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Dr. Kelly Bohnhoff · Postcards to the Universe

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Welcome to Postcards to the Universe with Melissa Capria. Do you believe in magic?
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What if you were told that all you had to do was get a
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little creative and work a magic spell to bring anything you can imagine into your
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life. Here on Postcards to the Universe, we will share manifesting tips,
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postcards, creativity, abundance, and prosperity. Here is your host, Melissa
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Capria. Hey everybody, and welcome to Postcards to the Universe with Melissa,
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Creating a life you crave. It's Wednesday. How's everybody doing. I love
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being here on Wednesdays with you guys, and I always have the most interesting
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conversations and the most interesting guests, and today is going to be that again.
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I have author and her new book is called What's going On with My
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Family? A Roadmap to Healing Trauma, Unlocking your hidden power, and remembering
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what is sacred Doctor Kelly Bonoff. And she's gonna join me in just a
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few minutes. And I'm sure all of you listening can relate, right if
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you have. There's always some family stuff going on, right, We're always
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reliving it too as we get older in our relationship. So we're going to
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talk a lot about that, but I just want to share a little bit
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description you'll know what each show is about. And I hope that you do.
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I am also an author myself, and I have a book titled Postcards
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to the Universe, Harness the Universe's power and manifest your dreams. And in
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my book, I'd like to talk about manifesting. And I'm also a photographer,
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So what I did is I had people create a manifesting postcard like a
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minivision board, and I would photograph it, and when their manifestation on their
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postcard showed up in their reality, I shared their story along with the photo
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that I took of their postcard. And it was so fun putting the book
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together. Let me tell you, I have all these exercises is and I
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have all these fun I would say, like games to do to manifest in
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areas of love or money or for better health your career. So that's the
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way I laid the book out. And the book came out in twenty nineteen,
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right at the end of twenty nineteen, right before COVID and I can't
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believe, like five years. So what I decided I wanted to do since
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I'm coming up to the five year mark is I wanted to take the original
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postcards that were in the book and I rephotographed them and I've been sharing them.
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Each week. I share a thing. I call it a magical message,
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and I take a postcard with an affirmation and I like to share it
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each week. It's just something to put more positivity into the world. And
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that's what I like to share on my social media. So I decided why
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not rephotograph the postcards that were in the book, and I did that,
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And I've also decided why not start reading the book online? So I'm doing
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that also on my social media. I'm breaking them up in small videos five
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minutes. I read the stories, I share the postcards, I talk about
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the book. So if you're interested, stop on by, and if you
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do, stop on buy Instagram, TikTok. I have it on LinkedIn and
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I'm putting them on YouTube. But if you do stop by on Instagram TikTok,
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please let me know that you're there, give me a little like and
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say hi, and share with your friends. I would love it because that
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book, God, you know, it just means so much to me and
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it was so fun putting it together and people's stories are amazing. So,
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like I said, each week, I share a magical Moss message, and
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I rephotographed the thirty postcards that were in the book, and now I'm photographing
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other postcards with the affirmation and a blog post. I'm starting to add blog
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posts to the affirmations that I'm putting out instead of just the image with the
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affirmation on it. And this week says I am an advocate for social justice
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and somebody sent this postcard in and that is what they're working on. So
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we talk about that, and you can see the image that I created on
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all of the social medias or on postcards to the universe dot com. Everything
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is on there, so you can go to everything that I'm doing on there.
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I have a couple of workshops that I'm doing on there too, you
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can check those out. And I keep asking each week for you guys listening
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to send me a manifesting postcard. Please do so. If you have any
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questions, reach out to me. All the information is on postcards to the
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universe dot com along with the address of where to send it. Okay,
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so let me bring out my guests. Let me get to my guest today,
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Doctor Kellybonoff, amidst the world's current trauma. Doctor Kelly Bonoff stands as
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an empathetic guide with a history of childhood adverse adversity and sex trafficking, coupled
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with over thirty five years of expertise as a registered nurse, a licensed marriage
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and family therapist, and she's the co founder of Josephine's Clinic, a nonprofit
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serving those who have experienced human trafficking and violence. She unveils her own spiritual
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awakening in her new book, What's going On with My Family? A roadmap
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to healing trauma, unlocking your hidden power, and remembering what is sacred.
