 4:35
  lens
• 4:35
  that
• 4:35
  you
• 4:35
  see
• 4:36
  everything
• 4:36
  through.
• 4:37
  So
• 4:38
  your
• 4:38
  thoughts
• 4:39
  will
• 4:39
  be
• 4:39
  flavored
• 4:40
  by
• 4:40
  your
• 4:40
  nervous
• 4:41
  system's
• 4:41
  interpretation
• 4:43
  of
• 4:43
  the
• 4:43
  circumstance.
• 4:44
  So
• 4:44
  that's
• 4:44
  where
• 4:44
  I
• 4:45
  put
• 4:45
  it.
• 4:46
  Yeah.
• 4:46
  I
• 4:46
  love
• 4:46
  the
• 4:46
  way
• 4:46
  you
• 4:46
  say
• 4:47
  that.
• 4:47
  Flavored
• 4:47
  by
• 4:48
  that.
• 4:48
  And
• 4:48
  I
• 4:49
  think.
• 4:49
  The
• 4:50
  nervous
• 4:50
  system's
• 4:51
  reaction
• 4:51
  is
• 4:51
  really
• 4:51
  clear
• 4:52
  for
• 4:52
  those
• 4:52
  of
• 4:52
  us
• 4:52
  who
• 4:52
  have
• 4:52
  undergone
• 4:53
  something
• 4:53
  pretty
• 4:54
  traumatic,
• 4:54
  right?
• 4:55
  A
• 4:55
  really
• 4:55
  traumatic
• 4:55
  divorce
• 4:56
  or
• 4:56
  a
• 4:56
  loss
• 4:57
  or
• 4:57
  something.
• 4:57
  It
• 4:57
  makes
• 4:58
  sense
• 4:59
  that
• 4:59
  that
• 4:59
  would
• 4:59
  just
• 5:00
  take
• 5:00
  over
• 5:00
  when
• 5:01
  we
• 5:01
  think
• 5:01
  or
• 5:01
  are
• 5:01
  triggered
• 5:02
  in
• 5:02
  some
• 5:02
  way
• 5:02
  about
• 5:02
  that.
• 5:03
  What's
• 5:03
  less
• 5:04
  well
• 5:04
  known
• 5:04
  I
• 5:04
  think
• 5:05
  are
• 5:05
  these
• 5:05
  little
• 5:05
  micro
• 5:06
  triggers,
• 5:06
  right?
• 5:06
  Where
• 5:06
  it's
• 5:06
  like,
• 5:07
  Oh,
• 5:07
  I
• 5:07
  didn't
• 5:07
  realize
• 5:08
  that
• 5:08
  was
• 5:08
  going
• 5:08
  to
• 5:08
  cause
• 5:08
  something
• 5:08
  for
• 5:09
  me.
• 5:09
  And
• 5:09
  I'm
• 5:09
  starting,
• 5:10
  as
• 5:10
  I
• 5:10
  learn
• 5:10
  more
• 5:10
  about
• 5:11
  it,
• 5:11
  I'm
• 5:11
  starting
• 5:11
  to
• 5:11
  see
• 5:11
  how
• 5:12
  that
• 5:12
  happens
• 5:12
  throughout
• 5:12
  my
• 5:12
  day.
• 5:13
  Nothing.
• 5:14
  terrible
• 5:15
  has
• 5:15
  gone
• 5:15
  wrong.
• 5:16
  And
• 5:16
  yet
• 5:17
  by
• 5:17
  the
• 5:17
  sixth
• 5:17
  or
• 5:17
  seventh
• 5:18
  or
• 5:18
  eighth
• 5:18
  time
• 5:18
  someone
• 5:18
  has
• 5:19
  screamed
• 5:19
  at
• 5:19
  me,
• 5:20
  I'm
• 5:20
  like,
• 5:20
  Oh,
• 5:21
  here
• 5:21
  we
• 5:21
  go.
• 5:22
  Yeah.
• 5:22
  Yeah.
• 5:22
  I
• 5:23
  I'm
• 5:23
  tapping
• 5:24
  out.
• 5:24
  Right.
• 5:24
  So
• 5:25
  I
• 5:25
  think
• 5:25
  that
• 5:25
  that,
• 5:25
  that
• 5:26
  is
• 5:26
  where
• 5:26
  my
• 5:26
  work
• 5:26
  needs
• 5:27
  to
• 5:27
  be
• 5:27
  done
• 5:27
  just
• 5:27
  because
• 5:27
  I
• 5:27
  have
• 5:28
  processed
• 5:28
  a
• 5:28
  lot
• 5:28
  of
• 5:28
  the
• 5:29
  big
• 5:29
  T
• 5:30
  trauma.
• 5:30
  It's
• 5:30
  these
• 5:31
  little
• 5:31
  little
• 5:31
  things
• 5:32
  that
• 5:32
  keep
• 5:32
  coming
• 5:32
  up
• 5:33
  and
• 5:33
  it's
• 5:33
  not
• 5:33
  even
• 5:34
  just
• 5:34
  like
• 5:34
  your
• 5:34
  nervous
• 5:34
  system
• 5:35
  is
• 5:35
  shaped
• 5:35
  by
• 5:36
  everything
• 5:37
  So
• 5:37
  like
• 5:37
  you
• 5:38
  in
• 5:38
  utero
• 5:39
  your
• 5:39
  nervous
• 5:40
  system
• 5:40
  was
• 5:40
  being
• 5:40
  developed.
• 5:41
  It
• 5:41
  was
• 5:41
  being
• 5:41
  fed
• 5:42
  by
• 5:42
  your
• 5:42
  mother
• 5:42
  So
• 5:43
  you're
• 5:43
  also
• 5:43
  going
• 5:43
  to
• 5:43
  be
• 5:43
  absorbing
• 5:44
  what
• 5:45
  some
• 5:45
  of
• 5:45
  this,
• 5:45
  you
• 5:46
  know,
• 5:46
  your
• 5:46
  mother's
• 5:46
  nervous
• 5:46
  system
• 5:47
  intergenerational
• 5:48
  gets
• 5:48
  past
• 5:48
  down.
• 5:49
  But
• 5:49
  it's
• 5:49
  everything
• 5:50
  you're
• 5:51
  learning.
• 5:51
  So
• 5:52
  that's
• 5:52
  why
• 5:52
  it's
• 5:53
  big
• 5:53
  traumas,
• 5:54
  little
• 5:54
  traumas,
• 5:54
  everyday
• 5:55
  things.
• 5:55
  This
• 5:55
  is
• 5:55
  how
• 5:56
  we
• 5:56
  view
• 5:56
  the
• 5:56
  world.
• 5:57
  This
• 5:57
  is
• 5:57
  our
• 5:57
  belief
• 5:57
  system.
• 5:58
  This
• 5:58
  is
• 5:58
  how
• 5:59
  your
• 5:59
  nervous
• 5:59
  system,
• 5:59
  it's
• 6:00
  like
• 6:00
  it
• 6:00
  makes
• 6:00
  these
• 6:00
  imprints
• 6:01
  all
• 6:01
  the
• 6:02
  way
• 6:02
  along.
• 6:03
  And
• 6:03
  as
• 6:03
  you
• 6:03
  get
• 6:04
  older,
• 6:04
  when
• 6:05
  you
• 6:05
  Experience
• 6:06
  something
• 6:06
  like
• 6:07
  our
• 6:07
  brilliant
• 6:07
  brain
• 6:08
  is
• 6:08
  like
• 6:08
  thinking
• 6:08
  back
• 6:09
  to
• 6:09
  oh,
• 6:09
  is
• 6:10
  this
• 6:10
  familiar
• 6:10
  to
• 6:10
  anything
• 6:11
  in
• 6:11
  the
• 6:11
  past?
• 6:11
  Oh
• 6:12
  it
• 6:12
  is
• 6:12
  Even
• 6:13
  if
• 6:13
  I
• 6:13
  can't
• 6:13
  consciously
• 6:14
  remember
• 6:14
  it
• 6:14
  I
• 6:15
  might
• 6:15
  have
• 6:15
  had
• 6:15
  an
• 6:15
  experience
• 6:16
  when
• 6:16
  I
• 6:16
  was
• 6:16
  like
• 6:17
  three
• 6:17
  years
• 6:17
  old
• 6:18
  that
• 6:18
  there
• 6:19
  was
• 6:19
  an
• 6:19
  impression
• 6:20
  left
• 6:20
  which
• 6:21
  will
• 6:21
  fuel
• 6:22
  and
• 6:22
  flavor
• 6:23
  How
• 6:23
  my
• 6:24
  reactions
• 6:24
  gonna
• 6:24
  be
• 6:25
  so
• 6:25
  it's
• 6:26
  it's
• 6:26
  everything
• 6:27
  like
• 6:27
  your
• 6:28
  nervous
• 6:28
  system.
• 6:28
  It's
• 6:29
  It's
• 6:29
  like
• 6:30
  your
• 6:30
  fingerprint.
• 6:31
  It
• 6:31
  is
• 6:31
  unique
• 6:32
  to
• 6:32
  every
• 6:32
  single
• 6:32
  person
• 6:33
  and
• 6:33
  it's
• 6:34
  pulling
• 6:34
  in
• 6:35
  What
• 6:35
  we
• 6:36
  deem
• 6:36
  safe
• 6:37
  and
• 6:37
  dangerous
• 6:38
  it's
• 6:38
  watching
• 6:39
  things
• 6:40
  it's
• 6:40
  spying
• 6:41
  on
• 6:41
  you
• 6:42
  It's
• 6:42
  taking
• 6:42
  notes
• 6:43
  about
• 6:43
  all
• 6:43
  these
• 6:43
  things
• 6:44
  Teaching
• 6:45
  you
• 6:45
  so
• 6:46
  that
• 6:46
  down
• 6:46
  the
• 6:46
  road.
• 6:47
  It's
• 6:47
  like
• 6:47
  i'm
• 6:48
  gonna
• 6:48
  help
• 6:48
  you
• 6:48
  out
• 6:49
  if
• 6:49
  there's
• 6:49
  anything
• 6:50
  that
• 6:50
  is
• 6:51
  Remotely
• 6:52
  similar
• 6:53
  to
• 6:53
  a
• 6:53
  past
• 6:53
  experience
• 6:55
  We're
• 6:55
  just
• 6:55
  going
• 6:55
  to
• 6:55
  have
• 6:55
  a
• 6:55
  reaction
• 6:57
  Saving
• 6:57
  you
• 6:58
  energy
• 6:58
  by
• 6:58
  doing
• 6:59
  that.
• 6:59
  So
• 6:59
  it's
• 7:00
  in
• 7:00
  good
• 7:00
  service
• 7:00
  of
• 7:01
  our
• 7:01
  survival.
• 7:02
  It's
• 7:02
  just,
• 7:02
  it's
• 7:02
  not
• 7:03
  always
• 7:03
  accurate
• 7:04
  because
• 7:04
  our
• 7:05
  experiences,
• 7:06
  you
• 7:06
  know,
• 7:07
  we,
• 7:07
  we
• 7:07
  don't
• 7:07
  even
• 7:08
  know
• 7:08
  what
• 7:08
  some
• 7:08
  of
• 7:08
  them
• 7:08
  were.
• 7:08
  We
• 7:09
  don't
• 7:09
  even
• 7:09
  know
• 7:09
  what
• 7:09
  all
• 7:10
  our
• 7:10
  influences
• 7:10
  were.
• 7:11
  Right.
• 7:12
  Yeah.
• 7:12
  And
• 7:12
  what's
• 7:12
  so
• 7:12
  interesting
• 7:12
  is
• 7:13
  these
• 7:13
  imprints
• 7:13
  are
• 7:13
  created
• 7:14
  at
• 7:14
  these
• 7:14
  very
• 7:14
  immature
• 7:15
  stages
• 7:15
  of
• 7:15
  life
• 7:16
  very
• 7:16
  often.
• 7:16
  Right.
• 7:17
  And
• 7:17
  then
• 7:17
  later
• 7:17
  on
• 7:17
  we
• 7:18
  learn
• 7:18
  better
• 7:18
  and
• 7:18
  we're
• 7:18
  like,
• 7:19
  Oh,
• 7:19
  I've
• 7:19
  got
• 7:19
  to
• 7:20
  figure
• 7:20
  out
• 7:20
  how
• 7:20
  to
• 7:20
  remodel
• 7:21
  that
• 7:21
  with
• 7:21
  my
• 7:22
  higher
• 7:22
  knowledge
• 7:22
  now.
• 7:23
  Right.
• 7:24
  And
• 7:24
  it
• 7:24
  also,
• 7:25
  it
• 7:25
  creates
• 7:25
  a
• 7:25
  different
• 7:26
  base.
• 7:26
  Like
• 7:26
  I
• 7:26
  look
• 7:27
  at,
• 7:27
  um,
• 7:28
  you
• 7:28
  know,
• 7:28
  we
• 7:28
  know
• 7:28
  that
• 7:28
  when
• 7:29
  people
• 7:29
  all
• 7:29
  sustain.
• 7:31
  trauma
• 7:32
  throughout
• 7:32
  their
• 7:32
  life.
• 7:32
  You
• 7:33
  know,
• 7:33
  there's
• 7:33
  something
• 7:33
  called
• 7:33
  the
• 7:33
  ACE
• 7:33
  scores,
• 7:34
  where,
• 7:34
  you
• 7:34
  know,
• 7:35
  the
• 7:35
  adverse
• 7:35
  childhood
• 7:36
  experiences.
