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Dear Banya: Big Bold Bright · Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley & Tanya Rad

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  Speaker 1: Scrubbing in with Bell and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio podcast.
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  Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in.
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  Speaker 3: Scrub a dub.
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  Speaker 4: A dub a dub dub dumb.
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  Speaker 2: Wow, that was effortless.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, with Tan, I do I put a bronzer on
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  Speaker 4: in the car in the parking.
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  Speaker 5: Garage, not a lot of lights.
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  Speaker 4: So yeah, my life is very glamorous, so I don't
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  Speaker 4: maybe I put too much on.
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  Speaker 2: I couldn't really, So you're giving like fresh from vacation, Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: with the blonde, fresh blonde in the leather jacket.
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  Speaker 5: Say it again, the fresh from the island. Yeah, island girly.
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  Speaker 2: How are we doing today?
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  Speaker 5: We're doing good. How are you doing?
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  Speaker 2: I'm great? And I know people are wanting an update
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  Speaker 2: about something that we had scheduled for a lot. Are
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  Speaker 2: you talking about are you talking about it? An update
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  Speaker 2: about our drinks with.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah j L.
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  Speaker 4: We like to call her dale h.
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  Speaker 6: And how did it go? Do you guys have a
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  Speaker 6: good time?
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  Speaker 2: Oh?
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  Speaker 4: We didn't go. Okay, it did not, in fact make
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  Speaker 4: it out of the group chat. It is still in
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  Speaker 4: the group chat and in the works for twenty twenty five.
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  Speaker 6: So wait what happened? Because she even said something about
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  Speaker 6: like has she heard something you said on the radio,
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  Speaker 6: and she said, all we have to talk about that
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  Speaker 6: will get Yes, yes.
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  Speaker 4: It was a last minute, but 'tis the season and
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  Speaker 4: she was not feeling well.
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  Speaker 6: A lot going around, I know.
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  Speaker 2: So, I mean it was like two hours before it
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  Speaker 2: was like yeah. She was like, I hope you haven't
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  Speaker 2: left yet.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, close. It was close, Haley.
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  Speaker 2: Guys, I knew she was going to cancel.
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  Speaker 4: This was canceled not feeling well.
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  Speaker 5: Right, you think she canceled? You just didn't want to go.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think she Here's the thing. I don't think
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  Speaker 2: she doesn't want to go get drinks with us.
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  Speaker 4: But I sent the morning was it the morning or
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  Speaker 4: the day before something like something? She heard that I
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  Speaker 4: was on a cleanse on the air, and she's like,
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  Speaker 4: you can't be on a cleanse for our drinks date.
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  Speaker 5: So she was like ready to go.
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  Speaker 2: No, no, no, But you know, how the day comes.
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  Speaker 2: I don't know if anyone else releases in this room.
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  Speaker 2: Sometimes the day comes and I think J. L. H
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  Speaker 2: is kind of like see her being a becka when
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  Speaker 2: it comes to like social outings, like being very selective,
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  Speaker 2: and maybe the day comes and what day comes and
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  Speaker 2: you're just like, man, it's been a really busy holiday season.
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  Speaker 2: There's a lot going on. Do I want to get
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  Speaker 2: out into the world this eve and go like get
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  Speaker 2: drinks and stuff.
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  Speaker 4: If that were the case, I think she'd say, hey,
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  Speaker 4: I have a lot going on.
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  Speaker 2: You're right, you probably would.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, she's not gonna make up.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe I'm projected.
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  Speaker 4: Have you ever done that? Have you ever faked being
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  Speaker 4: sick to get out of something?
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  Speaker 2: Oh? Yeah, that's what karma? Why though.
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  Speaker 4: Being sick?
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  Speaker 2: No, I feel like it was a dirt. It's a
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  Speaker 2: gift when people do it to me. Fortunately, I surround
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  Speaker 2: myself with very like excited people who never cancel on me,
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  Speaker 2: never get me the out.
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  Speaker 4: No.
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  Speaker 2: I actually really appreciated j L h hitting or stup
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  Speaker 2: like that.
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  Speaker 4: I sent her the text that she sent me, and
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  Speaker 4: she was relieved. Honestly, I was like, oh finished.
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  Speaker 6: Why.
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  Speaker 4: I was relieved because it was Haley's last night before
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  Speaker 4: she went to New York.
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  Speaker 6: I was happy to spend Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I wasn't relieved, just like, oh, thank god it off
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  Speaker 2: to do that. I was just like, first of all,
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  Speaker 2: the choice was in Santa Monica, which is a hell
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  Speaker 2: for me.
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  Speaker 5: To get to at like peak traffic hours traffic.
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  Speaker 2: So I was gonna leave like an hour and a
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  Speaker 2: half before.
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  Speaker 4: So I had like already gotten ready. So I had
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  Speaker 4: hair appointment that was already scheduled before I drink. So
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  Speaker 4: I was like, Okay, I can make this work. I'll
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  Speaker 4: finish my hair appointment around the time that I would
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  Speaker 4: have to like leave to get to Santa Monica. So
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  Speaker 4: I like got dressed, got my cute off it on.
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  Speaker 4: I was wearing a freaking body suit thong bodysuit, so
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  Speaker 4: I have like a thong up my whole hair.
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  Speaker 6: Yes, I don't even know what that means. It hurts,
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  Speaker 6: it hurts, It sounds awful.
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  Speaker 7: Sounds bad.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, I have snaps too, yep, right in the badge.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, someone needs to figure this out, because there's some
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  Speaker 2: really cute bodysuit options.
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  Speaker 4: However, Skims does do not quote me on that because
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  Speaker 4: I don't know for sure spoiler alert, but I feel
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  Speaker 4: like Skims has uh cap what do you call snapless
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  Speaker 4: cross snapless crotches, magnets.
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  Speaker 2: No, it's just fabric, which is way more pleasing for
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  Speaker 2: the body. Yeah, not this hat between having a seamed
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  Speaker 2: thong like with seams and then snaps right in the
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  Speaker 2: center of your vagina. It's it's quite a commitment.
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  Speaker 5: So I had a three hour hair appointment.
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  Speaker 2: So your girl was like, you should have like unsnapped
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  Speaker 2: him and just had him tugged for the appointment.
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  Speaker 4: You know, hindsight.
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  Speaker 5: I am sorry that hindsight.
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  Speaker 2: Here's the thing when I do that, if I cancel
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  Speaker 2: and like fake sick, I do it like in the morning,
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  Speaker 2: if it's like a nighttime thing.
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  Speaker 4: So okay, it doesn't make it.
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  Speaker 2: But I was saying, like, I feel bad that you
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  Speaker 2: are already ready, Like that kind of makes you feel sad.
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  Speaker 2: It's like sad cute.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I was ready, Like I really, I was like.
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  Speaker 5: Really snaps. So then I was like, oh my gosh,
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  Speaker 5: I have like four hours back in my day.
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  Speaker 4: What should I do now. I was gonna like come
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  Speaker 4: to your house, and then I looked at traffic and
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  Speaker 4: I was like, I'm going home.
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  Speaker 5: Mom's going home.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. I was gonna ask if you did a date
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  Speaker 2: night or something.
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  Speaker 4: No, we had something to get done that night. I
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  Speaker 4: can't remember exactly what it was, but we had something
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  Speaker 4: to do. So I was like, I'll just get a jumpstart.
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  Speaker 6: So the streak is intact, the streak of not getting
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  Speaker 6: together with guests who invite you guys to get together
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  Speaker 6: still been broken. That's not been broken.
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  Speaker 2: Great, and it's kind of like, what a beautiful way
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  Speaker 2: to end twenty twenty four as opposed to breaking it
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  Speaker 2: right before the new year.
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  Speaker 5: I'm done with that. Yeah, so the new year, I'm
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  Speaker 5: done with it.
