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Origin of Marriage is God's Design, Not Man's Idea Pt 2 (Marriage as a Mission) - 311 · Marriage Life and More and Bible Study

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Daniel Moore: This week we're going to talk about God's design for marriage and why it's much bigger than just two people trying to share a bathroom and agree on a thermostat.
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Daniel Moore: Because if you've been married for more than about five minutes, you've already discovered something important.
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Daniel Moore: Two people can love each other deeply and still completely disagree on where to eat, how to properly wash the laundry, and what leaving on time actually means.
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Daniel Moore: But according to scripture, marriage was never meant to simply be two people figuring out how to survive each other's quirks.
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Daniel Moore: From the very beginning, God designed marriage to reflect his image.
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Daniel Moore: When Genesis tells us God created humanity, male and female, in his image, it reveals something profound.
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Daniel Moore: Our relationships were designed to mirror the relational nature of God Himself.
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Daniel Moore: In other words, marriage isn't just about companionship, it's about reflection.
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Daniel Moore: It's meant to display something about unity, love, and faithfulness found within the Trinity.
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Daniel Moore: So this week, we're going to explore how marriage reflects the relational beauty of the Father, Son, and the Holy Spirit, and why a God-centered marriage becomes a living testimony of the gospel.
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Daniel Moore: Welcome back to Marriage Life and More.
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Daniel Moore: I'm Vinnie Moore, your host, and up here next to me is my beautiful co-host, my wife Michelle.
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Daniel Moore: Well, last week we started off a brand new series, and it's actually based on the first book that I wrote, which is called Marriage as a Mission: Living Out God's Design for Marriage.
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Daniel Moore: And the first episode here that we started last week is about the origin of marriage and that marriage is God's design and it's not just man's idea.
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Daniel Moore: And so hopefully you enjoyed that first episode.
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Daniel Moore: Well, this week we're going to finish up episode one with part two.
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Daniel Moore: And this week we're going to be talking about why God designed it as a reflection of his image.
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Daniel Moore: Well, welcome back to this week's episode.
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Daniel Moore: As we get started here, I just want to let you know Michelle's going to probably sound a little squeaky this week.
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Daniel Moore: You might have noticed that in her hey-hey.
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Daniel Moore: I could hear it in her little hey-hey that she does every week.
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Daniel Moore: But she's feeling a little under the weather right now, but we're trying to pump out some of these episodes.
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Daniel Moore: And so she told me she's like, I think I can do it.
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Daniel Moore: So she's she's sitting up here being a trooper, and hopefully we'll make it through the episode this week.
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Daniel Moore: I'm gonna probably try to do a lot more of the talking.
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Daniel Moore: Uh, you may not hurt hear her talk as much because of that.
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Daniel Moore: So you might just say a little prayer for her as as we go through this, that God'll touch her body.
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Daniel Moore: Just our weather here's been crazy.
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Michelle Moore: It's like it's up and down.
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Michelle Moore: Yeah, up and down.
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Daniel Moore: It's like last week it was like in the 70s, I think, or something like that.
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Daniel Moore: And then a few days ago we had a ton of rain, tornado warnings, lightning, thunder, I mean you name it, came through.
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Daniel Moore: And we woke up this morning to frost.
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Michelle Moore: It was 31 this morning.
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Daniel Moore: 31 degrees.
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Daniel Moore: I mean, it's just nuts.
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Daniel Moore: And every time that weather does that, it really affects you.
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Daniel Moore: Yeah, it affects us, it affects Michelle a lot.
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Daniel Moore: Fortunately, sometimes it affects me, but sometimes I can slide through it and uh get through it without any problem.
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Daniel Moore: And so far, thank the Lord, I'm gonna knock on some wood here.
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Daniel Moore: Uh particle wood.
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Daniel Moore: I'm yeah, particle board.
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Daniel Moore: Uh that's the best we can do.
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Daniel Moore: It's it's Amazon stuff.
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Michelle Moore: That's right, that's right.
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Daniel Moore: Uh, but yeah, uh, hopefully so far God's kept his hand on me, so I'm okay right at the moment.
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Daniel Moore: So we're gonna try to get these knocked out.
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Daniel Moore: Uh, Michelle and I are going to be heading to North Carolina.
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Michelle Moore: Yes, I'm excited.
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Daniel Moore: Yeah, we're going to see our our daughter and son-in-law and our granddaughter.
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Daniel Moore: She's actually going to be getting dedicated at a church there.
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Daniel Moore: So um that's on the I believe the 15th of this month of March here, I think.
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Michelle Moore: So this episode may be already out.
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Daniel Moore: Yeah, it's probably that probably just happened by the time this episode plays.
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Daniel Moore: But uh, we're trying to get some stuff done ahead here, regardless of how we feel, to try to get through these.
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Daniel Moore: So we'll have some new episodes and keep the series going.
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Daniel Moore: So as we stated here in the beginning, uh, of course, last week we started off and we talked a lot about our marriage being a covenant instead of a contract.
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Daniel Moore: And I think we went through pretty detailed explanation of how that works, because a lot of times in marriages, uh we seem to go into our relationships trying to keep a backdoor exit somewhere just in case everything doesn't pan out the way we thought it was going to, then we try to keep that exit there to try to so we can get out of it.
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Daniel Moore: But in marriage, that was never God's intention.
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Michelle Moore: Right.
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Daniel Moore: Um, he did not want us to have a backdoor exit.
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Daniel Moore: He wanted us to be there as our vows say for rich or poor, sickness and uh and you know, non-good health and uh death and life.
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Daniel Moore: I mean, all of it.
