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The Lazy Autism Survival Guide (10 ACTION STEPS) · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  You have arrived. Welcome to the Aspy world.
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  Here's where we talk about anything and everything ASD in
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  an upbeat and informative way. And now here's your man on the
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  spectrum, your autism ambassador, Daniel Morgan Jones.
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  So here's the Lazy Autism Survival guide.
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  And I'm not saying autistic people are lazy, no no no.
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  I'm just saying that he is a guide that is super easy to
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  understand. Here we go guys.
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  What is going on? Welcome back to the Aspy world.
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  My name is Dan and I have an autism in ADHD and OCD and
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  dyslexia. What is up?
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  OK, so I dedicate my life to helping autistic people because
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  I I am an autistic person and I realized potential in those to
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  do some amazing things. So I'm here today to spread the
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  delight of awesome things that we can do to help each other.
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  And here goes. This is my survival guide,
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  right? So really, really interesting.
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  Actually, the reason I'm doing the survival guide is because I
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  feel like there's a lot of people in the autism spectrum
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  that have difficulties in so many different areas of their
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  life. And I'm like, well, if we just
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  had some kind of like basic outline rules that we'd be able
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  to go like, OK, this is how we're going to do it, right?
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  Or this is actionable steps that you can take so that you can
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  help increase your daily life potential, right?
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  Because you're amazing. You've got such great power,
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  you've got such amazing knowledge, you've got so many
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  things to do. And if you're a parent or a
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  guardian watching this and you're thinking, hey, this could
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  be really interesting for my kid or the person I know who's on
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  the autism spectrum, then take note because this is going to be
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  super awesome. OK, so OK guys, I just want to
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  Honor Roller. Now, this thing is my favorite
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  It's very cool, it's revolutionary, and it's my
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  favorite fidget spinner of all time.
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  I'm going to go through 10 things that I think that to me,
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  I've used to increase my potential.
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  I've got them on the list. If you see me looking off
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  screen, just because I'm making sure I'm going through the
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  things on my list, but basically I have 10 things and I'm going
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  to go through each one of them right now.
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  This is a survival guide. You can take it and leave it.
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  You can use some of it. You can use all of it, but
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  whatever happens, leave me a comment.
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  Let me know what you think about it.
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  OK, so the first one is budding up and reaching out for help.
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  All this means is when I started university, I was a Lone Ranger.
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  You know, I was like, I'm going to do it later.
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  And it was really difficult because an autistic person going
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  to university was very difficult and it wasn't easy to say, hey,
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  I struggle in this area or I struggle in these areas.
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  Can I have some help please? When I did, everything changed
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  around the university actually got me a mentor and a note taker
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  and somebody to help me in labs because I did chemistry and
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  having that help boosted my confidence for myself and the
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  ability to be able to go well, I can handle this situation, this
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  is cool. And so the other thing I did is
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  I buddied up with a guy who was on the course of me called Tom,
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  really nice bloke. And Tom was also, I guess Tom
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  was on the spectrum too. He did like an online AQ test
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  and he was like blatantly autistic, but nice guy.
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  And I got on really well with Tom and we vibed on a level
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  where we could just like really get each other.
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  We could do work together, we could body double.
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  Like it was just so good. And by the way, body doubling is
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  when you're kind of like working side by side with somebody and
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  you're not really talking or conversing.
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  So body doubling is basically where you're sitting office of
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  somebody doing work at the same time, but you're not conversing
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  or engaging in the same work. Anyway, buddy systems are
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  amazing because you have somebody who's going to keep you
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  accountable, is going to keep you, you know, grounded a lot of
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  the time. And also you can go to somebody
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  with issues, right? If you've got an issue, you
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  would ask out for help. OK, I'm done with two using apps
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  to increase your productivity. I do this all the time.
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  I not only do I use apps, I use all smart technology available
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  to me. Like I use my Siri assistant, I
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  use my Alexa apps. All of those things actually
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  create a more autism friendly environment because what you're
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  doing is you're getting these things to remind you to do
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  stuff. And the reminder is things like
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  take my medication, make sure I turn up for that appointment,
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  get the work all the time, do a deadline, do something.
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  If I didn't have these apps that were able to help me boost my
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  productivity, I think a lot of my work would be just lost to
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  the ether. Like I use Trello to keep track
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  of my work. I use Microsoft to do, which is
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  basically a list building app, but it also has like you can
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  assign dates and times and stuff to it.
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  And they use my calendar app to make sure that all of my stuff
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  is presented in a calendar for us.
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  So I know, OK, On this date, I'm going to do this.
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  I'm not that I'm going to do that.
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  And it's all there ready to go. The only thing I don't have
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  really is like an autism tracker app.
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  And a lot of people use certain types of like autism apps to
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  track like maybe the behaviour or the the energy levels or
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  what. I don't do that.
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  I actually just use typical like list building apps, like I just
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  said, kind of work management tools.
