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Hot Takes with the Murphman Episode 51 Building Your In-House Network – How To Network Effectively At Work · Military Broadcast Radio | MBR Talk

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  Hey, hey, welcome to another episode of Hot Takes with the
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  Murph man. I'm the Murph man.
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  I'm here with my Co host Connor. Oh, what's up bro?
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  Morning. Not a good morning, just
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  morning, huh? Yeah, just morning.
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  Hey, let me tell you, I have a question for you.
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  When you think about what's going on around the world, what
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  do you think is some big things going on right now?
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  I'm just curious. I don't even know anything
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  that's going on right now. Sure you do.
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  Dolly Parton passed away. Tim Curry passed away.
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  Peter Cullen passed away. Everyone passed away.
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  God damn right. Yeah, that's true.
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  That is true. Everyone's passed away, man.
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  I'm telling you, it just it's not any fun right now looking at
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  the news. But I did hear something I want
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  to share with you. You know, Trump has been
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  changing the names of the Gulf of Mexico to Gulf of America,
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  then Lake Ontario to Lake America.
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  Well, there's one thing I don't know if you know the story about
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  Canadian geese, they fly down South every summer or every
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  winter, whatever. And actually, they fly in pairs,
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  so like, if one dies, the other one just almost just gives up on
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  life, right? But I think they're going to
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  rename them to Donald Ducks. No, you didn't like that one.
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  I did not like that one at all. You.
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  Didn't like that one at all. Why not?
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  That was funny. To you probably.
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  It is funny to me. It is funny.
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  It's funny to everybody. I promise you it is.
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  But yeah, Donald Duck's, that was a one thing I saw on TikTok.
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  This one, it's pretty funny. What do you think?
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  Should they give Dolly Parton her day on 9/25?
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  No. Why not?
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  Why? What day?
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  Because she's amazing. Do you know how much she's done
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  for people? No.
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  You don't know what she's done for people during the Gatlinburg
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  fires. Like I think 100 families lost
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  their homes. She gave them money like $1000 a
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  month each. And then when everything was
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  said and done, she'll build their houses.
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  And she also gave them $5000 to buy furniture and wouldn't it?
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  She has scholarships for kids. She did a lot of stuff.
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  And the other thing called the Presidential Medal of Honor,
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  which is like the president gives you the highest award the
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  the ceiling can get. And Biden and Trump both try to
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  give her one. So it wasn't like Republican or
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  Democrat, but she turned them both down because she didn't she
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  was not political at all. And I saw an interview with
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  Obama, and Obama was asked, how come you never gave her a
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  Presidential Medal of Honor? And his answer was real simple.
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  He says, I thought she already had one.
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  He just because she had done so much, he just assumed she had
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  gotten 1, you know, So she really, really, really has done
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  a lot of stuff, you know, So rest in peace, right?
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  But let me tell you something. We're here on MBR Talk Roku.
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  If you're watching us live, let's see, are we live yet?
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  Yes, we are. No, no, I'm, I'm sorry, on my,
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  my, my page. I was looking at that.
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  The if you're watching us on MBR Talk Roku, thank you for
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  watching. If you're watching us on any
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  other channel, you can watch us on MBR Talk Roku.
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  You'll be able to watch our videos as well.
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  And at Pure Hot Takes, you can check out our social medias
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  there, and we'll be able to do that soon here.
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  So if you're in the chat, come in, chat with us and let us know
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  what's going on. I'll tell you what, Connor, Are
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  you ready to start the show this morning?
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  Yes. Sir.
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  All right, I say it's time to ignite the fuse.
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  Welcome to Hot Takes with the Murph Man.
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  Today we are talking about building your in house network.
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  How to network effectively at work.
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  Your Co workers, mentors and cross functional allies are one
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  of your greatest career assets. This episode shows you how to
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  build relationships that lead to collaboration, support and
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  opportunity. Today we are focusing on
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  building your in house network. The stage is set.
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  Let's jump feet first into the fire.
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  That's right, building your in house network.
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  What could that entail, Connor? You know what I mean?
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  It's one of those things when your Co workers, mentors and
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  your allies are all part of your greatest career assets because
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  you're at work with these people and you need to have a great
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  network set up with them. OK, so that's what we're going
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  to be talking about today is this building your network.
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  So as we talked about this, I want you to think about what it
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  is that we're doing, OK? We talk about work, we talk
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  about everything going on. And we get to the point where
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  we've been talking about like from how to start college,
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  moving on to adulthood and getting a job and everything.
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  And we were talking about managers that last week, right?
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  We talked about the business etiquette, how to communicate at
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  work, all of that stuff. But what I think is most
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  interesting to me is when we talk about this, what's what's
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  it called? These topics that it's something
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  that everyone can, can use, OK, This one in particular, because
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  this is having a network of people.
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  It's one of those things, when you think about it, that you
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  don't realize how much having those, those contacts matter,
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  OK. Because it's not only at work,
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  it is everywhere. And it's one of those things
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  when, yeah, you become friends at work, but it's it's not about
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  making friends. It's about helping you with your
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  job. And I've said this before now,
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  so I don't know if you remember. What do you think is the most
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  important person at the job? The boss.
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  The boss, how are you thinking? Well, the the boss depends on
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  her secretary or his secretary, right?
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  Everything goes through that secretary.
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  She knows everything going on with that person.
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  Do you, can you understand that? Can you agree with that?
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  Yes, I agree. So that secretary becomes the
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  most important person in that person's life.
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  OK, so like making friends with secretary is very important
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  because they can tell you, for example, hey, they're going to
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  be auditing you next week or when you have a problem.
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  And I'll give you an example. We had to turn in paperwork when
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  we had new cases, right? And I started a group and I
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  wanted to start it after the 1st of the month, but they insisted
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  I started the week before. And I told my secretary, I, I've
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  tried changing this, I can't. And I'm going to give you the
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  stack of papers that you're going to have to input before
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  the 1st of the month, right? And I gave her a pretty good
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  stack and then I told her I'm still finishing them up.
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  So when I, I gave her the rest, it was a stack about this big,
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  but only two packets. The rest were just bling.
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  So she's she's like, she gets it.
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  She's I can't get mad at you for forgiving because you, you, you
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  warned me about this, right? And then she started working on
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  it. She's like, oh, you're stupid.
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  Like, you know, she didn't have to worry about that so much.
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  So when when we're doing this and we're talking, you know,
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  secretary to me is the most important person, but you have
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  your Co workers and you have people that train you and people
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  you can ask questions too. And when you have that network,
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  you can call someone up and go, hey, I don't understand this.
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  Can you help me? And it's, yeah, we do that for,
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  for work. We, we ask people for help.
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  That's when it's something embarrassing, like you should
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  already know how to do this, right?
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  You're. Like, can you help me out here?
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  Because I, I, I really don't know this one and it, it, it
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  gets a little embarrassing sometimes.
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  Sometimes. Sometimes, yeah, because you can
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  ask stupid questions. And you know, again, like I said
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  last week, you know, they say there's no such thing as a
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  stupid question. I disagree.
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  There's definitely stupid questions out there.
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  But I'll tell you what. Speaking of stupid questions,
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  let's get to a smart one called The Burning Question.
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  Today's burning question is what is the most effective way to
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  build your internal network at work?
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  A Only talking to people on your team.
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  B Attending company wide social events.
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  C Scheduling casual coffee chats with people from other
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  departments. D Waiting for someone to talk to
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  you. Let's see who can bridge the gap
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  and who gets left stranded. All right, let's talk about
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  that. OK, when we have these, the
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  question what is the most effective way to build your
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  internal network at work? Only talking to people in your
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  team, attending company wide social events, scheduling casual
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  coffee chats with people from other departments or waiting for
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  someone to talk to you? OK, that informal stuff is more
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  important, OK, Having talking to people on your team.
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  We obviously know you have to talk to people on your team,
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  attending company wide social events like a beer after work.
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  Do you think that's important? Yeah, attending that.
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  Not all the time, but maybe sometimes.
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  It'll be nice to like invite them out and talk.
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  That's what I would do. Well, yeah, but I'm saying that
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  the the guys get together for a beer after work.
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  Yeah, that's fine. Does everyone go to that?
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  No, no they don't. When?
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  They do, then they do. I don't know.
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  Well, because not everybody is interested in doing something
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  like that, OK? Not everyone is interested in
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  doing something like that. So is it forced recreation that
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  you have to be together? OK.
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  Do you do you think that's that's fair to people, that you
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  make people go to these things? We're not making anybody go to
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  anything or they want to. They can.
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  It's just an event. It's not like we're forcing
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  everybody to go. But that's how you build
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  networking like playing golf. By forcing.
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  People Andrew's of thoughts. Thanks for joining us.
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  By forcing people to go or not forcing people to go.
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  If, if you tell people, if you, if you discuss work at these
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  meetings and you make plans and then on Monday morning you come
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  in and you're like, hey, don't forget Billy's in charge of the
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  hey, when did that happen? Drinking beers Friday night, We
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  were talking about it. We put him in charge.
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  Is that fair to you if you don't go?
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  No. So it's almost mandatory to go
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  to these things. Right, I guess, but if you're
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  only trying to get to know each other then that's fine.
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  Right, but as doing work like playing golf like one one one of
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  the best piece of advices I've ever gotten in my life was from
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  my old principal. She says tell Connor to play
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  golf in high school. Do you remember that?
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  No, you don't. No, she says by playing golf.
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  OK, when you go on business meetings, you can go to the golf
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  course and you have that person for three hours to discuss
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  business, I guess. OK, so learning how to golf is
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  something that if you want to build networking, that is one
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  way to do it. OK.
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  Is going to the golf course, talking business, having a
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  couple beers and and you have three hours dedicated with that
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  person. So learning to play golf is
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  something that if you're in business is something that I
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  think that's the piece, one of the best piece of advice I've
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  ever received because that's one way to get it.
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  Now, obviously, if I don't drink beer and you know, you don't
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  have to drink beer when you go these things, you can drink
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  water and whatever. You know, I remember when I was
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  in the reserves after work, everyone get together to go
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  drink some beers, right? And they did this every weekend.
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  And back then I was drinking a lot.
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  I was only 17. I've been drinking since I was
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  14. But I went and hung out with the
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  older guys. We went to the bar, We went, you
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  know, dancing, whatever, right? And it was part of the culture
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  of the team, and it really brought us together.
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  The ones who didn't go to that, we didn't really associate with
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  much because we had a deeper friendship over here and they
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  weren't part of the circle. Yeah.
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  You know, like, you have your friend groups, right?
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  Some of them crossed, but some of them don't.
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  What would you rather have? Groups that cross or groups that
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  don't? It really doesn't matter to me.
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  We're talking about like for business.
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  Do you think they should cross or should they be separate?
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  Cross since they're all working together.
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  Right. Yeah, yeah.
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  But what happens if you have someone that's not from work?
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  They're not going to be part of that group.
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  OK, then why would you invite them?
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  Because you have departments in your business, everyone has
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  different departments too, OK, but.
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  You're having a meeting with your department only.
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  Why would you invite other people?
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  And we're going to talk about that.
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  OK, Let's talk about today's hot take so that we can get to that
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  point for you. Today's hot take is this.
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  Your internal network is more important than your external one
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  for career advancement. You will get your next job by
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  knowing people at other companies, but you will get your
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  next promotion by knowing people in every department of your
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  current company. Time to see whose career
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  strategy is built on solid ground.
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  All right, so your internal network is more important than
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  your external 1. You will get the next job by
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  knowing people at other companies, but you will get your
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  next promotion by knowing people in every department of your
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  current company. Because like I'll give you an
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  example. One time we were looking for a
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  director for a new program and my boss tells me, hey, I think
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  you need to apply for this position.
