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Sometimes You Have to Encourage Yourself!!! · Black Girl Interrupted Podcast

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Black Girl is a rusty. Y'all already know how it started. It's erupted,
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y'all already know how's started. Black lack Girl is whoo whoo, whoa
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hey, hey, hey, y'all, y'all already know who it is.
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It's your favorite girl as y'all know who this is. I know I'm late.
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I'm late, but I had to catch up with my sister, So
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shout out to my sister, kay. I love you, baby, and
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I enjoyed the conversation and we definitely gonna catch up tomorrow. But uh again,
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y'all, welcome to another episode of Black Girl. Interrupted this episode tonight,
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It's not gonna be a lone. I'm actually really just jumping on because
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tonight I said, we gotta do our empower hour. Tonight is the night
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where I just want to encourage somebody. I just want to love on you.
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I just want to let you know that everything that you have going on
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in life is not your final destination. So that's what we're doing tonight.
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We're just going a quick empower hour, maybe a thirty minutes, thirty thirty
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five minutes, forty five minutes, not nothing too long tonight because today is
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Wednesday. It's some day. We are two days away from the weekend,
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baby, and I'm so ready for Friday to be here. So y'all already
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know how I do. When I get started doing my episodes, I always
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have to do a mental health check in. I need to know how you're
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feeling, you know, today, on this beautiful Wednesday. I know it's
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hard, I know it's rough. I know it's difficult sometimes, but you
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gotta keep going. You gotta keep going, You gotta gotta gotta keep going.
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So dropping a comments, let me know how you're feeling tonight. Like
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I say, I always have to do my mental health check in. I
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mean if I don't check in on your who else will. If I'm not
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concerned about your mental who else will be concerned. So that's why I do
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this. This, This is why I do this. It's therapeutic for me,
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and I know it's encouraging for other people to stay in power, to
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stay in prayer because I know it gets rough. I know it gets I
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know it gets tight. And right now we're all standing in the midst of
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a storm. I know right now, you know inflation, everything is going
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up except for the pain, and so I know people are really struggling,
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and I know sometimes you're ready to throw on a towel. I get it.
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There are a lot of days that I wake up and I feel the
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same way. It's like, Damn, I gotta get up and I gotta
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go to this job. Damn, I gotta get up, and I gotta
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do this again. I gotta do that again. So it's imperative that you
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keep your mental in check. It's imperative that you continue to set those boundaries.
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It's imperative that you take care of yourself. It's okay if you need
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to disappear, it's okay. If you need to shy away from people,
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it's cool. So don't feel bad about setting boundaries. Don't feel bad about
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telling people no. So don't forget dropping the comments. Let me know how
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you're feeling mentally. So again, this is our empowered hour. It's been
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a little while since I've done the last one, but I'm gonna get back
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consistent. I promise I am, because talking to my cousin today, it's
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like she said, it's imperative that you do this. Actually, it's imperative
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that you pour into somebody, you encourage somebody, You share your story.
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You definitely stay transparent with people. So this is why I do what I
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do. So y'all again, welcome to Black Girl Interrupted. Tonight is the
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empower Hour. Let's getting courage. So before we get started, y'all already
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know I have to show something empowerful. You know, something something powerful,
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something empowering, something to encourage you, something to keep you going. So
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here we're going in. We're gonna jump back into Tonight's some power hour.
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Life is going to happen, and you're gonna set up a plan and you're
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gonna have a vision and you're gonna hope that it's gonna turn out perfect.
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But what so often happens in life is that things get burned and things go
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the wrong way, And it's in that moment that you're gonna have to choose
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your reaction. Do you have a choice to make. Do you have the
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right reaction or do you get the wrong reaction. If some of us were
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tempted, I'll just lay here and it will pass over me. I'm telling
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you you will be in a vicious cycle forever. You have to get up.
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Some of you have been knocked out by life, and you got up
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and saw the blood he Sometimes in life you have to hit back, recycle
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your pain, get something from it. You already in pain, used to
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do something with this, allow it to take you to the next up.
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Allow you're paying to push you the greatness. What's your why? You need
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a why? Why do you need a why? Because some days you're gonna
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say I don't want to get up, But that why's gonna say. I'll
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push yourself. Get up. Your mama needs you, your daddy needs you,
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your children needs you. Get up. Your wives gonna push you when
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you can't push yourself. When you wanna quit and give up, your wives
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gonna give you that edge. You need, that advantage. You need that
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left that you need to get to the next stuff. And your why you
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better go inside. You still looking outside for the stuff that's already inside.
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You're still looking for someone to save you when you already your super he bro.
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You're looking for some information from somebody when you already got what you need
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in your head. It's just time for you to get up and be the
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best person of you. As you're going through your goal through and you ready
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to quit, you ready to get in because it don't look like you think
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it should look. You've been doing it for five years and it don't look
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like you think. You put all your money in it. You put all
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your time, minutes. People are looking at you crazy. Five years you've
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invest at all. You have absolutely nothing to do with what happened to you.
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It's not your faults. You got knocked on the ground. You have
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absolutely nothing to do with that. And I'm not blaming you for that.
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But if I come back a week later, you're still on the ground,
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that's your faults. If I come back a year later, you're still on
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the ground, that's your fault. If you get knocked down, there's nothing
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you can do about it. But getting back up has every single thing to
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do with you. And you will promise me that from this day forward,
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you will not be defeated. Why do you keep trying? Why me?
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God? Why did I get invest Why did I get cancer? Why did
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my mamma die? Why did I get fired? Do you understand said you
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got put through that? Because what that done, That tension produces greatness.
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Stop running from it and run two its. Stop telling me what you're going
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through. The greats they get to it, they go through it, and
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the harder it is the better. Now listen to me. I don't care
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if you're sick. I don't care what you're going through. If you're not
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Dad, he ain't through with you yet. As long as you're waking up,
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you're still in the game. As long as you are up, you
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can still make it out of it. As long as doesn't run and you're
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nuts from boom, you're still in the game. You still can win.
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Not get your butt up. I don't need you thinking about it no more.
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You're doing too much stink and you analyze it too much. You're talking
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yourself out of it. I just oh, I don't know if it's gonna
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work. I try and it didn't work. I just need you to keep
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moving. I need you to make up in your mind. That's the only
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way you can lose is if you quit. And I just need you to
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keep going. Get emotional, if you must cry, if you must get
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it out, but get your butt back up back and you finish fide and
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put a time looking on the crime. You say, coach, I need
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thirty minutes. He'll take it. But when you come back after that thirty
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one minute, you better climb, because if you don't, you will be
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stuck at that at first for the rest of your life. And some of
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you are not successful because every single time you run up against the trial,
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every time you run up against the trick relations, you stop and you cut
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off. Be small. And when I'm here to tell you where if you
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call that thing, I'm here, just like you here, and I'll promise
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you I ain't leaving without the degree. I will not leave without that goal.
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I will not leave without that drink. I will not leave this university
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and I'm successful. I will not leave this job. I will not leave
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this client. I will not leave this opportunity. When y'all get it,
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what will you do with your pay? Will you let it break you?
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Or will you let it read it bind you? All? Right? A
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right? So, like I said tonight, I really wanted to jump on,
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like I said, not a long episode, but I just wanted to
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jump on, like I said, and have my empower hour. It's been
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a little while since the last time I've done an episode like this. I'm
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in this time. I think the last time I did this, like I
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said, may have been about a month month and a half ago. I
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want to say, like maybe the end of July was the last time I
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did this soul yeah, a month and I had two months ago, but
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that's neither here nor there. But I really just wanted to jump on.
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Just having conversations with some of my closest friends and listening to everything that they're
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going through. I feel like it's imperative that I just pour into you and
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let you know that, regardless of where you are in life, that's not
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your final destination. I want you to always remember it's not how you start,
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but it's how you finish. So what you fell down, So what
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you didn't make it over the hill the first time, that doesn't mean you
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you lay there. That doesn't mean you give up. That means you get
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up and you try it again. You try it another way, because if
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that way it wasn't working for you, try something different. Always have a
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plan A to Z. Plan A is not gonna always come through for you.
