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Redefine SUCCESS to become truly UNSTOPPABLE Interview with Vanessa Proirier · Terri Messenger's Genius Zone

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Hello and welcome to this week's edition of Terry Messengers,
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genius zone. I'm really excited tonight.
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Because I have an amazing woman. This is a woman who is all about
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mindset and emotional Mastery. Now, why is this lady?
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So passionate about mindset and emotional Mastery, where you're
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going to find out in just a moment, but she has a background
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in HR and she has worked in corporate world in the
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proportion. Professional field with
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financial background. Wow, that's amazing.
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I could certainly use some of her tips and tricks in that and
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she also knows the way to utilize and develop corporate
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women and high-achieving mothers so they can reclaim and revive
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who they are. So this Ation and Revival Zona
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genius that you're going to hear right here on this podcast is
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brought to you by a beautiful woman.
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Her name is Vanessa, and she's going to teach us her whole
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sequence to where she came before, she came into the online
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space and how she was able to redefine success to become true.
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Be unstoppable. So with no further Ado, let's
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bring on Vanessa. Hi, Vanessa, how are you?
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Oh, Terry, I'm great. Thanks for having me today.
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You are absolutely welcome. So tell the audience, where
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abouts are you located? I am actually in Winnipeg
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Manitoba Canada. Whoo, so it's a little chilly
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over there. Oh, very chilly.
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Well, I don't mean to to go to the opposite Spectrum but we're
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about 36 degrees here in Australia.
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That's literally the opposite Sergio.
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It really really is so Vanessa you know you've obviously come
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from a background where you were doing HR professional and you
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know working with the financial what actually made you step into
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the online space? Ice.
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Yeah, definitely, we can talk about that I guess giving you
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some background about that story.
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So I just was at the point that success felt in possible as a
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mother at my last job, I had four different managers in about
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five years and two babies over that time.
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And every time I had a baby, I felt I needed to restyle push
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myself and My worth to each of these new managers and I was
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going nowhere and my career and I felt like my growth was
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stunted. I was drained between.
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Yeah, proving my worth again to the new manager.
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Each new one and coming back and just trying to be a mom.
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And I just felt like I was didn't know where my trajectory
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is going to go. Like I still had this passion
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that I wanted to be part of something and work.
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Right for my family, right? And I was disempowered and it
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didn't feel like I had any more driver motivation in the career
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in my career growth and then through this.
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So I'm coming at my first baby came back and then I had my
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second baby and the pandemic hits and then my my father
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suddenly passed away through the pandemic and I was completely
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Stopped in my tracks, I started crocheting, what the meaning of
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life was, what kind of success in my really chasing here, the
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relationship I had with my father was a Rocky one.
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I kept saying one day will will become close again.
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It was just one day and I put a lot of my energy and to fixating
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on the future. And when things will become
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better again, when I'll get that break and So I'm in this, yeah,
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I'm in this big kind of Awakening where the pain of
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continuing in this grind, and hustle pressure responsibilities
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and relationships were too much to bear.
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I had no choice to stop looking outside of myself and I turned
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inwards. It really slow down.
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Really truly wanted to fix myself because I didn't want to
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go Keep moving forward and all the pain, right?
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So I joined a meditation group, slow down, got some coaching,
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and some guidance and grounded into my True Values.
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I got really clear on that. Got clear on my true vision and
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opened up my mindset to the new possibilities and really
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conquered all my fears into courage.
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Wow, that's amazing. And, you know, it's why I
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believe to like I hear So many people that are measurable in
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the corporate world in their jobs.
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And, you know, personally, Vanessa I'm not disciplined
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enough to be in a job where I have to answer to somebody who I
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don't get along with or I don't align with or where my values
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are not being served. I just couldn't get out of bed
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for that kind of thing. So, I know that there are so
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many other people out there that are really in that same position
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where they're, you know, they're feeling like they're on on that,
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you know, grinding wheel where they're not having that
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fulfillment, they truly want. But I am absolutely sure that
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when your father passed that must have been a big wake-up
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call for you. Did you kind of like did that
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kind of give you a whole different perspective?