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Daniel Moore: We're supposed to take everything in stride, take it uh the godly way and stick through it, you know, through thick and thin.
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Daniel Moore: That's how God does us, and we're to reflect that.
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Daniel Moore: And so we talked a little bit about that, and we also started the conversation talking about how marriage is set up in Genesis, how we're to leave our parents and we're to go to our spouses and cleave to them, uh, or to hold on to them and never let go, holding fast.
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Daniel Moore: And then when we do that, we become one flesh between each other as a husband and wife.
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Daniel Moore: And from that day forward, our marriage starts moving in the direction that God has hopefully we're on that path that He's put before us, reaching that destiny that He's actually destined us for in our marriages.
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Daniel Moore: And so the last portion of this first chapter here in the book that we're going to be discussing today is why God designed it as a reflection of his image.
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Daniel Moore: And I think a lot of times a lot of couples don't think about this.
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Daniel Moore: Uh, we get married and we just see me and you.
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Daniel Moore: We just see our kids and our home and we see just the right now of what we're involved in.
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Daniel Moore: And that's probably where the disconnect comes sometimes when we get into conflicts and get into arguments and that kind of thing, that we just want to flee from the marriage because we just feel like that's our only answer.
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Daniel Moore: But in all reality, the the marriage that we have actually reflects our relationship with God and what God expects us to have between us and Christ.
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Daniel Moore: So we're gonna detail that today and try to do the best we can to maybe help everyone that's listening have an understanding of why this institution of marriage is so, so important and it's actually a holy thing.
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Daniel Moore: It's actually a thing that God has ordained and put into place.
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Daniel Moore: So as we get started here, God designed marriage as a reflection of his image, and this divine intention is intricately woven into the very fabric of creation.
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Daniel Moore: As we jump back to Genesis again to chapter one, and if we look at verses 26 and 27, we read, then God said, Let us make man in our image after our likeness.
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Daniel Moore: So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him, male and female, he created them.
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Daniel Moore: So this crucial passage here in Genesis reveals two essential truths about humanity.
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Daniel Moore: First of all, it tells us that we actually bear the image of God.
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Daniel Moore: Secondly, this image bearing is expressed through the complementary of male and female.
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Daniel Moore: The divine decision to create humanity in two distinct yet complementary sexes underscores that relationship, unity, and diversity are inherent characteristics of what it means to reflect God.
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Daniel Moore: And as we get started here, as we look at this, you'll notice that in that scripture, as God is speaking, what he's going to do, he's referring to some other people in that scripture.
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Daniel Moore: He's going to create them in our image, not just God's image, but he's saying our.
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Daniel Moore: And he's going to reflect to be like us.
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Daniel Moore: Who is our and who is us?
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Daniel Moore: We think of God, you know, he's the one that's supreme authority over us.
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Daniel Moore: But of course, those of us that are Trinitarian in our beliefs, we understand that there is a trinity, that there is three persons in one.
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Daniel Moore: There's God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit.
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Daniel Moore: And when we read these scriptures, God is actually referring to the full Trinity version of who He is when He creates us.
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Daniel Moore: And so that's where you know, a lot of times when you hear people talk about uh where the female comes from.
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Daniel Moore: Well, if you do studying into the Trinity of who the actual persons in the Trinity are, uh you'll notice that, you know, God the Father, He is the creator of all things.
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Daniel Moore: Um, it's through Him that everything was spoken into existence.
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Daniel Moore: God the Son is Jesus, He was the servant, He's the one that came down to earth.
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Daniel Moore: He served, you know, all the people.
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Daniel Moore: That was His whole sole purpose for being here was to serve us, to give us that example of how we are to be as Christians as we serve other people around us and serve our spouses.
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Daniel Moore: And then there's the Holy Spirit.
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Daniel Moore: Now, the Holy Spirit is the intimate part of our relationship with Christ.
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Daniel Moore: The Holy Spirit has emotions, the Holy Spirit can be grieved.
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Daniel Moore: Uh, if you really study into who the Holy Spirit is, the Holy Spirit actually has both male and female attributes.
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Daniel Moore: And when you look into that, uh, that's how the male and female can both be mirrored in God when we always look at God as being a he, because in the Bible, uh, as we read through God's word, we always see God the Father and God the Son.
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Daniel Moore: They're they're referenced as a He.
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Daniel Moore: And so people have always wondered, well, how can the female be involved in that if we're all, you know, in the image of God because he's not female?
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Daniel Moore: Well, that's how this happens is the Holy Spirit is it rounds up the fullness of the three and who they are.
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Daniel Moore: And between all three of them, they have those attributes of the male and the female.
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Daniel Moore: So that's that's where that comes from when we look here at Genesis and we see that God created the husband and the wife in their image.
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Daniel Moore: So as we continue here, the Trinity, they're a perfect relational unity comprising Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, and they serve as the ultimate model for our relationships.
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Daniel Moore: Consequently, marriage operates as a reflection of this relational nature of God.
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Daniel Moore: In Genesis 224, it further illustrates this reality, and we read this scripture last week.
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Daniel Moore: It says, Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
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Daniel Moore: So this union here not only signifies the coming together of two distinct individuals, but it powerfully illustrates a divine purpose.
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Daniel Moore: It models unity within diversity, self-giving love, a mutual submission, and mirroring the community and love found within the Godhead itself.
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Daniel Moore: So the Trinity, the Father, Son, and the Holy Spirit, is the ultimate model for marriage, because it reveals how oneness, love, authority, and relationship were designed to function without competition, inferiority, or isolation.
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Daniel Moore: While human marriage is not a perfect replica of the Trinity, it does reflect key relational truths that God built into marriage from the beginning.