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Plan B may not work, Plan C may work. It may not
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work the way you want it to, but you always have options. And
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that's that's one of the things that when I sit down and I do each
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and every episode, I pour my heart and my soul into each and every
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episode, and I look for other ways to gain traction when it comes to
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my episodes, I do and look for all types of things to do.
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Is it easy for me? Absolutely not. Do I get discouraged a lot
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of days. Absolutely I do, But I continue to show up for me.
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So I put that message out there. Stop worrying about the quantity and
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just worry about the quality. I don't care. If it's five people,
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I don't care. If it's a hundred people, I don't care. If
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it's just one person, I don't care. If it's just me talking to
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myself. I'm reassuring myself that I have to show up for me. So
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I say all of that to say is keep showing up for you. Stop
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worrying about the amount of people and if they love you, if they support
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you, as long as you love and you support yourself. And that's one
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of the most beautiful things that I'm learning in this process of building Black Girl
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Interrupt the podcast. Yes, I've been doing this for three years, but
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I've also been doing it the same way for three years, and nothing is
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worth So now it's time for me to try something different. So now it's
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time for me to maneuver and go a different route and let me try something
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else and see if that works. So I want to encourage you. I
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want you to know that I know it looks I know it looks dim right
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now. I know it does. I know it looks as if that storm
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is never gonna end, but it does get better. I want you to
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allow yourself to grace. You know, we have to give ourselves grace.
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I think one of the biggest things that we do is we overthink ourselves in
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situation. We overthink I'm sorry. We overthink ourselves in certain situations, and
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we don't take the time to see it all the way through because we want
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everything to just go right now. I just I want to hit the lottery
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right now. I want to move into my house right now. But that
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may not be the plan that God has for you right now. You know,
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look at it as if God gave you everything that you ask for,
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would you really truly be able to handle that. I've seen a lot of
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people say no, because I'm gonna be honest with you. If God gave
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me everything that I asked for right now, I really don't think I'd be
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able to handle it. If God granted me that million dollars or whatever it
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is that I've been asking for. I wouldn't know how to handle it.
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I would probably blow through that million dollars in a week. I would be
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trying to buy everything, pay off everything, but not putting anything back for
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a rainy day. So no, honestly, I wouldn't be able to handle
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everything if God gave me it all right now. So I'm good with him
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just giving it to me in portions because I'm able to enjoy it. And
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I always use this meta always. I always use a buffet. Whenever you
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go to a buffet, the first thing we want we trying to eat everything
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at the tape. Were trying to eat everything we see at the buffet tape.
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We get there and we're trying to load our plates, and you go
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sit down and you got ten plates, and you're trying to eat everything on
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that plate, and everything that you're trying to eat, you're stuffing yourself and
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you make yourself sick. So why not portion it so you can enjoy it.
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Go get that one piece of chicken, Go get that little scoop of
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mashed potatoes, get you a little bit of grave, and get that little
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sweet tea, get your little dinner roll, and enjoy that and if that's
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what you like, God will replenish what he takes away from you. So
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I'm learning to just read in the benefits that God has given has a lot
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of to me right now. Am I aware I want to be right now
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in life? Absolutely not? And I blame that all on a lot of
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the decisions that I've made. At some point, you have to take accountability
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for where you are right now in life. You have to look at your
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choices. You have to look at the decisions you made, because we don't
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always make good choices. We don't always make the best decisions. Sometimes we're
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so busy trying to do it on our own that we don't even allow God
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to take the will of the car because we're so busy trying to drive.
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We want to be in control. So God will say, since you got
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it all, I'm gonna step back until you get tired of running into that
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brick wall and you finally surrender and say, you know what, God,
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I'm gonna let you have your way. I'm gonna let you have this.
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And that's one of the things that I'm learning to do. And I'm learning
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patience because everything comes somebody. Hey, Dante, oh, let me go
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back. Oh, Dante say facts, It's all in timing, and that's
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what it is. And I'm learning that it may not be my time right
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now to be where I'm at. So God is gonna take me through all
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these these humps and hills and valleys until he feels like I'm ready, even
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though I may say, yeah, I'm ready, I'm ready to do all
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of this, but God is not ready for me to do. So I
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have to trust that because God has never failed me at any time. He's
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never left me, He's never forsaken me. So I had to I gotta
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take my hands off of it. I gotta let God do his thing.
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I have to trust that whatever's waiting for me on the other side of the
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door is gonna be better than what I've had with then excuse me, it's
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gonna be better than what I've had. So I'm trusting that. So I
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want to pour into somebody tonight. I want to tell somebody that no matter
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the storm that you're standing in, your rainbow was there. No matter what
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dark space you win, the light is close. You're almost there. You
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just got the whole loan. You just gotta stay encouraged. I'm trying not
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to get emotional tonight because when I get to talking about God and how blessed
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I am right now, I can't help but prob but it's never tears of
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sadness. It's always tears of joy because I look at how far I've come.
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I go back and I look at who I was fears, and I'm
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not the same person who I was five years ago. So I slip,
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do I fall, absolutely, But I'm learning to get back up. I'm
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learning to keep fighting another day because if God didn't want me to win,
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he wouldn't keep waking me up every day, if I didn't have a purpose,
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and if God wouldn't let me wake up the next day. So every
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day I'm shown what my purpose is. Every day I'm shown what figure playing
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He has for me. So tonight I take this time to just love on
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somebody, to put not just somebody, to love on, anybody, to
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pour into somebody that may be feeling down right now, somebody that may feel
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like there at their wits end, somebody that may feel like giving up.
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Don't stop, don't stop keep going, keep going, because the marathon continued.
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I promise you, the turtle always wins. The race. Never forget
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that, Never forget at where you're started, because you could be homeless,
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you could be unemployed, you could be with no clothes on your back,
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something. So learn to be grateful for the things that you have and not
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what you don't have. Because there are people out here that a millionaires that
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have everything they want and they're not happy. So I want to be I
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want to enjoy the fruits of my labor. That's what I want to be
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able to enjoy. So when judgment day comes for me, I want to
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be able to stand in front of God and say, you know what,
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God, thank you. I was able to enjoy life, although it didn't
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start the way that I wanted to, but it ended the way I expected
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it to. Hey, let's get a ga. He sending me prayers,
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prayers to you, baby. Uh, I need to get with you after.
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I need to message you. I'm gonna send you my phone, but
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I need to get on the phone with you. I'm putting up we'll talk.
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We'll talk later, but I'm gonna send you my number and I need
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you to at me up asap. But this is what we're doing tonight.
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We're just empower I'm encouraging somebody. That's all I want to do. This
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is the empower our. I wish I could play my gospel music in the
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background, But of course we don't want Facebook to flag us, we don't
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want YouTube to flag us. But I want somebody to just say thank you.
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I just really want y'all to give God all the praise right now.
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I want you to thank Him for waking you up to day. I want
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you to thank God that you're employed. I want you to thank God for
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the roof over your head, for the clothes on your back, for the
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food on your table. Give God all the glory. That's all I want
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y'all to do is give Him the glory. And then I want you to
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stand in the mirror and I want you to encourage yourself. I want you
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to say those affirmations. I want you to know you're worthy, that you
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are value, you are appreciated, you are loved, you are special.
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I don't care what's your background. I don't care. I'm not here to
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judge you. Don't let nobody else judge you. Don't let what somebody else's
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opinion of you affect the where you live your life. Because they talk about
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Jesus. Every day they judge he who casts I'm telling you, baby,
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don't even get me started, but I tell people he who cast the first
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stone. Y'all know how that goes. But don't let someone's opinion of you
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dictate your life. Don't let what somebody says about you discourage you from what
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it is that you're trying to do. Don't let don't let the fact that
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somebody else maybe selling food, or may have a YouTube channel, or maybe
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it's selling clothes. You were born to shine. Stop themm in your own
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light. We are our own worst enemy. We do this to ourselves.
