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5 SECRETS TO BECOME UNRECOGNIZABLE IN THE NEXT 90 DAYS✨ Manifest More Than You Have All Year -- 61 · Alignment With Jenn

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  Hello and welcome to this episode of the Alignment with
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  Jen podcast. I'm your host, Jen, it's easy.
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  And today we are going to be talking about how to manifest
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  more in the next 90 days than you have all year long.
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  I'm going to be sharing some of the key lessons that I have
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  learned along my journey of studying manifestation in the
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  subconscious mind and ancient spirituality over the last
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  decade plus. And these are some of the key
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  distinctions that I have made that have really made a
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  difference in my own own understanding of how to manifest
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  the things that I want in my life.
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  And so it's been a little bit since we've done a really
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  focused manifestation episode. So I'm super excited to do this.
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  And right now, as I'm recording this, it's the first week of
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  September. It'll probably release later in
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  September. And so there's about 90 days
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  before the new year. And so I really want you to use
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  this little episode as your guidebook to think about how to
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  approach these next 90 days so that way you can enter the new
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  year on a whole new level. Something I always love to do is
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  I love to start the new year in September.
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  So it sounds a little bit funny, but I feel like there's all this
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  pressure in January to start to implement all these new goals,
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  to start to implement all of these new things that you want
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  to change in your life. But the thing that happens is
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  when we get to the new year, so many people fall off their New
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  Year's resolutions. And I think that's because they
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  try to do too much too soon. So when you start now, you begin
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  the new year and you're like, oh, I already have all this
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  positive momentum. I've already been doing such a
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  good job, like go me essentially.
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  And so I'm really excited to share these tools, these
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  principles with you and help you understand how you can really
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  make this time so important and so valuable for yourself, your
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  goals and your visions. So one of the first principles
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  that I want to talk about is this idea that the universe
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  wants to give you so much more than you actually can see for
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  yourself. The desire that you're trying to
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  claim is actually only 1% of what the universe actually wants
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  to give you. So I want to illustrate this
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  with a story. So last year I started this
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  podcast and I began setting goals around this podcast maybe
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  about 6:00 or so months into having the podcast, and I was
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  doing about 2000 downloads on the podcast a month.
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  And so I thought, OK, it'd be super, super, super cool if by
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  August, which was last month, I hit 10,000 downloads a month.
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  I thought that that was realistic growth.
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  I had heard people talking about how hard it is to grow podcasts,
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  how much time it takes, all those sorts of things.
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  And so I was like, OK, that would feel like a stretch goal,
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  but it'd feel really good. Fast forward, my podcast last
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  week just hit over 1,000,000 downloads in the last 8 to 10
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  months. I think it was that those
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  million downloads came in. And that's way more obviously
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  than 10,000 downloads a month. And I think about that as a
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  perfect illustration of this principle of the universe wants
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  to give you so much more than you are currently asking for.
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  And if you expand what you are asking for, you actually expand
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  your ability to receive when you are only asking for a small
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  amount. Like you're, oh, you know, I'm
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  OK with like this salary, even though you want a higher salary
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  or you only ask for a certain level of treatment or love from
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  your partner, but you really want more than that.
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  We shrink what we are able to receive when we don't actually
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  ask for it. And that same is true with the
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  universe. And so I think about this and
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  I'm like, wow, that was crazy growth.
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  But imagine if I had had in my mind that even bigger growth was
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  available, if I had asked for more than what if I had asked
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  for 100,000 downloads a month. Imagine how different that might
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  have been. And I'm really, really grateful
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  and happy with what it was. But I encourage you, and this
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  leads to my second point, to 10X your current goal.
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  So think about the goal that you have, whatever it might be.
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  Maybe it's a certain income, maybe it's a certain job, maybe
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  it's a certain kind of relationship.
