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When Clarity Finally Replaces Confusion THURSDAY (S5) S18:E6 · Inspirations for Your Life

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  Well, hello there, everyone.
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  It's great to be with you on the
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  Inspirations for Your Life show.
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  I'm John C.
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  Morley here, serial entrepreneur.
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  Again, it is so great to be with
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  everyone.
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  I hope you're all having a wonderful day
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  or a wonderful week, whichever that be.
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  Again, it is great to be with you.
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  So this is Thursday.
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  It's the last day of the month, guys.
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  It's April 30th.
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  It is 2026.
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  And again, it's great to be with you
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  here.
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  This is the Inspirations for Your Life show.
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  If this is your very first time with
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  me, I want to say thank you, and
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  I want to say welcome.
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  If you've been here one time or many
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  times in the past, well, then I want
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  to say thank you so much.
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  And of course, I want to say welcome
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  back.
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  All right, everyone, if you're thirsty or hungry
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  or parched or whatever, go ahead and get
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  something and come on back to the show.
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  And let's kick this off.
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  All right, everyone.
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  So the master topic for the week, which
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  we have just one more day after today
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  on, which is when direction changes because truth
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  gets revealed.
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  OK, I think a lot of people go
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  home or give up early when that starts
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  to happen.
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  All right.
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  A lot of people do go home and
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  give up early because of that, but they
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  shouldn't.
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  All right.
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  So welcome back, everyone, to Inspirations for Your
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  Life.
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  If you're wondering where you are, yes, this
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  is the Daily Motivational Podcast show that helps
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  you become a better version of yourself.
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  Who am I?
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  Oh, sure.
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  I'm John C.
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  Morley, serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video producer.
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  That's right, guys.
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  Podcast host, coach, graduate student, lifelong learner, and
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  yes, now so grateful to be a published
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  author.
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  This week, we were talking all about something
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  that changes everything.
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  Direction does not change randomly, guys.
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  Direction changes when the truth shows up and
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  what you believe no longer works.
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  So most people think they are stuck, but
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  in reality, they are just resisting what is
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  trying to reveal itself to them.
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  All right, guys.
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  So when resistance turns into revelation, things happen.
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  So resistance signals growth and shows where expansioning
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  is starting to happen and take place.
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  And I think that's a very, very important
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  thing for us to understand that whole concept.
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  Number two, guys, discomfort creates awareness and forces
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  you to see what you ignored.
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  What you ignored.
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  That's important.
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  Number three, guys, conflict reveals truth.
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  The comfort keeps hidden.
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  Yeah, that's a really good one.
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  Conflict reveals truth.
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  The comfort keeps hidden.
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  Number four, guys, pressure creates awareness that cannot
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  be avoided.
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  So I think sometimes people get stuck in
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  the frame of, you know, what this is
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  about.
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  But I want to tell you this is
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  really, really important because if you can understand
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  this, then you can pretty much understand anything.
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  But I know it can be challenging for
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  some people.
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  Believe me, I do know that.
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  All right.
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  So again, number five, struggle leads to insight
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  through real experience.
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  Now, I know you might be saying, John,
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  you know, how can a struggle ever help
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  me?
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  Well, it can help you because it can
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  help you to see a different pathway, a
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  different way you should be going.
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  And I think that's a real special, special,
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  special thing.
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  So yeah, definitely think about that in your
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  moves as you go through life.
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  All right.
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  Struggle leads to insight through the real experience
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  that lies ahead.
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  Number six, guys, opposition strengthens understanding over time.
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  It doesn't happen overnight.
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  It happens over time.
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  Number seven, breakdown leads to breakthrough.
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  Patterns shift.
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  The patterns have to shift.
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  That is the key.
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  Number eight, guys, confusion forces reflection and deeper
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  thinking.
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  Now, you might be saying, John, you know,
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  what is this all about?
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  How does this work?
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  I think the best way to really help
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  you to understand that is to know that
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  we all get confused.
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  We all are wondering, like, you know, which
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  way should we go?
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  And we're in this little bit of an
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  enigma, of a maze.
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  Like, you know, do I go left?
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  Do I go right?
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  Am I circling?
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  And it causes us to go into this
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  state of reflection and to think deeper about
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  it.
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  Number nine, guys, challenge exposes weakness that needs
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  correction.
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  So a challenge is there to help us.
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  It's not there to harm us.
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  It's not there to hurt us.
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  It is there to help us.
