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Dating With Intentions · We Talk Back

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  Speaker 1: We're just two unapologetically Black women with an opinion who
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  Speaker 1: talk back. Talk back.
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  Speaker 2: Talk back. Talk back. What's up, y'all? We back. Thank
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  Speaker 2: you for tuning in for a new episode of We
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  Speaker 2: Talk Back, a show dedicated to you dreamers and chasers.
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  Speaker 2: This is your co-host, AJ Holiday. What's up, Big Tam?
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  Speaker 2: Big Tam! Shut up, bitch.
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  Speaker 1: And everybody in between.
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  Speaker 2: I love y'all, man. I love y'all.
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  Speaker 1: I'm hungover right now. It was just my birthday.
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  Speaker 2: Isn't this like an ongoing thing for you, though?
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  Speaker 1: Like, girl, no.
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  Speaker 2: Are y'all noticing a pattern, anybody?
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  Speaker 1: I don't be hungover every Monday.
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  Speaker 2: Intervention much?
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  Speaker 1: It's Tuesday, so now.
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  Speaker 2: Y'all send us a DM or add us on something.
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  Speaker 2: Let us know if Tam be fucking drunk every time y'all.
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  Speaker 1: Hear these episodes.
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  Speaker 2: And if you say I do, you a motherfucking lie.
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  Speaker 2: So I have one, maybe two drinks or what. I'm
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  Speaker 2: an alcoholic now. The whole world an ass traitor, Eddie Kaye. Yo,
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  Speaker 2: how the hell you be remembering these goddamn movies like that?
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  Speaker 2: I don't. Okay, I gotta be watching it. I be like, oh,
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  Speaker 2: that's my favorite part. I love them.
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  Speaker 1: I love them. You know I'm a movie buff. How
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  Speaker 1: was your weekend?
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  Speaker 2: No, bitch, how was your weekend? Tell us.
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  Speaker 1: It is my birthday. I hate you missed it, but
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  Speaker 1: I understand going to see your 95-year-old aunt, y'all.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, honey.
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  Speaker 1: But I had so much fun. I love, I want
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  Speaker 1: to be a birthday. I want to be a birthday.
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  Speaker 1: Birthdays are everybody just loving.
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  Speaker 2: On you and giving you shit.
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  Speaker 1: And pouring liquor down your throat, eating your coochie, all
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  Speaker 1: kind of things, you know? I'm in a forest. I
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  Speaker 1: got so many roses in my apartment. I live in
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  Speaker 1: a forest right now.
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  Speaker 2: So it's just cake and shit over here and balloons everywhere.
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  Speaker 2: Don't eat it!
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  Speaker 1: Girl, this cake's so good. I got two cakes and
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  Speaker 1: both of them are delicious, but I'm going to send
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  Speaker 1: them to my friend's school tomorrow because my friend's baby's school.
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  Speaker 1: Let me say that. Because I can't eat no more.
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  Speaker 1: My double chin is doubling like a motherfucker right now.
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  Speaker 1: But it's okay.
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  Speaker 2: I'm happy. You been seeing them little chin straps on Instagram?
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  Speaker 2: I got one of them motherfuckers. I've been thinking about
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  Speaker 2: getting one. It don't work.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. That shit's so uncomfortable. I be taking
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  Speaker 1: that neck brace off.
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  Speaker 2: The shit women go through, dog.
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  Speaker 1: I know, but I put that shit on. My mama
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  Speaker 1: called me. She's like, what's wrong with you? Why you
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  Speaker 1: sound like that? I'm like, what you talking about? I'm fine.
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  Speaker 1: Barely can move your motherfucking mouth in that shit. Shame. Oh, goodness.
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  Speaker 2: Shame, shame, shame.
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  Speaker 1: How was Florida?
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  Speaker 2: Child, we went to Jacksonville. My aunt actually lives right
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  Speaker 2: by the beach. She is 95, still living by herself,
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  Speaker 2: walking around. I had just seen her recently at my
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  Speaker 2: uncle's funeral a couple weeks ago. And I was like, man,
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to come see you. So we orchestrated that
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  Speaker 2: and went down there and hung out with her. So
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  Speaker 2: now I'm going to go back because she has all
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  Speaker 2: the family pictures. I need to collect all that shit
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  Speaker 2: because she is 95. And I feel like I'm slick
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  Speaker 2: the family historian. I got my older cousin who is too.
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  Speaker 2: But we need to hold on to those things. Like,
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  Speaker 2: family is fucking important. I feel like we be forgetting
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  Speaker 2: our heritage, where we come from. You got to get
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  Speaker 2: with the elders and see what shit is.
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  Speaker 1: And photo albums are a thing of the past, you know? Exactly.
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  Speaker 2: So, yeah, she got all these old-ass pictures, everybody obituary. Like,
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  Speaker 2: we could put a whole puzzle piece together. Her house
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  Speaker 2: is like a damn museum of shit, child. And, of course,
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  Speaker 2: the government down there trying to take her house.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, wow. Because it's right on the beach.
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  Speaker 2: Right by the beach.
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  Speaker 1: They want to build a fucking... Hard Rock Cafe where
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  Speaker 1: her house is and some shit like that.
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  Speaker 2: That's what they doing. You seen that old lady in
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  Speaker 2: Hilton Head. They trying to take her family property.
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  Speaker 1: I heard Tyler Perry is supposed to be helping her
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  Speaker 1: keep her shit.
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  Speaker 2: That's good, man, because you know like Gullah Gullah Island.
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  Speaker 2: Y'all remember the cartoon Gullah Gullah Island? That's based off
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  Speaker 2: of the Fusky Island right outside of Charleston, South Carolina.
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  Speaker 2: And these people have inhibited this area for ever. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 2: So now they have increased a lot of people's taxes,
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  Speaker 2: 300 plus percent to acquire their property. That's stealing. Like how,
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  Speaker 2: like how do we sue the counties?
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  Speaker 1: Right. That's American is apple pie. That shit right there, boy.
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  Speaker 2: Stealing.
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  Speaker 1: Stealing. How can I take your shit and make it legal?
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  Speaker 2: Eminent domain, that type of shit need to get rid
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  Speaker 2: of that type of stuff. Oh, we need to put
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  Speaker 2: a highway through this bitch. We just take y'all property.
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  Speaker 1: Right, so why do the government, why I can't eminent
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  Speaker 1: domain somebody's shit? I'm going to go eminent domain a
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  Speaker 1: car out this motherfucker and say shit.
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  Speaker 2: The United States do it all the time. I discovered it.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 2: It's mine. It was just sitting here by itself.
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  Speaker 1: We needed it.
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  Speaker 2: No one was claiming it. We needed it. Now, they
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  Speaker 2: got squatters law, like squatters rule. So, like, say, for instance,
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  Speaker 2: you go into moving on somebody's land or somebody's house
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  Speaker 2: and you've been there for 10 years. It's your shit. Right.
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  Speaker 2: Even if they was paying the taxes on it.
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  Speaker 1: It's still your shit.
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  Speaker 2: This shit is wicked. This shit, wow.
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  Speaker 1: America.
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  Speaker 2: America is a crazy place. Listen, the next 10 years,
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  Speaker 2: I want to be out of America.
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
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  Speaker 2: Like I had actually commented on Rihanna's page the other day.
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  Speaker 2: I was like, girl, you don't know no single Bajans.
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  Speaker 2: I'm trying to get citizenship. I swear to God. Like,
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  Speaker 2: you know, she from Barbados and I heard it was
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  Speaker 2: real hard. They don't just be giving citizenship to anybody.
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  Speaker 2: But like that is a goal in life for me.
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  Speaker 2: Like I want me a beach house with a little boy,
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  Speaker 2: dark skin with blonde hair and my motherfucking husband on
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  Speaker 2: a beach in Barbados. Like that's goals for me. You
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  Speaker 2: think I could do it?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. Why not? I don't know about the blonde hair,
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  Speaker 1: but everything else is very achievable. I mean, even the
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  Speaker 1: blonde hair, if you want to do a little bleach
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  Speaker 1: on your baby, but I don't think that's a good idea.
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  Speaker 2: But you know, the ocean turns people hair blonde. And
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  Speaker 2: like this, this guy I have right now, he has
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  Speaker 2: some really nice brown hair. I think we could possibly
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  Speaker 2: produce it. I don't know. Well, good luck with that.
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  Speaker 2: Let's get into stupid internet news, y'all. Listen, we got
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  Speaker 2: a few things going on this week. One of them
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  Speaker 2: we're not going to really talk about is that Keri
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  Speaker 2: Russell shit. I want to see how that unfolds completely. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: kind of wicked.
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  Speaker 1: I don't want to cast judgment on my good sis.
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  Speaker 2: Or bad sis.
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  Speaker 1: But I'm glad she's home. Yeah, man.
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  Speaker 2: So Sexy Red is catching some backlash for going to
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  Speaker 2: a high school. She was there, okay, to give out
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  Speaker 2: free haircuts and bundles to the students for prom. Because
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  Speaker 2: she said she remembered what it felt like, you know,
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  Speaker 2: not having and wanting those things when she was in
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  Speaker 2: high school. But she came in, crunk, into the gymnasium.
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  Speaker 2: And it sounded like they might have been playing, what's
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  Speaker 2: the song? Bootyhole Brown. But she wasn't performing. Right. I
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  Speaker 2: didn't see her performing the song.
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  Speaker 1: You think them kids don't know that song? They know
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  Speaker 1: that nasty song.
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  Speaker 2: Exactly. And it's not her responsibility for them not to
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  Speaker 2: know it, okay? If y'all want her to... She's not
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  Speaker 2: the parent.
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  Speaker 1: But what I'm trying to figure out, what St. Louis
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  Speaker 1: school got a prom in the motherfucking middle of July?
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  Speaker 1: I'm confused.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe it's for... Maybe it just resurfaced. I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think it was recent. Oh, okay. It may
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  Speaker 2: have just resurfaced, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, okay.
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  Speaker 2: Well... Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: So... Them kids need haircuts and they need bundles.
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not mad. As long as she ain't out performing
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  Speaker 1: that song. Give back, shit.
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  Speaker 2: If I ain't sign no goddamn permission slip, I wish
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  Speaker 2: my kid might be in the gymnasium with them performing
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  Speaker 2: that bullshit.
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  Speaker 1: I wish I might be in the gymnasium with them
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  Speaker 1: performing that bullshit.
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  Speaker 2: I been feeling a little uneasy. Like, okay. There's a
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  Speaker 2: little bit. I think somebody said it was Kehlani's baby.
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  Speaker 2: But she like, like the little video, she was like,
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  Speaker 2: looking for the hoochie daddy. She do her little face
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  Speaker 2: like that. Like, I like that part because of that
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  Speaker 2: little video and his baby singing it. But like the
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  Speaker 2: whole song itself, and I think we talked about this,
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  Speaker 2: like the lyrics, she ain't really saying shit.
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  Speaker 1: Here's the thing. The lyrics that we are allowing our
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  Speaker 1: kids to listen to right now makes me scared to
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  Speaker 1: be an elderly person. What? When I get old, these
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  Speaker 1: are the people that's going to be running the country
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  Speaker 1: and taking care of us.
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  Speaker 2: I'm pretty sure our parents thought the same about us
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  Speaker 2: because a lot of our generation, our generation, we're going
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  Speaker 2: to be in church. Well, y'all going to be in
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  Speaker 2: church with six inch. Well, your back going to be
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  Speaker 2: bad from the heels and you're going to have sexy
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  Speaker 2: tattooed on your neck. You know what I'm saying? With
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  Speaker 2: your gloves on and shit like that's how we're going
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  Speaker 2: to look tatted up.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. But here's the thing. they'll be grown ups with
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  Speaker 1: a booty hole tattooed on they side of they neck
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  Speaker 1: cause shut up that's the kind of shit they grew
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  Speaker 1: up to.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah I mean we.
