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Ep 67. Become Irresistible: Make Your Crush (or partner) Obsessed Without Chasing · The Manifestation Station

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  You're listening to the Manifestation Station podcast.
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  I'm your host Holly Edwards and together we can help create your magic.
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  Hello you gorgeous, gorgeous manifestors.
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  Welcome back to another episode of The Manifestation Station.
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  I'm your host Holly Edwards. Thank you for joining me again wherever you are,
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  driving, walking, getting ready, cleaning the house, having a little reset moment
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  with a coffee to yourself.
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  This episode is going to blow your socks off.
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  Yes, I know I say that every week but am I wrong? Honestly, am I'm wrong today?
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  This could be the episode of all episodes.
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  We are talking how to become irresistible, to get your crush obsessed with you
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  and to keep the spark alive in your relationship.
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  I mean, who doesn't want this? If you're single, you've got a crush on someone.
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  This is like how to get your crush to be absolutely obsessed with you.
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  And if you're in a relationship and you're feeling like, oh, do you know what?
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  We're feeling a little bit distant at the moment.
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  Maybe you're feeling a little bit like roommates or maybe you're clashing and
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  you just want to become that irresistible partner.
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  This is the episode for you. And I've been asked this a lot recently.
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  How do I get my crush to be obsessed with me?
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  And, you know, there's so many things, there's so many things you can do.
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  But ultimately, let me start by saying this is about you.
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  This is not about anyone else. This is not about your crush.
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  This is not about your partner.
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  This is about you and becoming so magnetic that you just attract everybody into your life.
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  Everyone wants to be with you. Everyone wants to be your friend.
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  Everyone wants to love you. And then you can take your pick.
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  That's all we're doing here. So let me ask you something.
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  What if attraction isn't something you trace, chase rather?
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  Let me start again. What if attraction isn't something you chase,
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  but something you become?
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  That's it it's that simple what if instead of trying to
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  get your crush to like you to text them to try and
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  you know you go on a date and you're trying to act a
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  certain way and you're trying to get them to text you a certain way or to date
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  you a certain way or maybe sitting there worrying looking at your partner sitting
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  on the opposite side of the sofa or sitting on their phone and not talking to
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  you or giving you the attention you feel like you deserve and maybe you're worrying
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  your partner if your partner still finds you attractive.
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  You simply shifted into an energy where people lean towards you.
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  Imagine that. We shift your energy so that people lean towards you.
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  Your presence will become so addictive and that love feels easy.
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  It feels exciting because you are in control. You are this magnetic,
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  attractive ball of energy.
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  And that's what we're talking about today. how to get your crush obsessed with you.
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  But the big bit in capital letters here that I want to shout down the microphone without chasing.
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  You don't chase, you attract.
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  And how to become energetically magnetic and how to become more attractive to
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  your partner in a very real grounded way without forcing it, without chasing it,
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  without manipulating your partner. This is going to be effortless.
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  So it's really important to say that is that I'm going to go into this a little bit in more detail.
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  We can't necessarily manifest for anyone else.
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  It's a question I get asked a lot that people say they want their partner to
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  get into manifesting or for them to be more positive, we can't really manipulate
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  someone else's feelings and someone else's energy. But what we can do.
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  Is become so goddamn magnetic
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  and amazing that we naturally draw
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  people into our energy field and it becomes contagious
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  so that way that we end up kind of I guess influencing those around us our crush
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  our partner to become more like us in the way that we're living when we are
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  a magnetic so this isn't about manipulation it's definitely not about playing
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  games if you know me in real life.
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  I went through my dating era in my 30s and I was so not a game player.
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  And I hated those scenarios when you were kind of dating and people would say,
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  you need to text this, maybe say this. You know, I just want to be me.
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  I just want to be me. And for these people to kind of be drawn into my world
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  and then I can decide, I can decide if that's where I want to go or not.
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  This is definitely not about playing games.
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  Think of this as it's alignment, it's energy, and most importantly,
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  it is self-worth because.
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  Let's think about this, the most attractive person in the room is the one who
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  already knows they are, but they don't have to prove it themselves.
