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The Motivated Mindset with Joey Aviles -From Invisible to Irreplaceable · Military Broadcast Radio | MBR Talk

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But I think that. Miente, welcome to the motivated
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mindset. I'm your host, Jose, Florida
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proud Latino, born in the Bronx, raised in Brooklyn, that New
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York flavor, that hustle, that grit, that never quit attitude
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and shake me and build me and still drive further.
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Look at your Argo. As we celebrate National
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Hispanic Heritage one September 15th through October 15th, I
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want to take a moment to honor the incredible contributions
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Latinos have made and continue to make in this great country.
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From our veterans, from our first responders, our
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entrepreneurs, almost said they say our educators, our artists,
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our leaders, everyday our heroes, our culture is built on
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resilience, family sacrifice, faith and the determination to
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create a better future. I'm proud to carry my legacy.
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I'm a 30 year combat veteran in the United States.
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Comment Oh wow, a motivated speaker, a certified Presatrena
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and a certified mediator. And let me tell you something
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end of life depth and someone who believes how great is
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mission is serving others. This park has exists because I
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know what struggle feels like. I know what it means to fall
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down, get up and redefine your life with purpose.
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Here on the motivated mindset, we talk about leadership.
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We talk about culture, resilience, faith, discipline,
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and the courage it takes to keep moving forward.
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And when life gets tough, we keep it real.
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Here's my people straight talk, Bronx humor, a little Spanglish
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flavor and 0 sugar coating. And you're going to laugh,
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you're going to reflect, you're going to get inspired, and maybe
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you might even shed a tear or. But one thing I promise will
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leave stronger. Than when you press that play
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button. Because this is, is isn't just
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about motivation, This is about transformation.
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One last thing before we, we start, right?
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to you. All right, let's get it
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straight. Let's get right into it.
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Let's talk about today's guest. Now, as we continue celebrating
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National Hispanic Heritage Months, I want to highlight
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something that means a lot to me.
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Our Latino community has always been about service, resilience,
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leadership and making an impact. And today's guest is a perfect
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example of that. Someone who has taken his
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culture. His experience and his passion
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for serving others and turned it into a mission to help people
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become better leaders. Today I have the honor of
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welcoming Joy Allavez to the motivating mindset.
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Joey is a proud son of Puerto Rico and his journey is a
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powerful reminder that leadership is not about a title.
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It's about purpose, connection and bringing out the best in
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others. Joey is a leadership architect
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me and they dedicated to helping leaders and organizations
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activate the human capabilities that drive culture, performance
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and meaningful impact. His belief is simple.
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We're powerful. That the future of leadership is
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not just about strategy and not just about technology.
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It's about clarity. It's about connection.
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It's about having a hit courage to make the right decisions
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while staying connected to the people you lead.
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Joey's leadership journey is incredible.
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He serves as a He served as a Deputy Director of the Elite
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Executive Leadership Program within the United States
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Department of Defense, where he prepared senior leaders to
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operate in uncertainty, conflict and complex global environments.
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He later served as Director of Recruitment and Retention at
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Department of the Interior Ayulando, helping strengthen the
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workforce system and developed across federal organizations.
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And Joey made the history as the first civilian chief of
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Diversity and Inclusion for the United States Coast Guard.
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Think about that full momento piensade.
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So not just a position, that's a responsibility.
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A responsibility to influence me and they people strength teams
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and create environments where everyone has the opportunity to
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succeed me. And that Joey is also the
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creator of the Alive Leadership Method, a framework built around
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awareness, belonging, well-being, productive conflict
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and elevation, helping leaders turn human potential.
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As a TEDx speaker, author of Choose to Live, a LinkedIn top
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voice, and recognized as an inclusion innovator by Schrem,
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his work has impacted leaders and organizations around the
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world, including Fortune 500 companies, government agencies,
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university and global institution.
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But beyond titles, the awards. And the what stands up for me
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is. Joey's commitment to people, we
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gente because the heart of leadership is not about
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position, it's about responsibility.
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It's about serving others. It's about leaving people who
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may hold better than you found them.
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Brother, we want to welcome you to The Motivating Mindset and
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I'm honored to have you here, especially during Hispanic
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Heritage Month. I'm excited for our audience to
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hear your story, your wisdom, your perspective on what it
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truly means to lead with purpose.
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So let's welcome him. The interview of the week is
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brought to you by Jersey Mike's. A sub above.
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Joey, Joey, my man. Welcome, my brother, Welcome.
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Welcome, hello, hello from the beautiful island of Puerto Rico,
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Jose and everybody watching us from across the world.
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It is such a pleasure and an honor to be in your presence.