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  Speaker 1: Had no no no bitch Sukiana was in London did
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  Speaker 1: you see that video Sukiana went to London and she
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  Speaker 1: was like outside talking about eating a nigga ass in
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  Speaker 1: the middle of the afternoon walking down the street embarrassing
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  Speaker 1: me I was embarrassed.
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  Speaker 2: Me too I did have second I saw that video
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  Speaker 2: and I did have second hand embarrassment for sure I don't.
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  Speaker 1: Know I think she just like to stay trending I
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  Speaker 1: think she just I don't think this is really who
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  Speaker 1: she is I think she just you know keeps doing
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  Speaker 1: things to stay trending or something because.
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  Speaker 2: But I just saw a video with her going ham
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  Speaker 2: cause you know her and Tasha K have been going
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  Speaker 2: at it and she was saying like y'all think y'all
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  Speaker 2: hurting me calling me disgusting I know I'm disgusting like
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  Speaker 2: what like this is this is actually who she is
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  Speaker 2: I think we just have to accept the fact that
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  Speaker 2: we are seeing who she is I am now she
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  Speaker 2: could be a different person on a different day and
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  Speaker 2: different situations but this is definitely a part of her
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  Speaker 2: personality that's what she is.
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  Speaker 1: Well I just want to say though and this might
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  Speaker 1: sound very unto you me and I don't care y'all
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  Speaker 1: better stop eating each other ass That's where.
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  Speaker 2: Doo-doo come from.
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  Speaker 1: Doo-doo. You gonna lick that? Why?
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  Speaker 2: There's so many other healthier places on the body to lick.
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  Speaker 2: I'm just saying that. When you bitches in the hospital
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  Speaker 2: with E. coli, just go ahead and play Sukiyama. what
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  Speaker 2: erica badu said erica badu said i need a rim
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  Speaker 2: job yeah i dookie dookie is that what she said
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  Speaker 2: i don't know i think so or whatever i need
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  Speaker 2: a rim job yeah i dookie dookie i ain't saying
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  Speaker 2: don't get your ass ate but just don't be the
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  Speaker 2: eater at least let it be a clean one i
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  Speaker 2: don't know I.
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  Speaker 1: Feel like after two steps from the shower, your booty
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  Speaker 1: hole is again a booty hole.
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  Speaker 2: Two foot steps. As soon as it hit the air.
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  Speaker 2: Two foot steps.
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  Speaker 1: It's back being an asshole, baby.
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  Speaker 2: You're going to have to lick that thing in the water,
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  Speaker 2: under the shower, under the shower head. Can't rip it
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  Speaker 2: out the plastic? It ain't no ripping it out the plastic.
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  Speaker 2: As soon as they hit oxygen, back to being an asshole. Okay?
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  Speaker 2: give somebody else damn shame so speaking of the music
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  Speaker 2: let me just add this on so fabulous fabulous receipt
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  Speaker 2: has been receiving like mixed reactions after claiming there's only
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  Speaker 2: one style of female rap slash hip-hop being promoted so
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  Speaker 2: he tweeted um actually it was an instagram post he
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  Speaker 2: said um love hearing female rappers taking some talking some
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  Speaker 2: real shit Women are so strong, have so many stories
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  Speaker 2: and perspectives that we need to hear in pure form.
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  Speaker 2: No disrespect to any female rappers out, but I think
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  Speaker 2: there's only one style of female rap slash hip hop
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  Speaker 2: being promoted, programmed, and looked at as successful now. It's true.
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  Speaker 2: It's true. But he's getting backlash from some people about it.
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  Speaker 2: And I liked how he... Yeah, I like how he
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  Speaker 2: tried to prime it up and was really nice.
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  Speaker 1: I received it. Yeah, me too.
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  Speaker 2: Because I think we're all still in the same age
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  Speaker 2: group with him as well, kind of. So I feel
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  Speaker 2: the same way. There are different type of rappers out here,
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  Speaker 2: but it does seem to... Right. There's a certain thing
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  Speaker 2: being promoted.
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  Speaker 1: Absolutely. So we got Sexy Red, which I'm proud of.
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  Speaker 1: Any accomplishment, any black woman that's getting money, I'm here
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  Speaker 1: for it. But you don't get to hear Lady London.
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  Speaker 1: You don't get to hear Chica. You don't get to
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  Speaker 1: hear a lot of these artists that don't use sex. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: that don't use sex. They're not blowing up. They're not
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  Speaker 1: being promoted. So I agree with him.
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  Speaker 2: So now they have this small sample size to show
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  Speaker 2: the rest of the world, oh, this is black women. Right.
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  Speaker 2: And it's just not true. We are very much so multifaceted.
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  Speaker 2: We come in all shapes, sizes, colors, sexuality. we don't
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  Speaker 2: all do the same shit. Right. But if this is
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  Speaker 2: all they see and then you got Sukihana over in Europe, Lord,
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  Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying? They're only seeing this one
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  Speaker 2: type of person. So it's almost like I want us
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  Speaker 2: to be presented like when they see us, like it's
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  Speaker 2: just rich bitch energy. like rich bitch grown woman energy
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  Speaker 2: right not like ratchet energy which we're always displayed as
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  Speaker 2: so they can get a different perspective.
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  Speaker 1: Of who we are right because but if we can be.
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  Speaker 2: Ratchet we going there we showing them exactly.
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  Speaker 1: We are also other things and that just needs to
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  Speaker 1: be displayed more but do we support those artists the
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  Speaker 1: same way we have to you know take some accountability
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  Speaker 1: for that like do we want a rhapsody song like
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  Speaker 1: do we want a chica song you know Are we
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  Speaker 1: going to go in the club and dance to a
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  Speaker 1: Rhapsody song? Talk about self-worth.
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  Speaker 2: We don't like that shit. It's not that we don't
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  Speaker 2: like it. Again, what's promoted is what's being promoted right now. Me, personally,
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  Speaker 2: my music selection isn't even rap like that. You know
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  Speaker 2: what I'm saying? I like R & B. I like
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  Speaker 2: old school. I like 90s R & B. I like
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  Speaker 2: old school, old school, old school, Isley Brothers type shit.
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  Speaker 2: And I really, the only time I listen to rap
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  Speaker 2: is if It comes on in a bar, a club,
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  Speaker 2: get crunk with your friends, or at the gym. Yeah. Like,
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  Speaker 2: I don't just be listening to rap. And no, I'm
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  Speaker 2: still not listening to Rhapsody at the gym.
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  Speaker 1: No, I'm a whole thug. I need the beat.
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  Speaker 2: It's the beats for me, not really the lyrics. It's
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  Speaker 2: like how that beat goes so I can get my
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  Speaker 2: momentum going to it. That's it.
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  Speaker 1: I literally be in the bathroom rapping in the mirror
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  Speaker 1: with my gun, so I don't know. It just makes
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  Speaker 1: me feel so gangster.
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  Speaker 2: I would never hurt anybody, though. Not you adding the ER.
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  Speaker 2: So gangster.
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  Speaker 1: I know. I did that on purpose. Girl.
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  Speaker 2: Girl, why? Leon Lott, you hear this, bitch? I think
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  Speaker 2: all our topics today.
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  Speaker 1: I've never been in the mirror with my gun. I've
• 15:17
  Speaker 1: been with my finger guns.
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  Speaker 2: Me either, girl.
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  Speaker 1: My finger guns.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, absolutely. I'm spraying the whole building, bitch. Everybody, you
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  Speaker 2: better move. Shit. You better watch out. The finger guns
• 15:32
  Speaker 2: get active. Let's be clear. Yes. But y'all, all our
• 15:40
  Speaker 2: topics are kind of intertwined today. I was going to
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  Speaker 2: move on to Kiki right quick. All right. So, okay,
• 15:48
  Speaker 2: so we all know what Kiki has going on with
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  Speaker 2: the baby daddy and Usher, still your girl, da-da-da-da-da-da, right?
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  Speaker 2: So recently, the actress performed at the Broccoli City Festival.
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  Speaker 2: Where's that? D.C., right? So, ah, shit. She was performing
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  Speaker 2: a song, right? So she went in, she added some
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  Speaker 2: extra lyrics. Little booties matter. My son gave me some ass.
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  Speaker 2: I'm my own boss. And I got my own cash.
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  Speaker 2: I don't need a nigga. I don't need a nigga.
• 16:21
  Speaker 2: Only thing I need is a bag. This is what
• 16:23
  Speaker 2: she wraps on stage. Her outfit was looking like blah, blah, blah.
• 16:28
  Speaker 2: I feel it's giving social engineering at this point. The
• 16:34
  Speaker 2: minute I saw it, I didn't like it.
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: I didn't want this to be the narrative. But, you know,
• 16:42
  Speaker 1: This shit happen all the time, so.
• 16:45
  Speaker 2: She was like, I'm bougie and hood. Kiki, you are
• 16:48
  Speaker 2: not hood, Kiki. You are from Nickelodeon. Come on. So
• 16:53
  Speaker 2: what are we now, what are we using Kiki, the
• 16:55
  Speaker 2: internet sweetheart, to spread to the world about black women?
• 16:59
  Speaker 2: We need our men. Like, this show in particular, for sure,
• 17:03
  Speaker 2: we don't never be on a hate niggas trained. You
• 17:06
  Speaker 2: know what I'm saying? Because we want men in our lives.
• 17:09
  Speaker 1: Yeah, we talk shit about them. I mean, but we love... Equally,
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: we talk shit about women too. Yeah, we love our men.
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: And I wanted them to fix it instead of, you know,
• 17:19
  Speaker 1: keep moving on.
• 17:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah, because this... Right, because hair now is another thing
• 17:24
  Speaker 2: for the men, right, in certain type of communities, right,
• 17:28
  Speaker 2: to say, well, look, see? See how y'all do us?
• 17:32
  Speaker 2: Fuck these niggas.
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: I just need a bag.
• 17:34
  Speaker 2: We don't need a man. We just need a bag.
• 17:36
  Speaker 1: No fucking way.
• 17:37
  Speaker 2: Promoting single parent hoodism. Like, that's not the goal, man.
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: It's not the goal. And I feel like she's being used.
• 17:46
  Speaker 2: I feel like, I don't think this is happenstance. Y'all
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: know how I feel. Y'all say I spread misinformation. But
• 17:52
  Speaker 2: I want y'all to go check out the Tavistock Institute. Okay?
• 17:56
  Speaker 2: Just go Google it. Read about it. And see how
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: black communities have been being programmed since the early 1900s.
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: Just go check it out. This shit is fucking real
• 18:07
  Speaker 2: what was happening. It's social engineering.
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: And being an independent woman was the dumbest shit I
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: ever bought.
• 18:13
  Speaker 2: I never be on that type of time, bitch. Listen.
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: No, when I was young, like when I was in college,
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: I was like, yes, I'm going to be an independent woman.
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: I'm going to do everything for myself. Now I'm sitting
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: here like, man, shit, somebody get in here with me.
• 18:28
  Speaker 2: The shit the economy gonna force somebody in there with
• 18:31
  Speaker 2: you well i can't wait just don't let it be
• 18:36
  Speaker 2: a nigga a little homeless one off the street somewhere
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: girl you gotta be inviting man they ain't the energy
• 18:44
  Speaker 2: we trying to put out there not in 2023 and
• 18:46
  Speaker 2: beyond that's not the rhetoric i want to see black
• 18:49
  Speaker 2: women pushing I've never said I don't need a man
• 18:52
  Speaker 2: ever a day in my fucking life. I've never said
• 18:55
  Speaker 2: I'm a strong black woman. I'm not a self-proclaimed strong
• 18:59
  Speaker 2: black woman either. OK, let's be clear. And we talk back, though.
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: That's the only thing we're going to do. I think
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: a lot of times people just don't want to hear.
• 19:07
  Speaker 2: Sometimes when people are not ready to take accountability. Right.