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It is your north star to an extraordinary expedition, a transformative journey that will
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rewrite the story of your family for generations to come together. We embark on
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a quest to unravel the deep seated roots of family trauma, shedding light on
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the unhealthy patterns that have persisted through countless generations. Drawing inspiration from Joseph Campbell's
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The Hero's Journey, we venture into uncharge hearted territory, a realm of growth,
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healing, remembrance, and the awakening of your hidden potential, your sacred
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nature. Prepare for an odyssey of profound self discovery and empowerment that will forever
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reshape your family's destiny. And that sound amazing. It is amazing. So
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if you want to find out more while you're listening, if you can,
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you want to check out our website. It is one Sacredfamily dot com.
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Hi doctor Kelly, thanks so much for being here with me today. Snoopy
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to be here, Melissa thank you for the invictipation. Oh good. So
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why don't you share with us a little bit about your journey and you know
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what made you want to get into this kind of work, because it says
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in your bio that you've had your own spiritual awakening, So can you share
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that with us? Sure? So you know, like most traumatized children,
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parachuted in to a family of my choosing, and there was a lot that
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we wanted to heal. So there's ancestral trauma and karma that the ticket to
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the show was we didn't remember right, so the am rassia when we come
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in. So I jumped in to the family. So I was the first
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born of four and in the early nineteen sixties, and when I was little,
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I kind of jumped into what I call the shark tank of energy.
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And it's that energy we feel around us that's just saturated in fear. Now
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we don't know when we're little that we're in energy or that we are energy.
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And so I had three things that I immediately knew were important. The
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first was to help my mother feel better, to help my father feel so,
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it was to keep my siblings safe. Those were kind of the very
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first things that I knew that were important, and as I got it just
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a little bit older, I start which was why are children being heard by
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both have an opportunity to love them and keep them safe? And it was
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that question that really drove my own curiosity about what we were all doing here,
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especially kind of what was going on in my own family. And what
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I had realized later as I was navigating the vulnerable space was at the age
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of ten, I went on an overnight and because of the adversity childhood,
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I did what many of us do who were in pathic that don't know it.
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I ended up dissociating my mind, body, spirit. So trauma,
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in my view and my experience personally and professionally, is any live event that
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causes shock or distress to the mind, body and spirit to remain in balance.
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And so because of that, immediately of origin, I immediately lost sensive
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connection is my sacred meaning worthy of unconditional love, the devote and reverence Laby
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aged ten right, and I didn't have connection to my what I call inner
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guidance systems. So I'm sure it was screaming at me not to go to
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the overnight, But I went to the overnight and in that connection to the
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overnight, I was what I call caught in a web of unspeakable experiences,
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and what was happening in that particular family was trafficking. Now I didn't understand
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as I walked into that world and that when children are vulnerable. I know
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one of the things in my own energetic imprint was my own safety was less
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important than the safety of others. Others. In other words, it fell
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to me as the firstborn, I had already figured out I really need to
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keep my siblings safe. So those that were in that formally picked up on
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the fact that I would do anything to protect my friend my own siblings.
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So trafficking, the idea of trafficking, it's not really what people understand that
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we see in the media. There is a subtle nuance to this trafficking,
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which is force, fraud, and coersion. You know, there was absolute
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force, the coersion was if you tell anyone will come after your siblings,
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and the fraud was this dance that is done around you are so beautiful,
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you are so low right. So whenever I was caught in the web of
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that particular dynamic, it lasted for another couple of years, and it wasn't
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until I moved from that area that I was able to have any distance from
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it. Now we can imagine though, the intensity of the energy of that
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experience, and it was something that I understood much later in my own awakening,
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that I had chosen to master the energy of. In other words,
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the ancestral trauma around the energy of trafficking was something that my family and I
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had come to heal along with the childhood adversity. And so it was amazing
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for me once I understood that I was energy, my family was energy.
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We are in intelligence, pure love, and sacred energy here having a human
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experience, and that the six of us my mother, father, and the
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four of us myself and three siblings had a plan, and that plan was
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to heal ancestral trauma and karma, and the themes were the themes that I
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did experience, did heal through, and are now holding the energetic for healing
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not just in myself and my family, but anyone who comes within my awareness
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so energetically. That is why I navigated straight into nursing and into marriage and
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family therapy with the specific this was unconscious or subconscious. I didn't realize I
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was not awake until the age of fifty seven, and so it took me
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some time to actually the energy of stubbornness was also something. I was pretty
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stubborn, you know. I was hearing the whispers of take a right,
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I was hearing the whispers of your more than you know, I was hearing
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whispers. But then it kind of got a tap on the shoulder. Then
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I got a hip check. Then I got the shovel to the faith,
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which was finally them I'm here. There's something else going on. And so
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the awakening at age fifty seven now finally allowed me the opportunity to see these
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events from a much higher, much more empowered level. So that is kind
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of the quickest way I know how to give you a buckersticker of the journey.