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MI hermano. Happy to be here and I cannot
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wait to I have an insightful conversation that inspires
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everybody and I just love all the flavor.
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All the sass song is so Frito that you bring to this
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conversation, my friend. Thank you.
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Gracie, I know. Thank you.
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It's an honor having. It's just what that is so
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beautiful, that background. Oh my God, that is that is
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stupendous. It is real.
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So it is real. I am in a Guadilla, Puerto Rico.
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We have a beautiful Co working space here by friends of Puerto
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Rico and I always love to do my podcast appearances from this
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here. This is the third floor location
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and it's always good. So bringing you all warm and
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some love from the island of Puerto Rico.
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So Joey, let's start with who Joey is before he started with
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the working for the government and so on.
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What where you're from? Tell us about who.
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Joey is, you know, I'll say that question is so powerful because
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in every stage of life there are new nuances.
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And as I become wiser, I by now, probably in September, I turned
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40. OK, so I turned 40 and I before
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I am a speaker, an advisor, a consultant and author.
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I am a husband in love. I am a father of Teddy and
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Amelia. I am a man of faith and of
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course a proud Puerto Rican who who came to to build a life that
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feel feels as a meaningful as the work that I do so that that
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comes first. Now what is it that I do in a
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daily basis? I help leaders navigate the
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human messiness, living through it, not shine away from it, not
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running away from it, but leading through it.
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And we, we help highly capable leaders become undeniable in
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their contribution. Irreplaceable in their humanity
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and unshakable in the moments that has them the most.
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That's my focus. That's what I live for.
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And I cannot wait to to share more with you my.
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Friend, so we already have a question, Maria from New York
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says. When you think about your
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heritage, what part of it has shaped the leader you are today?
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You know, resilience is in the DNA of all Puerto Ricans.
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And when I think about our culture, when I think about the
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trials that we have had to face for decades, I'm not talking
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just this year or last year, but for decades and decades.
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Resilience comes at the top of what makes us US.
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And when I think about now that I'm living in Puerto Rico, I can
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attest of the challenges and trials that we have to face.
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So when you see a Puerto Rican or Hispanic, please know that
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they have to endure a series of challenges to make it to
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whatever they are. So resilience is what gives us
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that energy, that flavor, because if you make it, you have
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to go through a certain certain set of processes and challenges
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and barriers. So, So when I get to describe
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what shaped me, who I who I am today, certainly the trials and
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the barriers I have to face. And you know, Jose, there's so
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many because when I think about my career, when I think about
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how I started as an intern in Washington, DC, and then every
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promotion had a new set of challenges that required that
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resilience that I obtained growing up in the island.
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Wow, some Melanie from PR say WEPA, that's so true.
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Everything you just said and you're right on Melanie.
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And we have a question from Ida, NPR.
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She said Hola, this year's national theme for Hispanic
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Heritage Month is together we are more that speaks to unity.
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What moments in your life showed you the power of community?
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You know, when I I love that title.
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So Ida, thank you. Thank you so much for that.
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And I, I must go deeper here because when we say together, we
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are more, I want to know what more means and and I would love
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to create kind of a framework here in life with you all.
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And for me, more means kind of undeniable.
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And when I say undeniable, Jose, I'm not talking about being
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louder or being more impressive. What I mean is when we are
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undeniable, we are so clear in our contribution, in our
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judgment that our voice cannot be overlooked.
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So when we are more, we are undeniable.
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But that's not all. I want everybody on this call,
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whether you are retired or you are an intern or you are growing
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in your career, yes, embrace that undeniably.
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But then also I want you to think about becoming
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irreplaceable. And I know that in our culture,
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we are, we have been taught, Joey, we are all irreplaceable.
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And I understand that we know that we all can be replaced.
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That's the reality of Business Today.
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Like I said, think about all the filings that we are seeing.
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But I'm talking about that we can become irreplaceable because
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our trust, our discernment, our courage, our present, and the
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way we elevate each other cannot be automated, cannot be easily
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replicated. So when I say being more means
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being irreplaceable is I want that your trust that your
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discernment, that your courage, that your present that the way
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that you build each other cannot be automated or easily replaced
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by that matter by AI or by anybody else.
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And I have 1/3 descriptor say, if I may, you know, be more
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means being undeniable, being irreplaceable.
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But then I also, I believe we need to add a third leg and that
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is unshakable. I'm not talking about living
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emotions outside of the conversation or to show up
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unaffected. I'm talking about blinded,
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grounded enough to remain clear, present and useful when
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uncertainty, conflict, pressure and that human messiness, yes,
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enters the room. And I believe that is what the
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new leadership is calling for. All of us, you know, we must be
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unshakable, irreplaceable and undeniable in the face of all
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the trials that we are in doing right now.