• 7:37
  We
• 7:37
  know
• 7:38
  that
• 7:38
  when
• 7:38
  people
• 7:38
  have
• 7:39
  early
• 7:39
  childhood
• 7:40
  experiences,
• 7:40
  it
• 7:41
  influences
• 7:43
  so
• 7:43
  many
• 7:43
  things
• 7:44
  later
• 7:44
  on
• 7:44
  in
• 7:44
  their
• 7:44
  life,
• 7:45
  including
• 7:45
  just
• 7:46
  their
• 7:46
  health.
• 7:46
  But
• 7:47
  one
• 7:47
  of
• 7:47
  the
• 7:47
  things
• 7:47
  that
• 7:48
  can
• 7:48
  happen
• 7:48
  is
• 7:48
  it
• 7:49
  can,
• 7:49
  um,
• 7:50
  if
• 7:50
  I
• 7:50
  grew
• 7:50
  up
• 7:50
  in
• 7:51
  an
• 7:51
  environment
• 7:51
  that
• 7:52
  maybe
• 7:52
  had
• 7:53
  a
• 7:53
  lot
• 7:53
  of
• 7:53
  conflict,
• 7:54
  my
• 7:56
  Adaptation
• 7:57
  will
• 7:57
  be
• 7:57
  like
• 7:58
  conflict
• 7:58
  is
• 7:58
  kind
• 7:59
  of
• 7:59
  normal.
• 8:00
  And
• 8:00
  so
• 8:01
  I'll
• 8:01
  continue
• 8:01
  throughout
• 8:02
  life.
• 8:02
  And
• 8:02
  when
• 8:03
  I
• 8:03
  encounter
• 8:04
  conflict,
• 8:05
  I
• 8:05
  may
• 8:05
  be
• 8:06
  like,
• 8:06
  Oh,
• 8:06
  not
• 8:07
  again.
• 8:07
  But
• 8:07
  my
• 8:07
  nervous
• 8:07
  system
• 8:08
  is
• 8:08
  like,
• 8:08
  yeah,
• 8:08
  but
• 8:08
  this
• 8:09
  is
• 8:09
  familiar.
• 8:10
  And
• 8:10
  when
• 8:10
  I
• 8:11
  encounter
• 8:11
  maybe
• 8:12
  something
• 8:12
  safe.
• 8:13
  That
• 8:14
  may
• 8:14
  read
• 8:14
  as
• 8:14
  danger
• 8:15
  to
• 8:15
  my
• 8:15
  nervous
• 8:15
  system,
• 8:16
  like
• 8:16
  I
• 8:17
  might
• 8:17
  meet,
• 8:17
  you
• 8:17
  know,
• 8:18
  somebody
• 8:18
  who's
• 8:18
  super,
• 8:19
  super
• 8:19
  stable
• 8:20
  and
• 8:20
  super
• 8:20
  kind
• 8:20
  and
• 8:20
  my
• 8:20
  nervous
• 8:21
  system's
• 8:21
  like,
• 8:21
  watch
• 8:21
  out
• 8:22
  with
• 8:22
  that.
• 8:22
  Even
• 8:23
  though
• 8:24
  it's
• 8:24
  probably
• 8:24
  better
• 8:25
  for
• 8:25
  me,
• 8:25
  it's
• 8:25
  not
• 8:25
  familiar
• 8:26
  to
• 8:26
  me.
• 8:27
  So
• 8:27
  our
• 8:27
  nervous
• 8:28
  system
• 8:28
  is
• 8:28
  not
• 8:29
  necessarily
• 8:30
  accurate.
• 8:31
  And
• 8:31
  that's
• 8:31
  why,
• 8:31
  that
• 8:32
  is
• 8:32
  sort
• 8:32
  of
• 8:32
  the,
• 8:33
  the
• 8:33
  danger,
• 8:34
  the
• 8:34
  hazard.
• 8:35
  Of
• 8:35
  when
• 8:36
  we
• 8:36
  grow
• 8:36
  up
• 8:36
  in
• 8:37
  environments
• 8:37
  or
• 8:37
  when
• 8:38
  we
• 8:38
  have
• 8:38
  early
• 8:39
  experiences,
• 8:40
  which
• 8:40
  we
• 8:41
  kind
• 8:41
  of
• 8:41
  maladapted
• 8:42
  to,
• 8:43
  we
• 8:43
  can
• 8:43
  carry
• 8:44
  them
• 8:44
  on
• 8:45
  and
• 8:45
  be
• 8:46
  maladaptive
• 8:46
  later
• 8:47
  on
• 8:47
  in
• 8:47
  life,
• 8:47
  simply
• 8:48
  because,
• 8:48
  well,
• 8:49
  that's
• 8:49
  the
• 8:49
  only
• 8:49
  pattern
• 8:49
  I
• 8:50
  know,
• 8:50
  aren't
• 8:50
  we
• 8:50
  supposed
• 8:51
  to
• 8:52
  be
• 8:52
  doing
• 8:52
  like
• 8:53
  yelling
• 8:53
  and
• 8:53
  screaming
• 8:54
  or
• 8:54
  this
• 8:55
  abusive
• 8:55
  relationship?
• 8:57
  It
• 8:57
  doesn't
• 8:57
  actually
• 8:58
  feel
• 8:58
  so
• 8:58
  bad
• 8:59
  because
• 9:00
  that's
• 9:00
  maybe
• 9:00
  what
• 9:00
  I
• 9:01
  saw
• 9:01
  my
• 9:01
  partner
• 9:02
  or
• 9:02
  my
• 9:02
  mother
• 9:03
  experience.
• 9:04
  And
• 9:04
  so
• 9:04
  here
• 9:04
  I
• 9:04
  am
• 9:05
  playing
• 9:05
  that
• 9:05
  same
• 9:06
  journey
• 9:06
  out.
• 9:07
  Oh,
• 9:07
  fascinating.
• 9:08
  That's
• 9:08
  so
• 9:08
  interesting.
• 9:09
  So
• 9:09
  let's,
• 9:10
  let's
• 9:10
  switch
• 9:10
  back
• 9:11
  into
• 9:11
  our
• 9:11
  coaching
• 9:12
  worlds
• 9:12
  here
• 9:12
  and
• 9:12
  tell
• 9:13
  me
• 9:13
  what
• 9:13
  you
• 9:13
  think
• 9:14
  a
• 9:14
  lot
• 9:14
  of
• 9:15
  coaches
• 9:15
  might
• 9:16
  get
• 9:16
  wrong
• 9:16
  when
• 9:16
  it
• 9:16
  comes
• 9:17
  to
• 9:17
  the
• 9:17
  nervous
• 9:17
  system
• 9:17
  in
• 9:18
  our
• 9:18
  work
• 9:18
  and
• 9:18
  trying
• 9:18
  to
• 9:18
  help
• 9:19
  people.
• 9:20
  Well,
• 9:20
  there's
• 9:21
  two
• 9:21
  main
• 9:22
  things
• 9:22
  that
• 9:22
  always
• 9:22
  come
• 9:23
  up
• 9:23
  that,
• 9:23
  that
• 9:24
  I
• 9:24
  think
• 9:24
  is.
• 9:25
  That
• 9:25
  we
• 9:26
  get
• 9:26
  guided
• 9:26
  down
• 9:26
  the
• 9:27
  wrong
• 9:27
  path
• 9:27
  is
• 9:27
  one
• 9:27
  of
• 9:28
  them
• 9:28
  is
• 9:28
  that
• 9:28
  we
• 9:28
  make
• 9:28
  this
• 9:29
  mistake
• 9:29
  of
• 9:30
  thinking
• 9:30
  that
• 9:30
  mindset
• 9:30
  work
• 9:31
  is
• 9:31
  alone.
• 9:32
  It
• 9:32
  is
• 9:32
  a
• 9:32
  standalone
• 9:33
  tool.
• 9:34
  Um.
• 9:35
  You
• 9:35
  know,
• 9:36
  we
• 9:36
  hear
• 9:36
  things
• 9:36
  like
• 9:37
  change
• 9:37
  your
• 9:37
  thoughts
• 9:37
  and
• 9:37
  you'll
• 9:37
  change
• 9:38
  your
• 9:38
  life.
• 9:38
  And
• 9:38
  I
• 9:39
  really
• 9:39
  think
• 9:40
  mindset
• 9:40
  tools
• 9:41
  and
• 9:41
  changing
• 9:41
  our
• 9:41
  thoughts
• 9:42
  is
• 9:42
  super,
• 9:42
  super,
• 9:43
  super
• 9:43
  powerful.
• 9:45
  But
• 9:45
  you
• 9:45
  can
• 9:45
  only
• 9:46
  do
• 9:46
  that
• 9:46
  from
• 9:46
  a
• 9:47
  state
• 9:47
  of
• 9:47
  regulation.
• 9:48
  So
• 9:49
  if
• 9:49
  you
• 9:50
  are
• 9:50
  in
• 9:50
  a
• 9:50
  dysregulated
• 9:51
  state.
• 9:52
  It's
• 9:53
  very
• 9:53
  difficult
• 9:54
  to
• 9:54
  be
• 9:54
  changing
• 9:55
  your
• 9:55
  thoughts,
• 9:56
  and
• 9:56
  then
• 9:56
  you
• 9:56
  can
• 9:56
  kind
• 9:57
  of
• 9:57
  turn
• 9:57
  that
• 9:57
  against
• 9:57
  you.
• 9:58
  The
• 9:58
  model
• 9:58
  doesn't
• 9:58
  work,
• 9:59
  or
• 9:59
  mindset
• 10:00
  doesn't
• 10:00
  work,
• 10:00
  or
• 10:00
  these
• 10:01
  thoughts,
• 10:01
  or
• 10:01
  maybe
• 10:02
  I'm
• 10:02
  broken.
• 10:03
  No
• 10:04
  amount
• 10:04
  of
• 10:04
  positive
• 10:05
  thinking
• 10:05
  is
• 10:06
  going
• 10:06
  to
• 10:06
  be
• 10:06
  able
• 10:06
  to
• 10:06
  override
• 10:07
  your
• 10:07
  biology.
• 10:08
  And
• 10:08
  that's
• 10:08
  why
• 10:08
  you
• 10:09
  have
• 10:09
  to
• 10:09
  come
• 10:09
  in
• 10:09
  sort
• 10:10
  of
• 10:10
  at
• 10:10
  the
• 10:10
  entry
• 10:11
  level
• 10:11
  of,
• 10:11
  of
• 10:11
  learning
• 10:12
  about
• 10:12
  your
• 10:12
  nervous
• 10:12
  system.
• 10:13
  So
• 10:13
  the
• 10:14
  two,
• 10:14
  it's
• 10:14
  like
• 10:15
  a
• 10:15
  brick.
• 10:15
  We
• 10:15
  need
• 10:16
  to
• 10:16
  build
• 10:16
  that
• 10:16
  bridge.
• 10:16
  We
• 10:17
  need
• 10:17
  to
• 10:17
  make
• 10:17
  sure
• 10:17
  that
• 10:18
  we're
• 10:18
  connecting
• 10:18
  the
• 10:18
  mindset
• 10:19
  with,
• 10:19
  um,
• 10:20
  with
• 10:20
  nervous
• 10:21
  system.
• 10:21
  And
• 10:21
  that's
• 10:22
  what
• 10:22
  I
• 10:22
  think
• 10:22
  a
• 10:22
  lot
• 10:22
  of
• 10:22
  coaches,
• 10:23
  if
• 10:23
  we've
• 10:24
  only
• 10:24
  focused
• 10:24
  on
• 10:25
  mindset,
• 10:26
  we're
• 10:26
  missing
• 10:27
  some
• 10:27
  of
• 10:27
  the
• 10:27
  fundamental
• 10:27
  pieces.
• 10:28
  And
• 10:29
  the
• 10:29
  second
• 10:29
  thing
• 10:29
  that
• 10:29
  I
• 10:30
  often
• 10:30
  hear
• 10:30
  is
• 10:30
  people
• 10:31
  think
• 10:31
  nervous
• 10:31
  system
• 10:32
  regulation,
• 10:33
  nervous
• 10:33
  system
• 10:34
  tools
• 10:34
  or
• 10:34
  techniques,
• 10:35
  or
• 10:35
  you'll
• 10:36
  hear
• 10:36
  the
• 10:36
  language
• 10:37
  like
• 10:37
  that.
• 10:37
  Like
• 10:37
  it's
• 10:37
  sort
• 10:38
  of
• 10:38
  like,
• 10:38
  Oh
• 10:38
  yeah,
• 10:38
  that's
• 10:39
  a
• 10:39
  nice
• 10:39
  to
• 10:39
  have
• 10:40
  technique.
• 10:41
  I
• 10:41
  don't
• 10:41
  necessarily
• 10:42
  use
• 10:43
  that
• 10:43
  technique
• 10:44
  in
• 10:44
  my
• 10:44
  coaching
• 10:45
  or
• 10:45
  I
• 10:45
  don't
• 10:45
  need
• 10:46
  to.
• 10:46
  I
• 10:46
  have
• 10:47
  a
• 10:47
  lot
• 10:47
  of
• 10:47
  other
• 10:47
  tools
• 10:49
  and
• 10:49
  I'm
• 10:49
  like,
• 10:51
  it's
• 10:51
  the
• 10:51
  equivalent
• 10:52
  of
• 10:52
  saying
• 10:53
  like
• 10:53
  to
• 10:53
  a
• 10:53
  runner,
• 10:54
  Oh,
• 10:54
  you
• 10:54
  don't
• 10:55
  need
• 10:55
  to
• 10:55
  train
• 10:55
  or
• 10:56
  practice.
• 10:57
  You
• 10:57
  just
• 10:57
  need
• 10:58
  to
• 10:58
  think.