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And at the same time, I need you to take your power back.
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Let relinquish that power that that person has over you. Forgive that person for
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you, not for them, but for you. What macines Water say,
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reclaim your time. I don't care what your background is, I don't care
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what you did yesterday because you here to day to do something different. Know
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that you are working progress. Okay, You're not gonna get it right the
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first time. It's not gonna be perfect the first time. It may not
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be perfect till you do it the ten time, the twentieth time. But
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just don't give up what Aliyah say. At first, you don't succeed,
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dust yourself off and try again. That's what I need y'all to do.
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I need y'all to stay in the race. Okay, I get to the
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finish line before you do. That don't mean your time not coming. But
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you gotta believe that. If I could see the potential in you, if
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I could see the greatness in you, if I could see how bright your
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lights shine, I want you to see that too. I want ever want
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to see what I see. Because everyone has a guilt. Everyone has their
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own time to shine, and when it show time, I need you to
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show up. I need you to show up. I don't give it damn
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what you do. I don't care if you've been in a prison. I
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don't care if you sell drugs, if you I don't care because I'm a
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lower anyway, right, wronger, indifferent, I'm anna lower anyway. Can't
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nobody make me not love you an it less? I don't give it.
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I don't care. Now. I may rock with you differently if you do
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something to intentionally bring harm to me or to intentionally hurt me, I may
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deal with you different, but that don't mean my I love for you.
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It's gonna stop. I'm just gonna move away from you different, set them
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boundaries up, start telling people no, be selfish with yourself. If you
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need to disappear, you don't owe nobody an explanation why you stop talking to
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them. Sometimes, and I've learned on this journey, on my journey to
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healing, to being a better woman, a better mother, a better fiance,
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I'm learning that sometimes you don't even have to ask God to remove people.
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Sometimes God to clear the path and you ain't even got to ask him
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to because he got something greater for you. He's got something brewing for you.
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God says, hold on, just hold tight. But I need you
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to trust me. I tell people all the time, you can't ask God
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to prepare a meal for you if you're gonna be in the kitchen. If
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you want God to feed you, you got to move out the way and
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let prepare a meal. Fee. That's like driving a car. When you're
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driving a car, when you're the driver of the car, you can only
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look in one direction, that's straight ahead, right. Even though you're sitting
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in the passenger seat, you're still paying it. You're still trying to watch
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the driver But when you allow God to drive your car, you can get
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in the back seat and you get to enjoy the view. You get to
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look to the left, you get to look to the right. You can
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look in front of you. You can look behind you because you know what
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what's behind you is behind you. Look to the left, look to the
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right, and look forward. Let's babil in me tell you, when you
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get the moving and clearing and wheeze out your garden and your flowers start the
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bloom, You're gonna be thankful for what you went through because that made you
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the man of the woman you are to day. So don't let what you've
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done define who you are. You made some mistakes, you slipped up,
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you fell down. We all make mistakes, we're human. But always know
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God is a forgiving God. God forgives everything that we do, no matter
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how many times we keep making the same mistake. But at some point,
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God gonna sit you down because God is gonna say, now it's my turn.
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I've sat back and I've allowed you to try to do things your way,
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and you keep messing up. So now I'm gonna umble you. Now
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I'm gonna make you sit down to where you don't have anyone to turn to
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but me. And what you do. You gotta let go on, You
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gotta let God. You gotta take your hands off of it at some point,
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because at what point do you get tired? At what point do you
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say, God, I can't do this anymore. It's on you now.
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We're strong, we're strength, We're resilient. God made us that way,
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even the ones that you don't think there's whole for God still sees the potential.
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Stop judging people. That's the worst thing you could do. I see.
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Don't throw your don't throw a rock and then hide your hand. Don't
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throw stones if you live in a glass house, because while you out here
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trying to expose somebody else, God will exposures Karma. Don't have an expiration
27:42
date. Let's get a jay says preach SSS. Mike Dad say thank you,
27:49
Ashley Pitts. I needed to hear this. I'm here baby tonight.
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This is our in power hour. This is all about y'all. This is
27:57
all about me loving on you. This is all about me pouring into you.
28:03
This is all about me encouraging you. This is all about me empowering
28:07
you. This is what this is about tonight. It's not about me.
28:11
It's not about this. This about y'all. This y'all show. This,
28:17
this about y'all. This about me recognizing how beautiful y'all are. This is
28:25
me taking the time to tell you that you're the best, that you're the
28:32
greatest, that I see you. That's what this is about. This is
28:38
about me telling you that I love you and that I see you, and
28:44
that I'm proud of you. That's what this is about tonight. Because I'm
28:48
proud of you. I'm grateful and I'm humbled to be in contact with each
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and every one of y'all. I'm grateful to have friends like y'all. I'm
29:00
grateful to have loved ones like y'all. That's what this is about tonight.
29:04
This is all about encouraging somebody. This is all about me loving you and
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pouring into you and encouraging you and not allowing you to fail. That's what
29:15
this is about tonight. Because if I can make it through, you can
29:19
make it through too. That's what this is about tonight. Because I see
29:26
a lot of the posts that y'all made. Dante, I don't know if
29:32
you're still watching, but I'm still praying for you. I'm still praying peace
29:37
over that comes into your heart. I'm not gonna tell your you know your
29:44
business, but I pray that you learn to adjust. I know what,
29:52
I know what a loss like that feels like. So I pray for you.
29:57
Let's get a ga. I pray that you come out of your situation
30:02
unscathed. Baby, Mike Dad, I don't know what you're going through,
30:07
but I pray that whatever it is, you'll come out victoriously. Anybody that
30:15
need a prayer, anybody that just needs to be loved on, I'm here
30:19
for that. That's that's what we're doing right now. This is this is
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the empower out for everybody that's just tuning in again. Welcome to another episode
30:27
of Black Girl Interrupted. It is your Girl, Ashley, and tonight we
30:32
are doing the empower out. I'm ready to get encouraged. I'm ready for
30:37
someone else to be encouraged. I'm ready for someone else to take a step
30:41
back and say, man, I needed that word tonight. I just want
30:48
to touch somebody. I just wanna uplift somebody. I want to support somebody,
30:55
regardless of whatever it is that you're going through. I want I wanna
30:57
support you in any way that I can. If if you need me to
31:03
make a post, if you need me to just send you a meth whatever
31:06
it is I want to, I want to do that. I don't ask
31:08
me for the money now. I ain't got no money now, okay,
31:11
let me let me just put that out there. I ain't got no care.
31:12
It's okay. I'm broke right now. Well, you know what,
31:15
let me you know what, Let me not say that my bills are paid.
31:22
I'm all caught up on my bills. So don't ask me for no
31:26
money right now. I can maybe cash if you maybe a dollar or two
31:29
dollars or something like that. Maybe I could do that. Maybe I could
31:30
buy you a pizza or something. But I don't ask me for no money
31:34
right now. That was a joke, that was being funny. But again,
31:40
I want to keep the empower our going again. I've been playing some
31:44
of the most beautiful videos. Here's another one for someone that maybe I want
31:49
to give up right now. Here we go. Some of you, I
31:56
read the darkest of darkest alleys. I don't know what you're going through,
32:07
but I know what you need, hope, and I want you to know
32:15
that beautiful things can come from your broken pieces when you give your broken pieces
32:19
a chance. It is okay to be scared, It is okay to cry,
32:27
but giving up is not. I just want you to know that it's
32:31
not the end. It matters how you're gonna finish. I don't care how
32:38
dark can look for you. I don't care what they'd have said to you.