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  I think that's a very important thing, you
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  know, definitely to realize with everything out there
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  and everything going on today is that challenge
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  is there to help us, okay?
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  Challenge is there to help us.
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  And if challenge is there to help us,
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  then maybe we can understand the main thing.
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  And the main thing is this, guys.
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  The main thing is that life is meant
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  to be learned.
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  Life is not meant to cause confusion.
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  But it does when we're learning, right?
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  And I think sometimes people just, you know,
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  they get frustrated with life.
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  They don't want to do anymore because, you
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  know, they've had situations that have been, well,
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  bad cards, okay?
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  And I think bad cards give people that
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  problem.
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  And by the way, I want to let
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  you guys know we have just announced our
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  first book signing for the book, which in
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  case you guys didn't know about it.
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  It's called Drained to Driven.
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  And if you would like to attend the
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  author talk as well as get a signed
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  copy by me, we will have that available.
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  Our first one will be on May 26.
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  It will be at the Franklin Lakes Public
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  Library in Franklin Lakes, New Jersey from 7
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  p.m. to 8 p.m. There'll be
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  a brief author talk, which will be roughly
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  around 20 or 30 minutes.
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  There'll be a Q&A.
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  And then there'll be a few minutes to
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  just lounge, linger, and network.
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  And also to ask me any questions that
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  you have afterwards.
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  So definitely hope you'll check that out.
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  Don't forget to check out BelieveMeAchieve.com.
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  And also our newest resource up there is
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  a website which is, yes, that resource is
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  BelieveMeAchieve.com.
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  So again, it is so great to be
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  with everyone here today.
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  Number 10, guys, tension drives change, okay?
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  It drives change by removing the comfort.
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  Now, I've said to you guys, when comfort
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  is there, we don't move ahead.
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  It's when there's friction that we become that
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  better version.
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  And, you know, the best way to explain
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  this is, did you know, ladies and gentlemen,
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  that we need friction to walk?
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  We need friction to walk.
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  And because the friction helps us accelerate when
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  we start our walking, right, or we stop
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  walking, or we change speeds while walking.
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  And this is because you need a horizontal
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  force to change your horizontal speed.
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  And this force is friction.
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  And it arises due to interactions between your
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  feet and the ground you walk on.
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  Therefore, by Newton's third law, the ground is
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  pushed on by the friction in the opposite
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  direction of your horizontal acceleration.
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  So yes, I can be very grateful for
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  that.
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  But when we have friction, we get a
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  little bit of control.
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  But sometimes when there's too much friction, right,
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  like if you've got a gear and there's
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  too much friction, the gear is not going
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  to move, right?
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  It has to be rigid enough to go
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  around, but it has to be not tight
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  enough that it's not going to be able
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  to move, right?
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  We can't have that.
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  So number 11, friction reveals direction through resistance.
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  Of course, guys, more book signings and author
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  talks are coming.
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  This is just the very first one that
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  we have had.
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  So again, it is, again, the very first
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  time that we are talking about this.
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  And we're going to list all these events
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  on jcmacademy.com.
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  And so that's an important thing to understand,
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  is that you can always learn about these
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  through jcmacademy.com.
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  And I think that's going to be really
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  cool for everyone to get to meet everyone.
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  I just got this brand new pen from
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  a friend of mine, which I'm playing around
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  with, and really loving the book.
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  I am working on my next book, which
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  is not a motivational book.
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  It's actually a technology book.
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  Really happy with the book.
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  And I look forward to signing it for
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  you.
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  So if you get the book that night,
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  you can get them.
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  There'll be copies available.
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  Or you can get it online by following
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  the link, and they'll usually be shipped to
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  you in less than, I think, three to
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  four days.
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  Number 12, obstacles refine thinking and sharpen decisions,
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  okay?
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  And I think that's important.
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  Number 13, resistance reshapes identity.
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  Resistance reshapes identity.
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  And so that's important, guys, through the adaptation
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  that we have.
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  So we learn that friction helps us control,
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  because if we don't have friction, we can't
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  move, we can't stop.
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  And too much friction would mean we can't
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  move at all, right?
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  Pain or discomfort creates an awareness.
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  That awareness pushes us to demand attention.
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  When I broke my TIB and FIB, it
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  wasn't painful.
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  I was so grateful that Lord and God
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  had blocked out this pain.
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  And it was just a discomfort, not a
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  pain, but just an uneasiness in the fact
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  that I couldn't walk.