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Daniel Moore: So as we get started off here this week, you know, I really find it interesting that, you know, a lot of times when we talk to couples, uh, especially in conflictive situations, uh there's a tendency there that they forget about the oneness and they forget about how they're supposed to be um, you know, glued together coming from one flesh, when they work things out between each other, they both have equal responsibility for what's going on within their marriages.
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Daniel Moore: And I think, you know, with looking here at the at the Trinity, uh I think if we looked at it like if God the Father, if Jesus, if the Holy Spirit, if they ever had conflict and disagreed on something, could you imagine how that would wreck the the spiritual atmosphere?
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Daniel Moore: I mean, we just don't see that happening.
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Daniel Moore: You know, in the Bible, they all they get along, they understand each other's role, and they are a support system within each other.
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Daniel Moore: And so when we look at it that way, then what does that give us as a couple?
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Daniel Moore: What what kind of a uh a foundation, I guess you could say, does that give us to work from whenever we look at it that way?
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Daniel Moore: Well, we know that as couples we're gonna we're gonna have mistakes, make mistakes, we're gonna have arguments, uh, we're gonna conflict sometimes.
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Daniel Moore: It's not a perfect world by any means.
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Daniel Moore: But when we see how the Trinity works together and how they support each other as a support system, that speaks volumes and how we should like you and I, you know, we should be supportive of each other in all aspects and areas of our marriage and be each other's foundation and each other's pillars when that time comes with whatever it needs to be.
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Daniel Moore: At one point I might be your foundation, you might be my pillar, and another spot I may be your foundation and you may be my pillar.
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Daniel Moore: Uh we always have to keep that in mind that we're here to function together and to make this work.
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Daniel Moore: Is there anything that you thought of to add to that at all?
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Michelle Moore: Oh, it's really good.
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Daniel Moore: So we're gonna go into a few points here about the Trinity and how they work into our marriages.
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Daniel Moore: And first of all, the first point that we can make here is unity without loss of individuality.
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Daniel Moore: And I think this is a big one here because sometimes, Michelle, I know we've both seen it in couples where couples are afraid to let go sometimes and be humble and be a servant to their spouse because they're afraid they're gonna lose who they are.
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Daniel Moore: They think that they if they fall into that that role that they have to give up who they are and go against the person that they think they are, and they lose their individuality when they do that.
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Daniel Moore: And so therefore that causes them to maybe not want to do it.
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Daniel Moore: You know, they buck against the system in essence.
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Daniel Moore: Well, here, if you look at Deuteronomy chapter six, verse four, God is one, yet he eternally exists as three distinct persons, as we see in Matthew 28, 19.
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Daniel Moore: The Father is not the Son, the Son is not the Spirit, yet they are perfectly united in essence, will, and purpose.
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Daniel Moore: Well, marriage reflects the same principle.
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Daniel Moore: In Genesis chapter 2, verse 24, again we refer back to that scripture the two shall become one flesh.
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Daniel Moore: Oneness in marriage does not mean sameness.
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Daniel Moore: Husband and wife do not lose their personalities, their gifts or callings.
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Daniel Moore: Instead, they are united in covenant purpose while remaining distinct individuals.
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Daniel Moore: And I think this is definitely a slip-up in a lot of marriages because sometimes I think some spouses will try to force their other spouse to lose their personalities, to lose their gifts and their callings because they won't support them in them.
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Daniel Moore: And if you have a dominating spouse that comes into a marriage situation and they want to dominate that other uh spouse, and you and I have seen it where uh spouses are so beat down, they're spoken down to so much, they're not encouraged in their callings, they're not encouraged in their giftings, what happens?
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Daniel Moore: I mean, they lose who they are.
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Daniel Moore: And if they're not a strong enough person individually to stand up against that and try to work out between the two of them that each person is different in this relationship, uh the opposites attract a lot of times.
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Daniel Moore: And honestly, I think good marriages usually have two completely different people involved in it.
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Daniel Moore: Because if you have two different sets of people trying to work through similar situations, each one has different things to bring to the table.
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Daniel Moore: And when you have the giftings from both sides that are completely different from each other, but yet they support each other, you can get so much more done, I think, in a lot of cases.
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Daniel Moore: Because I know there's things that sometimes me and you go through, you may see something that I'm not seeing.
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Michelle Moore: Right.
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Daniel Moore: And I may be something seeing that you're not seeing.
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Daniel Moore: And so we both have to understand that both of us have something to bring to this, and we need to be open to hearing each other's opinions.
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Daniel Moore: And so therefore, you and I are one, but yet you still have different gifts than I do.
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Michelle Moore: Right.
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Daniel Moore: Your personality is completely different than mine, and we have to keep all of that stuff in in mind uh while we're navigating this relationship that we have called marriage.
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Daniel Moore: So when we look at the Trinitarian parallel, uh looking at the Trinity compared to what our relationship is as a husband and a wife, first of all, there's unity without uniformity.
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Daniel Moore: So as what I just described earlier, we know that God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit, they have three different things that they do when they operate uh in who they are, but yet they are still unified together with one purpose.
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Daniel Moore: Also, there's togetherness without absorption.
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Daniel Moore: This is a big one because a lot of times, uh, and this can happen even passively.
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Daniel Moore: Let's say that there's a husband that is dominant in a relationship, or even if it can be a wife that's dominant in the relationship, and they have a passive spouse.
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Daniel Moore: They just go with the flow, they just do whatever, they don't care.
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Daniel Moore: A lot of times, that passive spouse can let themselves be absorbed into everything that the husband is or that the wife is, and what ends up happening is the the husband runs the whole show, or the wife runs the whole show.