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Spective of life and what you wanted and how you were going to
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go forward, 100% because I'm such a anxious person and I
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really always like look forward to the next thing and the next
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thing. And like I said I was always
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waiting one day will repair a relationship and then The time,
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just it just happened way too fast.
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It was out of my grasp and then he also passed away.
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It was suddenly and he was also very young too and it just it
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didn't make sense. And I just realized also just
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how precious time is and that's something we come into
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motherhood as well, alright? So you just realized how you
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have no time for yourself. And how are you?
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Yes, it's done. And how are you going to get to
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your next level? It's very precious.
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It is indeed. Absolutely.
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And, you know, there's that element to where I hear that,
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you were living in the future. And this is something that's
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very typical, especially in young people's lives.
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And I remember being a young mum, and I mean, sometimes, when
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you're not in your, you know, core, sole purpose, you tend to
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kind of look to the Future almost for that, you know, that
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spark in your life to help you to move forward.
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It was you doing really, I know this from my own personal
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experience anyway is chasing after the wind because you're
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you're not really living in the present.
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So it sounds to me that, you know, you've learnt a lot about
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how to come into the presence and and enjoy this moment
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because I guess this moment is the greatest moment will ever
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have. But tell me how have you?
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Managed to get yourself through or have you even got through the
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fact that you always wanted to repair that relationship with
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your father, even though he is your senior.
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Even though he brought you into the world even though, like if
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you're looking at it from a logical human being sent, it
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would almost make sense that, you know, our parents would make
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and want to have that. That closure and that Kind of, I
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guess that, that, that ability to come together but obviously
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you have been given some really wisdom wise cards where you've
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gone. Well, if this is what I have to
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do, that's what I want to do, but you obviously thought it
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through a lot. You obviously thought about
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making amends with your father in some way and then obviously,
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when he passed, how How did you actually bring that into
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fulfilling that mission? Yes.
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So grieving obviously happens it's continuous it's a journey
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but it it's basically taking layers off of the onion.
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You just you take a little bit by little bit.
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I went dive into it. Little ones because it's a lot
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to handle, but that's what I did.
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I just was more open to receiving the lessons and truly
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looking at myself and where I could have, what I could have
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done differently, what he could have done differently and
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finding some compassion in all of that.
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Because it's obviously, in the new Dynamic, like, you had
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mentioned, he's my Father and I have the child, right?
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There's there's just this part of us that wants wants them to
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make the right decision but and do the work and come forward.
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But there's there's parts of me that I ruminate about and oh, I
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could have done this and I should have done that.
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And the thing is, at the end of the day we can only Go as deep.
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And as far as we can to the level of emotional Mastery that
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we have within ourselves. So I was only able to love them
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as much as I love myself and saying with him, and now that I
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have met myself deeper, I Have compassion for who I was before
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and who I am now and it couldn't have been any other way.
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And I was the last person and it's beautiful within itself.
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And I'm still hold no matter what.
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Absolutely. You are in Jade II do believe
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every chapter of our life is you know call to be and so exactly
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how everything happened and how everything evolved is, how it
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was supposed to be. Now it's really interesting to
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Vanessa that you already have with the universe made that
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contract to have actually finalized and and bra.
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What that relationship into fullness with your father
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because it was done by your intention, right?
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So the fact that it was there the universe heard it guess what
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isn't it? Great to know the good news is
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that you know your father moving on and Beyond he would feel and
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he would know that intention in his infinite power of you know
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having gone to the next world. That's my belief anyway, I'm not
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sure what your thoughts are. Ron that.
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But, you know, Spirit, Never Dies, right?
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100% going with you. I like the love.
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I have for him now and the compassion.
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It is just, it's so much deeper and it's just beautiful.
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And that's the memory I hold with me.