• 19:13
  Speaker 2: The truth can sound like an attack. Yeah. A lot
• 19:16
  Speaker 2: of times, black men, they say black women don't take accountability.
• 19:19
  Speaker 2: Y'all have a problem with that shit, too. Like, it's equal.
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: That's what everybody thinks.
• 19:21
  Speaker 2: For the most part.
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 19:23
  Speaker 2: So, when we're voicing our opinions about stuff, because I
• 19:26
  Speaker 2: think even when we tell people what the show name is,
• 19:28
  Speaker 2: it's a.
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: Yeah, they already.
• 19:29
  Speaker 2: We still not those black women that y'all think.
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 19:32
  Speaker 2: Okay?
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: You gotta listen to the show to know that we
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: love our black men. We love and support y'all. Y'all
• 19:38
  Speaker 1: be fucked up. We be fucked up, but we still
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: love you, baby.
• 19:41
  Speaker 2: Exactly.
• 19:42
  Speaker 1: Like, I.
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: I don't like what they doing with Kiki.
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: Me neither.
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: I don't like her new transition. I was rooting for
• 19:50
  Speaker 2: her last week at the baby daddy thing, trying to
• 19:52
  Speaker 2: play in the middle.
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: When she was like, I'm a mother, and she's saying
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: Stevie Wonder, I was like, yeah, leave it right there.
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: That's it. Because y'all can fix this and be a family.
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: Find that love.
• 20:06
  Speaker 2: I don't like this. Because, I mean, there was things
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: that happened. in the 1900s that pushed black men out
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: the home. A lot of them were leaving on their own.
• 20:14
  Speaker 2: We're not going to just put all of it on
• 20:16
  Speaker 2: the government or on black women. Those systems were put
• 20:19
  Speaker 2: in place because black men were leaving their homes. Let's
• 20:22
  Speaker 2: be clear. And I think a lot of times men
• 20:24
  Speaker 2: leave the home when they just can't figure out how
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: to provide with all these things stacking up against them.
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: They can't get a job. They can't take care of
• 20:32
  Speaker 2: their family. So it's easier to not see your family
• 20:34
  Speaker 2: struggle than to actually be there and try to weather
• 20:37
  Speaker 2: the storm with them. And a lot of them run
• 20:40
  Speaker 2: like this is cowardism. That's all it is.
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 20:44
  Speaker 2: But I don't I don't think black women should ever.
• 20:46
  Speaker 2: And the Internet, nobody I've seen some people see it
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: the way we're talking about it. Like this is a problem. Right.
• 20:53
  Speaker 2: But then you have a lot of people like, yeah, girl,
• 20:54
  Speaker 2: because fuck these and be the main ones crying by
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: your damn self. At night, bitch. Okay? Hugging your pillow.
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: Me.
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: Lord, send me somebody, Jesus. Shut up. And then write
• 21:10
  Speaker 2: me on my Insta story. Don't trust no nigga, no.
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: Don't trust no nigga, no. And then be crying as
• 21:17
  Speaker 2: soon as the story stops.
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: Shut up, bitch.
• 21:22
  Speaker 2: You're such a damn actress. Cut it out. While curving everybody. Okay?
• 21:30
  Speaker 2: I don't be curving everybody.
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: I be trying with these.
• 21:33
  Speaker 2: I be trying with these black men.
• 21:34
  Speaker 3: You be trying with the wrong people. Get you a
• 21:38
  Speaker 3: regular nigga. And stop playing with these niggas who think
• 21:41
  Speaker 3: they the bitch. Who think they're the bad bitch. Like
• 21:43
  Speaker 3: they're literally looking in your mirror with you standing next
• 21:45
  Speaker 3: to them. And they probably think they cuter than you too.
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: Ain't no way these ugly ass niggas think.
• 21:51
  Speaker 2: They can be me. Girl, money be making these niggas hallucinate.
• 21:56
  Speaker 2: Let's be clear, Rick Ross was out here calling Toni
• 21:58
  Speaker 2: Braxton old. Nigga, that's your age group. That's your generation.
• 22:03
  Speaker 2: What are you talking about? Nigga, we seen you dive
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: in that pool. You old too. And you melting. Let's
• 22:09
  Speaker 2: be clear. Nigga, you look like an ice cream cone
• 22:13
  Speaker 2: in this hot-ass weather. Tootsie Roll. I like Rick Ross, though.
• 22:18
  Speaker 2: I love Rick Ross. I love Rick Ross, but money
• 22:24
  Speaker 2: be giving these niggas audacity.
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: This is true.
• 22:28
  Speaker 2: A lot of audacity. Look, this week, we talking about
• 22:32
  Speaker 2: dating with intention, y'all. What is it? What is that exactly?
• 22:36
  Speaker 2: What does it mean to date with intention? How does
• 22:38
  Speaker 2: that look? What's the pointers on dating with intention? Can
• 22:40
  Speaker 2: you date multiple people with intention? Because when you are dating,
• 22:44
  Speaker 2: you know, you might want to date a few people
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: to see what's what.
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: Yeah, we're trying to bring the black family back together.
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: So y'all, be intentional.
• 22:52
  Speaker 2: Yeah, man. We got to get them relationships together, man.
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: That's a religion. Relationships, the sun, and music. That's my religion. Y'all,
• 23:01
  Speaker 2: we be back. What's up, y'all? We back.
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: Hey, y'all. It's me, Tammy, and my love, y'all.
• 23:11
  Speaker 2: And it's AJ, y'all. We have a lot of conversations
• 23:14
  Speaker 2: about relationships and love and life. All that same shit, okay?
• 23:20
  Speaker 2: I was talking to one of my friends, and she
• 23:21
  Speaker 2: was like, you know, I'm dating with intention. But she
• 23:25
  Speaker 2: was dating two different men. How could you be dating
• 23:28
  Speaker 2: with intention?
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: You can't be dating two men with intention.
• 23:31
  Speaker 2: No, you got to focus. I feel like when you're
• 23:33
  Speaker 2: dating with intention.
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: No?
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: You don't think so?
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: I'm intentionally dating these two men to see which one
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: I like best.
• 23:39
  Speaker 2: Nah. Dating is one thing, right? Then when you find
• 23:43
  Speaker 2: somebody via dating, right, that you are interested in, they're
• 23:47
  Speaker 2: interested in you, you guys do things intentional. That makes
• 23:52
  Speaker 2: sense to me. Like building together.
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: But sometimes you have to pick. The men you want
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: to date intentionally.
• 23:58
  Speaker 2: That's discernment. You're using discernment to pick the right person
• 24:01
  Speaker 2: that you want to date intentionally. I don't think you
• 24:05
  Speaker 2: can date multiple people with intent. Like intentionally. Dating with intent.
• 24:11
  Speaker 2: What does that even mean? Let's talk about it.
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: Okay, let's define it.
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: All right, so dating. And I also thought about this
• 24:16
  Speaker 2: after seeing Raekwon just got married at 53 years old
• 24:19
  Speaker 2: to his baby mama. Yes, been with, because the kids
• 24:25
  Speaker 2: are adults, I believe.
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 24:27
  Speaker 2: Nigga. I'm not doing it. Get somebody else to do it.
• 24:32
  Speaker 2: Long time girlfriend. If he would have passed away, like
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: somebody who dies, like they put you in the obituary
• 24:39
  Speaker 2: as special friend.
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: Special friend.
• 24:41
  Speaker 2: Imagine being with a nigga for 10 years and y'all
• 24:43
  Speaker 2: got a kid and they got you a special friend.
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: My friend called her boyfriend her special friend and he
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: ain't dead.
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: She an old ass lady at heart. That's my friend, Mr.
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: Earl. My special friend.
• 24:58
  Speaker 2: Uncle Earl. So it says dating with intention refers to
• 25:02
  Speaker 2: entering into romantic relationships. It's plural with the S on
• 25:05
  Speaker 2: the end. With a clear purpose or goal in mind.
• 25:08
  Speaker 2: She's doing it right. Instead of casually dating for the sake...
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: So casual dating. Yeah. Instead of casually dating for the
• 25:15
  Speaker 2: sake of companionship or temporary enjoyment. Individuals who date with
• 25:19
  Speaker 2: intention have a deeper understanding of what they want and
• 25:23
  Speaker 2: are actively seeking a long-term meaningful connection. My attention span is...
• 25:29
  Speaker 2: I'm really like a... What do they call it? A
• 25:32
  Speaker 2: modern-day monogamist? Serial monogamist? No.
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: No.
• 25:36
  Speaker 2: I don't know. Serial monogamy?
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: Shut up.
• 25:45
  Speaker 2: No. I am a modern day. I practice modern day monogamy,
• 25:49
  Speaker 2: which means one dick at a time. One man at
• 25:53
  Speaker 2: a time. Like I saw I got, you know, I might.
• 25:56
  Speaker 2: And when I say one man at a time, it's
• 25:57
  Speaker 2: not just sex.
• 25:58
  Speaker 1: You talking about a threesome or just like. Shut up.
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: You only fucking with one nigga.
• 26:03
  Speaker 2: Just one person. And when I'm fucking with them, I'm
• 26:05
  Speaker 2: not just talking about sex. I'm talking about time, communication,
• 26:09
  Speaker 2: meeting out, like all the things. I can't juggle multiple
• 26:13
  Speaker 2: people when you're actually trying to date with intent and
• 26:16
  Speaker 2: you're trying to show this one person how interested in
• 26:19
  Speaker 2: them you are.
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: How do you pick one, though?
• 26:21
  Speaker 2: Okay, how I pick one nowadays. So there, I have
• 26:26
  Speaker 2: a list, first of all, right? What's on it? I
• 26:31
  Speaker 2: think I read my list here before, and just recently
• 26:34
  Speaker 2: I met a guy, and he... Meeting him forced me
• 26:38
  Speaker 2: to go back and find my list. Because I did
• 26:41
  Speaker 2: this list like three years ago. And I didn't like
• 26:43
  Speaker 2: write the list myself. I was on the phone with
• 26:45
  Speaker 2: one of my friends, an older lady. When I first
• 26:48
  Speaker 2: got into training options, I met her. And she's like
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: a self-proclaimed master manifester, right? She actually goes out and
• 26:53
  Speaker 2: do conferences and shit like that. And while having a
• 26:56
  Speaker 2: general conversation with her, She was sitting there writing my
• 26:59
  Speaker 2: list down. She was like, well, what kind of man
• 27:00
  Speaker 2: are you looking for? You know, because you got to
• 27:02
  Speaker 2: be real specific when you're looking for somebody, whatever. She
• 27:05
  Speaker 2: was writing my things down, and then she sent me
• 27:07
  Speaker 2: this list. I met this guy, and I'm like, this
• 27:10
  Speaker 2: shit is easy. This shit is fucking too easy. Your
• 27:14
  Speaker 2: list was too easy? No, the man is too easy.
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying? You know how you meet somebody,
• 27:19
  Speaker 2: and it's just like a lot of rigmarole, a lot
• 27:21
  Speaker 2: of unsureness. You know what I'm saying? You might be
• 27:25
  Speaker 2: into him, but he's not being as attentive to you.
• 27:28
  Speaker 2: in the beginning and shit like that, this shit easy.
• 27:31
  Speaker 2: So I'm like, damn. So I had to go back
• 27:33
  Speaker 2: and look at my list. Like, did I find a
• 27:35
  Speaker 2: nigga off the list?
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: Mm-hmm. And did you?
• 27:37
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: Bitch.
• 27:40
  Speaker 2: I'm outside inside right now. I'm inside outside right now.
• 27:44
  Speaker 2: You said all of that to say, I don't know
• 27:45
  Speaker 2: if it was a nigga. No, I feel like it.
• 27:47
  Speaker 2: What's on your list? I'll read my list again. It's
• 27:50
  Speaker 2: an earlier episode, but, oh, and one of the things
• 27:53
  Speaker 2: she missed off this list, because this is my first
• 27:55
  Speaker 2: thing that be on list, is fucking generous. Okay. Okay.