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That is, that is absolutely correct.
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I can relate to that, you know, being indispensable.
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Yes. We have a question from Larry
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from Minnesota and he says has someone proudly rooted in Puerto
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Rico who has influenced leadership nationally.
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For you, how has your culture heritage shaped the way you lead
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and connect with people? You know, culture is at the
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center of everything that we do, of everything that we do and
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love, faith, family, friendships are at the center of every
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relationship, every style, every approach.
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So when I think about culture and how it has helped me and
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propelled me throughout my career, those three come at the
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center. Family, friends, faith.
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Those three things are powerful. And I'm sure if we ask our
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audience, what else would you add?
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People will keep adding things and flavors and other things.
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But but I want to go back, Josef, you know, when I travel
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for the first time from Puerto Rico to Washington, DC for an
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internship program, you know, at the time it was 2007, the
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Hispanic Association of Colleges and Universities, Taco, they had
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a super famous internship program, highly competitive.
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I believe they're still around into 2026, which kudos to them.
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And you know, I got accepted to that internship program.
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Jose and I traveled there was just one little challenge was
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not fluent in English. I understood English.
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I was a 4.0 student, highly competitive and all of that.
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But then at the at the end of the day, you know, practicing
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and understanding all the accents and all the flavors was
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hard and was hard. So you, you got to practice.
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So I'll never forget I get to go to a fast food restaurant for
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the first time in Washington, DC.
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And Jose, I practiced the not before because I wanted to get
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my order right. So I practiced in my mind, in my
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mind. So the day had had arrived.
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I walked in so proud, smiling and exciting and kind of a
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little bit loud, you know, and I said, may I have some chicken
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Nuggets? That's what I said and I said it
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perfectly. I said.
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And I was mad with the following reaction.
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Oh, you have such a healthy accent now.
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If you all know my brain at the time, it was literal.
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So I heard the word heavy. I thought she called me fat.
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And I said listen, listen to me. Whatever you hear, don't call it
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fat. And you know what?
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I don't have an accent. I don't know what you're talking
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about. Listen, that was the first time
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that someone told me and I had an accent and you know, with all
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the curiosity, I had to go and record myself because I was
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thinking like, do I have an accent?
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And good Lord, had an accent and it was a strong one.
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Some people call it heavy, other people call it sexy.
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So I will go with sexy any time of the day.
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But but when I think about culture, I think about the
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chicken Nuggets moment, because when we walk to every room, we
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bring our ancestors, we bring our Rs and no, those Rs and that
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flavor ain't heavy baby is the flavor that we bring to the
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world. And, and so I want everybody to
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keep in mind that your culture is not something that you leave
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behind. Your culture goes with you, and
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rather that something heavy that slows you down, that makes it
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harder. Now I see culture as an
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accelerator if we embrace it enough.
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Yes, no, absolutely. I, I, I can relate to that.
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Before I go to the next question, I want to ask you,
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Joey, Talk to me about your faith, how important that is in
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your life. That's so important because I'm
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a Christian too. Can you just listen about your
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faith? You know, Jose, faith is
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everything to me. When I think about their hardest
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moments of my life, they're happier, happiest moments of my
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life. Faith, God.
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And that relationship with our Creator comes at the center of
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it all. And you know, I'll never forget
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when I call my mom during that first internship that I was just
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making a joke about, and it was so hard.
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At some point I'll say that my mom asked me mijo como como tu
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estas, how are you doing? You know, my mom was concerned
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her her baby was out of home for the first time.
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And when she asked me that, I had to say Mommy, Joe, me
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ciento, invisibly, I felt invisible because people could
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not understand me. I could not communicate freely
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or openly. It was hard.
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It was hard to just being. And I will never forget what she
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told me. She said you can do all things
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through Christ. That was #1 And then she said,
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be strong and be courageous. So at the center of every trial,
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of every success, faith has been the driver.
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And I'm so glad that we are talking about faith in these
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spaces. Because just as culture should
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not be left behind, faith neither.
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Because as we walk into every room, each one of us has a
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unique calling, a unique purpose that should not be divided or be
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taken away, rather should be placed in the equation.
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So Jose, faith and the relationship with my Creator is
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one of the reasons, and I'll say the biggest reason I'm here
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today with you. Absolutely no.
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Thank you for sharing that. And we had a remark from Joe
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said we bring us a song and sofrito in our accent.
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Be proud, be proud. Absolutely.
