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- riverside edit lisa lisa dwoskin's stud (2): Hello and welcome back to Life Rescue with Lisa. Thank you all so much for joining me. And I'm so happy to say that I'm getting many more views on all my YouTube videos and my streaming on iHeartRadio, on Spotify, on Apple Podcast, on wherever else I'm putting it. I can't even remember now, but all over the place. And all of a sudden, The momentum has been building up and many people are watching. You all are making comments, liking, sharing it, calling in to my phone number, which is 754-222-4413. Please keep calling in. Share your thoughts with me. Tell me your story. Ask if you want to be on my podcast. I'd love to have you. We all have a voice that needs to be heard. And I'm so happy to be able to share it with all of you. So thank you. And the first thing I want to do for not only all of you, but for me today, bring your hands to prayer position if you feel comfortable. Close your eyes. Take a long deep breath in. Exhale out fully. Keep your eyes closed if you can. If you're driving or you can't close your eyes, that's fine. Breathe in above your head. Beautiful positive energy. Exhale, negative energy. Bring your hands back to the heart. Breathe in peace, love, and light. Exhale fear, stress, worry. Namaste. Okay, so now we all are more centered, grounded, balanced, and I'm ready to jump right into the topic that I would like to discuss today, which is something that I really need today because I am going through it. And I'm sure that all of you are going through different stresses in your life. And one thing about me, don't you love my nails? They're all half on, half off. I need to get them done. All my nail polish is chipping. And guess what? I don't care. And another thing, I don't care that I'm gonna be truth truthful and honest and authentic to all of you and tell you I'm not doing very well today. And this is why I'm doing this podcast because it's not only gonna help all of you, it's gonna help me. And I show up as a true authentic person that I am. I'm not here to say, everything's so perfect. Namaste and let go of the shit and everything's great. And no, it's not about all that fake book and Instagram and, you know, I drive a great car. I have a lot of money. Everything's great. No, because that's not really true for anyone, no matter how much money you have or don't have. We all have issues. We all have challenges. Some days are better than others. Today's a rough day for me, but I still showed up. I'm doing this podcast for all of you and for me. So here we go. When stress starts to affect your health, that's not a good thing. Breathe in. Exhale. So breath work for me helps so much. Yoga helps so much. So let's just jump in and then I'll give little tidbits of what I do to get through stress. But when stress starts to affect Your health, recognizing the warning signs, protecting your peace and finding your way forward. So protecting your peace, that's a huge one. When stress becomes more than stress, how everyday pressures can turn into chronic stress, work, children, toxic relationships, family conflict, grief, and unexpected life changes. The moment when emotional stress begins to affect your physical health is a problem. It's a challenge. Recognizing that something needs to change. So I have been going through stressful situations in my life all around with my children, with my partner, with my career, everything, I don't know, it like happens at once. My waterfall is not going. What happened? Uh-oh. Breathe in positive energy. Exhale, negative. Maybe I hit the wrong switch with my amethyst waterfall. I just noticed that. Okay, sorry about that. So when you start feeling stressful to where, like me, my heart starts beating a little bit faster. My hands start to shake a little bit. I have trouble breathing. I have anxiety, which I do not suffer from anxiety in my life. So to feel anxious about something, then I know that I'm getting f affected health wise. And I can't allow that to happen in my life because I have children. I have a beautiful life. I want to live. I don't want to be weighed down and cause myself chronic. health with high cortisol levels and not feel good. So when your body starts sending you these warning signals, which I just I put these all in my notes, I'm going ahead of my notes. The racing heart, shaking, tension, headaches, exhaustion, loss of appetite, difficulty eating, disrupted sleep, feeling anxious, like I said, overwhelmed, unable to relax. Like me, When I get like this, I relax in yoga. I go to a yoga class and it brings me to that more peaceful state, or I go to the beach and I walk on the beach, but recently, the past three or four days, none of that has been helping me. It'll help me temporarily, but then my mind starts going. I start racing. I have these racing thoughts. My hands start to shake, like that kind of thing. And then I have to tell myself, Lisa. Breathe. You have to breathe and relax and get through this. Understanding the connection between your mind and your body. And even though I'm a life coach and even though I teach yoga and meditation, I'm human and it happens to me as well. So when I