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Mmm, and you know, when I'm dealing with clients and some of
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them have got some absurd stories that are almost
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seemingly humanly unforgivable. And yet even when You can bring
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them to that point of going back and really looking at, hey look,
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what's the purpose? Because even with myself, you
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know, I understand that the reason I do what I do and the
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reason I'm so passionate about what I do is because I felt a
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conviction through my own pain and my own pain that stemmed
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from that little girl. Girl that didn't feel loved or
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didn't feel good enough or didn't feel adequate who was you
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know had that always sort of walked around with that kind of
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inner feeling of being fundamentally flawed.
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And you know, when I look at it that's where my conviction Rose
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from. Where I know that when you've
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suffered something where you feel so bad about yourself at
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that level, Aware in my case it was that I felt so
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insignificant. I felt like you know I wasn't
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good enough. I wasn't smart enough, I was the
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black sheep. You know I was like the person
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that was cast aside so that's what made me come to that
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decision. Where I said I drew a line in
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the sand and I said you know what every single person on this
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planet deserves to be important and discover there's our genius
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and that's where I find most people's zone of Genius comes
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from. So when you looking at your
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emotional Mastery of where you've converted over from
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corporate into the coaching space, can you tell us about
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some of the elements that you are really wanting to gift to
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the world? Yes, definitely.
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So the in my past life and also anyone that works in corporate
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can identify with us, we put we put walls up right?
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We don't let people in as much and we're not and by doing that
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we're not truly being authentic or not being Artful yourselves.
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And that's the key to your happiness is showing up fully
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joyfully and not exactly like not having That wall of like it
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comes down to connection and that's our humanness, right?
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And so for me, I had this hat, I was wearing, I was HR
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professional, I had to keep business separate from getting
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to know my employees and my managers to deeply and it didn't
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want to have those lines crossed over.
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And now I realized if I had gone back, if I go back I go back at
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the corporate world like that would be my strength, actually.
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Lee, that's all really good. Feed is by connecting with
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people in a deeper level, and I see that now I was in my own way
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but you can only get as far as, you know, yourself.
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So I had to yeah, myself on a deeper level and go into the
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underworlds and really feel my pain and embody that to, yeah,
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come through and be able to feel it all.
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And now I'm open to it all and I feel like I feel Unstoppable,
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but I mean, well, that's amazing.
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And I can understand why you would feel Unstoppable because,
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you know, if you've been locked into that mindset and I have to
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say that I've seen this happen to people.
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In fact, the story is so fresh, it's like hours ago where I had
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a woman who was sharing something with me and and she
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was in this bind where the person that was trying to tell
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her what to do happened to be, not only her sister-in-law, but
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the person who was paying her every week, so it was almost
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like she was being, you know, almost you know, passive and not
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actually stating her truth or her boundaries because she was
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in fear of losing Job. And then there was this whole
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money situation of will, you know, if I don't do the right
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thing that I'm going to, you know, I'm going to lose my job.
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I'm going to miss out on where I am now and yet I'm hearing
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someone like yourself saying if only I could have owned myself I
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could have gone back and I could have actually you know Heard
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some of those things and connected with people, just as I
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wanted and yet it was all supposed to happen, right?
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So you're obviously called to really speak to these women that
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are in the corporate world, who may be really caught up in that
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kind of a almost sabotaging block where they're not being
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true to themself. So what would you say to that
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woman who perhaps? Isis is not allowing her real
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self to come through and is kind of subordinate, if you will into
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that kind of corporate world. I think the key to me was really
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the slowing down. You can't catch yourself in your
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mind and your thoughts. And there's just this underlying
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right bitterness resentment. Guilt and shame.
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And you, you don't catch it because your mind is just it's,
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it's racing all the time and you just You're just frustrated or
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angry, or overwhelmed with it, right?
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You just loving grinding every day, right?
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And the biggest thing is to slow down.
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Start becoming aware of your thoughts, aware of your
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feelings, just needing the feeling.
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And, like that's the biggest step to start to create change
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is creating that awareness around the mind, and once we
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start being able to identify those things because I couldn't
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even, I could even identify some of my Looks like it took me a
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long time to figure out that I was angry.