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  Speaker 4: In the new year, I'm breathing new life into this
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  Speaker 4: and we are asking every guest, with everyone, every single guest,
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  Speaker 4: to get drinks with us, right, and we'll see who's
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  Speaker 4: the first to follow through and not just to make
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  Speaker 4: the plans, to actually do the plans. Yeah, I mean
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  Speaker 4: j Yeah, jail h got to she got to M
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  Speaker 4: in alphabet, but she did not get to Z.
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  Speaker 8: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: No, but she might be the first.
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  Speaker 4: In twenty five Sho might hit us up and say.
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  Speaker 2: Hey, girls, have a new year's schedule. Yeah, I'm feeling better.
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  Speaker 2: You got your marriage license.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm feeling a little queasy right now.
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  Speaker 6: I'm not going I know marriage lescense will do that.
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  Speaker 7: Yeah, no, no, no, have you.
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  Speaker 5: You know everybody's getting sick right now.
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  Speaker 6: I know if one celebrity who got sick but yes,
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  Speaker 6: there's a lot going around.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, you don't feel like people in your world are
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  Speaker 4: all like dropping.
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  Speaker 6: Like are getting sick.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I feel like it's like that time of
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  Speaker 4: year anyways. So I'm like loading up on all the
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  Speaker 4: vitamins and I just took too, like like the liquid
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  Speaker 4: liquid ones, like slurped them down in a row, And
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  Speaker 4: I'm feeling a little like.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think you're supposed to do that to in
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  Speaker 2: a row. I just don't think you're supposed to do
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  Speaker 2: it on like an empty stomach.
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  Speaker 4: It was a while ago. Yeah, eight am, it's nude.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, did you work out?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: So you haven't had anything to do. You had breakfast
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  Speaker 2: and you just took a load of vitamins. Yeah. I
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  Speaker 2: can't imagine you're feeling great. Do y'all have? Is there?
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  Speaker 5: Just sign?
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  Speaker 4: Can just give me a minute to this down? I'm good.
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  Speaker 4: We canno.
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  Speaker 2: He's not just a sip of water.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So you went and got your marriage license?
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  Speaker 4: I went go are Yeah, how did it feel? I
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  Speaker 4: got really emotional about it. Every little thing we do
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  Speaker 4: like makes me want to cry. It's like so weird.
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  Speaker 2: What does Robbie do?
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  Speaker 5: He doesn't cry? No, he gets excited, but he doesn't cry.
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  Speaker 2: No, but like when you start crying, is he just
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  Speaker 2: like oh cry, like I.
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  Speaker 4: Got teary eyes.
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  Speaker 2: Oh okay.
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  Speaker 4: And I was like, I don't know why I'm so
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  Speaker 4: emotional like that we just got this, and he's like
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  Speaker 4: cause it's really exciting and like you're an emotional person
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  Speaker 4: and like you know you're not going to cry, So
• 8:43
  Speaker 4: I guess I won't cry either.
• 8:45
  Speaker 2: It's probably because of the decor in the Beverly Hills
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  Speaker 2: court House.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, but you know they make you raise your right hand.
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  Speaker 4: They like make you raise your right hand and say
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  Speaker 4: like is everything on these papers? Whatever? Whatever? And I
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  Speaker 4: was like, oh, this feels like so official.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, like yeah, girl, you're locking it in. Yeah, you're
• 9:01
  Speaker 2: both locking it in. Yeah, exciting.
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  Speaker 4: It is very exciting. Well, but the courthouses are full,
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  Speaker 4: let me tell you. The woman at the front was
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  Speaker 4: like asking us if we were going to do a
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  Speaker 4: ceremony at the courthouse and we were like probably, but
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  Speaker 4: not till like next year, and she was like few, Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: She was like everyone's trying to get in and I
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  Speaker 4: was like that's so weird, Like what a random time
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  Speaker 4: of year to like get.
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  Speaker 7: Your before the end of the year. You're trying to
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  Speaker 7: lock something down, so.
• 9:28
  Speaker 4: She said, tax breaks and then people are scared that
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  Speaker 4: their marriage rights are going to get taken away next Yeah,
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  Speaker 4: trying to get it in very Yeah.
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  Speaker 6: I was like, dang, well, you don't hear people say
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  Speaker 6: few very often, you know, but that's the extra phone one,
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  Speaker 6: an actual few few.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, I think she said fewew whew.
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  Speaker 2: You don't get that reaction often these days.
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  Speaker 4: Uh so, yeah, one step closer. We're in the We're
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  Speaker 4: in the We're in the window because you get it
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  Speaker 4: and then you have to get married within ninety days.
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  Speaker 9: Wow, clock is tickn that's before March, right before after
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  Speaker 9: I don't know, March twenty or yeah, yeah, okay, ninety days.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, that's right.
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  Speaker 7: I'm sure. I'm sure she's done this.
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  Speaker 6: Man, March eighteenth, ninety days from now.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. Correct, But you're gonna get the wedding right yeah, oh.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, okay, we're gonna lock it in
• 10:23
  Speaker 4: before yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's yore.
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  Speaker 3: Well.
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  Speaker 4: I was like, I just want to get as much
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  Speaker 4: done before the new year than I possibly can. So
• 10:33
  Speaker 4: that was one more check off the off the lit.
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  Speaker 2: My Cammeridge charged and ready to photograph the event, thank
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  Speaker 2: you so much.
• 10:40
  Speaker 4: I went into the courthouse and it's like bright yellow
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  Speaker 4: walls that says like love is love and.
• 10:50
  Speaker 5: They're bright yellow. But I went into like inspect it.
• 10:52
  Speaker 4: There's like a little corner that's like white and it
• 10:55
  Speaker 4: has like a very avant guard kind of photo. Well,
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  Speaker 4: maybe we can do it in that corner.
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  Speaker 2: All took all her photos outside when it was they're beautiful.
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  Speaker 5: Shouldn't do any in the room in the chapel.
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  Speaker 2: No, I don't think they. I mean maybe I didn't
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  Speaker 2: see those. She didn't post those. The room is really heinous.
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  Speaker 2: And she sent me a picture and it was like
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  Speaker 2: love is Love and I was like, but I do
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  Speaker 2: appreciate the ally ship.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, yes, big bold bright riders.
• 11:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: Well it's exciting, very exciting. How was the Sonic premiere?
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  Speaker 2: To talk about that one?
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  Speaker 7: That was the coolest thing I have ever gotten to
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  Speaker 7: do in my life.
• 11:34
  Speaker 6: Wow.
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  Speaker 10: Becca Beca's like come with me as the Sonic premiere
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  Speaker 10: and because like you can go watch the movie. And
• 11:42
  Speaker 10: I thought it was gonna be like Alison and I
• 11:45
  Speaker 10: like jogging place to the side of well, Becca does
• 11:47
  Speaker 10: her like famous person thing and then like we go
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  Speaker 10: inside to watch the movie, but we got to walk
• 11:52
  Speaker 10: the blue carpet. We got to getty image out of it.
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  Speaker 10: They held up a whiteboard of my name and they
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  Speaker 10: took pictures of us. The two photographers took pity and
• 12:01
  Speaker 10: took pictures of us. We got to like have Sonic
• 12:04
  Speaker 10: chili dogs. We got to do the whole I got
• 12:06
  Speaker 10: to meet Sonic in the theater, just outside of the
• 12:10
  Speaker 10: Chinese theater. That was the coolest thing in the world.
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  Speaker 10: We had so much fun and the movie is amazing.
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  Speaker 7: It's so good. I love Sonic. Yeah, it was unreal.
• 12:20
  Speaker 2: It was I truly had no idea how huge of
• 12:24
  Speaker 2: a premiere. It was like it was like Hollywood.
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  Speaker 5: Chinese theater is like legit.
• 12:30
  Speaker 2: They always do the big ones, but it was it
• 12:32
  Speaker 2: was like one of the bigger premieres. I feel like
• 12:34
  Speaker 2: I've gone to and like Jim Carrey there, I'm sorry, Like.
• 12:38
  Speaker 4: That franchise is like massive.