• 27:58
  Speaker 2: I need a generous nigga. She missed it. All right.
• 28:02
  Speaker 2: So mentally clear. Okay. Was the first thing spiritual, a
• 28:06
  Speaker 2: choosy lover, which means, and you know, exactly, but he
• 28:11
  Speaker 2: been around. Okay. Loves me for me. You know, I
• 28:14
  Speaker 2: gotta be able to be myself at all times.
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 28:17
  Speaker 2: Uh, monogamous. All right. So when y'all on here, uh,
• 28:22
  Speaker 2: commenting on that fucking video that's been going viral 30,000 times,
• 28:27
  Speaker 2: I don't want a man that cheats. Okay? If we're
• 28:30
  Speaker 2: going to be cheating, if you cheat, I cheat, we Cheetos.
• 28:32
  Speaker 2: That's how that's going to work.
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: Orange.
• 28:35
  Speaker 2: Before you do it, just consider who's making love to
• 28:40
  Speaker 2: your old lady while you was out making love. Exactly.
• 28:47
  Speaker 2: I make niggas cry full time. All right? Good with
• 28:53
  Speaker 2: his hands. All right? I like massages. I actually like
• 28:56
  Speaker 2: to watch massage porn.
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: Do you? Ain't nothing. Massage porn, that's a thing?
• 29:00
  Speaker 2: Yes, bitch. Motherfuckers getting rubbed up and all of a
• 29:03
  Speaker 2: sudden they start sucking dick and smash.
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: No, I've never seen that.
• 29:06
  Speaker 2: You don't need massages and all that. I like massage porn.
• 29:10
  Speaker 2: I like a man that's good with his hands.
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: Ain't nothing worse than a nigga like, let me give
• 29:14
  Speaker 1: you a massage and he do this.
• 29:16
  Speaker 2: Like, boy, get off of me.
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: I want my back rubbed.
• 29:22
  Speaker 2: Oh, they be too rough. Oh, they be too rough.
• 29:28
  Speaker 2: They can get off of me with that little weak
• 29:29
  Speaker 2: ass shit. All of a sudden.
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 29:33
  Speaker 2: Now they go straight to the massage.
• 29:36
  Speaker 1: Now he got a whole palm of ass right after that.
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: Get off of me, nigga.
• 29:39
  Speaker 2: Alright Fit Nice body with a broad back Like a
• 29:43
  Speaker 2: black man's.
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: Back Oh you very specific Yes Is.
• 29:46
  Speaker 2: How I know God is real Okay Them niggas backs
• 29:50
  Speaker 2: be wild now I only talk about like Little roly
• 29:53
  Speaker 2: poly backs Not a wild back I talk about Jonathan
• 29:57
  Speaker 2: Major's back Like Like, yes, nigga. He can pull a
• 30:01
  Speaker 2: tree out of the ground. Silver rights back. Let me
• 30:03
  Speaker 2: get him. I like nice backs. Like, that's my favorite
• 30:07
  Speaker 2: part of a man's body is back. And then it's
• 30:09
  Speaker 2: like the little V cut. If he got that, you know,
• 30:12
  Speaker 2: you know, some of y'all kind of gutty. So you
• 30:14
  Speaker 2: can't even see the V no more. But it used
• 30:16
  Speaker 2: to be there. Attractive to me. You don't have to
• 30:20
  Speaker 2: be the finest. But like I said, I don't have
• 30:22
  Speaker 2: kids yet. I would like my mate. to be aesthetically
• 30:26
  Speaker 2: attractive to me. Between the ages of 35 and 50.
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 30:29
  Speaker 2: Damn it, what that shit. You like, hell nah, nigga,
• 30:35
  Speaker 2: give me a 31-year-old.
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: Yeah. No. I feel like my ages are like between
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: 28 and 42.
• 30:42
  Speaker 2: Are you serious?
• 30:44
  Speaker 1: 28 and 42.
• 30:50
  Speaker 2: Bitch, you want to pack bag lunch for the rest.
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: Of your life? Oh, my. No, I had this one 28-year-old.
• 30:57
  Speaker 2: He had held me up like this, and he was
• 30:58
  Speaker 2: eating raguchi like this, and I was in the sky.
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: I was like, ah!
• 31:02
  Speaker 3: I was like, don't drive me.
• 31:08
  Speaker 2: He's so strong. Big mean. He got a crazy back.
• 31:19
  Speaker 2: Whole while back, for real, because I ain't no little
• 31:21
  Speaker 2: girl holding me up in the air like that. Right,
• 31:23
  Speaker 2: that's a whole lot of shit going on. He can
• 31:26
  Speaker 2: have kids ages 4 to 20. like so little kids
• 31:31
  Speaker 2: not newborns okay and not no two three year olds
• 31:35
  Speaker 2: either so four to five to twenty years old dog
• 31:40
  Speaker 2: lovers I want another dog so you can't be out
• 31:42
  Speaker 2: here hating animals grateful right secure confident a reformed whore
• 31:50
  Speaker 2: I like listen I don't really want a man if
• 31:53
  Speaker 2: you only fuck five people in life because you probably
• 31:56
  Speaker 2: would a woman who only has sex with four to
• 31:57
  Speaker 2: five people So now y'all only know what y'all know. Like,
• 32:02
  Speaker 2: I need you to be able to put some work in.
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: That don't mean nothing because what if you watch a
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: lot of porn and know how to do all the
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: things you like?
• 32:10
  Speaker 2: See, first of all, don't be watching porn and coming
• 32:12
  Speaker 2: over here thinking I'm about to do all this porn shit.
• 32:14
  Speaker 2: That's not. You got to have dealt with real women. Right?
• 32:18
  Speaker 2: Because you're not about to do all this slut me
• 32:20
  Speaker 2: out shit. So you don't want.
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: To be slutted out, but you don't want vanilla sex either.
• 32:25
  Speaker 2: It's hybrid. You know, that's my favorite shit. I'm a
• 32:28
  Speaker 2: real Gemini, y'all. I stay in the middle of all
• 32:31
  Speaker 2: this shit so I can see what the fuck is
• 32:32
  Speaker 2: going on. So I need you to... You don't want
• 32:36
  Speaker 2: no nigga like, no, God doesn't.
• 32:37
  Speaker 1: Want your head down there. No. You don't want that.
• 32:44
  Speaker 2: No.
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: But you also don't want like no porno type.
• 32:49
  Speaker 2: Don't bite my pussy. Like I don't want somebody who
• 32:51
  Speaker 2: don't know how to eat pussy fucking around and bite
• 32:53
  Speaker 2: your shit. Like you just don't know what you're going
• 32:55
  Speaker 2: to get with a guy who hasn't really had access
• 32:57
  Speaker 2: to pussy like that.
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: You know, I want you to be experienced. You can
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: train them to do all.
• 33:02
  Speaker 2: The things you like. I like experienced men. Okay.
• 33:05
  Speaker 1: Okay. That's fair.
• 33:06
  Speaker 2: I'm an experienced woman.
• 33:07
  Speaker 1: Very seasoned.
• 33:09
  Speaker 2: Okay. That's fair. Not no booyah season either. Respectful. You know,
• 33:16
  Speaker 2: that's on the list.
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 33:17
  Speaker 2: Brave and a protector. That's my list.
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: I guess I need to create a list. I don't
• 33:22
  Speaker 1: even have a list written down of all the attributes.
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: My thing be like, it just be simple, like integrity, ambition,
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: some spirituality, caring, sense of humor. Some style and a dick. Yeah, man.
• 33:37
  Speaker 2: Bitch. And money.
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: I say ambition. If you're ambitious.
• 33:41
  Speaker 2: That don't mean nothing. There's a lot of broke-ass ambitious
• 33:44
  Speaker 2: people out here.
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: When I say ambitious.
• 33:47
  Speaker 2: You got to be able to translate that into money. Oh,
• 33:50
  Speaker 2: you're trying to be nice.
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: No, no. That's what I just think of.
• 33:52
  Speaker 2: By not just saying money.
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: Generous. With ambition.
• 33:57
  Speaker 2: That's the word I use. Generous. I like a generous man.
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: Typically men who are ambitious have stuff.
• 34:03
  Speaker 2: But that don't mean they gonna be generous, you know,
• 34:05
  Speaker 2: and it really doesn't matter how much a man make
• 34:06
  Speaker 2: is how much they willing to give you.
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: Right. I'm a sharing man.
• 34:09
  Speaker 2: A generous man. Yes. So that's, huh? Um, I feel
• 34:16
  Speaker 2: like that's a, do you think that list is fucked up?
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: Um, Jordan wants to know if the man has to
• 34:22
  Speaker 1: have everything.
• 34:23
  Speaker 2: No, he doesn't have to have everything. Cause if he
• 34:25
  Speaker 2: had all those that had a, uh, not so wild back,
• 34:29
  Speaker 2: you'd be okay with it. Yeah. You know what I'm saying?
• 34:32
  Speaker 2: I like, I have a certain, like, aesthetic man that
• 34:35
  Speaker 2: I like, and it's kind of changing over time. But, nah,
• 34:40
  Speaker 2: I could go without some of the things. And most
• 34:43
  Speaker 2: of the things would probably be, like, the more physical things, right?
• 34:49
  Speaker 2: But all other shit, I may not. You have to
• 34:52
  Speaker 2: be nice to me. You have to talk to me nice.
• 34:55
  Speaker 2: I'm going to be your muse. I'm going to inspire you.
• 34:58
  Speaker 2: I also want somebody who inspires me. So those are
• 35:00
  Speaker 2: the type of things that I'm looking for. When I'm
• 35:03
  Speaker 2: dating somebody, I want to be able to sit down
• 35:05
  Speaker 2: with the person I'm with and write goals and shit
• 35:08
  Speaker 2: like that. Like, yeah, I haven't had anybody like that.
• 35:11
  Speaker 2: A lot of times you be in situationships and this
• 35:14
  Speaker 2: nigga's planning his whole life without you.
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 35:16
  Speaker 2: I don't want that anymore. I feel like that's what
• 35:18
  Speaker 2: you get when you're not dating somebody who's also dating
• 35:21
  Speaker 2: with intent. And y'all have now chosen each other and
• 35:24
  Speaker 2: y'all can do all these things.
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: When I was talking to this guy and I was
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: asking him, like, you know, what did he want in
• 35:29
  Speaker 1: his future? And everything was about his children. He never
• 35:33
  Speaker 1: said anything about a woman with him. Nothing about it.
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: And I pointed it out to him, and he was like,
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: I didn't even realize that I didn't include that. I
• 35:43
  Speaker 1: have to maybe unpack what that is.
• 35:46
  Speaker 2: Well, that's because they're current. That's currently where he's at.
• 35:50
  Speaker 2: So he's not really thinking about having to consider a
• 35:53
  Speaker 2: new woman. It's just these kids. And I feel like
• 35:56
  Speaker 2: that's why, you know, the last person I was dating,
• 36:00
  Speaker 2: He had sent me a message, and he was like,
• 36:04
  Speaker 2: you know, he worries about, like, being able to take
• 36:06
  Speaker 2: care of me and his girls. Like, why is there even, like...
• 36:10
  Speaker 2: It should be... I feel like that's something I don't
• 36:12
  Speaker 2: really want to hear. I want you to just figure
• 36:14
  Speaker 2: it out. Mm-hmm. To do it. Because it's not hard.
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying? You don't have to take
• 36:18
  Speaker 2: care of me now. Right. So why would... Why is
• 36:21
  Speaker 2: that a thing that would be on your mind? So that,
• 36:24
  Speaker 2: to me, you'll never have another woman in your life.
• 36:26
  Speaker 2: So just be honest with yourself, right? And just... Fuck
• 36:30
  Speaker 2: bitches for the rest of your life. But don't fuck
• 36:32
  Speaker 2: women who don't got kids, though, because you don't want
• 36:34
  Speaker 2: no more kids either.