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For example, I didn't, I didn't know anger lived inside me to me
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that was like, and for women at the taboo kind of feeling you
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can't show anger, right? We're seems very masculine
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Almost, Doesn't it? Yes.
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Like we're not allowed to that's the whole societal thing and the
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good girl kind of persona especially in the corporate
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world and so when you slow down, And are able to notice the mind
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and notice the thought and not identify with it, and just
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realize, this is your programming.
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This is just these are just learned behaviors and that is
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not really you. This that separation is key and
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it's integral to realize you are, just observing the thought,
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you are who you are is so much holier-than-thou.
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How the mind is working. And when we create that
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separation, we don't identify with it.
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And then we can start to break it down.
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And hence why I call myself a mindset, emotional Mastery
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coach, is we start breaking down the mindset, the thoughts and
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the feelings, and then we start embracing those because the key
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to your freedom is embracing the feeling and allowing it to be
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here and it only takes 90 seconds to Feel an emotion and
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for it to let past but so many of us are just holding onto so
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much energy and once we feel it, we free it.
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Yeah. Yeah.
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And I think that's a big, you know, gold nugget right there.
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Is that people are just doing these patterns and feeling this
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pain and then, you know, getting out of it or turning to alcohol
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or turning to food or turning to And they're not understanding
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that actually if they embrace it and they become aware of what is
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actually happening. It's true.
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It's such a massive part of emotional Mastery.
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So, you know, obviously turning the biggest fears into that
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identity. Can you tell us how you were
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able to really identify your You're in a woman through having
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come through you know losing your father being in the
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corporate world, becoming a mother, tell us about what your
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journey was from where that was where you actually made that
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change and had a breakthrough, what actually happened for you.
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I was home with the Breakthrough, just a sec here.
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So yeah, I just had my second baby.
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He's about three months old when my father passed away and so I
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was not sleeping because you're doing 22R feedings at that time.
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So I took me a while to kind of really get some space to feel,
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The Grieving that I was going through.
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But I joined a meditation group because it was just too much to
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bear. I think of when he was about
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five months old and so I just I started building myself all
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well. Eyes had to two young babies and
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I would do these meditations and meet with people after my baby
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account of bed and I would just do an hour and just start just
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being with myself and just just feeling my my inner power and I
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started to feel into the body. And that's where everything is
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held, just finding that, that life force and identifying.
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And I think that's what the meditation brought for me, is
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locating it and realizing that there was something more.
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Yeah, I mean, you know, Joe dispenza says that, you know,
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meditation is that You know, that that it's the gateway to
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rewiring and re-firing your mindset.
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And what would you say to the busy mother who perhaps is also
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working? Because, you know, sometimes
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life can be. So incredibly busy people can be
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on the go that they don't know how to slow down.
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Do you have any tips on how that woman, you know, that perhaps
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doesn't know a lot about meditation?
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Like how They can really tap into their inner world and you
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know put themself into that state of so that they are
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empowering them self through meditation.
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Yeah definitely so meditation as well.
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I'm just going to add that it allows you to slow down and it
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actually resets your nervous system and that's such a big
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component of the type of mothers that I work with.
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There's just so much anxiety and grinding it.
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And all that. So, by simply like the
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meditations, I do literally 10 minutes a day, is all you need.
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And just a little habit that make big changes and that's
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basically what I am. All about is small habits to
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make change. So when you're slowing down,
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you're just coming back to the breath to that life, force
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energy and And just being with yourself and by doing that too,
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that's a big component is just being aware of the thoughts and
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it starts to create separation because you're just noticing the
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thoughts. And we always said, notice the
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thought and just let them fall down, like, snowflakes just
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continue to put, right? And it just it's really calming
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and then when you have that for yourself, you know, you can
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always come back to it and I think by By slowing down, some
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meditation, the nervous system coming, back to yourself, it
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creates safety, and that's such an important component to
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working with, with these women is, it's always safety first,
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right? We gotta create that safety
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within the body within the mind. In order to, to get to the
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deeper stuff that wants to be felt.