• 12:40
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean yeah, it was huge, and they put
• 12:42
  Speaker 2: us in like the there was like a space where
• 12:45
  Speaker 2: like a bunch of the like influencers and content creators went.
• 12:48
  Speaker 2: So they were had like the Alison got one of
• 12:50
  Speaker 2: the ring.
• 12:51
  Speaker 7: Yeah, they're getting these giant rings.
• 12:53
  Speaker 2: What did they do?
• 12:54
  Speaker 7: It was just a ring, just a ring.
• 12:56
  Speaker 10: They're just there were people had them. I don't know
• 12:58
  Speaker 10: where they got them. And then Allison was like, to
• 13:00
  Speaker 10: get that ring, and then I gave her a ring.
• 13:02
  Speaker 10: It was awesome.
• 13:03
  Speaker 2: They were hard to get. People are like searching everywhere else.
• 13:05
  Speaker 4: I was like, how did you get that?
• 13:07
  Speaker 2: Else?
• 13:07
  Speaker 4: You know what those do?
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  Speaker 3: Yes?
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  Speaker 7: They create portals.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, yes, as one knows from the Sonic franchise.
• 13:16
  Speaker 4: Yes, exactly. But we're seeing it tonight, so no spoilers.
• 13:19
  Speaker 2: They did announce so that Sonic four is in the works.
• 13:23
  Speaker 5: They did so.
• 13:25
  Speaker 2: My friend Avanti, who works at Paramount, sent it to
• 13:28
  Speaker 2: me and Tanya and was like, Tanya, here's your chance
• 13:31
  Speaker 2: to shine, your time to shine.
• 13:33
  Speaker 5: I said, put me in coach.
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  Speaker 4: But I feel like if they already have a date
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  Speaker 4: for it twenty twenty seven, I feel as though they've
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  Speaker 4: probably already cast the crew.
• 13:42
  Speaker 6: That's a long time from now, twenty twenty seven.
• 13:44
  Speaker 4: I know, but knowing like like just Sophia's movie, what
• 13:50
  Speaker 4: takes a long time.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, that's the thing.
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  Speaker 4: I don't know animation, but I feel like she makes
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  Speaker 4: movies so far ahead.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah that I feel I don't think you should be discouraged.
• 13:58
  Speaker 6: You you have that state, right.
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  Speaker 2: I don't like that that we're not going in with
• 14:02
  Speaker 2: that attitude. But also it's like they probably are like,
• 14:05
  Speaker 2: this franchise is huge, so let's continue it. And they
• 14:07
  Speaker 2: already know they're gonna have a Sonic for but maybe
• 14:09
  Speaker 2: they haven't even written the scripture.
• 14:11
  Speaker 6: Right, bringing a new Sonic Hedgehog and there you are.
• 14:13
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, maybe pitch maybe like a graphic designer to
• 14:17
  Speaker 2: draw up a little character, color her outfit and stuff.
• 14:21
  Speaker 2: Uh huh, and then get your voice audition ready. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: we can just send them.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah the a clip, no problem, air check, I got you.
• 14:35
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: No.
• 14:35
  Speaker 2: It was really fun. It was cool to I felt.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, wow, I feel so cool that I
• 14:40
  Speaker 2: got to bring them to something like that. I thought
• 14:42
  Speaker 2: it was gonna be more like a screening that type.
• 14:45
  Speaker 2: Was like, well, this is so epic.
• 14:47
  Speaker 1: It was.
• 14:47
  Speaker 10: It was so yeah, it was just I can't stop
• 14:50
  Speaker 10: thinking about it. It was like so fun and again,
• 14:53
  Speaker 10: the movie's so good. There's a Beach Boys song in
• 14:55
  Speaker 10: the movie. I stood up and cheered. Seeing a movie
• 14:57
  Speaker 10: with like all the there's a bunch of Sonic fans
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  Speaker 10: in there too. It was so fun because like anytime
• 15:01
  Speaker 10: some Sonic thing happened, everyone included like lost their minds.
• 15:05
  Speaker 5: I sent Savvy the video of you with trying to.
• 15:08
  Speaker 2: Show them the TikTok.
• 15:09
  Speaker 4: Yeah, he was like, that's so cool.
• 15:12
  Speaker 6: Yeah, I know.
• 15:14
  Speaker 2: It was kind of one of those where they would have.
• 15:17
  Speaker 5: Really thrived, I know, but he had to play that night.
• 15:22
  Speaker 2: So Sonic four though, yes, which one which will be
• 15:25
  Speaker 2: featuring you? It'll be even more special. Could have a
• 15:28
  Speaker 2: new baby in the picture too, Oh my god, like
• 15:31
  Speaker 2: a one year older.
• 15:33
  Speaker 5: You don't take babies to the movies though, No, but you.
• 15:36
  Speaker 2: Could take them to like the event of it, and
• 15:37
  Speaker 2: then Robbie could take the kids, you know, the older kids.
• 15:40
  Speaker 4: When do you start taking kids to movies?
• 15:42
  Speaker 2: There were kids there. There was a lot of kids
• 15:44
  Speaker 2: like how.
• 15:44
  Speaker 5: Old, though not babies.
• 15:45
  Speaker 2: I know.
• 15:45
  Speaker 6: We took Alie to Her first movie was she was
• 15:47
  Speaker 6: three three, I feel like, but it was like a
• 15:51
  Speaker 6: nature documentary. It was nothing too well louder. It was
• 15:54
  Speaker 6: Earth Disney's Earth.
• 15:55
  Speaker 7: I was two and my first movie was Young Guns
• 15:58
  Speaker 7: sorry Philip.
• 16:01
  Speaker 6: Guns movie.
• 16:02
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 16:04
  Speaker 5: I was thinking four.
• 16:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like that's a good age. We'll cross
• 16:10
  Speaker 2: that bridge once we arrive. Yes, but we do have
• 16:13
  Speaker 2: a Dear Bonnie episode today, so we are going to
• 16:16
  Speaker 2: get back. There's some there's some hard hitting emails and
• 16:20
  Speaker 2: problems that they need us to solve, you guys, So
• 16:23
  Speaker 2: lock in and we'll be back. All right. We are
• 16:44
  Speaker 2: back and with our final deer Bonia of the year.
• 16:48
  Speaker 4: Wow, I'm getting like really sad. Like everybody's like, I
• 16:53
  Speaker 4: went to my last sculpt class of the year that
• 16:57
  Speaker 4: down for the year. Oh my gosh.
• 16:59
  Speaker 5: She's like, this is the LAS class. Make it a
• 17:01
  Speaker 5: good one.
• 17:01
  Speaker 2: I was like, what, Oh, I'm happy to hear that
• 17:06
  Speaker 2: they're taking time off for themselves though.
• 17:08
  Speaker 4: Yeah the last one listen.
• 17:10
  Speaker 5: So sculpted out for there.
• 17:14
  Speaker 6: By the way, I don't want to have a goal
• 17:15
  Speaker 6: for twenty twenty five. I don't want to write a
• 17:16
  Speaker 6: need checks. That's what I've decided. I'm not going to
• 17:18
  Speaker 6: write a single check in twenty twenty four.
• 17:20
  Speaker 7: Yeah, checks twenty four in the check.
• 17:23
  Speaker 6: So what do you do when you get a bill
• 17:25
  Speaker 6: from the dentist office. I got a bill from the
• 17:26
  Speaker 6: dentist office two days ago. I'm like, well, crap, that's
• 17:28
  Speaker 6: the place to put or I call them and I
• 17:31
  Speaker 6: get credit.
• 17:33
  Speaker 2: Cards, upgrade your dent to get your dentists.
• 17:35
  Speaker 6: But I don't write checks anymore.
• 17:36
  Speaker 5: Yeah, that that dentist needs it.
• 17:39
  Speaker 2: That feels like a very doable I hope it.
• 17:42
  Speaker 6: But doctor's offices need to get with it.