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  But all the pain had been blocked out
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  of where I broke.
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  So that was kind of like a miracle
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  in itself.
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  So I was very grateful for that.
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  Number 15, guys, truth emerges under stress when
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  pressure builds.
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  So truth will emerge under stress when pressure
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  builds.
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  And I think that's an important piece for
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  us to understand.
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  And know, right?
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  That's important.
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  And I think understand that we can have
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  a conversation of where we are and maybe
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  where we're going, right?
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  Maybe that's a good idea.
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  Number 16, growth requires struggle to create strength.
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  So when we struggle, when we are pushing
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  to get better muscles or to gain greater
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  skill and dexterity, we are in a part
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  of discomfort, but we are building something.
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  So next easier, that's what we have to
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  keep the workouts slightly harder.
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  All right, guys.
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  Number 17, difficulty develops clarity through persistence.
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  Persistence is a real key, okay?
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  And so that's a very important thing.
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  Most people give up on persistence.
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  You know why?
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  Because everyone else is giving up on their
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  persistence.
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  I said the people that are successful, the
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  only difference between the successful people and the
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  non-successful people is the successful people have
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  just learned to hang on a few seconds
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  longer.
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  That's it, guys.
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  That's the only difference.
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  Number 18, resistance is information.
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  It's not failure.
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  All of this is data, guys.
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  And the data can help us become a
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  version of ourselves.
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  And I think that's a wild thing because
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  if we know that we can become better
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  and it might take some resistance, then that
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  can change our life, okay?
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  That can change our life.
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  And it's important to know that.
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  It's important to know what it means and
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  what can happen.
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  I know that it's pretty interesting.
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  And by being pretty interesting, I mean that
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  this is something that you can actually change.
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  You can actually impact in your life.
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  But other people around you might cause you
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  to say, oh, I can't do that.
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  Don't let the other people around you discourage
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  you.
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  Number 19, awareness follows conflict when truth is
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  revealed.
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  When the truth is revealed, okay?
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  Not all the time.
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  It's when the truth is revealed.
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  And I think that's an important thing that
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  most people don't understand that.
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  They don't understand what that means, okay?
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  And so when people know this, they sometimes,
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  well, they tend to go a little easier
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  on themselves.
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  And the thing is, when you start new,
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  it's like you're afraid to make a mistake,
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  right?
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  And then once you're going and you're not
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  getting where you want to be, you're like,
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  I don't know if I should keep doing
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  this.
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  Should I change my direction?
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  Oh, if you're not getting where you want
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  to be and it's been a little while,
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  yeah, of course.
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  But change is sometimes harder than starting or
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  stopping.
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  Everybody can stop.
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  But change is about readapting to the environment,
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  acclimating.
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  That's not easy to do.
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  Number 20, guys, insight follows pressure through experience.
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  Through experience, I said.
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  That's important, guys, through experience.
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  And you might be saying, John, I don't
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  know why, but it's totally the truth.
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  It's totally the truth.
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  And I know what a lot of you
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  are saying.
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  Pressure is something you don't want.
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  But you see, a good amount of pressure
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  is good.
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  Like in a pressure cooker, we just have
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  to monitor our pressure.
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  We can't have a pressure getting out of
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  control.
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  Number 21, change follows discomfort when action is
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  taken.
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  Change follows discomfort when an action is taken,
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  right?
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  If you're doing something and it's not comfortable,
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  and now you make a change, right?
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  Because of that action, or you take an
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  action because of the change you want to
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  make, things get better.
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  And I think that's hard for a lot
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  of people to understand.
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  Number 22, clarity follows confusion through reflection.
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  I think
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  it's important to realize that reflection comes when
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  things aren't working.
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  But you need to reflect.
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  Even when things are working, you want to
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  look at how well things are going and
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  if you should make a change.
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  Because you could always do something better.
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  People always reflect, or people only pray when
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  they have a problem.
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  But why don't they do this like normally,
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  like every day?
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  Just do it when they have an issue.
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  Number 23, strength follows resistance through endurance.
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  Yeah.
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  Number 24, wisdom follows experience over time.
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  Wisdom will follow experience over time.
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  And I think when we can know that,
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  and know that it's not happening all overnight,
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  I think a lot can change for us.
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  Okay?
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  A lot can change for us.
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  And I can tell you that's something that
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  a lot of people, like, don't understand.
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  All right?
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  A lot of people just don't understand that
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  whole concept.
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  They don't know what it means.