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Daniel Moore: And that other spouse then loses who they were from the beginning because they've absorbed themselves so much into their spouse that they really don't have much of a say-so anymore.
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Daniel Moore: And sometimes they're okay with that, but that's not really a healthy way to be.
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Daniel Moore: You still need to have your separate, like the God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit.
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Daniel Moore: They have their separate things and they don't step on each other's toes.
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Daniel Moore: They do what each person is supposed to be doing in that relationship, and that's with us.
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Daniel Moore: I should never want to step on your toes for what you have going on in your life, and vice versa.
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Daniel Moore: Um, we should always be working together the best that we can.
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Daniel Moore: And then there's also distinction without division.
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Daniel Moore: So I'm a husband, I'm a male, I have things that I do in our relationship, you're a wife, you're a female, there are things that you do in our relationship.
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Daniel Moore: So, with that being said, I'm distinctly different than you, yeah, and you're distinctly different from me, but yet we can do things together without being divided.
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Daniel Moore: We can still do things of being undivided and and have good outcomes, have positive outcomes.
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Michelle Moore: It didn't used to be that way though.
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Daniel Moore: Right.
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Daniel Moore: Uh when if you're going through bad seasons in your marriage, the division definitely can be there.
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Daniel Moore: And so that's when all this gets wonky.
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Michelle Moore: Yeah.
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Daniel Moore: That's when all this balance does not happen anymore.
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Daniel Moore: Right.
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Daniel Moore: And so so when you look at a healthy marriage, they honor both unity and the They also honor individuality.
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Michelle Moore: I like that.
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Daniel Moore: Because you and I can be one flesh, we can be in one like mind.
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Daniel Moore: We can solve, we can problem solve to come to the best possible ending and conclusion of what that issue is.
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Daniel Moore: And still you can be Michelle and I can be Daniel at the end of all of that.
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Daniel Moore: That doesn't change who we are.
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Daniel Moore: It's us working together.
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Daniel Moore: This one here is a tough one for a lot of people because pride gets in the way of so many things, and it really plays a big part in marriages sometimes.
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Daniel Moore: If we look at the Trinity, it's a relationship of eternal self-giving love.
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Daniel Moore: Jesus says in John chapter 17, verse 24, it says, You loved me before the foundation of the world.
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Daniel Moore: In John 16, 14, it says, The Father gives glory to the Son, the Son glorifies the Father, and the Spirit exalts Christ.
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Daniel Moore: So what do we see when we look at that scripture?
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Daniel Moore: We see that there's no selfishness.
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Daniel Moore: There's no competition within the Godhead.
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Daniel Moore: Instead, what are they doing?
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Daniel Moore: They're giving.
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Daniel Moore: If me and you are constantly competing to be the better, more well-liked person to everybody that's around us, then we're going to have some conflict because there's times that you're going to think you're the one that was better than me or I was better than you.
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Daniel Moore: And then we're going to get in an argument over that.
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Daniel Moore: Because I'm like, no, I think I did it better.
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Daniel Moore: You know, and then you start having some of those issues.
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Daniel Moore: And then that also brings on the selfishness because then it's just me thinking about me and you thinking about you.
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Daniel Moore: But we don't see that in the Trinity.
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Daniel Moore: All we see is each one building each other and lifting each other up and working in cohesion.
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Daniel Moore: And that means that they're giving of themselves.
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Daniel Moore: So marriage mirrors this through sacrificial love.
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Daniel Moore: If we look at Ephesians chapter 5, verse 2, it calls believers to walk in love as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us.
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Daniel Moore: So in marriage, love is not primarily about being fulfilled, but it's about faithfully giving oneself for the good of the other.
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Daniel Moore: I am worthless to you if I'm not going to back you up in your callings and the things that you were supposed to be doing that Christ has called you to do.
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Daniel Moore: And vice versa.
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Daniel Moore: If you don't, you know, back me up in the things that God's called me to do, then we're not really on the same page.
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Michelle Moore: Right.
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Daniel Moore: You know, we've got a lot of issues that we've got to work through there.
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Daniel Moore: So the Trinitarian principle with this is love flows outward, not inward.
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Daniel Moore: That's okay.
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Daniel Moore: So that should be our primary goal, is everything that that you do in your life of your from your side of the equation here within our marriage, then my love and my support, everything that I have to do in that should be flowing out to you because that supports you and helps you attain those goals that God has for you.
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Daniel Moore: And then you do the same thing for me.
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Daniel Moore: That creates a good, unified relationship between a husband and a wife.
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Daniel Moore: So that's how we have a mutual love between each other and that is self-giving.
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Daniel Moore: We're not selfish in the relationship that we have.
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Daniel Moore: The third thing is equality of worth with difference in role.
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Daniel Moore: This one here, a lot of couples get mixed up because they look at their roles in their marriage.
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Daniel Moore: They distinct it between a man's thing and a woman's thing.
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Daniel Moore: This is your jobs and this is my jobs.
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Daniel Moore: And sometimes that does fall into play.
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Daniel Moore: Sometimes the women do do certain things that the guys don't, vice versa, and they get along doing that fine.
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Daniel Moore: But you don't go into a marriage just expecting that though, because you're going into a marriage in unity combined.
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Daniel Moore: There is no Michelle's jobs or Daniel's jobs.
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Michelle Moore: Yeah.
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Daniel Moore: If I see something that needs to be done, I just need to jump in and do it.
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Daniel Moore: And you're the same way.
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Daniel Moore: You know, you help me, you mow.