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Absolutely 100%. And so isn't it?
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It's good, you know, for these women to be able to hear that,
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you only need 10 minutes a day. When do you recommend it?
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That's done. Ideally, So from you, my
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meditation teacher always recommended doing it first thing
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in the morning because you're still kind of in that Alpha
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State and you can really you can really grasp it a lot faster.
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But but I had just had a baby and it just wasn't working with
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my schedule. So if you're a new mother, you
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just do it when you can. And for me it was definitely
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just doing it at night and even doing it at night.
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After I put the baby to bed that golden 10 minutes of peace,
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Especially. Yeah, it was just have some time
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for myself and that's such a big component of self-care, right?
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Like, and it's difficult to find that as a mother.
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Like if you fight ten minutes to be with yourself, right?
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That's literally all you need than that, small habit, that
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small change will make such a difference in your life because
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and anytime kids, get out of hand or life is stressful, you
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could come back to that party. I feel like I'm still here,
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absolutely. And I think you've really nailed
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it by saying it's just those, you know, that small, you know,
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amount of time every day because there are so many people,
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they'll write these big long, ambitious lists and they'll set
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all of these unattainable goals and because they can't do it,
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they beat up on themselves, and they don't even start the list
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because they've overestimated, It.
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Whereas if you're saying well hey I'm going to do one little
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thing every single day. I know that some of the greatest
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gurus will say when you can stick to the one thing and just
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make it really simple and do something that, you know, is
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going to be easy. And even in a way where it might
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be that, hey, if you didn't get around to doing it first thing
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in the morning, it's okay, don't beat up on you.
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If I think that's another magic Little Nugget right there
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because so many people will say I didn't get to the gym or I
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didn't do that. It doesn't matter.
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But if you kind of say, well, there's always a new now.
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So what about if you were able to, you know, even walk onto the
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grass and actually remove your shoes and let the soles of your
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feet. Just Connect into Mother Earth
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and just stand there in Mother Earth and feel that connection,
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right? And just breathe deeply.
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I mean, even that has got to be a great thing, right?
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Oh yes, I love grounding with. That's the best feeling it
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really really is. So tell us about maybe what the
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woman because I know you do deal with women.
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I mean obviously this is a show where we have men and women but
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I know I for you because you're dealing with that corporate
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woman that mother that busy woman.
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What can she expect when she does come into your program?
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What can she expect to receive say on the other side?
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When she comes through? What she going to be feeling?
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Like what are some of the you know, things that she's going to
31:54
recognize and really experience? Yes.
32:00
So my my 121 package and how I work with people, it's all
32:08
tailored to the person, but generally flows, the same kind
32:11
of way. We would build your meditation
32:16
practice, like I said, just 10 minutes a day, you fed it where
32:19
it fits for you, because we really want to slow down the
32:24
nervous. System creates safety within the
32:26
body, and the mind. And I'm all for the meditation
32:32
practice and then through that, we would meet to have coaching.
32:38
Usually weekly might be bi-weekly whatever we decide
32:42
works for us. We start creating awareness and
32:46
this is the mindset coaching will create awareness of your
32:51
thoughts of the patterns, New Perspectives and then we ground
32:58
that through Acceptance. So you're creating the awareness
33:05
of the burnout, the feelings avoidance typically.
33:11
And then we ground into acceptance.
33:14
We find our self compassion and new ways of feeling and seeing
33:20
things. And then we spring into aligned
33:23
action. So, that's what we were talking
33:26
about in the building, the new, that sounds good.
33:30
Yeah, I suppose for the woman who's feeling burnt out and
33:35
exhausted, there's that element of being drained when they're
33:39
not even exercising. So they're just, you know,
33:42
mindfully drained because they're, they're really, they're
33:46
in congruent, aren't they? They're just not aligned with
33:49
their values. And so life feels like it's
33:52
pressured and it feels hard but it's interesting when you
33:58
totally can Ditch and dissolve and let go and release and
34:04
really learn how to come in and Center yourself and get that
34:10
whole nervous system. So it's cleared and purified and
34:15
operating how the energy returns in so much, abundance.