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  So it's a hard one to say, isn't it? Because this isn't about being big headed
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  and you're going, I'm the most attractive person in the room.
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  It's the one that can stand in the room, feel confident, know that they naturally
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  attract and align with the right people, but they don't need to shout at it.
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  They don't need to play games.
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  They don't need to manipulate the people around them. They just have this natural,
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  beautiful, attractive aura.
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  And that, that, that, that, my friends, is exactly what we are talking about today.
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  So let's think about this. The truth about attraction, you can't control another person.
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  And honestly, let me tell you, that's a positive thing.
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  So for all of those people that slide into my DMs or my one-to-one clients or
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  friends and family, they say to me, I really, really like this person.
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  Like, is there any way that I can manifest for them to text me and blah, blah, blah.
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  You can't control another person but what
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  I want you to know is that is a
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  huge positive rather than thinking oh that's
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  such a shame no this is a positive because it
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  means that you can let go you can stop performing having to try and prove yourself
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  having to try and convince the other person so instead you get to become and
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  work on the version of you the best version of you that naturally attracts the right people.
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  And ultimately, that's what we're doing here, isn't it? Because whether it's
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  your crush, or that's someone that you're interested in, or trying to get your
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  partner attracted to you, this is about becoming the best version of you.
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  It's not about trying, trying to get their attention.
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  What actually normally happens is when people work on this and
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  they work on becoming the most attractive magnetic versions of
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  them sometimes what normally happens
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  is that a crush that person they're interested in
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  reaches out and they're like hey do you want to go on a date but by
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  then you've already attracted someone even more
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  amazing in now you can't imagine that right
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  now if you're someone that is really into someone you really want them to step
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  up ask you out or you know commit to you whatever it is what I want you to do
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  is kind of ease your foot off of the accelerator and just relax knowing that
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  if you follow some of these tips,
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  you work on becoming magnetic yourself,
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  then you will either attract that person in.
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  Or someone better. Now that's really hard to imagine when you are absolutely
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  so head over heels in obsessed with someone.
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  We've all been there and you just, you know, you can't imagine being with anyone
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  else. I've worked with a lot of friends as well, desperate to get their exes back.
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  And I'm like, you can't imagine. I said, you have to take it from me.
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  You can't imagine that there is anyone else that will make you feel this way.
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  But I guarantee you there will be.
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  It will be this person or someone better this or
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  someone better so this is about you
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  becoming the version of you that naturally attracts the right people and here's
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  the shift that I want you guys to make start asking yourself am I being someone
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  that feels irresistible to be around because attraction is not built on overthinking,
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  over-texting, over-analyzing and trying to be perfect.
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  In fact, I find the opposite, that if you are trying to be perfect in your text
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  messages, you are trying to write the right thing, you're not living in alignment.
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  And I tell everybody, I shout it from the rooftops, when you are manifesting
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  and you want to manifest something or someone,
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  if you are living out of alignment and you are forcing, it's like you are paddling
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  upstream against the current on your river, your river life.
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  I always say your life is like a river and it's flowing and it's abundant.
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  It's like you're trying to paddle upstream against the current.
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  It doesn't feel natural. It's not in alignment. And eventually you're going
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  to drift down the right way to go.
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  This is about you not overthinking, not over texting.
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  This is about you becoming the energy and building your confidence and your
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  presence and your emotional safety and whether that's your crush or it's a long-term
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  partner these rules they don't change.
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  And this is why chasing kills attraction.
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  I'm sure everyone listening, whether you are single or you're in a relationship,
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  I'm sure that you can all remember when there was a time where maybe you were
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  really interested in someone and you feel like you were doing the chasing.
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  I have certainly been there.
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  When I was single, some of my 20s and 30s, there were definitely some people
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  that I thought, I can see so much potential in this person.
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  I am so interested in them
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  and I really like them but they're just not stepping up or
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  they're being a bit flaky and I would overanalyze I
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  would you know send a message and maybe it would
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  get left unanswered for a couple of weeks I go right okay how can I now try
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  and entice them in no what was I doing chasing kills attraction so this is where
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  actually I think probably most of us go wrong is that what does chasing look like?
