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What I Wish I Knew About Luck From Dr Tina Seelig · Arroe Collins Like It's Live

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  Speaker 2: Hello Erro, good morning, hello.
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  Speaker 1: And good morning to you boy. We get to jump
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  Speaker 1: into a conversation here that is so about where we
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  Speaker 1: are today because there's a lot of lost travelers right
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  Speaker 1: now and the way that you get our attention right
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  Speaker 1: there on the front cover, What I wish I knew
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  Speaker 1: about luck because aren't we all in that same boat.
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  Speaker 1: I wish I would know more about luck.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, and I'm delighted to share some things I've learned
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  Speaker 2: about how to make yourself luckier.
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  Speaker 1: Luckier, Oh my goodness sakes. I mean, we're all trying
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  Speaker 1: to win the lottery right now, and people sit there
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  Speaker 1: and they'll win five bucks. I'm going congratulations what it
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  Speaker 1: took me fifty bucks to get here. How can help
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  Speaker 1: us out here? Please? There's a lot of lucky people
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  Speaker 1: that aren't being lucky right now.
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  Speaker 2: Well, there's a very big difference between fortune and luck.
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  Speaker 2: Fortune is the thing that happened to you. Luck is
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  Speaker 2: something over which you have much more control. And I
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  Speaker 2: am committed to helping people understand the levers they have
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  Speaker 2: at their disposal to become luckier.
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  Speaker 1: That's a great path to begin to follow. In fact,
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  Speaker 1: be a leader on as well, because if you're going
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  Speaker 1: to learn stuff from you, Tina or doctor, the thing
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  Speaker 1: is is that we've got to activate it as well.
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  Speaker 1: We're on your side.
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  Speaker 2: Exactly, exactly, and there are so many things we can
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  Speaker 2: do every day, especially if you have the mindset that
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  Speaker 2: there's a prize in every room, it's up to you
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  Speaker 2: to catch it. You are tuned to seeing the opportunities
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  Speaker 2: other people we're going to walk right by.
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  Speaker 1: You know. You bring up something inside the book that
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  Speaker 1: really opens up my imagination as well as my heart.
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  Speaker 1: You talk about how bricks can be a path leading
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  Speaker 1: toward luck, and the first thing that came to my
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  Speaker 1: mind was the yellow brick road in oz. I want
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  Speaker 1: to know who laid those bricks. And that's what your
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  Speaker 1: book to me gave me, is that who laid these
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  Speaker 1: bricks into the soil to create this path.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, such an interesting thing. You know.
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  Speaker 3: It's funny I use that Vizard of Oz metaphor actually
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  Speaker 3: in the book because the think about all the things
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  Speaker 3: that Dorothy did on her in her life.
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  Speaker 2: First of all, she had a very unfortunate event of
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  Speaker 2: being picked up by a hurricane, by a tornado and
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  Speaker 2: plunged into this very very difficult situation. But she built
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  Speaker 2: her community right, She built trust with people, She took
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  Speaker 2: some risks, she asked for what she wanted, She overcame obstacles,
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  Speaker 2: she kept focus on a very clear goal. All the
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  Speaker 2: things she did that ultimately led her back home are
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  Speaker 2: the types of things that people do to increase luck
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  Speaker 2: in their minds.
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  Speaker 1: One of the things that you cover inside this book,
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  Speaker 1: which is titled What I Wish I Knew about Luck,
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  Speaker 1: and that is and then you know, and I know
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  Speaker 1: there's gonna be people that are going to tap into this,
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  Speaker 1: and others are gonna get They're gonna roll their eyes.
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  Speaker 1: And that is do people actually feel like they're coming
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  Speaker 1: from the right family? I never did. I dreamed I
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  Speaker 1: would hurry up and run home and go to sleep
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  Speaker 1: so I could dream about the family I wanted to
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  Speaker 1: be a part of. So for you to even talk
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  Speaker 1: about in this book, it almost almost feels like you've
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  Speaker 1: been in my journals.