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  You'd be great at it. And another one of my Co
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  workers, we both went and we applied.
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  And as we're talking to the CEO about what we were wanting to do
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  with him, right? He was like, well, you know, I'm
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  looking for someone with experience with this and that.
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  And I, I said, so you already have somebody for the position.
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  He says, yeah, this is so why did you waste my time if you're,
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  I mean, if you already have somebody, why did you waste my
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  time? And I, I felt comfortable that I
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  didn't mean it like aggressively or anything, but I said, why did
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  you waste my time? And he said, I just wanted to
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  see you in this position. I want to see how you
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  interviewed. I wanted to see how you.
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  And I'm like, OK, so. Somebody going to fire the guy?
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  No, that's what was the next. Next thing I told him I said.
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  So let's say I did really awesome in this interview
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  without a change of mind. He said no, I I don't
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  understand, right? I liked him and everything.
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  I wasn't friends with him, but I felt comfortable enough to,
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  like, go. So why did you waste my time?
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  So I went back to my office. My boss said, how did it go?
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  I said he already asked someone. And she looked at me real
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  seriously. And she says, I'm sorry.
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  I did not know that. Had I known, I wouldn't have
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  told you anything. Dang.
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  And under the other person, the program lost its funding.
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  Yeah. That.
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  That would have been something that that would have happened to
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  me. It wasn't the person in charge
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  that did anything. It was a really bad situation
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  and it put a bad spot on the on the business and they had to
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  shut it down. You know, they lost their
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  contract and everything. So I would have been without a
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  job if I got that job because it was nothing that she could have
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  controlled in my opinion, right, The one that had the position.
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  But. That sucks.
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  Oh, well, it does. But so, yeah, so sometimes
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  things happen for a reason. I do believe that
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  wholeheartedly. Me too.
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  Cassie. Thank you for sending the
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  popular. Appreciate that.
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  And the Doug laugh. Did your hard joke about Donald
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  Ducks? I still think that's funny.
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  I don't care if you do. I'll tell you what.
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  We're going to take a quick break and we will come back and
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  we'll discuss those terms we need to learn so that we can get
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  familiar with what we're talking about.
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  We'll be right back. It's time for a break.
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  Hot takes with the Murph man will return after these.
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  The the video we were just showing with Ryan Spencer song
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  Make 22 Zero again talks about veteran suicide.
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  And it's just something that is very important to me, you know?
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  OK? Anyone can qualify for that.
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  So think about it. And if you need help, dial 988
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  and press one. Right, Connor?
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  Yep. All right, so getting back to
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  the show, we're going to be talking about our terms that we
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  call laying down the coals and we have a video for that as
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  well. So let's watch the video.
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  Before we dig in, let's clarify some of the key terms we'll be
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  using today while laying down the coals.
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  Internal networking. Building relationships within
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  your organization to foster collaboration and career growth.
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  Cross functional collaboration, working with people from
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  different departments or teams. This gives you a broader
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  perspective of the company. Informal touch points.
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  Casual interactions that build trust and rapport EG coffee
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  chats, hallway converse. Let's stack the definitions high
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  before we test them in the field.
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  So internal networking, building relationships with an
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  organization, Duh. Right that that.
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  That's so self-explanatory it's not even funny.
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  But The thing is, people don't do it.
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  And no matter what we say, they're not going to do it.
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  I don't know why they don't think that's important.
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  I think it's one of the most important things you could ever
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  think of, OK? Yeah.
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  Do you know why? Why?
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  Because when you're doing that, I'm going to put this, it's
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  just, it's, it should be just second nature to you.
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  Talking to people at work and making friends, OK, Cross
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  functional collaboration, working with people from
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  different departments. This gives you a broader
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  perspective of the company. Like I told you earlier, I
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  applied for another position, even though we were on our own
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  entity, I talked to people not at the different departments.
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  So I knew what was going on, you know, and plus I talked to my,
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  my boss who told me a lot more about, about what we were doing
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  then informal touchpoints. This is, this is one of those
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  things that I want to think about.
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  I know you can read OK, but what do you think informal
• 26:50
  touchpoints means? Like in your own words.
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  I don't know, when you say informal touch points, you mean
• 27:06
  like something that's like not professional, right?
• 27:09
  Well. Like not, not like, not like
• 27:16
  goofing off or anything, but not in the sense where you need to
• 27:20
  be professional. Right.
• 27:22
  Well, yeah, because informal. Yeah.
• 27:27
  But it's more of a situation where you bump into someone that
• 27:35
  does not. It's not a formal meeting.
• 27:39
  It's but we get to talk about it.
• 27:41
  So it's just like a if I see you, I see you out of work.
• 27:46
  Well, not even out inside work, well, anywhere.
• 27:50
  Yeah, you know it. It's funny because when you
• 27:54
  think about like what you're informed us like the coffee pot,
• 28:00
  the dining, the break room, you would be in the break room at at
• 28:04
  work, right? Yeah.
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  Did you ever talk to anybody in there?
• 28:10
  Sometimes, yeah. Not always.
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  OK. And what would you do?
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  Just talk, Billy, how's your day?
• 28:18
  Just talk. Yeah, be like, what shift are
• 28:20
  you working right now? That's it.
• 28:23
  We didn't really talk much you. Didn't ever talk about work.
• 28:29
  Well, no, there was nothing to talk about.
• 28:33
  We talk on the job. There was nothing to talk about.
• 28:37
  If we work together, we talk on the job.
• 28:41
  So you would talk on the job? Yeah, OK, but not like before,
• 28:45
  after or out of work, you know what I mean?
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  No, I don't like. You know how?
• 28:59
  Because that's what I'm talking about.
• 29:01
  The informal touch points are not formal meetings.
• 29:03
  Yeah. So if you talk to them meeting
• 29:06
  at work, that wasn't a a meeting then?
• 29:12
  There's no meetings that we have our work, it's just.
• 29:16
  Oh, you never had team meetings? Well, yeah, but that was before
• 29:23
  the work day that we had like 3. Right.
• 29:27
  OK. But although the conversations
• 29:29
  you had in between one of those informal touch points, that's
• 29:31
  that's the point of that is not the formal touch points, It's
• 29:35
  the informal ones that matter because those casual
• 29:38
  interactions that build trust and rapport, coffee, Halloween
• 29:42
  conversations, things of that nature.
• 29:44
  OK. When you think about that, do
• 29:47
  you think those are important? Yeah, yeah, communication is
• 29:51
  always important. Communication is always
• 29:52
  important. You know, I haven't never worked
• 29:57
  for a very big company. Me neither.
• 30:01
  Where I'm at now, I mean, we have like 100 teachers and
• 30:03
  whatever, you know, schools, OK. Where I used to work, we had
• 30:06
  like 500 people a day working. Yeah, no, like just customers,
• 30:12
  yeah. Oh, yeah, I worked at Kmart.
• 30:14
  We had thousands of customers. OK, that's not what I mean.
• 30:16
  I know. Kidding.
• 30:18
  You know where I'm at now, there's so many employees.
• 30:19
  I don't know all of them. I don't, but I've helped a few
• 30:24
  of them and I've had conversations with a few of them
• 30:28
  that aren't work related. And whenever I cover for
• 30:33
  teachers, I make friends with them.
• 30:35
  And what's funny is I tell them, you know, if you ever need
• 30:37
  anything, come and see me. So remember earlier in the
• 30:40
  beginning we were talking about doing that in the network so you
• 30:44
  can ask stupid questions. When a a teacher's having
• 30:47
  difficulty with doing something, they'll reach out to us.
• 30:51
  I say us as a team but one of us each teacher has their favorite
• 30:54
  person to go to and this is 1 teacher we had for a while that
• 30:59
  was making us not making us but she had a lot of issues actually
• 31:02
  got hacked and her so we were helping her with that right And
• 31:08
  we got in trouble for helping her because it wasn't work
• 31:10
  related. Well she get hacked on her.
• 31:17
  Personal computer, just like I use my own personal computer for
• 31:20
  work. Yeah.
• 31:21
  So it has work on it though, right?
• 31:27
  Yeah, but it affected our work because it's in the virus to our
• 31:32
  system because that's how it works, right?
• 31:40
  You know so when? When I was doing that and
• 31:55
  helping her, I had no problem doing it.
• 31:58
  You know, It wasn't really pushing a lot of work to me, OK,
• 32:03
  But it was something that we needed to not do because she
• 32:12
  should have contacted and paid someone to do it.
• 32:15
  She was getting free help. That's how it was presented to
• 32:18
  us. And we agreed, you know, we also
• 32:22
  would have teachers say, hey, can you help me out with this?
• 32:25
  And we would help them like nothing.
• 32:27
  But the boss put out a message to everybody, said, do not ask
• 32:31
  them for help. They have their own things they
• 32:36
  got to do. We have proper channels, meaning
• 32:38
  like you need to come to me if you have questions.
• 32:43
  A lot of people were like, I don't want to do that, I don't
• 32:46
  want to do that. I wouldn't want to do that.
• 32:48
  Well, that's the point though, right?
• 32:50
  Maybe that's why I don't want to ask questions anymore because of
• 32:53
  being forced to. Well, I still have people
• 32:58
  reaching out to me. Not as many as we had before,
• 33:02
  but. Obviously, I know obviously
• 33:04
  there's going to be some people that don't care about it and
• 33:07
  still do it. And we, you know.
• 33:08
  Isn't I hurting anybody? I mean, it's not, you're just
• 33:11
  asking for help. Exactly.
• 33:14
  It's, it's not hurting anyone. So when we, when we try to help
• 33:19
  somebody, you know, it's, it's not, not anything too serious.
• 33:23
  And we, we move on very quickly to that, you know what I mean?
• 33:28
  But I'll tell you what, it's enough to hear my stories.
• 33:32
  And sometimes it works better when you hear someone else's
• 33:35
  story. So let's hear the story from the
• 33:36
  fire. Let's talk about Nico.
• 33:47
  In today's story from the fire, Nico started grabbing coffee
• 33:51
  with people from other departments.
• 33:53
  One of those chats led to a project collaboration and later
• 33:57
  a job referral. When a new role opened up, his
• 34:00
  network became his net worth. Real experience is the ultimate
• 34:05
  test of theory. All right, let's talk about Nico
• 34:10
  Connor. OK, OK, OK.
• 34:18
  I was waiting for you to say something.
• 34:20
  I was waiting for you to answer. So Nico started grabbing coffee
• 34:25
  with people from other departments, and one of those
• 34:27
  chats led to a project collaboration and later job
• 34:29
  referral when news rolls opened up.
• 34:32
  OK, sometimes when you make friends with those other
• 34:35
  departments, OK, they'll tell you, hey, heads up, Bill's
• 34:43
  leaving, you know, so get your resume ready, right?
• 34:48
  That that's a big deal because little, little inside
• 34:52
  information like that helps you. But also the the collaborations
• 34:56
  you do with other departments is important too, because as you're
• 34:59
  sitting there and you're doing something with another
• 35:05
  department, you bring things together.
• 35:08
  And it was funny because when I worked at schools, right, I try
• 35:15
  to bring people in. And there was one day I didn't
• 35:18
  know how things worked. I was still new.
• 35:21
  And I was like, let me get the band here.
• 35:24
  Let me get the cheerleaders from Burgess, you know, right.
• 35:27
  And the student council, I mean, the student manager was amazing.
• 35:31
  Ruth What, What was her name? Do you remember anyway?
• 35:36
  I didn't relate to you. No student.
• 35:39
  Activities manager, that the one who's always doing activities,
• 35:41
  but you know her. I don't know her name.
• 35:44
  I didn't talk to her and hated her.