• 10:59
  You
• 10:59
  just
• 11:00
  need
• 11:00
  to
• 11:00
  visualize
• 11:01
  yourself.
• 11:01
  Now
• 11:02
  visualization,
• 11:03
  we
• 11:03
  know
• 11:03
  in
• 11:04
  sports
• 11:04
  is
• 11:04
  very,
• 11:05
  very
• 11:05
  powerful,
• 11:07
  but
• 11:07
  it's
• 11:07
  nothing
• 11:07
  if
• 11:08
  you're
• 11:08
  not
• 11:08
  doing
• 11:08
  the
• 11:09
  actual
• 11:09
  work
• 11:09
  of
• 11:10
  training.
• 11:10
  So
• 11:11
  I
• 11:11
  look
• 11:11
  at
• 11:11
  it
• 11:11
  when
• 11:12
  I
• 11:12
  hear
• 11:12
  nervous
• 11:12
  system
• 11:13
  regulation,
• 11:13
  it's,
• 11:13
  it's
• 11:14
  understanding
• 11:15
  the
• 11:15
  nervous
• 11:15
  system,
• 11:16
  teaching
• 11:16
  the
• 11:17
  nervous
• 11:17
  system,
• 11:17
  learning
• 11:18
  about
• 11:18
  your
• 11:18
  nervous
• 11:18
  system.
• 11:19
  It's
• 11:19
  not
• 11:19
  a
• 11:19
  nice
• 11:19
  to
• 11:19
  have
• 11:20
  tool.
• 11:21
  It's
• 11:21
  not
• 11:21
  something
• 11:22
  that,
• 11:22
  Oh,
• 11:23
  you
• 11:23
  know,
• 11:23
  occasionally
• 11:24
  I'll
• 11:24
  pull
• 11:24
  it
• 11:24
  out
• 11:24
  with
• 11:25
  my
• 11:25
  clients.
• 11:26
  I
• 11:26
  kind
• 11:26
  of
• 11:26
  think
• 11:26
  like
• 11:27
  it's
• 11:27
  foundational.
• 11:28
  This
• 11:28
  is
• 11:29
  the
• 11:29
  base
• 11:29
  from
• 11:30
  which
• 11:30
  we
• 11:30
  start.
• 11:31
  Well,
• 11:32
  when
• 11:32
  I
• 11:32
  finally
• 11:32
  understood
• 11:33
  the
• 11:33
  fact
• 11:33
  that
• 11:34
  a
• 11:34
  dysregulated
• 11:35
  person
• 11:36
  doesn't
• 11:36
  actually
• 11:37
  tap
• 11:37
  into
• 11:37
  those
• 11:38
  executive,
• 11:38
  that
• 11:39
  executive
• 11:39
  part
• 11:39
  of
• 11:39
  your
• 11:39
  brain,
• 11:39
  I
• 11:39
  was
• 11:40
  like,
• 11:40
  huh,
• 11:41
  so
• 11:41
  we
• 11:42
  can't
• 11:42
  actually
• 11:42
  make
• 11:42
  good
• 11:43
  decision
• 11:43
  or
• 11:43
  any
• 11:43
  decisions
• 11:44
  really
• 11:44
  when
• 11:45
  we're
• 11:45
  dysregulated.
• 11:46
  Like
• 11:46
  that
• 11:47
  is
• 11:47
  step
• 11:47
  number
• 11:47
  one.
• 11:48
  Yeah.
• 11:48
  You
• 11:48
  lose
• 11:49
  access.
• 11:51
  biologically
• 11:52
  lose
• 11:52
  access
• 11:53
  because
• 11:54
  our
• 11:54
  nervous
• 11:55
  system
• 11:55
  is
• 11:55
  around
• 11:56
  for
• 11:56
  survival.
• 11:56
  Like
• 11:57
  everything
• 11:57
  for
• 11:57
  us
• 11:58
  is
• 11:58
  based
• 11:58
  on
• 11:58
  survival.
• 11:59
  And
• 11:59
  when
• 11:59
  our
• 11:59
  survival
• 12:00
  is
• 12:00
  threatened,
• 12:01
  all
• 12:02
  resources
• 12:03
  have
• 12:03
  to
• 12:03
  go
• 12:03
  towards
• 12:04
  our
• 12:04
  survival.
• 12:05
  So
• 12:05
  our
• 12:05
  CEO,
• 12:06
  those,
• 12:07
  you
• 12:07
  know,
• 12:07
  that
• 12:07
  frontal
• 12:07
  lobe
• 12:08
  That
• 12:09
  is
• 12:09
  responsible
• 12:10
  for
• 12:10
  all
• 12:10
  our
• 12:10
  executive
• 12:11
  function
• 12:11
  and
• 12:11
  our
• 12:12
  choice
• 12:12
  and
• 12:12
  our
• 12:12
  decision
• 12:13
  making.
• 12:13
  She
• 12:14
  has
• 12:14
  to
• 12:14
  go
• 12:14
  offline
• 12:15
  to
• 12:15
  send
• 12:16
  all
• 12:16
  the
• 12:16
  energy
• 12:16
  over
• 12:17
  to
• 12:17
  survival.
• 12:18
  And
• 12:19
  that
• 12:19
  was
• 12:19
  how
• 12:19
  I
• 12:20
  started,
• 12:20
  like
• 12:20
  when
• 12:20
  I
• 12:21
  first
• 12:21
  started
• 12:21
  working
• 12:22
  in
• 12:22
  the
• 12:22
  area
• 12:22
  of
• 12:22
  traumatic
• 12:22
  brain
• 12:23
  injury.
• 12:23
  One
• 12:23
  of
• 12:23
  my
• 12:24
  main
• 12:24
  roles
• 12:24
  as
• 12:25
  a
• 12:25
  speech
• 12:25
  language
• 12:25
  pathologist
• 12:26
  Is
• 12:27
  to
• 12:27
  work
• 12:27
  with
• 12:27
  people
• 12:28
  on
• 12:28
  their
• 12:28
  executive
• 12:28
  function
• 12:29
  skills,
• 12:29
  so
• 12:30
  their,
• 12:30
  their
• 12:31
  attention,
• 12:32
  their,
• 12:32
  um,
• 12:33
  well,
• 12:33
  we'd
• 12:33
  lump
• 12:33
  it
• 12:33
  all
• 12:34
  sort
• 12:34
  of
• 12:34
  like,
• 12:34
  you
• 12:34
  know,
• 12:34
  attention
• 12:35
  and
• 12:35
  memory
• 12:35
  and
• 12:35
  decision
• 12:36
  making
• 12:36
  and
• 12:36
  judgment
• 12:37
  and
• 12:37
  time
• 12:37
  management
• 12:37
  and
• 12:38
  all,
• 12:38
  all
• 12:38
  these
• 12:39
  impulse
• 12:39
  control
• 12:40
  and
• 12:40
  awareness.
• 12:41
  And
• 12:42
  I
• 12:42
  would
• 12:42
  be
• 12:42
  working
• 12:42
  with
• 12:43
  people
• 12:43
  trying
• 12:44
  to
• 12:44
  teach
• 12:44
  the
• 12:45
  strategies,
• 12:45
  which
• 12:45
  we
• 12:46
  know
• 12:46
  strategies
• 12:46
  work,
• 12:47
  you
• 12:47
  know,
• 12:47
  goal
• 12:47
  setting
• 12:48
  vision,
• 12:48
  like
• 12:49
  why
• 12:49
  aren't
• 12:49
  they
• 12:49
  working?
• 12:50
  And
• 12:51
  what
• 12:51
  I
• 12:52
  realized
• 12:52
  is.
• 12:53
  A
• 12:53
  lot
• 12:54
  of
• 12:54
  times,
• 12:54
  most
• 12:55
  times,
• 12:55
  when
• 12:55
  somebody
• 12:56
  has
• 12:56
  a
• 12:56
  traumatic
• 12:57
  experience
• 12:57
  or
• 12:57
  a
• 12:57
  traumatic
• 12:58
  brain
• 12:58
  injury,
• 12:59
  they
• 12:59
  are
• 12:59
  dysregulated.
• 13:01
  And
• 13:01
  if
• 13:01
  we
• 13:01
  did
• 13:02
  not
• 13:02
  address
• 13:03
  dysregulation
• 13:04
  first,
• 13:05
  I
• 13:06
  can
• 13:06
  teach
• 13:06
  them
• 13:06
  strategies
• 13:07
  to
• 13:07
  help
• 13:08
  their
• 13:08
  CEO
• 13:08
  to
• 13:09
  help
• 13:09
  their
• 13:09
  executive
• 13:09
  function
• 13:10
  because
• 13:10
  they're
• 13:10
  dysregulated.
• 13:12
  Once
• 13:12
  we
• 13:12
  worked
• 13:13
  on
• 13:13
  regulation,
• 13:15
  then
• 13:15
  all
• 13:15
  of
• 13:15
  a
• 13:15
  sudden
• 13:15
  they're
• 13:16
  able
• 13:16
  to
• 13:18
  accept
• 13:18
  the
• 13:18
  support,
• 13:19
  learn
• 13:19
  the
• 13:19
  strategies.
• 13:20
  And
• 13:20
  then
• 13:21
  I
• 13:21
  just
• 13:21
  took
• 13:21
  them
• 13:21
  like,
• 13:22
  okay,
• 13:22
  if
• 13:22
  this
• 13:22
  is
• 13:22
  so
• 13:23
  in
• 13:23
  the
• 13:23
  brain
• 13:23
  injury,
• 13:24
  the
• 13:24
  community
• 13:24
  where
• 13:25
  people
• 13:25
  suffered
• 13:25
  brain
• 13:25
  injuries,
• 13:27
  and
• 13:27
  we
• 13:27
  come
• 13:27
  over
• 13:27
  to
• 13:28
  a
• 13:28
  community
• 13:29
  where
• 13:29
  people
• 13:29
  may
• 13:29
  not
• 13:29
  have
• 13:30
  brain
• 13:30
  injuries.
• 13:30
  It's
• 13:31
  the
• 13:31
  same
• 13:31
  thing.
• 13:32
  Our
• 13:32
  brains
• 13:33
  are
• 13:33
  wired
• 13:33
  the
• 13:33
  same
• 13:34
  way
• 13:35
  for
• 13:35
  survival
• 13:35
  first,
• 13:37
  you
• 13:37
  know,
• 13:37
  executive
• 13:38
  function
• 13:38
  second.
• 13:39
  So
• 13:40
  if
• 13:40
  we
• 13:40
  want
• 13:41
  to
• 13:41
  be
• 13:42
  making
• 13:43
  great
• 13:43
  decisions
• 13:44
  and
• 13:44
  building
• 13:44
  businesses
• 13:45
  and
• 13:45
  plans,
• 13:46
  our
• 13:46
  CEO
• 13:47
  needs
• 13:47
  to
• 13:47
  do
• 13:48
  that.
• 13:48
  Right.
• 13:49
  And
• 13:49
  we
• 13:49
  need
• 13:50
  access
• 13:50
  to
• 13:50
  it.
• 13:51
  Yeah,
• 13:51
  I
• 13:51
  like
• 13:52
  to
• 13:52
  think
• 13:52
  I
• 13:53
  always
• 13:53
  have
• 13:53
  a
• 13:53
  lot
• 13:53
  of
• 13:53
  metaphors
• 13:54
  with
• 13:54
  parenting,
• 13:54
  you
• 13:54
  know,
• 13:55
  because
• 13:55
  it's
• 13:55
  such
• 13:55
  a
• 13:56
  universal,
• 13:57
  universal,
• 13:58
  uh,
• 13:58
  experience.
• 13:59
  But,
• 14:00
  you
• 14:00
  know,
• 14:00
  how
• 14:00
  often
• 14:01
  does
• 14:01
  it
• 14:01
  work
• 14:01
  to
• 14:02
  teach
• 14:02
  our
• 14:02
  children
• 14:02
  a
• 14:02
  lesson
• 14:03
  when
• 14:04
  they're
• 14:04
  thrashing
• 14:05
  on
• 14:05
  the
• 14:05
  floor
• 14:05
  having
• 14:06
  a
• 14:06
  meltdown,
• 14:06
  right?
• 14:06
  And
• 14:07
  we
• 14:07
  love,
• 14:07
  we
• 14:07
  love,
• 14:08
  inexperienced
• 14:08
  parents
• 14:09
  love
• 14:09
  to
• 14:09
  do
• 14:09
  that.
• 14:09
  It's
• 14:09
  like,
• 14:10
  oh
• 14:10
  you,
• 14:10
  I'm
• 14:10
  gonna
• 14:10
  give
• 14:10
  you
• 14:10
  something
• 14:11
  to
• 14:11
  cry
• 14:11
  about.
• 14:11
  Let's
• 14:11
  talk
• 14:12
  about
• 14:12
  what
• 14:12
  you
• 14:12
  did
• 14:12
  wrong.
• 14:13
  No,
• 14:14
  like
• 14:14
  have
• 14:14
  to
• 14:14
  get
• 14:15
  regulated
• 14:15
  first,
• 14:15
  then
• 14:15
  we
• 14:16
  can
• 14:16
  have
• 14:16
  the
• 14:16
  conversation.
• 14:17
  Right.
• 14:17
  And,
• 14:17
  and
• 14:18
  it
• 14:18
  works
• 14:18
  with
• 14:18
  ourselves
• 14:18
  as
• 14:19
  well.
• 14:19
  So
• 14:19
  you
• 14:19
  mentioned
• 14:19
  building
• 14:20
  a
• 14:20
  business.