32:43
I don't care what the verdict is. I don't care what the haters
32:45
say. It ain't over, no matter what happens to you. It ain't
32:51
over. Ain't no such a thing as over. Do you know, man,
32:55
that you can actually mess your life completely up? You can jack it
33:00
all the way up, and you can turn around and get it right.
33:04
Do you know that you can be divorced multiple times and still be okay?
33:07
Do you understand that you cannot have a degree and still be just fine?
33:15
Now, whatever you've been through, whatever that is, guess what, You're
33:19
still here. You have a great life in front of'em. But your
33:22
great life is in front of him, it's not behind you. Everything you're
33:29
going through is preparing you for what you ask God for. You just gotta
33:34
quit tripping while you're in the process, because the process is necessary. You
33:39
may not see it now, but when he gets you on the other side
33:43
of it, you're gonna see exactly why it went that way, and you're
33:45
gonna be okay with it. Poil yourself together and quit tripping because you in
33:52
the process. God is processing. He ain't through with you. If He
34:00
was through with you, you would not wake up in the morning when you
34:04
feel like giving up. Don't when you're thinking about giving up. Don't when
34:09
it look like you ain't gonna make it. Keep going. When they tell
34:14
you you can't come on, man, who are they? When they tell
34:17
you to put all your stuff back on your desk, don't do that,
34:22
man, don't do that. When they tell you you're not gonna make it,
34:27
don't believe, or man, don't believe, or you got to be
34:31
read lendless. And I'm saying to you, what if all of us took
34:37
that attitude. After we face a rejection and I know, or we have
34:40
a meeting and no one shows up, or somebody say you can count on
34:44
me and they don't come through. Nobody believes in you. You've lost a
34:49
getting to get it again. The lights are cut off, but you're still
34:52
looking at your Freed, reviewing it every day and say to yourself, it's
34:55
not over until I win the heart of that all the sweet of experience.
35:02
See what you become in the process is more important than a dream. That's
35:07
far more important. The kind of person you become, the character that you
35:10
built, the courage that you develop, the faith that you're manifesting. Oh,
35:15
it's it's just something that you get up in the one you look yourself
35:17
in the mirror, you're a different kind of person. You walk with a
35:20
different kind of spirit. People know that you know what life is that you
35:24
have in brain stride. You never as Holt, but you did at home.
35:59
Huh. When I tell y'all, sometimes they when I do episodes like
36:05
this, it gets a little heavy for me, and I try not to
36:07
get too emotional because I got to stay strong for y'all. But sometimes that
36:14
doesn't always work. But like that video says, it doesn't matter who shows
36:21
up for you, as long as you show up for yourself. I always
36:24
say look for quality over quantity. Show up for you. Don't worry about
36:34
what someone says about you, because words are everything. Words are so powerful
36:39
because what you put out into the universe is exactly what you're gonna get.
36:44
So you have to learn to speak positively over the things in your life.
36:51
Excuse me. If you want a new car, speak like you already got
36:55
the car. Speak to the universe in detail. What type of car do
36:59
you want? I mean when I say speak in detail, baby talk all
37:02
the way to the type of interior you're want in the car. Speak on
37:07
what type of tires if you want rims on the car, Speaking like it's
37:10
already happen. You have to speak in present tense and not passed. Speak
37:16
future and not pass Speak like it's already happen. Because words are everything.
37:22
Words are powerful. You gotta tell the universe what you want. If you
37:28
want to win, you gotta act like you want to win. You gotta
37:30
walk like you've already won. Tonight, we're just empowering. That's all we're
37:36
doing tonight, just empowering. Like I say, this is the empowered Hour.
37:39
I want everyone to get encouraged. I want everyone to leave away from
37:45
this episode encouraged, enlightened, uplifted in power that I want you to feel
37:52
that. I want you to walk away encourage. I want you to walk
37:55
away victoriously. I want you to walk away winning as a winner because this
38:00
is our a winning season. Everybody has a winning season and right now we're
38:05
in the midst of it. God says he's in it to win. We're
38:08
here to win. So what are you doing to show that you've won?
38:14
And I don't mean material, I don't mean the financial I want. I
38:20
wanted to show through in your spirit. I wanted to show through in your
38:25
smile, in your energy on it. Can't nobody to take it away from
38:31
you. What God says is for you. Man can Man can't deny.
38:38
If God says it's already done, it's already done. I don't care what
38:42
man says. Man can say, oh no, you ain't got it,
38:45
you ain't got it. But if God says you got it, you got
38:47
it. Because that's who provides, That's who provides, That's who helps to
38:54
make a way out of no way. That's who carries you through the war,
39:00
That's who helps you through your battle. It's God. But you gotta
39:05
stopping. You gotta believe in that. You gotta you gotta show God that
39:08
that's what you want, because if you continue to show God, God is
39:12
gonna step back and say, you know what you're thinking, no everything,
39:15
I'm gonna let you have it. Like I said before, Eventually you'll get
39:21
tired of running into that brick wall. Eventually you'll get tired of bumping your
39:24
head. Eventually you'll get tired of scraping their knees, until the point where
39:30
you say, you know what, God, I'm done. You got this.
39:34
I'm surrendering. I'm letting it all go to you. That's what I'm
39:37
having to doing a lot of situations right now. As hard as it is
39:44
for me to not wanna be in control, I've gotta step back. I
39:52
gotta take a step back, and I gotta let God have his way.
39:58
It hurts because I'm so I want everything right now. It's like God,
40:02
I need it right now. But God says, actually, you're not ready
40:07
yet. And I keep asking why? Why? Why? God? Why
40:10
do you feel like I'm not ready? So I asked myself again, and
40:15
I'm asking you the same question. If everything that you ask for God gave
40:22
to you right now, would you really truly be able to handle it.
40:25
I'm gonna ask that question again. I wouldn't be able to I wouldn't be
40:31
able to enjoy it. If God gave me everything that I asked for.
40:37
That's like that last piece of cake. You go every day and you get
40:44
a little piece every day instead of eating that whole slice uff you're able to
40:47
enjoy it a little longer. I'm just gonna eat a little piece today.
40:52
You know, I ain't gonna eat the whole side. I'm just gonna get
40:54
a little piece, and you're able to enjoy. And that's that's what I
41:00
mean when I say that's what God is doing for us right now. God
41:06
has given it to your little by little. Be grateful for the little bit
41:12
that He gives you, because you have some people that aren't getting anything at
41:15
all. There's all, there's someone out here that has a way worse than
41:22
us. Again, be grateful for what you have and not what you don't
41:29
have. When you lose everything, it humbles you. If I'm learning,
41:45
and I hope you learned the same thing, to just enjoy the little things.
41:52
Celebrate the small things, not just the big things, but the small
41:59
things of what help get you you over the hill, the small things of
42:02
what help you get to the finish line. See the problem with us,
42:07
we always want to celebrate the big things, the major things. I want
42:13
to celebrate the small things that helped me get to the big things. That's
42:17
what I want to do. So I encourage you start celebrating the small things.
42:25
You got a fifty cent raise, Celebrate that because someone behind you didn't
42:30
get that raise. Celebrate that your vault something for your house. Celebrate that
42:40
that's major because that's setting you up for the bigger things. That's setting you
42:45
up to appreciate it more when you make it to wherever it is that you're
42:51
trying to go. So I want to tell you as I get ready to
42:59
bring into a closet, because again again this is just the empowered hour,
43:01
just the hour. We got seventeen minutes and I'm gonna make these last seventeen
43:08
minutes count. But I want someone to just say thank you God. I
43:20
want you to get up tomorrow morning. I want you to go stand in
43:22
that mirror and I want you to say I got this before you lay down
43:30
tonight. I want you to give God the glory for allowing you to make
43:36
it through today. Because someone's not someone's not gonna be on the wake up
43:39
list tomorrow. Someone is loving on their family member for the last time because
43:45
they're not waking up tomorrow. Someone may be walking into their job tomorrow that
43:51
maybe their last day. So before you lay down to night, I want
43:54
you to give God all the glory. I want you to tell him thank
44:02
you, praise Him in advance, Praise God in the good times, not
44:07
just the bad, but in the good. That's what I want you to
44:14
do. I want you to thank Him for every little trial and tribulation that
44:17
he's taking you through, because he's setting you up for greatness. Who this
44:22
is getting happy for me? That's what I want you to I want you
44:27
to thank God for where you are right now. I want you to thank
44:30
God for how far you come. I want you again, I want you
44:35
to thank God for every obstacle that you've had the indoor to get where you
44:37
are to date. That's what I want you to do. When you wake
44:43
up tomorrow, I want you to get in front of that mirror and I
44:45
want you to give God the praise again because he allowed you another day.