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Yes, 100%. We we got to be proud of what we
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bring to the table and at the same time we bring all our
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talents, our purpose, our brilliance, the way we solve
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problems, our creativity to the workplaces and communities where
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we live and serve. So as we as we shift, I want to
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talk about you created the alive leadership method.
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What does that being como Sisi, being fully alive actually mean
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for leaders? What does that mean?
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You know, Jose was 2017. Every Puerto Rican out there and
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every Latino, you know, I have asked this question across
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audiences. And when I asked about 2017 and
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Hurricane Maria, everybody nods their heads saying, yes, I
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remember because, you know, everybody knew about that.
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You know, at the time, I was living in Washington, DC, and I
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was about to live in one of my biggest roles that I had in the
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federal government. And it was September 2017.
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And if you know about relationships of Hispanic moms
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with their kids, you know, I don't want to generalize, but
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but it's quite normal. You know, our moms, if we still
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have them with us, they will call us every day, they will
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text us. And if we don't answer, we get
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in trouble. It doesn't matter if I'm 304050,
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if I don't answer Mama I will get in trouble.
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So my mom and I, we communicated in a daily basis and asked
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Hurricane Maria hit. Which if we all recall, it
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happened so quick like it felt overnight.
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It became a category 45 year game.
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And as it passed through Jose, I didn't hear from my mother for
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over 12 days. And the images that we saw on
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the news were pure destruction. So I didn't know if my mom was
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one of the over 4000 people that died before, during or after and
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after Hurricane Maria. So when I heard back finally
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after 12 days, I learned that she lost absolutely everything
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in the process. You see her, her roof was made
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of sink and wood and but it had endured several hurricanes in
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the past, but not Hurricane Maria.
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And she took a part of the roof and water came in.
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So she lost absolutely everything in the process.
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I got the chance to travel back to the island three months
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after, and it was Christmas season.
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And you all know that Puerto Rico has the longest Christmas
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season in the world, I think only I think it's behind the
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Philippines. I think they celebrate even
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longer than us. I don't know.
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I heard that about that. But you know, it was the longest
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Christmas season. And I arrived there and I could
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sense the destruction. I knew as soon as I arrived to
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the island that it was not the same, that my people had to go
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through something truly horrible.
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So when I arrived home close to midnight, I was expecting nobody
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to welcome me, maybe my mom to give me a hug and wish me
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goodnight. But instead of say, over 20
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family members had flashlights. And when I opened the door of my
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car rental in the middle of the night, all of the sudden that
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commotion, it was like a party, like hello, we got the power
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back. And in my mind as that scene is
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unfolding in front of me, I couldn't help but ask myself how
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in the world people that lost absolutely everything that don't
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have running water, no electricity, food is cars
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getting gas require requires making 12 hour lines just to get
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gas for your car. I, I couldn't comprehend how in
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the world they were so happy, how in the world they were so
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alive. And in every scene and moment, I
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keep hearing estamos bebos, estamos bebos, we are alive.
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And as I saw that moment unfold in front of me, I said to
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myself, if more people can show up so alive, so joyful in the
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middle of literal destruction, why people in corporate America,
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people in government, people in our communities cannot show up
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in the same way? So as I am sitting in the
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airplane returning home in Washington, DCI am crafting a
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leadership framework that I call the Alive Method.
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And it has been tested across industries, across decades,
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really in the in the making. So Alive is literally a journey
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that every leader can take to fully show up alive to lead,
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lead and love as they go through their careers, through their
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lives. And those are 5 moves, five
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steps that every leader needs to take to show up fully alive in
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the workplace and in the communities they serve.
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That is stupendous. And you know, when we talk about
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organizations, how can organizations, somebody out
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there who's listening, how can they use that method to increase
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productivity, be better for the employees, etcetera, how would
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they use it? Yeah.
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So everything starts with awareness.
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How do we accelerate awareness? How do we bring our
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consciousness to the next level? And we have an exercise also
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that we call the Conscious Leadership model, where I walk
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the audience through a process of identifying their victories,
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their successes, but also their valleys, those failures, those
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trials, those moments of despair.
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Because in those victories and valleys, there is the evidence
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of what we have endured, the evidence of what we are made.
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And that level of consciousness is required to advance in our
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leadership journey also. I don't know if you know this,
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but when we are in a team where one of the members is not self
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aware, performance decreases by around 50%.
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Now let that let that number sink for a minute.
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And we all have been in spaces where we have a team member that
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have no clue how they're perceived and how their words
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and behaviors impact people. And by the way, Tasha Doctor,
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Tasha Urich, which is an expert in self-awareness, have
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spectacular research on this subject and she discovered that
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only around 10 to 15% of people are actually self aware now, 10
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to 15% of people. And if you are in a leadership
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position, that percentages percentage goes down below 10%.