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  Chasing looks like checking your phone constantly, checking to see if you've
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  got two blue ticks, waiting to see if you've got a reply, waiting to see if
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  someone has liked you or swiped for you on Bumble.
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  It's overanalyzing messages. It's always initiating that first contact.
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  And maybe chasing looks like trying to get it right, trying to be the perfect
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  version of you that maybe doesn't feel aligned on a date, for example.
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  Or even with your partner, it's trying to be someone that you're not by chasing,
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  trying to get their attention,
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  trying to cause an argument, to get a reaction, trying to have a little sulk
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  around the house because you're not getting the attention.
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  So underneath all of that, it's this energy of I need this to work.
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  And when we're feeling I need this to work, it comes with a hint of desperation.
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  It comes with a, even if they don't know it, this is just within us and how our energy feels.
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  It means we're out of alignment and that creates a pressure.
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  And that pressure is not attractive. Whether you think you can see it or not,
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  it lives within you and you are not then energetically aligned to love,
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  excitement and the right people because you are forcing and you are forcing
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  through like a pressure.
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  So if we were to flip that around,
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  let's look at magnetic energy because I want you to listen to this episode and
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  then finish it and think right how do I become my most magnetic self and I'm
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  going to help you I'm going to arm you with some tools today because this is
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  what it's about I want you walking through life attracting.
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  All of the right people into your life attracting your crushes into your life
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  your partner into your life so magnetic magnetic energy might sound like this
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  it might sound like I'd love this but I don't need it.
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  I choose them, but I choose myself.
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  So it's kind of saying, yeah, I'm interested in someone, but if they're not
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  stepping up, then I choose myself more.
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  Maybe, yes, I'd love this relationship and there's something exciting, but I don't need it.
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  If they're flaky, they don't step up, they're not showing a sense of commitment.
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  You don't need it, but you would like it. It's that simple.
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  If it flows amazing, if not, something better will.
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  And it's having the confidence, the magnetism, the power, the,
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  you remember I said at the start, you know, the most attractive person in the
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  room is the one who knows they are without having to shout it.
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  If it flows amazing, if not, the most attractive person will just go,
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  okay, well then something better will, because I'm not going to give this person my energy.
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  I'm not going to give this person my energy that doesn't feel amazing.
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  It feels a little bit off. It feels out of alignment.
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  So this kind of energy, this version of you, this confident,
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  sexy, attractive version of you feels calm.
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  Feel grounded and confident. So whether that's a new crush that you're interested
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  in or your current partner, people are drawn to ease and not pressure.
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  This is where I always talk about you finding your flow.
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  Find your flow, be that magnetic queen that you are. There's no pressure,
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  people are drawn to ease.
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  So becoming magnetic, you may be thinking, well Holly, this all sounds great.
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  I love this. Yes, I want to be magnetic.
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  Yes, I want to be attractive to my partner and my crush.
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  So how do we actually become that person?
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  So I'm going to break it down for you. So number one, you become your own validation.
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  So instead of constantly asking yourself, do they like me? Are they interested in me?
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  Do they fancy me? I want you to stop and ask yourself, do I really like them
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  do I like them and I really have to remind people as well do you like them,
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  genuinely like them or do you like them or fall or you're falling for them because
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  of their potential because if you really look at someone sometimes we can get
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  caught up in they're really attractive they're really charismatic and there's
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  so much sexual chemistry when we're together but actually you.
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  Are we falling in love with potential or are we liking them just because of,
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  yeah, because of potential?
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  That's what I'm trying to say. I don't know. I went off on a tandem then because
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  I was thinking about past relationships.
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  Do you actually like them by their actions? Are they showing up for you?
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  Are they taking control of the date? Is your partner researching places for you to go together?
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  Are they making an effort? Are they being tactile?
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  So again, instead of saying, are they attracted to me?
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  I want you to ask, am I showing up as someone I feel attractive being?