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  Speaker 2: Well, you know what, There's some things that we can
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  Speaker 2: control and other things we can't. But we're in a
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  Speaker 2: constant dance with the world where we trade off who
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  Speaker 2: is leading and who is following.
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  Speaker 3: Right.
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  Speaker 2: I can't control what the weather is. I can't control
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  Speaker 2: what family I've thought it's been born into. There's so
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  Speaker 2: many things I can't control that we get to choose
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  Speaker 2: how to respond. I mean, think about it. When that
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  Speaker 2: pandemic hit, we got to see so many and it's
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  Speaker 2: different people reacted to this complete discontinuity in our lives,
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  Speaker 2: and those there are some people who really were able
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  Speaker 2: to thrive because I saw where's the opportunity in this
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  Speaker 2: very unfortunate situation, and who is going to sort of
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  Speaker 2: stay at home and shut the shutters and not pay.
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  Speaker 1: Attention, Please do not move. We've got more with doctor
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  Speaker 1: Tina Selik coming up next. What I Wish I Knew
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  Speaker 1: About Luck. That's the book from doctor Tina Celik. Why
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  Speaker 1: has luck become that one thing that a lot of
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  Speaker 1: people like to push themselves away from in the way
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  Speaker 1: that when when we say that we're lucky to have
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  Speaker 1: this or we're lucky to do this, people go, I
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  Speaker 1: can't relate. I'm going over here with my own bout
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  Speaker 1: with luck. It seems so personal.
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  Speaker 2: Well, you know, we often use the word luck in
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  Speaker 2: a way that doesn't really show what really happened. And
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  Speaker 2: my goal is to pull back the curtains and to
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  Speaker 2: see of things that lucky people actually do. I mean,
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  Speaker 2: one of the things that I am passionate about, and
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  Speaker 2: it might seem very quaint, is saying thank you and
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  Speaker 2: writing thank you. Now, so few people show appreciation for
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  Speaker 2: the things that other people do, but it compounds lucky
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  Speaker 2: opportunities when you show appreciation for things that people do
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  Speaker 2: for you.
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  Speaker 1: You know, that's interesting that you bring that up, because
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  Speaker 1: that's very important. In my essential job, I wanted to
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  Speaker 1: be with people because I'm a radio guy of forty
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  Speaker 1: six years. I needed to be with real people and
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  Speaker 1: not my imagination. And one of the things that I
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  Speaker 1: do when I arrive on on the job, I walk
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  Speaker 1: around and thank everybody I don't know what the hell
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  Speaker 1: they did even that day at work. I want to
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  Speaker 1: thank them for being there. And you know, people react
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  Speaker 1: to that kind.
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  Speaker 2: Of stuff exactly. And sech luck is a long game, right,
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  Speaker 2: The things you do, those little things like asking for
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  Speaker 2: what you want, helping other people, showing appreciation, learning how
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  Speaker 2: to recover from disappointments, these things add up over time.
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  Speaker 2: And what happens is you're going to look back years
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  Speaker 2: from now and you go, oh, my gosh, I'm so
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  Speaker 2: lucky I have this opportunity. And you go like, well,
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  Speaker 2: you planted all of those seeds along the way. I mean,
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  Speaker 2: I'm so lucky to get to talk to you today.
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  Speaker 2: Not many people get to do that. But how did
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  Speaker 2: that happen? It happened because all the hard work and
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  Speaker 2: all the choices I made. Because here's what's important. The
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  Speaker 2: choices you make today determine the type of choices that
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  Speaker 2: you will have in the future.
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  Speaker 1: Well, you're right, it does. And I totally believe in
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  Speaker 1: that whole entire process of before we got here to
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  Speaker 1: this moment of now, what were the steps that got here?