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Daniel Moore: And there's times you're fighting allergies and stuff like that.
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Daniel Moore: I don't think you should be on the mower.
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Daniel Moore: And there you are out there riding the mower.
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Daniel Moore: You know, it's like, I have a lot of respect for that, you know, because we don't look at it like this is yours and this is mine, and this is way it don't touch my my area, you know.
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Daniel Moore: Uh so that's a good thing to a good trait to keep within yourself.
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Daniel Moore: The Trinity, the Father, the Son, the Spirit, they are equal in essence, but they have a distinct role.
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Daniel Moore: So the Father sends the Son in John 3.16.
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Daniel Moore: The Son submits to the Father in John 6.38, and the Spirit empowers and applies the work of Christ in John 16.13.
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Daniel Moore: So the Holy Spirit's the one that gets the stuff done.
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Daniel Moore: Submission within the Trinity is voluntary, loving, and functional.
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Daniel Moore: It's not based on superiority or inferiority.
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Daniel Moore: Marriage reflects this same design.
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Daniel Moore: I'm not inferior to you, and you're not inferior to me.
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Daniel Moore: Yes, God expects me to be the spiritual head of my home, but that means that I'm supposed to support you with honor and love and grace to build you up to be the helper in the home that is unified with me to help run the whole process here.
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Daniel Moore: You become the pillars that this house sits on.
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Daniel Moore: And so between what I have to do with what God's called me to do and what God has called you to do as the wife, we both come together and have a successful home at that point and a successful marriage, and we both have equal say in what goes on here within our underneath our roof.
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Daniel Moore: Ephesians 521 calls both spouses to submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
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Daniel Moore: Roles in marriage exist for order and mission.
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Daniel Moore: They are not there to dominate, and they're not there to control the other spouse.
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Daniel Moore: That's not what God does or the Trinity.
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Daniel Moore: God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit, they do not dominate each other.
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Daniel Moore: They work together to get the the to accomplish the goal, to get the job done.
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Daniel Moore: Anything you want to add to any of that?
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Michelle Moore: Oh, it's just really good.
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Michelle Moore: I've I mean, this is really in death.
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Michelle Moore: And I mean, I really like how you've broken it down.
28:49
Daniel Moore: Well, there's a couple of key truths here that goes with this one.
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Daniel Moore: Submission does not imply lesser value, and authority does not imply greater worth.
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Daniel Moore: That's good.
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Daniel Moore: Please keep that in mind.
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Daniel Moore: That's so good.
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Daniel Moore: Because we see so often where we see spouses submit to the dominant spouse because they feel like they have no other option.
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Daniel Moore: And that is not what God called it to be.
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Daniel Moore: It's not a boss employee relationship in a marriage, it is an equal level playing ground, just like we just talked about.
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Daniel Moore: So just because the wife submits to the husband, the scripture tells her to, does not mean that you're any lesser value than I am.
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Daniel Moore: This is how the Trinity works.
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Daniel Moore: And so we are reflecting the Trinity and Christ in this relationship.
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Daniel Moore: Number four is covenant faithfulness, not conditional commitment.
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Daniel Moore: The Trinity exists in eternal covenant faithfulness.
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Daniel Moore: God does not abandon himself, the Father never forsakes the Son, and the Spirit never withdraws his presence from the Godhead.
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Daniel Moore: Marriage reflects this same unbreakable covenant pattern.
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Daniel Moore: In Malachi 2, verse 14, it's one of the few places in the Bible that actually calls marriage a covenant and not a contract.
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Daniel Moore: We went through that last week.
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Daniel Moore: Jesus affirms this permanence in Matthew 19, 6 when he says, What God is joined together, let no man separate.
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Daniel Moore: So the Trinitarian love is not based on performance, it's based on faithfulness.
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Daniel Moore: Marriage is meant to echo that same steadfast commitment.
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Daniel Moore: So we need to make sure that we're not trying to compete and outperform each other in the marriage.
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Daniel Moore: That's not what this is all about.
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Daniel Moore: What it really means is no matter what you go through or what happens to you, you know that I'm going to be faithful enough to you that I'm going to be there to be a support system through any of that.
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Daniel Moore: And vice versa, if I'm going through something, I know you're going to be faithful enough to me that you're going to support me in issues that I may have or whatever.
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Daniel Moore: We're not going to try to outperform each other and try to be the most awesome, better person in the relationship because that's not what God's called us to be.
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Daniel Moore: So that's another area where the Trinity mirrors our relationship in marriage.
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Daniel Moore: The fifth one is we have shared mission and purpose.
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Daniel Moore: So the Trinity operates with perfect unity and mission.
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Daniel Moore: So the first thing that they did together was they were involved in creation.
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Daniel Moore: In Genesis chapter 1, verses 1 through 2, and then John chapter 1, verse 3, you can read some scriptures that reinforces how they were all three present when God created everything.
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Daniel Moore: It was a mutual thing that they all three did together.
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Daniel Moore: Secondly, they all three are involved in redemption.
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Daniel Moore: If you look at John 3.16, that very super popular verse, uh, and then if you look at Ephesians chapter 1, verse 7, you're going to see again that God the Father, God the Son, and the Holy Spirit, they're all part of the redeeming power that we have in our life and the way that we are redeemed back to Christ.
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Daniel Moore: And then they're also all three involved in the sanctification role of us as believers.
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Daniel Moore: And you can read about that in Romans 8, verse 11.
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Daniel Moore: So there's some scriptures there that you can do for some homework.
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Daniel Moore: We're not going to get into reading all of those today for the sake of time.
