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5 Min Pocket Pep talks- Listen When You Need to Get Out of Your Own Way · The Nadia Chapman Show

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  Welcome to the Nadia Chapman Show, the five-minute pocket pep talk.
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  If you're listening to this right now and you click on this podcast,
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  there's a good chance that you already know what you need to do,
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  but you keep getting in your own way.
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  Maybe you are well aware that you need to have the conversation or make the
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  decision or do that thing that you need to just begin and get started.
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  Or maybe the risk that you need to take. You know what to do,
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  but you don't do it quite yet.
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  Somehow, you keep getting in your own way.
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  You overthink everything. You question yourself. Maybe you imagine everything
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  that could go wrong or you wait for maybe more confidence, more clarity.
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  Sometimes we wait for more motivation or maybe just a silly magical sign that
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  guarantees everything will work out.
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  And while you're waiting and postponing, you stay exactly where you are.
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  So let me lovingly remind you of something.
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  You do not need to feel completely ready to move forward. I cannot say that enough.
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  You just need to stop making that next step bigger than it actually is.
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  Because sometimes the biggest obstacle between you and the life that you want
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  isn't the lack of opportunity.
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  It isn't even fear. It's the story that you keep telling yourself over and over
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  again about what that fear means.
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  Maybe you're just convinced that being nervous means that you're not ready and
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  that doubting yourself means that you shouldn't do it.
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  A lot of people think that if they can do something perfectly and confidently
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  or without the possibility of maybe embarrassing yourself, you shouldn't do it at all.
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  But that's not the truth. That's your brain trying to protect you from discomfort.
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  Your brain loves what's familiar, even when what is familiar keeps you stuck.
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  So your brain will give you an escape route. Oh, start tomorrow. Or you know what?
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  You just need to think about this a little longer. Or maybe now is not the time. Oh, what if you fail?
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  What will people think? But here's the question I want you to ask yourself.
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  What if I stop negotiating with the part of me that is afraid to grow?
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  Hmm. Not because that part is bad, not because you should be angry at yourself,
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  but maybe because fear doesn't get to make every decision in your life.
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  Confidence does not usually come before the action.
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  Confidence is created by the action. It grows every single time that you keep
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  a promise to yourself, every single time that you take the step while your hands are shaking,
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  Every time that you stop waiting to become somebody braver and just choose to
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  behave like the person now.
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  So let's make this very simple. What is one thing, one thing you already know you need to do?
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  And don't think about the entire journey right now. Don't think about all the
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  steps that come after it.
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  Just identify one next step.
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  Maybe it's send the message, make that phone call, write the post,
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  sign up for something, ask a question, walk through the door, one step, and that's it.
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  You do not have to solve your whole life today. That's a good news.
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  You only have to stop abandoning yourself at the starting line.
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  And maybe you've been getting in your own way because you care so much.
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  Maybe this dream matters to you, and maybe you want it so badly that the possibility
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  of failing feels terrifying.
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  But again, avoiding the possibility of failure also means avoiding the possibility
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  of discovering what you're capable of.
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  And you deserve to find that out. Let me tell you, you deserve to meet that
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  version of you who exists on the other side of this decision.
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  So take a deep breath with me and slowly let it go.
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  And now just tell yourself, I don't need to have it all figured out.
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  I don't need to feel completely ready. I only need enough courage for the next step.
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  All right, you're not stuck. You're standing in front of a choice and you can
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  make a choice now, not tomorrow, not when you feel more confident right now.
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  So when this episode ends, it's a quick little five-minute pocket pep talk.
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  Don't open another app. Don't collect another opinion.
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  Don't give yourself another hour of overthinking. do one small thing that moves
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  you forward and do it imperfectly. All right. Even if it's uncomfortable,
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  even if it's messy, just let it be done.
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  Because sometimes getting out of your own way doesn't require a huge breakthrough.
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  Sometimes it's simply deciding, you know what, I'm not going to talk myself
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  out of the life I keep saying I want. You are ready enough. You are capable enough.
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  And the next step is waiting. Go get it and keep me posted.