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Now, interesting you made and I've heard this, I believe this.
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I've had other people say this. You said, the family of my choosing.
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So you made these choices before from your higher self to come into this
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life and to heal those things. So let me ask you, why do
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you think that we would need to deal with something like incest and sex trafficking
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with children? Why would we want to come here on this planet and have
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that, which is so traumatizing. I mean, many of us have had
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trauma as children, but many people have not had to deal with sex trauma
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as a child the way that you've had with your family. Why would we
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why would we want to do that? I mean, I don't know if
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you can answer that question, but maybe you have like an insight because it's
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something you're dealing with. I do, and so I really appreciate the questions.
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I'm in perspective nine. Wait, I'm gonna pause you, doctor Kelly.
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I'm gonna pause you for a second. I'm gonna can you hear me,
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I'm gonna pause you. Yeah, you're going in and out. So
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Chris, let's take our commercial break now, and doctor Kelly, do me
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a favor call hang up and call back in. When we do our commercial.
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Let's do it a little early because I really want to hear this answer.
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Like you start off a little wonky and then you'll come back all right,
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So stay tuned, guys, We're going to get her back on.
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So we paused a little earlier for our commercial break because doctor Kelly, are
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you back? I'm back. We left them with quality. Yeah, it's
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it's weird because it sounds like you'll go a little wonky and then when you
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start talking everything is good again. So I'm just gonna let you talk.
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So I asked you why there's a higher perspective that about the sex trafficking,
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and I'm just gonna let you answer. Go ahead, hopefully hopefully we'll hear
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you not, is it clear? Go ahead? Okay, Well I hope
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so as well. And so it makes sense that from our human perspective,
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as we say, who would who would jump in here to do this?
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Right? There is such pain and from and self survival and we and and
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so perspective that absolutely makes no sense at all. Now imagine coming up,
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we're a bird flying a little higher right in the ear, and we're looking
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at our at our journeys, you know, elabyrinth and our and our higher
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self. The one that is on the other side of awareness that we you
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know, map this out with, is looking and trying to edge us through
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this process, not just as an individual but as a fan. So what
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our families are actually doing here from the highest perspective. And this is the
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prologue where the book starts, and the first line is there was no turning
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back. Now I want you to imagine that billions of souls over eons of
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time, which time is just for us here and human wanted the opportunity to
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balance, to understand this idea of heavy energy and lighter energy, or darkness
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and light, and so we jump in with amnesia and we're like, well,
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this is a canvas that has not been painted yet, so we have
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no idea that we're infinite intelligence, pure love, and sacred energy inside these
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families. Now, all of our families jumped into a certain part of timeline.
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So from the very beginning, when the very first amnesia kind of started
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and we forgot who we were, and where the free will of others started
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to be impacted. And when if you really want to take a race of
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people or humanity and you want to dim down, dial down, and dumb
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down their energy, the very first thing you're going to do is move the
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energy or impact the energy of innocence. So as children are being harmed,
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so we've gone from harm to harmony. So as children who had forgotten who
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they were were taken the power was taken over of their sovereignty. Well,
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that trauma began a long, long time ago, along with other traumas.
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So the greatest wound that humanity is healing is this idea of separation. The
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second is judgment, and then the third is just honoring of self, family,
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others in the world and the natural world. So what is it that
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our families are actually doing here? What in the world with children across So
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trafficking of children is still one of wounds, one of the most ancient wounds
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that were healing. So if you want to bring plus and powerlessness and helplessness
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energy to humanity, we will start with the children. And so what is
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happening here is that eons upon eons of collective and ctrual trauma and karma in
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this lifetime is being healed by the bravest, most brilliant, most beautiful souls
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and all that is that's who our families are. We are the native seals
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of the universe. We have come to heal family trauma forever. So we
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look at it from the perspective of victim of why are our children being hurt?
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That was my question. By those who have an opportunity to love them
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and keep them safe. Our s oracles have been under the end water of
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these heavier energies and are now in the aquarium age page with all the support
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and help we're get from our ancestors, galactic family, family light, all
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the solar energy coming in. We are remembering an awakening to who we truly
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are so that we can alchemize these heavy energies. So why in the world
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would I come in here as doctor Kelly. It's because I knew that my
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first rodeo and most of our families. Okay, this isn't your rodeo.