• 36:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a lot.
• 36:37
  Speaker 2: You know? Bye-bye.
• 36:42
  Speaker 1: I'm trying to decide, have I truly, honestly been dating
• 36:45
  Speaker 1: with intention? Sometimes. But I feel like any time I
• 36:51
  Speaker 1: put my intention on it, it always ends up bad.
• 36:57
  Speaker 2: I don't think you have to be like stressed out
• 36:59
  Speaker 2: about dating with intention. Right. But I do think a
• 37:03
  Speaker 2: lot of times women, the mistake we make is asking
• 37:06
  Speaker 2: for not having these demands after sex and stuff like that.
• 37:10
  Speaker 2: Like the first few dates, be honest and tell a
• 37:12
  Speaker 2: man exactly what you want. So he knows what he's
• 37:15
  Speaker 2: signing up for. Some of them are still probably live
• 37:17
  Speaker 2: to get the pussy. You know, you just don't never know.
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 37:20
  Speaker 2: But let that person know what you're looking for. I'm
• 37:22
  Speaker 2: not just out here eating out with you just because
• 37:25
  Speaker 2: I want a meal, right? I'm actually looking for a.
• 37:30
  Speaker 1: Husband.
• 37:31
  Speaker 2: I want to be married in two years. I want
• 37:34
  Speaker 2: to have a kid. Make sure you put all your
• 37:38
  Speaker 2: deliverables on the table ASAP.
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: But sometimes if you put it out too early, it
• 37:41
  Speaker 1: kind of scares niggas off a little bit.
• 37:44
  Speaker 2: And then he's not the one for you. If me
• 37:46
  Speaker 2: talking about adult shit is scary to you, get yeah
• 37:51
  Speaker 2: that's a good statement too yeah because this is regular
• 37:53
  Speaker 2: adult shit and i understand like the older we get
• 37:56
  Speaker 2: men have kids right so if you know that you're
• 37:59
  Speaker 2: a man that has kids you don't want any more
• 38:01
  Speaker 2: kids why are you talking to me.
• 38:03
  Speaker 1: Yeah and you know that he knows you want a child.
• 38:06
  Speaker 2: Right and also this is another thing i feel like
• 38:10
  Speaker 2: it seemed like the onus is always on a woman
• 38:12
  Speaker 2: so the man say i don't want this right And
• 38:14
  Speaker 2: then he proceeds with you. You're saying, I want this.
• 38:18
  Speaker 2: You proceed with him.
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: Why'd you stay if you knew I ain't want that?
• 38:21
  Speaker 2: Nah, fuck that. Why'd you stay when you knew that's
• 38:24
  Speaker 2: what I wanted? Yeah. We both had a decision to make. Yeah.
• 38:28
  Speaker 2: You chose to stay. I chose to stay. Why is
• 38:31
  Speaker 2: the onus always on the woman?
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: I let her know. I let her know it wasn't
• 38:34
  Speaker 1: that type of time.
• 38:35
  Speaker 2: Exactly.
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: Meanwhile, I'm fucking her raw. I took her to meet
• 38:37
  Speaker 1: my mama. Trips. She got the kids this weekend.
• 38:41
  Speaker 2: I ain't even going to be there, but she got
• 38:42
  Speaker 2: my kids. Exactly. That's what I'm saying. Like, they'll play
• 38:47
  Speaker 2: with you as long as you let them. And that's
• 38:49
  Speaker 2: some bullshit.
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: That's a fact.
• 38:51
  Speaker 2: Listen. So, clarity of purpose is the first part of this.
• 38:55
  Speaker 2: It says, an individual is dating with intention... have a
• 38:57
  Speaker 2: clear understanding of what they are looking for in a
• 39:00
  Speaker 2: partner and what they want to achieve in a relationship.
• 39:03
  Speaker 2: They are focused on finding compatible match based on shared values,
• 39:06
  Speaker 2: life goals, and long-term compatibility. So first date, it is
• 39:12
  Speaker 2: not inappropriate to talk about this stuff, I feel like.
• 39:14
  Speaker 2: Y'all can just kill so much time. Right. You know
• 39:17
  Speaker 2: what I'm saying? Aside from a cock shot, I'm going
• 39:20
  Speaker 2: to tell you all these other things that I need
• 39:23
  Speaker 2: from you.
• 39:24
  Speaker 1: So what if you met a guy... who had all
• 39:26
  Speaker 1: those things? I mean, he was absolutely perfect. And then
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: his dick wasn't enough. Then what?
• 39:34
  Speaker 2: What does enough mean?
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: Whatever enough mean for you.
• 39:37
  Speaker 2: Like micro?
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: It wasn't. No, not a micro dick.
• 39:40
  Speaker 2: Okay, I can do a micro.
• 39:42
  Speaker 1: Not a micro dick. You know, micro dicks we love, too. Hopefully,
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: there's someone out there that just, like, I love nothing
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: but micro dicks.
• 39:50
  Speaker 2: This is crazy, right? A nigga penis never has to
• 39:54
  Speaker 2: be this big. Women can't even take all this, right?
• 39:57
  Speaker 2: Half the time, okay? It's just unrealistic.
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 40:01
  Speaker 2: And I always say, about five to seven inches is
• 40:04
  Speaker 2: all you need as a woman. Anything else is ridiculous.
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: How long has it been?
• 40:08
  Speaker 2: That shit probably like eight inches in with the girth
• 40:11
  Speaker 2: on it is wild.
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: Wild back, wild dick. I don't need both.
• 40:16
  Speaker 2: But I need enough to be filled up. I want
• 40:19
  Speaker 2: more girth than anything. So this is thick. Yeah.
• 40:24
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 40:25
  Speaker 2: Where is this going, bitch?
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I was just trying to figure out,
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: assess like what was important.
• 40:32
  Speaker 2: So if he just got all the things but no dick.
• 40:37
  Speaker 2: I have loved a man who did not have a
• 40:40
  Speaker 2: lot of dick. And I've been cheated on by one
• 40:42
  Speaker 2: who doesn't have a lot of dick. And that's the
• 40:44
  Speaker 2: most hurtful thing.
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: And I love that little dick to death. I loved it.
• 40:46
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I loved him.
• 40:48
  Speaker 1: Because he had all the other things. So his little
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: dick felt like a big dick because he was so
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: big in all the other areas.
• 40:54
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah. But then once shit get.
• 40:56
  Speaker 2: Bad, I was like, I can't believe I've been acting
• 40:58
  Speaker 2: like this behind this little dick. Now gone. The nerve
• 41:03
  Speaker 2: of you to cheat on me with that. You can't
• 41:06
  Speaker 2: unsuck it though. They be talking shit about them dudes.
• 41:09
  Speaker 2: You can't unfuck them. You can't unsuck it. You was
• 41:12
  Speaker 2: loving that little dick. Give me my pussy back. My
• 41:14
  Speaker 2: problem is you embarrassing me letting people know what type
• 41:17
  Speaker 2: of dick I've been dealing with all this time. That's
• 41:19
  Speaker 2: why I'm mad. Now everybody know I've been sexually frustrated
• 41:24
  Speaker 2: for the last three years. Boy, fuck you. Bye. Emotional readiness.
• 41:36
  Speaker 2: People who date with intention have taken the time to
• 41:38
  Speaker 2: work on themselves, heal from past relationships. I'm still working
• 41:42
  Speaker 2: progress on that shit. And develop a strong sense of self.
• 41:45
  Speaker 2: They are emotionally prepared to engage in a healthy, committed partnership.
• 41:49
  Speaker 2: You know what I got a problem with? I be
• 41:51
  Speaker 2: talking too much about the past. You know, I've seen
• 41:54
  Speaker 2: a video on Instagram, and I know better, right? But
• 41:57
  Speaker 2: I just, I'm an open book. I don't mind. It's
• 41:59
  Speaker 2: not that I'm still living there. Some of the shit
• 42:02
  Speaker 2: I've been through is just fucking funny and wild. I
• 42:04
  Speaker 2: want to tell somebody else about it.
• 42:06
  Speaker 1: But in the beginning, it's off-putting for me when a
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: man comes and trashes his ex to me in the
• 42:12
  Speaker 1: first date. Just talking about their ex-wife all bad and
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: talking about their ex-girlfriend all bad. I'd be like, do
• 42:20
  Speaker 1: you want to know anything about me or are we
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: going to sit here and talk about this last bitch
• 42:24
  Speaker 1: the whole time? I've never experienced that for real. I've
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: had that happen. And it's off-putting, like, what makes you
• 42:31
  Speaker 1: think I would want to date you now the way
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: you're dragging this other person? And maybe they were a
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: shit person, but your energy is wrong for what I
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: got going on. Make me laugh, nigga. Right.
• 42:40
  Speaker 2: Tell a joke. Yeah, I never experienced that from a man,
• 42:42
  Speaker 2: but I've definitely, like, when you start having them two-hour-long
• 42:45
  Speaker 2: conversations with people, stuff come out sometimes. Yeah. One of
• 42:48
  Speaker 2: my homegirls, she was like, if you are a woman
• 42:51
  Speaker 2: and you have a baby and the man is not
• 42:53
  Speaker 2: in the kid's life because he's choosing not to, and
• 42:56
  Speaker 2: you find another man, just tell him that nigga dead.
• 42:59
  Speaker 2: Don't be telling, don't be telling, don't be telling.
• 43:03
  Speaker 1: That's a lie though.
• 43:04
  Speaker 2: That's not a lie. Like essentially he is. Like you
• 43:06
  Speaker 2: don't even take care of your kid. You are dead.
• 43:08
  Speaker 1: You're not dead. He's just a dead beat.
• 43:11
  Speaker 2: Dog. You don't want to let a man know about
• 43:14
  Speaker 2: failed relationships. That's the thing. Why? Because sometimes subconsciously some people,
• 43:20
  Speaker 2: they'll put you through the same shit thinking you can
• 43:22
  Speaker 2: deal with it.
• 43:22
  Speaker 1: Because you did. You let that last digger.
• 43:25
  Speaker 2: Exactly. I literally had one of my exes like, Okay,
• 43:30
  Speaker 2: when I was with him, he got his baby mama
• 43:33
  Speaker 2: pregnant for the third time. No, he had two kids
• 43:35
  Speaker 2: when I met him. He got her pregnant, right?
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: While you were together?
• 43:38
  Speaker 2: Yes, I had a tubal pregnancy, right? So now she
• 43:41
  Speaker 2: has a baby. So the years later now, I'm with
• 43:45
  Speaker 2: another man. I'm living in a long-distance relationship. He gets
• 43:49
  Speaker 2: somebody pregnant. I'm telling my first ex that was on
• 43:52
  Speaker 2: this type of time, because he's never not been trying
• 43:54
  Speaker 2: to get with me, like get me back, right, over
• 43:56
  Speaker 2: all these years. He like, you took that nigga back.
• 44:00
  Speaker 2: You trying to compare your fuck up to his fuck up.
• 44:03
  Speaker 2: The difference is you was living five minutes from me.
• 44:06
  Speaker 2: This nigga was living 800 miles from me. Shit happens.
• 44:09
  Speaker 2: That's a little bit more understandable. But he really was
• 44:12
  Speaker 2: like mad because I dealt with some shit from somebody
• 44:18
  Speaker 2: else and deal with it from him.
• 44:21
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's crazy.
• 44:22
  Speaker 2: You can't get mad.
• 44:23
  Speaker 1: So you're not going to let me play you like
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: the last nigga?
• 44:26
  Speaker 2: No, I'm not, nigga.
• 44:28
  Speaker 1: What's wrong with you, man?
• 44:30
  Speaker 2: Like, I'm wrong.
• 44:32
  Speaker 1: See, that's what's wrong with y'all bitches now.