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  And if you were to take that and you were to 10 exit, make it 10
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  times better than what you are currently imagining, which can
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  really expand your mind to see things differently, to imagine a
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  new possibility for yourself. If you were to look at that 10X
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  goal and you were to say, OK, that's my new goal and I'm going
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  to start showing up like that, it makes your current goal seem
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  pretty easy, right? You might see new solutions, you
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  might see new pathways. So imagine if you were to dream
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  bigger. One of the biggest things that I
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  see is people's fear of dreaming, which is crazy to me.
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  Like we were raised on Disney movies, you know, I think like
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  Disney movies teach you to dream, fear of dreaming because
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  this fear that it won't work out, this fear of failure keeps
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  us playing small. And So what if you were to take
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  that goal and make it so much bigger?
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  You don't have to achieve that goal, but even if you achieve a
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  fraction of that, you'll probably end up even further
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  along than you ever expected. So showing up as if your goal is
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  10 times bigger, that's a pretty powerful place to create from.
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  The second thing, I guess those first two are kind of one that I
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  want to share is this idea of risk minimalization.
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  So Jeff Bezos, before he started Amazon, he worked in a really
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  high paying Wall Street job and he was doing really well.
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  But he had this dream to start selling books online.
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  He thought it would be a great business, but he also realized,
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  like, I could really, really fail at this.
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  The Internet was not, you know, it was it was a new thing.
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  Nobody was selling books online. Everybody told him, like, no,
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  obviously no one's going to want to buy books online.
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  And obviously we know that's not the truth.
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  We know that's not how the story ends.
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  But what he said is he said that he the way that he made the
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  decision, he was 40 years old at the time.
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  He visualized himself at 80 years old and looking back, and
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  if he had not made that choice and taken that risk, would he
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  have felt good or bad about it? And at 80 years old, the risk is
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  so much smaller, right? You can look back and you can
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  see that you made it through the risks.
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  And the fear is also so much smaller.
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  When you're at 80, at the end of your life, your fear is much,
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  much, much smaller. And so I want you to do that
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  exercise for yourself. Think about your current life
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  and some of the risks that you are interested in taking, some
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  of the challenges that you want to pursue, and look at it from
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  that 80 year old perspective. How would you feel if you didn't
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  go after those things sitting on your rocking chair on your porch
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  at 80 years old? You probably feel pretty bad,
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  right? And so looking at that, is the
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  risk that you're going to take greater than the risk of the
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  regret? And that's really the decision
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  to be made. So ask yourself, you know, am I
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  willing to fail? Would that be better than just
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  having never tried? And I would say most of the
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  time, absolutely. Another principle that I think
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  is really, really important that often gets confused for people
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  is this idea of desire versus neediness.
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  And there's so many videos online about like the law of
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  detachment and like, you need to detach from your outcome.
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  But I think this often gets misconstrued.
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  And I get this question a lot for my clients.
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  It's like, how do I want it while also detaching, right?
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  Have you ever thought that to yourself?
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  Because we know that if we are overly attached to something, we
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  kind of suffocate it, right? And that's a different energy.
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  That's the energy of neediness. There's having the desire and
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  really, really, really wanting something.
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  That's actually a good thing. The thing that makes it negative
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  is when you start to need it and you start to feel like I'm not
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  going to be OK if I don't have this thing.
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  And that's what's a really interesting thing to think about
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  with this idea of detachment. You want to actually want
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  things. Your desire is what creates your
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  vessel to receive. So to illustrate this, think
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  about if you were in a relationship with someone and
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  this person was like, like they could take you or leave you.
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  They were like, whatever, like you're cool, it's fine.
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  I don't think you would want to be with that person.
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  You want to be with someone who's really excited and
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  grateful and passionate about being with you.
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  And that is because that creates that that desire is attractive.
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  The same thing happens in the universe when you want
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  something, when you really desire it.
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  It's so important to go fully and really fully claim your
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  dreams and your desires and also recognize, and this is where the
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  detachment comes in. I'll be completely OK if it
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  doesn't work out. I'll be completely OK if that
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  video I posted online flops. I'll be completely OK if this
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  relationship doesn't work out. And you're able to get to that
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  place when you trust in the universe, you trust in the flow
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  of life, you trust in the creator, you trust that
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  everything is working out for you, even when you can't see it
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  right. Challenges become lessons that
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  get to, that you get to learn from and grow from.