• 35:47
  She was weird. She wasn't.
• 35:49
  I don't like the TV. Maybe a little weird, but we
• 35:52
  were coordinating everything. And then she asked me a a
• 35:54
  question. I didn't even think of Miss
• 35:55
  Boland. Miss Boland, she says.
• 36:00
  So have you submitted the paperwork for the buses?
• 36:03
  And then I said, no, let me go ask my secretary for that.
• 36:06
  I, I'm new. I told her, right?
• 36:09
  I go tell the secretary, she says, and how are we going to
• 36:11
  pay for that? Like what?
• 36:15
  It's just, we have to pay for the gas and the driver and
• 36:17
  everything. I'm like, what?
• 36:21
  So I had to squash it, right? I had to squash that.
• 36:25
  And it was funny because I didn't know.
• 36:29
  So the next time I did something, I made sure I didn't
• 36:31
  use any school resources, right? I had, I was, we had a
• 36:38
  partnership with a unit on base and they were the helicopters
• 36:42
  South of Atlanta, Chinook, a Black Hawk and an Apache in our
• 36:46
  playground, right? They came out, they did a side
• 36:49
  survey. They said we can do this no
• 36:51
  problem, blah, blah, blah. I got approval all the way up
• 36:54
  through the FAA at the tower. OK, our our just so you know,
• 37:00
  the back line of the school, the back fence, I say it was Fort
• 37:03
  Bliss. So literally a fence was slit us
• 37:05
  apart. So we you know, we were right
• 37:09
  there. It's like they had to fly over
• 37:10
  city or anything. They had an open land to to get
• 37:13
  to us. And then I asked, I had to call
• 37:20
  the director of services for the district.
• 37:25
  I called right. And I said hey.
• 37:34
  We need to get approval for this.
• 37:36
  Here's what's going on, blah, blah.
• 37:38
  I had it. I had the approval from him.
• 37:41
  Then one day he calls back and I'm not at my desk and my
• 37:45
  secretary is taking a message for me.
• 37:47
  And the assistant principal I didn't like was like, she says
• 37:53
  OK, Mr. whatever else, let me get it.
• 37:54
  And he's like, who? Who's he calling for?
• 37:56
  For Sean? Let me talk to him.
• 37:59
  And he cancelled the whole thing.
• 38:01
  For what, I don't know. There was, there was no reason
• 38:07
  he gave me. He just didn't want to do it.
• 38:09
  I was going to have helicopters landing veterans coming from
• 38:15
  other organizations. I was going to do everything was
• 38:17
  free. It wasn't costing us a penny,
• 38:20
  just the time. And it was going to be a really,
• 38:22
  really, really cool event. And then he did that right.
• 38:27
  That's crazy dude. And I went to the counselor who
• 38:31
  I was coordinating this with, and I said, you didn't tell
• 38:37
  anybody what we were doing. And she says, honestly, I didn't
• 38:43
  think you would get it done. I was like, I had the FAA
• 38:47
  involved, dude. I was like, you made me do all
• 38:51
  this and you didn't even tell me we weren't doing it.
• 38:53
  I was really mad at her and very, very unhappy with her.
• 39:00
  And it just, I don't know, but I just gave up on that job at that
• 39:07
  point, you know, because like, I couldn't do anything.
• 39:12
  My hands were tied everywhere. I tried to do something and that
• 39:14
  would have been an amazing event, amazing event, but it got
• 39:20
  shot down and I got very upset about that and it just, I had no
• 39:26
  power so I couldn't do anything about it unfortunately.
• 39:30
  Yeah, why not even talk to the principal?
• 39:34
  The second principal can't make every decision.
• 39:39
  OK, think about office politics. I already he already hated me.
• 39:46
  I go over his head and I get this done.
• 39:50
  Now he looks bad to this director at the district because
• 39:54
  he cancelled, then all of a sudden it's back on.
• 39:57
  He's it's going to look bad. He's going to take it out on me
• 39:59
  sometimes. You got to He does, then he
• 40:01
  does. Have you heard?
• 40:02
  For students, for the kids and for veterans also.
• 40:06
  You're right, but here it is making my life a living hell.
• 40:09
  Make his life a living hell. I should have.
• 40:12
  I really should have. But there's have you ever heard
• 40:23
  you win the battle, but you lose the war?
• 40:26
  Have you heard of that phrase, any of the term?
• 40:28
  Pick your battles because there's some battles you can win
• 40:32
  and still come out ahead, and there's some battles you'll win
• 40:36
  and you'll lose in the long run. Say that again.
• 40:41
  There's some battles you can choose and you can win in the
• 40:45
  long run. There's some that you can win,
• 40:49
  but you'll lose in the long run because like, for example, like,
• 41:00
  I don't, I don't know if you've heard, but El Paso school
• 41:04
  districts had a lot of issues financially this past year
• 41:07
  because the state didn't give us the money we were supposed to.
• 41:10
  I wonder why? Because they gave it to charter
• 41:11
  schools and private schools. I still don't like that idea.
• 41:15
  Don't, don't, don't, don't. Don't get me started on that
• 41:17
  one. OK, I work at a charter school
• 41:21
  and I still disagree with but don't don't open that kind of
• 41:31
  worms. But we lost the budget and they
• 41:33
  had to fire so many teachers and the budget got cut down so much
• 41:38
  that now the superintendents and the directors and everyone who's
• 41:41
  a salaried employee at the main office has to do 8 days of
• 41:45
  subbing a year. Substitute teacher, four days in
• 41:52
  the fall, 4 days in the spring. They have to do it.
• 41:56
  They got rid of the budget, they got rid of the teachers.
• 41:58
  Guess who's having to teach? They are.
• 42:01
  So when a teacher calls in sick, that's Superintendent that the
• 42:04
  the main person could get called into work.
• 42:07
  Wow. Isn't that crazy, right?
• 42:11
  They agreed on it, I mean. Maybe if someone puts in leave
• 42:14
  and they want to be off in it with enough notice, those are
• 42:16
  the ones that they'll take. They won't take the last minute
• 42:18
  ones. But these people who haven't
• 42:22
  been in the classroom in so long are now having to come to the
• 42:25
  classroom. And so there's there's they're
• 42:29
  very out of touch with schools. I think it's a great idea that
• 42:33
  they do this. If they actually do it great.
• 42:37
  But it goes back several years ago.
• 42:44
  We had the star scandal with the EPA.
• 42:46
  See, we had people go to jail over it, right?
• 42:50
  We got a new Superintendent. He's the one that was secretly
• 42:53
  doing contracts with charter schools, using our funds to go
• 42:58
  help other schools and stuff. Then we got a new
• 43:01
  Superintendent, which I thought she was going to be awesome.
• 43:06
  And I was impressed with her. I I was, I'm not going to lie,
• 43:11
  actually, I was impressed with the very first Superintendent.
• 43:13
  I'm talking about the one that got sent to jail.
• 43:15
  I really enjoyed working with him.
• 43:16
  What? Yeah.
• 43:18
  All the all the all the people who got caught with them or all
• 43:22
  my friends. We went to school together.
• 43:27
  But going back to Superintendent, I thought she
• 43:29
  was amazing. And all the meetings I went to
• 43:31
  with her, she was amazing. She leaves and we find out she
• 43:35
  did no supervision of these people for three years.
• 43:41
  That's why the problem got so bad in EPISD.
• 43:44
  How did no one find out after three years?
• 43:47
  Well, they, because they were doing the budget and they were
• 43:49
  supposed to be $4 million short and we have $4 million.
• 43:53
  You know, you have a rainy day fund.
• 43:54
  They have this fund that you can pull money from and it'll save
• 43:57
  you for a couple days, you know, and you're supposed to have like
• 44:00
  3 to 6 months of money. We were down, say 28 days,
• 44:04
  right? Oh, my God, That 4 million
• 44:08
  deficit when they did the audit went to 52,000,000.
• 44:12
  People were buying things without getting approval.
• 44:14
  They were just spending the money.
• 44:16
  And the finance officer was, yeah, take it, yo, no
• 44:20
  supervision, no evaluations of them, nothing.
• 44:26
  And the one, you know, we're in this mess right now.
• 44:29
  So they had to cut hundreds of positions, like all the parent
• 44:33
  liaisons and all the military liaison positions were cut.
• 44:37
  So who's going to help the parents, the secretary, people
• 44:41
  with the front office? They have other jobs, right?
• 44:45
  When I worked at El Paso High School, I did 300 different
• 44:48
  events as a parent liaison in a year.
• 44:54
  OK. Damn, dude. 300 different events
• 44:58
  for parents that are now placed on someone else's shoulders.
• 45:06
  OK, so it, it these cuts affect everybody.
• 45:09
  So now they have to be in the classroom.
• 45:11
  And I think that's pretty cool, but let's see how it goes.
• 45:16
  But yeah, so it's one of those things when you really think
• 45:18
  about the, the networking and the problem, people don't
• 45:22
  realize what happens and when like, for example, the star
• 45:28
  scandal I was talking about that people went to jail for.
• 45:32
  Everyone knew what was happening.
• 45:34
  Everyone knew and they were letting it happen.
• 45:38
  And when the state came to take over us, right, they found a lot
• 45:46
  of things, you know, and then it just keeps happening over and
• 45:49
  over and over again. So remember this conversation
• 45:52
  three years from now, four years from now to say, is the district
• 45:57
  in a better position or not? OK, yeah.
• 46:02
  Total. Now here, here's like I said, I
• 46:05
  don't let's talk about politics, But there's something else I
• 46:07
  heard about yesterday. The war in Iraq is costing US
• 46:11
  money, obviously, right? They have been raiding and they
• 46:15
  use these words. They raided the sailor.
• 46:17
  The Navy funds the payroll funds to pay for that war.
• 46:21
  And one of the people in the Navy said we were robbed.
• 46:26
  OK. They're saying now they don't
• 46:29
  have the money to pay the Navy sailors and that might become an
• 46:34
  issue if they don't find where the money to come from.
• 46:39
  So when they have a budget, everything is set up or you only
• 46:41
  can spend so much on everything right now, they have to come up
• 46:44
  with extra money that wasn't in the budget.
• 46:48
  Where? How do they even make the money
• 46:49
  for the fund? Like working jobs and all that.
• 46:53
  Or. Oh, no, no, no.
• 46:55
  It's all government money. You know, you have place that
• 46:58
  government gets taxes and gets funds, bonds and you know all
• 47:02
  the stuff. They have a certain budget and
• 47:06
  it gets spent. But they rated the sailors
• 47:10
  payroll funds. How do you like?
• 47:15
  It was to stop war with Iraq, I think.
• 47:21
  I think that's good. Yes, there's some downside to
• 47:23
  it, but so it's better for the best.
• 47:27
  In the end, gas prices will go down.
• 47:30
  Well, supposedly the Strait of Hormuz already opened up and it
• 47:34
  should have already gone down and it just keeps going up, so I
• 47:38
  don't know what to say about that.
• 47:40
  Just attention, that's it, probably.
• 47:43
  So maybe after that, after all this, we'll be good.
• 47:48
  We'll go back down at 3.2 per gallon, Yeah.
• 47:52
  That would be nice. You know, I I was on another
• 47:58
  screen and I didn't notice that Lovey came in and, you know, she
• 48:02
  joined us for a little while, so we got to make sure we keep up
• 48:05
  on that. OK?
• 48:06
  OK. But I'll tell you what, all
• 48:11
  these places, all these tips, all these everything don't
• 48:14
  matter if you don't have a plan. So let's get to the heat map and
• 48:18
  let's see what the plan is for today.
• 48:28
  The heat map will show you where to focus your efforts for the
• 48:31
  most impact. Schedule one coffee, chat or
• 48:34
  lunch per month with someone outside your team.
