How to Use Your Triggers to Reduce Your Suffering

Heal Your Relationships · Apr 30, 2026 · 29m

As a physician, you’re trained to stay calm under pressure…

and yet, sometimes it’s the smallest moments in your personal life that feel the hardest.

Maybe you’ve had moments like this:

Something small happens…

a comment, a tone, a look...

and suddenly you feel it.

That surge.

The reaction comes fast.

Almost automatic.

Maybe you snap.

Maybe you shut down.

Maybe you distract yourself and move on.

But underneath it all…

there’s this quiet thought:

Why does this affect me so much?

For a long time, I thought the goal was simple:

Stop getting triggered.

Be calmer.

More in control.

Less reactive…