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  Speaker 1: And when you talk about how did you get here? Well,
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  Speaker 1: I know, back in twenty twelve when I did an
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  Speaker 1: interview with Yoko Ono that I was like, Oh, I
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  Speaker 1: guess I'm going to be interviewing people for the rest
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  Speaker 1: of my life. Well, it's not interviews. These are conversations
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  Speaker 1: that are affecting people's lives in their car, in their bedroom,
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  Speaker 1: and their depression, in their happiness. And I need people
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  Speaker 1: like yourself to get your word out there, because bookstores
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  Speaker 1: don't provide your voice. At least you give us your
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  Speaker 1: voice to get inside their mind.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, this is a subject I feel passionate about. I
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  Speaker 2: see so many people walking right by opportunities that are
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  Speaker 2: right in front of them, and I want to help
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  Speaker 2: people see where they are. I mean, think about it.
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  Speaker 2: I have met some one of the closest friends in
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  Speaker 2: my life and colleagues and collaborators by talking to the
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  Speaker 2: person standing next to me in line. If you just
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  Speaker 2: have your earbuds in and you are focused only on
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  Speaker 2: yourself and you don't meet that person, I mean, think
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  Speaker 2: about it. We are always one decision away from a
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  Speaker 2: completely different life. If you say hello to that person,
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  Speaker 2: it might open the door to a new job, to
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  Speaker 2: a new relationship, to new hobby.
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  Speaker 1: Listeners need to know how spot on you are about that,
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  Speaker 1: because I in my heart, I truly believe people are
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  Speaker 1: not happy to see me, they're happy that I saw them,
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  Speaker 1: And you are so right recognize them. Get out of
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  Speaker 1: your head, you know, and all of a sudden your
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  Speaker 1: luck will change when you become a part of another
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  Speaker 1: person's chapters.
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely, And there's so many little things you can do
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  Speaker 2: every day. It doesn't cost you anything. It doesn't cost
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  Speaker 2: anything to do these things, and yet it opens the
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  Speaker 2: door to possibilities that compound over time.
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  Speaker 1: So now do we have this wrong? We all have
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  Speaker 1: a wishful thought, we're all, you know, we'll talk about
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  Speaker 1: the word luck. Is it really luck that we're looking for?
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  Speaker 1: Or do we want success? We want fame, We want
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  Speaker 1: to be on the front page of every Little You
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  Speaker 1: Know TMZ magazine.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I think everybody has very different objectives. Understanding what
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  Speaker 2: they are is a really great way of helping you
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  Speaker 2: get there. Somebody might not that, but someone just might
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  Speaker 2: want to have some wonderful good friends. Someone might want
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  Speaker 2: to be able to spend more time with their family.
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  Speaker 2: That I think we all have to figure out what
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  Speaker 2: it is that where our objectives are, so that we
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  Speaker 2: can craft the life that we dream to live.
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  Speaker 1: This is a very important brick inside the path of
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  Speaker 1: creativity as well as accepting yourself in the positions that
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  Speaker 1: we are in this world today. And you got to
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  Speaker 1: tell me where people can go to find out more
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  Speaker 1: about you, because ten minutes is not enough. Doctor.
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  Speaker 2: Well, you're very sweet. I have a website Tinasdeeli author
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  Speaker 2: dot com. Also, you can find my books easily on
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  Speaker 2: any bill books are sold like Amazon, and I'm always
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  Speaker 2: happy to hear from people who've read my book and
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  Speaker 2: answer any questions they have.
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  Speaker 1: Please come back to this show anytime. I mean, this
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  Speaker 1: is a subject that is any day, any month, any year,
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  Speaker 1: because this is not just a moment of right now.
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  Speaker 1: Our luck is we have you and we now have
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  Speaker 1: your book.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you so much. That's such a generous offer. I
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  Speaker 2: really appreciate that.
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  Speaker 1: Will you be brilliant today? Okay, doctor, thank you so much.
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  Speaker 2: Back at you.