• 48:37
  This is a low pressure way to build connections.
• 48:41
  Ask about their role, challenges and how your work intersects.
• 48:45
  Show genuine curiosity, offer help or insight when you can.
• 48:50
  It builds goodwill and shows you a team player.
• 48:53
  The map is drawn back to Murph Man for the next segment.
• 48:58
  Chart your course and find your path to new opportunities.
• 49:04
  Time out, Connor again. He's still a teenager, OK?
• 49:12
  Anytime you hear certain words, you laugh.
• 49:15
  So he saw the word intersex and you're like intersex.
• 49:22
  I'm like no kind of intersect. The AI said intersex.
• 49:25
  I didn't hear, no T, no SI heard.
• 49:28
  That's the word intersex. You don't say intersect.
• 49:36
  It just sounded like that. But you know, 2 lines intersect.
• 49:42
  Intersect. Yeah, they intersect.
• 49:45
  With the T at the end. Add an S to that and then
• 49:48
  becomes intersex. You see, you corrected yourself
• 49:51
  and it's like. You don't say that, so I'm
• 49:54
  trying to tell you. You don't say that.
• 49:56
  It's anyway, OK? It's the word for a reason.
• 49:59
  But yeah, teenager. We were going, huh?
• 50:01
  I heard the word sex. Homo erectus.
• 50:07
  Homo. OH.
• 50:09
  Yes, Homo sapiens. Oh, from friends.
• 50:13
  You know. The show.
• 50:16
  Yes. Erectus no homo.
• 50:24
  Teenagers, man, how long before you turn 20?
• 50:29
  Two months. A month and a half, a month and
• 50:34
  a half, and then 13 1/2 months before you turn 21.
• 50:41
  Yeah, what do? You think you're going to do
• 50:43
  when you turn 21? Sleep.
• 50:47
  You already do that. All right, so let's talk about
• 50:50
  the heat map and those steps you can take.
• 50:52
  Schedule coffee or chats with a member from another department
• 50:56
  on a regular basis so you can talk to them and know what's
• 50:58
  going on. And, you know, learning other
• 51:03
  jobs parallel to you, learning the jobs under you because
• 51:07
  hopefully you came up the ranks and understanding some of the
• 51:09
  position jobs up here makes you a better employee.
• 51:14
  And when you go for a job promotion, you can say I've done
• 51:19
  all this stuff, right? Yeah, I know how this works, you
• 51:23
  know. Well, how do you know that?
• 51:24
  Because I've been doing it. Or I talked to such and such and
• 51:27
  they taught me about it, you know, whatever.
• 51:29
  But those informal chats we talked about are very important.
• 51:34
  Ask about their roles, their challenges, and how your work
• 51:38
  intersects with them. I looked at you and I said.
• 51:45
  It you hear it right. I, I, I didn't say you're wrong,
• 51:48
  but it's not sex anyway, if you showed you in curiosity, people
• 51:54
  want to share with you, you know, like we had a person that
• 52:00
  would review our files and everything.
• 52:02
  And I told her one time I said, Hey, can I ask you a question?
• 52:06
  How, how, what, what do you do on your end?
• 52:12
  I know my end. Obviously I know what you tell
• 52:14
  me, but what do you do on your end?
• 52:18
  It says, why do this, this, this?
• 52:20
  And I said, can you tell me more about this?
• 52:22
  Because that's what I wanted to know more about.
• 52:24
  She's like, well, what do you want to know?
• 52:26
  I'm like everything, like I said, do you mind if I like ask
• 52:33
  you questions every now and then?
• 52:34
  She's like, no, I don't mind. I started asking her questions
• 52:38
  and then I learned a lot, right? I learned a lot and those inner,
• 52:47
  those informal conversations have helped me so much in my
• 52:49
  life. I can just tell you that and
• 52:52
  offer help or insight when you can.
• 52:54
  It builds goodwill and shows your team player again, Why is
• 52:59
  that important? Well, because other departments
• 53:03
  can come to you when there's an issue.
• 53:06
  Sometimes you don't have to have this interaction with the bosses
• 53:08
  that the employees can take care of certain things.
• 53:11
  Yeah, You know, it's just the way things work.
• 53:19
  The informal network is such an important thing because so much
• 53:24
  more gets done that way there. There's a story that I'd like to
• 53:28
  share with you, those of you who are veterans up there.
• 53:33
  Let me know if you agree or disagree with this.
• 53:36
  OK? But do you remember the E4
• 53:38
  mafias? I know you probably don't know
• 53:41
  what that means, Connor. I don't.
• 53:43
  But when you think of the E4 mafias, what comes to mind?
• 53:47
  E 4 is a rank specialist. I was saying 36 mafia.
• 53:50
  The no, that's the band. No.
• 53:51
  Yeah, that's yeah. E 4 is a rank right below
• 53:57
  Sergeant. OK, OK.
• 54:00
  And we'll call specialist because we're supposed to be
• 54:01
  specialist at our jobs. The E 4 Mafia is you just get
• 54:08
  things done totally just they never have.
• 54:15
  Like for example, let's say I lost a 5 gallon water jug,
• 54:19
  they're going to charge me for it right?
• 54:23
  You know. And then what?
• 54:24
  They're going to have like loan sharks if you don't pay it.
• 54:26
  No, we go find another water gallon jug.
• 54:32
  So you pay for what? To get another one.
• 54:36
  No, we never paid. Oh.
• 54:42
  Think. So you just robbed someone else?
• 54:45
  No, we procured that was a term. And that means?
• 54:50
  We found and brought back a lost water can that we thought we had
• 54:55
  lost, but we found it. Understand.
• 55:00
  Yeah. What?
• 55:03
  What are you understanding? So you just found it, just the
• 55:09
  abandoned 1 and you just took it?
• 55:11
  That's the story. OK, but you said you had to pay
• 55:17
  if you lost it, no? No, they were going to charge us
• 55:20
  if we couldn't find it, so we found it.
• 55:21
  Oh, so someone else lost it? Yes.
• 55:26
  So you stole someone else? 'S no, we procured.
• 55:31
  But we know it's not yours and you know everybody has one.
• 55:34
  Then obviously you would think so.
• 55:38
  But that that's what the for mafia does.
• 55:41
  We get things done. Yeah.
• 55:43
  OK, OK, that makes sense. When I I've told you the story.
• 55:49
  When I was in Fort Irwin and anti national training center in
• 55:52
  California over my summer trainings, we had a soldier die
• 55:57
  in. I went in and I took over the
• 55:58
  team. Even though we had sergeants in
• 56:00
  charge, I was the expert there to teach them how to do it.
• 56:04
  And another person yelled at me, you don't order him around,
• 56:07
  whatever, whatever. And the other Sergeant was like,
• 56:11
  he's the expert here. We need to listen to him.
• 56:13
  Even though the chief of psychiatry, the, the, the main
• 56:18
  psychiatrist on base had never done what we're I was teaching
• 56:21
  them. So sometimes when they have that
• 56:26
  that E 4 mafia, that specialist, they know their job and that's
• 56:31
  who you have to turn to to get things done.
• 56:34
  And you just you just get things done.
• 56:36
  Just, you know, you just get things done.
• 56:40
  So if you if you ever look up TikTok, look up, I'll tell you
• 56:42
  what on the break right now, we're going to take this look up
• 56:45
  eform mafia and I just want to show you some stuff real quick.
• 56:48
  OK. Yeah, You cool with that?
• 56:50
  I'm cool with that all. Right.
• 56:51
  So I'll tell you what, we're going to take a quick break, you
• 56:52
  guys, and we will be back after these messages.
• 56:56
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  Yeah. Yeah, yeah.
• 1:02:09
  Stay locked in, right? That's right, Yep, Yep, Yep.
• 1:02:13
  So on the break, I I I was trying Connor the E 4 mafia tik
• 1:02:17
  toks and what do you think the tactically tactically acquired I
• 1:02:27
  called it procured. They just don't care at all.
• 1:02:32
  No, they they do. But that's where you get the,
• 1:02:35
  the shamming, the professional shamming, the samurai shaming is
• 1:02:41
  the art of not being told what to do.
• 1:02:43
  So you get yourself busy doing something and then you just
• 1:02:46
  disappear. I'll give you an example of
• 1:02:51
  that. One time I wasn't a, a
• 1:02:53
  specialist, you know, actually, well, I was a specialist in the
• 1:03:00
  reserves and then I got demoted when I went active duty.
• 1:03:03
  That's how it works. They didn't have a position for
• 1:03:05
  me. They had a position for needs to
• 1:03:07
  be. So anyway, neither here nor
• 1:03:08
  there, but when you are told to do something, if someone says go
• 1:03:19
  work on that truck and you get it done quickly, what happens?
• 1:03:26
  You do something else. Right.
• 1:03:29
  But if I'm spending all day on that truck and I get done right,
• 1:03:33
  at the end of the day we're done right.
• 1:03:39
  Yep. So knowing how to do your job
• 1:03:45
  and do it right, but extend it out a little bit so you don't
• 1:03:50
  have to do too much. It's an art, believe me.
• 1:03:53
  And you know what's funny is when you go to NTC, you have to
• 1:03:57
  do an inspection on the vehicles they give you.
• 1:03:59
  And they already know what's wrong with the vehicle, OK,
• 1:04:02
  because they inspect it. Oh yeah.
• 1:04:06
  Then they rent it to us and we check it to make sure
• 1:04:08
  everything's good, and when we find something that's wrong,
• 1:04:11
  they have to fix it before we take it.
• 1:04:13
  But when we bring it back, if we didn't find that what was wrong
• 1:04:16
  with it, we have to end up paying to repair it.
• 1:04:20
  Damn. So a lot of those times you need
• 1:04:24
  a part again, we go technically acquire it.
• 1:04:27
  You know, all of a sudden another team is losing a water
• 1:04:31
  jug or whatever. You know, that's just how things
• 1:04:35
  work in the Army, but it's it's informal.
• 1:04:40
  It's not obvious. And not everyone does it.
• 1:04:44
  Majority do. But it just, yeah, like one time
• 1:04:50
  they, you know, they told me you need to go do this.
• 1:04:53
  And I said OK. And there was like, we don't
• 1:04:57
  care how it gets done, Just do it.
• 1:04:59
  Just do it. OK.
• 1:05:01
  And like, one of the things we had to do, we had to inventory
• 1:05:04
  medical supply equipment. What?
• 1:05:08
  Because I'm the medical unit and I didn't know these parts at
• 1:05:12
  all. So I got a bunch of parts that I
• 1:05:16
  did not know the names to. And I went looking for someone
• 1:05:20
  who was in that position. And I said, can you tell me what
• 1:05:23
  these parts are called? Oh, well, this.
• 1:05:26
  That's this. That's this.
• 1:05:27
  That's this. You know.
• 1:05:28
  Thank you. Went to go eat lunch.
• 1:05:32
  Came back. Yeah, I was.
• 1:05:36
  I got all the answers. Took me a while but I got them
• 1:05:39
  all right. Yeah, I took her a while.
• 1:05:43
  Took you 20 minutes to get there but you came back an hour later.
• 1:05:47
  Yeah, yeah, Something like that, right?
• 1:05:49
  That's a shammy that we're talking about.
• 1:05:51
  But am I going to get in trouble for doing something that I I
• 1:05:53
  did? I was doing something I was
• 1:05:55
  supposed to do right? Yeah.
• 1:05:58
  No one told me to do. I did it upon myself.
• 1:05:59
  Just like I took a piece of paper and just walked out and
• 1:06:01
  said, I know where I'm going, right?