34:22
So, tell us about the activation.
34:24
What are you doing? When you're taking that woman
34:27
now? So you taking them from the
34:29
bird. Burnt out feeling drained
34:31
feeling like they haven't perhaps been setting their you
34:35
know their truth their boundaries and obviously getting
34:39
them to recognize it and become aware of who they are and maybe
34:44
even become into that confidence of speaking their truth.
34:50
What do they do once? They really in that level?
34:54
How do you activate them or what do they do moving forward?
35:00
Yes. So through working together and
35:03
coaching we get really clear on your true desires and your true
35:08
vision and when you know who you are and where you're going that
35:14
really stands in your confidence and your conviction of of who
35:20
you are and therefore you're able to create the boundaries
35:24
and less than the bird out because you know, where the line
35:29
is And through that we transform all the Judgment criticism into
35:34
self love and compassion and release all the Brokenness, the
35:40
unworthiness. And we activate your presence
35:45
and your, and you embody your personal power.
35:51
And I think from that fear, where there was that fear of
35:55
failing, that fear of being rejected, and You know, I kind
36:00
of all being in that passive way.
36:03
I often find that when you are moving people forward, you know,
36:09
at that level, what happens is even if things change radically,
36:16
or if they move out of one space of their job into another, for
36:20
example, it was always going to happen and I can remember I
36:25
conducted a, a whole seminar for A big actual organization and
36:32
most of them were trade is men and there were women
36:35
Administration, and we went through, you know, all of those
36:40
grounding exercises were teaching them.
36:42
Meditation will teaching them how to own their Truth, how to
36:46
speak their Truth, how to really come into the center of himself,
36:50
and really get to know who they are at their core.
36:54
And this was a two-day seminar and come Monday.
36:59
Because we work my husband and I had a clinic at the time and the
37:05
boss or the guy that hired me came in and said what on Earth.
37:09
Have you done to all my stuff? Terry I said, well, what are you
37:13
talking about? She good.
37:14
He says, well this person's resigned, this person's been
37:19
promoted. This person left their partner,
37:22
all these radical things happen and I leaned across and I looked
37:26
at him and I said, I I didn't do a thing.
37:31
What happened is rather than a slow death, we fast-tracked them
37:38
into their own truth, so everything that you've seen
37:42
happen in this short amount of time would have happened.
37:45
Only it's happened sooner 100%. It's crazy.
37:51
And it's so insightful and it's just beautiful to watch.
37:56
People just beep into their truth.
37:59
Who they are. And it's so that's that's such a
38:02
cool story. It's such a typical scenario.
38:07
And, you know, the reason there is another little element to
38:10
that happens because I know that, you know, you work in the
38:13
same kind of field. So one of the it's almost like I
38:18
always give it as a disclaimer. You will change when you come
38:22
through this, so it's not that you're changing into a different
38:26
person. You're actually Cloaking and
38:30
unmasking and unveiling and peeling back that onion and
38:35
becoming more of your real self. So what that's going to mean is
38:40
that you're going to show up and there's going to be some damn
38:43
bloody resistance. There's gonna be resistance.
38:48
People are not going to like it. Some people are going to resist.
38:53
Some people going to be like the Crab Pot, trying to pull you
38:56
back in and you know and then there's The people that are go,
39:00
then we're going to look at you and go.
39:01
Wow. But if you can sustain yourself
39:04
and you can stick to your guns and really stand true to
39:08
yourself because I know I went through, this is my own personal
39:11
journey. I went from being that like self
39:15
dilapidated, no confidence, no self-worth.
39:19
Biggest doubting Thomas of myself in the entire planet to
39:23
quite an empowered woman. What seemed overnight and people
39:28
couldn't accept it. It and I think it took a long
39:31
time and when people saw that oh this is not going to go away.