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So we start with self-awareness and the goal of the leadership
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framework is to accelerate your awareness.
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So we start there. So we get to know self, we get
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to know where we come from, and most importantly, where we are
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right now. And we clearly define where is
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it that we're going in the future.
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Now, that sounds like a lot because it's the first step and
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it's a critical first step, but we don't stop there.
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After we accelerate awareness, then we shift to leverage
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belonging. And leverage, belonging is all
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about human connection. Human connection is what moves
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us, is what drives us. So we teach people how to
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meaningfully connect with each other through the power of
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stories, through the power of communication, through the power
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of fully showing up how we are not hiding parts of us, not
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shine away of our culture. So we have a system that helps
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people embrace the belonging, belonging to self, belonging to
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others, and most importantly, belonging to something larger
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than ourselves. So it's a trifecta that we call
32:41
the, the, the belonging and transcendence is how do we get
32:45
to the next level? And I'll say that's just step #2
32:49
I'm just going to mention the other three because literally
32:53
that that's what we cover in the book.
32:56
Beautiful piece of art here. And the third step is
33:01
integrating well-being. That's all about capacity,
33:06
capacity building. How do we make sure that we're
33:10
taking care of ourselves and that we don't burn out and stop
33:14
earlier when we need, when we have so long to go.
33:18
So that well-being, radical well-being is incredible in the
33:24
book. And then the 4th step is
33:26
conflict. How do we value conflict?
33:29
Some people shy away from conflict.
33:32
So I'm saying, listen, conflict is valuable and if we embrace
33:37
it, we can make it productive. So we have a whole framework on
33:41
how to truly don't be conflict averse, but head on with the
33:48
conflict. And then the last step is
33:50
elevating each other. And that's all about
33:53
contribution. How do we contribute to our
33:57
people and our peers? And that journey, which is five
34:03
different steps, 5 different moves, is what allows people to
34:10
intentionally choose to live every single day.
34:15
Yeah, what? You beat me to the punch, Joey,
34:17
because we're about to segue to the book, the book that you got.
34:22
I want you to talk about your book, the idea and and later on
34:25
we're going to show how people can order it.
34:26
But please talk about your book. What what was the inspiration?
34:29
How you got there that leaders and who else can use that book?
34:34
You know this book, I said to myself, if I get to do just one
34:40
thing, what is it that you will do?
34:42
And we put so much love into into the book and it's 15
34:49
chapters, 5 sections that I promise you, promise you will
34:56
not leave you the same. This book, more than a book with
35:01
stories and experiences and recommendations, is a workbook.
35:06
It's a company book that you will get the chance to write, to
35:11
answer questions to, to really go deep, full color.
35:16
And it's a workbook that one executive the other day reach
35:20
out to me out of nowhere and said, Joey, I keep going back to
35:26
this part of the book where you had these 20 questions about
35:32
designing the life that you want.
35:35
And I went back to my answers and I reread them and I reread
35:41
them again because it was so impactful.
35:45
And then she said, and you keep challenging me in every step of
35:49
the way. And by the way, this leader is
35:51
not a Latina. This leader is from another
35:54
community. So the book can impact across
35:58
cultures. You know, Jose, I'm happy to say
36:01
that we got books sent to India, to Germany, to United Kingdom,
36:07
to China, Brazil, Costa Rica, Colombia, Venezuela, Mexico, all
36:14
over United States and of course Puerto Rico.
36:17
So this is a company book that you carry with yourself and that
36:23
you used to go deeper and get to know yourself better so you can
36:29
choose to live. Not just not just not just
36:33
living. I'm talking about thriving in
36:36
your relationships, in your workplace, in your life.
36:41
So that's the whole purpose of this is giving people a road map
36:46
they can take to choose to live, live and love every single day.
36:52
So Joy, already I'm waiting on my I already ordered it.
36:55
Just so you know, you must be backed up because I know the one
36:57
that I ordered is the one you autograph.
37:00
Yes, yes, we love doing that. Jose and I, I, I get so excited
37:07
because I, I get to sign it and then include a few goodies in
37:11
the bag because you know, when I, when people get this, I want
37:17
them to literally just by looking at the colors, which
37:21
look at the, the ocean in the background.
37:24
It just mimics the color in, in the book.
37:26
I want people to feel peace and energy.
37:30
That's what we what it's a combination of those two is the
37:34
peace of knowing that we will be OK and the energy of embracing
37:41
the power that God has given us to pursue Our Calling.