• 1:06:04
  So one, one thing at NTC when we were talking, the, the mental
• 1:06:11
  health team there told us, hey, we have a grill here if you guys
• 1:06:13
  want to come and cook up, like have a little cookout, make some
• 1:06:15
  hamburgers or something, you know, like a break.
• 1:06:18
  And we said, hell yeah. So we told everybody we were
• 1:06:21
  over at the clinic with the other soldiers and we're having
• 1:06:24
  a cookout. And that's when the soldier died
• 1:06:28
  and we had a drop what we were doing right.
• 1:06:30
  And so we got busy with that. They came back on Monday morning
• 1:06:36
  and there's a grill with these tarred burgers and hotbugs.
• 1:06:40
  And you know what I mean? Like because we didn't have time
• 1:06:42
  to to not turn it off or whatever, we just covered in
• 1:06:45
  through water and then walked away.
• 1:06:46
  And you know, but all the heat just dried up on the meat.
• 1:06:50
  It was pretty funny. At least I thought it was all
• 1:06:55
  right. So we talked about the map,
• 1:06:57
  things you can do. Let's talk about those places
• 1:06:59
  where you'll have some pitfalls and you'll get burned.
• 1:07:10
  Let's talk about where you'll get burned.
• 1:07:12
  These are some common pitfalls. Only networking when you need
• 1:07:16
  something. Build relationships before you
• 1:07:19
  need them. A strong network is a long term
• 1:07:22
  investment. Keeping your head down.
• 1:07:24
  Visibility matters. Show up and connect.
• 1:07:28
  Your work won't speak for itself if no one knows you treating it
• 1:07:32
  like a transaction. Be curious, not calculating.
• 1:07:36
  The goal is to build genuine relationships.
• 1:07:39
  Danger zone identified. Back to Murph man for the
• 1:07:42
  warning. Watch out for these hidden traps
• 1:07:45
  before they scorch your progress.
• 1:07:49
  All right, so hey, welcome to Cap or to CPT.
• 1:07:53
  I say it's Captain. I don't know if that is or not,
• 1:07:54
  but. I think it is MJ Gonzalez.
• 1:07:58
  MJ is here. Cool.
• 1:08:00
  How's it going, MJ? So, yeah, you want to realize,
• 1:08:05
  you know, only networking when you need something is not going
• 1:08:09
  to build any relationship, OK. Because you're Stephen Covey,
• 1:08:16
  you're an emotional bank account.
• 1:08:18
  One of the things he says is you got to put in before you take
• 1:08:21
  out. If you're not giving in to the
• 1:08:23
  relationship and you're always asking for something, eventually
• 1:08:27
  you're going to bounce that check.
• 1:08:29
  So you need to put in before you ask for anything.
• 1:08:32
  The same thing with building relationships.
• 1:08:33
  You need to put in before you ask for favors.
• 1:08:36
  All right, long term investments, keeping your head
• 1:08:39
  down visibly matters. Show up and connect.
• 1:08:42
  Your work won't speak for itself.
• 1:08:44
  No one knows you. So if you just get there and,
• 1:08:48
  and you're working and you don't interact, you know, you come and
• 1:08:50
  you go, no one's going to know anything about you, you know,
• 1:08:57
  Oh, he does his job, That's it, you know, but if they can come
• 1:09:01
  back and go, oh, you know what? He's doing classes here, he's
• 1:09:04
  doing this, he's doing that, you know, whatever, whatever, he
• 1:09:06
  helped me with this, you know, it's makes you look better when
• 1:09:09
  it's time for promotions. And the last pitfall is treating
• 1:09:13
  it like a transaction. Be curious, not calculating, you
• 1:09:18
  know, not because I'm not trying to talk to you because I want
• 1:09:23
  something from you. I'm trying to talk to you
• 1:09:24
  because I want to get to know you.
• 1:09:26
  And I think that's very important to keep in mind.
• 1:09:29
  You know, informal is the keyword here today.
• 1:09:35
  Informal because everyone knows you do meetings and everything,
• 1:09:40
  but informal is where you can excel.
• 1:09:45
  OK? Informal is where you get to see
• 1:09:49
  people and do things. But I've been realizing it, you
• 1:09:52
  know, it's uninformal. So keep that in mind.
• 1:10:01
  You know, informal is, is the word of the day.
• 1:10:04
  OK, so here's another thing. When you, when you think about
• 1:10:09
  this stuff, all right, we have the heat map.
• 1:10:14
  We have the places you're going to fall and you're going to get
• 1:10:20
  burned. OK.
• 1:10:22
  But I want to talk about a little bit of reflection real
• 1:10:24
  quick. I want to talk about those
• 1:10:25
  things that will help you avoid following those pitfalls in a
• 1:10:30
  segment called the heat Shields. Intentional preparation is your
• 1:10:43
  primary defense in professional networking.
• 1:10:46
  By dedicating time to research and self-assessment, you build a
• 1:10:50
  protective barrier against the negative impacts of
• 1:10:52
  unpreparedness or external pressure.
• 1:10:55
  Prioritize preparation. Dedicate focused, specific time
• 1:10:59
  before any networking engagement to conduct research and engage
• 1:11:03
  in self-assessment. Mitigate risks.
• 1:11:06
  Use this intentional prep to shield yourself from the
• 1:11:09
  negative impacts of being unprepared or feeling reactive.
• 1:11:13
  Build resilience. Approach the next stage of your
• 1:11:17
  professional growth with a proactive mindset that guards
• 1:11:20
  against external pressures. Armor up before stepping into
• 1:11:24
  the line of fire. All right, intentional
• 1:11:28
  preparation is your primary defense in a professional
• 1:11:31
  networking. By dedicating time to research
• 1:11:33
  and self-assessment, you build a protective barrier against the
• 1:11:36
  negative impacts of unpreparedness or external
• 1:11:38
  pressure. What does that mean?
• 1:11:41
  Prioritize preparation. Dedicate focus specific time
• 1:11:44
  before any networking engagement to conduct research and engage
• 1:11:47
  in self-assessment. Why am I reaching out to this
• 1:11:52
  other person? What am I?
• 1:11:53
  What's my goal? Is it just to make a friend or
• 1:11:56
  is it so I can understand a position, understand a process,
• 1:12:00
  whatever the case may be? OK.
• 1:12:03
  And when you do that, you go into relationship more prepared.
• 1:12:10
  The the examples I like to use is the ticket lawyer to lunch,
• 1:12:13
  right? You may not have money to pay
• 1:12:15
  for a lawyer, but if you have friends or lawyers, take them to
• 1:12:17
  lunch, they buy them lunch and they're going to know.
• 1:12:20
  You're going to ask them questions legally, right?
• 1:12:25
  But make sure you don't waste your time.
• 1:12:26
  Don't walk up there and be like, oh, you know, I don't know.
• 1:12:29
  But no, you need to know what you're going to talk about.
• 1:12:32
  Mitigate the risks. Use the intentional prep to
• 1:12:34
  shield yourself from the negative impacts of being
• 1:12:36
  unprepared and feeling reactive. OK, intentional prep.
• 1:12:42
  It's informal, but it's intentional.
• 1:12:48
  It's not a a scheduled meeting, but you're going there with a
• 1:12:52
  purpose. Can it be just?
• 1:12:55
  Well, it's a scheduled meeting if you're going to go out.
• 1:12:58
  What I'm saying is you don't schedule the meeting when it
• 1:13:01
  happens. You already know what you're
• 1:13:02
  doing. You already have it prepared.
• 1:13:04
  You already have an idea what you want to tell that person now
• 1:13:07
  that you go looking for them at the water cooler.
• 1:13:10
  It's just if I bump into them, I'm going to ask them these
• 1:13:11
  questions, you know, and then build resilience.
• 1:13:15
  Approach the next stage of your professional growth with a
• 1:13:17
  proactive mindset that guards against external pressures.
• 1:13:21
  OK, know that life is not perfect and you're going to have
• 1:13:27
  issues and you're going to need to talk to people and you're
• 1:13:29
  going to need to make friends. You need to going to have to be
• 1:13:33
  saved, so to speak in some situations.
• 1:13:36
  OK, that resilience is such a big deal because so many
• 1:13:42
  different things are happening. You need that network.
• 1:13:45
  Do you agree with me on that, Connor?
• 1:13:47
  You need the network. Yeah, I agree.
• 1:13:49
  You agree? OK.
• 1:13:54
  On Friday last week, was it? No, it wasn't on Friday, it was
• 1:13:59
  Tuesday. Wanted to go see our friend at
• 1:14:01
  the at the business. I don't want to see what I was
• 1:14:04
  doing but. Friday No.
• 1:14:08
  No Friday. She cancelled.
• 1:14:09
  It was Tuesday because it was this week.
• 1:14:12
  It was a couple days ago. Oh, that's right.
• 1:14:16
  Anyway, I want to do something big, really big, and I went to
• 1:14:24
  go talk to a friend of mine who's involved in something that
• 1:14:27
  I'm trying to get with, and I laid out my plan for her.
• 1:14:31
  Not only does she think it would work for one event, she said it
• 1:14:34
  would work for so many events that I need to go talk to the
• 1:14:39
  people at the city and try to get some contracts with them.
• 1:14:42
  Right? Yeah, that was a formal meeting.
• 1:14:45
  We set up a meeting, but it was that relationship I had built
• 1:14:49
  with her overtime that allowed me to go in and talk to her
• 1:14:52
  about that and spend an hour talking to her.
• 1:14:54
  Now I offered a you want me to get bring you a drink?
• 1:14:56
  You want me to bring you some food?
• 1:14:57
  You know, no, I'm good. I'm good, OK.
• 1:15:01
  And she knew where I was going. So doing that it, you know, you
• 1:15:09
  never know what's going to happen now and put yourself on
• 1:15:12
  the limb, put yourself out there.
• 1:15:14
  Try and meet people, make those networks, and I'm one of the
• 1:15:19
  people that I met and Connor can.
• 1:15:20
  I don't know if you remember the first time Tony called me.
• 1:15:23
  No. When I was sitting at the
• 1:15:26
  podcast last summer, I was like, where can do the podcast?
• 1:15:31
  And there was this post on TikTok that said El Paso content
• 1:15:34
  creators come and join us. I hadn't even started yet but
• 1:15:38
  I'm like OK. I guess it might.
• 1:15:40
  As well. Yeah, might as well.
• 1:15:42
  Well, about a month after I started, he reached out to me
• 1:15:46
  and he told me what he was doing and I loved it.
• 1:15:50
  It was such an amazing thing. I got to interview people, I got
• 1:15:54
  to go to events with the city, I got to make animations and you
• 1:15:59
  know, just it it. It was nice.
• 1:16:02
  It was, you know, he had to leave town.
• 1:16:04
  So, you know, we didn't keep it up.
• 1:16:05
  But the, the whole process taught me so much.
• 1:16:12
  You know, I'm, I'm grateful to him.
• 1:16:17
  What's funny about it is he put me on TV, like you could find me
• 1:16:23
  on TV. And then like military broadcast
• 1:16:25
  radio, that's another one. And I also put you on TV for MBR
• 1:16:30
  show. Well, that one actually put us
• 1:16:31
  on TV. They have that one's on.
• 1:16:34
  TV You might actually be watching us on Roku TV right
• 1:16:36
  now. How cool is that?
• 1:16:37
  Great. That is cool.
• 1:16:40
  Will the show as a viewer? No, right, Since it's not like
• 1:16:43
  an account. No, they don't want to show how
• 1:16:45
  many people are watching. It's like you're watching Hulu.
• 1:16:47
  You don't know how many people are watching the show, OK?
• 1:16:49
  That's what I thought. Makes sense, right?
• 1:16:54
  But we we were told a lot of people are watching this, right?
