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Chris Bosh’s Message to Anyone Who Feels Trapped in Life · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: You're gonna have to challenge yourself because you will get
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  Speaker 1: challenged by life, by a game, by business, by entrepreneurship.
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  Speaker 1: There are always going to be challenges to overcome. You
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  Speaker 1: have to love what you do every day because those
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  Speaker 1: days that are hard, those days that suck, that's where
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  Speaker 1: the magic is. You go do it and you get
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  Speaker 1: your work in anyway, because that's where you're gonna find
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  Speaker 1: out who you are. That's where things are going to
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  Speaker 1: continue to happen. And you have to just love putting
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  Speaker 1: in the daily.
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  Speaker 2: Work because that's another.
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  Speaker 1: Token in the bank if you will, if you're showing up,
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  Speaker 1: you know, striving towards your goal. You have to really
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  Speaker 1: really believe in what you're doing and you have to
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  Speaker 1: have faith that it's going to work out. But you
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  Speaker 1: got to keep putting the work in because if you don't,
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  Speaker 1: it's not.
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  Speaker 3: Going to come to you and it's just.
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  Speaker 2: Not you know, going to fall in.
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  Speaker 3: You'll have and sometimes when you know that, all right,
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  Speaker 3: I'm going through it.
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  Speaker 2: Right now, this is tough.
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  Speaker 3: Let's just take an inch forward. Let's go an inch
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  Speaker 3: forward today. That'll be better than going backward.
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  Speaker 1: You don't want to go back, not only finding your why,
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  Speaker 1: but finding that thing that you love to do, Find
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  Speaker 1: that thing you love doing, because when you get to
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  Speaker 1: the why, you know, having a love for something from
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  Speaker 1: the beginning.
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  Speaker 2: That's a great why. That's a great start right.
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  Speaker 1: There, and then you can build on top of that,
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  Speaker 1: because if you're not really loving what you're doing, and
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  Speaker 1: then when it comes.
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  Speaker 2: To the why, you won't you'll kind of fall.
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  Speaker 1: Short a little bit, or you'll struggle and more so,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I want to challenge people to think about
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  Speaker 1: those things.
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  Speaker 3: You know, why, yeah, why are you doing this?
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  Speaker 1: You know, just getting to that point of really thinking deeply.
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  Speaker 1: And that's one of the things that we say within
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  Speaker 1: the book as well, to think deeply. And you you know,
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  Speaker 1: you can get pretty deep pretty quick.
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  Speaker 3: You know, I want to do X, Why because of why? Well?
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  Speaker 3: Why because of Z?
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  Speaker 1: And then you know, sometimes we'll get to a point
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  Speaker 1: where we can't even.
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  Speaker 3: Answer that question.
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  Speaker 1: But the question is the starting point and the love
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  Speaker 1: is the starting point to get there. So when you
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  Speaker 1: get to those dog days, the day you feel.
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  Speaker 3: That you can't do it, or you don't feel like
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  Speaker 3: doing it, or you just want to go away.
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  Speaker 2: The love of it.
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  Speaker 1: If you don't do anything, you know, if you're doing
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  Speaker 1: something you don't love, you'll probably stop, you know, or
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  Speaker 1: when it's time to push yourself a little further.
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  Speaker 3: You probably you might not scrape everything. You might look
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  Speaker 3: at it, but you might not scrape the depths.
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  Speaker 2: You know.
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  Speaker 3: It's disappointing to hear people, you.
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  Speaker 2: Know, fall short because they said, oh, well, you know, it.
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  Speaker 1: Was hard, or I got something happened, or you know,
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  Speaker 1: it's always a description of some obstacle, you know, And
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  Speaker 1: I always try to make sure that I had my
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  Speaker 1: wy intact, but also to have the love first, you know,
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  Speaker 1: because if you don't love it first, then you know you're.
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  Speaker 2: Not gonna get very hard. A lot of.
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  Speaker 1: Adults and you know kids sometimes too, going through that
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  Speaker 1: process of being beginner.
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  Speaker 3: A beginner is a frustrating process.
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  Speaker 2: And if someone is feeling.
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  Speaker 1: Frustrated, I say, good, good job. That means you're That
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  Speaker 1: means you're working, That means you're doing something.
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  Speaker 2: You know, a lot of people will think.
