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Happy Hour with Tina: Pivoting, Saying No and Asking “Why Not?" · How Hard Can It Be? with Diana Maria Riva

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  Speaker 1: Hey, welcome to a very special how hard can it be?
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  Speaker 2: Happy Hour with Tina?
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  Speaker 1: Clink clink, Tina, my best day of over forty years
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  Speaker 1: back in Ohio. My hometown is Cincinnati. Who's going to
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  Speaker 1: be joining me for little happy hour increments where we
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  Speaker 1: talk about certain episodes and take and give our take
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  Speaker 1: on it.
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  Speaker 2: So excited that you're here.
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  Speaker 1: And this is a real full circle moment. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: had we known back in nineteen nineteen, yes, long time
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  Speaker 1: at Santatininas in the fifth grade on the west side
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  Speaker 1: of Cincinnati, that we'd be sitting here by coastal two
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  Speaker 1: years later, we didn't have to say the number, Tina,
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  Speaker 1: can we just keep a little bit of a little
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  Speaker 1: mystery before us? Please doing this podcast together? This just
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  Speaker 1: excites me because I want more of the women of
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  Speaker 1: this world to know my Tina.
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  Speaker 3: Well. I'm happy to give.
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  Speaker 1: You always are so on that cheers cheers to our
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  Speaker 1: first happy hour and we'll come on and give a
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  Speaker 1: little bonus's let's talk about let's talk about the episode
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  Speaker 1: with Eva Longoria.
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  Speaker 3: Sounds good.
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  Speaker 2: I mean you enjoyed it. I enjoyed it.
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  Speaker 1: There's nothing that woman isn't pretty much an open book
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  Speaker 1: willing to talk about and be very fascinating.
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  Speaker 4: And one of my favorite parts of that podcast was
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  Speaker 4: the word pivot. Yes, because lately I've had to use
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  Speaker 4: the word pivot in so many areas of my life
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  Speaker 4: here and she was talking about pivoting, and I went, well,
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  Speaker 4: there you.
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  Speaker 1: Go, that's one of the greatest things. You're one of
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  Speaker 1: the greatest examples of pivoting, Tina. Because what you guys
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  Speaker 1: don't know about Tina is that Tina was a business owner.
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  Speaker 1: She owned a driving school, the biggest one in the
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  Speaker 1: Tristate area of Cincinnati, a driver's at school. She also
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  Speaker 1: did a lot of physical theory for drivers who have
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  Speaker 1: physical disabilities and driving.
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  Speaker 2: She did all that for many, many, many many years.
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  Speaker 1: She got to a point where she was she had
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  Speaker 1: maxed out. She said she was done. Now we're not
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  Speaker 1: at that age where we can just easily retire, right.
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  Speaker 2: No, but no, you did.
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  Speaker 1: It because your heart told you that there was a
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  Speaker 1: quality of life that you were not willing to compromise anymore.
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  Speaker 3: There was a lot of manifesting, There was a lot
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  Speaker 3: of soul searching. There was a lot a lot of
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  Speaker 3: moments of I'm way too young and I have to
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  Speaker 3: have sustainability and what am I going to do? But
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  Speaker 3: I was kind of circling down and.
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  Speaker 4: Going down a little bit of a rabbit hole and
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  Speaker 4: actually having some medical issues that I never had before.
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  Speaker 4: So then when your doctor tells you you're under too
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  Speaker 4: much stress and you just look at him like, well,
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  Speaker 4: no shit, lock, But what am I going to know?
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  Speaker 4: I'm very well well aware of the diagnosis, but you know,
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  Speaker 4: and I just.
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  Speaker 3: Kept great on it.
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  Speaker 4: I manifested, but I kept growing the company. Yeah, And
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  Speaker 4: it was by growing the company that I found my
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  Speaker 4: future buyers.
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  Speaker 1: The thing that always got me about Tina is that
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  Speaker 1: every time she says she was going to sell the company,
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  Speaker 1: she would either she would invest more to making it grow.
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  Speaker 2: So I would be like, should have get off the pun?
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  Speaker 2: Are you selling it? Are you gonna are? Are you
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  Speaker 2: going to grow it? Which one?
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  Speaker 4: And I had a very good friend in Pennsylvania that
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  Speaker 4: said the same thing that you said, stop growing, stop growing?
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  Speaker 4: You want to sell? And I said, well, all I'm
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  Speaker 4: doing is just making it more marketable.
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  Speaker 3: The more marketable I.
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  Speaker 4: Make it, the better it looks, and the better opportunity
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  Speaker 4: that it gives someone else.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, but then you pivoted, and you ended up selling
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  Speaker 1: it and you went on to do like this was
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  Speaker 1: Tina's game plan. She's like, I'm going to sell this
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  Speaker 1: company and then I'm going to give massages on the
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  Speaker 1: beach for ten dollars.
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, what in the what is that? Massages on
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  Speaker 2: the beach. You sound like what? But to you it
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  Speaker 2: sounded glorious because you love the beach. Now, you didn't
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  Speaker 2: quite a piot.
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  Speaker 1: People do love to get massages, and okay, so you
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  Speaker 1: didn't necessarily do that, but you did. This is my
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  Speaker 1: favorite part of Tina. She did take her empty nest
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  Speaker 1: bedroom of her one son and turned it into a
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  Speaker 1: spot she gives out twenty dollars facials to all her
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  Speaker 1: friends and her appointment books by path.
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  Speaker 2: It's stacked.
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  Speaker 3: It's called piece by path.
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  Speaker 2: Piece.
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  Speaker 4: It's a wonderful little tranquil little nook in my house
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  Speaker 4: that I created.