• 1:17:02
  Yeah. So hello, hello out there in
• 1:17:06
  Roku land. But building these informal
• 1:17:11
  relationships become formal relationships become something
• 1:17:16
  down the road. And I, Connor, can tell you I
• 1:17:20
  have experience in so many things.
• 1:17:25
  I I I'm not really a specialist in anything, but I know a lot.
• 1:17:28
  He's good at his stuff, yeah. Yeah, right.
• 1:17:32
  Like my brother, he could build a house if he wanted to.
• 1:17:35
  He knows how to do everything right and he has a network of
• 1:17:42
  friends that he calls on when he wants to do stuff.
• 1:17:45
  Hey, I need someone to help me with laying concrete.
• 1:17:49
  Boom, they're here. You know what I mean?
• 1:17:51
  Literally, that's the kind of stuff that he does.
• 1:17:54
  You know, have another friend on the the guy who's a DJ that I
• 1:17:57
  told you about One day he was late to something we were doing.
• 1:18:01
  And what were you doing? Was I was putting my roof up.
• 1:18:05
  I'm like, yeah, Roof. Yeah.
• 1:18:07
  How many people were helping you or what?
• 1:18:09
  Like, but I just might be by myself.
• 1:18:12
  He put a roof on by himself. That's crazy, right?
• 1:18:19
  I'm like, you need to find friends bro, you know?
• 1:18:24
  Yeah, you know when you get hobbies that you do like by
• 1:18:27
  yourself because you have no one else to go with, so you just
• 1:18:30
  make like those lonely hobbies. Oh, hobbies.
• 1:18:34
  Yeah, hobbies. OK, that's not what I heard.
• 1:18:36
  What you hear? Hobbies.
• 1:18:39
  Oh no. OK, so go when it was.
• 1:18:43
  I'm sorry, my brain was like hotties.
• 1:18:45
  And you so tell me about intersex, OK?
• 1:18:50
  So tell me about your hobby. No, not my.
• 1:18:53
  Just like. No, no.
• 1:18:54
  What you tell me what you're. You get a hobby when you're
• 1:18:56
  lonely, you know you do something to like fill your day
• 1:19:01
  up since you have nothing else to do.
• 1:19:03
  You know what? I.
• 1:19:04
  Mean, right, But that's not networking with other people.
• 1:19:08
  Well, you get stuff done. He built a house.
• 1:19:10
  Yeah. Well.
• 1:19:12
  It's like the notebook. I don't know what the reference
• 1:19:17
  is. I know the notebook.
• 1:19:17
  I don't know what you're referring to in the movie.
• 1:19:20
  I know the notebook, but I don't know what you're referring to.
• 1:19:24
  Him building a house. Is that what he does in there?
• 1:19:26
  I don't remember that. You know when he's like the meme
• 1:19:30
  where you just stand in front of the house?
• 1:19:32
  The White House? Yeah, that's her dream house.
• 1:19:34
  He built it. Oh, by himself.
• 1:19:37
  Oh, and it's even sadder now. Yeah, he built to her for a
• 1:19:42
  whole year, a letter a day, and she's getting married to someone
• 1:19:46
  else. And then at the end, obviously
• 1:19:49
  they get together. Yeah, but it's sad.
• 1:19:53
  That that is. Because they were talking and
• 1:19:54
  then she really said, told him at the beginning of the movie
• 1:19:58
  what her dream house was and he built it.
• 1:20:01
  And he built it for her. Yes, literally he built it for
• 1:20:03
  her even though she was gone. Now you know what scares me
• 1:20:07
  though, is I knew the reference to that.
• 1:20:10
  But you know the movie like you know the movie.
• 1:20:16
  How many times have you seen it? Once.
• 1:20:18
  Once, OK, because I don't hear you talking about because if
• 1:20:22
  you've been watching this show. I'm a romance movie guy.
• 1:20:24
  If you've been watching this show forever, anytime I ask him
• 1:20:26
  a question, even I want his opinion.
• 1:20:28
  What do you think about the burger?
• 1:20:29
  I don't know. I.
• 1:20:31
  Mean it was a burger. That's that's what I would say.
• 1:20:34
  OK, we, we actually had a channel called Murphy's
• 1:20:38
  Traveling because we were traveling fairly frequently.
• 1:20:42
  Yeah. And one of the things we would
• 1:20:44
  do was we would review burgers, but I stopped after, like, the
• 1:20:48
  second or third stop coming. All right, Connor, compare that
• 1:20:50
  to, I don't remember the other place.
• 1:20:52
  OK, How do you like this one? It's a burger.
• 1:20:56
  It's good. Yeah, it's just a burger.
• 1:20:59
  Now that you're older, can you tell the difference between
• 1:21:02
  burgers? Oh yeah, I I was able to tell
• 1:21:05
  the difference. But when I ask your opinion,
• 1:21:08
  like for example, if I ask you right now, what's your, what's
• 1:21:10
  your favorite burger? Well, you can't put me you got
• 1:21:22
  to like fast food restaurant. Like what are we talking about?
• 1:21:25
  Or just any? If you want to eat the best
• 1:21:27
  burger, where do you go in your opinion?
• 1:21:31
  No matter the distance. No, just yeah.
• 1:21:33
  Best burger? I want to say magnolias but.
• 1:21:45
  McDonald's, see what I mean? It's kind of Magnolias is a
• 1:21:53
  restaurant at the Fort Greens in Las Vegas and we ate there.
• 1:21:56
  We were there for two weeks and we probably ate there seven
• 1:21:58
  times, I mean. No, we ate there every day.
• 1:22:00
  Yeah. No, not every day.
• 1:22:01
  We literally ate that for breakfast every every time.
• 1:22:06
  Yes we did. We did.
• 1:22:08
  It wasn't that much. Sean, if we didn't eat it for
• 1:22:11
  breakfast, we ate it for dinner. OK.
• 1:22:13
  Well, I guess all right. Yeah, maybe.
• 1:22:15
  Yeah, if we didn't, if we didn't eat it in the beginning of the
• 1:22:18
  day, we would do our stuff, come back to the hotel and it's right
• 1:22:21
  there. So we just go.
• 1:22:23
  I I guess it's one of the upstairs and make no leases on
• 1:22:26
  the bottom floor with the casino and all the yeah.
• 1:22:28
  So yeah, you know, we just, we had to stop by.
• 1:22:31
  OK. So we do a lot at that point.
• 1:22:33
  And you stop by the Chicago pub thing to get the cub.
• 1:22:39
  I know what it was. I don't remember either, but
• 1:22:41
  yeah. We ate magnolias.
• 1:22:45
  He just got through saying McDonald's is his favorite
• 1:22:47
  burger. Now watch this.
• 1:22:51
  What a burger. Denny's, Chili's.
• 1:22:55
  Yeah. In and out.
• 1:22:56
  Nah, I don't really eat in and out.
• 1:22:59
  OK, I know, but I just named 4 burgers.
• 1:23:04
  You love the burgers at Denny's? You you like the burgers at
• 1:23:08
  Chili's? It's.
• 1:23:10
  Because I've talked about this before, I like burgers.
• 1:23:15
  That's my favorite food. But they all, every restaurant
• 1:23:20
  has something I like. Like they're all good, but
• 1:23:24
  they're just something that makes it better.
• 1:23:26
  Well, like last night, I took him to Landry's for the first
• 1:23:30
  time. I was craving some seafood.
• 1:23:34
  We were pulling into the parking lot and I told you what?
• 1:23:39
  Then I'm going to eat good and I get a.
• 1:23:41
  Burger, I said you're not going to get a burger.
• 1:23:43
  But he also doesn't like seafood.
• 1:23:46
  And that's all I just is. It's just seafood.
• 1:23:48
  And if you don't like seafood and you go there, the only
• 1:23:52
  options are a burger, chicken Alfredo or chicken or shrimp or
• 1:23:59
  steak. Those are my only options I had
• 1:24:02
  out of the whole out of the whole menu starters and
• 1:24:05
  everything started to dessert. So you had steak.
• 1:24:07
  How was your steak? That was good.
• 1:24:09
  It was good 14 oz compared to other steaks that you had.
• 1:24:20
  Oh, I don't remember. I don't really eat steak that
• 1:24:25
  much. No, I know we don't but.
• 1:24:28
  Where have I got to eat steaks? Oh my God, I'll.
• 1:24:31
  I'll think about that later. We'll talk about it after
• 1:24:33
  because. I don't know.
• 1:24:35
  We went to Billy Cruz, we went to Cattlemen's, we went to.
• 1:24:38
  Billy Cruz and. The Big Texan.
• 1:24:46
  What I put too much A1 sauce on it?
• 1:24:48
  So first of all, it wasn't A1 sauce.
• 1:24:49
  What was it? It was their sauce.
• 1:24:51
  I prefer A1 sauce. Yeah, no, I put too much of the
• 1:24:54
  sauce and it cold down and it just ruined it for me.
• 1:24:56
  Yeah. But he this is.
• 1:24:58
  My first time. He ate about 3 1/2 lbs.
• 1:25:00
  So of the four and a half I ate about, I was 10 lbs Is shy.
• 1:25:05
  I don't want to do that again one time.
• 1:25:08
  One time anyway. Again, it's the same $2.00 each,
• 1:25:15
  Yeah. Yeah, I don't have a stomach for
• 1:25:18
  that. I would rather sit at a table by
• 1:25:21
  the stage and just eat my steak and just relax and watch you eat
• 1:25:25
  all that. Well, when you like.
• 1:25:27
  Because it's not just a steak. It's like starters all like
• 1:25:29
  little sides. Also, yeah, like corn.
• 1:25:33
  No fried shrimp. No fried shrimp, baked potato,
• 1:25:36
  bread and salad. Oh.
• 1:25:38
  Where do you get corn from? When the hell did I eat corn?
• 1:25:42
  I didn't say joke, sorry. But let's go back to the show,
• 1:25:48
  Connor. Yeah, I kind of forgot we're
• 1:25:52
  live right now. Yeah, just this.
• 1:25:54
  What are? We talking about your friend
• 1:25:56
  that built a house, built a roof.
• 1:25:58
  The fact that one friend can build a house and he can call
• 1:26:01
  anyone whoever he wants and they'll come help him.
• 1:26:04
  Another friend was putting a roof up and didn't have anyone
• 1:26:06
  to call. That was the point of the story.
• 1:26:09
  Yeah. And then you come up with the
• 1:26:11
  hobbies. No hobbies.
• 1:26:13
  Hobbies. And we went down that path.
• 1:26:16
  But I do want to address the hobby part.
• 1:26:18
  How do we go from building a house like?
• 1:26:22
  Because you said the. Someone being lonely.
• 1:26:23
  And then we went to eating burgers.
• 1:26:29
  Because we're talking about opinions.
• 1:26:30
  I know, but but it's just so funny.
• 1:26:33
  Going back to going back to the show, the friend who had no
• 1:26:38
  friends to call, it's not that he didn't have any friends.
• 1:26:40
  He's not lonely. He just does things by himself.
• 1:26:43
  He doesn't count on a Team God. Dude, I can never.
• 1:26:46
  But going back to the hobbies, if you don't have a life, if you
• 1:26:52
  want to do something, get a hobby.
• 1:26:56
  But not only get a hobby, go and meet people doing that hobby.
• 1:27:05
  OK? Like for example, if you're
• 1:27:09
  doing crocheting, go to the libraries.
• 1:27:11
  They have crocheting clubs, OK? And you'll learn how to crochet
• 1:27:19
  and it opens up a new group of friends to you completely new.
• 1:27:24
  That's what's so really cool about it is doing a new hobby.