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Daniel Moore: But uh as you look at these three different areas, the creation, the redemption, and the sanctification, that's the beginning to the end point of us being born until we're born again.
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Daniel Moore: So they are actually involved in all of those areas from beginning to the very end where we actually become a Christian and start serving Christ.
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Daniel Moore: There are all three involved in all of those aspects in between.
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Daniel Moore: So likewise, marriage is not just about companionship, it's about shared purpose.
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Daniel Moore: If we look at Genesis chapter 1, verse 28, it gives the husband and wife a joint calling.
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Daniel Moore: And that was to go out into the earth and to multiply and fill the earth.
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Daniel Moore: That was a calling that he put upon them.
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Daniel Moore: Ecclesiastes chapter 4, verse 12 reminds us that a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
32:56
Daniel Moore: That scripture is quoted a lot.
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Daniel Moore: You can take a little tiny flimsy string and you can probably snap it with your two pinkies.
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Daniel Moore: I mean, it just doesn't take much to do that.
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Daniel Moore: But if you take that little tiny string and you start weaving two or three of them together, it becomes harder and harder to break that.
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Daniel Moore: And so here we are again, we see the Trinity.
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Daniel Moore: There's three three strings woven together there.
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Daniel Moore: They are unbreakable when they stay within unity within each other.
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Daniel Moore: So goes our relationship as well.
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Daniel Moore: If we keep the Trinity in our lives as a husband and wife, so we have the husband, the wife, and then the Godhead, we weave all those together.
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Daniel Moore: It's very hard to break that.
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Daniel Moore: If you truly, if you truly follow that biblical model that is put out there, looking at this as us being a reflection of Christ and the Trinity in our marriages.
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Daniel Moore: So when God is at the center of the marriage, the relationship becomes missional, not just personal.
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Daniel Moore: Our marriages shouldn't be all about me and you.
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Daniel Moore: We should expand that as Christians.
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Daniel Moore: We need to let our marriage radiate into other marriages.
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Daniel Moore: And we'll get into this later on in the study that we have a purpose for being married and for being here.
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Daniel Moore: And it's not just to pay bills, have kids, and own a house.
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Daniel Moore: That's just the beginning, a little small portion of it.
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Daniel Moore: There's a big, huge, bigger picture that's involved in this that we're going to eventually get into.
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Daniel Moore: And it is a mission.
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Daniel Moore: It's a mission that God has set us upon.
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Daniel Moore: And we should all be striving to attend that mission each and every day in our lives.
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Daniel Moore: So we'll be getting into that later on.
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Daniel Moore: The sixth and final thing here is love that reflects God to the world.
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Daniel Moore: So Jesus prayed in John 17, 21 that believers would live in unity so that the world may believe.
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Daniel Moore: Unity reveals God.
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Daniel Moore: God is not the creator of confusion.
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Michelle Moore: Right.
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Daniel Moore: We've heard that many times.
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Daniel Moore: Satan is the author of confusion.
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Daniel Moore: So anytime you get into the middle of something and it's crazy and wild and confusing and disorganized when it comes to your spiritual life and the spiritual attributes of things that you go through, you probably need to step back a little bit and see where that's coming from, what the root of that is, because it's probably not godly.
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Michelle Moore: Exactly.
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Michelle Moore: That's good.
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Daniel Moore: So you really need to pay attention to that.
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Daniel Moore: When you see unity in something, then you know God's probably right in the middle of that.
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Daniel Moore: So when we are unified in our marriage, what's that show?
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Daniel Moore: That shows that we probably have God where He needs to be.
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Daniel Moore: If there's no unity there, we probably need to go back to see where God, where's God at now?
35:26
Daniel Moore: That's good.
35:26
Daniel Moore: He's probably not there anymore because you've disowned him and pushed him out the door.
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Michelle Moore: That's good.
35:31
Daniel Moore: In the same way, marriages reflect God's nature to the world.
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Daniel Moore: In Ephesians 5.32, it says marriage points to Christ and the church.
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Daniel Moore: Every healthy marriage becomes a living testimony of God's love, grace, patience, and faithfulness.
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Daniel Moore: Marriage was designed to mirror God, not perfectly, because we're not perfect like God is, but purposefully.
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Daniel Moore: When husbands and wives reflect the relational beauty of the Trinity, their marriage becomes more than a personal bond, it becomes a sacred display of God's glory for the whole world to see.
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Daniel Moore: The Apostle Paul, he amplifies this understanding in Ephesians 5, 31 and 32, where he writes in the ESV, Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.
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Daniel Moore: This mystery is profound, and I'm saying that it refers to Christ and the church.
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Daniel Moore: So here in this verse of Scripture, Paul is clarifying that marriage is intended to point beyond itself to that ultimate love story.
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Daniel Moore: That's the union between Christ and his church.
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Daniel Moore: Each Christian marriage, therefore, transcends the mere joining of two individuals.
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Daniel Moore: It serves as a living parable of Christ's sacrificial love, service, and commitment to his people.
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Daniel Moore: Man, when we look at our marriage like that, doesn't that give us a sense of we've got uh some responsibility?
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Daniel Moore: Absolutely.
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Daniel Moore: Absolutely.
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Daniel Moore: You know, it's it's a whole different ballgame when you start looking at what that truly is reflecting and what that's actually supposed to look like when we're just going through our days here half the time, just letting our steel barely survive, you know, and that just gives us a whole different outlook on what our marriages are supposed to resemble.
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Daniel Moore: So this broader theological vision of marriage has major implications for our relationships today.
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Daniel Moore: Uh, first of all, it shows that our marriages are more than us.
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Daniel Moore: It's more about than just us in that equation.