understand that my mind is making my body react accordingly, I gotta do something about it. Recognizing when symptoms need medical attention. rather than assuming they're caused by stress. So that's just a little info that I want to go over. Mine does not need medical attention. But if you're feeling these kind of symptoms, it could be a heart problem, it could be a health issue, then if you can't control it or you're feeling severely depressed or suicidal or to that extreme, get medical attention. That's very important. So Why do we stay in stressful situations? Because we feel responsible for everyone else's happiness, whether we have happiness ourselves, but we put everyone else ahead of our feelings, and that's not good to do. We are not responsible for other people's happiness, we are only responsible for ourselves. We can help other people, we can guide other people, we can love other people, but we are not responsible for other people's happiness. Remember that. Remember that, remember that. Fear of change, uncertainty or disappointing others. That's a big one. Fear of change or disappointing others. So uncertainty is mine. I do not like uncertainty. I'm a Capricorn, independent woman. I like stability. I like structure. I don't like chaos, uncertainty. Where am I gonna go? Where am I gonna live? Where am I gonna work? Where am I gonna eat? Well I I like stable structure. So I don't know what you feel. It could be fear of change, it could be disappointing others. Be aware of what's going on with your stressful situation. Believing we have to keep pushing through. Boy, boy, is that one for me? I drive, I strive, I go, I never give up, I keep going. But then God, my higher power, the universe, knocks me on my ass and I'm like in bed for twenty-four hours sleeping because I keep going or I used to do that. Now I'm getting better at saying, Okay, Lisa, you're a little bit older now, you gotta take care of your health, slow down. So that's a big one. Don't keep pushing through when you're not feeling like you can. Ignoring our own needs until our bodies force us to pay attention. Like I just said. In my marriage that I had my kids, my husband, it got so bad, so toxic, so unhealthy that I started physically breaking down. almost like a nervous breakdown. And then I had a heart issue and I had a heart surgery. I had and I'll tell you all about that another time. But the point is, stress can kill you. And I was allowing the stress to almost kill me. Luckily, that's when I found yoga meditation, healing, self-help, reading. That was probably I would say 25 years ago and I've come very far. So I've come far enough to not let stress kill me. I I see the warning signs and I do something about it. Okay, so where am I? Understanding that last one with this point, why we stay in stressful situations. Understanding that being strong doesn't mean sacrificing your health. Because that is so true. You can be strong, but you have to take care of your well-being. So when your stress starts causing your body to break down and you're having physical symptoms and not just mental, you cannot allow it to keep going and going and going. You don't have to sacrifice your health to stay in a stressful situation. The turning point. When something has to change is when you're feeling all of this physical ailments, mental, you can't function, or maybe you don't allow yourself to get to that point. I don't. When I start feeling the anxiety, the heart palpitations, the shaking, that kind of stuff. I'm like, okay, Lisa, make a change. Do something. Go in a different direction. Take care of yourself. Take yourself out of the environment that's causing. You the stress, do something about it. So when something has to change, recognizing what is within your control and what isn't. This is huge. So if it's a job, change jobs. If you need money, get money somewhere else. Find a new job. Leave the old job. It's if it's with your kids, set boundaries. If it's in your environment where you live, get out of the environment. And if you can't start planning on how to get out of that environment, you have to always make a plan to not stay in something that you can't control and is causing you to go down, down, down physically and mentally. Identifying the biggest sources of stress in your life. Pen to paper. I'm always saying journal. Every morning, no matter what I'm going through. I take a walk, I pray, I meditate. and then I journal. I do that every single day. And you know what? Even me who knows how important this is and who teaches people about what I just said, there was a time where I was like, you know what, Lisa, you don't have to do it every day. Do it every other day. Do it twice a week. Do it once a week. No, I work out every single day, no matter what. I brush my teeth. I take a shower. I eat. I meditate and pray every single day in journal now because I know that I need it. It's good for me and it helps me to move my life forward, to go inward, to see. Pen to paper, what is going on, Lisa? Open your heart and your soul on paper with your pen and see what's going on. Quiet your mind. Be still, go within, see what's going on, pray to your higher power, God, energy, whatever it is, go