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  Speaker 1: That they're supposed to play the guitar like led Zeppelin
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  Speaker 1: as soon as they pick it up, you know, and
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  Speaker 1: it's just not going to happen. It does not happen
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  Speaker 1: like that. You cannot cheat the process. You have to
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  Speaker 1: go from a beginner and to advanced beginner, intermediate and
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  Speaker 1: so on and so forth. But you know, you have
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  Speaker 1: to be okay with knowing that, you know, the word
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  Speaker 1: of the day, challenges, right are.
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  Speaker 2: Going to arise, if you're going to feel like you
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  Speaker 2: suck and all.
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  Speaker 1: Of these things, that is totally normal. I think sometimes
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  Speaker 1: people need to know that that feeling as normal.
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  Speaker 3: People just have to be okay. If you want to
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  Speaker 3: really go for something and start over, you have to
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  Speaker 3: be okay with being a beginner.
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  Speaker 2: And you know, I had no problem with that. I've
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  Speaker 2: tried to really really.
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  Speaker 1: Dive into it and put myself, you know, submerge myself
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  Speaker 1: into being a beginner and to love, you know, love
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  Speaker 1: the struggle. Love not knowing what's going to happen next,
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  Speaker 1: not knowing how I'm going to overcome this next thing
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  Speaker 1: because I'm going to figure it out.
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  Speaker 3: Eventually, because I'm not going to quit. I love it
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  Speaker 3: when somebody tells me I can't do something, you know.
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  Speaker 1: That's that's cool. It's like challenge game on, you know
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  Speaker 1: what I mean? You know, and that always got me
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  Speaker 1: fired up too, and especially in athletics, that's That's definitely
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  Speaker 1: one of.
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  Speaker 3: The huge, huge motivators that I think a lot.
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  Speaker 1: Of leaders and coaches hughes is that yeah they think,
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  Speaker 1: you know, they think that you can't do it, and yeah, that.
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  Speaker 2: Can fire you up.
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  Speaker 3: And you need that sometimes, especially.
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  Speaker 2: On those days and you don't want to get out
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  Speaker 2: of bed.
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  Speaker 3: You do have to have that fire and that spirit
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  Speaker 3: to be able to go after something.
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  Speaker 2: You definitely can't attack the mountain.
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  Speaker 3: Without a running start. I do believe in that.
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  Speaker 1: I do think you do have to have some fire
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  Speaker 1: and some intensity. So in getting that, you use whatever
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  Speaker 1: fuel you can as long as you're positive and working
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  Speaker 1: toward that goal. Like I keep saying, if somebody says
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  Speaker 1: something you didn't like and that fires you up, man,
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  Speaker 1: use it. Use it all day every day. You take
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  Speaker 1: it one step at a time. I hate to be cliche,
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  Speaker 1: but you take it one step at a time, and
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  Speaker 1: you know, you push through it, you find a way
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  Speaker 1: to get through.
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  Speaker 3: It, whatever you do.
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  Speaker 1: Don't stop when you hit that wall of being tired,
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  Speaker 1: that's when you're starting. Because essentially, you know, what I
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  Speaker 1: learned from competing against the best was that every single
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  Speaker 1: game we're knocking on that door. I mean you're going
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  Speaker 1: to be the most exhausted that you've ever been in
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  Speaker 1: your life, and there's still going to be things that
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  Speaker 1: you have to accomplish.
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  Speaker 3: So you have to.
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  Speaker 2: Still be sound and body and in mind.
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  Speaker 1: And you still have to remember what the game plan is,
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  Speaker 1: am I supposed to be doing right now? Because when
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  Speaker 1: you find and through that is finding the why. So
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  Speaker 1: I always wanted to be successful, you know, I wanted
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  Speaker 1: nothing more than to be a professional basketball player and
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  Speaker 1: be successful and win games and be.
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  Speaker 2: Like Michael Jordan, Kobe Bryant.
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  Speaker 1: I really learned after coming up short losing in the
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  Speaker 1: championship in twenty eleven. You know that internal voice, you
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  Speaker 1: know that the good one pretty much told me, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: well that's what it feels like, and we really do
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  Speaker 1: have to get up, pick ourselves up, and get back
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  Speaker 1: on the horse. And it was, you know, it was devastating,
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  Speaker 1: you know, going through a losing situation when you don't
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  Speaker 1: think you're gonna lose, especially when it's.