• 44:35
  Speaker 2: Y'all just don't be letting people play y'all like y'all
• 44:37
  Speaker 2: used to. That's really why they mad at me. They
• 44:41
  Speaker 2: really be out here mad because they can't, especially this
• 44:43
  Speaker 2: younger generation of women. Like, they don't, they don't, girl,
• 44:46
  Speaker 2: they don't give a fuck.
• 44:47
  Speaker 1: They do not give a fuck. They ain't no pimps outside.
• 44:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah, they don't give a fuck. I just hope they're
• 44:52
  Speaker 2: doing it careful. And the only worst part about it
• 44:54
  Speaker 2: is that while they're not giving a fuck, they're also
• 44:56
  Speaker 2: still creating other humans.
• 44:57
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 44:58
  Speaker 2: That's the fucked up part about it.
• 44:59
  Speaker 1: Mm-hmm.
• 45:00
  Speaker 2: You know, you can not give a fuck and be
• 45:02
  Speaker 2: by your damn self.
• 45:03
  Speaker 1: It looks a little bit different. But Lotto said, I'll
• 45:05
  Speaker 1: spend that 500 for you. What he said, before I
• 45:08
  Speaker 1: ever trap you?
• 45:09
  Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.
• 45:09
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I was like, woo, these.
• 45:11
  Speaker 2: Lyrics are going there. But emotional readiness, they got to
• 45:17
  Speaker 2: be on the same page. And you're not going to
• 45:19
  Speaker 2: know that unless y'all talk about it, right? So instead
• 45:21
  Speaker 2: of playing guesswork and hoping he's on the same page
• 45:25
  Speaker 2: as you, I don't like feeling confused no more. I
• 45:28
  Speaker 2: need to know exactly where I stand in your life.
• 45:31
  Speaker 2: I don't need you making plans for the future without
• 45:33
  Speaker 2: me if I'm in your life today. Like, what the fuck?
• 45:36
  Speaker 2: Because everything I do, I'm thinking about you. I'm considering
• 45:39
  Speaker 2: you in everything I do. Damn, I wonder if he
• 45:41
  Speaker 2: can do it with me. That's how I, when I'm
• 45:43
  Speaker 2: with somebody, even just smashing, if I'm smashing you on
• 45:45
  Speaker 2: a damn regular, and you my smash buddy, and we
• 45:48
  Speaker 2: go to lunch, dinner, and do all these things together, like,
• 45:51
  Speaker 2: I'm considering you for my future, too.
• 45:53
  Speaker 1: What you mean, smash buddy?
• 45:55
  Speaker 2: Fucking.
• 45:56
  Speaker 1: So, if y'all are just having a sexual relationship.
• 45:58
  Speaker 2: But that's, a lot of these situationships, it'd be a
• 46:01
  Speaker 2: lot of sex involved. Mm-hmm. Right? A lot of sex,
• 46:04
  Speaker 2: and then you might eat in between. Mm-hmm. Y'all might
• 46:06
  Speaker 2: go on a trip or two, here and there. Mm-hmm.
• 46:09
  Speaker 2: But it'd be a lot of sex to me.
• 46:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it do be a lot of sex. But I'm
• 46:12
  Speaker 1: confused as to what you're saying. So if you have
• 46:15
  Speaker 1: someone who you're just sleeping with, you still considering them
• 46:18
  Speaker 1: in that way?
• 46:20
  Speaker 2: I guess I don't just be sleeping with them. You
• 46:22
  Speaker 2: know what I'm saying?
• 46:23
  Speaker 1: Well, then it's not a smash buddy.
• 46:25
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but you don't know what he thinks it is.
• 46:27
  Speaker 2: So I guess I'm calling it a smash buddy because
• 46:31
  Speaker 2: if you're not considering me, you obviously think I'm a
• 46:33
  Speaker 2: smash buddy. You know what I'm saying? If you're not
• 46:36
  Speaker 2: considering me for anything else, like any real life events.
• 46:38
  Speaker 1: No, yeah, you're right.
• 46:40
  Speaker 2: So that's just, you know, I'm just going based off
• 46:43
  Speaker 2: what the man. I don't want to be confused. I
• 46:45
  Speaker 2: don't want to have to guess where we are anymore. Right.
• 46:49
  Speaker 2: So and then if I ask you, I don't want
• 46:51
  Speaker 2: no fucking whack ass ambiguous response. Like where are you?
• 46:56
  Speaker 1: Where are you? Where are you with me? Where are you?
• 47:01
  Speaker 2: If you even have to ask, you probably should get
• 47:04
  Speaker 2: the fuck about it here. You know, because I feel
• 47:07
  Speaker 2: like a man with real intentions for you. He makes
• 47:09
  Speaker 2: it clear that he's fucking with you. There's no guesswork involved.
• 47:14
  Speaker 2: So get with emotionally ready people, right? Open communication. Love it.
• 47:21
  Speaker 2: Communication is crucial in dating with intention. These individuals are
• 47:26
  Speaker 2: upfront and honest about their intentions, desires, and expectations from
• 47:29
  Speaker 2: the beginning. They express their goals and listen actively to
• 47:33
  Speaker 2: their partner's needs and aspirations.
• 47:35
  Speaker 1: I think that's important because I think oftentimes, especially younger women,
• 47:39
  Speaker 1: find themselves committed to a nigga that they never asked
• 47:43
  Speaker 1: to be in a relationship. Like, he never asked you
• 47:45
  Speaker 1: to be his girl. Y'all never had that conversation. Y'all
• 47:48
  Speaker 1: never had a verbal agreement that y'all were committed. And
• 47:51
  Speaker 1: now you are in a committed relationship. Right. Essentially by yourself.
• 47:55
  Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.
• 47:55
  Speaker 1: You know, so, and maybe he's doing all the things
• 47:57
  Speaker 1: that would say he's committed to you, but in the
• 47:59
  Speaker 1: event that he does something that proves he's not, he
• 48:02
  Speaker 1: can say, we never said we was in a relationship.
• 48:05
  Speaker 2: And that's some bullshit. And that's why going forward in
• 48:08
  Speaker 2: my next relationship, if whoever's listening, I need a certified letter, right? Notarized.
• 48:15
  Speaker 2: And it could be in like some little shit from
• 48:17
  Speaker 2: high school. Check yes or no. Right? I want you
• 48:20
  Speaker 2: to be my girl. Check yes or no. I need that.
• 48:23
  Speaker 2: I want you to be my wife. In a little bit.
• 48:26
  Speaker 2: You know, something. I need that confirmation because I've never
• 48:29
  Speaker 2: done that.
• 48:30
  Speaker 1: Have you?
• 48:30
  Speaker 2: No, not a certified man. No, I'm saying have you
• 48:32
  Speaker 2: ever had a man say, hey, man, I want you
• 48:34
  Speaker 2: to be my girl? Like, how long ago was that?
• 48:37
  Speaker 1: So I have had a commitment phobia most of my life.
• 48:42
  Speaker 1: I'm working on it. And all my relationships was like
• 48:46
  Speaker 1: either we about to be together or we got to
• 48:49
  Speaker 1: leave each other alone. What you going to do? Because
• 48:52
  Speaker 1: I'd be like, why we got him with a label
• 48:54
  Speaker 1: on it? I mean, I don't know. That was always me.
• 48:57
  Speaker 1: So even with like my last one and the one
• 49:00
  Speaker 1: before that was definitely like.
• 49:02
  Speaker 2: They asking you what it is?
• 49:04
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 49:06
  Speaker 2: Yo, you see? All right. Y'all think I be tripping,
• 49:09
  Speaker 2: but I'm dealing with a whole grown ass man. Okay.
• 49:12
  Speaker 2: I'm in a fucking committed relationship, fucking mentally, contractually, physically
• 49:19
  Speaker 2: with a grown ass lady boy just think about your
• 49:26
  Speaker 2: relationship with these niggas I'm now ready for commitment in
• 49:30
  Speaker 2: a real way but there was a time where I
• 49:32
  Speaker 2: was just like why so you're emotionally ready now for
• 49:35
  Speaker 2: a committed relationship are you sure I am very sure
• 49:38
  Speaker 2: okay all right that sounds good all right i believe
• 49:41
  Speaker 2: you i don't think i would like it much bitch
• 49:43
  Speaker 2: it wouldn't be that now it wouldn't be like um
• 49:47
  Speaker 2: either listen you need to be my girl we just
• 49:49
  Speaker 2: need to stop doing this i don't think i'm not
• 49:51
  Speaker 2: there no more i think like i would be ready
• 49:54
  Speaker 2: like okay let's let's go ahead and do this for
• 49:56
  Speaker 2: real so you can give me or you can end
• 49:58
  Speaker 2: up on the other side where you ask him so
• 50:01
  Speaker 2: what we'll be doing.
• 50:02
  Speaker 1: Um i just don't feel like i'll ever be there
• 50:04
  Speaker 1: because there's just so many options Like, nigga, you know,
• 50:08
  Speaker 1: this is a dumb nigga right here, right here, right here,
• 50:10
  Speaker 1: right here, right here, right here.
• 50:11
  Speaker 2: I feel like these dudes don't realize, like, y'all, they
• 50:13
  Speaker 2: think they got so many options. Men don't have that
• 50:15
  Speaker 2: much options. Nigga, if I'm choosing you while you're balding,
• 50:20
  Speaker 2: while you're gaining weight, why you doing it? Nigga, and
• 50:22
  Speaker 2: I still want you.
• 50:23
  Speaker 1: I gain weight, too, though.
• 50:25
  Speaker 2: Exactly. Like, all of us, we all aging. Nobody's getting
• 50:28
  Speaker 2: any younger, and I'm still choosing you.
• 50:33
  Speaker 1: Excuse me.
• 50:34
  Speaker 2: Why do you think you got all these options out here?
• 50:35
  Speaker 2: It's only like five bitches out here and there's five
• 50:37
  Speaker 2: niggas left. Like, what are you going to do?
• 50:42
  Speaker 1: Let's bring it back to social media. Social media will
• 50:45
  Speaker 1: make you feel.
• 50:46
  Speaker 2: Like you have access to everybody. Why do you want
• 50:51
  Speaker 2: access to everybody? Who was I talking to recently that said, no,
• 50:57
  Speaker 2: we wasn't. This is actually, I was watching me. No, bitch.
• 51:05
  Speaker 2: that men really think they can fuck everybody I.
• 51:08
  Speaker 1: Don't think men think that I was literally no they
• 51:11
  Speaker 1: can't fuck nobody Jordan do men feel like they can
• 51:16
  Speaker 1: fuck everybody Yeah, but I don't think that.
• 51:19
  Speaker 2: Carlos Miller said that on our episode. That's what I
• 51:22
  Speaker 2: was watching. I saw that. He said he can fuck everybody. Yes.
• 51:27
  Speaker 2: He was like, it's 365 days in the year. But,
• 51:31
  Speaker 2: you know, and I said... I mean, you might have access,
• 51:35
  Speaker 2: but is it forceful? Did they consent, though? You know
• 51:40
  Speaker 2: what I'm saying? What are we talking about? Because you cannot,
• 51:43
  Speaker 2: as a man, fuck who you want.
• 51:45
  Speaker 1: Not oftentimes.
• 51:46
  Speaker 2: I think women can. We can go out now at
• 51:48
  Speaker 2: Walmart and pick up some dick in a real way. Yeah.
• 51:50
  Speaker 2: But men can't do that.
• 51:52
  Speaker 1: No, I don't think they can do it the same way.
• 51:55
  Speaker 1: But it depends on what man. Because I feel like
• 51:57
  Speaker 1: there are some men that can just have their pick
• 51:59
  Speaker 1: of the litter.
• 51:59
  Speaker 2: Yeah, some. Yeah. Very slim.
