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- Wayne Sutton: From the time we're kids, we're taught that success comes from working harder. We are taught get better grades, work longer hours, hustle, grind, push. But what if I told you some of the most successful people I've ever met, coached, worked with, been mentored by? Kind of think the opposite way. What if success isn't about doing more, but seeing things differently? Welcome back to Prosper with Wayne. Today I want to challenge that, which we have believed at some point. And it's a lie. Not because someone intentionally taught it to us, but because we've heard it repeated so often we accept it as truth. And that is success comes from working harder. Now before we click away, I'm not saying hard work doesn't matter. I have friends that make really great money and they work really, really hard. I've also got some really great friends that travel, they spend time with family, they work less, and they make millions. So yes, hard work matters. I've done it my entire life. I worked in the automobile industry. I've led sales teams. I've built businesses. I've started over more than once. I've had success, I've had failure, I've been healthy, I've been sick. I've watched God open doors. I could never open myself. And after more than thirty years of business, ministry, coaching, sales, I've realized something. Hard work's important. But hard work alone never creates success. If it did Every construction worker would be millionaires. Single moms working two jobs would all be wealthy. Farmers would dominate the Forbes list. Clearly there's something else happening. And today I want to talk about what it is. Most people think success begins with action. I don't. I think success begins with identity. Let me say that again. Identity. And here's why. Because your identity determines your decisions. Your decisions determine your habits and your habits determine your future. Think about it. A person who believes I'm just bad with money will behave so much differently than someone who believes I'm becoming financially wise. Someone who says I'm not a leader will avoid opportunities. Someone who says I can learn to lead will volunteer. See, that one sentence changes everything. Because you never act consistently outside of who you believe you are. Let me say that again. You never act consistently, consistently, that's the word, outside of who you believe you are. And the reason is The way God created you. See, your brain, your mind loves proof. The brain is constantly trying to prove itself correct. If you believe I'm unlucky, guess what? You'll notice every disappointment, every rejection, every setback. However, if you really believe, I always find opportunities. Your brain begins scanning for those instead. It's like buying a new truck. Suddenly you see that truck everywhere. The truck wasn't new, your attention changed. The same thing happens with opportunity. Which takes me back to my coaching and counseling and helping people. I get often asked, Wayne, what's the one skill I should learn? And to me, it's sales. Not because everyone should become a salesperson, because everyone's already selling. Parents sell, teachers sell, pastors they sell, business owners sell, employees sell ideas every single day. And if you never ask someone about a product, you're constantly persuading. And learning influence teaches you something even bigger, teaches you how to understand people. And when you understand people, you begin making better decisions. And that's why you need to stop waiting to feel ready. This might be the biggest mistake I see. People wait until they feel confident. Here's the problem. Confidence almost never comes first. Action comes first. Confidence follows evidence. Let me say that again. Confidence follows evidence. Think about riding a bicycle. Were you confident before you got on? Of course not. You became confident because you kept riding. Waiting to feel ready is like waiting to become bit before going to the gym. It just doesn't work that way. And that's why comfort, and this is something I want you to write down. Comfort is more dangerous than failure. Okay? This one took me years to learn. Failure hurts. I have failed. I have been on the top of the mountain and back into the valley. But comfort quietly steals your future. See, most people don't lose because they failed. They lose because they stopped growing. They settled, they become comfortable. Growth requires this comfort. This is important because every promotion's gonna feel uncomfortable. Every new business feels uncomfortable. Every major life challenge feels uncomfortable. I just recently took on a new project and I'm working on it. And I'm working with people I've never met, systems I've never used, and I'm coaching and counseling and helping people in helping them develop their true self to grow and to prosper. And guess what? It feels uncomfortable. Most likely they feel uncomfortable working with me because I'm new. I feel uncomfortable learning the new system. But I know that I know that I know as we learn and grow together, it's gonna be extremely prosperous. So if you're uncomfortable, that doesn't necessarily mean you're doing something wrong. It means you're growing. Now I'm gonna give you some questions that have changed my life. And again, I hope you're taking notes. So years ago, I stopped asking, can I do this? Can I do this? Because I recognized if someone else did it, then the likelihood of me being able to do it is the same. Instead, I started asking, what happens if I don't do it? What happens if I never start a business? What happens if I never write the book? What if it happens if I never launch this podcast? What happens if I allow fear to make my decisions? See, sometimes the cost of doing nothing is greater than the risk of taking action. And just last year, and I'm recording this in twenty twenty six, just last year I went through a massive health challenge. I i it losing weight, losing muscle, having surgery, getting even more sick after the surgery, facing uncertainty. I realize something. Life is incredibly fragile. We spend so much time preparing to live someday. Sometimes we forget to live the day. So we postpone dreams, we delay conversations, we wait for the perfect opportunity. We assume we'll always have more time. But you know, tomorrow is never promised. And that season, and it was a long season. But it reminded me to stop waiting for perfect conditions. So this year, instead of saying, hey, let's do this, this, and this in business, we took some time out. We took some family time. We did a vacation that was long overdue. And this is important. Prosper. The name of this podcast, prosper creating health, wealth, and happiness means having a it means having a unified front in all of those areas. Now. Now, those who know me, you understand I love studying psychology. Human behavior has always fascinated me. Leadership fascinates me. Sales fascinates me. Success fascinates me. But underneath it all, I discover something much deeper. Real success isn't simply making more money. Now, I want to help you prosper. I want to help you make more money. I never, never shy away from that. But real success is becoming the kind of person who can be trusted with more responsibility. Developing character, wisdom, integrity, self-control. These qualities create a life that lasts and is worth living. Okay? So as you're listening to this podcast today, I want to leave you with one question. Who are you becoming? Not what are you buying, not what are you earning, not what are you posting online. Who are you becoming? Because your future isn't built on one dramatic moment. It's built by thousands of small decisions. That nobody applauds. So choose growth, choose courage, choose discipline, choose integrity. One day you'll look back and realize: wow, those ordinary choices created an extraordinary life. So I want to say thank you for spending a few minutes with me today here on Prospero Wayne. If this episode challenged the way you think, I'd love for you to subscribe, share it with someone who's chasing success, leave us a review. And remember, until next time, keep building your health, keep building your wealth, keep Stretching and building towards that happiness and never stop becoming the person that you were created to be.