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Bad Day in Business? Listen to this.. · Your Girl: The High Ticket Sales Podcast | Scale Your Business & Get More Clients

• 0:00
  SPEAKER_02: Hey y'all, today I wanted to record an episode about if you have a bad day in business because it's very much going to happen.
• 0:11
  SPEAKER_02: I don't have to tell you that business is a massive roller coaster.
• 0:15
  SPEAKER_02: One month you're on such a high, you're making all the money you ever dreamed.
• 0:20
  SPEAKER_02: You are bragging about everything to everyone.
• 0:22
  SPEAKER_02: And the next month the rug gets pulled out from under you.
• 0:26
  SPEAKER_02: And I just want to take a second and just like pause and let's all take a breath together.
• 0:34
  SPEAKER_02: Because I feel like right now your mind is racing, you're angry, you're upset, you're you want to cry, all these emotions.
• 0:41
  SPEAKER_02: But I feel like it's best if we just take a second and ground ourselves.
• 0:46
  SPEAKER_02: So wherever you are, if you're driving, maybe hold that thought for everyone else.
• 0:52
  SPEAKER_02: Let's take a second and ground ourselves and take a few breaths together.
• 0:56
  SPEAKER_02: So close your eyes if you're as long as you're not driving.
• 0:59
  SPEAKER_02: Close your eyes.
• 1:02
  SPEAKER_02: And we're gonna do box breathing.
• 1:04
  SPEAKER_02: This is where we're gonna take in four breaths, hold at the top, exhale for four breaths, and hold at the bottom.
• 1:12
  SPEAKER_02: And I'll put on some nice music for us to do that together.
• 1:14
  SPEAKER_02: Okay, let's ground ourselves.
• 1:16
  SPEAKER_02: So breathe in.
• 1:21
  SPEAKER_02: Hold for four.
• 1:26
  SPEAKER_02: Breathe out.
• 2:16
  SPEAKER_02: Let's open her eyes and look at what is around us, what is present, what is here, and let's talk about your bad day.
• 2:26
  SPEAKER_02: I have my blanket, I have my sale coffee from this morning, and I'm ready to hear you out because I know what you're feeling.
• 2:37
  SPEAKER_02: I've had my amount of bad days in business where I just feel completely crushed.
• 2:42
  SPEAKER_02: And I want you to first of all recognize the feeling.
• 2:46
  SPEAKER_02: Like you should absolutely feel this feeling.
• 2:48
  SPEAKER_02: I think to just bulldoze over and to keep working and to say it's not a big deal is not always the best thing.
• 2:54
  SPEAKER_02: I think you should have yourself some pity days.
• 2:57
  SPEAKER_02: Um, that's when I just say completely pity yourself.
• 3:01
  SPEAKER_02: Like, bitch, complain, moan, crawl into bed, watch a bunch of junk TV and eat a bunch of junk food and just rot, rot and feel bad for yourself.
• 3:13
  SPEAKER_02: Because you should feel bad for yourself.
• 3:14
  SPEAKER_02: Like something shitty happened.
• 3:16
  SPEAKER_02: And you need to acknowledge it and let your body know, like, hey, like I hear you, and this does suck, and I'm not gonna ignore it.
• 3:23
  SPEAKER_02: And I really, really do believe in like pity days.
• 3:26
  SPEAKER_02: It could be a pity hour, it could be a pretty pity day, it could be a few pity days, but the whole point of it is to really feel the emotion.
• 3:33
  SPEAKER_02: And I don't mean this in like a hippie therapy way, like just imagine there's someone telling you a problem and you just bulldoze over it.
• 3:41
  SPEAKER_02: How would they feel?
• 3:42
  SPEAKER_02: Like, that's how your body's feeling.
• 3:44
  SPEAKER_02: And you need to listen to your body, and your body's upset, as it has right to.
• 3:49
  SPEAKER_02: So give yourself like a pity party, however long you want that to last, and just bitch and moan and feel bad for yourself and feel it.
• 3:58
  SPEAKER_02: Recently, I had a bad day and I tried to work through it, and I was just really antsy, kind of angry, just like not my work.
• 4:08
  SPEAKER_02: I wasn't even really working.
• 4:09
  SPEAKER_02: I was trying to work through it and I just couldn't.
