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Season 4 - Episode 264 - Your internal Rules · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermindset coach, creative strategist, and also happened to
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  be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy into the world. So welcome to the coop, and
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  let's start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey everybody good. Morning from the very rainy
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  chicken coop. Girls are all out loving the
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  rain, getting soaked. Me, not so much. 3 days of rain,
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  no fun. Anyway, I want to talk to you
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  about an interesting conversation I had with my son's
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  friend. So he was over here On the
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  weekends. They hang out together
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  constantly just because they don't have school, they don't
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  have work, they don't have things to do.
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  So they're hanging out. And yesterday I made a banana
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  bread for snack just to have on the counter.
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  I like to have things when the boys come in there on the
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  counter. So they had been coming in and
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  out all day and before you know it, half the banana bread was
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  gone. And I was laughing and I was
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  like, wow, that like took maybe 3 hours and they were laughing
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  and they were. And he said to me, my son's
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  friend said it's really good. So then they're going to get
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  ready to go to a very scary movie, which I do not attend
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  scary movies. I hate them.
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  I'm in the middle of watching the Penguin on HBO with my
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  husband and I'm borderline too uncomfortable to watch it.
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  Like I can't face the screen. I have to like turn my head.
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  It's it's very dark. But I mean, it's a good
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  compelling story, but it's very dark.
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  In any event, he's I I said to them before they were going to
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  go to the movies. I said, does anybody want a
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  sandwich? Because there's not going to be
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  time. They made the decision to go to
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  this one show of the scary movie they wanted to see.
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  And they said, sure. And he said to me, you don't
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  have to get me a sandwich, ma'am.
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  And I was like, I of course I'm going to make you a sandwich.
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  And he goes, you're just too kind to me.
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  And I said, no, honey, those are my rules for being a mom.
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  And he's like, but you're not my mom.
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  And I said, no, but I'm Lucas's mom.
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  And if you if Lucas loves you, then you're welcome in my home
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  and I make you feel comfortable. And as I'm saying this, I see
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  the look on his face and he's just standing there.
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  And I said, I want to show you something right now.
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  I said we all have rules for certain things.
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  And my rules for being a mom have always been very, very
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  strict when it comes to certain things like this.
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  Because when I was little, I was an only child and my mother made
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  it very comfortable for me to have friends over all the time.
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  They were allowed to go to dinner with us.
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  They were allowed to eat with us.
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  They were allowed to go in the pool with me, do homework,
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  sleepovers and I appreciated that she did that for me and she
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  always made them feel comfortable.
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  In fact, my dad, my best friend growing up was a person named
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  GAIL and GAIL was, she lived like 5 houses down the road and
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  she was always at our house because she was the youngest of
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  a huge family. So she often got sidelined
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  because they just lost track of her.
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  And so she would just come and stay at our house.
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  If they bought me a winter jacket, they would buy Gayle a
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  winter jacket. It was just the kind of thing
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  that my parents did and it instilled in me these rules.
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  So I'm explaining this all that we all have rules for things.
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  And I'm telling him these stories and his eyes are just
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  getting wider and wider. And I, when I finish, Lucas
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  goes, well, yeah. I mean, isn't that the way it
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  is? You have rules for things?
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  Because I realize he understands this concept because we are
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  living it all the time. And he's living it with me.
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  And you know, he understands how I come at that as being a mom.
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  So all of a sudden he's like, my son speaks up and says, well,
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  it's just like being a plumber. You don't I'm, I'm training for
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  this and I don't waste my boss's time or money.
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  So when I'm on that clock, I'm not wasting time.
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  He's paying me for it. I'm not sitting around, I'm not
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  twiddling my thumbs. I'm not doing things.
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  And he's like, and it drives me crazy when I'm with some people
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  that might do that. And all of a sudden I recognized
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  how that one rule of how I show up with things has infiltrated
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  everything in his world. It's just, it's been and it's
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  been a great mind virus, let's put it that way, because it's
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  definitely that virus type thing where it spreads to everything.
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  And then I see how it spreads. Me just having this conversation
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  with his friend. Now all of a sudden that's going
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  to spread. And I went on to say you can
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  have rules for how you treat everybody.
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  Just like my animals. I have rules for how I treat my
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  animals. I have rules for how I treat my
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  yard, how I treat my gardens, how I handle everything that's
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  in my world. I'm a caretaker, my clients,
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  especially my clients, they, they are, they know they have me
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  to be able to say and help them through things.
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  And I fully appreciate that. That is something that I really
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  respect and don't take advantage of.
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  So the point of this today, the point of letting you know all
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  this is understand your rules for each one of these
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  categories. What kind of mom do you want to
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  be? If that's what you're doing?
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  What kind of partner, what kind of of person, what kind of
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  learner, what kind of artist? I don't care what it is, but
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  just ask those questions because whatever they are, you will
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  learn to be better at it when you ask those questions.
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  OK my friends, I hope you have a blessed day and I'll see you
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  tomorrow. Bye.