• 14:20
  Let's
• 14:20
  talk
• 14:20
  about
• 14:20
  that
• 14:21
  for
• 14:21
  a
• 14:21
  second,
• 14:21
  because
• 14:21
  I
• 14:22
  tap
• 14:22
  into
• 14:22
  this
• 14:22
  a
• 14:22
  lot
• 14:22
  when
• 14:22
  I'm
• 14:23
  talking
• 14:23
  to
• 14:23
  my
• 14:23
  clients
• 14:23
  is
• 14:23
  that
• 14:24
  it
• 14:24
  doesn't
• 14:25
  feel
• 14:25
  good
• 14:26
  to
• 14:26
  build
• 14:26
  a
• 14:26
  business.
• 14:26
  So
• 14:26
  how,
• 14:27
  how
• 14:27
  does
• 14:28
  our
• 14:28
  nervous
• 14:28
  system
• 14:29
  participate
• 14:30
  when
• 14:30
  we're
• 14:30
  business?
• 14:32
  Danger,
• 14:32
  danger,
• 14:33
  danger,
• 14:33
  danger,
• 14:34
  danger.
• 14:34
  Why
• 14:34
  are
• 14:34
  you
• 14:35
  doing
• 14:35
  this?
• 14:35
  Why
• 14:35
  are
• 14:35
  you
• 14:36
  doing
• 14:36
  this?
• 14:36
  Because
• 14:37
  everything
• 14:37
  gets
• 14:37
  sorted.
• 14:38
  Everything
• 14:38
  will
• 14:39
  go
• 14:39
  through
• 14:39
  the
• 14:39
  lens
• 14:39
  of
• 14:40
  the
• 14:40
  nervous
• 14:40
  system.
• 14:40
  So
• 14:40
  the
• 14:40
  nervous
• 14:41
  system,
• 14:41
  the
• 14:41
  first
• 14:42
  question
• 14:42
  is
• 14:42
  like,
• 14:42
  is
• 14:42
  this
• 14:42
  safe
• 14:43
  or
• 14:43
  dangerous?
• 14:44
  If
• 14:44
  it's
• 14:44
  unfamiliar,
• 14:45
  it's
• 14:45
  automatically
• 14:46
  danger.
• 14:48
  When
• 14:48
  you're
• 14:48
  building
• 14:49
  a
• 14:49
  business,
• 14:49
  essentially
• 14:50
  almost
• 14:50
  everything
• 14:51
  that
• 14:51
  you
• 14:51
  are
• 14:52
  doing
• 14:52
  is
• 14:52
  unfamiliar
• 14:54
  and
• 14:54
  everything
• 14:55
  that
• 14:55
  you're
• 14:55
  doing
• 14:55
  feels
• 14:56
  like
• 14:56
  a
• 14:56
  risk
• 14:56
  because
• 14:57
  you
• 14:57
  haven't
• 14:57
  done
• 14:57
  it
• 14:57
  before.
• 14:58
  Um,
• 14:59
  we
• 14:59
  don't
• 14:59
  really
• 14:59
  have
• 15:00
  a
• 15:00
  safety
• 15:00
  net.
• 15:01
  We
• 15:01
  don't
• 15:01
  have,
• 15:02
  um,
• 15:03
  you
• 15:03
  know,
• 15:03
  the
• 15:03
  same
• 15:04
  security
• 15:04
  that
• 15:05
  maybe
• 15:05
  we
• 15:05
  feel
• 15:06
  would
• 15:06
  be
• 15:06
  in
• 15:06
  other
• 15:07
  areas.
• 15:07
  It
• 15:07
  doesn't
• 15:08
  have
• 15:08
  to
• 15:08
  be
• 15:08
  accurate
• 15:09
  either
• 15:10
  like
• 15:10
  it
• 15:10
  doesn't
• 15:10
  have
• 15:10
  to
• 15:10
  be
• 15:10
  like,
• 15:11
  well,
• 15:11
  this
• 15:11
  is
• 15:11
  safe
• 15:11
  and
• 15:12
  But
• 15:12
  there
• 15:13
  is
• 15:13
  there's
• 15:13
  a
• 15:13
  lot
• 15:14
  of
• 15:14
  judgment.
• 15:15
  There's
• 15:15
  a
• 15:15
  lot
• 15:16
  of
• 15:16
  unknown
• 15:17
  There's
• 15:17
  a
• 15:17
  lot
• 15:17
  of
• 15:18
  like
• 15:18
  especially
• 15:18
  if
• 15:18
  you're
• 15:19
  a
• 15:19
  small
• 15:19
  business
• 15:19
  owner,
• 15:20
  like
• 15:20
  every
• 15:21
  problem
• 15:21
  is
• 15:21
  your
• 15:22
  problem
• 15:23
  You,
• 15:23
  you
• 15:24
  have
• 15:24
  to
• 15:24
  figure
• 15:24
  it
• 15:25
  out.
• 15:25
  And
• 15:25
  so
• 15:26
  that
• 15:26
  really
• 15:26
  sends,
• 15:27
  um,
• 15:28
  your
• 15:28
  nervous
• 15:28
  system
• 15:29
  into
• 15:29
  a
• 15:30
  state
• 15:30
  of
• 15:32
  dysregulation
• 15:34
  and
• 15:34
  then
• 15:36
  we're
• 15:36
  often
• 15:37
  like
• 15:37
  doing
• 15:38
  everything.
• 15:39
  And
• 15:39
  so,
• 15:40
  we've
• 15:40
  got
• 15:40
  a
• 15:41
  long
• 15:41
  to
• 15:42
  do
• 15:42
  list.
• 15:43
  We
• 15:43
  have,
• 15:44
  um,
• 15:44
  tasks
• 15:45
  that
• 15:45
  we're
• 15:46
  trying
• 15:46
  to
• 15:46
  show
• 15:47
  up
• 15:47
  consistently
• 15:48
  to
• 15:48
  do.
• 15:49
  Which
• 15:49
  is
• 15:50
  really
• 15:50
  hard.
• 15:51
  You
• 15:51
  know,
• 15:51
  you've
• 15:51
  got
• 15:52
  a
• 15:52
  family.
• 15:52
  You've
• 15:53
  got
• 15:53
  other
• 15:53
  things
• 15:53
  going
• 15:54
  on.
• 15:54
  Maybe
• 15:54
  health
• 15:55
  issues.
• 15:55
  You
• 15:55
  have
• 15:56
  lots
• 15:56
  of
• 15:56
  competing
• 15:57
  demands,
• 15:57
  but
• 15:58
  you
• 15:58
  are
• 15:58
  the
• 15:58
  one
• 15:58
  person.
• 15:59
  So
• 16:00
  it's
• 16:00
  very
• 16:00
  easy
• 16:01
  to
• 16:01
  get
• 16:01
  low
• 16:01
  on
• 16:02
  sleep
• 16:03
  and
• 16:03
  to
• 16:03
  skip
• 16:04
  meals
• 16:05
  and
• 16:05
  to
• 16:06
  not
• 16:06
  get
• 16:06
  our
• 16:07
  proper
• 16:07
  exercise.
• 16:08
  So
• 16:08
  then
• 16:08
  we
• 16:08
  start
• 16:09
  depleting
• 16:09
  our
• 16:10
  bucket
• 16:10
  even
• 16:10
  more
• 16:11
  that
• 16:11
  will
• 16:11
  fuel
• 16:12
  our
• 16:12
  nervous
• 16:12
  system
• 16:13
  to
• 16:13
  keep
• 16:13
  our
• 16:13
  nervous
• 16:13
  system
• 16:14
  nice
• 16:14
  and
• 16:14
  healthy.
• 16:15
  Those
• 16:15
  are
• 16:15
  the
• 16:15
  things
• 16:16
  like,
• 16:16
  I
• 16:16
  don't
• 16:16
  have
• 16:16
  time
• 16:16
  for
• 16:17
  that.
• 16:17
  I've
• 16:17
  got
• 16:17
  to
• 16:17
  get
• 16:17
  this
• 16:17
  out.
• 16:18
  I've
• 16:18
  got
• 16:18
  this
• 16:18
  deadline.
• 16:19
  I've
• 16:19
  got
• 16:19
  that.
• 16:19
  And
• 16:20
  then
• 16:20
  we
• 16:20
  do
• 16:20
  all
• 16:20
  that
• 16:21
  work
• 16:22
  and
• 16:22
  then
• 16:22
  we
• 16:22
  get
• 16:22
  crickets.
• 16:23
  Or
• 16:24
  we
• 16:24
  get
• 16:24
  rejection
• 16:25
  or
• 16:26
  we
• 16:26
  get
• 16:26
  somebody
• 16:26
  complaining
• 16:27
  about
• 16:27
  something
• 16:28
  or
• 16:28
  we
• 16:28
  get
• 16:28
  somebody
• 16:28
  stealing
• 16:29
  our
• 16:29
  work
• 16:29
  or
• 16:30
  we
• 16:30
  get
• 16:30
  somebody
• 16:30
  So
• 16:31
  there's
• 16:31
  always
• 16:31
  like
• 16:32
  we're
• 16:32
  constantly
• 16:33
  up
• 16:33
  against
• 16:34
  Risks,
• 16:35
  we're
• 16:35
  up
• 16:36
  against
• 16:36
  danger.
• 16:37
  And
• 16:37
  so
• 16:37
  I
• 16:38
  I
• 16:38
  sometimes
• 16:38
  think
• 16:38
  like
• 16:39
  my
• 16:39
  nervous
• 16:39
  system
• 16:39
  wants
• 16:40
  to
• 16:40
  sit
• 16:40
  down
• 16:40
  and
• 16:40
  say
• 16:40
  to
• 16:41
  me
• 16:41
  just
• 16:41
  stop
• 16:42
  Why
• 16:42
  are
• 16:42
  we
• 16:42
  doing
• 16:42
  this?
• 16:44
  Totally
• 16:44
  totally.
• 16:45
  Yeah,
• 16:46
  it
• 16:46
  is
• 16:46
  so
• 16:47
  fascinating
• 16:47
  to
• 16:47
  me
• 16:47
  as
• 16:47
  I
• 16:47
  coach
• 16:49
  Those
• 16:49
  who
• 16:49
  are
• 16:49
  starting
• 16:49
  their
• 16:49
  business
• 16:50
  or
• 16:50
  are
• 16:50
  still
• 16:51
  in
• 16:51
  those
• 16:51
  early
• 16:51
  days,
• 16:52
  how
• 16:53
  real
• 16:53
  that
• 16:54
  danger
• 16:54
  is
• 16:54
  to
• 16:54
  them.
• 16:54
  They
• 16:55
  will
• 16:55
  say,
• 16:55
  well,
• 16:55
  I
• 16:55
  can't
• 16:56
  do
• 16:56
  this
• 16:56
  because
• 16:56
  XYZ
• 16:57
  and
• 16:57
  I'm
• 16:57
  like,
• 16:57
  okay,
• 16:58
  let's
• 16:58
  look
• 16:58
  at
• 16:58
  that
• 16:58
  for
• 16:58
  a
• 16:58
  second.
• 16:58
  And,
• 16:59
  and
• 16:59
  they,
• 16:59
  these
• 17:00
  thoughts
• 17:00
  are
• 17:00
  being
• 17:00
  created
• 17:01
  by
• 17:01
  this
• 17:01
  very
• 17:01
  real
• 17:02
  sense
• 17:02
  of
• 17:02
  danger
• 17:03
  that
• 17:03
  this
• 17:03
  is
• 17:03
  going
• 17:04
  to
• 17:04
  destroy
• 17:04
  me
• 17:04
  in
• 17:04
  one
• 17:04
  way
• 17:04
  or
• 17:05
  another.
• 17:06
  It's
• 17:06
  really
• 17:06
  scary.
• 17:07
  And
• 17:07
  it's
• 17:07
  quite
• 17:07
  the
• 17:08
  ordeal
• 17:08
  too.
• 17:09
  To
• 17:10
  understand
• 17:11
  that
• 17:11
  you
• 17:11
  can't
• 17:11
  overcome
• 17:11
  it,
• 17:12
  but
• 17:12
  yeah,
• 17:12
  you
• 17:12
  have
• 17:12
  to
• 17:12
  first
• 17:13
  take
• 17:13
  care
• 17:13
  of
• 17:13
  yourself
• 17:13
  physiologically
• 17:15
  and
• 17:15
  then
• 17:15
  understand
• 17:16
  like
• 17:16
  you're
• 17:16
  actually
• 17:17
  not
• 17:17
  in
• 17:17
  danger
• 17:17
  You
• 17:18
  really
• 17:18
  are
• 17:18
  safe.
• 17:19
  Like
• 17:19
  there's
• 17:20
  there's
• 17:20
  nothing
• 17:21
  out
• 17:21
  there
• 17:22
  That
• 17:22
  is
• 17:23
  is
• 17:23
  going
• 17:24
  to
• 17:24
  harm
• 17:24
  you
• 17:25
  physically
• 17:26
  But
• 17:26
  our
• 17:27
  nervous
• 17:27
  system
• 17:27
  does
• 17:28
  not
• 17:28
  know
• 17:28
  the
• 17:28
  difference
• 17:29
  between
• 17:29
  a
• 17:29
  real
• 17:30
  threat
• 17:30
  and
• 17:31
  a
• 17:31
  perceived
• 17:31
  threat
• 17:32
  So
• 17:32
  it
• 17:32
  treats
• 17:33
  everything
• 17:34
  like
• 17:34
  that
• 17:34
  rejection,
• 17:35
  that
• 17:35
  silence,
• 17:36
  that
• 17:37
  person
• 17:37
  complaining
• 17:38
  is
• 17:38
  literally
• 17:39
  like
• 17:39
  you
• 17:40
  are
• 17:40
  about
• 17:40
  to
• 17:40
  die
• 17:41
  for
• 17:41
  your
• 17:41
  nervous
• 17:41
  system.