37:46
Yes, absolutely. And we have a question from Yven
37:50
that says, what legacy do you hope your work leaves for future
37:55
leaders? You know, I am in the process of
38:00
finalizing A keynote presentation for a lead
38:05
conference in in North Carolina and the topic is legacy
38:12
leadership. And when I think about my
38:16
babies, Teddy and Amelia, I want to transport myself to when I'm
38:26
8090 or maybe 100 or maybe 120, I don't know.
38:32
But I want to transport myself into the future.
38:38
I want to go to my last moments. I won that.
38:49
My life is a testament of the following.
38:54
I want my actions, my content, my interactions, my
39:01
relationships to say be strong and courageous, be strong and
39:10
courageous, be strong and courageous and choose to leave,
39:19
choose to lead and choose to love.
39:24
That's the legacy that I want to stay behind when I'm no longer
39:30
here. Yeah, no, that, that is really,
39:33
I mean, that is beautiful, Joey. I love that that, that that is
39:37
something that, you know, all of us strive for, you know, as
39:41
parents, you know, which brings me to what you just talked
39:45
about. What does it feel like being a
39:48
father now having children? I want to hear, if you don't
39:50
mind you, if you can share that with with us, please.
39:54
Oh my God, let me tell you. I'll say it's like so many
39:59
emotions at the same time. 11 moment, I feel a lot of love.
40:05
In the other moment, I feel a lot of despair.
40:09
And then, you know, in the other second I'm so exhausted that I
40:14
cannot even feel anymore. So I feel all the emotions at
40:22
the same time. But but let me tell you, my baby
40:25
boy, we all the three of us. We have birthdays within the
40:30
same week. So I was born on September 25th,
40:34
my Amelia on the 28th and my Teddy on the 29th.
40:38
So we are basically grouped and see them become a little bit
40:44
older Jose. Like this morning, I was
40:48
watching my boy, my baby boy, and I looked at him and I said,
40:53
Oh my gosh, you're so grown up. And what they have taught me in
41:01
this season is to be present when I'm with them, To be so
41:09
present that I can savor every moment, every second of their
41:16
little words of their playing games, of Dada, please sit down
41:22
with me, Let's play with this car or Dada hug me or Dada, stay
41:27
with me. You know?
41:29
Those moments I know will pass, but I want to savor them.
41:35
And that's my current stage. This parenthood thing has
41:40
changed me in ways that I never imagined.
41:44
But the number one thing is, bro, it's no longer about you,
41:51
it's about that. And that has expanded the way I
41:57
show up for my clients, the way I show up for my people.
42:01
This is not about me. This is about you all.
42:05
So I will work to give you the tools, the push, the energy, the
42:11
excitement, the activation that we all need from time to time.
42:16
That is stupendous and event has said Amen to the stuff you said
42:20
before and this right that that is so, so go through.
42:23
So as we wind down, one of the things I want to do is go to how
42:26
people can contact you and so on and anything else is and then
42:31
I'll give you some more time for anything, but I really want to
42:33
cover this and I will give it up to you.
42:35
So there you go. Yes, those are, we have two
42:39
places. Joey aviles.com is kind of the
42:42
center of of our social media. So you can find our phone number
42:48
202-855-4727. There is also a link that you
42:54
can use to schedule some time to meet and greet up with us.
42:59
And then if you want to get the book, we are exclusively selling
43:04
our book in our Shopify store, choose to liveshop.com And if
43:11
you buy it there, which by the way is the only way you can buy
43:14
unless you are in Puerto Rico, we are in the stores here in
43:18
Puerto Rico. But if you buy it there, you
43:21
will get a signed copy that I personally send to to you all.
43:28
So choose to leave chop.com and Joey aviles.com, which has a
43:33
connection to all our social media presence.
43:40
Yes, and I love those pages. We have put so much love into
43:44
those pages because that's the link that I'm talking about.
43:48
But here we created an exclusive site for all program event
43:54
leaders. You know, if you're planning
43:55
your conference, your Hispanic Heritage Month event, your
44:00
leadership development event, we have a process that we follow
44:05
that we call the the 3DS, the design, deliver and debrief.
44:11
So we move through those 3 stages in creating experiences
44:17
that are unforgettable. That's what we do.
44:20
And you know, this part of the year is nonstop, Jose.
44:24
You know, I'm traveling all over the place, from Houston to North
44:29
Carolina to San Diego to many other places.
44:33
So stay in contact because I want you to be inspired.
44:38
Absolutely, absolutely. And I think you talked about
44:40
this earlier that this model I see in.
44:43
Front of you? Yes, that's the Alive model
44:48
framework as the five sees, the five moves, the five
44:53
capabilities every leader must embrace to be, to not be
44:58
replaced by AI. That's what I'm focused here.