• 1:27:30
  You mean new people? When I started this podcast, I
• 1:27:35
  honestly just, I really don't know why I did it, but I just
• 1:27:38
  did it. And right now I've made a lot of
• 1:27:44
  friends because of this. I don't know if you would agree
• 1:27:47
  or disagree with that. I would agree.
• 1:27:50
  And I'm doing things and I'm much more active than I used to
• 1:27:53
  be. That's true.
• 1:27:57
  Because of the one hobby now I I showed my business card to a
• 1:28:01
  friend of mine, the one we went to go meet on Tuesday and she
• 1:28:05
  looked at the back and she's like, that's a lot.
• 1:28:08
  Yeah, she did. I was like, yeah.
• 1:28:10
  Yeah, but that's just who I am. You know, everything is tied
• 1:28:14
  together, but. Actually a business card should
• 1:28:17
  only have like the name and business.
• 1:28:21
  Well, the front has that. Well, yeah, that's why I'm like.
• 1:28:23
  So why waste the back? Just let people know what you're
• 1:28:25
  doing. True, I've I don't do business
• 1:28:28
  cards but. But, but do you think about that
• 1:28:30
  right? Yeah, well, I mean you can put
• 1:28:32
  on the back like the socials for all those instead.
• 1:28:37
  Yeah, but I don't have socials for all that yet.
• 1:28:40
  It's not. They don't.
• 1:28:40
  Those are jobs that you don't need socials for.
• 1:28:43
  My hot, my podcast. I have the socials on my
• 1:28:45
  business card. That's true, I forgot it's for
• 1:28:48
  that and not this. Yeah, so anyway, get a hobby, do
• 1:28:54
  something and you make friends. But informal networking can lead
• 1:28:58
  you to place that you never even considered right.
• 1:29:01
  Yeah. Working with Tony at stream 915.
• 1:29:05
  I ended up working with party halls to do MC events there and
• 1:29:08
  everything right? OK, boom, done.
• 1:29:12
  You know, going back to learning how to do stuff.
• 1:29:18
  When I went to the first party hall the first time, she asked
• 1:29:22
  me to go to the DJ booth and look how everything worked,
• 1:29:26
  right? I've never been behind the DJ
• 1:29:29
  booth ever. And I'm like, OK, I know about
• 1:29:34
  this. I know about that.
• 1:29:34
  I've been researching my equipment, so on and so forth.
• 1:29:38
  And then she comes back and says this is our lighting system.
• 1:29:40
  If we could, someone messed us up, we're going to have to pay
• 1:29:42
  someone to come and fix it. And they were charged several
• 1:29:47
  $100 to do that. I fixed it in 10 minutes.
• 1:29:54
  And she's like, I thought you didn't know how to do anything.
• 1:29:56
  I don't. But I understand technology.
• 1:30:01
  I understand files. And, you know, I I was able to
• 1:30:04
  fix it, recover it, you know, and she's like, wow, that, you
• 1:30:09
  know, she said we definitely have to work together.
• 1:30:11
  And that's been since Jelena. I haven't done anything because
• 1:30:14
  I've just been so busy. I just realized this last night.
• 1:30:17
  I need to call her. But I I am doing too many
• 1:30:22
  things. But from one idea, everything
• 1:30:27
  has started right. Yeah.
• 1:30:30
  Crazy. All right, so getting back to
• 1:30:34
  the show, we're going to talk about our next step, which is
• 1:30:39
  the digital inferno. I'm sorry, the afterburn.
• 1:30:43
  The afterburn. I thought we were going to have
• 1:30:44
  to burn. No, we're still, we're still
• 1:30:47
  trying to protect us from the pitfalls.
• 1:30:48
  Yeah. So let's let's talk about that.
• 1:30:56
  I'm like, oh, I thought it was further ahead than I than I
• 1:30:59
  thought. Nope, Nope.
• 1:31:01
  Right. All right, so let's get to the
• 1:31:05
  afterburn and those questions we can reflect on what we've
• 1:31:08
  learned today. In today's Afterburn, here are
• 1:31:19
  some questions for you to reflect on.
• 1:31:21
  Who in my organization do I admire and why?
• 1:31:25
  What's 1 relationship I can strengthen this month?
• 1:31:29
  How can I add value to someone else's work?
• 1:31:32
  Review the embers to find where the real growth happened.
• 1:31:39
  All right, very important. Who in my organization do I
• 1:31:43
  admire and why? You know, can you turn off
• 1:31:48
  notifications please? Yeah, I was like just about to
• 1:31:51
  do that. I just made it for the hour.
• 1:31:53
  I had a Co worker that was amazing at his job.
• 1:31:57
  He was really good, had great insight and I wanted to learn
• 1:32:03
  from him, you know, and to be cocky.
• 1:32:09
  I'm, I'm, I'm pretty good at what I do.
• 1:32:11
  For me to say someone is better than me is a hard thing to say
• 1:32:16
  for counselling. Oh, Oh yeah.
• 1:32:21
  To say someone's better than me is very hard to admit, but I had
• 1:32:25
  no problem admitting it for this person.
• 1:32:27
  He was that good. Sometimes.
• 1:32:29
  You know there's always someone better, right?
• 1:32:33
  He taught me a lot. 1 of my biggest kryptonites, my biggest
• 1:32:38
  weaknesses is working with boys who are defiant that remind me
• 1:32:41
  of me when I was a kid. Defiant.
• 1:32:43
  Yeah. What's that?
• 1:32:46
  I'm not a big English vocabulary guy.
• 1:32:48
  That's a big word. Defiant is you're always
• 1:32:51
  constantly fighting the the issue, whatever it is.
• 1:32:56
  You go against the rules. You don't follow the rules.
• 1:32:58
  You make your own rules. You're defiant against them.
• 1:33:02
  Much like you and I have conversations, you're always
• 1:33:04
  like, no, no, you're very defiant in that way.
• 1:33:08
  You know you don't agree with me and you don't.
• 1:33:10
  It bothers you to admit I'm right, right, Sometimes.
• 1:33:15
  And we get into arguments. But this guy was so good that I
• 1:33:21
  didn't have a problem saying he was better than me.
• 1:33:23
  None. And I learned from him and you
• 1:33:28
  know, he actually, I mean, to the point where I was going to
• 1:33:33
  open up a daycare. He was teaching me all that
• 1:33:36
  something that wasn't related to my job, but you know, to open a
• 1:33:39
  daycare in a business and everything.
• 1:33:41
  It just didn't, didn't happen. But you know, I, I think I would
• 1:33:46
  have had a successful daycare. You know, when there's issues,
• 1:33:50
  you have to go get somebody. I was going to have everybody
• 1:33:53
  carrying radios so you can radio each other, you know, stuff like
• 1:33:56
  that. That was, you know, going to
• 1:33:57
  keep communication going. I knew I would have succeeded.
• 1:34:00
  All right, what's 1 relationship I can strengthen this month?
• 1:34:05
  You know, there's some people that you look at and you're not
• 1:34:07
  friendly with them, but, you know, maybe I should try harder.
• 1:34:14
  OK. And last but not least, how can
• 1:34:17
  I add value to someone else's work?
• 1:34:21
  When you see someone struggling, do you approach them or should
• 1:34:26
  you approach them? It depends what they're
• 1:34:30
  struggling about. It might not be something you
• 1:34:33
  know. I'll, I'll give you that it, it
• 1:34:34
  depends on what they're struggling with.
• 1:34:36
  Yeah. And you might know how to do it.
• 1:34:40
  Yeah. Right.
• 1:34:41
  I mean I'll go up anyways and ask, but if it's something I
• 1:34:44
  can't help with then sorry, can't really do anything about
• 1:34:48
  that. But sometimes asking or offering
• 1:34:52
  help is just comforting to know someone else cares.
• 1:34:58
  Like I don't know what you're doing but I can try to help you.
• 1:35:01
  I. Mean everybody tries to ask for
• 1:35:03
  help, like to help them and they don't take it.
• 1:35:07
  Right, so you know, asking for help is probably the hardest
• 1:35:10
  thing for anybody. Know your limitations and know
• 1:35:15
  what you need help with when you're seeing them.
• 1:35:18
  You're working on things, OK, Going and finding someone that
• 1:35:26
  needs help that you can strengthen the relationship
• 1:35:29
  with, or maybe just someone to vent with, right?
• 1:35:33
  Let them express themselves to you, right?
• 1:35:36
  Yeah. Then you can do that and you'll
• 1:35:40
  see that what it's saying you're restricted because I'm I, I, I I
• 1:36:01
  don't understand TikTok. I really don't that's.
• 1:36:04
  Funny. Because I'm live on another
• 1:36:06
  TikTok with with MBR and we're not, as far as I know, we're not
• 1:36:09
  restricted there. Well, you won't know.
• 1:36:12
  I know so, but he would have said something.
• 1:36:14
  I would hope, unless if he's not here.
• 1:36:16
  Anyway, so ask yourself, who at work can I strengthen this
• 1:36:20
  relationship with? Right, Yes, that that's
• 1:36:24
  something you want to do. So I'll tell you what the next
• 1:36:29
  thing I want to talk about is technology in our digital
• 1:36:32
  inferno. So let me let's take a quick
• 1:36:36
  break and we'll be back after these messages.
• 1:36:41
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  purehottakes.com to connect with the community and stay locked
• 1:41:06
  into the show. All right, what's so funny?
• 1:41:11
  I I forget you make AI stuff. What do you see me talking like?
• 1:41:16
  What? Yeah, I looked.
• 1:41:17
  I'm like, that's not you. But it works, right?
• 1:41:25
  Yeah. And Speaking of technology, just
• 1:41:26
  get to today's digital inferno. Your internal networking should
• 1:41:40
  leverage digital tools for efficiency.
• 1:41:42
  LinkedIn Research roles and current projects of colleagues
• 1:41:46
  outside your department to find common ground before scheduling
• 1:41:49
  a chat. Slack Microsoft Teams offer
• 1:41:52
  specific, documented help on cross functional projects to
• 1:41:56
  increase visibility and goodwill beyond your immediate team.
• 1:42:00
  Virtual meeting tools Use video conferencing for casual coffee
• 1:42:04
  chats when in person meetings aren't feasible.
• 1:42:06
  Leverage the machine before the tech leaves you behind.
• 1:42:12
  All right, LinkedIn, there are so many places you can go to and
• 1:42:20
  get information on jobs and everything's like if you want to
• 1:42:23
  go work somewhere, look up that that job and e-mail people who
• 1:42:27
  work there and say, hey, what do you think about this job or what
• 1:42:32
  can you tell me about this job? Oh, you know what I know a
• 1:42:35
  friend who did that job and this is what he did.
• 1:42:37
  Oh, thank you. You know, and you get and just
• 1:42:39
  reach out to people on and that's what LinkedIn is.
• 1:42:41
  It's you're LinkedIn together. So LinkedIn is to see jobs and
• 1:42:48
  text people in that job to see how.
• 1:42:50
  Well, the environment is we want to build your network.
• 1:42:52
  So like if. If you should, you know, get the
• 1:42:56
  job first before you build it. No, no, but I'm going for a job
• 1:42:59
  interview at your company and I'd like to know do anything
• 1:43:03
  about this position, you know, and just.
• 1:43:08
  But is that better than Indeed for looking for jobs or?
• 1:43:11
  No, no, it's not about looking for the job.
• 1:43:13
  It is when you're going to apply for a position, go find someone
• 1:43:16
  at that, at that company and ask them about the positions.
• 1:43:22
  Like I had this one girl that I talked to on LinkedIn.
• 1:43:26
  I think I know her, but I, I, I don't remember her, but we'll
• 1:43:32
  chat every now and then, right? And she'll like something I like
• 1:43:35
  something she says and so on and so forth.