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You're remembering an awakening and healing the heaviest, densest energy included so that we
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could learn with love. And as we remember and awaken, we heal the
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energy for all times, and that creates a beautiful love energy, which is
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why the human in spirit is the most unique in all that is. We
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are part of a sacred family and to get to this realization, Believe me,
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I'm very relieved you have remembered and awakened because going through that chrysalist energy
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as a recovering caterpillar. Right and now, I'm through that turbulence, and
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now I can bring another level of awareness to people who've made asking why would
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I do this? Why is my family involved in incess trafficking? Violence?
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Excuse me, violence, criminality, whatever, just still in the blank.
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It doesn't matter. We are sacred being having a human experience. Why Because
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we're strong enough peel it, were strong enough to remember and awaken, and
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we're strong enough to use that energy to heal our families forever. Wow.
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Yeah, I never heard anybody describe it like that, but it gave me
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goosebumps when you were saying that, because I if I can make sense of
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it, If I can make sense of it, that helps me make sense
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of it because I am thinking of it with my human brain right and my
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human emotions, not as this higher soul perspective and looking at the healing and
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healing this dense energy. But yeah, thank you. That helps quite a
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lot. Actually, So you talk about something in your book, and you
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talk about these these universal laws that every traumatized adult parent families should know and
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why we should know that. Can you share a little bit more about what
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that is for the people that are listening. Yes, yeah, so I'll
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show the top three universal laws that I noticed in my own life, the
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life of my family, and in all the traumatized children, teens and families
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that had the most impact. And a lot of it has to do with
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we're not aware that we're energy. We're not aware that every thought we think,
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every word we speak, every belief we hold, every emotion we feel,
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and every action we take sends a ripple of energy into the world.
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Now, had anyone shared that with I, say, kindergarten or at home,
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I believe we would certainly be echoing different of energy, right because there's
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our choice to do that. And when we're children, unless trauma has happened
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super early, most children hold on to their natural state of vibration and being
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now and then once we get to preschool, once we get to first grade,
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once you know, by the age of seven ish, we now are
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looking out into the world and we are wanting to survive and conform, and
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we're wanting to please or be perfect or you know, eskeeper or whatever all
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that is. We fall into the roles we chose to navigate through and understand
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the energy of. But the three universal laws that govern us as human beings,
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as sacred beings that we did not know that were impacting us. Were
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these three. The first was the law of oneness, which means that anything
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happening to me, anything I'm feeling, is happening to the entire family.
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We are all interconnected. So where there anybody chooses to talk about what happens
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to them, whatever energy they're holding, it's impacting our family, our keep,
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our society, and the entire world and into the galaxy, into the
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cosmos and all that is so the law of one. We are one.
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There's only one of us here, and we are the facets of personality and
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archetypes and energy of that one having a human experience, all right, And
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so law of one. So again, whether I talk about it or not,
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I am connected to everything and everyone. The second is this cause and
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effect, the universal law of karma. Wow, this is a big one.
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This is the ancestral trauma and karma. And what is karma for me?
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Very simply, it's not punishment. It's any expression of life or lifetime
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that we have which is happening right now. Where I was unkind, unwise,
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unhealthy, or uncaring, and I didn't awakened to my nature in that
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particular expression So the karma here is just me awakening and healing that unloving,
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unkind, unforgiving, so on and so forth that I have experienced in other
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expressions of life in the now of this moment. And so if I am
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being unconsciously subconsciously uncaring, unloving, unforgiving here in this moment of now with
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anyone, including myself, well I'm going to that's going to come around at
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some point, right. And then the third is the law of resonance,
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And what does that mean? This was huge for me. So you are
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you love to talk about the magic and manifesting. Here's what I was doing
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subconsciously. Subconsciously, I had picked up the idea that I was unworthy,
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unlovable, and not enough, and that did not keep me from loving my
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parents. That actually, that was when I stopped loving myself, right,
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And since I am life, I stop loving life. And the minute I
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set that vibration in motion, I am unlovable, unworthy, and not enough.
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And I went out in the world to find all of that and gave
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my power away. Well, what the universe said was oh law of resonance
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and vibration. Okay, So Kelly, you want you want to have more
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unworthy, more unlovable, more not enough, because you want to master the
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energy of that. So I was unconsciously, you know, saying to the
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universe, who doesn't speak human, Hey, just just resonate my vibe.