• 17:42
  There's
• 17:42
  no
• 17:42
  differentiation.
• 17:43
  It's
• 17:44
  all
• 17:44
  the
• 17:44
  same
• 17:44
  thing.
• 17:45
  So
• 17:45
  it
• 17:45
  makes
• 17:45
  sense
• 17:46
  that
• 17:47
  it's
• 17:48
  scary.
• 17:49
  Totally.
• 17:50
  So
• 17:50
  when
• 17:51
  we've
• 17:51
  acknowledged
• 17:51
  that
• 17:51
  this
• 17:52
  is
• 17:52
  a
• 17:52
  thing
• 17:52
  for
• 17:52
  us
• 17:52
  building
• 17:53
  in
• 17:53
  our
• 17:53
  business,
• 17:53
  and
• 17:53
  then
• 17:54
  we
• 17:54
  go
• 17:54
  work
• 17:54
  with
• 17:54
  our
• 17:55
  clients,
• 17:55
  what
• 17:55
  would
• 17:55
  you
• 17:56
  say?
• 17:57
  Some
• 17:57
  of
• 17:57
  the
• 17:57
  first
• 17:57
  steps
• 17:58
  for
• 17:58
  incorporating
• 17:59
  more
• 17:59
  of
• 17:59
  this
• 17:59
  kind
• 17:59
  of,
• 18:00
  nervous
• 18:00
  system
• 18:01
  awareness,
• 18:01
  somatic
• 18:01
  awareness
• 18:02
  when
• 18:02
  working
• 18:02
  with
• 18:02
  a
• 18:03
  client
• 18:03
  that
• 18:03
  might
• 18:03
  be
• 18:03
  struggling
• 18:04
  with
• 18:04
  this.
• 18:04
  Yeah.
• 18:05
  I
• 18:05
  mean,
• 18:05
  I
• 18:05
  think
• 18:05
  the
• 18:06
  first
• 18:06
  thing
• 18:06
  is
• 18:06
  you
• 18:07
  having
• 18:07
  the
• 18:07
  realization
• 18:08
  that
• 18:08
  you
• 18:09
  have
• 18:09
  a
• 18:09
  nervous
• 18:09
  system.
• 18:10
  Your
• 18:10
  clients
• 18:10
  have
• 18:10
  a
• 18:10
  nervous
• 18:11
  system.
• 18:11
  Everybody
• 18:11
  has
• 18:11
  a
• 18:12
  nervous
• 18:12
  system
• 18:12
  and
• 18:13
  it
• 18:13
  is
• 18:14
  running
• 18:14
  the
• 18:14
  show,
• 18:16
  whether
• 18:16
  you
• 18:16
  are
• 18:16
  deliberately
• 18:17
  aware
• 18:18
  of
• 18:18
  it
• 18:18
  or
• 18:18
  not.
• 18:18
  So
• 18:19
  this
• 18:19
  is
• 18:19
  why
• 18:19
  awareness
• 18:20
  becomes
• 18:21
  the
• 18:21
  most
• 18:21
  important
• 18:21
  thing,
• 18:22
  because
• 18:23
  if
• 18:23
  you
• 18:23
  don't
• 18:24
  have
• 18:24
  awareness
• 18:25
  of
• 18:25
  your
• 18:26
  personal
• 18:26
  nervous
• 18:27
  system,
• 18:28
  you
• 18:28
  don't
• 18:28
  really
• 18:28
  know
• 18:28
  what's
• 18:29
  driving.
• 18:33
  So
• 18:33
  I
• 18:33
  always
• 18:34
  like
• 18:34
  people
• 18:34
  to,
• 18:35
  okay,
• 18:35
  let's
• 18:35
  map
• 18:36
  out
• 18:37
  and,
• 18:37
  and
• 18:37
  it's
• 18:38
  not
• 18:38
  a
• 18:38
  static
• 18:39
  thing
• 18:39
  where
• 18:39
  we're
• 18:40
  going
• 18:40
  to
• 18:40
  map
• 18:40
  it
• 18:40
  out
• 18:40
  one
• 18:41
  time
• 18:41
  and
• 18:41
  then
• 18:41
  that's
• 18:42
  it.
• 18:42
  This
• 18:42
  is
• 18:42
  what
• 18:42
  my
• 18:42
  nervous
• 18:43
  system
• 18:43
  is.
• 18:43
  Your
• 18:43
  nervous
• 18:44
  system
• 18:44
  is
• 18:44
  constantly,
• 18:45
  like
• 18:45
  I
• 18:45
  said,
• 18:45
  it's
• 18:45
  imprint,
• 18:46
  imprint,
• 18:46
  imprint.
• 18:47
  We're
• 18:47
  doing
• 18:48
  imprints
• 18:48
  right
• 18:49
  now.
• 18:49
  We
• 18:49
  will
• 18:49
  do
• 18:49
  it
• 18:49
  our
• 18:49
  entire
• 18:50
  life.
• 18:51
  And
• 18:51
  so
• 18:51
  it
• 18:51
  is
• 18:52
  constantly
• 18:52
  looking
• 18:53
  at.
• 18:54
  What
• 18:55
  does
• 18:55
  dysregulation,
• 18:56
  what
• 18:56
  does
• 18:56
  safety
• 18:57
  look
• 18:57
  for,
• 18:57
  like
• 18:57
  for
• 18:57
  me?
• 18:58
  Safety
• 18:59
  when
• 18:59
  I'm,
• 18:59
  my
• 19:00
  thoughts,
• 19:00
  my
• 19:01
  feelings,
• 19:01
  my
• 19:01
  actions,
• 19:02
  my
• 19:02
  posture.
• 19:02
  What
• 19:03
  do
• 19:03
  I
• 19:03
  like
• 19:03
  eating?
• 19:04
  What
• 19:04
  kind
• 19:04
  of
• 19:04
  activities
• 19:05
  do
• 19:05
  I
• 19:05
  like
• 19:05
  doing
• 19:06
  when
• 19:06
  I'm
• 19:06
  in
• 19:06
  that
• 19:06
  safe
• 19:07
  space?
• 19:08
  What
• 19:08
  does
• 19:08
  it
• 19:08
  look
• 19:08
  like
• 19:09
  when
• 19:09
  I
• 19:09
  have
• 19:10
  more
• 19:10
  energy
• 19:10
  in
• 19:10
  my
• 19:11
  system,
• 19:11
  when
• 19:11
  I'm
• 19:11
  more
• 19:12
  activated?
• 19:12
  What
• 19:13
  are
• 19:13
  my
• 19:13
  thoughts,
• 19:13
  my
• 19:13
  feelings,
• 19:14
  blah,
• 19:14
  blah,
• 19:14
  blah.
• 19:15
  And
• 19:15
  what
• 19:15
  does
• 19:15
  it
• 19:15
  look
• 19:15
  like
• 19:16
  when
• 19:16
  I'm
• 19:16
  in
• 19:16
  more
• 19:16
  of
• 19:16
  a
• 19:16
  shutdown
• 19:17
  mode?
• 19:18
  And
• 19:18
  so
• 19:19
  start,
• 19:19
  I
• 19:19
  call
• 19:19
  it
• 19:20
  like
• 19:20
  building
• 19:20
  out
• 19:20
  your
• 19:20
  landscape.
• 19:21
  Start
• 19:22
  getting
• 19:22
  a
• 19:22
  feel
• 19:23
  for
• 19:24
  what
• 19:24
  does
• 19:25
  it
• 19:25
  look
• 19:25
  like
• 19:25
  when
• 19:26
  I'm
• 19:26
  starting
• 19:26
  to
• 19:26
  get
• 19:26
  dysregulated.
• 19:27
  What
• 19:27
  does
• 19:28
  it
• 19:28
  look
• 19:28
  like
• 19:28
  when
• 19:28
  I'm
• 19:28
  coming
• 19:29
  out
• 19:29
  of
• 19:29
  dysregulation?
• 19:31
  And
• 19:31
  initially
• 19:32
  you
• 19:32
  may,
• 19:33
  you
• 19:33
  know,
• 19:34
  you
• 19:34
  may
• 19:34
  have
• 19:34
  like
• 19:34
  a
• 19:34
  blank
• 19:35
  page
• 19:36
  in
• 19:36
  front
• 19:36
  of
• 19:36
  you
• 19:36
  like,
• 19:36
  I
• 19:37
  have
• 19:37
  no
• 19:37
  idea.
• 19:38
  And
• 19:38
  that's
• 19:38
  where
• 19:39
  we
• 19:39
  stop.
• 19:39
  Okay,
• 19:40
  so
• 19:40
  we're
• 19:40
  going
• 19:40
  to
• 19:41
  spend
• 19:41
  the
• 19:41
  next
• 19:42
  little
• 19:42
  while
• 19:43
  and
• 19:43
  stop
• 19:44
  and
• 19:44
  check
• 19:44
  in
• 19:44
  periodically
• 19:45
  throughout
• 19:45
  the
• 19:46
  day.
• 19:46
  What's
• 19:47
  going
• 19:47
  on
• 19:47
  with
• 19:47
  my
• 19:47
  body
• 19:48
  right
• 19:48
  now?
• 19:49
  What's
• 19:49
  happening?
• 19:50
  You
• 19:50
  know,
• 19:50
  who's
• 19:50
  around
• 19:51
  me?
• 19:51
  What
• 19:51
  are
• 19:52
  some
• 19:52
  of
• 19:52
  my
• 19:52
  thoughts?
• 19:52
  What's
• 19:53
  my
• 19:53
  energy
• 19:53
  level?
• 19:54
  What
• 19:54
  emotions
• 19:55
  am
• 19:55
  I
• 19:55
  feeling?
• 19:56
  Doing
• 19:56
  some
• 19:56
  of
• 19:57
  those
• 19:57
  check
• 19:57
  ins
• 19:58
  and
• 19:58
  then
• 19:59
  learning
• 19:59
  to
• 19:59
  develop
• 20:00
  a
• 20:00
  vocabulary.
• 20:01
  And
• 20:01
  this
• 20:01
  is
• 20:01
  why
• 20:02
  it
• 20:02
  is
• 20:02
  a
• 20:02
  process
• 20:03
  that
• 20:03
  we're
• 20:03
  going
• 20:03
  to
• 20:03
  be
• 20:04
  doing.
• 20:04
  It's
• 20:04
  not
• 20:04
  all
• 20:04
  at
• 20:04
  once
• 20:05
  where,
• 20:05
  okay,
• 20:05
  right.
• 20:06
  I'm
• 20:06
  sitting
• 20:06
  down
• 20:06
  today.
• 20:07
  I
• 20:07
  mean,
• 20:07
  I
• 20:07
  encourage
• 20:08
  people
• 20:08
  to
• 20:08
  start
• 20:09
  with
• 20:09
  an
• 20:09
  exercise.
• 20:10
  Like
• 20:10
  in
• 20:10
  my
• 20:10
  journal,
• 20:11
  I
• 20:11
  have
• 20:11
  like
• 20:11
  the
• 20:11
  maps.
• 20:12
  Okay.
• 20:12
  Let's
• 20:13
  start
• 20:13
  out
• 20:13
  what
• 20:14
  some
• 20:14
  of
• 20:14
  the
• 20:14
  maps
• 20:14
  are,
• 20:15
  but
• 20:15
  they're
• 20:15
  meant
• 20:15
  to
• 20:16
  be
• 20:16
  this
• 20:16
  ongoing
• 20:17
  that
• 20:17
  I'll
• 20:17
  go.
• 20:17
  Oh,
• 20:18
  I
• 20:18
  didn't
• 20:18
  notice
• 20:19
  that
• 20:19
  before.
• 20:20
  This
• 20:20
  is
• 20:21
  something
• 20:21
  that
• 20:21
  I
• 20:21
  do.
• 20:22
  That
• 20:23
  awareness
• 20:24
  allows
• 20:24
  you
• 20:25
  to
• 20:25
  get
• 20:26
  to
• 20:26
  know
• 20:26
  your
• 20:26
  nervous
• 20:26
  system.
• 20:27
  That's
• 20:27
  why
• 20:27
  we
• 20:27
  talk
• 20:27
  about
• 20:28
  befriending
• 20:28
  your
• 20:29
  nervous
• 20:29
  system.
• 20:30
  My
• 20:31
  nervous
• 20:31
  system
• 20:31
  is
• 20:31
  literally
• 20:32
  my
• 20:32
  bestie
• 20:33
  that
• 20:33
  I
• 20:34
  may
• 20:34
  not
• 20:34
  even
• 20:34
  know.
• 20:36
  And
• 20:36
  she's
• 20:36
  kind
• 20:37
  of
• 20:37
  directing
• 20:37
  everything.
• 20:38
  So
• 20:38
  I
• 20:39
  think
• 20:39
  it's
• 20:39
  worthwhile
• 20:40
  the
• 20:40
  investment
• 20:40
  of
• 20:41
  talking
• 20:41
  with
• 20:41
  her.
• 20:42
  And
• 20:42
  finding
• 20:43
  out
• 20:43
  like
• 20:43
  what's
• 20:43
  going
• 20:43
  on
• 20:44
  for
• 20:44
  you
• 20:44
  here
• 20:44
  and
• 20:45
  how
• 20:45
  do
• 20:45
  you
• 20:45
  react
• 20:46
  and
• 20:46
  having
• 20:46
  that
• 20:47
  ongoing
• 20:47
  dialogue
• 20:48
  and
• 20:48
  conversation
• 20:49
  and
• 20:49
  that
• 20:49
  is
• 20:50
  a
• 20:50
  huge
• 20:50
  chunk
• 20:50
  of
• 20:50
  it.