• 17:45
  Speaker 5: I haven't written a check for a doctor's office in How.
• 17:48
  Speaker 6: Are you paying your doctor's bills?
• 17:50
  Speaker 5: I really call them and I give them my bill,
• 17:52
  Speaker 5: my bill.
• 17:53
  Speaker 6: I'm not sitting on hold either. Have to figure something.
• 17:56
  Speaker 5: Maybe two minutes of.
• 17:57
  Speaker 6: Hold, I am.
• 17:58
  Speaker 2: I never call a single person. I never write a
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: single check. It's all online.
• 18:02
  Speaker 5: Everything feels advanced.
• 18:05
  Speaker 6: I need to go to your doctors.
• 18:06
  Speaker 5: Yeah, here we go.
• 18:08
  Speaker 6: F'm anonymous obsessed with the podcast Your Dynamic, and that
• 18:12
  Speaker 6: you released two episodes a week. I'm a news scrubber
• 18:15
  Speaker 6: from September of twenty four, while that's just a few
• 18:17
  Speaker 6: months ago.
• 18:17
  Speaker 7: Welcome.
• 18:17
  Speaker 6: I'm currently alternating between the newly released episodes and the
• 18:20
  Speaker 6: catalog of episodes past. I'm in my mid thirties and
• 18:24
  Speaker 6: I realized I had a strong connection with women. When
• 18:27
  Speaker 6: I was twenty nine. I met someone with whom I
• 18:28
  Speaker 6: had an undeniable connection, and initially things went well, but
• 18:31
  Speaker 6: I struggled with internalized homophobia, which conflicted with my beliefs
• 18:35
  Speaker 6: about being true to yourself and loving freely. I came
• 18:38
  Speaker 6: out to my family and some friends, and though it
• 18:40
  Speaker 6: wasn't terrible, it was uncomfortable. I eventually retreated from the relationship,
• 18:44
  Speaker 6: partly blaming my partner for the pressure to come out
• 18:46
  Speaker 6: and push that part of myself aside, finding it easier
• 18:49
  Speaker 6: to date men, but I felt guilty, angry, and disconnected
• 18:52
  Speaker 6: from who I was. Listening to this podcast, recommended by
• 18:55
  Speaker 6: a friend, helped me reflect on my fears and inspired
• 18:58
  Speaker 6: me to embrace who I am. Hearing stories, particularly Becka's
• 19:02
  Speaker 6: journey to openly and proudly loving, made me realize how
• 19:04
  Speaker 6: much I was missing by hiding a vital part of myself.
• 19:09
  Speaker 6: I have since recome out with greater confidence and gotten
• 19:12
  Speaker 6: overwhelmingly positive responses, started exploring a new relationship with a woman,
• 19:16
  Speaker 6: and I feel happier and more at peace than I
• 19:17
  Speaker 6: have in years. Now, I'm at a crossroads. I haven't
• 19:20
  Speaker 6: come out to some long distance friends, not because I
• 19:22
  Speaker 6: don't trust them, but because of my own fears and insecurities.
• 19:24
  Speaker 6: I'm not sure how to broach the subject without making
• 19:26
  Speaker 6: them feel like I didn't trust them or value our friendship.
• 19:29
  Speaker 6: I've had chances to share this part of myself, but
• 19:31
  Speaker 6: I've avoided it out of fear, often making excuses about
• 19:33
  Speaker 6: being busy or mentioning days with men to avoid the topic.
• 19:37
  Speaker 6: I'd appreciate advice on how to start this conversation in
• 19:39
  Speaker 6: a way that honors our friendship and builds understanding. Thank
• 19:42
  Speaker 6: you all for sharing your stories and for all the
• 19:44
  Speaker 6: laugh out loud moments and wishing you all happy holidays.
• 19:49
  Speaker 8: You know.
• 19:51
  Speaker 2: I'm trying. This was so long ago for me, like
• 19:54
  Speaker 2: navigating when I first started dating Haley, and like coming
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: out to my friends, like having those conversations feel so foreign,
• 20:02
  Speaker 2: but I just remember, I'm all being positive, so I
• 20:04
  Speaker 2: don't have I also.
• 20:06
  Speaker 4: Feel like you didn't like call up any long distance
• 20:08
  Speaker 4: friends and said like, hey, by the way, I'm dating
• 20:10
  Speaker 4: a girl, Like I don't know if that's totally necessary.
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: Well, I think if it's someone that she's in like,
• 20:15
  Speaker 2: if it's a friend that she's talking to all the time,
• 20:18
  Speaker 2: you know, like if it's.
• 20:19
  Speaker 5: What what does one consider a long distance friend?
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: Like JoJo's a long distance friend, ah okay, a friend
• 20:28
  Speaker 2: who lives a long distances In my mind, I'm thinking
• 20:31
  Speaker 2: like old friends from high school that live in your hometown.
• 20:35
  Speaker 5: And then now you've moved away, blah blah blah.
• 20:37
  Speaker 2: It sounds like these are still people in her life,
• 20:39
  Speaker 2: they're just not part of her everyday life. So they
• 20:41
  Speaker 2: want to know, like that she's spending time with a woman,
• 20:44
  Speaker 2: got it. I think you just text them and be like,
• 20:46
  Speaker 2: I'm dating someone new and if they ask questions and
• 20:50
  Speaker 2: then you just are like, well she is, she's blah
• 20:53
  Speaker 2: blah blah. The thing is, because you're feeling insecure and
• 20:58
  Speaker 2: nervous about it, it's gonna come across. Everything is about
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: how you deliver information, right, So, like, if you're feeling
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: really excited about this person and you say it with
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: enthusiasm and you're not really focusing on the fact about
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: her gender, and you're more just like, she's amazing. This
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: is how we met. I think your friends are going
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: to be more receptive and see that you're happy and
• 21:19
  Speaker 2: confident in it, and I think that's going to make
• 21:21
  Speaker 2: them respond in a way that makes you feel seen
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: and encouraged by them. Yeah.
• 21:28
  Speaker 4: I think we put so much pressure on ourselves and
• 21:30
  Speaker 4: I can't speak to the specific conversation of like coming
• 21:33
  Speaker 4: out to friends. But I feel like a lot of
• 21:35
  Speaker 4: people have insecurities when they're dating, and like, let's say,
• 21:39
  Speaker 4: you know, some people that have kids feel insecure about
• 21:42
  Speaker 4: the fact that they have kids when they're dating. And
• 21:43
  Speaker 4: it's all about how you say it, you know, like
• 21:45
  Speaker 4: if you say I have kids, that's like a negative connotation.
• 21:50
  Speaker 4: But if you're like, oh, my gosh, you have the
• 21:51
  Speaker 4: cutest little dimples. My son has dimples like that, you know,
• 21:54
  Speaker 4: like you're telling them without making it like a thing.
• 21:56
  Speaker 4: So I feel like taking that approach of just like
• 21:59
  Speaker 4: I think some times we bog ourselves down with having
• 22:01
  Speaker 4: to have like the perfect words, the perfect time, and
• 22:03
  Speaker 4: the perfect thing to say and have it be this
• 22:05
  Speaker 4: whole thing when in reality, like you're dating someone and
• 22:09
  Speaker 4: you're happy, Yeah, that's really all it is.
• 22:11
  Speaker 2: Yeah. I was thinking though, aside you not even having
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: kid like more so from the perspective of you dating
• 22:18
  Speaker 2: someone with kids, it's kind of that same thing of
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: like if you were like, eh, he has kids, but
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: instead you're like, oh, yeah, have my fiance or his
• 22:26
  Speaker 2: son or you know, my step kids. There's a lot
• 22:28
  Speaker 2: of excitement and confidence when you talk about it, so
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: it never I don't think ever felt like a thing
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: because it was something about it his life that you
• 22:37
  Speaker 2: were excited about. Right, So I think that is the
• 22:41
  Speaker 2: advice that I'd give, And I'm proud of you for
• 22:43
  Speaker 2: not pushing your true self and feelings to the side anymore,
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: because we do only have one life to live, and
• 22:50
  Speaker 2: I think it's I think it's so important to you know,
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: live your truth and also the people that that are
• 23:01
  Speaker 2: going to be in your life are going to respond
• 23:03
  Speaker 2: in a way where they're excited for you and see
• 23:05
  Speaker 2: you know your happiness.