37:49
Daniel Moore: Uh our marriages are designed to reflect God's character and tell his story.
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Daniel Moore: Marriages infused with love, grace, forgiveness, and faithfulness, they serve as testimonies to the gospel itself.
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Daniel Moore: In John 13, 34 and 35, Jesus commands us to love one another, saying, By this all people will know that you are my disciples.
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Daniel Moore: If you have love for one another, that reflects that.
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Daniel Moore: That shows that you are a disciple of Christ because of that love that you are showing towards other people.
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Daniel Moore: And our marriages should echo that command.
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Daniel Moore: Secondly, marriage should be marked by sacrificial love.
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Daniel Moore: In Ephesians 5.25, Paul directs, as we've stated here a few times, this scripture gets used a lot in marriage ministry.
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Daniel Moore: Husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.
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Daniel Moore: This sets a formidable standard.
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Daniel Moore: Our love within marriage is grounded not in fleeting feelings or conveniences, but it's actually in the selfless sacrifice modeled by Christ.
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Daniel Moore: You know, Christ didn't go to the cross because it was just a convenience or he had a feeling all of a sudden, and he was trying to make sure he fulfilled his feelings.
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Daniel Moore: That's not why he went.
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Daniel Moore: Christ went to that because he was being selfless in what he was doing so that we could be redeemed as Christians for all humanity.
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Daniel Moore: And our marriages should be the same way.
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Daniel Moore: I shouldn't just be running my marriage on my feelings, you know, and how I feel in this moment or how I feel tomorrow.
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Daniel Moore: Could you imagine what kind of a marriage we would have if we did that?
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Daniel Moore: Well, it'd be rough.
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Michelle Moore: Yeah.
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Daniel Moore: Um, because I don't always feel like it, and you don't either.
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Michelle Moore: No, I was gonna say between the feelings and the emotions.
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Michelle Moore: Yeah, you know, if you really think about that.
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Michelle Moore: And I mean, and how many times have we done that?
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Michelle Moore: Yeah, but we're not perfect people, right?
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Daniel Moore: So you know what's gonna happen, and even just the conveniences, you know, it's like it's just convenient for us to be married.
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Daniel Moore: Well, that's not really a way to look at that.
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Daniel Moore: It it's not always gonna be convenient for you to be married, so there's gotta be more to it than that.
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Daniel Moore: Yeah, you know, those are temporary uh fixes, temporary statements that can be made that don't really have any good solid foundation to them.
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Daniel Moore: Uh, when we're running on feelings and conveniences, those can change in a moment.
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Michelle Moore: Oh, absolutely.
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Daniel Moore: They can.
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Daniel Moore: Then you don't have nothing to stand on at that point.
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Daniel Moore: That's good.
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Daniel Moore: So the third one here is marriage models unity and equality and distinction.
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Daniel Moore: So just as the Father, Son, and Spirit are are equally God yet perform different roles, marriage reflects a divine unity between two individuals who are distinct yet complementary.
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Daniel Moore: Galatians 3.28 states that there is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.
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Daniel Moore: This unity does not erase differences, but enriches the partnership through them.
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Daniel Moore: And this narrative here is not supporting what we've seen in the last few years where there's non-binary and all this other stuff in genders, has nothing to do with that whatsoever.
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Daniel Moore: And I'm not even gonna even insinuate that that's the direction this is going.
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Daniel Moore: There is male and female because God created male and female, just like he stated in Genesis.
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Daniel Moore: There is a distinct difference between the two in the genders.
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Daniel Moore: What he's saying here is just because Michelle's a female and I'm a male doesn't mean that God loves me more than he loves her.
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Daniel Moore: Right.
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Daniel Moore: We are all equal in his sight, we are all on equal level playing fields, and he's going to come and meet your needs as much as he's going to meet mine, and vice versa.
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Daniel Moore: He's no respecter of person.
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Daniel Moore: And so in the marriage, we should be the same way.
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Daniel Moore: We should be unified and have equality between each other so that we support each other unconditionally, regardless of what we go through.
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Daniel Moore: There's no superiority complex involved in any of this.
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Daniel Moore: And the fourth thing here, our marriage reflects God's covenant faithfulness.
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Daniel Moore: Just as God remains faithful to his covenant people, despite their shortcomings, spouses are called to exhibit unwavering fidelity to one another.
41:51
Daniel Moore: The prophetic narrative of Hosea presents a vivid example of this covenantal love.
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Daniel Moore: Hosea's relationship with his unfaithful wife symbolically mirrors God's relentless love for Israel, illustrating steadfast commitment despite challenges.
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Daniel Moore: God designed marriage not only for companionship, procreation, or societal stability, but primarily to reflect his own image and love.
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Daniel Moore: When Christian couples embrace this perspective, it cultivates humility, purpose, and a pursuit of holiness.
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Daniel Moore: We begin to view our marriages not solely as personal relationships, but as sacred spaces where the glory of God is on display for the world to witness it.
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Daniel Moore: The clarity and beauty of God's design for marriage echo throughout Scripture, reminding us of the divine purpose in our unions and the profound calling to love and serve as Christ does.
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Daniel Moore: So hopefully through this week's episode, that's going to pretty well, we got a little wrap-up here as we finish this up, but hopefully this has been detailed enough that I think we can get a good grasp on how our marriage reflects the Trinity and who God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit is within our relationships.
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Daniel Moore: I think if we can all get on the same page and completely understand why we are truly married, that there is a huge importance into the whole foundation and aspect of what marriage is, what it's meant to be.
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Daniel Moore: Uh I know it's it's gave me a whole different view of why you and I are together.