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  And that might cause you to be a
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  bit confused.
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  But when we reflect on things, life becomes
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  easier.
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  Life gets better for us.
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  Okay?
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  It gets better because we now understand what's
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  going on.
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  We now understand why things are changing in
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  our lives.
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  But they don't happen overnight.
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  Okay?
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  I think that's important.
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  Number 25, growth follows pressure when embraced.
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  When it's embraced, it works.
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  And pressure being embraced is really another way
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  of saying it is being monitored.
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  That's another way of saying, you know, that
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  same thing.
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  Number 26, direction follows struggle with persistence.
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  Direction follows the struggle with persistence.
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  So when we direct out of a struggle,
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  which only happens when we get persistence.
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  If we don't get that, then our life
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  doesn't change.
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  It just sort of stays staggered or it
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  goes backwards.
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  Number 27, transformation follows breakdown in rebuilding.
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  A lot of people don't want to rebuild
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  because they need to break down.
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  Because they need to break down.
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  Because they need to break down.
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  Does that make sense?
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  And I know some of you are saying
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  to me, John, I don't mind that.
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  Well, if you have to start over and
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  you have to unlearn what you know or
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  restart, that could be a very, very big
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  problem for you.
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  So a lot of people fear the art
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  of breaking down.
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  Number 28, awareness follows tension in key moments.
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  Now, it's only in the key moments.
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  Why don't we have awareness outside?
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  I think it's because that tension just causes
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  us something to do.
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  Does that make sense?
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  I think that's an important thing to know.
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  Number 29, understanding follows conflict through processing.
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  Through processing.
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  And I think when we process something, we
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  can't always get the answers we want immediately.
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  We have to think about that, right?
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  We have to think about that.
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  And I think that's important to know, right?
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  Very important to know.
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  Very important.
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  Processing happens when we start to understand something,
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  okay?
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  But we don't get all the efforts of
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  our thinking or our processing overnight.
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  We just don't.
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  Number 30, revelation follows resistance when truth is
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  accepted.
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  When it's accepted.
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  When it's accepted.
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  Does that make sense?
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  And I think when we can realize that
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  moment, that epiphany of life, things can change.
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  Does that make sense to you?
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  And I think when we can realize that
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  where we stand is important.
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  We may want all the answers tomorrow.
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  We're just not going to get them tomorrow.
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  And the sooner we know that, the sooner
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  things will be a lot better, all right?
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  When we take time, right?
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  We save nine, which was to save mistakes.
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  But we become more aware the slower we
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  do things, whether it's eating, drinking, whether it's
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  walking, hiking, whatever it is, we can become
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  more aware.
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  And I think that's something a lot of
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  people have in their life, but they get
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  scared of being aware.
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  They get scared of being aware.
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  And the reason they get scared is that
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  they learn a side or they learn something
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  about themselves that they didn't know.
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  And then they get a little bit worried
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  about what that means to them.
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  What that means to them is a very,
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  very big problem.
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  It's not a problem.
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  It's just that they don't have a certainty
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  about where they're going in life.
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  I think that's probably our biggest problem is
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  they don't have the certainty.
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  And when they don't have a certainty, then
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  things sort of change, right?
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  They sort of change.
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  And again, they don't change overnight, guys.
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  They change in the time that it takes,
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  which could be a while, which could be
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  a while.
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  And I know what you're probably saying, right?
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  You're saying, no, that's not right.
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  I think most people
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  understand one thing.
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  They understand that they're stuck.
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  But a lot of times they don't want
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  to admit that they are stuck, right?
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  They don't want to admit they're stuck.
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  And while this is like that, people are
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  like, I don't know what I should be
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  doing.
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  I don't understand.
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  I think that can be, they just get
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  lost.
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  And I think it's important to know, okay?
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  I think when we take time, our life
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  switches into a different perspective, a different moment,
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  one that we didn't think was going to
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  exist.
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  And so what are you resisting right now
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  is my question.
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  Is it something to avoid or something you're
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  trying to guide toward?
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  See, most people stay stuck, not because they
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  lack ability, but because they ignore what resistance
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  is trying to teach them.
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  Direction changes when truth is accepted.
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  And it's important to know that.
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  Ladies and gentlemen, I'm John C.
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  Morley, serial entrepreneur.
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  Be sure to check out believemeachieve.com for
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  more of my amazing, inspiring creations.
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  And remember everyone, when truth shows up, that
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  is your moment to change the direction.
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  So don't wait, start now.