• 23:07
  Speaker 6: Agreed to Tiny's point, though, I do think there is
• 23:09
  Speaker 6: something to live in your life and people can figure
• 23:11
  Speaker 6: it out on their own. Isn't there something to just
• 23:13
  Speaker 6: kind of just live your life?
• 23:15
  Speaker 2: If I was like, oh my gosh, somewhere else get
• 23:21
  Speaker 2: like people that I haven't talked to in forever, but
• 23:22
  Speaker 2: like if like uh Tanya ali Jojo, like those are
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: all people that I was like excited to, like those
• 23:30
  Speaker 2: are people that are very much a part of my life.
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: So it was like I can't not like I can't
• 23:35
  Speaker 2: just expect them to figure it out. And then they
• 23:37
  Speaker 2: were like, wait, you're hanging out with a girl. Why
• 23:40
  Speaker 2: why didn't you tell us? You know, I think there's
• 23:41
  Speaker 2: something about being confident enough and happy enough to be
• 23:45
  Speaker 2: excited to share that information with people that you love
• 23:48
  Speaker 2: and that love you.
• 23:49
  Speaker 5: Yeah. I also just I kind of agree with Mark.
• 23:51
  Speaker 5: It's like, live your life.
• 23:53
  Speaker 2: You mean to tell me? If I was just living
• 23:55
  Speaker 2: my life and hanging out with Haley privately and didn't
• 23:57
  Speaker 2: tell you that, I would just be like figured it.
• 23:59
  Speaker 4: Out, figuring it out for yourself, and you were like
• 24:02
  Speaker 4: unsure and like scared or whatever. Like I wouldn't be
• 24:05
  Speaker 4: offended if it took you longer than it took you
• 24:07
  Speaker 4: to tell me.
• 24:08
  Speaker 6: But also, you guys are besties. She's talking about.
• 24:10
  Speaker 4: Long distance friends. It doesn't even say besties. It says
• 24:13
  Speaker 4: long distance.
• 24:14
  Speaker 6: Friends already came out to family and friends. I feel
• 24:16
  Speaker 6: like this is a.
• 24:18
  Speaker 4: This is like you feeling the need to like call like.
• 24:26
  Speaker 7: That's pure buffering face the doctor.
• 24:29
  Speaker 4: That you worked for in San Diego to be like
• 24:32
  Speaker 4: what I'm dating Haley Kyoko.
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: Now this feels different than that. We don't know. All
• 24:41
  Speaker 2: I'm saying is if this is, if this is someone
• 24:43
  Speaker 2: like Jojo in your life, that I think it's worth
• 24:45
  Speaker 2: it to pick up the phone and have the conversation.
• 24:47
  Speaker 2: Is someone like that used to San Diego. You don't
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: owe anyone anything if you're not ready correct.
• 24:54
  Speaker 6: I hope it is Jojo all right? Uh, I know
• 24:59
  Speaker 6: the akings are all in, so I don't need to
• 25:00
  Speaker 6: say that anymore. My boyfriend I just broke up, but
• 25:03
  Speaker 6: we still have so much love for each other. He
• 25:05
  Speaker 6: said he needed to grow an areas because he wasn't
• 25:07
  Speaker 6: the man he knew I deserved. He also said he
• 25:09
  Speaker 6: wasn't happy with himself and with his life and with
• 25:12
  Speaker 6: his work. It's really hard because there's still so much
• 25:14
  Speaker 6: love there. But I do believe he stopped pursuing me
• 25:16
  Speaker 6: a year ago. During the relationship. I feel like I
• 25:19
  Speaker 6: lost some of my feminine energy. And I'm curious what
• 25:21
  Speaker 6: Tanya did in her time post breakup from Robbie to
• 25:24
  Speaker 6: gain back her confidence, her feminine injury energy and work
• 25:27
  Speaker 6: on herself. Love you guys, the trigger.
• 25:30
  Speaker 4: Event, the trigger event. I worked out a lot. I
• 25:36
  Speaker 4: like channeled my energy into running and I would run
• 25:39
  Speaker 4: like nine miles.
• 25:40
  Speaker 2: You were crazy runner.
• 25:41
  Speaker 4: Then it was the only time that I could just
• 25:44
  Speaker 4: like not think about anything.
• 25:46
  Speaker 6: Mm hmm.
• 25:46
  Speaker 4: I know that sounds so cringe, like even like even
• 25:49
  Speaker 4: saying it. It's like just you in the in the road,
• 25:54
  Speaker 4: in the random just people walking around the neighborhood exactly.
• 26:03
  Speaker 4: So I found a lot of like peace in that. Also,
• 26:08
  Speaker 4: your feminine energy, like when you're in your ovulatory phase
• 26:12
  Speaker 4: masturbating is like amazing.
• 26:14
  Speaker 5: Are you allowed to say that?
• 26:15
  Speaker 4: On here?
• 26:15
  Speaker 6: Sure have fun?
• 26:16
  Speaker 5: Okay?
• 26:17
  Speaker 4: That I feel like makes you feel I don't know,
• 26:20
  Speaker 4: like you. It feels you feel glowy. Is that what
• 26:23
  Speaker 4: you're asking she's asking about feminine energy? Yeah, it makes
• 26:25
  Speaker 4: me glowy and like I can do it. I can
• 26:28
  Speaker 4: do this for myself. I don't need anybody else. I
• 26:32
  Speaker 4: got me myself and I So that would be my advice.
• 26:36
  Speaker 2: I also feel like even just getting yourself up and
• 26:39
  Speaker 2: ready to go places, because you probably don't feel like
• 26:41
  Speaker 2: going and doing anything but getting dinner with a friend
• 26:44
  Speaker 2: and like really dressing up and making yourself feel your best.
• 26:48
  Speaker 5: Oh yeah, I don't think like I was going on
• 26:49
  Speaker 5: a first date any outing.
• 26:51
  Speaker 2: Ye I had Yes, even if she stayed home. Yes,
• 26:54
  Speaker 2: she was dressed for her first date.
• 26:56
  Speaker 4: I was dressed for first date. Taking pics, yeah, posting
• 26:59
  Speaker 4: them up.
• 27:00
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I would say do things that make you like
• 27:02
  Speaker 2: before you lost that, like what did you do that
• 27:05
  Speaker 2: where you felt confident in yourself? Like what were you
• 27:07
  Speaker 2: doing where you felt your best version, whether it was
• 27:09
  Speaker 2: like going on walks whatever it looked like.
• 27:12
  Speaker 4: Yeah, And I also like did a lot of It's
• 27:15
  Speaker 4: probably not the best way to handle things, like in hindsight,
• 27:18
  Speaker 4: but I would just like load up my schedule. I
• 27:21
  Speaker 4: would just like do all the things that I wanted.
• 27:22
  Speaker 4: I would organize my like Monica Geller closet, I would
• 27:25
  Speaker 4: you know what I mean, like gives give away like
• 27:27
  Speaker 4: stuff that I wasn't wearing to the shelter, all that
• 27:29
  Speaker 4: kind of stuff that like you put on the back burner,
• 27:31
  Speaker 4: and then you feel so good, you feel like accomplished.
• 27:34
  Speaker 4: And that also gives you back like a lot of
• 27:35
  Speaker 4: confidence because you're like, yeah, like I can freaking do
• 27:37
  Speaker 4: anything anything anything.
• 27:40
  Speaker 2: Good luck. Though I'm also glad that he acknowledged that
• 27:43
  Speaker 2: he wasn't able to be the person that would be
• 27:47
  Speaker 2: a good I get it.