39:35
This is not going to go any way any time soon.
39:38
So then there's the adjustment of all those clothes people
39:42
around and I guess this is the next level and I, if I was
39:47
asking you a question here, I know that I'm having to deal
39:51
with someone right now who I'm dealing with one-on-one and
39:54
she's coming to me with all these issues.
39:56
All I'm getting this flat from my sister.
39:59
Laura. I'm getting these flat from my
40:00
daughter and I'm saying to her, this is the part where you've
40:06
got to set your boundaries. What would you say to this
40:11
woman? Who is growing identifying
40:14
herself coming into her own Mastery and obviously the world
40:19
around her is changing very rapidly.
40:22
You know what what tips would you give her to sustain herself
40:27
and and hold true to Who she is, because a lot of people will
40:31
think, I think I'll just, you know, full back into the
40:36
underdog or being in their old comfortable state that I was in
40:41
because it seems, you know, almost easier.
40:44
What would you say to that woman?
40:47
Yeah, definitely is. So contrary to popular belief,
40:52
boundaries are something that start inside you, right?
40:56
So you can't change your external.
40:59
Answers until you heal the internal and when you have when
41:04
you've ignited that vision and you know who you are, then your
41:11
boundaries are going to become very clear to you.
41:14
And if you're in that position where yeah the change of the
41:17
resistance is coming up and it's hard.
41:21
I think you just need to come back to that vision and what you
41:25
want for yourself and you're making that decision for you.
41:28
So The boundaries are grounding you and the boundaries are for
41:33
you to know what you will and won't accept and really
41:38
boundaries, are your loving standards for yourself.
41:42
And when you take it that direction I find when it's for
41:46
you and that you're not putting them on other people.
41:50
Then it changes the whole the whole way we we go about them,
41:57
right? Because you're you're putting
41:59
You're Fightin the sand for yourself and not other people
42:06
what they can and can't do it. You're just saying.
42:08
This is where I am at. This is what I'm accepting and
42:12
this is it is or isn't for me. Hi, people out there are
42:16
listening to this and especially the woman that I talked to today
42:21
because she's just gone through a massive transformation.
42:26
And I know this is the part where Where she's, you know, in
42:31
that wobble stage, where she could look down and go back, or
42:36
she can keep going. And I know I said to her, what
42:39
you need is boundaries. So that's very, very, very good
42:43
gold nuggets right there. Vanessa, thank you so much.
42:47
And look, I would like to say to you, if you could, you know,
42:50
give the audience that's listening, you know.
42:54
I guess a little bit of an overview on.
42:59
What you're going to be offering because I know you've got some
43:02
really exciting things coming up and you know pretty soon you're
43:08
going to be stepping in to the world of going from one-on-one
43:12
into the group programs. So this is really a great time
43:18
to jump on board with Vanessa and have that exclusive
43:23
one-on-one. What would you say to the woman
43:26
out there, that is listening that That is praying for your
43:30
service. What can they expect?
43:33
And what will you do for them? Yeah, I think I jumped ahead a
43:38
little bit before and touched on it, but I will again.
43:42
So my Wonder wind signature program is called Reclamation
43:47
and Revival and we find your next level of success.
43:51
So together, we would work on getting really clear on your
43:57
true desires and Your true vision and we would transform
44:02
the judgment and criticism into self-loving self-compassion and
44:07
we release any Brokenness unworthiness and we activate
44:11
your presence and help you in body personal power so that you
44:17
can step into all that you are feel success and become truly
44:23
Unstoppable. Amazing.
44:28
Absolutely incredible. And how is the best way for this
44:34
woman to find you? Vanessa?
44:38
Yes, so I'm a mindset and emotional Mastery coach.
44:43
I can be found on Instagram, my handle is Hello.
44:49
Dot coach dot Vanessa, or I'm on LinkedIn as well.
44:53
Vanessa poor. Ray, I be there.
