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Did You Know That Being With a #Narcissist Can Make You Physically Sick? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  Being with a narcissist can make you physically sick.
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  That's, hey, that's what we're talking about today, y'all.
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  How how prolonged exposure to toxicity, to abuse, to being
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  invalidated, to gaslighting, to all of that bad stuff can
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  actually make you physically sick.
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  A lot of people talk about the emotional stuff, but not
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  necessarily physical. Of course.
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  If you're new here, I'm Lee Hammock.
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  I'm a diagnosed narcissist and welcome to another episode of
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  The Narcissist Code. Welcome back, folks.
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  Welcome back. Welcome back.
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  SO the podcast is launched go back and watch the very first
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  episode it's with Miss Natalie AKA Noisy Cricket.
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  I do it. I have an interview series on
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  this channel. Go watch it go run.
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  I'm a matter of fact I'm going to link it to this one.
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  Y'all can go watch that one. But yes, making you physically
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  sick. I think of course I've done a
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  similar video to this before right?
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  I've seen other videos about this, but I need to go deeper.
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  I need to dig to to another level adept when I depth.
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  So then I initiated initiated that depth.
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  I need to go to a different level of depth when I'm
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  discussing this topic because so many people are here dealing
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  with narcissistic people and then feeling sick, getting
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  hives, getting them their chronic illnesses or just being
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  down and out and just don't know why.
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  You know why 'cause you're in a toxic relationship, y'all?
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  Y'all know high levels of stress and cortisol can really mess you
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  up. And guess what narcissists bring
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  into your life? High levels of stress and
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  cortisol, right? Because stress leads the
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  cortisol releases that it just, it just does, y'all.
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  So if you're dealing with a narcissistic person, a toxic
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  person, this is probably going on right now.
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  You're probably wondering why you're fatigued, why you're damn
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  near, you're losing weight, you're gaining weight, you're
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  doing all this other stuff. It's damn near like you had you
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  or was really sick because you have this person.
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  Your body cannot stabilize when you're always on edge.
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  Like especially let's just say, think about this scenario right
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  here. Let's say you're a stay at home
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  parent perhaps, right? Or you have your own job and you
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  get home. You get home earlier than they
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  do. Let's say they get out, they
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  work 9:00 to 5:00. You work 7 to 3, you get home at
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  3:30, they get home at 5:30. When you get home that first
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  hour or so, you might feel OK. Or if you stay at home parent,
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  when they're gone, you might feel that peace a little bit,
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  right, a little bit because you you don't have them breathing
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  over your shoulder like a damn hungry Pitbull or something like
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  that. You don't have them salivating
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  in your ear messing with you. So in this aspect of things,
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  when that when it gets to about 5, when they get this list, in
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  this example, they get home at 5:30, right?
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  You might feel OK at 3:00. You might feel OK at 3:30.
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  What is the 4/4/30 5:00? And you know they're off.
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  Guess what your body starts to do?
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  Your body starts to react to that.
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  You're no longer at peace because you know you, because
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  you know they're on the way home.
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  And what you don't know is what version of this person is going
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  to walk inside of that door. This is what a lot of people
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  struggle with right here. Because you do not know what
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  version of this person is going to walk through the door.
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  And guess what? Not knowing brings you stress.
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  If you don't know who the hell walking through the door, of
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  course you're going to be stressed out.
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  Of course you are. Why wouldn't you be?
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  You don't know if they're going to come home angry yourself,
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  pissed off that somebody has done them wrong at work.
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  You don't know if they're going to come home angry yourself
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  because somebody cut them off in traffic or they got stuck in
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  traffic per SE and they're going to take it out on you and the
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  kids. You don't know if that person
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  has got, if they're having an affair and their affair partner
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  has decided to cut them off. You don't know.
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  So if you don't know this stuff and you're going and you're
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  dealing with this type of person, of course it's going to
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  mess with your mind. It's going to mess with you
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  mentally. These are the type of things
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  that do happen. These are the type of things
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  that do exist. Like I'm just telling you, when
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  you're dealing with a toxic narcissistic person, this is the
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  type of stuff that will continuously happen and it
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  doesn't stop. Why would it stop?
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  I gave you space to answer that. Why would it stop?
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  I know a lot of y'all are hoping and praying that this stops when
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  they did it. Just that this person just
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  realizes that they're doing you wrong and they're treating you
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  bad and you're getting physically sick or ill and this
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  situation right here and like they just don't stop it because
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  they're they are still getting their needs met.
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  You have to ask yourself that question right there.
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  Why would they stop something when their needs are being fully
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  met with you? That's a good question, isn't
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  it? Yeah, I know you like damn you,
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  right, Lee? Why would they stop it?
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  Yeah, you had to ask something. You have to ask yourself.
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  Why would they stop doing something that benefits them?
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  But also, this is the caveat right here.
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  This is kind of like the catch 22 that's going to piss a lot of
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  y'all off. Yeah, I know you probably
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  already pissed off, but like, because you probably have
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  experienced these migraine headaches and being sick or just
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  getting you. You normally don't get colds or
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  flus or anything like that, but now you get them all the time
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  because your your immune system is the is is lower.
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  It is. They lower your immune system
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  and the crazy motto is when you get sick, if you get sick and
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  you need assistance, guess who's going to guess who's that's
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  going to further piss off them? They're going to be angrier at
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  you or angrier with you because of that right there.
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  They're going to be pissed off at you or with you because of
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  this, exactly because of this exact thing right here.
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  You get sick because of them being in this toxic
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  relationship, right? Because you're always stressed
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  out. You have migraine headaches, so
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  you can't do things around the house that you normally do.
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  You can't do anything with the kids.