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  So I want you to really think about something that you want
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  and are you approaching it from this place of I really want it
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  and I'm so excited about it and I'm in love with it, But I also
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  recognize I'll be OK if I don't have it right.
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  It might be a little bit sad, I might be disappointed, but I
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  know ultimately I'll be fine because I trust myself.
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  I trust life, I trust the universe.
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  Or are you approaching it from this like, contractual place?
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  Sometimes I talk to people and they just have this energy of
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  like, it has to happen, right? I need it, I need it.
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  That energy is a repelling energy because what you're
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  focusing on is the lack of that thing.
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  And we know with the law of attraction, when we're focusing
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  on the lack, we're going to get more of the lack.
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  OK, so that's something I really want you to reflect on for
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  yourself. What is it that you want and how
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  are you approaching it energetically?
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  Ideally, you're not approaching it from this place of I need it
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  or I hope it happens. You're approaching it from this
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  place of I know that the best is coming here for me.
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  I know that this dream relationship, I know that my
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  dream reality is inevitable. And so I can show up as if
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  that's already happening for me because ultimately you are going
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  to receive everything you want. It's just a matter of time,
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  right? It might happen in this
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  lifetime, It might happen in another lifetime.
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  So recognizing that everything that you desire will be given to
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  you and being able to recognize that is being able to let go of
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  that neediness. So this next one is claiming the
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  unedited desire. So as I mentioned before, when
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  we don't allow ourselves to really want something, we shrink
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  our vessel to receive it, right. And the way to think about it
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  is, I'll give you an example. Like, let's say that I had a
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  client recently and she showed me this list of everything she
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  wants in a partner. She's manifesting love.
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  And she showed it to me. And I was like, this is cool.
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  This is a really good list. And I was like, how do you feel
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  when you read it? And she's like, you know, I feel
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  pretty good. I was like, OK, what does that
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  mean? She's like, well, I think that
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  would be a really great relationship.
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  And I'm like, OK, but what would it make it like an extraordinary
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  relationship? And she starts listing things
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  that were not on that list. And I asked her, I was like, why
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  weren't those things on that list?
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  And she said, because I didn't think that that kind of man is
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  available. I don't think that kind of man
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  is possible. That is the work.
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  That is the work. If she really wants to have that
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  true, deeply fulfilling relationship, she has to be able
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  to allow herself to want it. You have to allow yourself to
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  want the things that you actually want rather than
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  watering down your desires, right?
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  If you really want this certain kind of business or this certain
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  kind of job, stop settling for the things that you don't.
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  And that doesn't mean you quit your job tomorrow and burn
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  everything down. It means actually truly claiming
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  that vision and saying this is truly what I want and I'm going
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  to go after it, right? Rather than settling and
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  shrinking your desire. Because what she did when she
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  did that is her first list was a smaller vessel then her second
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  list. And so she wasn't allowing
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  herself even to receive that second type of person because
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  she didn't believe it was possible.
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  So look at that for yourself. Where are you shrinking and not
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  allowing yourself to really want what you want?
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  And so something that I want you to think about over these next
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  90 days, I'm going to give you a series of questions.
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  And I think it'd be super valuable for you to actually go
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  through and write these down. Or you can speak them out to
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  yourself, or you can just think about them as I share them with
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  you. But think about these next
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  things over the next 90 days. So that way you can begin to
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  really show up in this different energetic frequency because
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  there's this spiritual principle that when you change your
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  desire, you change what you manifest, you change what you're
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  able to receive. Because when you are desiring
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  something, a shrunken desire, like that example of my clients
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  first list versus her second list, you are creating a
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  different vessel to receive. And one last principle I want to
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  leave with you before I go into these questions is, are you
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  wanting to receive for yourself alone, or are you wanting to
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  receive for the sake of being able to share and being able to
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  give to others and create a better world?