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Resonate my vibe. So the amount of trauma, more trauma, more trauma,
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more trauma. I was attracting to myself unaware that I am the master
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of energy and creation. So this is the biggest thing that I think is
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important, the oneness, the cause and effect, and the resonance. See,
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our families are drawing toward them everything they do not prefer, and they
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just have no idea that they're doing it. So what my hope is is
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that every family that is becoming more open minded and open hearted, who is
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ready to transform fear, which is the familiar energy, align with resistance to
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freedom. Well, now, once they hear this radio show, once they
32:37
pick up the book, once they hear anything else that goes well, wait
32:38
a minute, is she saying what's she saying? Is she saying I have
32:45
the power? Yes, unlocking the hidden power is your resilience, wisdom,
32:51
and genius that is just waiting, waiting to be reawakened and rediscovered, and
32:59
so our family are sitting on a shift ton The shift is sacred healing of
33:06
individual and family trauma. It's a shift show out there. That's all that's
33:12
really happening. They are sitting on their own potential, but they don't realize
33:20
that that's who they are. And so the mission of my life is to
33:28
share this information so that families can now choose. Individuals can choose their own
33:37
journey. Now, some will choose to stay in the heavy energy, and
33:39
that's okay, that's okay. But what a lot of families are struggling with
33:45
is I don't want to If they're awakening, They're like, well, I
33:47
don't want to leave my mom behind. I don't want to leave my child
33:51
behind. I don't want to leave my animal behind. Like where does the
33:52
vibe come from? Like how where are we all? Are we going together?
33:55
Where are we stricting? What are we doing right? And so that's
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one of the key questions that people ask me all the time is I've got
34:05
generations of family and some are like, I don't I'm staying in caterpillar mode.
34:10
And there are others that say, I'm going into the chrystalis or in
34:14
the chrysalis right now. A lot of the generations of my family are in
34:16
there, and then there's one or two of us that are like, okay,
34:21
we made it through there. Okay, what can we do to allow
34:24
or help others should they want to to discover fear to freedom, if they
34:30
want to be free. The great news is, first of all, we're
34:34
already free. It's just that we didn't realize that yet. So that is
34:40
now the mission for me in this particular expression of life. I've lived actually
34:45
two lifetimes. The first is coming through into the crystalist energy and the second
34:52
life as I went through kind of a life review, that awakening was like
34:55
in your best experience. Now in this second portion of the show, I
35:00
have an opportunity to stand in my sacred sovereignty and the heaven on earth that
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people actually are hoping for. Well, I have an opportunity to live that
35:12
now every moment of every day, and I just want families and individuals to
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know they can too. They absolutely can. Yeah. Oh that was a
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beautiful explanation, by the way, Thank you so much for that. And
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I love that you said the universe doesn't understand human That makes so much sense.
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Can I use that because I love not the universe understand human because that's
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what I tell Like, I say this a lot. My part of the
35:42
journey is the fun part, right, It's the getting into the playfulness and
35:46
the creativity. But you have to do the deep end of work before you
35:49
can start manifesting those things you want. Because a lot of us stay in
35:53
a victimhood, right, So if your energy is victim then you're going to
35:58
have more reasons to be victimized because you're attracting it and you're thinking, oh,
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I'm cursed. God doesn't love me. No, that's not what it
36:06
is. It's that you keep telling the universe, Yeah, victimize me,
36:09
victimize me, victimize me. Some more situations come up for that to happen
36:13
to you. And we understand that those of us who have done a lot
36:16
of the deep inner work, and by the time they come to my door,
36:20
it's like, Okay, we've already worked on all that stuff. Let's
36:22
get to the fun stuff. Let's get to the magic, let's get to
36:25
the play let's get to manifesting what we really want. But I talk about
36:30
in the book and other shows, you know, you really have to find
36:35
someone if you need help to work with that can help you clean that up,
36:39
to help you go inside and see what it is that you are still
36:46
vibrating at, Like, are you vibrating at victimhood? Are you are you
36:52
always complaining? Are you always do you always have a problem? Is there
36:57
always an issue? Are you in a pain? Is there unresolved trauma?