• 52:02
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 52:03
  Speaker 2: Usually millionaires. And that's when it should be. You're just
• 52:08
  Speaker 2: out here getting all these bitches and you ain't got
• 52:09
  Speaker 2: nothing for them. So open communication, that's my favorite. You
• 52:14
  Speaker 2: should be able to talk to whoever you with. Ask
• 52:16
  Speaker 2: them questions and they give you real valid answers. Not
• 52:20
  Speaker 2: some beating around the bush type shit to keep you
• 52:23
  Speaker 2: continuously confused about what's actually happening. Next one is building
• 52:29
  Speaker 2: a strong foundation. Dating with intention involves investing time and
• 52:33
  Speaker 2: effort into building a solid foundation for a relationship. This
• 52:37
  Speaker 2: includes developing trust, fostering emotional connection, and nurturing shared values.
• 52:50
  Speaker 2: I feel like we kind of talked about that already.
• 52:55
  Speaker 2: Evaluating compatibility is the next one. Those who date with
• 52:58
  Speaker 2: intention are mindful of evaluating the compatibility between themselves and
• 53:02
  Speaker 2: their potential partners. They take the time to assess whether
• 53:05
  Speaker 2: their relationship aligns with their long-term goals and values. I
• 53:09
  Speaker 2: do need to be with somebody who has the same.
• 53:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I was dating this guy. I really liked him.
• 53:13
  Speaker 1: He was so fine. He was a Marine. He was, like, strong.
• 53:17
  Speaker 1: He just had this presence about him. He had the
• 53:20
  Speaker 1: most beautiful teeth and dimples, chocolate, great personality. I loved
• 53:25
  Speaker 1: everything about him. And I was like, okay, I'll marry
• 53:29
  Speaker 1: this guy. But he did not believe in God.
• 53:33
  Speaker 2: Like, in what way did he not? Did he think
• 53:35
  Speaker 2: God was within him? Or just an atheist?
• 53:38
  Speaker 1: He was an atheist. And a black atheist.
• 53:42
  Speaker 2: Why you say that like that? There's a lot of
• 53:43
  Speaker 2: people who don't, like, believe in God in the same
• 53:46
  Speaker 2: sense that, you know, Christians might.
• 53:48
  Speaker 1: Okay, well, you don't have to be a Christian. When
• 53:51
  Speaker 1: I said my list, I said spirituality. So... He just
• 53:55
  Speaker 1: didn't believe in nothing. It was like the absence of
• 53:59
  Speaker 1: belief to me.
• 54:01
  Speaker 2: But how was he living his life? How was he
• 54:03
  Speaker 2: as a person?
• 54:04
  Speaker 1: He was a joyous person. Like a joyous person, but
• 54:08
  Speaker 1: I just needed you to believe in something.
• 54:09
  Speaker 2: Why? He believed in himself. I bet you. So one
• 54:12
  Speaker 2: day I was in South Park Mall and these girls,
• 54:16
  Speaker 2: they said they was doing some study for their college
• 54:19
  Speaker 2: or something and they walked up on me and they
• 54:21
  Speaker 2: started talking about christianity and religion and all that and
• 54:24
  Speaker 2: i'm like uh she says something about jesus christ and
• 54:31
  Speaker 2: i was like i don't practice that you know what
• 54:32
  Speaker 2: i'm saying so um she was like well you don't
• 54:35
  Speaker 2: believe in nothing i said i believe in me i
• 54:38
  Speaker 2: believe in the god in me right so maybe he
• 54:40
  Speaker 2: didn't have the words to express in that way a
• 54:42
  Speaker 2: lot i think that's where a lot of people are
• 54:44
  Speaker 2: atheists They don't have the words. And I don't want
• 54:47
  Speaker 2: to put words in people's mouths. But they may not
• 54:50
  Speaker 2: have the depth to express what it is.
• 54:52
  Speaker 1: But you absolutely have to believe in something.
• 54:56
  Speaker 2: You don't have to do anything.
• 54:59
  Speaker 1: You don't have to. But I would need the person
• 55:01
  Speaker 1: that I'm with to proclaim that.
• 55:04
  Speaker 2: Not just live their life good and treat you good.
• 55:06
  Speaker 1: Believe in God.
• 55:07
  Speaker 2: Why?
• 55:08
  Speaker 1: Because that's what I believe in. And I need us
• 55:11
  Speaker 1: to align in that way. That's just one thing that
• 55:13
  Speaker 1: I desire.
• 55:14
  Speaker 2: I guess I understand him. I understand people when they
• 55:17
  Speaker 2: say they don't believe in God or they don't believe
• 55:19
  Speaker 2: a God exists. This world is treacherous. It's just a terrible...
• 55:25
  Speaker 2: Kids get done up. Any place where kids get the
• 55:30
  Speaker 2: worst shit happening to them, this can't be a godly place.
• 55:33
  Speaker 2: When I think about what God is, right?
• 55:35
  Speaker 1: I also think you have to consider how you view
• 55:38
  Speaker 1: the world too. Cause I see goodness where I go.
• 55:40
  Speaker 1: I see children thriving. I see happy kids. I see love.
• 55:43
  Speaker 2: But the things you don't see, you see the news though, right?
• 55:46
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I do. I do. But I choose to focus
• 55:48
  Speaker 1: my energy on the godly things and be the godly
• 55:51
  Speaker 1: things that exist. So I don't see the world as treacherous.
• 55:55
  Speaker 1: I try not to look at it in that light.
• 55:57
  Speaker 1: And I feel like the way you view the world,
• 55:58
  Speaker 1: you're going to see what you view, you know?
• 56:01
  Speaker 2: No, I think that you're going to probably manifest the
• 56:03
  Speaker 2: things in you what you're viewing, right? But you can't
• 56:06
  Speaker 2: just be out in the world in ignorance as if
• 56:09
  Speaker 2: things aren't happening to people, you know, because we see
• 56:12
  Speaker 2: it every day, all day. So him being a good person,
• 56:15
  Speaker 2: I feel like him being a good person, treating you nice,
• 56:20
  Speaker 2: that is godlike. That is godly. Just because he didn't
• 56:22
  Speaker 2: have this self-proclaimed belief like you do, I would not
• 56:27
  Speaker 2: have discarded him in no way.
• 56:29
  Speaker 1: No, he had to go. Get up out of there,
• 56:31
  Speaker 1: my boy. I'm sorry. I need you to believe me.
• 56:35
  Speaker 2: That's what we differ. If I was sitting down, when
• 56:36
  Speaker 2: we do our, and I have a good idea for
• 56:39
  Speaker 2: our dating little thing we will do one day. If
• 56:44
  Speaker 2: I was sitting at a table with a man and he,
• 56:47
  Speaker 2: you know, telling me all these things and he was
• 56:48
  Speaker 2: like he's an atheist or I don't believe in God,
• 56:51
  Speaker 2: I would just need him to expound a little bit more.
• 56:54
  Speaker 2: That's all. But if you're living your life right, I
• 56:56
  Speaker 2: don't believe that I'm going to die. I don't believe
• 56:58
  Speaker 2: in like heaven and hell. I believe that's internal. You've
• 57:01
  Speaker 2: created that heaven and hell. Whatever you believe subconsciously is
• 57:04
  Speaker 2: where you're going to go once you pass this realm, right?
• 57:07
  Speaker 2: So if you are living godly, if you are living,
• 57:12
  Speaker 2: you know, have compassion for people, consideration for people, why
• 57:16
  Speaker 2: would I go to hell? Newborn babies or whatever the
• 57:18
  Speaker 2: age is that they say you've got to repent by
• 57:21
  Speaker 2: or when you die, you're going to hell. Like kids
• 57:24
  Speaker 2: haven't even had the experiences yet to be good or
• 57:27
  Speaker 2: bad or repent. Why would they go to hell? That
• 57:31
  Speaker 2: doesn't make sense to me, right? So there's a lot
• 57:33
  Speaker 2: of things in the religion I don't agree with either.
• 57:36
  Speaker 2: So I wouldn't dismiss that person.
• 57:37
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I just want someone that I can pray with.
• 57:40
  Speaker 1: And then if you're a person who doesn't pray because
• 57:43
  Speaker 1: you don't believe in those things, we're just not in alignment.
• 57:48
  Speaker 1: He didn't do none of that. I don't think he just,
• 57:51
  Speaker 1: it was the void of any spirituality. I think he
• 57:54
  Speaker 1: needed to find whatever that was, you know? So it
• 57:58
  Speaker 1: just didn't align with me. I want to pray over
• 58:00
  Speaker 1: my food. I want to pray in the morning. I
• 58:02
  Speaker 1: want to pray before, you know, if I'm having surgery,
• 58:05
  Speaker 1: I want a man who's praying over me. I don't
• 58:07
  Speaker 1: want a man who's.
• 58:10
  Speaker 2: Like... Right? Not see you on the other side. No,
• 58:14
  Speaker 2: he don't even believe in no other side, perhaps. Or
• 58:16
  Speaker 2: he believes that you'll be okay. That is... That's enough
• 58:21
  Speaker 2: prayer that I, that's all the prayer I need.
• 58:23
  Speaker 1: I didn't know. I didn't know that.
• 58:23
  Speaker 2: The belief that you're going to be good.
• 58:25
  Speaker 1: I didn't know that. I didn't know that to be true.
• 58:28
  Speaker 1: It was just like the absence of.
• 58:29
  Speaker 2: Because you dismissed him.
• 58:30
  Speaker 1: The absence of, yeah, I had to let him go
• 58:32
  Speaker 1: on about his business. You thought he was a demon
• 58:34
  Speaker 1: in your house or something?
• 58:35
  Speaker 2: I ain't, I wasn't going to get a chance to
• 58:37
  Speaker 2: find out. Big skirt ass. Big skirt ass. So yeah,
• 58:43
  Speaker 2: that's what dating with intention is. And I mean, we
• 58:47
  Speaker 2: can go on and on with this list thing, but.
• 58:50
  Speaker 1: But okay, hold on. And here's another thing about him.
• 58:52
  Speaker 1: He would mock my beliefs. That was a problem. Like how?
• 58:58
  Speaker 2: Give me an example. Like.
• 59:00
  Speaker 1: Oh, here you go talking about your God again.
• 59:02
  Speaker 2: Oh, no.
• 59:02
  Speaker 1: See, yeah.
• 59:04
  Speaker 2: He can get the fuck... Now, I do... That's a
• 59:06
  Speaker 2: whole house divided.
• 59:07
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 59:08
  Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. Like, so my thing is like diet, though. Like,
• 59:11
  Speaker 2: if you eat too much steak, like I'm not trying
• 59:14
  Speaker 2: to make somebody like change their whole shit for me
• 59:16
  Speaker 2: or some Erica about do shit. But I feel like
• 59:18
  Speaker 2: I'm very influential.
• 59:20
  Speaker 1: Right?
• 59:20
  Speaker 2: And if I can point out, like, why you should
• 59:22
  Speaker 2: be eating this way or whatever. And as a woman,
• 59:25
  Speaker 2: I'm responsible for the nutrition of the family. So whatever
• 59:27
  Speaker 2: the fuck I'm cooking is what y'all niggas eat. And
• 59:28
  Speaker 2: it's going to be very good. Right? So I'm not
• 59:31
  Speaker 2: overly concerned about somebody's diet, but I don't want it
• 59:34
  Speaker 2: to be a fight. You know what I'm saying? If
• 59:36
  Speaker 2: a nigga smokes cigarettes, I'm not trying to change you.
• 59:39
  Speaker 2: I'm not talking to you. I don't fuck with cigarettes.
• 59:41
  Speaker 2: I don't like that. I don't like that.
• 59:42
  Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying?
• 59:43
  Speaker 2: That's a deal breaker. And it's not even on my list.
• 59:45
  Speaker 1: Mm-hmm.
• 59:46
  Speaker 2: I just already automatically, no, I don't want you to
• 59:48
  Speaker 2: change shit about yourself. I want to be able to
• 59:50
  Speaker 2: run into somebody and like everything about them. I'm not
• 59:53
  Speaker 2: trying to change you. You're not trying to change me.