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  Speaker 3: On national TV.
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  Speaker 2: But one thing that I learned.
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  Speaker 1: Was, Okay, that's that's what it feels like.
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  Speaker 3: That's what that's what we're dealing with here.
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  Speaker 1: So the next time I'm scratch, you know, scratching the depths,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm pushing myself when I'm by myself in practice,
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to push a little more because now I
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  Speaker 1: know what the real pain is. You know, I thought
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  Speaker 1: I knew what pain.
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  Speaker 3: Is when I was working out.
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  Speaker 2: I thought I knew what pain.
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  Speaker 3: Is when I thought I was pushing myself.
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  Speaker 1: But then when you play eighty two games plus preseason
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  Speaker 1: and you know, off season workouts, just to get knocked
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  Speaker 1: off the mountaintop, it hurts tremendously. And one thing that
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  Speaker 1: did was taught me how to bounce back. But you know,
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  Speaker 1: it toughened us up a little bit and we were
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  Speaker 1: okay and ready and willing to put the correct work in.
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  Speaker 1: And when it's time to push each other or pull
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  Speaker 1: each other through situations when it gets hard, we're willing.
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  Speaker 3: To do it because we know that, you know, it doesn't.
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  Speaker 2: Really feel good. One of the.
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  Speaker 1: Words I always like to use its perseverance. You know,
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  Speaker 1: you have to have perseverance because you know, like I
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  Speaker 1: said before.
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  Speaker 2: Not every day you're gonna feel like doing.
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  Speaker 3: What you do.
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  Speaker 2: You're not gonna feel good every day.
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  Speaker 1: Every day your goal will not be accomplished like that
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  Speaker 1: you know, we're gonna spend a lot more days working
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  Speaker 1: than we aren't celebrating. You know, eventually you're gonna have
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  Speaker 1: to have that perseverance to be able to have the
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  Speaker 1: toughness to keep going.
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  Speaker 3: You know, I've seen so many people stop, you.
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  Speaker 1: Know, And then the best analogy was kind of.
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  Speaker 3: You have you ever seen the races where the guy
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  Speaker 3: or the girl.
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  Speaker 1: Is running and they look at the crowd and they're
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  Speaker 1: doing this, somebody's right behind them and catches them.
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  Speaker 2: That's kind of like the analogy.
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  Speaker 1: That I like to use because I've seen so many
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  Speaker 1: people stop short.
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  Speaker 3: If you're frightened, that's fine. If you're scared, that's fine.
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  Speaker 3: You eventually have to rise to the occasion.
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  Speaker 1: Rise to the occasion, because when you practice, you have
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  Speaker 1: to put yourself in those moments continuous, over and over
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  Speaker 1: and over, so that when they come, you just do what.
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  Speaker 2: You've done, and you know, to.
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  Speaker 1: Give myself comfort and to say, hey, I've been here before,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I know what this is going to be like.
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna give my best. This is why I put
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  Speaker 1: the work in time after time, day after date, night
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  Speaker 1: after night. So when and if that situation arises.
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  Speaker 3: I can trust myself.
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  Speaker 1: I know that I can be confident because I know
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  Speaker 1: without a doubt that I've done what needs to be done.
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  Speaker 1: I'm confident, and you can be brave about that and
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  Speaker 1: go into it and be confident in the heat of
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  Speaker 1: competition when you really really want something, You're gonna be
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  Speaker 1: tired sometimes and there might be a loose ball that
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  Speaker 1: you have to get and you can't really.
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  Speaker 3: Think about how tired you are.
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  Speaker 1: And in the daily practice of pushing yourself, you have
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  Speaker 1: to know how far you can go.
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  Speaker 3: I had this coach.
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  Speaker 1: We would have to run am ound pretty much three
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  Speaker 1: times a week, and it was so hard because by
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  Speaker 1: that after that first lap, you get that little person
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  Speaker 1: on your shower's saying please just stop, can you please stop?
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  Speaker 2: So that we could just stop.
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  Speaker 1: And in getting through that sometimes you find out like, wow,
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  Speaker 1: I didn't feel like doing it today, but I ran
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  Speaker 1: my best time, or I kept going and I had
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  Speaker 1: more left in the tank than what I thought.
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  Speaker 2: You know, you don't want to put.
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  Speaker 3: Limitations on it. You want to push the limitations daily