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  But apps are going to help increase your productivity,
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  which will help you survive in more of a crazy world.
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  One of the only apps that I think is impeccable for people
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  on the autumn spectrum is an app called Bring Now bring us like a
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  grocery store app that you can add your use it on your phone or
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  your iPad or whatever, but also integrate into the Alexa as
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  well. So I could say, hey, Alexa, open
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  bring and add orange juice. OK, Orange juice is on your
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  list. So it actually adds stuff to the
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  list. And then if I go to my phone and
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  check, orange juice will be on my list.
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  So let's just do it right now. So we'll go bring orange juice
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  on the list. But the cool thing about this is
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  that actually has a picture of the orange juice curtain on
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  there. So it's not just like it's not
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  just orange juice, it's an orange juice curtain.
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  So Bring is a really good one for that because it's visually
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  helping autistic individuals bridge that gap between kind of
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  looking at something visually that they need to get in the
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  store and actually writing it down.
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  But also you can use voice technology to add those things
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  to your Bring list. Pretty cool, right?
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  Okay, so #3 is using Siri and Alexa to help increase your
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  life. So say you were like, oh, I need
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  to go to the hospital at a certain date.
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  You can say, hey assistant, I'm going to now remind me to go to
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  the hospital On this date at this time in this location,
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  right? And they will put that into your
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  calendar on your iPad or iPhone exactly as you just asked it to.
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  Not only that, you can also say something amazing.
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  So say you wanted to make sure that when you go to the grocery
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  store, you actually visit the pharmacy or the in store
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  pharmacy. You can say, hey, assistant,
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  remind me to go to the pharmacy when I get to the grocery store
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  and they'll know where your grocery store is.
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  And when you geographically reach there, boom, you get an
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  alert saying, Rob, let's go to the pharmacy.
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  Incredible. This voice first technology is
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  what they call it, is revolutionized the way in which
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  I interact with the world and my life.
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  So this is a lazy hack. Super dope.
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  If you'd like to turn your autism specific interest into a
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  career, you can access my online program right now really fast.
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  To get instant access, you can go to the link in the
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  description or you can visit www.learnautism.net/korea.
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  Number 4 is allow recalibration time.
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  Recalibration time is basically the time between when you're
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  doing something and then you're going to do something else,
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  right? The time in between, you need to
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  increase that to allow yourself to go for a walk, go for a run,
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  take a shower, go to the gym, go for a walk in nature, sit down
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  in the forest, meditate, drink tea, do something that's going
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  to break that pattern of being like super busy to super, super
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  busy. Like you want to have something
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  in between, which is just kind of like, OK, I get it, nice
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  bubbly, let's go. OK #6 is so #5 is taking sensory
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  breaks. Sensory breaks are really
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  important. And I learnt this very simply
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  when I was in full time employment for an employee
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  position. I was looking for a, an American
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  healthcare company and it was just constant all day like
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  crazy. I loved it because I was working
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  with numbers and I was reconciling financial reports.
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  But the problem I had was that it was all go all the time.
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  And then I'd come home and I just wouldn't have the energy to
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  deal with life, right? I'd just come home completely
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  exhausted because I didn't take sentry breaks during the day.
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  So I implemented with my boss as I said, can I just take 10
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  minutes out of my lunch hour and then allow myself to sit in the
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  one of the abandoned rooms in office building which is
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  completely empty? Sit and try and read a book or
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  listen to a book or just sit there in silence.
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  And it worked like gangbusters, dude.
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  Like I did this and it increased my potential towards work just
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  off 100%. Like increase, like it was just
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  crazy good. So taking regular sensory
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  breaks, even if it's only 10 minutes during the day, twice a
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  day, amazing. If you can't do that, just try
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  15 minute. You know you're going to need
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  that. OK, so number six is self
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  advocacy and always do what's best for you.
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  A lot of people in the spectrum known as people pleaser, right?
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  And you've heard this term, right?
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  Well, because most of the time we feel we felt bullied all the
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  way through life. We've had people tell us what we
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  need to do, why we're wrong. You can't do those things.
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  You're not doing those things, right?
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  And then we end up what's called people pleasing.
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  And people pleasing is basically you just do this stuff to make
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  other people happy. You're not even doing it because
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  you want to do it. Like if someone says, oh, do you
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  want to go get ice cream after school?
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  And you're like, oh, no, I don't really want to because, you
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  know, the social anxiety, they don't get ice cream, but then
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  they're kind of bullying you to do it.
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  And you're kind of like pressure them to do it and you go, OK,
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  well it's going to make them happy so I might as well do it,
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  but it's going to put you out, right?
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  Never do that. Always take self advocacy very
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  seriously. You're #1 like if you can't look
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  after yourself, then like nobody else is going to want to look
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  after you because they're going to be like, well, this guy
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  clearly doesn't know how to look after himself.