• 59:56
  Speaker 2: We can cohabitate together.
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 1: This is shallow as fuck, but I'm going to say it.
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 1: I don't like a man who don't drink.
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 2: What? Who's that man? I like a man who can't have.
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 1: A cocktail with me.
• 1:00:13
  Speaker 2: Let's have a drink.
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 1: Let's go out and have some drinks.
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 2: No, I have a friend.
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 1: You don't have to be an alcoholic. I don't want
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 1: you to be an alcoholic, but I do want you
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 1: to have.
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 2: Do you realize that... Okay, so I have a friend.
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 2: Every time, this nigga always want to take shots. I'm like,
• 1:00:26
  Speaker 2: you're an alcoholic. Nigga, I don't drink in the daytime.
• 1:00:30
  Speaker 2: I don't drink as soon as I walk in the
• 1:00:31
  Speaker 2: fucking door. I ain't even put my shit down yet,
• 1:00:33
  Speaker 2: and you asking me if I want a goddamn shot.
• 1:00:35
  Speaker 2: And this is my friend. I'm like, no, nigga. Like,
• 1:00:37
  Speaker 2: you might need to stop taking shots, too. Yeah.
• 1:00:40
  Speaker 1: Like, what'd you say? Hybrid.
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 2: Borderline.
• 1:00:41
  Speaker 1: It needs to be, like, balanced. But just no drinking?
• 1:00:46
  Speaker 2: Snooze, baby. But what if they smoke? They do your
• 1:00:48
  Speaker 2: other thing.
• 1:00:50
  Speaker 1: That's cool. That's cool. But, all right, so, yeah, that's cool.
• 1:00:55
  Speaker 1: If there was a smoker and they just don't drink
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 1: at all, you the DD. Roll up.
• 1:00:59
  Speaker 2: What, you think they're going to be lame because they
• 1:01:00
  Speaker 2: don't smoke? I mean, because they don't drink?
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 1: No, not lame. I think there are a lot of
• 1:01:04
  Speaker 1: great people who don't indulge, right? I just want somebody
• 1:01:08
  Speaker 1: who's going.
• 1:01:09
  Speaker 2: To drink with you.
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah.
• 1:01:11
  Speaker 2: So if you meet a good guy, if you had
• 1:01:13
  Speaker 2: your list, so you're going to put on your list
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 2: this nigga got to drink?
• 1:01:18
  Speaker 1: He has to like cocktails.
• 1:01:22
  Speaker 2: I don't know if that's shallow, but it's like, bitch,
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 2: you're mad because I don't want to poison myself? Fuck you.
• 1:01:28
  Speaker 2: I'm not mad. I'm not mad at all. I just
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 2: won't fuck with you if you don't drink. I don't
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 2: pass up your husband because he don't drink poison. I
• 1:01:37
  Speaker 2: wouldn't say I wouldn't fuck with a guy because he
• 1:01:38
  Speaker 2: don't drink, you know, but.
• 1:01:42
  Speaker 2: That's what she just said, right? She ain't fucking with
• 1:01:44
  Speaker 2: you if you don't drink. I would like a guy
• 1:01:46
  Speaker 2: that likes to go out and have a cocktail every
• 1:01:48
  Speaker 2: now and then. Is that so wrong? No.
• 1:01:55
  Speaker 1: Thank you for affirming me, Jordan. No.
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 2: Look, I done took the shit. Look, cell phone. Anyway.
• 1:02:03
  Speaker 2: I don't know, man. Dating is fucking tough. It's tough.
• 1:02:08
  Speaker 2: And I... I don't feel like keep like meeting people.
• 1:02:13
  Speaker 2: I don't feel like people. I love people. I do too.
• 1:02:17
  Speaker 2: And I also like first dates, right? I like all
• 1:02:19
  Speaker 2: the first experiences. I saw this, um, this shit on
• 1:02:22
  Speaker 2: Instagram one day. It was a lady. She was talking about, um,
• 1:02:25
  Speaker 2: You know the first time you have sex with somebody,
• 1:02:27
  Speaker 2: like how good it be, like the feelings and stuff
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 2: like that? She was like, the only way to get
• 1:02:31
  Speaker 2: that intense sex every time is to fuck somebody new
• 1:02:35
  Speaker 2: every time. Sometimes the first time isn't good. I haven't
• 1:02:39
  Speaker 2: experienced that in a while.
• 1:02:41
  Speaker 1: That is better.
• 1:02:42
  Speaker 2: I haven't experienced that.
• 1:02:43
  Speaker 1: In a while. You got to find your chemistry sexually.
• 1:02:46
  Speaker 2: I just be knowing now. It's the back. That's why
• 1:02:49
  Speaker 2: I like backs.
• 1:02:51
  Speaker 1: Is the strength in the back?
• 1:02:52
  Speaker 2: Depending on the back, you know, it's the back. Remember
• 1:02:56
  Speaker 2: I told you? The back and that fucking forearm. The
• 1:03:00
  Speaker 2: forearm is the length of the penis.
• 1:03:01
  Speaker 1: Is what you're saying?
• 1:03:03
  Speaker 2: How it looks. So, yeah, sometimes it's like the length.
• 1:03:06
  Speaker 2: I would have a big dick. There's Ray. But, like,
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 2: just the strength.
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 1: That's how Ray used to judge his bitches. He'd grab
• 1:03:12
  Speaker 1: her forearm.
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  Speaker 2: That's a big one.
• 1:03:14
  Speaker 1: This pussy good.
• 1:03:15
  Speaker 2: Come here, girl. If it's thick. You know, the thick forearms. Because,
• 1:03:20
  Speaker 2: you know, they got a lot. No, because a nigga
• 1:03:25
  Speaker 2: lay right.
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  Speaker 1: On your ass like this.
• 1:03:27
  Speaker 2: Laying on your shoulder, bitch. He ain't need no forearms.
• 1:03:31
  Speaker 2: I hate when a nigga lay in the pussy. I
• 1:03:33
  Speaker 2: used to tell my ex, get up. Stand up. Stand
• 1:03:36
  Speaker 2: up in the pussy. What are you doing? You got
• 1:03:38
  Speaker 2: to do some dick ups. Laying on me like that. Oh, shit.
• 1:03:45
  Speaker 2: I don't know. When was the last time you been
• 1:03:47
  Speaker 2: on a date?
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  Speaker 1: Um, actually the day before yesterday.
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  Speaker 2: And how was that? And who was that? And how
• 1:03:52
  Speaker 2: did that go? How did you meet them? Ooh.
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  Speaker 1: Um, I met them in Miami at a club many,
• 1:03:59
  Speaker 1: many years ago.
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  Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.
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  Speaker 1: And, um, they were in town. And we hung out
• 1:04:03
  Speaker 1: and went and got some food. And then we went
• 1:04:06
  Speaker 1: to a comedy show. So it was a good time.
• 1:04:07
  Speaker 1: It was a good time. Nothing, you know.
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  Speaker 2: Nothing to run home back from.
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  Speaker 1: No, no. Okay.
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  Speaker 2: Nothing to talk about until we talk back. Got it. No.
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  Speaker 1: I got it.
• 1:04:16
  Speaker 2: We out here dating, y'all.
• 1:04:18
  Speaker 1: But when was your last date?
• 1:04:21
  Speaker 2: Like two weeks ago.
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  Speaker 1: I'm a dater, though. I like to get dressed pretty,
• 1:04:26
  Speaker 1: go to nice places, and eat good food and talk.
• 1:04:29
  Speaker 2: Absolutely. And I like first dates. But I don't like
• 1:04:33
  Speaker 2: just having to entertain multiple people like that.
• 1:04:39
  Speaker 1: Call me Tammy the Entertainer.
• 1:04:44
  Speaker 2: I don't feel like it. Get somebody else to do it, man.
• 1:04:46
  Speaker 2: I don't feel like it.
• 1:04:47
  Speaker 1: Well, how are you going to know who you're going
• 1:04:48
  Speaker 1: to meet that could be your potential best suitor if
• 1:04:52
  Speaker 1: you don't go out? I talk to them.
• 1:04:54
  Speaker 2: I talk to them. This is what I don't get
• 1:04:55
  Speaker 2: about them.
• 1:04:56
  Speaker 1: You just talk on the phone? No.
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 2: I mean, you could go out also, but, you know,
• 1:05:00
  Speaker 2: talking on the phone, like communicating, you find out a
• 1:05:03
  Speaker 2: lot about people. That's why I'm confused why men, and
• 1:05:06
  Speaker 2: maybe men need to talk on the phone.
• 1:05:07
  Speaker 1: More, right? Yeah, men don't need to talk on the phone,
• 1:05:10
  Speaker 1: I feel like.
• 1:05:10
  Speaker 2: Yeah, they be so upset because y'all want to take
• 1:05:13
  Speaker 2: all these different women on dates, right? Right. And then
• 1:05:15
  Speaker 2: you're mad when you don't get pussy at the end
• 1:05:17
  Speaker 2: of the day when you really can just get a
• 1:05:18
  Speaker 2: prostitute and fuck her. But y'all want regular women to
• 1:05:21
  Speaker 2: do prostitute shit. And then you get mad when you
• 1:05:24
  Speaker 2: don't get pussy at the end of all these five dates,
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 2: you know, and took five different bitches out. Find you
• 1:05:29
  Speaker 2: somebody who actually likes you. And then take them on
• 1:05:31
  Speaker 2: five dates.
• 1:05:32
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah.
• 1:05:32
  Speaker 2: And then take them off. Exactly. And you got guaranteed pussy.
• 1:05:36
  Speaker 2: That's how that works.
• 1:05:37
  Speaker 1: Use discernment.
• 1:05:38
  Speaker 2: Have conversations. Like stop just trying to get a bitch
• 1:05:41
  Speaker 2: out the house so you can get them back in
• 1:05:43
  Speaker 2: the house. So you can fuck.
• 1:05:44
  Speaker 1: I don't feel like guys, like, I'm going out on dates,
• 1:05:47
  Speaker 1: and I don't feel like they be thinking that they
• 1:05:48
  Speaker 1: can fuck me.
• 1:05:49
  Speaker 2: Because maybe those guys are dating you with intention. Do
• 1:05:52
  Speaker 2: you see what I'm saying? Just you, though.
• 1:05:53
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 1:05:54
  Speaker 2: There's somebody else that they're not dating with intention. Yeah, like, girl,
• 1:05:59
  Speaker 2: all right, now we had that two for 20 at Applebee's.
• 1:06:02
  Speaker 1: What's up?
• 1:06:04
  Speaker 2: Like, they don't got the right to sit on the pussy.
• 1:06:09
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 1:06:09
  Speaker 1: Oh, goodness. All right, well, this is fun.
• 1:06:12
  Speaker 2: Stupid bitch. You can't end this damn show like that.
• 1:06:16
  Speaker 2: I got a date to go on, so we got
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 2: to go back. Y'all, this girl crazy, man. Listen, and listen, okay,
• 1:06:24
  Speaker 2: let me stop calling you a stupid bitch because I
• 1:06:26
  Speaker 2: don't want nobody confused.
• 1:06:28
  Speaker 1: Me. No, they know you mean it. No, they don't, girl.
• 1:06:31
  Speaker 2: They don't. I've been reading y'all comments and I want
• 1:06:33
  Speaker 2: to reiterate this again. Fuck y'all.
• 1:06:35
  Speaker 1: Anyway.
• 1:06:37
  Speaker 2: What's up? All right. If you enjoyed this episode, tune
• 1:06:40
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• 1:06:42
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• 1:06:45
  Speaker 2: Holiday 2.0.
• 1:06:47
  Speaker 1: Kick it, Tam. Y'all, it's me, Tam Bam. I love y'all.
• 1:06:49
  Speaker 1: Once again, remember to speak now.
• 1:06:52
  Speaker 2: And never hold your peace. Deuces.