44:51
You messed up today, but that's okay because He's giving you another chance tomorrow.
44:55
I want you to say those affirmations. I want you to say that
44:58
you're beautiful. I want you to say that you're handsome. I want you
45:00
to say that you're worthy of everything that God gives to you. That's what
45:04
I want you to do. I want you to change the way that you
45:07
speak about yourself. I want you to encourage yourself. I don't want you
45:13
to beat yourself up because you didn't do it right this time. That's what
45:16
I want you to do. I want you to thank Him. I want
45:21
you to stop in praising wherever you are. If you're driving and you need
45:27
to pull over to a gas station, pull over to the gas station,
45:30
cut that music off, and I want you to just say, thank you
45:31
God, Thank you God. That's what I want you to do. When
45:36
you make it home, when you make it to work, when you see
45:37
your children, when you see your mom, when you see your dad,
45:39
when you see your brother, your sister, whatever you say, thank you
45:43
God, whatever meal God has helped to prepare for you. I want you
45:50
to thank Him because you couldn't move without Him. No matter how many times
45:58
you say, oh I did it, I did it that you've only done
46:00
it with the grace of God. I want you to know and continue to
46:04
have faith. It's gonna get rough. You're gonna have those days when it
46:09
gets dark. You're gonna have those days when you're ready to throw in a
46:13
tie. You're gonna have those dark days. But I want you to still
46:15
thank him. I thank God every day that God didn't allow me to take
46:22
my life. Every day I want to thank God for allowing me to make
46:28
it through these lads, through these trials these last three years. I thank
46:35
God for that. I thank God for opening my heart and learning to forgive
46:45
not only the people that hurt me, but forgive myself for the pain that
46:47
I've caused myself. So that's what I want you to do. I want
46:52
you to say you're beautiful, you're handsome, you're worthy, you're able,
46:58
say that you're able to give and receive love, because some people feel like
47:01
they're not worthy. You are. You deserve to be loved. I want
47:09
you to stop comparing yourself to the people next to you because God created us
47:14
differently. Okay, we're all indifferently different, we're all imperfectly perfect. I'm
47:22
not perfect. You're not perfect. God didn't make not one person on this
47:27
earth perfect. Embrace those flaws. That's what I want you to do.
47:32
Love on yourself, take time for you, date yourself, love yourself,
47:38
shut yourself from the down. If you have to take a weekend, cut
47:44
your phone off and dedicate that time and have that conversation with God, get
47:50
in your closet, get in your shower. But I want to day to
47:52
be the last day that you drop that till. I want tonight to be
47:59
the last night that you drop that tire. I'm not saying you're not gonna
48:00
have those hard days. For whatever you're crying about today or whatever you cried
48:06
about yesterday, I want that to have been your last day. I need
48:10
you to cover yourself. I need you to encourage yourself. I need you
48:14
to empower and uplift yourself. That's what I want you to do. That's
48:20
what I need you to do. That's what I'm encouraging you to do.
48:23
That's why I say tonight this is the the empower out. That's all we're
48:28
doing is empowering. Brenda says, thank you God. Brenda says, I
48:32
am beautiful, I am worthy. Thank you God. That's what you do.
48:36
You give God the praise, you stop and you look up and you
48:43
say, thank you. I appreciate you God, because everybody's worthy of something,
48:52
regardless of what your mom's have told you, Your fathers have told you,
48:58
people have told you you're worthy. That's all it is, your God's
49:06
child. Can't not one person out here throw through a rock and hide their
49:13
hand because there are a lot of people that have a lot of skeletons in
49:16
their closet. So who are you to judge anybody? I can't judge nobody.
49:27
I can't compare myself to anybody because God didn't create me like the next
49:30
person. He created me and his likeness. So I'm created the way God
49:37
wanted me to be. I look the way God wanted me to look,
49:43
not like nobody else. So stop worrying about what people have to say about
49:47
you, Stop letting those those negative thoughts infiltrate your mind and fog your judgment.
50:00
As you could do this. I know you could do it. I
50:05
just need you to believe that you could do it. I need you to
50:07
dig down deep into your soul and say, you know what, I got
50:09
this. But also know that when it gets too tough, it's okay to
50:15
set that low down. You don't have to carry everything at one time.
50:19
You don't have to. That's what God is there for. God is helped,
50:22
is there to help you throughout your journey. Don't matter how I'm saying,
50:28
And we're all guilty of this, no matter how many times we've said,
50:30
God, I got it, I could do this, I could do
50:31
this. You can't do it without him. You can't wake up without him,
50:37
you can't go to sleep without him. So at some point you got
50:42
that through God somewhere, whether it's the beginning of your day, the middle
50:47
of your day, at the end of your day, because you could move
50:50
throughout the day without it. So just love you say those affirmations to yourself
50:59
every day. Block out that negativity. You are in control. You have
51:07
You control who you allow to affect your energy. That's up to you.
51:14
You can't be mad at nobody that infiltrates you with their negative thoughts. You
51:21
blame yourself because you keep entertaining it. If you don't want to be a
51:27
clown in a circus, stop showing up, because let me tell you something,
51:35
you're gonna always be the villain in somebody's story. And that's okay.
51:39
Be the villain in somebody's story because you know what, you're the clown in
51:44
mind how you love them apples, you're the clown in my story. I'm
51:52
gonna be the villain in yours, but I'm the clown. You're the clown
51:54
in mine. And I don't care what you have to say about me,
51:58
because God say is I'm everything. I may be nothing to you, but
52:02
to God, I'm everything. And that's another affirmation. You're everything. You're
52:10
everything, Baby, You're all that and a bag of chips. That's what
52:15
you are. You're all of that. You're beautiful, you're handsome, you're
52:22
gorgeous. Your love you are, and you're worthy to give and receive love
52:29
again. It's okay, so back people away. Put them boundaries up,
52:35
Baby, be selfish with yourself. You don't owe anybody an explanation. You
52:40
show up for You show up to the people that matter the most. That's
52:49
what matters. That's what matters. Because I'm a shore up for Ashley every
52:53
day. I don't care who doesn't show up for me, but I know
52:58
I'm a show up for me. All gonna show up for me. And
53:02
the forty four years I've been on this earth, Baby, Guard has showed
53:05
up every step of away, even on my darkest days, that God showed
53:09
up for me. God let me later for a little while. But then
53:15
eventually God, he started nudging me. Come on, get up, get
53:20
up, Get up, Get up. I just lay. I lay,
53:29
and I stayed down for a long time until I started to get nudged.
53:37
Get up, Get up. I'm giving you another day. Get up.
53:43
I'm giving you another day. Get up, because I've been doing a lot.
53:49
These last two years have been hard for me. But I made it.
53:53
I made it. I got over. So I still have those days,
54:00
absolutely, but I get up and I fight. I come prepared ready
54:06
at this time. Y'all gotta stop letting the devil win because he's busy.
54:15
I had to stop allowing the devil to dictate my thoughts and how I felt
54:21
because it was easy for me. And I say that to you. Stop
54:25
allowing the devil to penetrate your thoughts because it's easy, it's comfortable. The
54:31
devil always comes to seek killing, destroy, He prays on the weak.