• 20:51
  Just
• 20:51
  that
• 20:51
  awareness
• 20:52
  of
• 20:52
  what
• 20:53
  my
• 20:53
  nervous
• 20:53
  system
• 20:53
  and
• 20:54
  who
• 20:54
  my
• 20:54
  nervous
• 20:54
  system
• 20:55
  is.
• 20:55
  I
• 20:56
  love
• 20:56
  that
• 20:56
  concept
• 20:56
  of
• 20:57
  being
• 20:57
  friends
• 20:58
  with
• 20:58
  it
• 20:58
  because
• 20:58
  I
• 20:58
  think
• 20:58
  too
• 20:59
  many
• 20:59
  times
• 20:59
  without
• 21:00
  that
• 21:00
  awareness,
• 21:01
  we're
• 21:01
  just
• 21:01
  enemies,
• 21:02
  right?
• 21:02
  We're
• 21:02
  like,
• 21:02
  why
• 21:02
  do
• 21:02
  I
• 21:02
  feel
• 21:02
  this
• 21:02
  way?
• 21:03
  Why
• 21:03
  can't
• 21:03
  I
• 21:04
  perform?
• 21:04
  What
• 21:04
  is
• 21:05
  going
• 21:05
  on?
• 21:05
  And
• 21:05
  we
• 21:05
  just
• 21:06
  kind
• 21:06
  of
• 21:06
  try
• 21:06
  to
• 21:06
  muscle
• 21:07
  our
• 21:07
  way
• 21:07
  through,
• 21:07
  which
• 21:07
  is
• 21:07
  probably
• 21:08
  creating
• 21:08
  more
• 21:08
  dysregulation,
• 21:09
  right?
• 21:10
  Problem
• 21:10
  on
• 21:10
  problem
• 21:10
  on
• 21:11
  problem,
• 21:11
  you
• 21:11
  know?
• 21:11
  So
• 21:11
  I
• 21:11
  love
• 21:12
  that.
• 21:12
  Just
• 21:12
  like
• 21:12
  we're,
• 21:13
  every
• 21:14
  part
• 21:14
  of
• 21:14
  me
• 21:14
  is
• 21:15
  beautiful
• 21:15
  and
• 21:15
  wonderful
• 21:15
  and
• 21:16
  it's
• 21:16
  all
• 21:16
  trying
• 21:16
  to
• 21:16
  make
• 21:16
  me
• 21:17
  happy
• 21:18
  and
• 21:18
  joyful
• 21:18
  and
• 21:18
  surviving
• 21:19
  this
• 21:20
  life.
• 21:20
  Right.
• 21:21
  And
• 21:21
  let's
• 21:21
  figure
• 21:21
  out
• 21:22
  what
• 21:22
  it
• 21:22
  needs.
• 21:23
  Yeah.
• 21:23
  I
• 21:23
  love
• 21:23
  that.
• 21:26
  Okay.
• 21:26
  So
• 21:26
  tell
• 21:26
  us
• 21:26
  about
• 21:27
  this
• 21:27
  journal.
• 21:27
  I,
• 21:28
  I
• 21:28
  talked
• 21:28
  to
• 21:28
  you
• 21:28
  before
• 21:29
  when
• 21:29
  it
• 21:29
  was
• 21:29
  in
• 21:29
  the
• 21:29
  works
• 21:30
  and
• 21:30
  I'm
• 21:30
  so
• 21:30
  excited
• 21:30
  to
• 21:31
  see
• 21:31
  it
• 21:31
  live.
• 21:31
  Tell
• 21:31
  me
• 21:31
  all
• 21:32
  about
• 21:32
  it
• 21:32
  and,
• 21:32
  uh,
• 21:33
  and
• 21:33
  what
• 21:33
  you
• 21:33
  hope
• 21:34
  it
• 21:34
  is
• 21:34
  going
• 21:34
  to
• 21:34
  give
• 21:35
  people
• 21:35
  the
• 21:35
  tools
• 21:36
  to
• 21:36
  do.
• 21:36
  Right.
• 21:37
  So
• 21:38
  the
• 21:38
  journal
• 21:38
  is
• 21:38
  really
• 21:39
  just
• 21:39
  taking
• 21:40
  a
• 21:40
  lot
• 21:40
  of
• 21:40
  what
• 21:40
  we've
• 21:40
  talked
• 21:40
  about
• 21:41
  here
• 21:41
  and
• 21:41
  putting
• 21:42
  it
• 21:42
  in
• 21:42
  an
• 21:42
  easy
• 21:43
  digestible
• 21:43
  form.
• 21:44
  So
• 21:44
  the
• 21:44
  first
• 21:45
  half
• 21:45
  of
• 21:45
  it
• 21:45
  is
• 21:45
  I
• 21:46
  go.
• 21:46
  through
• 21:47
  and
• 21:47
  I
• 21:47
  explain,
• 21:48
  obviously
• 21:48
  not
• 21:48
  in
• 21:49
  great,
• 21:50
  great
• 21:50
  detail
• 21:51
  because
• 21:51
  we
• 21:51
  want
• 21:51
  to
• 21:51
  make
• 21:51
  it
• 21:52
  digestible,
• 21:52
  but
• 21:53
  what
• 21:53
  is
• 21:53
  your
• 21:53
  nervous
• 21:54
  system,
• 21:54
  why
• 21:54
  it's
• 21:54
  important,
• 21:55
  some
• 21:55
  of
• 21:55
  the
• 21:55
  basics
• 21:56
  of
• 21:56
  how
• 21:56
  it
• 21:56
  functions.
• 21:57
  And
• 21:58
  then
• 21:58
  I
• 21:58
  have
• 21:58
  some
• 21:58
  guided
• 21:59
  questions
• 22:00
  that
• 22:00
  walk
• 22:00
  you
• 22:01
  through.
• 22:02
  Getting
• 22:02
  to
• 22:02
  know
• 22:02
  your
• 22:03
  own
• 22:03
  nervous
• 22:03
  system
• 22:04
  What
• 22:04
  does
• 22:05
  your
• 22:05
  nervous
• 22:05
  system
• 22:06
  feel
• 22:06
  like
• 22:07
  for
• 22:07
  you
• 22:07
  when
• 22:07
  it
• 22:08
  is
• 22:08
  hyper
• 22:08
  aroused
• 22:09
  when
• 22:09
  it's
• 22:09
  hyper
• 22:09
  aroused
• 22:10
  when
• 22:10
  it's
• 22:10
  in
• 22:11
  a
• 22:11
  safe
• 22:11
  state?
• 22:11
  And
• 22:11
  I
• 22:12
  explain
• 22:12
  what
• 22:13
  these
• 22:13
  states
• 22:13
  are
• 22:14
  um
• 22:15
  And
• 22:15
  then
• 22:16
  we
• 22:16
  do
• 22:16
  some
• 22:16
  exploration
• 22:17
  And
• 22:18
  then
• 22:19
  I
• 22:19
  move
• 22:19
  to
• 22:19
  the
• 22:19
  next
• 22:20
  section
• 22:20
  of
• 22:20
  okay.
• 22:21
  So
• 22:22
  how
• 22:22
  do
• 22:22
  you
• 22:23
  start
• 22:23
  to
• 22:23
  regulate?
• 22:24
  How
• 22:24
  do
• 22:25
  you
• 22:25
  start
• 22:25
  to?
• 22:26
  You
• 22:26
  know,
• 22:27
  feel
• 22:28
  safer
• 22:29
  in
• 22:29
  environments,
• 22:30
  do
• 22:30
  things
• 22:31
  to
• 22:31
  complete
• 22:32
  your
• 22:32
  stress
• 22:32
  cycle,
• 22:33
  do
• 22:33
  things
• 22:33
  to
• 22:34
  improve
• 22:35
  the
• 22:35
  health
• 22:35
  of
• 22:35
  your
• 22:35
  nervous
• 22:36
  system.
• 22:36
  We
• 22:36
  do
• 22:37
  some
• 22:37
  exercises
• 22:38
  for
• 22:38
  that.
• 22:38
  And
• 22:38
  then
• 22:38
  there's
• 22:38
  90
• 22:39
  pages
• 22:40
  where,
• 22:40
  they're
• 22:41
  daily
• 22:41
  pages
• 22:42
  for
• 22:42
  90
• 22:42
  days
• 22:43
  where
• 22:43
  you're
• 22:43
  able
• 22:43
  to
• 22:44
  track.
• 22:45
  Like
• 22:45
  what's
• 22:45
  going
• 22:46
  on?
• 22:46
  Am
• 22:46
  I,
• 22:46
  am
• 22:47
  I
• 22:48
  able
• 22:48
  to
• 22:49
  do
• 22:49
  some
• 22:49
  of
• 22:50
  these
• 22:50
  techniques?
• 22:50
  What
• 22:51
  are
• 22:51
  some
• 22:51
  of
• 22:51
  my
• 22:51
  thoughts?
• 22:52
  What
• 22:52
  are
• 22:52
  my
• 22:52
  feelings?
• 22:52
  What's
• 22:53
  going
• 22:53
  on
• 22:53
  this
• 22:53
  day?
• 22:54
  And
• 22:54
  then
• 22:54
  there's
• 22:54
  some
• 22:54
  reflection
• 22:55
  pages
• 22:55
  as
• 22:56
  well
• 22:56
  that
• 22:56
  we
• 22:57
  can
• 22:57
  look
• 22:57
  back
• 22:57
  on.
• 22:58
  What
• 22:58
  happens
• 22:59
  when
• 23:00
  I
• 23:00
  get
• 23:00
  dysregulated?
• 23:01
  Because
• 23:01
  sometimes
• 23:02
  we
• 23:02
  have
• 23:02
  these
• 23:02
  moments
• 23:03
  where
• 23:03
  we're
• 23:03
  like,
• 23:03
  Ooh,
• 23:04
  what
• 23:04
  was
• 23:04
  that
• 23:04
  about?
• 23:05
  Or
• 23:05
  we'll
• 23:05
  see
• 23:05
  other
• 23:05
  people
• 23:06
  have
• 23:06
  this.
• 23:06
  We'll
• 23:06
  see
• 23:07
  our
• 23:07
  kids
• 23:07
  have
• 23:07
  those
• 23:07
  moments.
• 23:08
  Like,
• 23:08
  Oh,
• 23:08
  I
• 23:08
  wonder
• 23:09
  what
• 23:09
  that
• 23:09
  was
• 23:09
  really
• 23:10
  about.
• 23:10
  I
• 23:10
  know
• 23:11
  they
• 23:11
  had
• 23:11
  this
• 23:11
  freak
• 23:11
  out
• 23:11
  with
• 23:12
  me.
• 23:12
  And
• 23:12
  so
• 23:13
  then
• 23:13
  it's
• 23:13
  a
• 23:13
  reflection.
• 23:14
  So
• 23:15
  I
• 23:15
  wanted
• 23:16
  a
• 23:16
  way
• 23:17
  to
• 23:17
  make
• 23:18
  it
• 23:18
  super
• 23:18
  accessible
• 23:20
  for
• 23:20
  as
• 23:20
  many
• 23:20
  people
• 23:20
  as
• 23:21
  possible
• 23:21
  because
• 23:22
  I,
• 23:23
  I
• 23:23
  mean,
• 23:23
  obviously
• 23:24
  we're
• 23:24
  both
• 23:24
  coaches,
• 23:25
  so
• 23:26
  you
• 23:26
  don't
• 23:26
  have
• 23:26
  to
• 23:26
  preach
• 23:27
  to
• 23:27
  us
• 23:27
  about
• 23:27
  the
• 23:27
  importance
• 23:28
  of
• 23:28
  coaching
• 23:28
  like
• 23:29
  there.
• 23:30
  To
• 23:30
  me,
• 23:30
  there's,
• 23:30
  there's
• 23:31
  nothing
• 23:31
  quite
• 23:32
  like
• 23:32
  that,
• 23:33
  but
• 23:34
  I
• 23:34
  know
• 23:34
  it's
• 23:35
  not
• 23:35
  necessarily
• 23:35
  accessible
• 23:36
  to
• 23:36
  everybody,
• 23:37
  or
• 23:37
  it's
• 23:37
  intimidating
• 23:38
  to
• 23:38
  people,
• 23:39
  um,
• 23:39
  Or
• 23:39
  they're
• 23:40
  not
• 23:40
  quite
• 23:40
  at
• 23:40
  the
• 23:40
  stage
• 23:41
  where
• 23:41
  they
• 23:41
  want
• 23:42
  the
• 23:42
  support
• 23:42
  and
• 23:42
  the
• 23:43
  journal
• 23:43
  is
• 23:43
  there
• 23:43
  to
• 23:44
  kind
• 23:44
  of
• 23:44
  bridge
• 23:44
  that,
• 23:45
  to
• 23:45
  introduce
• 23:45
  you.
• 23:45
  Here's
• 23:46
  some
• 23:46
  education,
• 23:47
  and
• 23:47
  then
• 23:48
  hopefully
• 23:49
  you'll
• 23:49
  just
• 23:49
  keep
• 23:49
  learning
• 23:50
  and
• 23:51
  you'll
• 23:51
  keep
• 23:51
  developing.
• 23:52
  Some
• 23:53
  people
• 23:53
  may
• 23:53
  decide,
• 23:54
  yes,
• 23:54
  I
• 23:54
  want
• 23:55
  to
• 23:55
  explore
• 23:56
  more.
