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Aspergers And High School - (How YOU Deal With Social Situations 3 TIPS) · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  Hey guys, in this video I'm talking about Asperger's in high
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  school and how to deal with social situations.
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  Here's 3 tips that you need coming up Hey guys, welcome back
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  to the aspy world. My name is Dan.
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  I have Asperger Syndrome, ADHD, OCD, and dyslexia, and I make
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  and I. OK, so in this video, talk about
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  how to deal with social situations in high school.
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  High school can be a really stressful time for people on the
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  autism spectrum. And that being said, I think
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  that there are worthy tips that you could use to maybe help kind
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  of gain a an upper hand in social situations where you may
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  feel kind of inferior. Because, you know, autism coming
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  into full force is a communication disorder.
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  And autistic people will have issues with social
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  communication, social anxiety and general social rules of
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  engagement, like the the unwritten rules of of
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  socializing, you know, and all those things that people just
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  pick up naturally because they're just in tune with social
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  communications. But in this video, I'm talking
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  to you of ways that you can implement these strategies to
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  help you become more charismatic in situations, I guess to
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  achieve a better social environment all around when
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  you're dealing with friends, friendships and other people in
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  social circles, especially in high school.
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  All right, let's get it done. OK, guys.
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  So first one here is be polite. I know it sounds kind of like an
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  obvious one, right? But it's it's not always obvious
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  because you know, being polite and nice to people in social
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  situations is because you want them to know that you're a nice
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  person and you're you're a polite person.
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  They they want to get to know you as soon as they can.
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  First impressions always make a huge, huge impact on how people
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  see you. So as nice as you can be, just
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  being yourself your lovely bubbly, nice happy self and
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  being polite will go a long way. Because by practising being
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  polite, like etiquette and and niceness will let that other
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  person know that you're a cool person, you're a nice guy,
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  you're a nice girl or whatever, you're, you know, a nice person
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  that they just want to hang out with.
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  That is very good. And so people want to become
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  friends with you because you're nice, you know?
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  And that's kind of like we all have affinity towards people who
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  are nice. Nobody wants to have affinity
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  towards people who are horrible. Nobody does have affinities.
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  People who are horrible. Unless you're horrible yourself,
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  then that's weird, isn't it? It's kind of like a self hate
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  thing anyway. Regardless of that bizarre
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  another conversation, being polite pays off.
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  Remember that. OK, so #2 is strike the interest
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  now. Striking out an interest of
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  matching a conversation is key, you know, in creating good
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  conversation, finding people who share the same interest as you
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  to strike up that conversation. So you know, I'm really into
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  like, I know science and and sci-fi and stuff.
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  So all the Star Wars and Star Trek and and science and I like
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  skateboarding and I like music. So I would kind of find people
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  who resonate towards those circles and strike up the key
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  part of interest with them. So if I knew there was a a club,
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  like a sci-fi club or a Star Trek club, I go to the Star Trek
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  club and I bring up a conversation like, who is your
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  favorite captain? If you don't say James T Kirk,
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  we can't be friends. No, I know a lot of people will
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  say like, oh, Picard or Pike or Anyway, that's again, this is
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  the conversation for another time.
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  If you think that you prefer Jean Luc Picard to captain James
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  Tiberius Kirk, leaving a comment down below, let me know which
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  one. If James Kirk or Jean Luc
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  Picard, let me know who's your favorite captain.
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  And if you don't want to talk about, don't worry, you can skip
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  over this part of the video. Nice.
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  OK, so striking up a conversation within that setting
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  gives them the the knowledge they need to know.
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  Well, this person is a nice person.
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  They are into the same things as me.
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  Hey, this is a good basis for a friendship.
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  This is a good basis for being social with somebody and it pays
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  off. This will go a heck of a long
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  way, believe you me. OK, so #3 is peer pressure like
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  The most important thing in situations of social groups is
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  that you do not feel comfortable with the situation and you don't
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  do that thing. So being aware of peer pressure
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  and peer pressure is when peers, other people within that social
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  circle will put pressure on you and and to do something that you
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  may not want to do because they feel like it would be a good
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  thing, but it may be a good thing for them, but maybe it's
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  not a good thing for you. So in situations where I'm, I'm
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  not an alcohol drinker, I don't drink alcohol.
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  But if I was around friends and they were all like, oh, we all
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  have to have a beer and we all have to drink and I'm like, no,
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  I'm OK and like, no, no, you have to drink.
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  That is kind of peer pressure and it's like purest form.
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  And then you may be obliged to say, OK, yeah, I'll drink.
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  But the consequences of doing that is immoral to yourself and
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  could be destructive. You know, if you're on
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  medication where you can't drink and maybe there's good reasons
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  for it. So being aware that peer
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  pressure could be a thing, but just never do something just
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  because you want to impress your friends.
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  Don't do that. You know, impressing friends
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  with things to do. Peer pressure doesn't work
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  because they're not real friends.
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  If they are forcing you to do something you don't want to do,
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  they're not really friends. What you want to do is find
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  friends who accept who you are and accept what you want to do
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  and don't want to do. And that is how you make lasting
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  long friendships. Because I've used these tactics
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  and this kind of rule of three every single time I've been in
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  any social situation. But I'm not sure what to do, and
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  you know, sure as heck this works.
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  This works for pretty much every time I've been in a social
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  situation. And it also helps root out the
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  people who are not true friends and aren't good for you.
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  Because as soon as they make themselves known, you like
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  disassociate from them. And then things get a little bit
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  happier. You can move on to people who
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  actually do care, who people who actually are friends.
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  People who actually really do like you.
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  That is golden. Now guys.
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  If you have any other tips to add to this video, please pop it
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  guys.