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  Do I like them? So swap that from do they like me to do I like them?
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  Now that shift brings your power back in an instant.
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  So number two is you embody I am wanted.
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  So instead of saying I hope that they choose me.
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  What I want you to do is swap that for I am someone people naturally choose.
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  That's the shift that I want you to make. Instead of I hope they choose me,
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  you are shifting. Now say this out loud.
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  Sometimes it's going to take time to really believe it.
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  Say it out loud. Say it in the shower. Say it in your head. Say it when you're
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  driving. Shout it out loud.
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  I am someone people naturally choose.
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  Because identity creates energy and that energy is attractive.
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  It's as attractive as hell, honestly.
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  This will absolutely change your dating game and change your relationship.
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  Number three is you detach without becoming cold.
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  I often talk about detachment in manifestation.
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  I talk about releasing your fear of the outcome.
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  So releasing that attachment to your outcome. So if there's something you want
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  to manifest, I say to people, you almost have to get so comfortable with if
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  it doesn't happen, I'm okay.
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  I'm okay. Because otherwise we are clinging on for it for dear life, that thing that we want.
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  It's almost like the trust isn't there that we'll get it. So this is about detaching.
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  Detaching isn't saying that you
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  don't care. It's more stepping into your phase, your energy of I trust.
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  And that trust is what makes you feel safe to be around.
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  So just become your energy of I trust.
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  To do that more, you concentrate on being the best version of yourself,
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  enjoying your current life as it is now, giving your gratitude for everyone
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  in your life that you love or everyone that shows you love is about becoming the best version of you.
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  So you're slightly detaching and you're stepping into your kind of trust energy.
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  Now I mentioned it there, but part four is to create a life that expands you.
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  This is so important. It's one of the biggest things in manifesting.
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  And it's one of the biggest things that you can do here to become more attractive.
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  And this is where everything will really, really start to shift because magnetic
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  people naturally, they're not waiting around.
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  They're not waiting. They're not looking at their phone.
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  They don't really have the time or the headspace to be checking their phone. You know why?
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  Because you are out there living.
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  You are out there having a fantastic time on solo dates with your friends,
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  with your family, reading a book.
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  You are so invested in your current life that actually you're not waiting around. You are living.
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  Now, what does this actually look like and what things could you go off and do yourself?
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  This doesn't mean your life has to be perfect or
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  that you have to be going out and spending money all the time it
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  means that your life just feels full it feels
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  intentional and it feels like it belongs to you so what can you do in real life
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  to make this actually actionable let's make it real for you guys so you can
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  plan your week like you're already her so I talk about future self living as your future self.
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  So what can you do to become more magnetic so that you are,
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  creating a life that excites you, which is helping with that detachment to feeling,
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  you know, not obsessing over the text messages, obsessing about this person
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  and overthinking, thinking you're living your life.
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  So the first thing you can do, plan your life like you're already her.
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  Future you who is living their life, not waiting around for their crush to text,
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  not waiting around for your partner to take you on a date.
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  So your future you doesn't wait for plans, you create them.
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  Look on the internet, look locally on your local pages, maybe book a workout class.
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  Take yourself on a solo date. Take yourself on a solo coffee date.
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  You don't have to go for dinner, you don't have to go to the cinema.
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  Take yourself out for a coffee on your own. Doesn't even need to be with phone,
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  with book. Take yourself out on your own.
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  Now, sometimes this can be difficult for people. Some people go,
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  oh my God, I can't go out on my own.
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  I didn't realize this was a thing because actually, I personally, I love a solo date.
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  I'm in a very happy relationship. I love a solo date. I really do.
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  I love taking myself to the cinema. I go to everyman. I get myself some food.
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  I get myself a nice drink. I sit there. I'm just in my element.
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  I also take myself for solo lunch dates, solo dinner dates.
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  There is something fantastically magical and empowering about these.
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  The other thing you can do is to plan a midweek dinner with a friend.
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  This is kind of planning your week like future you who is invested in their
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  life and who is busy in their life, not waiting around for their partner or
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  their crush to take them out or to give them attention.