• 23:56
  I
• 23:57
  love
• 23:57
  the
• 23:57
  support
• 23:58
  of
• 23:58
  people,
• 23:58
  a
• 23:58
  support
• 23:59
  of
• 23:59
  a
• 23:59
  network,
• 24:00
  um,
• 24:00
  a
• 24:00
  community
• 24:01
  that
• 24:01
  can
• 24:01
  help.
• 24:02
  And
• 24:02
  other
• 24:02
  people,
• 24:03
  they
• 24:04
  do
• 24:04
  their
• 24:04
  work
• 24:04
  on
• 24:04
  their
• 24:05
  own,
• 24:05
  and
• 24:05
  so
• 24:05
  this
• 24:06
  journal
• 24:06
  allows
• 24:07
  them
• 24:07
  to
• 24:07
  do
• 24:08
  that.
• 24:09
  Oh,
• 24:09
  that
• 24:09
  is
• 24:09
  so
• 24:09
  great.
• 24:10
  I
• 24:10
  love
• 24:10
  that.
• 24:11
  So,
• 24:11
  so
• 24:11
  tell
• 24:11
  me
• 24:11
  this.
• 24:11
  As
• 24:12
  far
• 24:12
  as
• 24:12
  the,
• 24:13
  the
• 24:13
  reflection
• 24:14
  goes,
• 24:15
  obviously
• 24:15
  you
• 24:16
  recommend
• 24:16
  doing
• 24:16
  this
• 24:17
  as
• 24:17
  often
• 24:17
  as
• 24:17
  possible.
• 24:18
  Do
• 24:18
  you
• 24:19
  think
• 24:19
  it
• 24:19
  is
• 24:20
  most
• 24:20
  useful?
• 24:21
  When
• 24:22
  we
• 24:22
  notice
• 24:22
  that
• 24:22
  we're
• 24:22
  dysregulated
• 24:23
  afterwards,
• 24:24
  both,
• 24:24
  like
• 24:25
  what
• 24:25
  is
• 24:25
  the
• 24:25
  best?
• 24:26
  Place
• 24:26
  to
• 24:27
  start
• 24:28
  journaling
• 24:28
  about
• 24:28
  what
• 24:28
  we're
• 24:28
  thinking
• 24:29
  and
• 24:29
  feeling
• 24:29
  went
• 24:30
  to
• 24:30
  help
• 24:30
  our
• 24:30
  system
• 24:30
  out.
• 24:32
  know,
• 24:32
  it
• 24:33
  really
• 24:33
  depends
• 24:34
  on
• 24:34
  individuals
• 24:35
  often
• 24:36
  the
• 24:36
  challenge
• 24:36
  of
• 24:37
  doing
• 24:37
  things
• 24:37
  when
• 24:37
  we're
• 24:37
  in
• 24:38
  a
• 24:38
  state
• 24:38
  of
• 24:38
  dysregulation
• 24:39
  It's
• 24:39
  kind
• 24:39
  of
• 24:39
  like
• 24:39
  doing
• 24:40
  things
• 24:40
  we're
• 24:40
  in
• 24:40
  crisis
• 24:41
  It's
• 24:42
  always
• 24:42
  harder
• 24:42
  to
• 24:42
  do
• 24:43
  because
• 24:43
  when
• 24:43
  you're
• 24:43
  in
• 24:43
  a
• 24:43
  state
• 24:43
  of
• 24:44
  dysregulation,
• 24:45
  then
• 24:45
  you're
• 24:45
  working
• 24:45
  without
• 24:45
  your
• 24:46
  CEO.
• 24:47
  So
• 24:47
  it's
• 24:47
  much
• 24:47
  better
• 24:48
  to
• 24:48
  be
• 24:48
  trying
• 24:49
  to
• 24:49
  learn
• 24:50
  and
• 24:50
  implement
• 24:51
  things
• 24:51
  when
• 24:51
  you
• 24:52
  can
• 24:52
  create
• 24:52
  a
• 24:52
  habit
• 24:52
  with
• 24:53
  a
• 24:53
  CEO,
• 24:54
  but
• 24:54
  it
• 24:54
  doesn't
• 24:54
  discount
• 24:55
  that
• 24:55
  when
• 24:55
  you're
• 24:56
  in
• 24:56
  crisis,
• 24:56
  you
• 24:56
  can
• 24:57
  do
• 24:57
  that
• 24:57
  as
• 24:57
  well.
• 24:58
  So
• 24:58
  that's
• 24:58
  why
• 24:58
  it's
• 24:59
  almost
• 24:59
  like
• 24:59
  a
• 24:59
  both,
• 25:00
  like
• 25:00
  what,
• 25:01
  what
• 25:01
  can
• 25:02
  you
• 25:02
  do?
• 25:03
  What
• 25:03
  do
• 25:03
  you
• 25:03
  have
• 25:03
  the
• 25:03
  capacity
• 25:04
  to
• 25:05
  do?
• 25:05
  And
• 25:05
  that's
• 25:05
  going
• 25:05
  to
• 25:05
  be
• 25:06
  different
• 25:06
  for
• 25:06
  each
• 25:07
  person.
• 25:08
  The
• 25:08
  whole
• 25:08
  goal
• 25:09
  of
• 25:09
  the
• 25:09
  nervous
• 25:09
  system
• 25:09
  is
• 25:10
  really
• 25:10
  to
• 25:10
  increase
• 25:11
  your
• 25:11
  capacity
• 25:12
  to
• 25:12
  handle
• 25:13
  the
• 25:13
  stressors
• 25:13
  in
• 25:13
  life.
• 25:14
  So
• 25:15
  what
• 25:15
  works
• 25:15
  for
• 25:15
  you?
• 25:16
  I
• 25:16
  don't
• 25:16
  want
• 25:16
  to
• 25:16
  ever
• 25:16
  say
• 25:17
  you
• 25:17
  have
• 25:17
  to
• 25:17
  do
• 25:17
  it
• 25:18
  this
• 25:18
  way
• 25:18
  because
• 25:19
  the
• 25:19
  nervous
• 25:19
  system
• 25:19
  does
• 25:19
  not
• 25:20
  like
• 25:20
  being
• 25:20
  told
• 25:21
  what
• 25:21
  to
• 25:21
  do.
• 25:21
  It
• 25:21
  wants
• 25:22
  to
• 25:22
  be
• 25:22
  invited.
• 25:23
  So
• 25:23
  that's
• 25:23
  it.
• 25:23
  I
• 25:23
  invite
• 25:24
  you
• 25:24
  to
• 25:24
  try
• 25:25
  it.
• 25:25
  Try
• 25:26
  it
• 25:26
  out.
• 25:26
  I,
• 25:27
  you
• 25:27
  know,
• 25:27
  we
• 25:27
  do
• 25:28
  know
• 25:28
  some
• 25:28
  things.
• 25:29
  I'm,
• 25:29
  I'm
• 25:29
  very
• 25:30
  sort
• 25:30
  of
• 25:30
  research
• 25:31
  driven.
• 25:31
  We
• 25:31
  know
• 25:32
  that
• 25:33
  we
• 25:33
  need
• 25:33
  lots
• 25:34
  of
• 25:34
  repetition.
• 25:34
  We
• 25:35
  need
• 25:35
  intensity.
• 25:36
  We
• 25:36
  need,
• 25:37
  to
• 25:37
  practice
• 25:38
  exactly
• 25:38
  what
• 25:39
  we're
• 25:39
  trying
• 25:39
  to
• 25:39
  improve
• 25:40
  for
• 25:40
  neuroplasticity.
• 25:41
  We
• 25:41
  know
• 25:41
  that.
• 25:42
  And
• 25:43
  we
• 25:43
  also
• 25:43
  know
• 25:44
  that
• 25:44
  the
• 25:44
  nervous
• 25:44
  system
• 25:45
  does
• 25:45
  not
• 25:45
  do
• 25:45
  well
• 25:46
  when
• 25:46
  forced
• 25:46
  or
• 25:47
  when
• 25:47
  it
• 25:47
  feels
• 25:47
  overwhelmed.
• 25:48
  So
• 25:48
  it's
• 25:49
  finding
• 25:49
  that
• 25:49
  balance.
• 25:51
  Yeah,
• 25:51
  I
• 25:51
  need
• 25:52
  to
• 25:52
  have
• 25:52
  enough
• 25:52
  consistency,
• 25:54
  but
• 25:54
  then
• 25:54
  inviting
• 25:55
  myself
• 25:56
  in,
• 25:56
  but
• 25:56
  what
• 25:56
  feels
• 25:57
  okay
• 25:57
  for
• 25:58
  me
• 25:58
  to
• 25:58
  do
• 25:59
  right
• 25:59
  now?
• 26:00
  Yeah.
• 26:00
  I
• 26:00
  love
• 26:00
  that.
• 26:01
  I
• 26:01
  love
• 26:01
  that.
• 26:02
  Push
• 26:02
  yourself
• 26:02
  a
• 26:02
  little
• 26:03
  bit.
• 26:03
  Maybe
• 26:03
  if
• 26:03
  there's
• 26:03
  something
• 26:03
  to
• 26:03
  be
• 26:03
  learned,
• 26:04
  but
• 26:04
  be
• 26:04
  gentle
• 26:05
  with
• 26:05
  yourself.
• 26:06
  Yeah.
• 26:06
  Yeah,
• 26:06
  yeah.
• 26:07
  So
• 26:07
  obviously
• 26:08
  this
• 26:08
  journal
• 26:08
  is
• 26:08
  for
• 26:08
  anyone
• 26:09
  who
• 26:09
  feels
• 26:09
  the
• 26:09
  need.
• 26:10
  How
• 26:10
  do
• 26:10
  you
• 26:10
  think,
• 26:11
  coaches
• 26:11
  could
• 26:11
  implement
• 26:12
  it
• 26:12
  in
• 26:12
  their
• 26:12
  own
• 26:12
  work,
• 26:13
  maybe
• 26:13
  as
• 26:13
  a
• 26:13
  suggestion
• 26:14
  to
• 26:14
  their
• 26:14
  clients?
• 26:14
  What
• 26:14
  do
• 26:14
  you
• 26:14
  think?
• 26:15
  Yeah,
• 26:16
  I
• 26:16
  think
• 26:16
  if
• 26:16
  you
• 26:17
  want
• 26:17
  to
• 26:18
  introduce
• 26:18
  nervous
• 26:19
  system
• 26:19
  work
• 26:19
  to
• 26:20
  your
• 26:20
  clients,
• 26:21
  then
• 26:21
  even,
• 26:22
  even
• 26:22
  if
• 26:22
  you're
• 26:22
  not
• 26:24
  feeling
• 26:25
  totally
• 26:25
  confident
• 26:26
  in
• 26:26
  it,
• 26:27
  the
• 26:27
  journal
• 26:28
  is
• 26:28
  a
• 26:28
  great
• 26:29
  resource
• 26:30
  for
• 26:30
  both
• 26:30
  of
• 26:30
  you.
• 26:30
  Mm-hmm
• 26:31
  Um,
• 26:31
  I
• 26:32
  look
• 26:32
  at
• 26:32
  it
• 26:32
  as
• 26:32
  something
• 26:33
  that
• 26:33
  you
• 26:33
  can
• 26:34
  do.
• 26:34
  With
• 26:35
  your
• 26:35
  clients
• 26:36
  you
• 26:37
  can
• 26:37
  encourage
• 26:37
  them
• 26:38
  to
• 26:38
  go
• 26:38
  do
• 26:39
  on
• 26:39
  their
• 26:39
  own
• 26:39
  as
• 26:40
  part
• 26:40
  of
• 26:40
  their
• 26:40
  homework
• 26:41
  And
• 26:41
  then
• 26:42
  come
• 26:42
  back
• 26:42
  and
• 26:42
  discuss
• 26:43
  it.
• 26:43
  It's
• 26:43
  a
• 26:44
  great
• 26:44
  opportunity
• 26:44
  I
• 26:45
  love
• 26:45
  when
• 26:45
  I
• 26:45
  use
• 26:45
  it
• 26:46
  with
• 26:46
  my
• 26:46
  clients
• 26:46
  and
• 26:47
  then
• 26:47
  they
• 26:47
  share
• 26:47
  with
• 26:47
  me
• 26:48
  what
• 26:48
  they
• 26:49
  Discovered
• 26:50
  because
• 26:50
  that
• 26:50
  allows
• 26:50
  me
• 26:51
  to
• 26:51
  get
• 26:51
  to
• 26:51
  know
• 26:51
  them
• 26:51
  too.
• 26:52
  So
• 26:52
  now
• 26:52
  we're
• 26:53
  both
• 26:53
  on
• 26:53
  the
• 26:53
  same
• 26:53
  page
• 26:54
  I
• 26:54
  know
• 26:54
  and
• 26:55
  I
• 26:55
  know
• 26:55
  how
• 26:55
  I
• 26:56
  can
• 26:56
  best
• 26:56
  support
• 26:57
  you
• 26:58
  So,
• 26:58
  I,
• 26:59
  I
• 26:59
  look
• 26:59
  at
• 26:59
  it
• 26:59
  as
• 27:00
  being
• 27:00
  a
• 27:00
  very,
• 27:01
  very
• 27:01
  supportive
• 27:02
  tool
• 27:02
  for
• 27:02
  all
• 27:03
  the
• 27:03
  work
• 27:03
  that,
• 27:04
  that
• 27:04
  you're
• 27:04
  doing.
• 27:05
  Yeah.
• 27:05
  What
• 27:05
  an
• 27:06
  incredible
• 27:06
  client
• 27:06
  gift
• 27:07
  it
• 27:07
  would
• 27:07
  be.
• 27:07
  Right?