44:59
Beautiful. That's just so good.
45:02
So yeah, just go there and find Vanessa because, you know, I say
45:09
that you cannot change anything in your life on the same level
45:16
as you are. Now, if you are going to make a
45:19
change, you do need to move to the next level.
45:23
You need to know something at the next level that you made.
45:29
No, but you may unconsciously know.
45:32
So, this is where this deep work that Vanessa is doing is really
45:39
going to tap inside and help you redefine your success.
45:48
And, you know, take all of those elements of where you've come
45:53
from. Your pain, your story, and turn
45:57
your pain into your power. Power.
45:59
Turn your story Into Your Glory and I think the most important
46:05
part is, and what I've heard you say is really, it's that
46:12
self-awareness, it's that self-acceptance.
46:17
And it's the ability to be able to turn your biggest fears into
46:25
your success. You nailed it, love that.
46:29
So, if you've got any last words, what would you say?
46:34
I know that things are difficult.
46:40
You're frustrated, you're overwhelmed, but you know, it's
46:44
time for a change. I know these women are
46:47
ambitious. They want to have a great
46:50
career. They want to provide for their
46:53
family. But the overworking and
46:56
constantly trying to Prove yourself and feeling unworthy
47:03
and looking outside for that validation in love and all the
47:09
wrong places is not going to get you where you want to go.
47:17
It's so important to slow down and stop chasing the next thing
47:20
or you're missing out on life. And I know myself how success
47:25
feels impossible as a mother. And you want so much more and
47:30
you deserve more, you deserve a life that empowers you not one
47:33
that drains you deserve a lifestyle that preserves your
47:35
energy and your time, your money and your freedom with your loved
47:39
ones. So when you're at that point
47:46
where you know, another yoga class isn't going to solve it
47:49
making another change in your ready to go deep inside and and
47:55
make the real change at the root. root and dissolve, all of
48:00
your fears, and all of that, overall and anxiety, Then In
48:07
transmuting, all your failure into.
48:11
Into Your Story. You're Next, You're Next Level
48:15
of success. Then I'm, I'm the woman for you.
48:20
Yeah. Yeah.
48:21
Kept bringing it back into the remembrance.
48:23
Love it. Absolutely love it.
48:25
Thank you so much Vanessa. I mean, I wish I had heard this
48:30
message. You know, when I was a young mum
48:33
because I know that at that point in my life, that's when I
48:39
was really Grappling and this message would have been exactly
48:46
what I wanted. So if you're out there and you
48:49
have heard this message and this is resonating, make sure you
48:54
take this opportunity because this is an opportunity.
48:57
Like right now, there's a lot of coaches that work in big
49:01
programs and they're servicing so many people that Vanessa is
49:07
transitioning at the moment. And right now, And I'm sure that
49:13
if you actually state that you heard this podcast, she will
49:19
still see you one-on-one even if this is in three years from the
49:24
time that this is broadcasted. So thank you so much for Nessa
49:28
and if I can just ask you to wait backstage, and I just want
49:33
to give so much gratitude for your gold nuggets on our show
49:38
today. Thank you so much.
49:41
It was so great to share and connect with everyone.
49:45
Wow. So now you've heard it so you
49:48
know what to do go and find Vanessa.
49:51
Now maybe you have a story, a maybe you would like to share on
49:57
this podcast of Terry Messengers.
50:00
Genius Zone, wonder over to my website, Terry messenger.com
50:05
book a call. Let's have a chat and even if
50:09
you're not ready to come on and share your story and your
50:13
service. Maybe you'd like to dig deep and
50:17
discover your true Zona genius. So, I want to wrap up tonight.
50:22
I can't wait to see you on our next week's episode.
50:26
Bye for now. Thank you for listening to our
50:31
show. And if you want to know how to
50:33
tap into your Zone, a genius, or if you have a gift that you want
50:38
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50:44
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50:47
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50:53
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50:33
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50:38
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50:44
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50:47
Key click on book, a free Discovery session and we will
50:53
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