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  So plan a midweek dinner with a friend and then try something new that excites you.
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  Try something new that you've always wanted to do. Maybe it's dancing,
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  maybe it's yoga, maybe it's an art class.
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  You become someone with a life, not someone waiting for one.
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  And I also think this idea of living like future you, who has plans,
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  who makes plans, who is living life, I also think by living life and taking
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  yourself off and doing things and.
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  You naturally become more interesting. You become the most interesting person in the room.
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  That is already way more attractive than the person who is just desperately
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  waiting for someone to send a text.
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  You know why? Because one, you're not chasing them.
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  Two, when you do meet them, when you do chat to your partner,
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  you are the most interesting person in the room.
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  You tell them what dance moves, what yoga moves, what that person did in the
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  class that was really embarrassing.
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  Maybe what type what
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  what achievement that you set yourself maybe you've gone swimming and you've
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  managed to do 10 lengths and you found a new way to
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  swim or maybe you tell them about the new coffee place
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  that you found or what's going on with your friend or this amazing dinner that
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  you had that you must take them to can you see how it makes you magnetic it
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  makes you electric it makes you it's exciting me talking about it makes you
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  energetically attractive imagine them turning up on a date where you're not
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  living and you're kind of going, hey,
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  yeah, I'm just trying to be really sexy on my date, but actually I don't have much to say.
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  Imagine strolling in and actually maybe you're a little bit late and you go,
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  so sorry, I was just doing this. I'm not suggesting you be late.
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  That's not really my style. But just as an idea, you're in this movie,
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  strolling a few minutes late, you're looking fabulous.
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  You know why? Because you've already had a lunch date with a friend.
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  You sit down and rather than having nothing to say
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  and just thinking about trying to be attractive to them and
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  trying to make them laugh and they say what have you been up
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  to you go oh my god I tried this new class today have
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  you ever tried badminton have you ever tried paddle have you ever tried pole
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  dancing whatever it is you talk about them you talk about that new person that
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  you met maybe when you went for a coffee date you tell them about a new drink
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  that you had you tell them about a new coffee shop you found you're interesting
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  you're thriving you are full of life,
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  that radiates off of you.
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  That gives you an energetic glow that is so attractive. You cannot help but
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  lure people in to your magnetic realm.
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  The other thing that you can do to make yourself busy and to make yourself,
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  you know, your life more interesting so you're not checking your phone is say yes to more.
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  So instead of defaulting to staying in, we can get in the habit,
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  can't we, of working and thinking, no, we can't go out. Just say yes.
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  Say yes to being spontaneous. Someone texts you at the weekend,
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  hey, I've got tickets for this. Fancy it. Sometimes you go, oh,
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  oh, I don't know. Just yes.
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  Say yes to meeting new people, say yes to doing something different.
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  This will expand your energy instantly.
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  Number three is to create main character moments.
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  So this is about a little bit like romanticizing your life. So things that you
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  can do to create your main character moments.
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  Get ready just for yourself. Do your hair, do your makeup, dress in something
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  that makes you feel fabulous, even if you're not meeting anyone.
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  Again, it elevates and it raises your vibrations.
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  Buy yourself flowers. Show yourself, show the universe that you are worth buying flowers for.
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  It will make you smile. It will make you not desperate for this text to arrive
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  because that person might buy you flowers when you're with them.
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  This is about you going, hey, I don't need you.
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  I'd quite like you, but I don't need you. I buy myself from flowers.
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  I feel sexy without you because I dress up and I do my hair and makeup.
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  Maybe go for a walk with no phone. This really helps you to become present.
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  It helps you to listen and kind of go through and analyze your thoughts.
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  Take yourself out for breakfast because when you treat your life as special, you feel special.
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  And what does that do? It creates this magnetism.
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  And what happens? Our crush, our partner, they get naturally drawn into our magnetism.
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  Trust me, your partner will want to date you. Your partner will want to date
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  you if you are going off and doing these things and living your life and appreciating life.
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  And showing yourself and the universe that you are special. The next thing you
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  can do is to build confidence through action.