37:00
Which is your specialty? Right, So we need to clean those things up
37:06
so that we can go and come out the other side for the second half
37:09
of the life that we want. And yeah, you really really described it,
37:15
really really nice. Thank you for that. Again, So do you
37:22
believe, since it's the ancestry that in these roles that you were maybe a
37:28
perpetuator in previous existences, in previous lives and so this time you chose to
37:36
be the receiver of the trauma. Do you feel that that is how it
37:40
works when you say in family, DNA and the ancestry of the family,
37:45
right. And so the way I have been able to understand this so far
37:51
as I'm also a masterpiece in the making, is that when in order to
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truly the freedom for me, really it really helped for me to stand in
38:06
a neutral space, which means as a master of energy and creation. Of
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course, I would have delved into the deepest, darkest part of energy,
38:16
which means I have been there's a terrorist in us, all right, right,
38:22
And I've also been to the lightest and the highest levels of energy,
38:28
right. And so to understand the totality of all of the duality of dark
38:34
and light and all the roles and spectrum of that in between, I have
38:39
experienced those those roles in order to deepen my compassion, in order to deepen
38:47
my additional love and forgiveness and things like that. And so when I see
38:52
the world right now, I see the world as a kaleidoscope, or if
38:59
you think of it as we're the largest eight point five billion improvisational troop of
39:06
all time, right, We're all a perspective of a particular combination of archetypes,
39:12
the light attributes and the shadow attributes. And that's really important because we
39:16
want to understand all of that, and the divine Creator wants to understand itself
39:22
through the lend of what it means to be human. And so as I
39:27
look at what's happening in our world with wars, or with governments, or
39:31
with systems of economics and technology and whatever, all that is you see,
39:37
I see it all as an expression of love, just at different energetic vibrations.
39:44
So the thing that really freed me was non judgment, acceptance of all
39:52
that is as it is in the now, trusting in divine love, divine
39:57
timing, and divine order, so everything is just as it needs to be,
40:04
so that everyone is a sovereign being can have the experience they chose.
40:08
And for those who are serving as contrast to what we do not prefer,
40:15
whether it's a person, a place of thing, a situation, circumstance,
40:19
or condition, they are souls holding the contrast, and their role is as
40:25
important. And so to send unconditional love to every soul in whatever role and
40:31
energy they're in, has freed me from any concern about anything. Hmm.
40:42
That's good. I mean that is hard to do. So it's amazing that
40:46
you have been able to facilitate that. Because when you see, or you
40:52
know, or you have a personal experience with somebody who does horrible, painful
40:58
things and hurts others, to send them on conditional love is shows me,
41:05
or tells me, and tells all of us listening how much evolution you have
41:09
done personally and all of us really need to do to elevate the energy of
41:16
the whole planet, because when we all do that on an individual basis,
41:20
then the world will change. Right. We know this, We know that
41:23
that's how it works. We can't change anyone else. All we can do
41:27
is change ourselves and then the ripple effect happens. So, speaking of that,
41:31
what have you noticed in your own family since you started implementing all the
41:37
practices that you share in your book, right, So that's interesting because the
41:45
fir thing that I learned to do is to stay in my own lane to
41:52
know thyself, which took a while to not say a word to anyone about
41:57
my own journey because it ended up being that my vibration was what kind of
42:04
turned people in my direction as it related to well, what's going on with
42:07
you? You seem happier. So I'm someone who explored the energy of addiction
42:14
to uh alloids call uh parbohydrates, purchases at every addiction you can imagine,
42:22
and like, well, what are we doing now? Because you look really
42:24
great. So rather than me sharing anything with anyone, I just did my
42:30
thing people kind of the energy kind for itself everything, and I did for
42:37
forty we also as came to heal some things, and we set an intention
42:45
three years ago to go into our families where boats we came from high which
42:51
me and we we really didn't like spending time with our families. We moved
42:54
far away from our families, and so we turned back into the direction of
43:00
our families with intentions paying attention and taking inspired action to sit in the discomfort
43:08
of those reunions or holiday parties or whatever it was, to see how far
43:15
we had come in the journey and to see what still needed to be healed
43:17
for us, Because our family members are just mirrors for our own inner self,
43:23
and so what we noticed going in there was as we became stronger and
43:28
knew ourselves and loved ourselves, we held the energy within those environments, and
43:34
we started to notice that our families felt safer to begin to speak about things,
43:40
not everything, but something. And so for the last three years,
43:44
what we've noticed is we enjoy now being together. There has been quite a
43:50
bit of family healing. Parts of our families grew more constricted in their energy.