inward in order to work on your challenges, your issues. It's very, very important. Asking yourself, what is this situation that is costing me emotionally and physically deteriorating my health? What is the situation? What is in it that's costing me these feelings? Why am I having it? Analyze it. Don't push it away with drugs, with alcohol, with sex, with gambling. No. Sit in it and recognize what your issues are. Accepting that you cannot always change other people, but you can make choices for yourself. So that's a big one for me because I always try to change other people. My children, my partner, my father, my mother, my brother. I'm this life coach that has to coach people, give them solutions, give them tips and give them food for thought. But the truth is I can only educate them as well as myself, but I can't change anyone around me, but I can change myself. That's why I'm doing this podcast to help all of you and to help myself reiterate and recognize and repeat and be consistent with the changes that I need to make also within myself, not within other people. Understanding that protecting your health is not a selfish thing. I talk about this a lot. It is not selfish to put yourself first. You have to. You can put your partner, you can put your children, you can put your loved ones right there with you, but don't put yourself beneath them, either right next to them or above them, because, like I always say, when you're on an airplane, you have to put the oxygen on yourself before your children. Take care of you. Take care of you. Take care of you. Okay. Positive changes that will help us navigate through the stress. So I'm just gonna run through these because I've already talked about a lot of them. Establishing boundaries with people and situations, prioritizing sleep. That's huge. I have my Fitbit. I used to always stay up later to help people. Make my partner happy, stay go out with my kids. No. Now in my life, when I'm going through so many things, sleep, 10 o'clock, I'm in bed. Cause I wake up like 5 36. Sleep is a non-negotiable for me. Prioritize it. Nourishing food. Movement. Time to decompress for yourself. Practicing breathing. Breathe in positive energy, exhale negative. Meditation, prayer, Yoga. Okay, every time I do that, I'm taking a breath and it's helping me. So thank you, everyone. Talking to a trusted friend. Okay, this is a sticky topic. Who are your trusted friends? Okay, I have a lot of friends. Some I can trust, some I can't, some I can talk to, some I can't. And it's not really for me about distrusting. It's I don't want opinions all the time. I I I don't need everybody's opinion. he's terrible. your daughter's this. my daughter was this, so your daughter's this. Your son is this because my son was this. I hate men, so get rid of your man. Yeah, whatever. Some friends you can't talk to. I gave a shout out to my bestie in the last one, and I'm gonna give her a shout out on this one again. My best friend Sari, who lives in Spain. She listens to me and I can talk and talk and talk as all of With her, I could talk for 20 minutes straight. She barely says anything, and I'm like, feeling bad sometimes, and I try not to, but I'm a detailed person. But you know what she always does when I'm done talking? I love you, Lisa. I love you. You're strong, you're empowered, that you're gonna make the right decision. She doesn't criticize anyone in my life that I'm telling her the story about. She listens and she doesn't really sometimes I'll say, please, I need your opinion, because she's smart, she's been through a lot, she's educated, intellectual, worldly, I love her. So she'll give me her opinion, but only if I ask, please, Sari, give me your opinion. Otherwise she listens and she just is a friend that I can trust because no matter what I tell her, she's never gonna hold it against any of my loved ones. Or she won't, you know, criticize. It's so I love you, Sari. Thank you. I'm blessed to have you as my bestie. And I have many great friends in my life, many that are always there for me. I'm so blessed, but I'm also there for them too. So it's a two-way street. So just make sure you find the right friend. That you can trust and talk to. A therapist. I have the best therapist in the world. I love her. I thank her. Her name is Joan Childs. And I did a podcast with her. Do you hate the one you love? We started with couples therapy and she helped Brian and I tremendously. But she also has helped me individually. She's helping my daughter when my daughter needs it. She's the bomb. Check her out. Reach out to her. Healthcare professionals, life coaches, personal training. I help so many clients and I'm so blessed to have my clients. I thank all of them. And I know they love me because they keep coming back. So get yourself a life coach, a personal trainer to make your body, mind, and spirit help make you feel better. Most personal trainers are life coaches because you're working out, but you're also talking about positive things for your life. So reach out to someone. Breaking overwhelming problems into smaller, more manageable steps. This is great. I had a talk with my daughter the other day who was overwhelmed with 20 things. And I'm