• 4:12
  SPEAKER_02: I couldn't, and I should have just taken a pity day.
• 4:14
  SPEAKER_02: So the next day I took a pity day and I went on some walks and I did nothing to do with my business.
• 4:21
  SPEAKER_02: And I called into bed and I watched this show called Good Girls.
• 4:24
  SPEAKER_02: Essentially, it's like if breaking bad was for girls, it's such a good show.
• 4:27
  SPEAKER_02: And that's what I did.
• 4:28
  SPEAKER_02: I just rotted and watched TV and did not touch my business and journaled and called on my friends and bitched and moaned and tried to get out the feelings.
• 4:38
  SPEAKER_02: And here's where like having a good support system is so important.
• 4:43
  SPEAKER_02: Um, and it can be hard when we're in business and we just are working online, we don't have that.
• 4:47
  SPEAKER_02: And you could go to your husband or your partner, your friend, and they will listen to you and they will definitely try to make you feel better.
• 4:53
  SPEAKER_02: But also having a person in business who fucking gets it when you lose a client, when you're going through a hard situation, when a big bill comes up and you can't afford it, like whatever the situation is, having someone in business who understands that feeling and has been through the feeling and is on the better side of it is huge, huge.
• 5:15
  SPEAKER_02: So who do you have in your life that you could call right now or text or just go get a copy with or a drink with that's in business that could help you?
• 5:24
  SPEAKER_02: And if you don't have someone for that, I highly recommend my community.
• 5:28
  SPEAKER_02: I'm not gonna say much on it, just in general, like the girls in that community are really, really there for you when you have bad days.
• 5:35
  SPEAKER_02: And not just there for you to listen to you, they'll also pick you up and refer you and get you business.
• 5:40
  SPEAKER_02: Like, but it doesn't have to be my community, it could be just a community or just your group of girlfriends that are in business that will be there for you on a bad day.
• 5:48
  SPEAKER_02: When I had a really bad day, um my friend Megan took me out to dinner and we had a couple beers and laughed and forgot about everything.
• 5:55
  SPEAKER_02: I had multiple friends in my community call me and just listen to me for an hour and help me work through a problem.
• 6:02
  SPEAKER_02: Like I have actually many friends that did that for me that just listen to me for days, figure out what to do.
• 6:08
  SPEAKER_02: And if you don't have that, the community is always there for you if you do need it.
• 6:12
  SPEAKER_02: But I bet you do have a couple people in your corner who are there for you.
• 6:16
  SPEAKER_02: So again, bitch, moan, complain, and then find your business friends who can really understand you.
• 6:24
  SPEAKER_02: Because, like, what we're doing is so freaking brave.
• 6:27
  SPEAKER_02: Like what you're doing is so brave.
• 6:29
  SPEAKER_02: Like, you easily could just follow the matrix, do a job you can't stand, but pays you consistent money.
• 6:37
  SPEAKER_02: You could do that.
• 6:39
  SPEAKER_02: You could do that.
• 6:40
  SPEAKER_02: There's lots of people who are not as brave as you who are doing that.
• 6:43
  SPEAKER_02: They clock in and out of a job they cannot stand that sucks their soul out of their body, but it gives them a consistent paycheck.
• 6:50
  SPEAKER_02: They don't have to think, they don't have to wear all hats in the business, they don't have to take risks.
• 6:56
  SPEAKER_02: No, but you didn't sell your soul.
• 6:58
  SPEAKER_02: You are taking a risk, you're taking a fucking chance on yourself every day in your business.
• 7:04
  SPEAKER_02: You get up and you figure it out.
• 7:06
  SPEAKER_02: You put on all hats of the business, you're the sales, you're PR, you're the social media manager, you're the content creator, you're the podcast producer, you're the community manager, you are the crisis manager, you are everything, you're the accountant, like you're everything.
• 7:25
  SPEAKER_02: So let's give yourself some grace right here.
• 7:27
  SPEAKER_02: That like okay, you've had a bad day, a bad month, maybe a bad season, but like you're a fucking badass, dude.
• 7:35
  SPEAKER_02: You're a badass.
• 7:37
  SPEAKER_02: So many people would just call it quits and go back to selling their soul at some job.
• 7:43
  SPEAKER_02: And maybe it's not even that dramatic.