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  You don't feel like you you in the mood to sleep with them or
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  giving them any intimacy or whatever because you're sick.
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  You don't feel good. And guess what?
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  That makes them angrier. So they get angrier at you.
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  They yelled and screamed, so now they put their hands on you,
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  right? And guess what?
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  At least the more stress in your life that makes you sicker and
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  the cycle gets worse. That's what you got to ask you
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  is like, why? Why?
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  You see what I'm saying? The cycle gets worse because
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  once they get you sick, once you get sick from this toxicity,
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  they still get angry because you're sick.
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  That's a vicious cycle, y'all? That is the that near the most
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  vicious cycle to be a part of, the most vicious cycle to exist
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  in. It sucks being in a toxic
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  relationship dynamic like this. It really truly does.
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  That's something that you're going to have to battle with and
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  deal with in these situations because narcissistic people,
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  toxic people are going to do this.
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  They just are, you know what I mean?
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  They, they don't like they as long as their needs are being
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  met, they don't care if you're sick.
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  They as long as their needs are, as long as they're getting what
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  they want, otherwise they don't care that you're sick.
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  You, you have to be sick and still meet their needs.
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  You don't get an off day. You don't get to take a day off
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  from a toxic relationship. You don't get like you don't get
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  vacation time. There's no look, there's no PT,
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  there's no paid time off, no PTO.
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  In a toxic relationship, you're going to still have to deal with
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  me. You're still going to have to
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  deal with this. You're still going to have to
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  battle against your own like battle against yourself to say
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  in this relationship. Now, are there people that will
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  watch this video, realize that the narcissist is making them
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  sick and still stay with them? Yes, those people truly, truly
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  do exist. Some of y'all might be there.
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  Y'all might see this video like Willie, I don't want to leave.
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  I love this person. They they not as bad all the
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  time. I can take a little headache.
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  I can take a little chronic illness.
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  I can take a little of this. I can take a little of that.
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  You you minimize what you're actually going through because
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  you don't want to leave the toxicity or you don't want to
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  let the toxicity control your life because if you can't leave,
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  I know some people can't leave finances and things like that.
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  We were we were just talking about stay at home parents,
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  weren't we? Like so in these situations
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  right here, you have to understand you.
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  It's got it's like you have to learn your damn opponent.
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  Imagine, and I even hate making this video right here.
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  Imagine having to learn how to navigate somebody that's abusing
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  you to protect your mental health so you don't, so it
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  doesn't lead to you being physically sick.
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  You know how many people did have I've talked to that
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  understood once they woke up to what they were experiencing,
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  they started fighting them. They're fighting back in ways
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  that they could fight back. I know everybody's situation is
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  different. I say fight back.
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  I don't mean physically put your hands up and start throwing
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  hands, right? I mean understanding that what
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  they're going to do and you can't control some of their
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  reactions. Now, some people will get
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  physically abusive and you got to you always have to watch
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  against that. But if they're doing emotional
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  stuff, just belittling you, trying to talk shit to you,
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  putting you down or whatever the case may be, you can fight back
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  against that, right? You can just sometimes try.
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  I know this is going to sound stupid.
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  Try not to take it personal, even though it feels like a
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  personal attack because a lot of times it is.
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  You have to try not to take it personally because they're going
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  to attack you to put you down to make you sick, to ask stress.
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  But once you get into your mind, this person, they're not even
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  attacking you. They're attacking themselves
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  because they're they're petulant children internally.
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  It helps you moving forward. It helps you release the relieve
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  the stress a little bit. Like you know what I used to
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  take this this crazy ass stuff that you're saying to me
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  personally, but I know you don't even mean I know you're not even
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  talking about me. You're just trying to hurt my
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  feelings because you are a petulant child, because you are
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  a big ass grown baby, because you're pretty much a B word like
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  you're this is all you are. You know, you have to say that,
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  right? But this, you can think this and
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  even thinking it can help set you free, that breathing through
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  it can help set you free emotionally, right?
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  Because you can emotionally detach from people like this
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  while you're still with them. You know, you, you enter what
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  people refer to as observe. Observe don't absorb well,
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  you're paying attention to them. You're not taking it personally
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  when they say crazy ass stuff to you, when they try to put you
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  down and hurt your feelings, you're observing it.
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  You're not absorbing it because you know it's not real.
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  This person is a, this is a real person.
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  But the stuff that they're saying is not real because
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  they're just trying to hurt your feelings.
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  They're trying to make you cry. They're trying to get a reaction
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  from you. And the more they get you to
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  react, the more they will keep doing the same things over and
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  over again. You know what I mean, the more
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  you react to them the more they feel like they got you bent over
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  a barrel. And I know some of y'all just
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  like bent over barrel doesn't sound too barrel.
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  Stop it you dirty dirty minded don't you?
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  Don't you dare, you know me, but it can't make you physically
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  sick, man. It can't make you lose weight,
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  gain weight, all this type of stuff right here.
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  And everybody's going to handle stress differently.
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  Not everybody gets sick, right? Some of y'all might just like
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  you know, but when you leave the relationship or they leave you,
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  sometimes you, you'd be surprised how your skin clears
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  up you like I used to have the worst acne, but now I'm kind of
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  fly. I used to, I used to bump.
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  The bumps are gone, the headaches are gone because the
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  headache moved out. The headache is with the new
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  supply. The headache is not no longer on
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  the premises, right? So stress levels are damn,
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  they're naturally going to go down a little bit, y'all.
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  Anyway, y'all make sure you hit the subscribe button.
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  The second and third episode of the podcast will be released
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  next week. I hope you had a happy
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  Thanksgiving. Be safe, take care of yourselves
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  and as always been doing this peace.