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  So ask yourself, what would make
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  me proud this week? And then go and do that. Is that going to the gym?
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  Is it speaking up more, maybe with colleagues or at work? Maybe it's posting
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  something on social media that you've been scared to post.
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  Or maybe it's trying something new. So confidence is built, it's not wished for.
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  So the more that you can do where you go that made me proud this
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  week I did a new class I spoke up more I posted
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  something on Instagram this is building your
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  confidence what happens we build our confidence we become
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  so goddamn sexy guys you're gonna have to thank me or go and hide because they're
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  gonna be people knocking at your door blowing up your phone your partner is
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  gonna be desperate to get in your diary to date you honestly number five is
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  to have things going on that don't involve them.
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  So if you're seeing someone, you've got this crush, maybe it's your partner,
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  maybe sometimes you make your diary completely clear for this person because
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  if they're sometimes flaky, maybe you're desperate to fit them in as soon as they allow.
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  Whatever it is, have things going on that don't involve them.
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  And this is the absolute key because attraction grows.
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  It grows in space, giving your partner space, giving your crush space,
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  space to misuse, to wonder if you are free to date them.
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  If your whole world revolves around them and you're dropping everything for
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  them all of the time, there's nothing to discover.
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  There's nothing to be curious about. So have things going on that don't involve them. Now.
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  Let's think about this, how to become more attractive to your partner.
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  So we're talking about relationships for a moment, because it's not about just
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  attracting your crush, it's about keeping the spark alive.
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  And this is so, so important, because if you become lost in the relationship,
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  if you become distant, if you feel like roommates.
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  That can lay, rest heavy on your mind, it can rest heavy on your energy,
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  it can dull, it can dull and dim your light, unfortunately.
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  So bring back your individuality. This is number one.
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  When you first met, you had your own life. You were dating, you had your own
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  energy, your own independence.
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  And sometimes in relationships, there's a part of it that's lovely and we merge,
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  but sometimes we can merge too much.
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  So decide and make a conscious effort to bring back your hobbies,
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  your time alone, your time with friends, your own spark?
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  What ignites you without them?
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  Now, independence is attractive. Even if your partner loves doing things with
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  you, it can become quite a habit and they can become quite used to you just being there.
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  And so they can sit on their reels and they can sit scrolling and they can sit
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  over the dinner table on their phone and not really give you much attention.
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  If you bring back like your hobbies and your time alone, one,
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  it will ignite a spark in you.
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  And two that independence becomes naturally attractive
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  the next thing you can do is stop over
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  giving oh stop over giving
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  if you are always always available always doing everything always over accommodating
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  always making sure your partner is okay always making sure everything is done
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  in the house there's no tension there's no space there's no intrigue it is just
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  you doing your thing every single day.
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  Try this. This is magical. This is magical. I must admit, I have done this before.
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  Just pull your energy back slightly. So it's not playing games.
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  It's just pulling back and doing a little bit more of you.
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  Just pull back. You don't need to do all of those things. You don't need to
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  be available all of the time.
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  Just bring back that little bit of mystery. Pull your energy back slightly.
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  It's not a game, but it is simply to restore the balance.
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  Number three is to focus on how you feel, not just how they feel.
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  And again, it's like that question earlier, where rather than saying,
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  I wonder if they like me, you're now saying, I wonder if I like them.
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  So this one, focus on how you feel, not just how they feel.
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  So before seeing your partner, ask, how do I want to show up?
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  Do I want to show up playful, calm, flirty, light, fun?
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  Think about that energy and think about how you want to feel. How are you showing up?
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  That energy that you decide to adopt creates connection.
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  So if you decide I'm going to be playful today, that playful energy will radiate
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  from you and naturally that other person will normally be drawn in.
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  Number four is add novelty back in.
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  So attraction thrives on newness. So try something like a spontaneous date.
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  It's breaking up that monotony.
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  It's breaking up the monotony of life, the routines that you're in.
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  So try a spontaneous date, dressing up differently, trying a new version of
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  you, dressing something, something that you still love.