• 27:07
  Hey,
• 27:07
  it's
• 27:08
  the
• 27:08
  start
• 27:08
  of
• 27:08
  our
• 27:08
  work.
• 27:08
  I'm
• 27:08
  going
• 27:08
  to
• 27:08
  send
• 27:09
  this
• 27:09
  to
• 27:09
  you.
• 27:09
  And
• 27:09
  then
• 27:10
  whenever
• 27:10
  you
• 27:10
  have
• 27:10
  something
• 27:11
  you
• 27:11
  want
• 27:11
  to
• 27:11
  share,
• 27:11
  yeah,
• 27:12
  to
• 27:12
  be
• 27:12
  able
• 27:12
  to
• 27:12
  get
• 27:13
  some
• 27:13
  of
• 27:13
  that
• 27:13
  inside
• 27:13
  view
• 27:14
  to
• 27:14
  what's
• 27:14
  really,
• 27:15
  difficult
• 27:15
  for
• 27:15
  them
• 27:16
  or
• 27:16
  what
• 27:16
  they're
• 27:16
  really
• 27:16
  working
• 27:17
  through
• 27:17
  behind
• 27:17
  the
• 27:17
  scenes.
• 27:17
  I
• 27:18
  love
• 27:18
  that.
• 27:18
  Yeah.
• 27:19
  Yeah.
• 27:19
  So
• 27:19
  great.
• 27:20
  Oh,
• 27:20
  Leah,
• 27:20
  you're
• 27:20
  so
• 27:21
  brilliant.
• 27:21
  Every
• 27:21
  time
• 27:21
  I
• 27:21
  talk
• 27:21
  to
• 27:22
  you,
• 27:22
  I'm
• 27:22
  like,
• 27:22
  wow,
• 27:22
  you
• 27:22
  know,
• 27:22
  so
• 27:22
  much
• 27:23
  cool
• 27:23
  stuff
• 27:23
  about
• 27:23
  the
• 27:24
  brain.
• 27:24
  I
• 27:24
  love
• 27:24
  it.
• 27:25
  I'm
• 27:25
  so
• 27:25
  excited.
• 27:25
  My
• 27:26
  dream
• 27:26
  really
• 27:27
  is
• 27:27
  to
• 27:27
  really
• 27:28
  build,
• 27:29
  I've
• 27:29
  got
• 27:29
  like
• 27:30
  three
• 27:30
  products
• 27:31
  right
• 27:31
  now
• 27:31
  that
• 27:31
  are
• 27:32
  following
• 27:32
  that
• 27:32
  are
• 27:32
  in
• 27:32
  the,
• 27:33
  I
• 27:33
  have
• 27:33
  one
• 27:33
  in
• 27:33
  sample
• 27:34
  phase
• 27:34
  and
• 27:34
  three
• 27:35
  more
• 27:35
  that
• 27:35
  are
• 27:35
  in
• 27:35
  creation
• 27:36
  phase.
• 27:37
  And
• 27:37
  my
• 27:37
  dream
• 27:38
  really
• 27:38
  is
• 27:38
  to
• 27:38
  build
• 27:39
  like
• 27:39
  a
• 27:39
  mental
• 27:40
  health
• 27:41
  stationary
• 27:42
  line
• 27:42
  that
• 27:43
  focuses
• 27:43
  on
• 27:43
  nervous
• 27:44
  system
• 27:44
  resilience
• 27:45
  so
• 27:45
  that
• 27:46
  people
• 27:46
  can
• 27:46
  have
• 27:47
  access.
• 27:48
  To
• 27:48
  it.
• 27:49
  They
• 27:50
  can
• 27:50
  use
• 27:50
  it
• 27:50
  with
• 27:51
  their
• 27:51
  clients.
• 27:52
  They
• 27:52
  can
• 27:52
  gift
• 27:52
  it
• 27:53
  to
• 27:53
  their
• 27:53
  kids
• 27:54
  They
• 27:54
  can
• 27:54
  use
• 27:54
  it
• 27:55
  so
• 27:55
  that
• 27:55
  we
• 27:55
  can
• 27:55
  become
• 27:56
  much
• 27:57
  more
• 27:57
  informed
• 27:58
  in
• 27:59
  Bite
• 27:59
  sized
• 28:00
  ways
• 28:00
  about
• 28:00
  a
• 28:01
  nervous
• 28:01
  system
• 28:01
  because
• 28:02
  if
• 28:02
  we
• 28:03
  all
• 28:04
  We're
• 28:05
  better
• 28:05
  friends
• 28:05
  with
• 28:05
  their
• 28:06
  nervous
• 28:06
  system.
• 28:07
  Everything
• 28:08
  would
• 28:08
  change
• 28:08
  in
• 28:08
  the
• 28:08
  world.
• 28:09
  Like
• 28:09
  literally
• 28:10
  all
• 28:10
  our
• 28:10
  relationships
• 28:11
  are
• 28:11
  impacted
• 28:12
  your
• 28:12
  relationship
• 28:13
  with
• 28:13
  yourself,
• 28:13
  your
• 28:14
  relationship
• 28:14
  with
• 28:14
  other
• 28:14
  people,
• 28:15
  your
• 28:15
  relationship
• 28:16
  with
• 28:16
  your
• 28:16
  purpose,
• 28:17
  with
• 28:17
  the
• 28:17
  higher
• 28:17
  power.
• 28:18
  It
• 28:18
  all
• 28:19
  changes
• 28:19
  when
• 28:19
  you
• 28:19
  understand
• 28:20
  your
• 28:20
  nervous
• 28:20
  system.
• 28:21
  Yeah,
• 28:22
  I've
• 28:22
  definitely
• 28:22
  noticed
• 28:23
  that
• 28:23
  myself.
• 28:23
  I,
• 28:23
  I
• 28:24
  thought,
• 28:24
  Oh,
• 28:24
  as
• 28:24
  I
• 28:24
  learned
• 28:25
  this,
• 28:25
  it's
• 28:25
  going
• 28:25
  to
• 28:25
  help
• 28:25
  me
• 28:26
  manage
• 28:26
  my
• 28:26
  own
• 28:27
  emotions
• 28:28
  and
• 28:28
  thoughts
• 28:28
  a
• 28:28
  little
• 28:28
  bit
• 28:28
  better.
• 28:29
  But
• 28:29
  what
• 28:29
  I've
• 28:29
  seen
• 28:29
  even
• 28:30
  more
• 28:30
  so
• 28:30
  is
• 28:30
  that
• 28:31
  family
• 28:31
  members,
• 28:32
  right?
• 28:32
  Especially
• 28:32
  children.
• 28:33
  I'm
• 28:33
  like,
• 28:33
  Oh,
• 28:34
  this
• 28:34
  means
• 28:34
  nothing,
• 28:34
  right?
• 28:35
  You
• 28:35
  don't
• 28:35
  take
• 28:35
  things
• 28:36
  personally.
• 28:36
  You
• 28:37
  understand
• 28:37
  what
• 28:37
  they're
• 28:37
  going
• 28:37
  through,
• 28:38
  at
• 28:38
  least
• 28:38
  to
• 28:38
  a
• 28:38
  certain
• 28:38
  degree.
• 28:39
  And
• 28:39
  it's
• 28:39
  been
• 28:40
  such
• 28:40
  a
• 28:40
  brilliant,
• 28:41
  tool
• 28:41
  to
• 28:41
  use
• 28:42
  in
• 28:42
  helping
• 28:42
  me
• 28:42
  be
• 28:43
  more
• 28:43
  compassionate.
• 28:44
  Yeah.
• 28:44
  Yeah.
• 28:45
  And
• 28:45
  I
• 28:45
  mean,
• 28:45
  you're
• 28:45
  still
• 28:46
  human,
• 28:46
  so
• 28:47
  you're
• 28:47
  still
• 28:47
  going
• 28:47
  to
• 28:47
  get
• 28:48
  dysregulated.
• 28:48
  You're
• 28:48
  still
• 28:49
  going
• 28:49
  to
• 28:49
  lose
• 28:49
  it.
• 28:49
  You're
• 28:49
  still
• 28:50
  going
• 28:50
  to
• 28:50
  do
• 28:50
  all
• 28:50
  those
• 28:50
  things,
• 28:51
  but
• 28:51
  we
• 28:51
  have
• 28:52
  like
• 28:52
  a
• 28:52
  little
• 28:52
  bit
• 28:52
  more
• 28:52
  grace
• 28:53
  and
• 28:53
  compassion
• 28:54
  for
• 28:54
  ourselves.
• 28:54
  Like
• 28:55
  this
• 28:55
  is,
• 28:55
  this
• 28:55
  is,
• 28:55
  Oh,
• 28:56
  okay.
• 28:56
  This
• 28:56
  is
• 28:57
  why
• 28:57
  it's
• 28:57
  happening.
• 28:58
  I'm
• 28:58
  not
• 28:58
  broken.
• 28:58
  I'm
• 28:59
  not
• 28:59
  bad.
• 28:59
  I'm
• 28:59
  not
• 29:00
  morally
• 29:00
  inferior.
• 29:01
  I'm
• 29:02
  not
• 29:02
  all
• 29:02
  those
• 29:02
  things.
• 29:03
  I'm
• 29:03
  human
• 29:04
  with
• 29:04
  a
• 29:04
  nervous
• 29:05
  system.
• 29:06
  And
• 29:06
  this
• 29:07
  is
• 29:07
  what
• 29:07
  my
• 29:07
  nervous
• 29:07
  system
• 29:08
  thinks
• 29:08
  I
• 29:08
  need
• 29:09
  right
• 29:09
  now
• 29:10
  to
• 29:10
  protect.
• 29:11
  And
• 29:11
  as
• 29:12
  we
• 29:12
  become
• 29:13
  more
• 29:13
  educated,
• 29:14
  befriend
• 29:14
  our
• 29:14
  nervous
• 29:15
  system,
• 29:15
  more
• 29:15
  resourced,
• 29:16
  we're
• 29:16
  able
• 29:17
  to
• 29:17
  say,
• 29:18
  I
• 29:18
  don't
• 29:18
  think
• 29:18
  I
• 29:18
  need
• 29:19
  to
• 29:19
  react
• 29:19
  that
• 29:19
  way
• 29:19
  anymore.
• 29:20
  I
• 29:21
  think
• 29:21
  I
• 29:21
  have
• 29:21
  other
• 29:22
  tools
• 29:22
  that
• 29:22
  I
• 29:23
  could
• 29:23
  use
• 29:24
  that
• 29:24
  would
• 29:24
  help
• 29:24
  me
• 29:25
  grow
• 29:25
  even
• 29:26
  more,
• 29:26
  or,
• 29:27
  you
• 29:27
  know,
• 29:27
  recreate,
• 29:28
  establish
• 29:28
  a
• 29:28
  stronger
• 29:29
  relationship
• 29:30
  with
• 29:30
  other
• 29:30
  people
• 29:30
  around
• 29:31
  me.
• 29:31
  Right.
• 29:32
  I
• 29:32
  think
• 29:32
  sometimes
• 29:32
  in
• 29:32
  self
• 29:33
  help,
• 29:33
  we
• 29:33
  forget
• 29:33
  that
• 29:34
  by
• 29:35
  when
• 29:35
  we
• 29:35
  try
• 29:36
  to
• 29:36
  push
• 29:36
  through
• 29:36
  what
• 29:36
  is
• 29:37
  and
• 29:37
  just
• 29:37
  fix
• 29:37
  it,
• 29:38
  then
• 29:38
  it
• 29:38
  causes
• 29:39
  some
• 29:39
  damage,
• 29:39
  right?
• 29:39
  By
• 29:40
  befriending
• 29:40
  our
• 29:40
  nervous
• 29:41
  system,
• 29:41
  we're
• 29:41
  understanding
• 29:41
  this
• 29:42
  is
• 29:42
  what
• 29:42
  is
• 29:42
  for
• 29:42
  a
• 29:42
  reason.
• 29:43
  Let's
• 29:43
  learn
• 29:43
  why.
• 29:44
  And
• 29:44
  then
• 29:44
  actually
• 29:45
  it
• 29:45
  ends
• 29:46
  up
• 29:46
  helping
• 29:46
  us
• 29:46
  be
• 29:47
  better
• 29:47
  in
• 29:47
  whatever
• 29:47
  way
• 29:48
  we're
• 29:48
  trying
• 29:48
  to
• 29:48
  improve
• 29:48
  our
• 29:48
  relationships
• 29:49
  or
• 29:49
  our
• 29:49
  own
• 29:49
  emotional
• 29:50
  control.
• 29:50
  I
• 29:50
  love
• 29:50
  that.
• 29:52
  Awesome.
• 29:53
  Well,
• 29:53
  thank
• 29:53
  you
• 29:53
  so
• 29:53
  much
• 29:53
  for
• 29:53
  coming,
• 29:54
  Leah.
• 29:54
  Do
• 29:54
  you
• 29:54
  want
• 29:54
  to
• 29:54
  tell
• 29:54
  people
• 29:55
  where
• 29:55
  they
• 29:55
  can
• 29:55
  find
• 29:55
  you?
• 29:56
  We'll
• 29:56
  include
• 29:56
  the
• 29:56
  link
• 29:56
  to
• 29:56
  your
• 29:57
  journal
• 29:57
  in
• 29:57
  the
• 29:57
  description,
• 29:58
  but
• 29:58
  let
• 29:58
  us
• 29:58
  know
• 29:58
  where
• 29:58
  we
• 29:58
  can
• 29:58
  find
• 29:59
  you
• 29:59
  online.
• 29:59
  Perfect.
• 30:00
  So
• 30:00
  I'm
• 30:00
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  Resilience,
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  I
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  Are
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