like, babe, compartmentalize things. Don't think about what you're going to do in your future. Think about what you're going to do today. How are you going to get through today? One step in front of the other, in front of the other. And then tomorrow when you wake up, how are you going to get through tomorrow? What changes can you make? Not what am I going to do next week, next month, next year? No. So for those of you going through stressful situations with a partner, what are you going to do about it today with a job, with a child, really with anything? One day at a time is all we can do. To survive, to thrive, to get through tough situations day by day, break it up into small manageable steps, reducing exposure to unnecessary conflict and negativity. Take yourself out of toxic situations, relationships, friendships, family drama, making decisions based on your well being, not just fear or obligations. Put yourself first, okay? When you need to ask for help, when do you? Knowing when stress is interfering with your daily life, if you can't get out of bed, if you're depressed, if you're anxious, if you're suicidal, if you can't breathe and your heart is going crazy, get help, professional help. Go to the hospital, call a hotline. Go seek a professional immediately because stress can kill you if they if you can't manage them by yourself. Understanding you don't have to navigate everything alone. You are not alone. There is so much help out there. Seek it. Recognizing that physical symptoms deserve attention, even during the most stressful times of your life. Stress can cause physical symptoms, but don't automatically assume that erasing heart shaking, like I said, is caused just from stress. If they keep pursuing, get definitely medical attention. Okay. Last and closing number well, not my closing thought just yet. Number seven, finding your way, my last number. Number seven, finding your way back to yourself. You cannot always control what happens, but you can take steps to care for yourself. Take those steps. Give yourself permission to pause, reassess, and make the changes that you need to make. Choose progress over perfection. Give yourself a break. Every day, one step is all you need. Don't try to be perfect. Remembering that peace sometimes requires difficult decisions. So in my life right now, I had to make a very difficult decision that was not causing me peace when I couldn't make the decision. And We made a decision, my partner and I, that's going to help us. It's a difficult decision, but we made the decision and now we can move forward and go in a direction that's best for both of us. Not saying that we're breaking up. That's not what I'm saying. I'm just saying tough decisions that we have to make in our lives, whether they're easy or not, to move forward is what. We have to do make those difficult decisions, even if they're difficult in the long run for your health, they'll be better for you, for your partner, for your child, for whatever it is you're going through. Peace is the most important thing. You deserve a life that doesn't constantly compromise your well being. You deserve it. I deserve it. He deserves it. She deserves it. We all deserve a life that doesn't compromise our well being. Sometimes your body begins telling you what your heart has been trying to tell you for a very long time. Something isn't working. Whether it's with your children, your career, your relationship, you need to listen to your body's signals. You need to listen to your heart. You need to listen to that inner voice in you telling you something needs to change because you know you're hearing that voice. I know I'm hearing that voice loud and clear. You need to listen to that voice and honor that voice within you. You don't have to wait until you're completely depleted to make a change. You don't have to keep sacrificing your peace to make that change. You don't need to keep everyone else happy. You need to keep yourself happy. You don't have to have every answer today. Start by listening to yourself. Identifying what needs attention and ask for the help when you need it. Ask for professional help. Ask for a friend. Ask yourself for help. Take one positive step at a time. Taking care of yourself is not giving up on your responsibilities or the people you love. It's making sure that you Can continue to show up for your life without losing yourself in the process. So important. Your health matters, your peace matters, you matter. So thank you all so much for joining. Remember, life rescue is a movement, it's a way of life, and we are in this together. You, me, All the souls in this universe, that's what namaste means. Namaste, my soul recognizes your soul. We're all one in this collective universe. Let's get through it together. Bring in your arms up in the air, bring in peace, love, and light to yourself, to the world, to the people you love, and release fear, stress, and worry. Namaste, everybody. Have a beautiful day. Thank you so much. Like this video. Share it. Comment on it. Call me if you want to talk. If you need advice. If you need some help. If you want to be on my next podcast, 754-222-4413. Thank you all so much. Namaste. Have a beautiful and blessed day. Bye-bye.