54:37
That's why when we say, oh God, oh, God doesn't do this,
54:40
God doesn't do that. Then you wake up today, don't you still
54:45
have your job, Don't you still have a roof over your head, don't
54:47
you stay have clothes on your back, don't you stay have food on your
54:51
table. That's God, because the devil will come and take everything from me.
54:57
He steals from you, and he steals more than just your clothes.
55:02
He steals more than just your food. He steals your joy. The devil
55:09
is a thief, baby, and he comes at all times of the day.
55:14
But as long as you keep yourself covered, God will never allow that
55:19
to happen to you. So I'm learning that. I'm learning that no matter
55:27
how many times I fall down, no matter how times many times you fall
55:30
down, God is gonna be there to pick you back up and walk and
55:32
hold your hands until he's ready to let you go. And I'm learning that,
55:39
and it's a beautiful feeling. Is it painful? Does it get tight
55:44
for me? Does it get thick? Yeah? I'm not sitting up at
55:46
still that it's it's peaches and cream for me, or that it's a walking
55:52
apart. I'm not telling you that because it's it's been rough. It's been
55:55
rough, been wrong, but now the road is starting to get smooth.
56:05
And I'm appreciating this journey. I'm appreciating the woman I'm becoming though I am,
56:15
I'm loving Ashley a little more every day, and I want you to
56:17
love yourself a little more every day. Give yourself the grace. Understand it's
56:24
not gonna always be easy. You're gonna run into those bombs. You're gonna
56:29
run into those heels. You're gonna fall, you're gonna trip, you're gonna
56:32
snip. But you get up and you fight. You come prepared. You
56:42
know I can't go that way this time. Let me try another route.
56:47
That's what you keep doing. And I push and I push and I push
56:53
and I keep going and I keep going. And even though I get tired,
56:58
I get tired, I get austin, but I get up and I
57:02
keep going. I keep fighting everything because you know why, Because sitting in
57:09
the dark, it's lonely. It's lonely. Sitting in the dark, it's
57:15
real lonely. So I push and I fight, and I keep going and
57:22
I keep going and I keep going. I fall down, but I don't
57:25
stay there because again, I don't like being in the dark. People can't
57:32
see you again, like I like, I told y'all last night, and
57:39
I tell y'all every episode. When I do these shows, I do this
57:45
because this is what I enjoyed. Do I do this to help somebody?
57:52
People say Actually you're so, you're too transparent. People are gonna use that
57:54
against you. How how can you use anything against me? And I've told
58:00
you everything. I do this because this is my calling, this is my
58:09
purpose. That's why I do I don't do this for lights, I don't
58:16
do this for money. I do it because this is what I enjoy.
58:22
That's why I do this. This is why. This is why I get
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up and I show up for Black Girl interrupt the podcast. This is mine.
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God gave it to me. God says you have a gift that I
58:38
need you to share with the world. So you know what. I utilize
58:47
and I use it to pour into people. I use it to encourage people.
58:50
I use it to empower with people. I use it to uplift people.
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That's why I do this. This is why I show up. I
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don't care who comes, who supports I come, I support and I do
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again. Some of y'all do things for validation. Some of y'all do things
59:13
with the hopes are getting something in return. I'm gonna be blessed either way.
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You can't take that for me. You can't take God's gift away from
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me. Not man, not woman, no human can take away God's gift
59:28
that He's given to me because I was born with it. Did it take
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me a long time to see it absolute because my my my vision was so
59:39
clouded by the devil, because I was allowing him to control and dictate my
59:45
life. And a lot of us do that until we're humble, until we
59:51
lose everything, and then we don't have a choice but to go to God.
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But you got to celebrate God in the bad days too, in the
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bad times. You gotta given the praise in a bad time because without the
1:00:01
bad, you would have the good. You gotta embrace all of that.
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You gotta love all of that. Hey, Angela, she says, amens,
1:00:14
she says, stop showing up accountability. Yes, ma'am, she says,
1:00:17
I'm so proud of you, says let me tell you. Me and
1:00:22
Angela met in a Facebook group saves group to her sister Nancy, who is
1:00:30
so deeply and truly missed. But even though we don't talk all the time,
1:00:36
this woman somehow always finds a way to tell me she loves me and
1:00:40
she's proud of me always, no matter what she has going on in life.
1:00:46
That's what she does. So let me pour into you for just a
1:00:50
moment and encourage you. You are almost done with nursing school, and I'm
1:00:54
so proud of you. Well you are done. I'm very proud of you.
1:01:00
Regardless of how many obstacles you went through, no matter how many trials
1:01:05
and tribulations you encountered, you never gave up. And I'm so proud of
1:01:10
you for that. Give God all the praise. Thank him, y'all.
1:01:20
My glasses are so far you thank him because you did it. I saw
1:01:25
your post, I saw the days that you wanted to give up, that
1:01:31
you were tired, but you didn't. You stuck it out. Even after
1:01:38
your loss after loss, after discouragement, after falling down, you got back
1:01:46
up and you kept the course. So for that, I'm proud of you.
1:01:52
You have made me so proud. I am proud to call you my
1:01:57
sister. I cannot wait to actually meet you in person, because I think
1:02:01
the first time I see you, I think I'm just gonna do I'm just
1:02:04
gonna probably follow in your arms and just cry, but it's gonna be tears
1:02:07
of happiness because you made it and Nancy is watching you. Let me tell
1:02:13
you, Nancy has been with you every step of the way. The things
1:02:19
that you do. You take care of your parents, you take care of
1:02:22
your children, you take care of your husband, and you still manage to
1:02:27
make it through nurse in school. You better give God all the praise for
1:02:31
that, because without him, girl, you did it. You made it.
1:02:39
You did it. You did it. You did it to my cousin
1:02:46
Brenda. She says, Amen, She says, love you so much,
1:02:51
cousin. Let me say this to you. When my father passed away,
1:03:00
you showed up for me. I ran to you after the funeral and we've
1:03:13
just been ever since. I'm proud of you. Congratulations on your retirement.
1:03:22
I love you. I miss you dearly. It's been a long time since
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I've seen you. It's been some months, no last year, because I
1:03:34
had my surgery. Yeah, so I didn't get to see you before I
1:03:36
had my surgery. But I'm proud of you. You keep going. Don't
1:03:43
never give up. Don't never give up. And tell my cousin Robert,
1:03:47
I love him and I was so happy to see his post to other day.
1:03:50
But you did it. Angela says, yes, I'm done. She
1:03:55
said, you're making me cry. Don't cry, but if you cried,
1:04:00
those are tears of happiness. Those are tears of happiness because no one knows
1:04:06
everything that you've had to endure to get to where you are to day.
1:04:11
And you went through a lot. We've talked about everything, Angelo, and
1:04:16
you made it. You did it, You got it. God told you
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just hold on a little longer, just just just hold tight, because you
1:04:27
was you was done, You was ready to give up. The gods say
1:04:30
hold on, just wait, just wait, just wait. I got you,
1:04:35
I got you, she said. He said, just hold on.
1:04:40
You almost sort of finished line, and look at that, and you you're
1:04:43
there. Like I said earlier, the turtle always wins the race. It's
1:04:49
not how you start, it's how you finish. That's what it's about.
1:04:56
Angela says me too. I can't wait to meet you. I know it,
1:05:00
I know it. I'm trying to wait on you to get everything so
1:05:02
we can get these these these calendar's clear, uh, because I'm not trying
1:05:08
to just come for a day. I'm ready for us to go eat and
1:05:11
everything. But just enjoy ourself. That's what I'm ready for. Angela says
1:05:17
this. All God, girl, all God. She said, I couldn't
1:05:19
have done it without you yet, Thank God, you're welcome. You're welcome.