• 7:44
  SPEAKER_02: Some people just don't they just don't have it left in them, and that's okay if they feel like corporate or whatever the job before that their business works out for them.
• 7:52
  SPEAKER_02: That's totally okay too.
• 7:53
  SPEAKER_02: I'm not trying to shame them actually, but you are a badass, and I don't mean that in a cheesy way, like you really, really are.
• 8:00
  SPEAKER_02: You take risks, and with risks, yeah, there are gonna come days that just really pull the rug out from under you.
• 8:07
  SPEAKER_02: And I also want to talk to the person who's not just having a bad day, they're in a rough patch, they're in a really, really rough patch, and those things can take months to get out of.
• 8:19
  SPEAKER_02: Months to get out of.
• 8:21
  SPEAKER_02: I remember when I was in LA a few years ago, I was on such a high, I was with my friends, that was my first year of business, so so happy.
• 8:28
  SPEAKER_02: And then I lost like two clients in two days.
• 8:31
  SPEAKER_02: Um just to reference, like I'm a podcast producer, all my clients are on retainer, really high ticket, all high ticket, and so if I lose a client, it does take a big chunk out of my money.
• 8:44
  SPEAKER_02: Not to mention if I lose multiple clients at the same time.
• 8:47
  SPEAKER_02: If this is my first year in business, it took it took me out, and I had to go move back home with my mom for six months and rebuild my business to a stronger business.
• 8:57
  SPEAKER_02: Um that was hard.
• 9:00
  SPEAKER_02: That was really hard.
• 9:01
  SPEAKER_02: I can't lie and sit sit here and say I wasn't freaking depressed.
• 9:04
  SPEAKER_02: I was depressed.
• 9:07
  SPEAKER_02: Yeah, it wasn't fun.
• 9:08
  SPEAKER_02: I also know a lot of other friends who they're doing great, and then the rug gets pulled out from under them and they have to go back home.
• 9:15
  SPEAKER_02: But they're so supported by people that they love, and then maybe it's not their life isn't ideal, and your life isn't ideal right now, and you're not living your best, best life.
• 9:26
  SPEAKER_02: But these moments, these rough patches, do teach us something, and that's annoying to hear, really annoying to hear, because you won't really understand the lesson until you're on the other side of it.
• 9:38
  SPEAKER_02: But it's not gonna last, just all the good moments don't last either, but the bad moments don't last either, too.
• 9:45
  SPEAKER_02: This is a period of time, but it's not fucking fun being in the rough patch, it's not fun being in a rough patch, especially in the summer, when it's Euro summer and everyone's out in their fucking yacht in Greece, and you're over here having the worst month ever in your business.
• 10:01
  SPEAKER_02: Like, it's not fun, and that's why I do think being off social media is really important.
• 10:06
  SPEAKER_02: Like, do what you can, do what you need to do in your business, but don't go looking at other people's lives and how their business is doing gickoff threads where everyone's bragging about how much money they're making or LinkedIn, dear God, that's probably the worst place to hang out when you're having a bad month.
• 10:19
  SPEAKER_02: Like, be present.
• 10:20
  SPEAKER_02: Try to be as present as possible and just be where you are right now.
• 10:24
  SPEAKER_02: Who are the real homies around you right now that can help you and can support you?
• 10:28
  SPEAKER_02: How are you safe in your life right now?
• 10:30
  SPEAKER_02: Because I feel like when bad business months happen, it's usually because, yeah, like financially something's happened and you gotta you don't feel safe anymore.
• 10:38
  SPEAKER_02: The rug got pulled out from under you.
• 10:39
  SPEAKER_02: You feel like you're fucking free-falling.
• 10:42
  SPEAKER_02: How can you find some safety?
• 10:44
  SPEAKER_02: Where are things that you have in your life that truly are safe?
• 10:47
  SPEAKER_02: Do you have a bed?
• 10:48
  SPEAKER_02: Do you have a roof?
• 10:48
  SPEAKER_02: Do you have fresh, clean water?
• 10:52
  SPEAKER_02: Do you have a support system, even if it's just one friend?
• 10:55
  SPEAKER_02: Do you have a really good partner that supports you?
• 10:57
  SPEAKER_02: Do you have a really good dog you can cuddle with?