• 27:48
  Speaker 11: It feels like a cop out, Like every guy feels
• 27:51
  Speaker 11: like that's fine rather him ended then stay in a
• 27:55
  Speaker 11: relationship where he's not giving where he she feels like
• 27:58
  Speaker 11: he stopped pursuing her a year ago, so I'm like, she,
• 28:01
  Speaker 11: it sounds like maybe she wouldn't have ended it.
• 28:03
  Speaker 2: So I feel glad that he was, like, I'm doing
• 28:06
  Speaker 2: it for you, for us, because now she can tap it.
• 28:09
  Speaker 4: It's like nobody's ever where they want to be when
• 28:12
  Speaker 4: they're at that, you know what I mean? Like, I
• 28:13
  Speaker 4: feel like, in correct me if I'm wrong. I feel
• 28:15
  Speaker 4: like a lot of men when they're ready to propose,
• 28:18
  Speaker 4: feel like they want to be wanted to be further along.
• 28:20
  Speaker 6: That was a major part of my my proposal speech
• 28:24
  Speaker 6: was how we are not where we want to be
• 28:26
  Speaker 6: in life at this point, but I don't care.
• 28:28
  Speaker 5: Right, A lot of people feel that way. It's kind
• 28:31
  Speaker 5: of like they just warn each other's people.
• 28:34
  Speaker 2: But she he may have been feeling that was like,
• 28:37
  Speaker 2: I'm not able to be the person you want, but
• 28:39
  Speaker 2: it'll probably be able to be that person for someone else.
• 28:43
  Speaker 2: But I'm saying he did her favor because she's about
• 28:46
  Speaker 2: to tap into her best self and meet her Robbie.
• 28:49
  Speaker 5: That's right.
• 28:50
  Speaker 6: So in summary, exercise, organization, and lots of quality time
• 28:54
  Speaker 6: with yourself.
• 28:55
  Speaker 3: Correct?
• 28:57
  Speaker 5: Should I say it like that quality time not the
• 28:58
  Speaker 5: actual word?
• 28:59
  Speaker 7: I could say you want to say you can say
• 29:01
  Speaker 7: the word, you just can't do it.
• 29:02
  Speaker 6: That's the beauty of Kanya. No filter.
• 29:04
  Speaker 5: No, I'm saying filter in podcast world? Are we allowed
• 29:07
  Speaker 5: to say that? On the Share.
• 29:09
  Speaker 6: The Rules podcasts?
• 29:10
  Speaker 3: Whew?
• 29:11
  Speaker 6: I'm jumping ahead one just so you're following along. Hi, Beca,
• 29:15
  Speaker 6: Mark Easton and Tanya Oh. I got second billing on
• 29:17
  Speaker 6: that one. That is rare.
• 29:18
  Speaker 4: Wow.
• 29:19
  Speaker 6: First off, I want to say how much I love
• 29:21
  Speaker 6: and appreciate all of you your podcast. It's been a
• 29:23
  Speaker 6: constant source of comfort and joy for me over the
• 29:25
  Speaker 6: past seven years, helping me through some of the hardest
• 29:27
  Speaker 6: times in my life. When I was first coming out
• 29:30
  Speaker 6: to my parents, I posted in the scrubbing and Facebook
• 29:32
  Speaker 6: groups sharing that I was about to do it. In
• 29:34
  Speaker 6: an hour, I was flooded with supportive comments, including one
• 29:37
  Speaker 6: from Becca. My parents still haven't come around, and I'm
• 29:40
  Speaker 6: not sure they ever will, but I screenshoted those comments
• 29:43
  Speaker 6: and revisit them often on tough days. They remind me
• 29:46
  Speaker 6: I'm not alone, and I'm so grateful for that. After
• 29:49
  Speaker 6: recent events, my girlfriend and I have decided to lope
• 29:52
  Speaker 6: so we can legally marry while it's still possible. We
• 29:54
  Speaker 6: are in Texas. We still plan to go through our
• 29:56
  Speaker 6: originally planned proposals next year and have a bigger wedding
• 29:59
  Speaker 6: down the road. How I want to make this elopement
• 30:01
  Speaker 6: feel special for my girlfriend, even though it's not how
• 30:03
  Speaker 6: we envisioned our timeline, and we'll be keeping it a
• 30:05
  Speaker 6: secret for most of the people we know. For now,
• 30:07
  Speaker 6: to celebrate, we're having dinner with our closest friends who've
• 30:10
  Speaker 6: always supported us. But I'd love your advice. How can
• 30:12
  Speaker 6: I make this elopement feel meaningful and magical for my
• 30:15
  Speaker 6: partner even in the midst of these stressful and uncertain times.
• 30:18
  Speaker 6: We've been together five years. Our journey feels so similar
• 30:21
  Speaker 6: to Becca's and Haley's. We've always looked up to you too,
• 30:24
  Speaker 6: and would truly appreciate any advice for making this moment
• 30:26
  Speaker 6: as special as it deserves to be. Thank you so
• 30:29
  Speaker 6: much for everything you do. Love you, guys, and happy holidays.
• 30:33
  Speaker 8: You know.
• 30:34
  Speaker 2: First of all, I just feel so proud for you
• 30:36
  Speaker 2: because it is so hard to navigate unsupportive family and
• 30:43
  Speaker 2: friends like I. There were I think a lot of people,
• 30:47
  Speaker 2: because I didn't talk about my relationship for so long,
• 30:49
  Speaker 2: think that it was all just like perfect and there
• 30:52
  Speaker 2: was no hiccups and everyone just showered us and support
• 30:56
  Speaker 2: and love. But that wasn't really the case, and there
• 31:00
  Speaker 2: there's been a lot of progress since then, but it
• 31:02
  Speaker 2: was definitely not perfect, and like in those four years
• 31:05
  Speaker 2: of keeping our relationship private, there was a lot of
• 31:07
  Speaker 2: like heartache and therapy. But so first of all, I'm
• 31:13
  Speaker 2: very proud of you for, you know, for getting through that,
• 31:17
  Speaker 2: because it's really really hard, and I am so sorry
• 31:21
  Speaker 2: that you're having to think about I'm so sorry that
• 31:25
  Speaker 2: you're having to rush something that's so personal and exciting
• 31:29
  Speaker 2: because of the fear and what could happen in our
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: country and in you know, different states. Sorry, I just
• 31:46
  Speaker 2: I haven't talked about this, and this is like the
• 31:49
  Speaker 2: reality for people.
• 31:52
  Speaker 8: It's like they might not be able to you know,
• 31:56
  Speaker 8: love who they love or commit And I think it's
• 32:01
  Speaker 8: like such a reality because in reality, Haley and I
• 32:05
  Speaker 8: don't have anything to worry about in California, Like we're
• 32:07
  Speaker 8: in a state where like that's probably gonna be safe
• 32:10
  Speaker 8: for the most part.
• 32:12
  Speaker 3: But there's people like this who are having to rush.
• 32:15
  Speaker 3: You know, you're getting to have your dream wedding and
• 32:19
  Speaker 3: not have to think about that at all, and not
• 32:22
  Speaker 3: everyone's gonna have that luxury in some places, and it's
• 32:26
  Speaker 3: so meaningful and special, and I hate that you're even
• 32:30
  Speaker 3: having to think about that. So I would say, you know,
• 32:39
  Speaker 3: think about the people that you want to be there,
• 32:42
  Speaker 3: because that is the truest celebration you want to when
• 32:46
  Speaker 3: you want it to feel full of love and people
• 32:50
  Speaker 3: who surround you with love and make it feel light and.