1:05:27
Angela says, congratulations on your retirement, Brenda, she says, thank
1:05:30
you. I can't wait till I retire. I can't wait till I walk
1:05:33
away from corporate America and black Girl interrupted becomes everything to me. But in
1:05:39
God's time, I'm not rushing it. But I say that to y'all because
1:05:45
sometimes you need to hear that. Sometimes you need to know that someone is
1:05:48
proud of you, that you're doing a good job. Y'all are wonderful mothers
1:05:54
to my fellas. You you're wonderful fathers. You're doing a great job.
1:05:59
I know sometimes we need to hear that because I know we look at ourselves
1:06:01
and we're like, am I really doing a good job? You are?
1:06:06
You are no matter how many rain storms you had to stand in the midstuff,
1:06:15
you finally got to your rainbow. Somebody gave you your umbrella. But
1:06:20
it's okay if you're standing in the rain and get wet, because God is
1:06:23
gonna always keep your coverage. But everyone, from time to time needs to
1:06:28
hear that they're doing a good job. I'm proud of you. If no
1:06:32
one and everybody that's watching tonight, if no one has told you today,
1:06:39
and I'm not talking about yesterday. I'm not talking about Monday or Sunday,
1:06:43
or last week or two weeks ago, last month, last year, five
1:06:46
years ago. Let me be the first to tell you today, I'm proud
1:06:50
of you. You're doing a fantastic job. Keep going, keep going,
1:06:59
don't give up. I know it's rough, I know it's this, I
1:07:03
know it's hard. I know you want to throw in the town. I
1:07:06
know you're saying I can't do it because it's not moving the way you want
1:07:10
it to. But it's never on your time. It's always on God's time.
1:07:16
And trust and believe He's the on time God, and that I truly
1:07:21
believe, I absolutely believe that it's on his time, never hours. So
1:07:31
when you're when you're laid down tonight, pray for patience. Pray that when
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God gives you whatever it is that you ask for, you pray that He
1:07:41
multiplies it. You pray that you're you're pray to God and allow God to
1:07:46
help you manage you maintain it because you don't want to work so hard and
1:07:53
God give you everything, and then you fumble your fumble again, and then
1:07:56
you're discouraged, and then you'll start this whole cycle over again. But that's
1:08:00
what you do. You're praying your ass. God just allow me to handle
1:08:06
this. Angela says. In the time i've known you, you have grown
1:08:14
by mountains. I'm so proud of you. You're making assists, You're really
1:08:16
making it. And you know what, I thank God for that because I'm
1:08:23
not who I was yesterday. I'm not who I was last week. I'm
1:08:27
not who I was last month. I'm not who I was last year,
1:08:31
and I want to say thank you. But even recognizing the growth, because
1:08:39
sometimes we don't see the growth. Sometimes it takes another person to see how
1:08:44
bright your light has gotten. You know. Sometimes we say, oh,
1:08:46
yeah, I'm doing good, blah blah blah. But then you have one
1:08:50
person, or you may have five people that say, oh my gosh,
1:08:54
actually I remember when you were and then they say, you know what,
1:08:59
I'm out of your growth. So thank you for funding that out for me.
1:09:03
Thank you for even seeing it, because some days I don't see that
1:09:09
sometimes something and I'm being honest with you, some days I don't see the
1:09:13
growth something and I do it in certain situations, but sometimes I don't.
1:09:16
I don't always see what I've done or how far I've come, until I
1:09:23
sit down and I'm like, you know what I have come along way?
1:09:29
You know, I look back two years ago when I got the news that
1:09:34
my father passed away, and it was hard for me to go to the
1:09:40
cemetery, and I'm just gonna make the story short, it's it was very
1:09:44
hard for me. So now it gets a little easy. Every time I
1:09:48
go. It gets a little easier for me to go because I know that's
1:09:55
not him out there. My Father's still here with me in spirit. And
1:10:00
I say that because some days I could be talking about about anything, like
1:10:04
if I if I'm talking about the Bible, I'm talking about Dad or anything.
1:10:08
I sometimes can hear my Dad is talking through me some days. So
1:10:15
it's a blessing, you know. I do have those days. I'm being
1:10:23
so honest and transparent with you. I do. But I appreciate how God
1:10:30
is allowing me to learn to live without the physical of him being here because
1:10:39
he's still here spiritually. So I thank God for that. I thank God
1:10:46
for allowing me to to bloom and flourish in a garden that once held a
1:10:56
lot of wheats. I think thank God for allowing me to be the roles
1:11:02
that continues to grow from the concrete Tupac's words, I thank him for that.
1:11:10
I thank him for allowing me to have beautiful people that genuinely because you
1:11:16
get that say they love you, but it's not genuine. So I think
1:11:23
God for blessing me discernment and being able to tell who's really for me and
1:11:30
who's not. I thank him for that. I thank him for allowing my
1:11:36
circle to grow with some of the most beautiful and powerful people. And I'm
1:11:45
not talking about money wise, I'm talking about spiritual. And I want you
1:11:53
to thank God for him allowing your gardens to bloom. I want you to
1:11:59
thank God for allowing him for allowing you to pick those weeds out of your
1:12:03
garden so your flowers can bloom. Because flowers can grow amongst the weeds.
1:12:11
They can, but they'll never be seen. So I want you to get
1:12:17
in that mirror and you say, you know what, God, Thank you
1:12:24
for allowing me to be that roads that continues to grow from the concrete.
1:12:28
Thank you for clearing my path. Thank you for smoothing the road out for
1:12:31
me. Thank you God for taking me through these trials and these tribulations because
1:12:39
now it gets a little easier for you. Now you know how to maneuver.
1:12:44
The next time you're a monkey rynch's throwing your weight. You thank him
1:12:49
for that, Thank him for those bad days. I know y'all say,
1:12:53
oh, but it hurts, uh huh. But through pain comes to glory,
1:13:04
Through tragedy comes triumph. You go from being victor to victorians. You
1:13:14
thank God for that. Love on yourself, Hug yourself and say, damn,
1:13:20
I'm doing a good job. That's what you do. You tell yourself
1:13:27
you're doing a good job. Don't wait on nobody else to tell you.
1:13:30
Tell yourself you're doing a good job. Because see, you have some people
1:13:36
that want to see you fail. You have some people that want to see
1:13:41
you drown. You got people out here that I liked it. Letting people
1:13:47
go. Cut those people out. Pay attention to the words that people speak
1:13:55
to you, because jealous and envy through words and actions. See everybody,
1:14:06
you have to start treating people like a bus. Like a bus. Excuse
1:14:13
me. Some people are not meant to go to the next stop with you,
1:14:16
and sometimes you gotta drop them off. As painful as it is,
1:14:21
sometimes you gotta leave people where they are. You gotta cut it off because
1:14:29
their weight will start to wear you down and you can't fly holding a brick.
1:14:36
I'm gonna have to hold on to that one. I'm a have to
1:14:40
hold that one. I like that one. Brenda says, I'm very proud
1:14:45
of you. Keep up the growth. Yes, I have a whole wedding
1:14:48
to start planning. We're going to the courthouse, but I have I'm about
1:14:56
to have a whole husband. I'm about to be a wife. Every day,
1:15:01
my table is about to get bigger. Everybody's about to start sitting down
1:15:05
and eating with me. Come on, now, we have so much to
1:15:11
celebrate. Angela says, girl, you blinding everyone with that light. You
1:15:14
deserve that recognition, says But yes, God gets the glory, and I
1:15:17
give it to him every day. Every day. I'm starting to move differently,
1:15:25
I'm starting to feel things differently, I'm starting to see things different and
1:15:30
I'm giving God all the glory. I'm giving God and myself all the grace.
1:15:39
I'm loving on me. I'm loving on me so tonight, well tomorrow
1:15:45
morning, when you wake up, wake up, get in that mirror,
1:15:51
and you say, damn, I look good. I'm doing a good job.