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  Because when we want something just for ourselves, that's a
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  very different energy, a very different frequency than when we
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  want something to better ourselves, to share, to become
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  more. And so thinking about what it is
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  that you want, sometimes people will want something because of
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  the ego, right? Because of their desire.
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  I had a client a while ago and she was telling me how she only
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  wanted to date people who had gone to Ivy League schools.
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  And I was like, OK, cool, why? And she's like, well, because I
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  just feel like people will look at me differently if I'm dating
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  somebody from an Ivy League school.
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  And I was like, that's interesting.
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  And that's that first example of the desire.
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  So we talked about how can you change your desire so that way
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  you can create a bigger vessel to receive?
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  Because when we're just wanting things for ourself, it's like a
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  very small cup, right? When we are wanting something
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  for others, we create a much larger cup.
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  And it can be for ourselves and others, but how can you expand
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  it also? When we are thinking about
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  others, we oftentimes get out of our heads.
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  We are more expansive. We're more creative.
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  Something Tony Robbins always says is we will do more for
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  others than we will ever do for ourselves.
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  So I'm not saying don't focus on yourself.
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  I'm saying how can you expand it to include how you can impact
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  the world, how you can impact other people, how you can make
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  things better for more than just yourself, right?
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  So I don't know what your desire is, but just ask yourself that
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  question. So these are the things I want
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  you to think about over the next 90 days, preferably before, so
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  that way you can implement them in the next 90 days.
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  So what will I regret not doing? Oh my gosh, I feel that in my
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  heart when I read that because what will you regret not doing,
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  right? What are some things that you
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  want to do? This morning I found this event
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  that is put on by a former coach that I had and it looks
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  fantastic. And I was like, I want to go to
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  this and I think to the month after in December, would I
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  regret having not gone? Probably, right?
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  Probably. So think about what are some
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  things that over the next 90 days you would regret not having
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  done or even bigger than that, right.
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  Do the 80 year old self and look back at your life.
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  What would you regret not having done?
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  The next one is what is the 10X version of your goal?
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  And I want you to actually write this out as if it is your goal.
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  And I'm not saying it has to become your goal.
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  I know for some of you, you'll be like, Oh my God, that's so
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  overwhelming. I'm literally just having you do
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  this as an exercise to help you expand what you think is
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  possible for yourself. Because if you say I want a
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  million podcast downloads a month, you're going to show up
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  very differently than if you say I want 10,000, right?
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  It's a very different energy and a very different frequency.
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  And just asking that question is going to get your subconscious
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  mind to think in a different way, to give you different
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  solutions. Your subconscious is going to
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  solve the level of the goal that you have, right?
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  So if you expand that goal, first of all, it makes that goal
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  seem smaller, but it's also going to give you different
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  solutions that you may not have thought of because you had set
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  that bar a little lower. The third one is, what do I
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  actually want? What do you actually want,
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  right? What's your second version of
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  that list? What is it that you can allow
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  yourself to truly desire? What is that unedited,
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  unfiltered version of your dream life, of your dream
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  relationship, of your dream business?
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  The 4th 1 is, can I want it without feeling like I need it,
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  right? Can I want it and desire it and
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  let myself really, really, really want this thing without
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  feeling like I have to have it or I won't be OK?
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  I won't be worthy, I won't be good enough.
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  The world will fall apart, right?
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  Where can you learn to trust a little more?
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  What state am I rehearsing every day?
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  So this one's a little different, but it's about your
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  emotional state. So all of these goals, all of
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  these visions depend on how you're showing up emotionally.
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  So what is your emotional state that is influencing how you're
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  showing up? Notice, right?
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  I'm just asking you to notice. And what do you want that
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  emotional state to be and choose it for the next 90 days.
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  That is what I want to leave you with.
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  I hope that you have loved this. Please let me know in the
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  comments what you thought about the episode.
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  If you have any questions, if there's anything in the future
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  that you want me to talk about more in depth, I'm happy to do
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