• 1:43:37
  But if you really use LinkedIn, it is amazing to build a network
• 1:43:41
  of people in that position. Like you want to start a
• 1:43:42
  business, right? Get everyone who does
• 1:43:47
  entertainment to start adding every because that gets your
• 1:43:51
  name out there, right? So there's nothing to do with
• 1:43:53
  LinkedIn Slacker myself. Teams offer specific documented
• 1:43:59
  help to cross functional projects to increase visibility
• 1:44:01
  and goodwill beyond your immediate team.
• 1:44:04
  You know, I can't be there, but let's come on to Google meets
• 1:44:08
  and let's work it out. We can share screens and
• 1:44:11
  everything. I do that with so many friends
• 1:44:14
  it's crazy. You know, I have one friend who
• 1:44:18
  is like I I don't understand technology.
• 1:44:20
  I need to do this I'm here come on, I'll help you.
• 1:44:22
  And before I know it, boom, then I'm doing it right.
• 1:44:25
  I have another friend who's like, I have no idea how to get
• 1:44:28
  this started here, Let me show you, you know and say, wait, how
• 1:44:32
  do you know? I'm like, I'm going to show you
• 1:44:33
  how to use AI, you know, so that Slack or Microsoft Teams, Google
• 1:44:38
  meets, Zoom, whatever, same thing.
• 1:44:41
  And virtual meeting tools use virtual conferencing for casual
• 1:44:45
  coffee chats when in person meetings aren't feasible.
• 1:44:49
  You know, one thing that happened during COVID?
• 1:44:58
  This Zoom came on. I had never heard of Zoom in my
• 1:45:01
  life and everyone wouldn't meet on Zoom.
• 1:45:07
  Yeah. And what was so amazing about it
• 1:45:11
  was can Can you imagine being the business of Zoom?
• 1:45:17
  COVID hits and everyone wants to use you.
• 1:45:21
  Do you know how many servers they had to add to make that
• 1:45:26
  all? The times it crashed, yeah, I
• 1:45:28
  remember, you know, trust me, I I remember.
• 1:45:32
  I think we all do. It was bad.
• 1:45:36
  The beginning of COVID. We tried doing Zoom for a school
• 1:45:39
  and we couldn't. Yeah.
• 1:45:41
  We really had to get off school for like a month after spring
• 1:45:45
  break because we couldn't do any online classes.
• 1:45:48
  No. Nothing.
• 1:45:49
  Nobody was set up for that. Yeah, you know.
• 1:45:51
  I think did we end it just there like the school year?
• 1:45:56
  Yeah, Yeah, right. Actually, yes, because after
• 1:45:58
  spring break that was it. That was it.
• 1:46:00
  That was my 7th grade. March 20th.
• 1:46:03
  Boom when I go back to work. At all.
• 1:46:05
  And then and then eighth grade the next year, they tried, yeah,
• 1:46:10
  doing it. And then, yeah.
• 1:46:11
  And then in October, when El Paso was the highest ranked
• 1:46:15
  COVID infection in the world. My birthday month.
• 1:46:18
  We went to school. We went back to school.
• 1:46:21
  That, yeah. Really.
• 1:46:22
  I thought it was like September. No, it was October anyway.
• 1:46:28
  August. That's a throwback to another
• 1:46:32
  conversation, video conferencing during COVID.
• 1:46:38
  We would literally meet with friends and that's how we would
• 1:46:40
  talk. OK.
• 1:46:42
  My brother was living with me the time he wanted to be invite
• 1:46:44
  friends over. And you know, people in El Paso
• 1:46:47
  were turning other people in for having parties and get
• 1:46:48
  togethers. It was so stupid.
• 1:46:50
  I mean, it happened worldwide or countrywide, But so I told my
• 1:46:54
  brother, you can sit in the in the garage.
• 1:46:56
  You know, it's, it's a car park, not really garage.
• 1:46:58
  And you can sit in all four corners.
• 1:47:00
  And talk. And talk, you know, just stay
• 1:47:03
  away from each other because I don't want to bring the bug into
• 1:47:04
  my house. I had sanitizer item, the gallon
• 1:47:08
  sanitizer, you know, like crazy. Toilet paper.
• 1:47:13
  No, I didn't. No.
• 1:47:16
  Ever since then I've been paranoid.
• 1:47:17
  I always had enough toilet paper.
• 1:47:18
  I'm not going to get stuck without it again.
• 1:47:21
  It's crazy. I don't even know why that
• 1:47:22
  happened. I don't.
• 1:47:25
  I don't know either. Out of all things, toilet paper
• 1:47:27
  is what people took. Yeah, like no food, no nothing.
• 1:47:32
  Everybody took toilet paper. That was the headline.
• 1:47:34
  News was toilet paper. It was.
• 1:47:37
  It was. I don't know for what I I'm
• 1:47:39
  still lost on that. You know, it was a year out of
• 1:47:45
  our lives that we were really restricted, nine months.
• 1:47:50
  But the kids were restricted. They lost all social skills, all
• 1:47:56
  of them. Even you do.
• 1:47:58
  Oh yeah, me definitely. You know, it was so funny.
• 1:48:03
  I, I, I don't know if you remember this or not, but when
• 1:48:08
  during COVID, I would do Uber and stuff and I would take him
• 1:48:11
  with me sometimes. And yeah, I had my, my regulars
• 1:48:14
  that would pick up and everything and we had rules and,
• 1:48:17
  you know, whatever. So I got him out of the house so
• 1:48:21
  he wasn't stuck here 24/7, right?
• 1:48:24
  But one day when I said let's let's go out, he comes out of
• 1:48:29
  his room and his pants are about this short.
• 1:48:34
  He's wearing high waters. He had grown like 4 inches in
• 1:48:39
  the time frame that we were wearing a school uniforms.
• 1:48:44
  And I'm like, we need to go buy you some clothes.
• 1:48:47
  Yeah, just enough for high school.
• 1:48:50
  Yeah. I was, I was a big boy.
• 1:48:56
  I was a little chubby. No, yes.
• 1:49:01
  My 8th grade yes Dude when I had to start yes.
• 1:49:05
  What the fuck? OK, uh, sorry, it's a friend.
• 1:49:12
  I don't have the photo anymore, umm, since I got the new phone.
• 1:49:17
  But if you compare it to all my others, yeah, I was a little
• 1:49:20
  chunkier compared to 7th grade. Well, you weren't active, you
• 1:49:24
  were stuck at home. No buddy compared to 7th grade.
• 1:49:27
  Never say you were chubby. 7th grade when I was in football and
• 1:49:30
  actually did stuff at school. Yeah, I don't think you were
• 1:49:33
  Tubby, OK. I was a skinny, I would like the
• 1:49:37
  kid from The Good Dinosaur, that little caveman guy.
• 1:49:43
  And then I turn into like a chubbier Young Sheldon.
• 1:49:53
  I I don't know what he's referencing.
• 1:49:55
  You know he doesn't. You don't know John Shelton.
• 1:50:05
  He's younger, I'm older. He thinks I don't know
• 1:50:08
  everything about what he does. We were at a restaurant the
• 1:50:12
  other day, and they had the soda machines where you have to
• 1:50:15
  choose your drink and you have to press it before you.
• 1:50:20
  So he goes, hey, you need to press the one you go.
• 1:50:22
  I'm like, dude, this is. I'm not coming out of a coma.
• 1:50:26
  You know, I know how technology works.
• 1:50:28
  And, you know, sometimes you just like, like right now.
• 1:50:32
  Yeah. Just like, you don't know who
• 1:50:35
  the young Sheldon is. Of course I do.
• 1:50:36
  That's because you seem confused because you're like, I don't
• 1:50:39
  know what he's talking about. I like, I don't know what you're
• 1:50:40
  talking about. Like how that has anything to do
• 1:50:43
  with? You seventh photo or my 7th
• 1:50:46
  grade photo to my 8th grade photo?
• 1:50:50
  OK that's what I'm talking about.
• 1:50:51
  COVID messed me up that bad. Yeah, OK, a little OK, but you
• 1:50:56
  weren't chubby is my point. Dude.
• 1:50:58
  You were a little thicker because you weren't exercising,
• 1:51:01
  but you weren't chubby. I was thicker as in thicker.
• 1:51:05
  I was like instead of this it was.
• 1:51:09
  You know, anyway. Still remember when you made me
• 1:51:19
  comb my hair? Comb your hair every time.
• 1:51:26
  What are you talking about? You always made me comb my hair
• 1:51:28
  in middle school. Yeah, because you should go with
• 1:51:33
  your hair called. No, it's called curls for a
• 1:51:37
  reason. And it's called showering and
• 1:51:39
  then maintaining it after you don't understand because you got
• 1:51:46
  to slick back right now or to the side, to the side.
• 1:51:50
  Yeah, I wish I had more hair. Yes, thank you for wrenching
• 1:51:53
  that anyway. Don't worry, we both got big.
• 1:51:55
  Foreheads. You got A5 head dude.
• 1:51:59
  Shut up anyways. You weren't expecting that one,
• 1:52:03
  were you? No, I wasn't.
• 1:52:05
  Anyways. You guys understand that like
• 1:52:08
  forehead and it's 5 head because it's so big.
• 1:52:11
  Damn you just did that right now you're A5 head.
• 1:52:13
  Well, I'm old. I got the receiving hairline.
• 1:52:15
  Duh. I got it from you.
• 1:52:18
  I'm not even old. I just got it from you.
• 1:52:21
  Not yet. Stop every time it's so windy
• 1:52:25
  outside. Well, let me let me get to
• 1:52:27
  today's final burn so we can finish up.
• 1:52:28
  OK. Yes, because we have things to
• 1:52:30
  do. Go ahead.
• 1:52:31
  Here's today's final burn, you guys.
• 1:52:43
  The final take from today's discussion is your network isn't
• 1:52:47
  just who you know, it's who knows your work.
• 1:52:50
  Build bridges, not just business cards.
• 1:52:54
  One last strike to cement your take away before the flame dies
• 1:52:58
  out. It goes back all the way over
• 1:53:00
  there. Oh, hello.
• 1:53:05
  Hey. Your network isn't just who you
• 1:53:09
  know, it's who knows your work. Think about that.
• 1:53:15
  It's not only who you make friends with, who you network
• 1:53:17
  with, who you talk to, who you communicate with.
• 1:53:20
  But do they know you? Because it has to be a two way
• 1:53:23
  relationship. It can be just one way.
• 1:53:25
  Yeah. OK.
• 1:53:27
  That's just basically opposite, yeah, because everybody knows
• 1:53:33
  your work, but they don't know you though personally.
• 1:53:37
  OK, you look at that, well, you're at work and people don't
• 1:53:40
  know your work because you keep your head down.
• 1:53:41
  You don't interact with people and everything.
• 1:53:44
  So you want to try to do that anyway.
• 1:53:47
  Build bridges, not just business cards, Meaning, you know, yeah,
• 1:53:51
  get your business card, but call people, make friends, interact,
• 1:53:53
  link up, all that good stuff. OK, yeah.
• 1:53:58
  The biggest flex in the day was here.
• 1:54:00
  E-mail me at this and have a cool e-mail like like mine.
• 1:54:04
  Hotmail was actually what it was called.
• 1:54:07
  I know that's what I said. But there, there's so many
• 1:54:11
  different emails, Yahoo, AOL, there's, there's crazy blank
• 1:54:16
  space. I don't know about blank space.
• 1:54:18
  But anyway, you know, thank you for listening to our show today.
• 1:54:22
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• 1:54:25
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• 1:54:29
  topic. At least we didn't talk about
• 1:54:32
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• 1:54:36
  kidding. Well, China and Russia are
• 1:54:40
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• 1:54:44
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