• 32:56
  Speaker 2: Magical, just sucks. Sorry. I don't want to make this
• 33:07
  Speaker 2: like sad thing because I'm also happy for them that
• 33:10
  Speaker 2: they're getting married. I think it's just like you know,
• 33:15
  Speaker 2: you hear these stories and they're just like sad personal
• 33:21
  Speaker 2: But anyways, I think you have like beautiful flowers or
• 33:27
  Speaker 2: find things that she loves, like I know Haley loves
• 33:31
  Speaker 2: nature and art and color and so I would you know,
• 33:35
  Speaker 2: and she loves good food, like that's one of her
• 33:37
  Speaker 2: like passions is food. So making sure that all of
• 33:41
  Speaker 2: your favorite people and your favorite things are there, and
• 33:44
  Speaker 2: just making sure that that day feels only full of
• 33:49
  Speaker 2: love and excitement and not daunted by the reality of
• 33:55
  Speaker 2: you know, the outside of it.
• 33:58
  Speaker 6: Idea throwing it out there and if this is crazy,
• 34:01
  Speaker 6: you can tell me. But it seems like one thing
• 34:03
  Speaker 6: that always makes a moment magical is live music. Could
• 34:05
  Speaker 6: you have a guitar player they're playing her favorite song?
• 34:07
  Speaker 4: Yeah?
• 34:08
  Speaker 6: I feel that would be cool.
• 34:09
  Speaker 4: I feel like you get to do I think like
• 34:12
  Speaker 4: when you do and it might be different in Texas,
• 34:15
  Speaker 4: but I feel like you have that fifteen minute window
• 34:17
  Speaker 4: to do whatever you want. So like, maybe you do
• 34:19
  Speaker 4: make it up and do it as big as you
• 34:21
  Speaker 4: possibly can and write your vows and document it and
• 34:27
  Speaker 4: have somebody live perform her favorite song and have somebody
• 34:34
  Speaker 4: I don't really know how it works with the efficient,
• 34:36
  Speaker 4: but somebody meaningful in your life there to do it,
• 34:40
  Speaker 4: and like, do it up as much as you can,
• 34:43
  Speaker 4: and don't make it like an elopement that's just an elopement.
• 34:45
  Speaker 2: Make it make it matter, yeah, make it feel like
• 34:49
  Speaker 2: yours and like what you know, it's almost like what
• 34:52
  Speaker 2: you would do without the circumstance, but on a smaller scale,
• 34:57
  Speaker 2: and just you know, make sure that it makes sure
• 35:00
  Speaker 2: it's special for you too. I love the idea of
• 35:03
  Speaker 2: having someone playing music and having like a few of
• 35:06
  Speaker 2: your favorite songs played so y'all can dance and or like.
• 35:12
  Speaker 4: This might be crazy, but if you could take some
• 35:14
  Speaker 4: of like the letters that she's written you and make
• 35:17
  Speaker 4: like some sort of a handkerchief out of it, or
• 35:20
  Speaker 4: like like I don't know, like, yeah, I'm thinking on
• 35:23
  Speaker 4: the spot here, but like take maybe some letters or
• 35:26
  Speaker 4: maybe xerox them, not like the actual letters, and make
• 35:29
  Speaker 4: like some sort of bouquet out of them, you know
• 35:34
  Speaker 4: what I mean, like oregonmy flowers, like letters that she's
• 35:38
  Speaker 4: written you, or like post its or whatever, like something
• 35:40
  Speaker 4: meaningful like that could be really sweet too.
• 35:42
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but I think it's gonna beautiful. And I think
• 35:45
  Speaker 2: that having the people who love you and support you
• 35:50
  Speaker 2: being there is what's gonna make it so special. So
• 35:52
  Speaker 2: I'm so happy for you. Sorry for that breakdown, but.
• 35:56
  Speaker 4: We love you, and yeah, we love We're so happy
• 35:59
  Speaker 4: for you.
• 36:01
  Speaker 6: Let's break Yeah, we have a couple of fun ones
• 36:04
  Speaker 6: coming up that aren't so having an advicey and there
• 36:08
  Speaker 6: are more just kind of fun comments, so we'll come
• 36:11
  Speaker 6: back with that.
• 36:25
  Speaker 4: Hi.
• 36:26
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  Speaker 2: All right, we're back. This is just like the most
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• 37:43
  Speaker 6: Rude the headline is which our producer Sam adds to these.
• 37:48
  Speaker 6: Tanya's opening line worked for me Hi Becka, Tanya Mark,
• 37:53
  Speaker 6: and Easton O G Scrubber here. I've listened since the beginning,
• 37:56
  Speaker 6: and one of the reasons why I love the podcast
• 37:58
  Speaker 6: so much was because I too was an early thirties
• 38:01
  Speaker 6: girly trying to find her forever guy. I found comfort
• 38:04
  Speaker 6: and laughter in Becca and Tanya's dating stories, as I
• 38:06
  Speaker 6: knew all too well what they were experiencing. Tanya and
• 38:09
  Speaker 6: I even had a similar experience in twenty nineteen. We
• 38:12
  Speaker 6: were both hosting guys we had been dating through FaceTime Doctor,
• 38:15
  Speaker 6: screen Time Wolf in our cities and meeting for the
• 38:19
  Speaker 6: first time. I even talked to Ryan on the Morning
• 38:21
  Speaker 6: Show about it. In my late thirties, I struggled with
• 38:24
  Speaker 6: the possibility that might just be God's plan for me
• 38:26
  Speaker 6: not to be married or have a family, And after
• 38:28
  Speaker 6: every cry wondering why something didn't work out, I'd always say,
• 38:32
  Speaker 6: God doesn't take away gold to give you silver, or
• 38:35
  Speaker 6: man's rejection is God's protection. Thank you, Tanya. Fast forward
• 38:39
  Speaker 6: to twenty twenty two, I felt it in my heart
• 38:41
  Speaker 6: to download the apps again. I meshed with a cute
• 38:43
  Speaker 6: guy my age that I'd never seen on there before
• 38:45
  Speaker 6: and sent him a message. It was Tanya's go to
• 38:47
  Speaker 6: message from Harriot Days. I said Happy Tuesday. Thankfully, he
• 38:53
  Speaker 6: thought it was cute and responded. We hit it off
• 38:55
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• 38:57
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• 39:00
  Speaker 6: and two years later to the date, he asked me
• 39:02
  Speaker 6: to be his wife. Thanks to the whole team for
• 39:04
  Speaker 6: being a constant joy in my life of the encouragement
• 39:07
  Speaker 6: and positivity you bring through this podcast, including the reassurance
• 39:10
  Speaker 6: I got from you all and Scrubbers that there are
• 39:12
  Speaker 6: good guys out there. I love you all.
• 39:15
  Speaker 5: Let this be a lesson to everybody out there.
• 39:19
  Speaker 2: One man's trash is another man's treasury.
• 39:21
  Speaker 4: Exactly, and honestly, if that doesn't work, the happy whatever
• 39:24
  Speaker 4: date it is, which is clearly a shoot three pointer
• 39:30
  Speaker 4: flam dunk. Yes, I also suggest the are you friends
• 39:36
  Speaker 4: with Robert Graham?
• 39:36
  Speaker 6: Line?
• 39:37
  Speaker 4: Oh, that's a good one, because that really works. That's
• 39:42
  Speaker 4: more of an in real life, in person one. So
• 39:44
  Speaker 4: this is good for the dating apps Happy Tuesday, But
• 39:47
  Speaker 4: that are you friends with Robert Graham is a big perfect.
• 39:50
  Speaker 2: Should it be not Robert Graham, but like another person
• 39:53
  Speaker 2: that they actually know, so then there's some connection there.
• 39:56
  Speaker 4: Sure, Roberts She's saying like, like, use somebody that's actually
• 40:02
  Speaker 4: in your life, like, oh, are you friends with Like
• 40:03
  Speaker 4: let's say her friend. Her friend is like.
• 40:06
  Speaker 6: Bob, Bob Brewer, Bob Brewer, Oh yeah.
• 40:09
  Speaker 4: You know, are you friends with Bob Brewer?
• 40:13
  Speaker 5: I like Robert Graham.
• 40:14
  Speaker 4: Because it feels so generic, I know, but we know
• 40:16
  Speaker 4: Robert Graham.