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  Speaker 3: That is it's it's my little little place.
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  Speaker 4: And you know, there's lotus on the wall, and there's
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  Speaker 4: beautiful little men dollas, and there's essential oils that smell good,
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  Speaker 4: and there's hot stones.
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  Speaker 1: And you basically taught yourself how to do this watching
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  Speaker 1: a couple of YouTube videos.
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  Speaker 3: No, I had a little more experience than that.
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  Speaker 4: You got to go back to my pre business earning days,
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  Speaker 4: to my physical therapy days.
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  Speaker 2: Well, this is true.
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  Speaker 4: Then I said to myself self, why do women? Why
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  Speaker 4: do women? Number one reason women.
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  Speaker 3: Do not go to spots? What do you think it is.
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  Speaker 2: Expensive?
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  Speaker 3: Yep?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and time there you go.
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  Speaker 3: So can I make this? I make this at my home.
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  Speaker 4: I only advertise it to my community, and then the
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  Speaker 4: prices are down, I mean little, a little bit more
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  Speaker 4: than a twenty dollars visial, but the prices are not
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  Speaker 4: spot prices.
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  Speaker 3: And guess what.
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  Speaker 4: Everybody leaves their brain as melted their skin is, and
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  Speaker 4: they're like, when can I sign up?
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  Speaker 3: Can I be a regular?
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  Speaker 2: More importantly, more importantly, this makes you happy?
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  Speaker 3: It does?
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  Speaker 2: This pivot made you? This pivot is a.
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  Speaker 4: Bit amazing because it's my schedule, my time. I'm not
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  Speaker 4: overdoing it. No, I do it when I want and
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  Speaker 4: I'm only bringing people in that I know.
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  Speaker 2: And yeah, no, you also did it responsibly. It's not
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  Speaker 2: like you.
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  Speaker 1: You did it with not enough funds saved for you
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  Speaker 1: to live in a way that you can budget this.
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  Speaker 1: Your husband, Mike is wonderful. He still works, and there's
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  Speaker 1: there's a balance there that you did create, so.
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  Speaker 2: It wouldn't create more strings for you.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, funny, funny, Yeah, yeah, this is and this is
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  Speaker 1: the thing that I love. And you also started investing
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  Speaker 1: in that dream vacation home of yours down by the beach,
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  Speaker 1: which is not in Ohio. So this is this is
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  Speaker 1: you realizing those things that you want, that that you're
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  Speaker 1: not waiting for. No.
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  Speaker 4: I did also get a yoga certification because I was
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  Speaker 4: at my gym and all the people that were able
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  Speaker 4: to go to mourning yoga classes, there were people in
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  Speaker 4: the evening classes, like at spinning or strength class that
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  Speaker 4: we're saying we wish we had yoga. So then I
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  Speaker 4: was like ding ding ding, Maybe I should get a
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  Speaker 4: yoga certification because number One, I can teach it at
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  Speaker 4: the gym that I love living fitness.
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  Speaker 3: My second reason because I can do it on the beach.
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  Speaker 2: When I get to be cash everything brings Tina back
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  Speaker 2: to the beach. Yeah, it's all back to the beach.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, this is the thing. Though you're doing it
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  Speaker 1: in your way. Your pivot is called why not. Your
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  Speaker 1: pivot is why not? Like I know that when you
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  Speaker 1: went to look into having this property on the beach.
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  Speaker 1: It wasn't because you had millions of dollars in the
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  Speaker 1: bank account, you said. I remember when you said you
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  Speaker 1: were driving past the bank and you're like, let me
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  Speaker 1: just go in and see what it would take to
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  Speaker 1: get a loan, what it would cost me, what it
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  Speaker 1: would cost my life.
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  Speaker 2: You walked out of there with the loan.
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  Speaker 3: So it's why not?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and a loan that served you.
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  Speaker 1: And I'm not talking, I'm not getting into finances. I'm
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  Speaker 1: just saying it's that, it's the why not and even
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  Speaker 1: really harps into that.
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  Speaker 2: What else did you like about her interview?
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  Speaker 3: He did.
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  Speaker 4: I love the piece about age helps us with our
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  Speaker 4: self doubt.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know about me. I've been more. I've been
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  Speaker 1: more neurotic about my self doubt.
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  Speaker 4: I well, okay, I feel like part of its self doubt,
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  Speaker 4: but part of it is that time we spend with
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  Speaker 4: whom we spend it with.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, I think you guys touched on.
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  Speaker 4: You know, when you prioritize yourself and you bail out
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  Speaker 4: of an event, when you prioritize yourself and you kept
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  Speaker 4: your jammis on and your browl off when you're on
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  Speaker 4: the couch and you're happy, Yeah, okay, those are amazing and.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, she's like fifties about saying no, and I was
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  Speaker 2: like this.
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  Speaker 3: You know me, you say saying no.
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  Speaker 4: And I feel that because of the age, the getting
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  Speaker 4: older era, what we'll call it, I feel like my
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  Speaker 4: self doubt is going away.
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  Speaker 2: I feel for you. Listen, cheer, how cheers because I
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  Speaker 2: love prosecco.
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  Speaker 1: Well, prosecco helps everything, at least for us. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: I'm more emboldened to say no if I've had a
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  Speaker 1: couple of proseccos versus whatever it did to us in
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  Speaker 1: our youth when we said yeah.
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  Speaker 3: I'm more up to agree to a podcast as well.
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  Speaker 1: That's what happened. I waited until you had like a
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  Speaker 1: half a bottle of prosecco, and I'm like, so hey,
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  Speaker 1: but let's say cheers to why not and saying no,
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  Speaker 1: I'm saying no.
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