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  This is not dressing for them. This is dressing up differently for you.
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  Trying something new together, maybe taking yourself on a date together,
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  trying a new hobby together, changing your routine slightly.
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  So even small changes can shift the dynamic hugely. So don't underestimate it.
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  Number five is to feel attractive for you and not them.
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  For you. Because when you feel confident, when you feel alive,
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  when you feel happy, when you feel radiant, when you feel joyful,
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  when you feel sexy, they feel it too.
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  When you are trying to be sexy and you're not feeling it, I swear it gives something
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  off. It's like you've got a sign above your head saying, I don't feel attractive.
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  I'm not drawing you in so the more that you do this for you when you are confident
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  it radiates from every cell in your body what happens you become magnetic and
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  they get sucked into this amazing attractive energy field of yours and they do respond to it,
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  The other thing that we can use is affirmations. Now, I love an affirmation.
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  Affirmations is like our big thing in manifesting.
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  So here are some affirmations that you can use to help your crush or to help
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  your partner become more attracted to you, for you to become more attractive
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  to anybody, to the right people.
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  So take any of these, maybe take a breath and feel these as I'm saying them
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  out loud. If you want to repeat them, I'll say them twice so it gives you a
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  little kind of time to repeat.
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  Everyone I desire, desires me more.
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  Everyone I desire, desires me more.
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  The person I seek is also seeking me.
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  The person I seek is also seeking me.
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  I am magnetic, naturally attractive and unforgettable. I am magnetic,
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  naturally attractive and unforgettable.
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  I don't chase, I attract. I don't chase, I attract.
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  I am deeply desired in all of my relationships.
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  I am deeply desired in all of my relationships. My energy keeps love exciting and alive.
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  If it's not aligned, it's not mine.
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  If it's not aligned, it's not mine.
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  There's your affirmations guide. So give those a goal.
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  And let's be honest, what you really want, it isn't obsession,
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  it's consistency, it's attention, desire, connection.
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  That comes from alignment. It comes from mutual energy. It comes from not forcing,
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  never forcing. It is always flowing.
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  So if you ever hit a point where you feel like you're overthinking,
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  you're trying to figure out who to be on the date, how to draw them in through your text messages,
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  I just want you to stop go with the flow we are
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  not forcing now if you can hear noise in
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  the background we are having some work outside on our
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  house done so please ignore this because we are
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  just being attractive together anyway so your
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  energy I want you to think ask yourself am I chasing am I overthinking am I
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  trying to control or am I trusting am I living am I being and then ask yourself
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  what would the most magnetic version of me do right now?
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  That's what I want you to ask yourself. And if you're ever doubting yourself,
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  come back to that question.
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  What would the most magnetic version of me do right now?
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  And that is simple. You are going to be the most attractive person in the room,
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  the most attractive person in your relationship,
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  the most attractive person on the dating apps, the most attractive person at
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  work. You are going to walk out of your house today.
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  You're going to feel attractive. You're going to feel confident.
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  You're going to feel aligned.
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  You are going to be attracting everyone into your life. You have been warned.
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  So if you have taken anything from this episode today,
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  please do share it with a friend maybe someone
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  who is doubting themselves in love who is
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  questioning about getting back with their ex how to
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  draw them back in or maybe needs a little bit of reconnecting with their partner
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  please do pass this on if you have time to please rate review and subscribe
• 35:41
  on the podcast i would be oh so grateful i have just seen that we have almost
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  20 000 listeners so i am buzzing so thank you so much if you want to dm me let
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  me know how attractive you are.
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  Send me a selfie and be like, babes, I am hot.
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  I am hot. And please do slide it to my DMs. I'm at the Holly Edwards and at
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  the dot manifestation station.
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  So remember this from today. You don't need to make someone obsessed with you.
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  You become so aligned, so full, so confident that the right people naturally are.
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  And in relationships, you don't force attraction.
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  You nurture it through your energy space and connection so I will leave you
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  with this I am magnetic I am chosen and what is meant for me flows to me effortlessly goodbye.