• 40:17
  Speaker 2: So there's something to lead back to, all right.
• 40:19
  Speaker 5: And then they would ask me questions and what does
• 40:21
  Speaker 5: he do?
• 40:21
  Speaker 4: Where does he live? And I'm like, oh, yeah, yeah,
• 40:23
  Speaker 4: to do right right right? Yeah, yeah, then you go
• 40:25
  Speaker 4: deeper into the lies. So maybe that's a good suggestion.
• 40:28
  Speaker 4: I think it's great.
• 40:29
  Speaker 6: Yeah, congratulations Emily, We're very pard for listening, and yeah,
• 40:34
  Speaker 6: great news. Lauren found a godwink in an old podcast. Hi, Becka, Tanya,
• 40:40
  Speaker 6: Mark and Easton. I'm listening back to Scrubbing In from
• 40:42
  Speaker 6: the beginning. That's quite a binge and came across the
• 40:45
  Speaker 6: biggest godwink of all for Tanya. You met Mark l.
• 40:48
  Speaker 6: Wahlberg and Hawaiian twenty nineteen. He talked to Tiny about
• 40:51
  Speaker 6: adapting the I quit mentality, quitting looking and searching for
• 40:54
  Speaker 6: your person, letting him come to you and happen the
• 40:56
  Speaker 6: way it should. Instead, the next day she met Doctor
• 40:58
  Speaker 6: screen Time that I want to the window. Tanya says
• 41:01
  Speaker 6: she ran into Mark on the street when Doctor screen
• 41:03
  Speaker 6: Time came to town, and she took it as a
• 41:05
  Speaker 6: godwink that she should still be quitting and should quit
• 41:08
  Speaker 6: Doctor screen Time. A few months later, he came back
• 41:11
  Speaker 6: in the podcast Putting All Your Eggs in One Basket
• 41:13
  Speaker 6: October fourteenth, twenty nineteen.
• 41:14
  Speaker 5: Oh my gosh.
• 41:16
  Speaker 6: Tanya updates him, says he didn't listen. Says she didn't
• 41:18
  Speaker 6: listen to the I Quit advice and they laugh about
• 41:20
  Speaker 6: him seeing her with Doctor screen Time. He then goes
• 41:22
  Speaker 6: on to say he was just like Tanya, searching for
• 41:24
  Speaker 6: his person, wondering when she was going to come into
• 41:27
  Speaker 6: his life. He then said the moment he quit, he.
• 41:29
  Speaker 7: Met his wife, Robbie.
• 41:33
  Speaker 6: Mark Wahlberg's wife is named Robbie, which when I read this,
• 41:36
  Speaker 6: I went and did the research, and it's true.
• 41:38
  Speaker 2: We were obsessed with her. Remember awesome.
• 41:41
  Speaker 4: Mark Wahlberg has been this weird pinnacle in my life,
• 41:45
  Speaker 4: like himself, so weird to say out loud, but like
• 41:48
  Speaker 4: that really was like a turning point.
• 41:50
  Speaker 5: What he said to me in Hawaii, and then I did.
• 41:53
  Speaker 4: I remember I met Doctor screen time the day after,
• 41:56
  Speaker 4: and then I ran into Mark Wahlberg with this man,
• 42:00
  Speaker 4: what are the odds?
• 42:01
  Speaker 2: But then there was sing Your Butterfly right before.
• 42:05
  Speaker 6: Robbie she mentioned him as well. Tinya met Robbie right
• 42:08
  Speaker 6: after this. Strangely, Mark Wahlberg and Tiny seemed like kindred spirits.
• 42:11
  Speaker 6: And it's the biggest godwink of all that she got
• 42:12
  Speaker 6: her very own Robbie right after this, and she quit
• 42:15
  Speaker 6: Senior Butterfly and adopted the mentality in her own way.
• 42:19
  Speaker 6: I thought I was so cute. I knew Tiny would
• 42:20
  Speaker 6: appreciate the connection.
• 42:22
  Speaker 5: So crazy, How did I never connect those dots?
• 42:25
  Speaker 4: I remember I saw her getting her nails done on Ventura,
• 42:28
  Speaker 4: like not recently, but in that like Parah, She's so cute.
• 42:32
  Speaker 4: How did you never think about that?
• 42:34
  Speaker 2: I don't know, because we were like obsessed with obsessed.
• 42:36
  Speaker 4: With them, even her and their daughter, Robbie Morgan.
• 42:40
  Speaker 6: Wow, the wife of Mark L. Wahlberg, legendary game show
• 42:44
  Speaker 6: and reality show.
• 42:44
  Speaker 5: Wow, Lauren, thank you for that.
• 42:47
  Speaker 2: That is so fun. Wow.
• 42:50
  Speaker 4: October fourteen, twenty nineteen.
• 42:52
  Speaker 6: What a time, What a time? Over five years ago?
• 42:55
  Speaker 4: Yeah, because I met Robbie November, first of where we met, Yeah,
• 43:00
  Speaker 4: twenty nineteen. Wow, that's crazy. Two weeks after this.
• 43:06
  Speaker 2: I'm trying to think of the timeline because oh, September.
• 43:10
  Speaker 4: Was send You're a butterfly. Yes, yeah, the butterfly was
• 43:14
  Speaker 4: before doctor screen time.
• 43:16
  Speaker 2: Doctor screen time came after. Yes. Oh okay, all right,
• 43:21
  Speaker 2: I need to go back into our chats and see
• 43:23
  Speaker 2: what we back in the day. Good times. Wow.
• 43:27
  Speaker 10: When she spells it robb I yeah, also a weird
• 43:30
  Speaker 10: way of spelling it, just like yours.
• 43:31
  Speaker 5: Yes, yes, everybody thinks his name is.
• 43:33
  Speaker 6: Roby non traditional.
• 43:35
  Speaker 4: Yes, yeah, love it.
• 43:37
  Speaker 2: Well. That is the end of a dear bonia of
• 43:41
  Speaker 2: the last dear bonia of twenty.
• 43:43
  Speaker 5: Oh my gosh, I don't want it to be the last.
• 43:46
  Speaker 6: Well, before you know it, you'll be doing the first
• 43:47
  Speaker 6: one of twenty twenty five and with your first sculpt.
• 43:50
  Speaker 2: Class sculpt and scrubbing in that's actually cute. Yeah. Right
• 43:55
  Speaker 2: at the new year, when you start your once a
• 43:58
  Speaker 2: day movement activity, it's right.
• 44:00
  Speaker 11: My community accountability activity.
• 44:04
  Speaker 5: Yes, yeah, yeah, yaa.
• 44:07
  Speaker 2: All right, We love y'all so much, love you, happy holidays,
• 44:11
  Speaker 2: all the things, and we'll see you well we have
• 44:15
  Speaker 2: a few episodes.
• 44:16
  Speaker 4: Yeah whatever.
• 44:19
  Speaker 6: Expect to hear from us on Christmas, oh.
• 44:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, and expect to hear from us on New
• 44:23
  Speaker 2: Year's Eve or a day before the thirtieth.
• 44:27
  Speaker 6: Yeah. Yeah, So the twenty fifth and the thirtieth are coming.
• 44:29
  Speaker 4: Well, that is just New Year's evadjason, Yes it is.
• 44:33
  Speaker 2: We're not gone. We're just we're always around. Correct. If
• 44:38
  Speaker 2: you need to hear from us, there's an episode. Yeah,
• 44:41
  Speaker 2: there's a whole catalog of seven years. Yep, sometimes two
• 44:45
  Speaker 2: a days.
• 44:45
  Speaker 5: I mean, I might go back and.
• 44:46
  Speaker 4: Listen to October fourteenth of twenty nineteenth.
• 44:49
  Speaker 2: I know it would be fun to listen to this,
• 44:50
  Speaker 2: some of those old ones. All right, we love y'all
• 44:52
  Speaker 2: so much, love you, love you bye.