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Michelle Moore: Yeah.
43:27
Michelle Moore: Oh, I agree 100%.
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Daniel Moore: I'm so thankful that God, you know, I was able to see that through scripture and understand because that helps our relationship.
43:37
Daniel Moore: Our our relationship just between me and you has grown so much.
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Daniel Moore: Uh just because we know the importance of keeping Christ in the middle of it.
43:44
Daniel Moore: So is there anything that you'd want to add to this one this week?
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Michelle Moore: No.
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Daniel Moore: Hopefully, next episode, hopefully you'll be able to talk a little more.
43:53
Michelle Moore: Amen to that.
43:55
Daniel Moore: Um, but she's been a trooper.
43:57
Daniel Moore: She's like, I'll probably end up not saying much.
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Daniel Moore: And I was like, well, don't push it because I definitely am trying to get her voice back.
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Daniel Moore: And of course, going on our trip, we're wanting to make sure she's well and in good physical shape.
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Daniel Moore: So uh, but I do appreciate her sitting here with me through this episode.
44:14
Daniel Moore: Uh so as we wrap up this week, we'll go ahead and finish this up.
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Daniel Moore: Uh, we want to bring everybody back to the one central truth.
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Daniel Moore: And this whole episode was titled Marriage is God's idea, not man's idea.
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Daniel Moore: We want to bring everybody back to that, that the marriage is designed to reflect God Himself.
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Daniel Moore: From creation to Christ, Scripture shows us that marriage is not just about companionship, happiness, or survival, it's about image bearing, covenant faithfulness, and gospel witness.
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Daniel Moore: We've seen that marriage reflects the very nature of God, the unity, love, and self-giving relationship within the Trinity.
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Daniel Moore: It is meant to model oneness without losing individuality, sacrificial love without keeping score, and commitment that doesn't waver when circumstances get hard.
45:02
Daniel Moore: Marriage is not a contract to manage, but a covenant to steward, made before God and sustained by His grace.
45:10
Daniel Moore: When we view marriage through this lens, it changes how we approach conflict, communication, and commitment.
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Daniel Moore: We stop asking these stupid questions like, What am I getting out of this?
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Daniel Moore: And begin asking, How can I glorify God through the way I love my spouse?
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Daniel Moore: That's a complete better question to ask.
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Daniel Moore: Our marriages become less about personal fulfillment and more about faithful reflection.
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Daniel Moore: No marriage reflects God perfectly.
45:37
Daniel Moore: We don't want to give that insinuation at all when we go through an episode like this, and we've we've stated it a couple of times today, but by His Spirit we are being shaped day by day.
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Daniel Moore: As we pursue humility, forgiveness, and sacrificial love, our marriages become sacred spaces where the gospel is lived out in real time.
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Daniel Moore: And in a world confused about love and commitment, a Christ-centered marriage shines as a powerful testimony.
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Daniel Moore: So our encouragement to you as we leave this week from this episode is this invite God into the center of your marriage.
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Daniel Moore: Anchor your relationship in his truth, and allow his design, not the culture around us, to define your covenant.
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Daniel Moore: When marriage reflects God, it fulfills its higher purpose, bringing him glory and pointing others to the redeeming love of Christ.
46:29
Daniel Moore: I don't think there's a probably a better way that we could end that episode today as we finish up here.
46:36
Daniel Moore: So that's going to be all for this week.
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Daniel Moore: Again, we are going through my first book, Marriage is a Mission, and there is a workbook that goes with that as well.
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Daniel Moore: It's a six six-session study guide that you can purchase if you'd want to do your own study, or if you'd like to do a life group at your church or whatever it may be, you're more than welcome to purchase these and use those for that.
46:58
Daniel Moore: Or if you just like to get the book as we go through this series and have it there on hand.
47:02
Daniel Moore: So as we go through this, you can kind of follow along.
47:05
Daniel Moore: Um, it's not word for word what the book says, is what we're doing here on the podcast, but it's very related and they go together.
47:11
Daniel Moore: So you can pick that up anywhere you can get your books.
47:14
Daniel Moore: Uh go to our website, connectingthegap.net, and marriage lifeandmore.com.
47:18
Daniel Moore: Uh, you can get the books there.
47:20
Daniel Moore: That's the easiest way to do it.
47:22
Daniel Moore: Uh, you can also contact us from there.
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Daniel Moore: There's a contact page there you can fill out, or you can email us at Daniel at connectingthegap.net, and Michelle and I would love to hear from you.
47:31
Daniel Moore: So as we go this week, make sure you say a little prayer for Michelle.
47:36
Daniel Moore: Thanks.
47:36
Daniel Moore: So she can get her voice back and she can start talking again.
47:40
Daniel Moore: And we'll have her hopefully on the next episode.
47:43
Michelle Moore: I don't know if you really want me to start talking or not.
47:46
Michelle Moore: I think you're just being nice.
47:48
Daniel Moore: No, I really miss you piping in over there.
47:51
Daniel Moore: She likes to tattle on me, so I have to get somebody to tattle on the stuff that I do.
47:56
Daniel Moore: So she's good at that.
47:57
Daniel Moore: But no, I do miss having her chime in.
48:00
Daniel Moore: So please say a prayer for her.
48:02
Daniel Moore: But that's all for this week.
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Daniel Moore: We'll be back next week and we'll jump into chapter two in our study here on marriage as a mission.
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Daniel Moore: As we go, we pray that your marriage is stronger and your walk with God is closer after this episode.
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Daniel Moore: This is an extension of Connecting to Gap Ministries, and we pray that you have a blessed week.