1:15:57
Catch yourself on the bad Go buy yourself something nice. Go get that
1:16:02
cup of coffee that you put off getting last week. Go get that cup
1:16:05
of coffee. Go do that. Go by that dress you've been looking at.
1:16:15
Celebrate. I'm seeing and I watch the people on my timeline. I've
1:16:20
seen so many people that have started on their weight lost journey and have lost
1:16:25
weight and look damn good. Even though you look good before, damn you
1:16:30
look good. I'm seeing people go on their journeys. I'm seeing people change
1:16:39
the way they speak, the way they act, the way they dress.
1:16:42
I see you, and I'm proud of you. You're doing a great job.
1:16:48
Don't let anyone else tell you differently. Huh Again, tonight was our
1:16:57
in power hour. Tonight was let's get in courage. So as I bring
1:17:01
this this empowered hour to a close, I want to leave y'all with something
1:17:10
I always do, But I want you to remember this. Here we go,
1:17:19
when everybody it's against you or don't believe in you no more, it's
1:17:24
a lonely feeling. Oh it hurts very badly. I know what that's like.
1:17:30
And look at you with that look and say why don't you try something
1:17:32
else? Why don't you give up? Get away from these people that's in
1:17:39
your life that ain't doing nothing. Get away from people in your life that's
1:17:42
Hayten. Get away from them, Get away from him. If you take
1:17:46
an oak tree seed and you put it in a two foot part, that
1:17:53
seed will never become the oak tree that oak trees are capable of becoming,
1:17:58
because it's get stifled by the two foot pot. Next, check this out.
1:18:03
They never wrong with the sea. See just fail prey to the environment.
1:18:09
Don't you allow your environment to dictate the oak tree that you become.
1:18:15
Ain't time you moved for being normal? They're trying to be exceptional. People
1:18:19
are gonna like this normal people. It makes them feel like it's gonna judge
1:18:24
you. And that's why every true leader they're called weird. They're called eccentric.
1:18:29
When you do the things of real leadership, you're gonna be called strange.
1:18:33
Get strong enough in your own skin that when people laugh at you,
1:18:38
or when they throw stones at you, you keep on going. I respect
1:18:43
any motherfucker that wakes up every day and work. They ass off to live
1:18:47
their life and lifestyle a club and party and hanging out that ain't for me.
1:18:54
I'm gonna be out here running in the hot sun, practicing while everybody
1:18:58
else's clubing and hanging out. You got your focus right. Don't expect people
1:19:02
to understand you. Don't expect it to make sense to anybody. Why you've
1:19:06
got to do this, Why you have got to go, Why you leave?
1:19:11
This is a good job. I'm going they pay you well. I'm
1:19:14
going why. I don't understand. We don't have to. I'm going for
1:19:17
me. This is something I have got to do. How are you going
1:19:21
to make it? I don't know, but I will. The universe responds
1:19:26
to the man or woman that refuses to be denied, because that is your
1:19:30
commitment, that business that you want, that book you want to write,
1:19:34
the dream that you have of controlling your destiny. That is yours. That's
1:19:40
available to you. But you've got to be willing to stand there and fast
1:19:44
disappointment, not have support, feel lonely, doubt yourself, sometimes being rejected
1:19:49
again and again and again, become bankrupt if necessary, again and again and
1:19:54
again, and refuse to turn around until life gives it up. Life will
1:19:59
all ways be, to a large extent, what you make it, not
1:20:02
what circumstances will make of it, not what other people will make of it,
1:20:08
not what other people say it will be, not what the environment will
1:20:11
try and dictate to you, but what you make of your life. So,
1:20:15
when you're uncommon, get ready for the criticism. When you're uncommon,
1:20:17
get ready for the opposition. When you're uncommon, get ready for the common
1:20:20
people not to understand you. If I decided to experience the fear of rejection,
1:20:28
the fear of know the fear of failure, the fear of standing by
1:20:33
myself, the fear of people not liking me, what else is available of
1:20:39
taking a chance, of fear of losing it all? What else is available
1:20:43
to me? People are going to think you're crazy, You don't have nothing
1:20:47
for living in the corner of your pockets. You already taught about living your
1:20:50
dream, and people laughing at you, and they're doubting you. In case,
1:20:57
God's ladies and elemen, let me tell you, I believe it?
1:20:59
Or is like French or not? Is it? The best revenge is massive
1:21:02
success. It's that a kid them with kindness tout you with his success.
1:21:32
Oh so I definitely wanted to leave y'a always something powerful, something encouraging,
1:21:38
something to remember, something to think about when you laid down tonight before you
1:21:42
go to bed. Always remember it's not where your starts how you finish.
1:21:48
Who cares what people say. There's always gonna be someone that's gonna doubt anything
1:21:54
that you could do. Keep believing in yourself, show up for yourself.
1:21:58
Don't worry about anybody else tonight. Like I said, tonight's show was,
1:22:05
it was just how empower hour. I hadn't done in show like this in
1:22:11
a while, and it was time. It was long overdue. Somebody needed
1:22:14
to hear this tonight. Someone needed to know that they're encouraged, that they're
1:22:19
in power, that they're worthy, that they're able, that their loved,
1:22:24
and that God will always provide when you ask. I'm gonna leave you with
1:22:30
this. Pray for patience, Pray for discernment, and pray that whatever God
1:22:36
gives you that he multiplies and then you're able to handle it. But also
1:22:42
love on you a little bit more than what you do. Don't worry about
1:22:45
everybody else, you focus on you. Stop worrying about the quantity and focus
1:22:53
on the quality. And I'm gonna leave you with that. So I again
1:22:59
I want to say, I love of y'all so much again, I'm so
1:23:01
humble that y'll show up for me each and every episode. Goodness, what
1:23:11
can I say? Happy Wednesday. I hope everyone stays safe again. You
1:23:18
can catch a black Girl interrupted. I'm on Instagram, I'm on Facebook,
1:23:21
I'm on Twitter, TikTok, I'm anywhere you listen to your podcasts. I
1:23:28
stream live on YouTube, so if you missed any of the past episodes,
1:23:31
you can always jump on YouTube and catch any of the past episodes. Next
1:23:39
Tuesday. I will next Tuesday, I'm the upcoming episode I am going to
1:23:45
be I don't know. I'm gonna keep that one under wraps. Y'all just
1:23:49
have to stay up tune in for Tuesday nights episode because that might be a
1:23:55
little messy, but who doesn't like a little mess but not necessarily mess see,
1:24:00
but just holding some people accountable us some things that they do. But
1:24:05
anyway, tonight was, like I said, it was I empower our.
1:24:09
I wanted someone to walk away with something. I hope I was able to
1:24:13
leave you encouraged. I hope I was able to empower you. I hope
1:24:16
I was able to uplift you. I hope that you take this and that
1:24:20
I was able to pour into you and and give you some a little must
1:24:26
seed of folk that regardless of whatever it is you put your mind to,
1:24:30
you can do anything through all Christ who strengthens me. I'm proud of you
1:24:39
again. If no one has told you, I'm proud of you. I
1:24:41
see you. We may not interact a lot, but I love you again.
1:24:46
I do all of this because this is what I enjoy doing. This
1:24:50
is my gift that I want to share with you in the world. So
1:24:57
this is why I do this. This is why I said you tonight.
1:25:00
I have to empower, I have to encourage. I have to uplift because
1:25:03
someone needs it. Someone's in a storm right now. But I love you
1:25:09
guys again. Next Tuesday, eight thirty pm Central Time, nine thirty pm
1:25:14
Eastern Time. Again, don't forget to like, share, subscribe, comment,
1:25:19
let me know what you're thought. And on that note, I love
1:25:23
you guys. I hope everyone has a beautiful rest of the night. I
1:25:28
hope the remainder of your week is beautiful. And again I will see y'all
1:25:31
next Tuesday. I love y'all. Good night. Well you know what,
1:25:35
let me not even say by see you later,