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  OK, so #7 be open and honest about how you feel.
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  And that is how you communicate to people.
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  If you're talking to a friend, a family member, Co worker,
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  relationship, be open and honest.
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  Tell them how you feel. Say hey, this sucks, I don't
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  want to do this. Or hey, I have something to do.
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  I don't want to do that. I do want to do that.
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  Whatever it is, you can't improve upon the truth.
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  So just give them the truth, that's what it is, because
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  that's how it will be. OK #8 compound change, not
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  instant change. Now we have so many things to
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  do, so many things in our life that we want to do.
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  I want to complete and want to do all those things.
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  However, a lot of the time looking at that change to do
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  something is going to be quite detrimental to our mental
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  capacity where we'll be like, oh, we have so many things to
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  do. Like, you know, I need to build
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  a house, right? Well, building a house takes a
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  lot of steps, right? But if you break those down into
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  steps and compound it, like, OK, first thing, I can't build a
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  house straight away. So I'm going to just focus my
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  energy on one task. And that one task is laying down
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  the foundation, lay the foundation.
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  Cool. Then we put bricks on top of
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  that. So now we have foundation
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  brickwork. And this is called compounding.
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  The strategy to to create that overall goal, This is going to
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  give you way more productivity in the long run because if you
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  don't compound things, if you're just trying to tack everything
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  once you burn out and it will never happen.
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  So compound, don't instant change.
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  OK #9 is the sandwich method right?
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  And I kind of developed this method when I was teaching some
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  live webinars a few years ago. And the sandwich method is very
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  simple. You know, we all have times in
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  our life where we have to go to places we don't like.
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  So I'm going to give you an example of a kid in case where
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  kid, autistic kid goes to the grocery store, but they don't
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  like another grocery store, right?
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  Because it's noisy, smelly, essentially over stimulating,
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  it's all a bunch of rubbish. So how do we do it?
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  We all have to go to the grocery store sometime and parents have
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  to take the kids to them sometimes.
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  We have no other choice. We can't do Instacart because
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  maybe it's down or we don't want to do Instacart.
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  It's more expensive. There could be 100 reasons.
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  So how do we do it? So the standard method's really
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  interesting, and you can take this into any section in my
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  life. I'm going to give you an example
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  of the kid because it's easy to explain it.
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  So this is how I do it. So before you go to the grocery
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  store, you have a kid playing Minecraft, right?
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  Do something that you really enjoy, something that you get so
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  much dopamine from. Dopamine like an enjoyable
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  feeling from doing something. And then you say to them, OK,
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  now we're going to go to the store.
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  So you go to the store and they have a short period of pain.
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  They don't really want to be there and it's horrible.
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  But then they know that when you come back home, they're going to
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  be back on Minecraft having more dopamine.
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  There's a sandwich in dopamine between this little pain area
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  here. So what will happen is the
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  pleasurable experience will become more notable the more
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  time you do it again, kind of compounding, and the pain will
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  get less and less or perceived to be less and less, even though
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  you're still having to go to the store for the same amount of
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  time. The each side reward will pay
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  off in dividends. So just applying that to your
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  life when you have to go do something that you kind of don't
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  want to do or you feel pain from doing.
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  And by pain that I'm going to feel, a pain could be, but
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  something that is like something you don't really enjoy doing,
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  but you have to do it. OK #10 this is so important.
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  And everyone forgets this. Nobody thinks about it.
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  Drink water after a meltdown. Autistic people have meltdowns
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  all the time, right? Autistic meltdowns, big thing
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  happens. Trigger overload.
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  Search for overload. Something happens back.
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  Yeah. Emotional outbursts, you know,
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  pulling hair, punching faces, you name it, right?
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  It happens. But one of the biggest things we
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  don't realise is what happens afterwards because we're we're
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  burned into adrenaline and all this stuff's happening.
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  We're swinging and we're like rage and we actually become
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  dehydrated because a bird of all the water was residually in our
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  bodies, right. So where do we go from there?
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  Well, if you stay dehydrated, then what's going to happen is
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  you're going to have headaches. You know you're going to have
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  bad trouble sleeping your bowels and you know all the GI system
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  won't work properly because you can be super dehydrated right
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  and your brain will start getting foggy because you're
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  dehydrated. So what do you do?
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  If you have any questions or anything to ask me, pop in a
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  comment down below right now because I read and respond to
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  every single comment. Make sure that you drink enough
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  water because this will bring you around from the recovery of
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  a meltdown way quicker than it would if you would just
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  literally dehydrated the whole time and then eventually got
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  hydrated. You know, a couple of days
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  online. So rather than a Melbourne last
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  in like 5 days, it will last like 24 hours.
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  I mean the aftermath. Super interesting.
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  Try these out. Hey guys, thank you so much for
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  checking out this podcast. Make sure you are subscribed
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  subscribe. OK guys, see you in the next
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  one. Peace.