45:01
I want my leaders to focus on the things that AI cannot
45:06
replace, the things that we can do.
45:09
And those are consciousness, connection, capacity, conflict
45:14
and contribution. So those five and each one of
45:18
those sees is connected to the live method which is laid out in
45:24
the book. Yes, yes.
45:27
And I thought I'd show this a little bit.
45:29
You can explain to the audience what we have in front of us when
45:31
they go on your website. Oh yes, and you know what?
45:35
One of the, the, the, this is beautiful because I get the
45:40
opportunity to kind of have a conversation with my younger
45:44
self here and in the, in, in the, the website.
45:49
I want to talk about my, about some people just talk about what
45:53
they have accomplished in life. And I want people to know where
45:57
I'm coming from. What, what you know, in the
46:00
first picture there is my grandmother Ignacia and my
46:06
grandfather Cobito, you know, and my my parents, my mom and
46:11
dad and, and me growing up. And I want people to get the
46:17
whole picture. You know, I part of my story,
46:21
Jose, is that I spent 20 plus years being morbidly obese and
46:30
the trials of all of that. I do not hide that part of my
46:35
life. I live with it.
46:37
And you can see all the pictures, all the leadership
46:41
moments that I have had that made me who I am from my
46:47
wedding. I need to update that side
46:49
because I need to add Amelia and Teddy.
46:52
That's see. The story continues.
46:54
The story continues. But but that's, you know, each
46:58
one of those pictures represent the DNA of who Joey is.
47:05
And when people organizations hire me to inspire their people,
47:10
this is what they get. Not just one part of me, but the
47:15
ecosystem of what made Joey, Joey.
47:19
Enjoy. When I saw this picture, I felt
47:21
my heart because I saw my roots, I saw my family, I saw me Latino
47:28
or any, you know, whatever it is.
47:29
When you see things like that, it's about community, family and
47:33
Nuka never forgetting where we came from.
47:35
That's what I and I appreciate you putting this up here.
47:38
Means meant a lot when I saw that.
47:41
Absolutely. You know, you can see a widow,
47:43
Ayina Paranda. There is a picture there, the
47:47
one right at the top where I'm a baby, literally a baby.
47:50
You're thinking weirdo. You know, Tito Cando and La
47:53
Paranda and Mami madise 2 tenias about the Chiquito puando.
48:00
You didn't shy away in one corner, you were in the middle
48:03
playing the instrument. So you know, and I know that's
48:07
the reality for many of us Puerto Ricans and when we get
48:10
together with the family. So that is exactly what I wanted
48:14
to to provoke Jose, those memories and that nostalgia.
48:20
I I love this, especially for Hispanic heritage.
48:22
One seeing all this, it reminds me of so much.
48:25
And even when I wasn't in Portland, I living in New York,
48:27
My my dad used to bring, you know, all these instruments and
48:31
everything. It was like, Oh my God, it was
48:33
amazing. Obango Yeah, you know, so it
48:36
was, it was beautiful. So thank you for sharing that.
48:39
And this is this. And this is how they can get in
48:42
contact with you, Joey. I love I love this this this
48:46
page. Jose, thank you so much.
48:49
That's the calendly You can book sometime with me.
48:52
The website they choose to leave chop and LinkedIn, which is my
48:57
most active social media channel.
49:01
So and Jose, by the way, you know in the website you all can
49:05
follow. We're putting master classes
49:09
together. There is a show coming up very
49:12
soon to and a newsletter, so make sure to visit
49:17
joeyaviles.com so you can get access to all those cool things.
49:23
And Joey in an audience I went to the website to choose to live
49:27
the easy to follow great information and make sure that
49:30
you know, look at the cups. Matter of fact, I did order a
49:33
cup, one of the cups you got. You know I got to get an.
49:35
Updated one here, but yeah, go on.
49:39
I'm gonna leave this up for a little bit, but you can always
49:41
have access to it. I just do it, you know?
49:44
And for those, just put your phone on there.
49:46
A yellow line will come up, click it and it will take you to
49:49
that site. It is so user friendly.
49:51
Joey, this is your website. Your social media is stupendous.
49:55
Let me put it to you. Thank you.
49:59
You know, bro, that's what we're here for.
50:02
And Jose from New York City says Boricua.
50:04
Celebrate everything, yeah. That's true.
50:08
I mean celebration we got to celebrate, man.
50:11
I'm telling you, celebration is is is everything.
50:15
It just makes me happy and we celebrate all things all things
50:19
is a good to choose to commit Baccalaito see so cute.
50:23
Just have fun with the family. Absolutely.