• 11:00
  SPEAKER_02: Like, how can you feel safe?
• 11:01
  SPEAKER_02: I also really recommend tapping videos.
• 11:04
  SPEAKER_02: I started doing EFT tapping to kind of reprogram my brain from feeling unsafe or whatever you're going through and feel like something bad's happened, you know, maybe felt you have you have a lot of anger that you want to move through or anything.
• 11:16
  SPEAKER_02: I really recommend EFT tapping.
• 11:18
  SPEAKER_02: That also helps.
• 11:19
  SPEAKER_02: But the whole point is how do you bring yourself back to the present moment and get off social media and seeing what other people are doing?
• 11:24
  SPEAKER_02: The comparison game when you're in the fucking dirt.
• 11:27
  SPEAKER_02: You're in the dirt.
• 11:29
  SPEAKER_02: It's never fun.
• 11:30
  SPEAKER_02: And bring your world back to you.
• 11:34
  SPEAKER_02: And probably get off LinkedIn.
• 11:37
  SPEAKER_02: Um but the rough, the rough patches and the rough seasons are a bit of a different game than the bad days.
• 11:43
  SPEAKER_02: The bad days can be healed through some ice cream, some Netflix, some bitching and moaning, and then dusting off and get getting back up.
• 11:51
  SPEAKER_02: But what if you keep doing that over and over and over and you just keep staying in a rough patch?
• 11:57
  SPEAKER_02: There might be some logistical things that may need to change in your business.
• 12:01
  SPEAKER_02: I'm a big fan of pivoting, like only if you've really exhausted an idea and you've tried the market and it hasn't worked.
• 12:08
  SPEAKER_02: I'm actually gonna leave um an episode my client did in the show notes.
• 12:11
  SPEAKER_02: She did an episode about how to know when to pivot your business, or if you're just having a bad time, a bad season, or you're just exhausted and you're bored.
• 12:20
  SPEAKER_02: There's three questions you should ask yourself if you should actually pivot your business if things are truly not working.
• 12:25
  SPEAKER_02: I'm gonna leave that episode below.
• 12:26
  SPEAKER_02: It's so good.
• 12:29
  SPEAKER_02: Um yeah, sometimes it is time to pivot and try out another idea in your business.
• 12:34
  SPEAKER_02: If the market truly isn't responding, that could be a problem that could definitely be solved.
• 12:40
  SPEAKER_02: Sometimes you're just getting hit back to back to back with things.
• 12:45
  SPEAKER_02: One of my more recent episodes with my friend Alex, she talked about how she was doing good in business and then she had um emergency surgery that put her in the financial hole.
• 12:57
  SPEAKER_02: And she was waking up to her account being like negative a thousand dollars, and she just couldn't get out of that hole.
• 13:03
  SPEAKER_02: And it was through community and leaning on people and that she got out of that hole, on top of the hard work, of course.
• 13:10
  SPEAKER_02: But she leaned on the people in my community.
• 13:12
  SPEAKER_02: We helped her out of it, we helped refer her to people, get her feet back up, on top of you know, her also just working her ass off in general.
• 13:19
  SPEAKER_02: But she leaned on the right people, she got vulnerable and said, Hey guys, I really need fucking help.
• 13:24
  SPEAKER_02: I really need help.
• 13:25
  SPEAKER_02: And she was vulnerable.
• 13:26
  SPEAKER_02: So sometimes you gotta do that too.
• 13:29
  SPEAKER_02: You gotta go to the people that are in your world that you feel safe with and be like, I genuinely need your help.
• 13:35
  SPEAKER_02: And I bet you people will actually show up for you in so many ways you didn't know.
• 13:39
  SPEAKER_02: I've had so many people in my life give me their homes when I've been in bad situations.
• 13:44
  SPEAKER_02: When a homeless man broke into my house in LA and I could never return back to my house, because he'd been living there for months, by the way.
• 13:51
  SPEAKER_02: It's a whole story.
• 13:52
  SPEAKER_02: It's actually my founder's my first episode.
• 13:55
  SPEAKER_02: It was a mess.
• 13:56
  SPEAKER_02: And my friend Josh let me um stay at his house immediately.
• 14:00
  SPEAKER_02: And then my friends, Chris and Kyle, opened up their house for a month until I figured out what I was gonna do.