43:57
Other parts of our families became more expanded, and when they were interested
44:02
in expanding, then I noticed they would call me or they would ask me
44:07
questions when we're together that they wouldn't have asked three years ago, mostly because
44:12
I wasn't awake myself. So that's what we've noticed. We've noticed that we
44:19
are healing, which is honoring the energy aligned with love that is heal and
44:24
then we just intention, attention inspired action, and it's healed the marriage for
44:31
my husband and I, healed our families who for those who are ready,
44:37
and we just live much more joyfully. We have two granddaughters too, those
44:43
are our guides on the side six and four. And what the energy of
44:47
our littles that is coming in is off the charts. I mean, it's
44:52
just beautiful to see their wisdom, genius, and resilience shining through their souls
45:00
at such a young human age. M Oh yeah, that makes a lot
45:06
of sense. Now, do you notice that with some family members there was
45:14
a separation because they weren't ready for the expansion. So maybe as there some
45:19
people that you aren't speaking to at all or you have no human connection with
45:24
them any longer. Well, it's interesting because my second sister, who we
45:30
have been struggling since Sandbox, just called me in the last week and so
45:37
I'm in my sixties now and she's in her late fifties, and we finally
45:42
had that moment of healing. And so this is the shift in the energy.
45:50
But here's what I would say. If your family members seem to be
45:55
navigating the heavier energy, there are three reasons for that that I've discovered so
46:00
far. The first reason, excuse me, is that their soul has chosen
46:07
to stay in that energy to learn, and so we have we can We
46:14
can choose to honor their sacred sovereignty. We don't know their sole contract in
46:20
blueprint. We can't possibly know that, but what we can do is choose
46:23
to see them as the sacred and sovereign, which means their soul and their
46:28
higher self knows what they're doing, so we're gonna just love them where they
46:32
are. The second reason that someone may be navigating the heavy g is because
46:42
they have already learned everything they need to learn, but they're holding the contrast
46:46
for you or for someone else in the family, so their higher ideal is
46:54
well, well, I kind of even though subconsciously they're still in the heavy
46:59
energy. They're high. Yourself is saying, no worries, I knew I
47:01
was going to come in the whole contrast for the members of the family,
47:06
and I'm going to be as difficult as I can be because I want to
47:13
awaken everybody else. That's the second reason. And the third leton would be
47:20
playing in the energy of jet resentment. Blame victim la la narcissists. I
47:28
hear a lot about narcissism. Yeah, everybody, Yo, everybody is using
47:36
the energy of that for some reason. But I think it's because everybody's kind
47:38
of ready to heal it. But the third reason would be that the person
47:45
as a human and their sacred nature is so anchored in the unconscious and subconscious
47:52
energies that's really afraid, the fear that the familiar energy aligned with resistance,
47:59
the collective consciousness. They are so afraid of what it might mean to be
48:05
powerful, to be sovereign, that they will double down on I'd rather stay
48:12
in Plato's cave. I'd rather just you know, be distracted and stay on
48:15
my tech and just be in my routine because I feel safest here. So
48:22
for those particular souls, what I notice is there, I'll call it terror
48:29
and anguish without leisure is so deep, and the ancestral trauma and karma that
48:35
they have a mass is so wide that it's just it's really difficult. Now.
48:43
I believe in miracles, though, I believe in magic, and I
48:46
believe in I believe in divine intervention. And so for those particular souls,
48:58
here's what I believe in the visions and that I'm having for humanity right now
49:01
is that there is no soul left behind. Everyone is exactly where they're meant
49:08
to be. And so me staying in my own lane and sending a conditional
49:15
love to everyone to ease their journey. Whatever it is they decided to do,
49:21
it's perfect for them, and they're just serving as a mirror for me.
49:25
That's it now. Oh now I'm free. Now, I'm even freer
49:30
than I was a moment ago, right, And so it's dancing in the
49:36
idea of freedom that I'm having such a good time in right now. And
49:39
it's what I want to just infuse into the collective consciousness so that everyone understands
49:47
the possibility and potential here is limitless. It's just a matter of what you
49:54
choose. Just turn, just turned gently in the direction of dream, and
50:00
it is there waiting for you and your family. Okay, that's I love
50:08
that. So what would you recommend for anybody listening. You have a family
50:14
member. Let's say there's one particular person who is playing living out that role
50:20
and they're very abusive and they're bullying other members of the family. But you
50:25
can't, you know, remove yourself completely because of the family dynamics. How
50:31
do you deal with that? How do you deal with that? Because I
50:36
don't want to be I'm just using myself as an example. I'm not saying
50:38
I'm just saying for me personally, like I don't want to be the kind
50:42
of person that would be the receiver of that energy. While I'm sending them
50:45
love to heal themselves. But still I'm being abused, you know what I
50:50
mean. Like, you're like, so what do you do? What would
50:52
you do? And that's it? Or how can we deal with that?