50:28
So, and we'll come right back to, but we have another question
50:31
that says if you could have a conversation with your younger
50:34
self, what would you tell him? This is from Yvette.
50:41
Let's do this live here with all of us and let's take that
50:46
question, say and all of us, I'm going to drive this exercise.
50:53
I want you to sit. We are I'm standing, but
50:56
probably everybody else is sitting.
50:59
Sit there and just think for a minute and go and travel to your
51:06
teenage years. And I want to go to my 15 year
51:14
old version. I have so many dreams, so many
51:21
fears, so many opportunities, and I will tell my younger self
51:33
to ignore the people that told me you're too much, you're too
51:43
much. Ignore that because that
51:48
mushness. I think I just create a word
51:52
there that that it totally is OK.
51:57
Some people categorize as too much baby is enough, enough for
52:05
the challenges that you will face, for the positions and the
52:11
places that you have to hold yourself.
52:15
So no, you're not too much. You are enough.
52:22
And that is the top message that I will say to my younger self.
52:28
And by the way, this version of today, tomorrow will be my
52:33
younger self. So I'm telling, I'm telling
52:35
myself this today. Listen to me.
52:38
You are enough. And that enoughness is what the
52:45
world needs. So do not let the naysayers, the
52:52
bullies, the people that don't get you, hold you or cage you.
53:01
Ain't nobody got time for that. Show up, show up, That's the
53:06
thing. Show up.
53:07
That's my message here. See Jose, you have me yelling
53:11
here in. In Hey, we need to let everybody
53:15
know no, no, Gracia. And and as we get ready to
53:18
close, I want to I want to ask you a question if, if you can
53:22
leave, come on, say everybody listening right now with one
53:26
mindset they should adopt tomorrow morning.
53:29
What would it be and why? Liz from Brooklyn we need.
53:34
More people to pay Jose. Right now our world, it's on
53:41
fire from the meet, from from from the Middle East to South
53:47
America to North America, the world is on fire.
53:53
So I want people to care. And when I say care, I'm not
53:58
saying jump on social media and post a little post or jump on
54:04
social media and be aware of all the news or all everything that
54:08
is happening. I'm not saying that actually a
54:12
little bit of the opposite. Caring is about the people that
54:17
is around us. And I want you to care.
54:21
I want you to connect, I want you to acknowledge, I want you
54:25
to relate and I want you to expand.
54:28
And that's what care stands for. And it starts with meaningful,
54:35
authentic connection. And if we all, Jose, connect
54:40
with each other meaningfully and embrace the pain and the trials
54:46
and the struggles and understand when we care, we can give.
54:50
When we care we can change. When we care, we can expand.
54:55
I'll tell you the world will be a better place if we care first.
55:02
Absolutely. Oh my goodness, Joey.
55:06
You know what, Imano? Joey, thank you.
55:10
Thank you so much for sharing not just your knowledge, but to
55:13
corazon your heart today, Imano. It means so much to me because
55:17
what I'm what I'm what I'm taking away that leadership
55:20
isn't so much about having all the answers, right?
55:23
It's about inspiring others to become the best version of
55:27
themselves. So you know, just listening to
55:30
you reading your story in my mind, just that purpose service
55:33
you come and say, say in faith, in transform, not only
55:37
organization peridas lives. Bro, I just grasped Mano Gracia.
55:42
Jose, I will be reminisce if I don't thank you my brother.
55:48
I'm going to say this every post that you have, every exercise
55:54
routine like you will wear Peloton.
55:56
We love it. We jump in brother, your energy,
56:01
your love, your wisdom, your know how is so needed.
56:07
Thank you for the service, thank you for your spirit, thank you
56:13
for your words and for creating spaces like this.
56:18
Jose Tuare MI hermano Y de Bendigo Y Gracias for this
56:22
space. Thank you.
56:23
And I could not do it without mentioning.
56:25
Of course, you know, Ivan was. Yes.
56:29
During crime, and I want to say that and.
56:32
We love you. We are.
56:34
She is a blessing to me. So I want to send out.
56:37
Yeah, Latina, Puerto Rico, you know, but.
56:39
Yes. So.
56:40
And love the whole team. It's a team, it's a teamwork
56:44
because teamwork makes the dream work, you know?
56:47
So I want everybody to have a great weekend and, and, and you
56:51
too, Joey. And to your family, Queziote
56:53
Bendiga, God bless you and just thank you, brother.
56:57
Good. Gracias.
56:59
Ladies and gentlemen, thank you very much for being here.
57:01
I appreciate it. Get out that Joey, you're
57:03
getting it from everybody. So enjoy gracias mucho amoro.
57:09
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