• 14:04
  SPEAKER_02: Maybe even two months, I think.
• 14:05
  SPEAKER_02: My friend Laura, when I was feeling really depressed in Alabama because I had a bad season and I didn't want to be there anymore, she opened up her house to me in Boston.
• 14:13
  SPEAKER_02: Like so many people have opened up their homes to me when I've had bad months.
• 14:16
  SPEAKER_02: So you you do have a support stamp system.
• 14:18
  SPEAKER_02: You just maybe need to open up the line, the conversation.
• 14:23
  SPEAKER_02: And I just want to also let you know, like everything you're feeling is fucking valid.
• 14:26
  SPEAKER_02: Like, I'm sure you're thinking, like, why me?
• 14:28
  SPEAKER_02: Why does this keep happening?
• 14:29
  SPEAKER_02: Why, why, why, why, why?
• 14:31
  SPEAKER_02: Victim mode.
• 14:32
  SPEAKER_02: And it's again, it's okay to play the victim.
• 14:34
  SPEAKER_02: It's okay to sit in that for a time period.
• 14:37
  SPEAKER_02: And then you need to get the fuck back up and you need to figure out what's the next step and stay positive.
• 14:45
  SPEAKER_02: And that's so annoying to hear right now when you're having a bad day.
• 14:47
  SPEAKER_02: So I won't lean into that too hard.
• 14:49
  SPEAKER_02: But staying positive, keeping your energy open to possibility and staying out of victim mode is when like people energetically will open up to you and money starts flowing in.
• 14:59
  SPEAKER_02: It's hard because I'm actually in like a I'm not, I mean, I'm I'm okay right now.
• 15:03
  SPEAKER_02: Things have changed a little bit actually since I've recorded recently.
• 15:06
  SPEAKER_02: Um, but I'm feeling a little bit, you know, financially scared.
• 15:09
  SPEAKER_02: So I'm I'm combating that this scary bit of a scary, risky season with staying calm and present and relaxed, just trusting it's all gonna be okay.
• 15:21
  SPEAKER_02: It really will.
• 15:22
  SPEAKER_02: And one of my favorite mantras is it's not an if, it's a when.
• 15:28
  SPEAKER_02: It's not an if the bad season ends, it's when will the bad season end.
• 15:32
  SPEAKER_02: It's not if I get a new client, it's when I'll get a new client.
• 15:35
  SPEAKER_02: It's not if I get to be financially abundant, it's when I'll get to be financially abundant.
• 15:43
  SPEAKER_02: The right thing is always coming, the right person's always about to enter your world.
• 15:48
  SPEAKER_02: But you have to be ready to open and receive that.
• 15:50
  SPEAKER_02: That's why I'm saying you have to move through these feelings.
• 15:52
  SPEAKER_02: So I hope this was a good pep talk for you, just a little bit.
• 15:57
  SPEAKER_02: And if you're in a bad season, you're gonna be okay.
• 16:00
  SPEAKER_02: You're gonna be okay.
• 16:02
  SPEAKER_02: It's a season, though.
• 16:03
  SPEAKER_02: It's a full-on season.
• 16:05
  SPEAKER_02: Just how like winter doesn't take like a month, it can take up to six months if you live in freaking Boston.
• 16:11
  SPEAKER_02: Like I was there in the winter, and oh my god, the sun would come out for a little bit, and then boom, we'd be back in like snowy days.
• 16:18
  SPEAKER_02: And when you're like in that February-March period, which we're just so done with winter, to only see a glimpse of the sun to be dragged back in.
• 16:27
  SPEAKER_02: That's the worst.
• 16:29
  SPEAKER_02: That's the worst.
• 16:30
  SPEAKER_02: And I know that's what you're feeling right now.
• 16:31
  SPEAKER_02: You see glimpses of hope, and then you're dragged back in.
• 16:35
  SPEAKER_02: But summer always comes, it's summer right now, and we're all swimming at the pool and going to the lake and the blah blah blah, and we're on our bikinis, and we're feeling tanned, we're feeling cute.
• 16:45
  SPEAKER_02: Summer always comes.
• 16:46
  SPEAKER_02: You just might be in that February and March part of the winter where you get hope and then it drags you back.
• 16:53
  SPEAKER_02: Always look at nature for references.