50:55
Right? So this is a beautiful question because I had to do this very
51:01
thing with my own father. Okay, so I have personal experience with this
51:07
dynamic. So here's what I did. The very first thing I had to
51:13
do was and I did it in a very chaotic way. I had to
51:15
rip myself out of the dynamic. In other words, I had to say
51:20
we're done this thing right here, because as a human being, the very
51:25
first most important boundary is your safety, your mental, emotional, physical safety,
51:34
right right. And so I didn't live anywhere near him, so that
51:37
wasn't the issue. But if you are what I'm saying, and if you're
51:42
of age, right, the very first thing is you you kind of instinctively
51:45
know something else is going on here, but I don't know what it is,
51:49
but I need time to figure it out. So the very first thing
51:51
is get yourself to safety. Right now, you're still confused and disoriented though
51:58
you don't know what's going on because I had no idea who I was if
52:00
I wasn't the firstborn daughter of this father, right, So now I've got
52:06
to figure out what am I going to do? So I did three things
52:08
initially that helped me. This was after the awakening process, okay, where
52:15
I understood there was something else hire going on here. But the very first,
52:19
the very first thing I did was I did something I had never done
52:22
before, which was I asked for help from others that were professionals kind of
52:30
guides on the side. And I also asked for help in the non physical
52:35
So I prayed for help please help me. I had no idea what that
52:38
looked like, but I asked for help. Then I had to own my
52:43
BS, which was my belief system, okay, and I had to ask
52:47
myself what do I believe? And I didn't know because I had taken on
52:52
everybody else's belief. So I had to start from scratch. So I asked
52:59
believe BS on my BS, on my shift, what do I believe?
53:02
And I started that work and then receive. So now I had to do
53:07
something that was very painful for me as someone who had been in the dark
53:14
for so long, which was receive. How do I receive love from anyone?
53:21
Because I didn't trust love whatever love was, someone was trying. I
53:24
couldn't accept a cup of coffee from my husband in the morning without breaking into
53:29
tears. Why is someone being kind to me right now? So I had
53:34
to learn to receive, so ask for help, believe that the help is
53:39
right there, and be willing to have the courage. This is the turning
53:44
point to receive the information. And I did that with intention, attention,
53:52
and inspired action, not impulsive action. It took me quite a long time
53:59
to to understand what inspired action was versus taking a drink, eating a doughnut,
54:05
and hitting the one click button. Okay, it took me a long,
54:09
little journey, little journey, no, no thyself. So that's as
54:15
fast as I can tell you what it is that I did. Very It
54:20
sounds simple, but I got to tell you it was showing up every day
54:22
for myself first, because I couldn't. I had no idea who I was,
54:28
no idea. Wow. Yeah, no, that's very very helpful.
54:34
Yeah, that is very helpful because I'm sure a lot of people listening can
54:37
resonate with that. You know, they know and they're the family. There's
54:40
someone or some a few people in the family that really you know, you
54:45
have to you have to if you're if we're healing the family, the generations,
54:50
and we're healing this, then we have to do the work. And
54:52
you have to do it inside yourself first and then it will it will resonate
54:57
out. So, doctor Kelly, we only have a minute left. Is
54:59
there anything that you want to say and let people know the best way to
55:04
find you and get your book. Sure, let me end with this.
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Within every traumatized family, there lies a hidden power, a sacred potential waiting
55:17
to be awakened and remembered. You can find me at one Sacred family dot
55:24
com. May you and your family remember who you truly are today. Hmm,
55:36
that's beautiful. Thank you, And yeah, check out her book.
55:38
I mean it's pretty amazing. What's going on with my family? A Roadmap
55:43
to Healing Trauma. Thank you so much, doctor Kelly. I think for
55:46
the most part you sounded good. We had a few little blips there,
55:51
but overall we could hear you lad and clear, and it was such a
55:53
pleasure. All right, everyone, thanks for listening to Postcards to the Universe
55:58
with Melissa creating life. You brave and I'm wishing everyone a wonderful week filled
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with joy, abundance and love. Peace,