• 16:55
  SPEAKER_02: That, like, for instance, we want our businesses to grow fast and be all these millionaires and all this fun stuff.
• 17:02
  SPEAKER_02: Like, what have you seen a tree grow?
• 17:05
  SPEAKER_02: Like, actually, have you physically ever seen a tree grow?
• 17:11
  SPEAKER_02: No, you haven't.
• 17:14
  SPEAKER_02: It does it slowly, and you're also growing and moving out of the season slowly and in the right timing.
• 17:22
  SPEAKER_02: I also again want to say I hear you and I see you, and it fucking sucks what you're going through.
• 17:28
  SPEAKER_02: But you're gonna be okay.
• 17:30
  SPEAKER_02: But take that pity party day and that ice cream day if you need to.
• 17:33
  SPEAKER_02: I'm gonna end this episode with two members from the community.
• 17:38
  SPEAKER_02: Um, Michelle, who's my business coach, and my friend Rachel, who I'm doing her podcast.
• 17:42
  SPEAKER_02: She's also my social media manager.
• 17:44
  SPEAKER_02: So if my socials look amazing, it's because of Rachel.
• 17:47
  SPEAKER_02: And they're um members in my community, Cocktails and Clothes, who have helped me on my bad days.
• 17:52
  SPEAKER_02: And I asked them if they wanted to do a little voice note to y'all so y'all can feel a little bit better and in on a high note.
• 18:00
  SPEAKER_02: So I'm gonna leave their voice notes at the end of this.
• 18:02
  SPEAKER_02: And if you feel like joining the community, you are always welcome to.
• 18:06
  SPEAKER_02: Um, we might be on a wait list as we speak, as this is coming out, but everything you need to know is in the show notes.
• 18:12
  SPEAKER_02: And your day will get better.
• 18:14
  SPEAKER_02: Your month will get better, the season will end.
• 18:17
  SPEAKER_02: Okay, cheers, y'all.
• 18:20
  SPEAKER_01: Anytime I have a really hard season in business, I like to remember that this too shall pass.
• 18:27
  SPEAKER_01: Even when it's a really great season, there can still be transitions or stuff can be happening in your business that is amazing, and then something can happen in your life that hits really hard.
• 18:41
  SPEAKER_01: And I just try to remember that everything has its own season.
• 18:46
  SPEAKER_01: So if you're going through a tough time in your business, just know that it will pass, it will subside, and lean into healthy community because sometimes the solution that you need is just one conversation away.
• 19:01
  SPEAKER_01: I know it's happened many times for me in cocktails and clothes, and yeah, this too shall pass.
• 19:07
  SPEAKER_01: My name is Rachel Perry, and you can find me on Instagram at it's Rachel Perry.
• 19:14
  SPEAKER_00: Hey, my name is Michelle.
• 19:15
  SPEAKER_00: You can find me on Instagram at Micheldenial Consulting.com.
• 19:20
  SPEAKER_00: And one of the best pieces of advice that I can give to you if you're having a really bad day is just never quit on a bad day.
• 19:29
  SPEAKER_00: And that was a piece of advice that was passed down to me from a mentor.
• 19:33
  SPEAKER_00: And I want you to really remember that and think about it because at the end of the day, there's always going to be ups and downs, right?
• 19:39
  SPEAKER_00: But if we give up on those bad days, we don't allow for the good days to come.
• 19:44
  SPEAKER_00: And also, I want you to really remember that for every bad day, there's 10, 12, 15, 20 really amazing days.
• 19:52
  SPEAKER_00: So when you're having one of those really bad days, just sit and remind yourself of the good days.
• 19:59
  SPEAKER_00: Go back through your calendar.
• 20:01
  SPEAKER_00: Look at when you had amazing calls, look at when your clients sent you an amazing uh testimonial or a reason when they got an amazing result from something you helped them do.
• 20:11
  SPEAKER_00: And go back and remember that there are so many good days.
• 20:16
  SPEAKER_00: But also, too, if you're having a bad day, one of the things, the best things that you can do is just honor it.
• 20:22
  SPEAKER_00: Honor it and don't try to push through it.
• 20:24
  SPEAKER_00: And then come back tomorrow feeling renewed, feeling a little bit more refreshed, and make it a new day.